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onderzoeker

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Do women always assume you are hitting on them when you speak to them? Posted: 6/26/2009 8:02:35 PM
Found it in the Urban Dictionary: A word used by backwards, ignorant, illiterate inner city trash who mean to say 'converse'. "Yo, I just needs to conversate witcha!"

onderzoeker

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Howell Balloon Festival Posted: 6/26/2009 3:45:34 PM
I found this: http://www.michiganchallenge.com/ There it says Launch Times: Friday 6-8 PM, Saturday 6-8 AM and 6-8 PM, and Sunday 6-8 AM and 6-8 PM. Hope that helps.

onderzoeker

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Made in Michigan? Posted: 6/22/2009 5:44:43 PM
Gerber: Fremont, MI. Welches has a juice and jelly plant in Lawton, Michigan too the last I knew.

onderzoeker

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Made in Michigan? Posted: 6/18/2009 9:25:31 PM
Cherry burger and more http://www.plevasmeats.com/burger.html

onderzoeker

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Best way to find/get jobs in michigan? Posted: 6/13/2009 10:38:51 AM
My oldest son got squeezed out of the auto industry around 4 years ago and went to Chicago. Work has dried up there, so he's in the Milwaukee area now. Another son graduated this Spring and is back to working in Minneapolis until September. If he gets offered a perm job there he'll stay or go back for an advanced degree. My own feeling is that the national business community is trying to squeeze Michigan until unions are disempowered and most environment- and labor-friendly legislation is changed. I think they've been at this for some time. I am not convinced that our employment woes are related to "real" factors like tax policy at all. The battle against Michigan workers is a symbolic jihad. I doubt it has much to do with Granholm and company at all.

onderzoeker

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Why buy the cow? Posted: 6/13/2009 10:24:16 AM
What is "morning?" Lately the birds start in at 5:30 AM here.

onderzoeker

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GM/Economy Posted: 6/9/2009 12:19:33 PM
One thing that puzzles me though is how those southern-tier states can afford such hefty tax abatements, credits, and incentives. Is it a question of a lower cost transportation infrastructure? Things like a lack of the need for snow removal and de-icing, less freeze-thaw damage, and perhaps the ability to use less expensive roadbed engineering? Is it lower costs (or fewer dollars spent) for public services such as education, public health? Is it cheaper energy costs for manufacturing and heating/cooling? Things like Federally subsidized electricity (TVA and its associated grid, etc.)? Subsidized water/sewer projects we don't have the benefit of in Michigan? Is it Federal dollars flowing into the region for any of several reasons? Military bases, military contractors, aerospace, "disaster relief," etc? Maybe some climatic benefit causing certain private industries to locate there, increasing the state and local tax base? If much of this is true perhaps our mistake is in failing to bring back more Federal dollars than we send to Washington, as they do. Maybe we can't compete on climate, but there must be something there we can take advantage of as well. I'm not sure we really want to cut back too much more on the somewhat discretionary costs like education and health. In our current situation people need more support of this kind than they may have in good times.

onderzoeker

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Do women always assume you are hitting on them when you speak to them? Posted: 6/7/2009 4:02:32 PM
Virginal Ripley On top of her game, as always.

onderzoeker

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What's a guy to do Posted: 6/7/2009 10:20:33 AM
Just my two cents... When I see statements like "my kids are my life", "my life is centered around my kids", etc... in a profile it tells me plans with me will be broken, he won't have time for us, etc.. There needs to be a happy medium, and the profile needs to somehow make that point clear that there would be a happy medium. I get a similar vibe from profiles where the pictures are full of cats, dogs, and horses. If your identity is that caught up in critters you probably need somebody critter-centered too.

onderzoeker

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Do women always assume you are hitting on them when you speak to them? Posted: 6/7/2009 10:15:27 AM
Do cooties "grow back" though? I've heard women claim other things have.

onderzoeker

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Tired of guys too far away Posted: 6/6/2009 6:03:44 AM
That's a good point. If you've been living alone for very long your life develops a solo rhythm and routine. At least most of us have things we must do and things we like to do. Once you meet somebody of course you want to spend time together. Lots of time. But going right to living in each others' pockets all day long or at a moment's notice could lead to stress and strain no matter how well intentioned both people are. The last thing I think I'd want is a phone ringing or knock at the door at all hours of the day or night, or constantly whipping my head around to catch a shadow disappearing behind the bushes wherever I go, etc. Keep it reasonable. Don't become a leech or albatross, or worse a stalker.

onderzoeker

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E-mails - to answer or not to answer.... Posted: 5/31/2009 10:33:00 AM
I suppose it is harder to "walk the other way" and escape here than in real life.

onderzoeker

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Weird things you have seen on profiles Posted: 5/23/2009 9:19:34 AM
Sumo wrestler club maybe? I've seen some wacky ones but I'm most amused by the women with profiles saying "blah, blah, more to me than a piece of meat" "guys after one thing can move along" and so on. Then their pics are all showing legs up to.... there, strapless push-up tops, pouty lipped expressions, the whole nine yards. BTW.... what does "cougar" actually mean in common speech? I get the notion that it's something like "dirty old woman" or "female lounge lizard." Can't imagine they'd make a TV show on that topic, let alone a series. But then maybe I just don't get out much.

onderzoeker

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Do women always assume you are hitting on them when you speak to them? Posted: 5/21/2009 2:17:13 PM
Been there, done that. Both sides of the situation too I'm sure. Maybe not so much "hitting on" each other as making unreciprocated interest clear. When a woman does that to me I can almost hear "Danger Will Robinson, Danger" somewhere in the distance. I'd hate to hear what the voice in her ear says when the shoe is on the other foot though. But it is just as easy to misinterpret the signs too, which is probably what the original question is really about. One really clear signal to me that this is going on is when she says something like "I'm married" completely out of context.

onderzoeker

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I am very disappointed in this site. Posted: 5/18/2009 7:33:19 AM
Lots of truth in that RD.

onderzoeker

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Things you find in the garage..... A-Z Posted: 5/18/2009 7:27:00 AM
Hello Kitty sheets from that fling with the Japanese co-ed, now torn up for use as shop rags.

onderzoeker

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Float Trip Posted: 5/15/2009 8:32:17 PM
Secondary map of White River recreation sites in case anyone is interested: http://www.fs.fed.us/r9/hmnf/pages/Recreation/Baldwin/bwc_whiteriver_boat_map.pdf I should mention this isn't far from Michigan's Adventure just in case anyone ever thought about doing an amusement park outing or even combining the two: http://www.miadventure.com/

onderzoeker

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Float Trip Posted: 5/15/2009 8:08:16 PM
ggroeller may be thinking of Pines Point in the Manistee National Forest near Hesperia and Baldwin: http://www.fs.fed.us/r9/hmnf/pages/Recreation/Baldwin/bwc_pinespoint_dev_txtonly.pdf (PDF) The map on that page doesn't show the layout of the campground itself, but the White River takes a long switchback loop around it. You if you enter at the upstream side of the campground you can tube around the long way and exit on the other side of this long skinny "peninsula." In other words the river sort of doubles back, allowing you to get out near where you started! Good luck locating the place on Google Maps, but if you have a book of county maps it should be marked.

onderzoeker

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Why do women seem to want men taller than themselves? Posted: 4/8/2009 3:56:20 PM
Electra complex?

onderzoeker

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why add someone as a favorite but NOT email them?????? Posted: 3/24/2009 8:07:40 PM
I think people see tham as simple bookmarks, making it easy to take a second look later - perhaps once they get over being shy about first contact. It probably does act as a wink thing too. At least it seems a clear indication of some interest. Beyond that if you message back and get no reply I'm not sure what it means. I don't think the intention is typically rudeness though.

onderzoeker

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Double Dating Posted: 3/3/2009 6:16:26 AM
Hey I actually did have a first meet (from another site) years ago at Taco Bell. Seriously, that was where she wanted to meet. The place was a zoo being near a busy shopping mall. The oddest part was the little round-headed kid (maybe 4 y/o?) she brought along. Grandchild I guess. Kid had lots of sharp, pointy teeth and makes me think of some creature from a Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings movie now. That was that. Nothing in common, no followup.

onderzoeker

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Money Posted: 2/16/2009 2:29:19 PM
I know a single woman who works for a living and therefore doesn't have much more than anyone else except... ... her parents are loaded. I won't say more because she probably stalks me on here. Let me just say it would make it very hard to date her, let alone anything more permanent. It is very hard to meet her standards even in things that might seem subtle or even trivial. At the same time she is a dogged worker, intelligent, and kind at heart. She can't help that she has such high standards in material things I suppose.

onderzoeker

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POF site suggestions, call it a 'Wish List' Posted: 2/12/2009 3:16:18 PM
Speaking of favorites... If somebody sticks you on their favs list you can probably take it as an open invitiation to say hello whenever you feel like it too, right?

onderzoeker

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POF site suggestions, call it a 'Wish List' Posted: 2/12/2009 3:08:58 PM
We're a picky bunch for a group of freeloaders, aren't we?

onderzoeker

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LOVE STINKS Posted: 2/8/2009 12:40:46 PM
If its taking us this long to find our life partners, boy they sure must be some really special people and are just preparing themselves to meet us when they are ready! lolol Maybe those guys are nervous about protecting their Social Security. Have you ever watched that Suze Orman personal finance show? Last night she took a call from some woman who had been married twice and wanted to know if she still had her hooks sunk into her 1st husband's Social Security (she does). But Suze cautioned her and the women in the audience not to remarry or they'll lose that gravy when retirement comes. No discussion of whether this woman was working or made more money when married the 1st time. Hmm, are the laws really that lopsided? The 2nd husband seemed to be chopped liver and not discussed at all. I guess since the 2nd marriage had only been for 4 years she wasn't vested in the guy's wallet, so it wasn't a topic for discussion. Crazy world.

onderzoeker

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Why do most women wait for men to contact them when they date online? Posted: 2/5/2009 3:12:33 PM
Poor 'ol Ed. Nothing but abuse.

onderzoeker

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E-mails - to answer or not to answer.... Posted: 1/31/2009 3:58:21 PM
I see on some pages there is a link that says: "Users who haven't gotten an email in over 24 hours sorted by last online." I wonder if women see one saying: "Users who haven't gotten an email in over 6 months sorted by last online." After all, otherwise the link would just take them to a list of 98% of the guys here!

onderzoeker

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men are from mars, women vensus Posted: 1/27/2009 12:20:42 AM
Waitresses aren't perfect either. I'm reminded again of about 10 years ago when this woman and I were pretty serious at the time. We went to a restaurant with her 22 y/o daughter (with baby). My then-SO ordered, the waitress turned to me and sort of indicating the daughter asked "What will your wife have?" We get our orders in, the waitress leaves (having been corrected) and one huffy lady asks "SHE'S your wife? What's that make me?" I said "I guess you're the Mother-in-law" (or Grandmother, I can't recall exactly anymore).

onderzoeker

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Just what is it that you gals DO love about us male creatures Posted: 1/25/2009 10:38:56 AM
Those are for opening jars? Now I know what to do with those darned things after all this time.

onderzoeker

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men are from mars, women vensus Posted: 1/25/2009 10:10:15 AM
Now I need to look it up. Is it Hooters, Hooter's, or Hooters'???

onderzoeker

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men are from mars, women vensus Posted: 1/23/2009 8:44:48 PM
Aww, what woman doesn't like dates that take place at Hooters?

onderzoeker

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old words where did they go ? Posted: 1/18/2009 5:29:32 AM
I think this thread needs a rocking chair and a glass of Country Time Lemonade.

onderzoeker

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Love and Pets and Allergies to animals Posted: 12/29/2008 5:03:22 PM
I think it just shows how flawed most dating advice is.

onderzoeker

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Love and Pets and Allergies to animals Posted: 12/29/2008 4:09:12 PM
Maybe it's a coincidence that Jennifer Aniston has two dogs, then again, maybe it's not. Sometimes pets indicate desperation. Now, we're not out to bash pet people, and there's no reason to freak out just because your girlfriend has a cat (or two). The key is to watch how she interacts with her pets. Doting or obsessive behavior might indicate a desperate need for affection. Are her pets substitutes for people? Take our advice: The first time she refers to her dogs as "children," leave the room immediately. http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_200/240_dating_advice.html

onderzoeker

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WHY DO YOU GUYS SAY YOU WANT LTR ??? Posted: 12/29/2008 4:05:27 PM
LTR? http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_200/240_dating_advice.html Just kidding.

onderzoeker

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Is there really love? Posted: 12/26/2008 7:22:57 AM
This thread keeps reminding me of that song: What is love? Baby don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more Baby don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more What is love?

onderzoeker

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where to meet new people? Posted: 12/26/2008 7:20:27 AM
What do you want on your Tombstone?

onderzoeker

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where to meet new people? Posted: 12/26/2008 7:12:53 AM
Maybe spend the day slowly walking up and down in front of a pizza storefront - the kind with no seating. Find one in a strip mall with a drugstore, bike shop, hardware store, and a small gym located in it and sooner or later every single guy in the area will cross your path.

onderzoeker

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How Many Women Initiate First Contact? Posted: 12/26/2008 7:04:05 AM
I'm always amused by the "click here to limit who can message you" link. But maybe I should just be glad I don't personally have the need?

onderzoeker

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Who's Single in this joint? lol Posted: 12/21/2008 11:24:27 AM
Well I think you're ahead of the curve if you avoid the temptation of long-distance. Just my opinion but I want to be able to spend plenty of face-to-face time to get to know someone and I don't want some kind of "12 times a year" relationship either. Then again, for some people relocation is a more realistic option than it is for me right now.

onderzoeker

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Who's Single in this joint? lol Posted: 12/20/2008 7:25:55 AM
I can never keep track. Is she currently looking again or not? Inquring minds and all that.

onderzoeker

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For the Men in the FORUM audience: Posted: 12/20/2008 7:23:13 AM
BTW in case anyone is curious those dark glasses did not come with a white cane. LMAO

onderzoeker

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For the Men in the FORUM audience: Posted: 12/20/2008 7:10:30 AM
Aww, regional dialect is all about charm. I wasn't being critical, just trying to be funny (and failing I see).

onderzoeker

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Who's Single in this joint? lol Posted: 12/20/2008 5:50:24 AM
I suspect the 5 year award might look more like: http://i72.photobucket.com/albums/i168/chanakmx/bottomFEEDER.jpg

onderzoeker

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new topics Posted: 12/20/2008 5:43:15 AM
Reminds me of that Sex Offenders web site. I recall looking on there once in my area and women were listed 3 to 1 to men. Of course with no details provided it was hard to draw any conclusions.

onderzoeker

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I'm no economist, but.... Posted: 12/20/2008 5:36:45 AM
http://www.ssa.gov/history/35actpre.html Social Security is welfare, but don't tell any old folks that!

onderzoeker

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Who likes sledding ? Posted: 12/20/2008 5:31:14 AM
Sounds mighty gentrified from here. Snacks? Toboggans? Back in the day we'd just find a cardboard box and cut it up to go sledding. That and forbidden things like digging tunnels in huge roadside snowbanks to play in.

onderzoeker

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For the Men in the FORUM audience: Posted: 12/20/2008 5:26:55 AM
I thought down south it was thar, thars, and ourn.

onderzoeker

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For the Men in the FORUM audience: Posted: 12/11/2008 5:42:10 PM
I'd had a few of these contacts from women I'm not interested in. In several cases a polite "not interested" has led to months and months of occasional "why not" messages back. Generally there is some tangible deal breaker, usually distance but sometimes issues over smoking, interests, etc. and sometimes there just isn't any "chemistry." The whole thing can make you gunshy, leading to a "no answer" scenario. Maybe it is just too easy to project annoying behavior by a few onto others. I've even had a few open contact with "Why have you never contacted me?" followed by a back and forth until you bring up some preference mismatch clearly spelled out by comparing profiles. Then "thud" you're dropped like a hot potato. My point is that some of us make mistakes and in general the whole process is awkward and clumsy. It just goes with the territory.

onderzoeker

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Any one else confused about this? Posted: 12/11/2008 3:21:44 PM
What prompted this is that the automakers have not been able to get loans to continue doing business from the vaunted finanacial industry. Not even after those bankers and traders were handed a huge bailout. Look at where they've put the money instead... if you can track much of it down. If lending had loosened as intended we probably wouldn't be having this discussion, at least not in its current form. The Big 3 have been petitioning for loans they can't get elsewhere, not free and clear cash like the financial industry got. You might be amazed too if you look at the sweeteners added to get the $700B financial bailout passed. Everything from tax breaks for the well off to even more hurricane relief billions.

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