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Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook? Posted: 4/9/2013 3:36:24 PM
Wow, I post something and it takes off. Thanks for all of the insights. To those who say that HATE is a strong word (yes it is) and that I'm "generalizing" men only, I have found men who have said it to me and I know a LOT of men who have a strong dislike for it. My last beau was very threatened by it, I don't live on it but he did say that it would contribute to our "demise". Actually, Facebook didn't, it was his own bad behavior.... Oh and Giggles, thanks for the tip on looking to see if someone is encumbered. Absolute genius!

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook? Posted: 4/6/2013 10:40:23 PM
Ok, so I don't post much on here anymore, let alone start threads, but...I am here in the flameproof suit over my big girl panties and I ask WHY do many men of a certain age HATE Facebook? I, for one, happen to love it as it has put me in touch with many people with whom I have lost touch with over the years from elementary school to people from here (from when I used to frequently post, most of who are now gone), to other websites where I have hobbies. I see it as a good thing. At other times, it can be a curse, as it can bring out the high school behavior at times in others. Others use it diabolically. However, it has been my observation that many men in my age group are threatened by it and see it as the work of the devil. I am just curious as to WHY? Please enlighten me so that I may understand. Thanks!

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Dancing Posted: 3/20/2013 9:21:34 AM
I haven't gone through most of this thread but I find this to be great advice as it certainly helps. <div class="quote">When my sons were still in their teens, I told them there were two things that would do the most to improve their chances with girls. 1. Become a good dancer. 2. Become a good cook. My nephew and his wife (mostly the wife) make their 12 year old go to cotillion, which I think is great because good manners and social graces are going the way of the Dodo. If you don't like to dance...then don't, it is that simple...

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Does it matter if he lies about his age Posted: 3/11/2013 9:36:08 AM
Although it is tempting to do so, because some people can't get past the number, yes, it is still a lie. I understand WHY some people do it, because some can't get past the number. For example, I have a very attractive sister who is in her late 60's and is truthful about her age and had no contacts on another dating site. For this reason, I prefer real life. Just my 2 cents.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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bald guys Posted: 12/18/2012 3:22:57 PM
As a rule, I prefer a guy with a full head of hair, but alas, my current beau has absolutely no hair on his head and he's downright hot. It doesn't hurt that he resembles a younger Sean Connery. There are exceptions to every rule...sigh.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Will paying to upgrade profile improve getting replys? Posted: 10/24/2012 2:48:43 PM
Nope. It just makes me shake my head and say "sucker".

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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HIDDEN PROFILE PROBLEMS: Post all concerns here Posted: 9/20/2012 2:21:49 PM
I hid my profile a couple of months ago, but I just received an email from someone indicating interest. How can it be seen when it supposedly isn't included in any searches??

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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I'm a bit confused Posted: 9/8/2012 9:41:42 AM
don't forget to "Smile" This poster beat me to it. You do not look very happy in your 1st picture. The family pics really need to be 86'ed and you should consider a photo with a bit more ambiance than a chainlink fence. Oh and because someone viewed your profile, does not mean that they are interested. Curious, but not interested. I have found that turning off the "allow others to see I've viewed them" to be a blessing as people get the wrong impression. Good luck to you.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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honey boo boo Posted: 9/7/2012 11:42:00 AM
I saw the commercials before the season began and they frightened me. I reckon' that I would have to find me some of that thar moonshine if I ever get brave enough to tune in. This morning, I read a fluff piece about Kris Jenner denouncing this show as "low brow".

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Please Help My Situation- Dating A Guy Who lives Illegally in the USA Posted: 9/7/2012 11:38:10 AM
With naive and gullible people such as the OP, no wonder these scammers run amuck among us. Shaking head...sigh.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Do girls like to date bi men? Posted: 9/3/2012 2:41:43 PM
Nope. Don't want to share. He needs to pick one.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Marriage scams Posted: 9/3/2012 9:29:33 AM
I get the impression that men who go on about wanting a foreign bride who isn't "American" are typically losers. I have not gone through all of the pages of this thread but I have always been of the belief that men who have to resort to this, cannot relate to women of their own culture. I know of one such guy who is now in his early 50's. He lived one of those carefree surfer, lived off and on with the parents working as ski instructor, handyman, lifeguard, laborer, etc. over the years kind of lifestyles. He's highly immature, and a raving alcoholic. About 10 years ago, he married a much younger woman from the South Pacific. At first, he started picking out her clothes and dressing her like a porn star. The poor girl was cold and you wanted to put a blanket around her. Luckily, that phase was short-lived, but the marriage was filled with drama. About 4 years ago, they brought her son to live here and that kept them stable for awhile as he enjoys being a dad. The boy got very sick, spent a few month in a hospital and almost died. It brought them closer together as she has been known to take off for days at a time. He's now back to health and the marriage is still ridden with strife with his having affairs, and her taking off. I hear that he's only staying for the kid. In the beginning, we thought that she was a saint for putting up with him, but we know it takes 2 to tango.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Sweet old man or stalker? Posted: 9/2/2012 7:45:32 AM
I've gone as far as to tell them my 78 year old Mom is widowed, would they like to take HER out??? Too funny. A 68 year old man once wrote and expressed interest but I told him that he was a bit out of my demographic and that I have a very attractive sister his age. She is but I wouldn't do that to her. Got rid of him quickly. One of my friends had a guy in his 70's offer to take her to Paris for a "special dessert".

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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All these younger men... Posted: 8/30/2012 10:39:47 PM
Older men, do not necessarily, have their act together. A freakin' men to that. Age does not always mean "wisdom". I know many 40 plus people who are young souls who have no clue. Oh and then there are those of both genders who still think that the games that they played at at tender age work now. Yeah. Right.

Miss W

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New Profiles, Respond Now or Later Posted: 8/26/2012 10:31:32 PM
1. Is better for the guy to respond immeditly to a new woman's profile or wait till later? It is best to do so when and if you are inspired IMMEDIATELY. And please do so with good spelling and grammar if you are seeking a woman of quality.

Miss W

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I am 50+ enjoy playing Madden...deal breaker or not ladies? Posted: 8/26/2012 10:22:35 PM
That's cool, if you are 22 or under. Must be a nice past time when one isn't checking the id cards of potential flames. Buzz kill for me, but my opinion does not matter.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Dating moms with truly obnoxious children Posted: 8/24/2012 4:51:43 PM
Guess I should look more at those with no children. There are a lot of good ones out there. Much less drama.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Breaking your dry spell ... Posted: 8/24/2012 4:48:52 PM
The more you get to know,care about and trust some one the better sex gets. And I guess once you have had that AMAZING I am in love with you!!!! sex,,,,,( where every part of your body makes me crazy, touching you smelling you hearing you and seeing you makes me insane)! Then....... ..........one night stands just suck. They feel disgusting....so I will handle my dry spell, till I find my little fish that we both like swimming together for a bit. And another guy who gets it. That is sad when a guy who gets it doesn't get any, and a guy who doesn't get it does not get why he doesn't get any. Shaking head...

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Breaking your dry spell ... Posted: 8/24/2012 8:07:28 AM
Protection if anything happens is still a must. All that passed on stuff scares me more then knocking someone up. Wise man. I've met men who have been highly insulted and act as though you have asked them to hack off a testicle when discussing using protection or being tested. Maybe "clean, attractive, and likely to be enjoyable" is simply too high of a standard? I've thought this for quite awhile. And the least attractive and "ripe" ones complain the loudest. Any woman can get laid, it is just a matter of finding a desirable guy in a dwindling market.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Date a Blunt Woman? Posted: 8/23/2012 9:11:43 PM
Op,take it with a grain of salt! <div class="quote"> I sound very blunt in my Forum responses,i know but in real life,im much more tactful and considerate of people. So, dont take it too,too seriously if they say this. I can relate to this sentiment. Disclaimer: I have not read the whole thread, but I suspect that it would give me a headache, and an ache in a plethora of body parts. But...this person is right. As a dear sweet friend whose crazy alcoholic ex-husband offed himself two years ago, leaving her with 2 fabulous kids said she would like to date so she can develop a tough hide. If a woman is too blunt for your taste, then just pass her by. 'Nuff said.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Proper ID Posted: 8/23/2012 9:02:31 PM
Wow. I cannot remotely comprehend as to why this has morphed into 4 pages. The lesson that I have learned here is that although people lie, it is insulting to ask for id. Shaking head and leaving thread...

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Religion and sex.... Posted: 8/23/2012 12:07:26 AM
I once dated a man who asked me not to cuss except in the bedroom because he was "Christian". Never mind that he had 2 **stard children with a woman who he never married. We broke up for other reasons which mostly involved the fact that he was crazy and controlling. He tried to get back together with me. When I told him that it would not work out, he left me a very nasty message with colorful language. I called him on said colorful language for such a "good Christian" and received another nasty message with more of the same. The moral of this story is that I place more faith in a person who just lives a good life, does not preach and is not holier than thou. The end.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Proper ID Posted: 8/22/2012 6:55:35 AM
OP, you can insult me all you want, as I am not seeking anyone in your vicinity, but I still stand behind my comment. You have major issues. Have a nice day.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Proper ID Posted: 8/21/2012 10:51:18 PM
Just when you think you have heard everything, then something out of the blue comes up and just makes you shake your head and you want to kiss the ground in gratitude for giving up the online outta line dating thing, but I digress...driver's license on a 1st date??? Paranoid much? Oh and by the way OP, as a native of Southern California, and being a tad familiar with the part of the state in which you reside in (a legendary armpit), you really should be grateful if the women you meet have teeth.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Sex in the woman mind after 40. Posted: 8/18/2012 2:26:37 PM
I enjoy it tremendously, but there hasn't been anyone with whom I wish to indulge with lately. As a friend posted on facebook lately, my vagina has an on and off switch that works according to what comes out of your mouth. Some can be purtily packaged, but once they open their mouth...that is another story.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Do women exist that do not want kids? Posted: 8/18/2012 1:31:01 PM
I like them, but have always felt that I am best being the eccentric auntie. Every kid needs one. As I've gotten older, it seems to be a good decision given the way the world is going. I have always enjoyed nieces, nephews, friends' kids and now grand nieces and nephews and friends' grand kids.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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To Toupee/Wig or not to Toupee/Wig? Posted: 8/18/2012 1:27:11 PM
Rugs, combovers and 2 hair ponytails are turnoffs, same thing with dying your remaining 2 hairs a shoe polish black. Just go with nature.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Are they still in Jr. High? Emotionally stuck at 45+ Posted: 8/10/2012 3:01:39 PM
I am so enjoying this thread and am in agreement with most of the points here, so I have very little to add. However, there are so many people who run among us who have no clue. They are not 25 anymore and what they could get away with at 25 doesn't work at over 45. Some learn to get with the program and others never do. Instead of looking at their own issues, they paint other people with the crazy brush instead. There are so many of them here in Southern CA. Sigh...

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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what type of pictures do ladies want? Posted: 8/2/2012 11:04:57 PM
No dead fish, cars, motorcycles or other penis extensions, gangbanger wanna be's, self taken photos in the loo or the bedroom, and keep your shirt on. No hiding beneath the hat or the sunglasses. And finally, nothing older than a year at the most, preferably within the last 6 months.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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How to get back into the ring... Posted: 8/2/2012 10:44:21 AM
I agree if you do not like the fellow ask away and he is sure to get off the phone rather rapidly.. Works for me when I do not wish to date someone I meet from a meetup.. Be very careful with this option as weird as it is, it can backfire. That is what dating is about getting to know each other over time,not one conversation. One would think.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Wants to date but nothing serious = FWB? Posted: 8/1/2012 10:51:22 PM
Doesn't anyone date just for fun? Every so often you try it but when root canals and presurgical enemas seem more fun, you stop. Too many crazies of both genders. Not bitter, just stating the facts.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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How to get back into the ring... Posted: 8/1/2012 9:38:33 PM
OP, as it has been suggested, please take yourself over to profile review. And as far as what your sister has told you, unfortunately, we live in a "hook up" culture. Some people have hopes that it will turn into a relationship, others simply don't care. There are people of many ages who live in it and a lot of others who shun it as it can be a minefield. It takes time, patience, and a suit of armor to date these days. Not to be a buzz kill, it just is what it is. Good luck to you.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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angry profiles..would you date them? Posted: 7/31/2012 10:10:16 PM
In my ever so weak defense, he did change the picture. He had a lovely smile, not sure why he didn't want to show it up front. But yes I do suppose that wasn't a very nice thing to do. Live and learn I hear you. I did not mean to come off as harsh. The last guy I dated came on here with a few pics that made him look as approachable as a porcupine in heat. He then posted an exaggerated smiling pic and the token desperate self photo shirtless in front of the mirror. Confession: I was tempted to make a smart azz comment, but luckily I beyotch slapped my inner 15 year old. Hugs to you. I enjoy many of your posts.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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How to ask about debt......?? Posted: 7/31/2012 2:48:37 PM
Until you are serious, it isn't important. Once you are, that is another issue.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Can Someone Explain Dr Phil's Advice Posted: 7/31/2012 2:47:24 PM
Dr Phil is a tool and didn't he lose his license to practice?

Miss W

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fake Soldiers Posted: 7/31/2012 2:44:43 PM
Fake anyone p!sses me off!

Miss W

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can pics of younger days give insight into the person of today? Posted: 7/31/2012 10:14:45 AM
After I meet a person though,I love looking at old pics of them even childhood ones. AFTER is the key word. LOL Straycat.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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angry profiles..would you date them? Posted: 7/31/2012 8:37:20 AM
I was just trying to be helpful, but I guess it wasn't appreciated. Can't really say I blame him. "Helpful" suggestions aren't always appreciated. I once had a guy contact me to say that I looked pregnant in one of my pictures. Naturally, I was NOT happy and told him to mind his own business. He thought I'd want a man's opinion, and I told him that when I do, I have several male friends who I can ask and not the opinion of some random twit on the internet. I say ignore and move along.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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50 Shades of Grey Posted: 7/25/2012 8:44:05 PM
Thank you Miss W! I couldn't stop laughing...hilarious!! Check this out: http://jezebel.com/end-times/ Some good things from these books are the fact that there has been a boom in the "toy" industry, a lot of good parody and hopefully some better sex for some among the unrealistic expectations.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Help me to like Quinoa Posted: 7/25/2012 2:57:31 PM
OP: How have you had it? I made it once ages ago, but was unimpressed. Someone brought a salad to a party and it was bleh and bland. I keep hearing how good it is for you, but haven't found any recipes that have excited me and I love most grain salads. I've learned to like kale, now I want to like this because it has a lot of nutritional bang for the buck.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Separated vs Divorced: The truth will set you free! Posted: 7/25/2012 9:59:44 AM
I'd bet a lot of the ladies who insist on a divorce decree are angling for their third or fourth husband. Hell, I'm not even angling for a first husband, I just don't want to date someone who is still legally married. Some of us just don't based on many reasons already mentioned.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Explanation required ? Posted: 7/24/2012 11:15:10 PM
Welcome to online dating and the kids in the candy shop where they have forgotten or never learned any respect for others. Unfortunately, it all goes with the territory.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Time and space Posted: 7/24/2012 10:40:48 PM
She's pulling the nonsense that men do when are in being too lilly livered to break up with you. Let her be and if it is meant to happen and you are willing to accept, it will work itself out.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Ex girlfriend issue.. Posted: 7/24/2012 4:26:30 PM
anyone have an advice on this situation? Yes, count your blessings, realized that you dodged a bullet and move on.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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50 Shades of Grey Posted: 7/24/2012 9:15:03 AM
http://blog.cookingchanneltv.com/2012/07/21/50-shades-of-grey-dinner-party/ Fifty Shades dinner party anyone? LOL!

Miss W

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Separated vs Divorced: The truth will set you free! Posted: 7/23/2012 9:38:20 PM
I think that when a man is in his youth, the first time he has a conflict between doing the right thing and satisfying the desires of his hormones it is almost never going to be the denial of his hormones. In most cases, the hormones win, even among those in the 50's or 60's. They are out of their marriage and only care about their own needs. And as far as separated is concerned, they should be working on their issues and healing instead of running amuck among us, which is why the top calibre won't touch them with a 10 foot pole. I've always believed that the separated should all find each other and leave the rest of us alone.

Miss W

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50 Shades of Grey Posted: 7/23/2012 10:52:45 AM
I am kind of sort of ashamed to admit that I read the books as I swore up and down that I would only do so if someone gave them to me and a friend did, so I read just for curiosity to see what all the rage was. This is so not my genre. After the 1st couple of sex scenes, I got bored and the reason as to why I got through them quickly was because because I fast forwarded through them, muttering to myself as to how in hell these people could still walk, shaking my head and saying yeah right. Although not very good, I do have to say that they were entertaining. Some of my "mom" friends LOVED the books. One said to keep batteries as you would need them. Nope. I for one, think it sends a dangerous message to young women by telling them that it is ok and that their love will "change" the guy and will let them accept bad behavior. The following is a VERY funny review that someone recently shared with me. http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/340987215

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Plagiagerizing on Profiles Posted: 7/23/2012 9:00:28 AM
Geez. Was it really necessary to go the extra mile or 10? All you really needed to do was look at the profile, snicker, shake your head and move on.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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just for my own curosity a womens horomones..need to know lol Posted: 7/23/2012 8:33:03 AM
Yes, we definitely are as horny as men, but with the double standard still in existence, we are less primal and more discerning.

Miss W

Joined: 12/4/2006

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Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ? Posted: 7/23/2012 8:27:03 AM
I originally came here to date, but that idea got 86'ed rather quickly and stayed for the forums. Although the dating has left a lot to be desired, I've made some really great friends and the forums amuse me. Oh, and if I ever get really, really desperate, I'm sure I could have cyber sex.

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