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Joined: 12/13/2004

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college Posted: 2/12/2007 11:36:47 PM
the point of a profile is to tell about yourself, raising a child, starting school, and working are all a part of who you are, as for the reason they put long term are each unique and the answers will vary, I am all of the above but I think I state dating, but in my "about me" section I mention I am open to see where things may lead to. I myself am NOT looking for someone to come along and make my life easier, or to Take care of me, but rather someone to share the events in my life that are important to me and them to be open to that in return as for the breaking it off part that too is going to vary from person to another, but I don't see what her "looking" for or her situation ...work and being a mom, has to do with her not being able to put feelings into it.

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Allowance 4 kids Posted: 2/8/2007 9:00:07 AM
when my daughter was younger to help her learn the value of a dollar and to learn how to "earn" a buck , she had some jobs she could do that were set for her age, others that were cause she was part of the family and she could help out. As she got older the amount and jobs changed, but at allowance time she would come with hand out for her money I would hand it to her BUT also a bill for what she didn't do , and that I did... and her full allowance ....then she had to pay me for the jobs that I had done.

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answer honest Posted: 8/19/2005 1:13:55 AM
thats about all the type of mail i recieve, so i ask that alot.

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concerned abt a friend...... Posted: 5/31/2005 7:40:50 AM
I want to thank you for the posts and the emails they have given me some very good ideas and things to suggest to her, as well as some things to think about. I will give each and eveyone's advice serious thought and will be trying some of them, I realise that I can't make her get help,or seek better DRs or even to see things any other way then she chooses to, and I can be only a friend, the decision is really hers. Once again thank you so very much. I also realise that I put this post in the wrong place but not exactly thinking of that at the time. but thank you so much again to those who have responded none the less. (Lacy, I'm moving this to relationships, you will get got input there) late™

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concerned abt a friend...... Posted: 5/27/2005 5:54:50 PM
A very good friend of mine is going thru a VERY hard time right now a little brief history she is prone to trying to kill herself, has been hospitalised 2 times the last 2 months ago, her mom as of a week ago has been diagnosed with terminal cancer, my firend is on self destruct, I always try to be there for her and it is me who gets the 3 am phone call "I need help", I am afraid for her but the responability of finding her and getting her help has fallen on me the stress is mind blowing and not fair to me I am afraid to sleep for fear of missing THAT call, she has gotten help is still under a DR care but still they dont do much for her, i have encouraged her to seek better help and with her attemts being OD the DRs still conntinue to supply her with large amts at one time and i have had to be the one to go take control, she is a drinker as well and that makes the problem worse, anyone have any advice on what to do or where to find better help for her, or somehow make my burdon less, i know it is a matter of time till the next attempt and i may not be there to get the call... and yes I am aware that I may not be helping her and I allowed it to be put on myself but i cant turn my back on anyone hurting so much. any advice is welcomed and thanks for the chance to get that out.

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rate this site!!!!! Posted: 3/4/2005 2:02:54 AM
being on a site like this is almost like a rollar coaster its full of ups and downs some times it is so fast your head spins then it slows way down and ya think its over but in time right back up again ,just have to hang in there and try not to be in a hurry. this prob made no sense at all but oh well ... oh yeah I think this site is one of the best ones I have been on, just the after thought there.

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the Posted: 3/4/2005 1:53:34 AM
simple just say cya... then ask them to remove you from their fav list..... hint hint...

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Betrayed again . Posted: 3/4/2005 1:35:33 AM
i agree with squeak ... if truly your friend, she would not have done that. it didn't sound like either one respected how you feel, and respect in a friendship or relationship is an important factor in making it work or not . best of luck hun in the decision you make

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Isn't Nebraska the most boring place? Posted: 3/3/2005 12:14:47 AM
NE is boring but since being on fish it has gotten a little better. Have met a bunch of ok people so far. so at least its nice to have people to be bored with, but no match as of yet,

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Anyone had to take care someone with alzheimers? Posted: 2/5/2005 10:28:17 AM
I work with alzheimers residents, (8 yrs now) It is a very emotional , and stressfull situation and to handle the stress is NOT easy, there are many places available online and in your community to help with this, find a support group and family and friends if available. Also what can help is to learn all you can abt this disease it might help to understand, our work has us do inservices and impair us to give us a idea of what it can be like and its a scary thing. I have been punched at pinched and meds spit back at me, as to how to best deal with it varies with each situation, good luck its a hard thing to cope with and I think it is great to see you take an interest in helping in whatever way you can, In my job the families are longer very active with them and thats a sad thing.

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need suggestions please all cat-lovers.... Posted: 2/5/2005 10:13:55 AM
mine did that for abt a year then one day it got so bad i argued with the vet to do something i am glad I did she has asthma-(allergy related) , can be life threatening to cats determined by a final chest Xray, good luck with your kitty,

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Do you give up or try find some one close to home Posted: 2/4/2005 5:35:27 PM
after being on diff sites like this it seems some sort of travel has been involved, I myself have no problem as I love to travel anyways, It just takes a little more time to get to know someone first,(safety reasons) before we make the decision to get together, but if you find someone you like then take your time and see what happens, but I do not believe distance should be the reason too or not to meet.

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Message Conversations that go nowhere Posted: 2/4/2005 4:58:53 PM
I know what you are saying, the ones that I chat with seem to not have much to say online be it e-mail or IM, but if and when we do get together, they tend to open more, but then when back to chat on the computer its back to being quiet.

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BEST VACATION EVER. Posted: 1/23/2005 10:16:00 AM
the best was a few years ago I spent a month in Australia, the only bad part was having to return home. all my friends backed out of going so I went alone, with no regrets. met many nice people while there,

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why is it like this Posted: 1/3/2005 7:54:47 PM
that had to be a hard thing to deal with, and sometimes you will never get the answers or at least the ones you want, sometimes thats worse. good luck and try to remember when one door closes another one opens

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ever went on a date with some one you met on plentyoffish?if so,how was the date? Posted: 1/2/2005 10:04:42 AM
yes and had a good time but we did not hit it off but, hey thats ok, its always nice to finally meet the people you spend time chatting with and even if it doesn't work well you just try again. Good luck to all of you and happy fishing, and happy new year

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Men can be such dogs Posted: 12/22/2004 11:20:57 AM
hang in there... i think that we all have been through that at some time or another, but there are many good one still out there. just choose carefuly and keep your eyes and ears open. good luck to you and hang in there

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2nd thoughts... Posted: 12/22/2004 9:59:52 AM
strangerstill.... Good luck to you and hope it works for you, but if not keep the positive attitude and hold your head up and try again keep us posted on the situation if you like.

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2nd thoughts... Posted: 12/22/2004 9:55:30 AM
LOL .. neopolotin you might be onto something reg the admirer but as for the rest you have a good point here I guess that there are both wrong and right ways to handle a situation. but by being honest and stating up front it helps to put the facts on the table, I would hope that they feel the same way too reg the option of meeting more than one person,till you find someone you want to move to the next level with, BUT if you do meet and hit it off... THEN throw that statement on the table that would be a red flag in my book. I would hope that the reality of these sites is you wont find the "one" on the first try... Be nice but hey

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2nd thoughts... Posted: 12/22/2004 12:51:20 AM
i guess there are so many ways to see things. I guess being a straight forward type of girl i appreciate the open way, but since the world is full of people who view things differently and some of those do not take rejection too well can make for a uncomfortable experience, sure it hurts but hey it changes the game if 2 people dont feel the same. but still a thanks no thanks is nice anyways. ... hey venting can be a good thing healthy really if done right and not at the expence of another.

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hi there Posted: 12/20/2004 4:10:08 PM
thanks for the welcome and as it say's above hi there

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Abuse Posted: 12/20/2004 2:19:59 PM
hey girl, been there, stayed for 4 years, hid it from everyone who cared about me, each time it was worse and it wasn't getting better while he was in prison for armed robbery i threw his stuff out and moved on my way i realised that really was not love.

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So, am I dead in the water? Posted: 12/20/2004 1:51:19 PM
yes it is poss to keep kids and dating seperate, since back into the dating scene again, telling someone up front that I have a daughter and that she is important to me and tell them nothing personal when they dont meet her right away when you get a feel that things might be progressing to a new level and your both wanting the same thing in the relationship you start to introduce the child, not forcing anything but a little at a time in a simple situation, but still keeping contact limited, this is not a overnight type of deal it takes a long time, it is a good way to gage a real response to your having children. this seem to be a ok way so far. good luck

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How To Stop Someone From Emailing You Posted: 12/20/2004 9:48:57 AM
good question? Is there a answer?

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So, am I dead in the water? Posted: 12/19/2004 11:47:47 PM
no your not dead in the water, being a single parent is hard work (for either parent.) and starting again is not always easy either, one thing I find that helps is be honest in what your seeking and keep the child/ren out of the picture until both parties are sure of where its headed, no I am not saying hide the fact that you have children but keep them at a safe distance for the time being.

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What are the truly free sites? Posted: 12/19/2004 11:36:15 PM
book of matches, seems to be ok also. good luck

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Intro: LACY68 Posted: 12/19/2004 11:47:44 AM
I am new to this site and have been popping into forums with out introducing myself sorry abt that. It is hard when there is so much out there, and many of you have started many interesting topics. is there any chat rooms on this site? if so how do you get to them? Take care all and good luck in what your looking for.

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One for the Parents. Posted: 12/19/2004 10:04:02 AM
I have a 14 yr old and she has been lucky so far she has not been the direct hit for a bully but has been bullied because of her actions to defend the one being bullied. I am so proud of her for sticking up for the underdog but also fear for her as the kids today get down right mean and violence is rising in these situations. My daughter has been in both private and public school and yes there are differences. In my state they have police officers placed in schools but are they really a solution since this was started i have not seen many changes, kids still bring wepons to school one was kicked out of my daughters school this was a gun talk abt scary and so close to home

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2nd thoughts... Posted: 12/19/2004 8:55:31 AM
thanks, that is a new way to view that type of situation, I think that sometimes we need another opinion to see things for what they are, not what we think they are

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 12/18/2004 11:03:51 PM
I believe there are many good men still out there, it just takes time to find him, I have met a few since joining this site along with some not so good ones. If you find yourself looking too hard you might let a really good one get away

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2nd thoughts... Posted: 12/18/2004 4:16:47 PM
Ok you have chatted several times and finally decided to take the next step of the MEETING each other, scary as it can be you do it anyways, why is it after meeting and you feel thats not what your looking for and choose to move on and try again ( nothing wrong there) that no one can say simply I'm not interested, instead some just tend to vanish, bolck or offer several excuses. After all I thought the point of these sites is for meeting taking a chance your not gonna hit it off with everyone but hey thats the fun of trying. Am I alone in this thought?

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