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 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Ladies I need your advice badly!
Posted: 8/23/2012 7:52:24 PM
You need to demonstrate real interest by asking her out soon or at the very let her know that you'd like to meet her eventually.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 40 (view)
 
So I did not kiss her on the the first date. Good or bad sign?
Posted: 5/29/2012 5:55:26 PM
If I go on a date and I like the girl I'm spending time with, I go for the kiss (providing I can read that she is enjoying herself). It can happen within the first hour or at the very end. Only 2 outcomes here : she kisses you back or she pushes you away. Never insist though as a no is a NO but the woman can't blame you for trying to kiss her if you felt that she has enjoyed your company. If you see that she is bored, annoyed or whatever else negative, a polite hug will do.

I have always believed that, if I don't try to kiss my date during our first outing when we both had a good time, she will think I'm a wuss. Old school train of thought maybe but it works.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Is it OK to make out on the first date??
Posted: 5/5/2012 8:14:15 PM
"'I'd say that making out on a first date is a sign that things are going well"

Not always...
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Is seeking chemistry realistic?
Posted: 5/4/2012 10:48:15 PM
"If she's been hurt before, she may not be able to freely give her heart now."

There is that too. Combined with me not being enough for her standards but she would never admit it.

Sorry for hi-jacking your thread OP. I'm off of it now.

Let the discussion continue.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
How would you feel about a long time friend telling you how they have felt about you
Posted: 5/4/2012 8:43:48 PM
Get on that date, flirt a bit more and if she is receptive kiss her. You'll know right away.

Do or die
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Is seeking chemistry realistic?
Posted: 5/4/2012 8:39:09 PM
I believe sometimes that that famous "spark" can manifest itself right on the spot but I also believe that in some cases, some people just grow on you. Of course that doesn't apply if you have ZERO physical attraction at all. If you thought she was "kinda cute" give it another chance.

But what do I know about chemistry really? Nothing. I had this date recently with this girl that we were communicating for a while, within the first 20 minutes we were holding hands and making out. We spent the whole day together, walking while holding hands, making out quite intense too. Two days after that she said she didn't have that spark but wanted to see me again because it doesn't mean that its doomed to failure if the spark isn't there right at the beginning. She ultimately decided to never see me again. I don't blame her though, I had a solid crush on her and I most surely scared her away for good.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Why do people say they are gonna call you right back and then don't?
Posted: 5/4/2012 8:17:09 PM
It doesn't look good. Trust me on this one
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
How would you feel about a long time friend telling you how they have felt about you
Posted: 5/4/2012 8:04:29 PM
Yeah, I don't think you should put her on the spot just like that. It'll be too awkward if you came with that out of nowhere. I think you can let her know you are attracted to her (which I think is crucial for you to do) in more subtle ways and let the idea grow into her mind. She will let you know in one way or another how she feels about you. Also in the scenario that she doesn't like you like that, by opening your heart to her in such a big way you are making yourself vulnerable and you could get hurt badly.

I'd say you could increase the flirtiness up a notch and see her reaction. You might scare her away with that big "I have loved you since I have known you"

Yeah, don't listen to the insults that some of the other members give to you. Their message might be right sometimes but the delivery leans way too much on putting other people down and they take pleasure in it.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 39 (view)
 
no teeth
Posted: 5/2/2012 8:28:40 AM
How about this scenario? I brush my teeth everyday, none of them are black or anything like that but I happen to have a few missing because they hadn't grown out properly when I was a teen so I had them removed although I was still able to be with very nice and pretty girls over the years, would that be a deal breaker for you women?

I'm getting partials in june though, how about that? Is it freaking you out to know at 28 years old is wearing partials?
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
A 'Real man'..
Posted: 5/2/2012 7:18:38 AM
Well, I don't think "real" woman is the adjective you're looking for but I see it as th e difference between a girl and a woman.

To me a woman is this: someone confident who doesn't need to be reassured all the time, doesn't play games and manipulate people, knows what she wants and how to get it, well mannered, someone responsible that you could picture her as a mother. Someone with class and still knows how to be sexy without having to dress up like a prostitute. Someone caring and compassionate. Someone who doesn't expect everyone to do everything for her just because she is a female.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Preferring to be rejected bluntly rather than candy-coated
Posted: 5/1/2012 9:19:37 PM
Thanks for the responses although some of you seem to jump to the wrong conclusions. I never asked why she didn't like me. I totally get that sometimes interest can seem bigger than what it really is and on some occasions it just fades away. I have no problems being rejected. I was just questioning the need of some people to give mixed responses like "Im not sure anymore but I am interested in you". The is totally unnecessary if we both know that not being sure anymore means a definitive no so why not just be honest.

I guess I should have told you that for that first date, we did spend the whole day together and after the first 20 minutes we were holding hands and making and that went on pretty much for the whole day. I guess I should also have told you that she expressed the desire to go back to my place to get more intimate but she ultimately decided to wait to start things on proper grounds.

Anyway, it doesn't really matter anymore.

Thanks again for your point of views.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Preferring to be rejected bluntly rather than candy-coated
Posted: 4/30/2012 8:08:39 PM
PutYouOnBlast- I did say 'on my end'.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
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Preferring to be rejected bluntly rather than candy-coated
Posted: 4/30/2012 7:30:41 PM
Good evening everyone, I hope the night is treating you well wherever you are.

Met this amazing woman online. Took us a while to have our first date but when we did, it went superbly well on my end. I thought we had good chemistry. We walked the whole day, enjoyed each other's company and basically ate each other's faces. At the very least I expected to have a good time because we'd get along so well before we met but never in a hundred years could I have foreseen that we would make out that much on a first date.

So obviously after the date I thought to myself "Hey that's a good start!". Turns out she didn't quite get that spark she was hoping to get. At first I was a little confused because of how the date went but as it loud and clearly says "IM NOT THAT INTO YOU ANYMORE" I initially accepted it.

What I have problems with is how she said it. She couldn't say it without trying to give false hopes with a second sentence like " My flame is cool...but that might change if we spend more time together" - " I'm not sure anymore but I am interested in you". I would much rather have her tell me straight up "I never liked you anyway" but I when I try to get her tell me that, she evades it.

My questions is this : Is it uncommon to prefer to be flushed without any hopes left rather than being given small glimpses of hope when you know they are fake. I think its more hurtful when someone can't be direct with me.

Do men do that a lot too to you ladies?
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Updated profile
Posted: 12/2/2011 7:58:53 PM
do my profile make me sound like a Terry Bear?
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Updated profile
Posted: 12/1/2011 2:33:02 PM
indiallias- You mean I say too much in the first paragraph or does is sound just...blah?

curves...-thanks!
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Updated profile
Posted: 11/30/2011 9:35:13 PM
I decided to change my profile and change some of the pictures and see what it would do.

I don't have a perfect dentition so I thought I`d post pictures of me smiling so people can know what to expect (even if it will probably backfire at me...meaning I'll get even less replies than what I'm barely getting) but when I say "not perfect dentition", it doesn't mean they are rotten or not being washed. I take good care of them and they are white...I'm just missing some teeth, that's all and its not like I'll never have that fixed but its pretty expensive so it takes time and I'm actively looking into it.


Fire away ladies and gentlemen!
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 123 (view)
 
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/30/2011 6:18:20 PM
the better the oral the woman gets in foreplay AND after intercourse...the more forgiving she will be if you run the short race.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Alone Time, strange?
Posted: 8/5/2011 6:36:00 AM
If I never had any 'alone time' in a relationship, I'd go crazy. I like to miss people
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Should I tell? Or should I shut the F up.
Posted: 8/4/2011 1:01:23 PM
Well, are you BI only for sexual activities or could you actually fall in love with a woman?

I think its your business and your business only. As long as you stay exclusive when you commit to a relationship why should anyone mind who you choose to date?

If I were you, I'd only divulge that information if you actually want a 3some, otherwise its a detail they don't need to know in my opinion.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 277 (view)
 
Women with high sex drive...
Posted: 8/4/2011 7:17:45 AM
Usually women don't want let the man know that they have a high sex drive because they don't want to be seen/used just for sex so they hide it a little bit Hahaha.

The more a man will make efforts to give his woman a good time. The higher the drive will become and that's a fact. I've heard many female friends saying that their boyfriends think that when they (the men) have their orgasm, well sex is over and they won't "play" with her anymore...shame.....
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
please review profile.
Posted: 8/4/2011 7:03:59 AM
your main picture is blurry and you seem too far in the back. Harder for them women to see your face.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 8/4/2011 7:02:27 AM
Oh wow, I hadn't noticed that last picture was so blurry. Originally, we are 4 people on this picture so I guess the zooming and croping didn't do it any good.

thanks!
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
The good, bad and the what were you thinking.
Posted: 8/4/2011 7:00:35 AM
I would take out the first 3 paragraphs and the one about your " two sides".

But then again, I'm not a woman so I don't know what they look for.

Best of luck!
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
A lady's insight into this dilemma will be appreciated.
Posted: 8/4/2011 6:50:26 AM
You could tell her that you are interested in meeting her when she feels ready but you would like to know if she has that same interest. Its a simple question and you should know if you'd be wasting time or not.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
The good, bad and the what were you thinking.
Posted: 8/4/2011 6:41:58 AM
Maybe its too long?
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why do females show so much clevage in profile pix?
Posted: 8/4/2011 6:35:07 AM
Why do you complain? Its a nice view! Its your choice if you want to contact a woman who wants to "sell her salad" with her breasts or not

You never know what a woman is thinking. Maybe sometimes they feel a little bit discouraged because they're not getting any dates and since everybody is showing cleavage nowadays, they feel like its the only way to compete against the other gals. I understand your train of thought but you can't judge a woman's virtue just by a picture.

We all know that the girls showing cleavage will get most messages from men looking to get laid so what do you think happens to the girls with conservative pictures? They don't check her out since there are already other girls showing that they want some action....

I'm not saying its the way to go to meet someone serious, far from it actually but that's how it is now unfortunately, its a competition of who gets more attention and dates so anything goes I guess so don't read their profile if you're not interested but enjoy the "show" while you browse. :)
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Ladies, I have a general question...
Posted: 8/4/2011 6:25:51 AM
Here is a rule of thumb that I use so that I don't go into the over-thinking process that you are going through:

I'm always willing to make the first steps towards a woman and maybe the 2nd step but NOT the 3rd one and so forth. I'll give you an example : I invite a girl out and if she cancels, I'm only gonna try one more time but if she cancels again or get some excuses (doesn't matter if they're real or not) The ball is in her court so I figure that if she wants to see me, she'll get in touch otherwise well, too bad. I've done my part now its her turn.


Now is the time you let her do her part and contact you again. If she doesn't, there is not any clearer signs than that. If she does, good for you gentleman!
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 8/4/2011 4:40:58 AM
no one has an opinion?
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Having a parent as a new roommate
Posted: 8/4/2011 4:30:23 AM
Leftofnormal

My dad had quit his job so he could go back to where he was from and live his remaining years there and find another work. He had an arrangement so that he would get unemployement for a while before starting to look for another job in his hometown. His last employer never filled out the papers....so basically instead of being able to enjoy some time off because my dad is someone who worked physically his whole life, he had to drag his as* back here and sort it out...that's when I offered him to stay here because I know it would take a while to sort out.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Having a parent as a new roommate
Posted: 8/3/2011 8:29:02 PM
We help each other, he was broke when he came to me and when he got back on his feet, he offered me to pay for rent so I could go back to school (few years ago) I have been working for a while so its even. We were supposed to split up this year but we decided to prolonged it one more.

Its a weird situation because for 1. I need a roommate but 2....I'm tired of having a roommate LOL but its my dad.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Profile Pictures
Posted: 8/3/2011 8:06:01 PM
hahaha I do everything that you just said(meaning I groom my beard, no babies, no t-shirt etc) but its still not enough hahaha but I hear you loud and clear.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Having a parent as a new roommate
Posted: 8/3/2011 8:02:09 PM
Yeah I hear you. I didn't mind bringing my ex when I had the other roommate (before he turned out sick) but I wouldn't dare bringing a girl home now because my dad lives with me. Would feel weird unless she doesn't care
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Having a parent as a new roommate
Posted: 8/3/2011 7:53:13 PM
Ok I'll try to keep it short because its late so here it is:

A few years ago, I had a roommate who actually was one of my sister's ex. We always got along well so we shared an apartment but unfortunately over the time he became schizophrenic and my security became at risk with his unpredictable behavior that comes with that disease. He had to be interned at the hospital under surveillance 24/7 and couldn't live with me anymore (which was a relief too because I had to lock my bedroom door when I was sleeping...never knew what kind of 'episode' would happen).

Around that time, my dad was looking for a place to live because he was going through a rough patch so I offered him to come live with me. We still live together now but I mean, everything is under my name : rent, electricity, cable/internet, etc because I was there before he was. We split expenses 50/50. I have to say that its in the plans to split up eventually when I finish my school certificate that I will start in January and it leaves him time to save up some money to find a place of his own.

Do you guys see that as "oh, the 27-year old still live with his dad" or would just see my dad as any other roommate? I have been living on my own for 5-6 years after all, its not like I never left the parental house.

Just curious.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 8/3/2011 7:32:48 PM
ok so I have gotten my profile reviewed by some of you and I tweaked accordingly. After 2 weeks I still almost never get replies (Maybe 5 % or even less).

Now, I know the fact that I don't have a car is against me even if I have my license so I'm thinking it has to be my pictures or I come off as boring in my profile.


How are my pictures? Am I good-looking, average or below average? Be honest please, I consider myself just average leaning on below-average.

Thanks in advance!
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Should you force yourself to have sex just to make your partner happy?
Posted: 8/1/2011 7:45:49 PM
Forcing myself to have sex.....I don't like it. It doesn't make it really fun and the partner will notice if you're not really into it (no pun intended).

My ex girlfriend was REALLY into sex, she wanted do it every day and multiple times. While it sounds good on paper and that we also had good chemistry in the bedroom, it killed a lot of the ''magic''. I don't know how to explain this but what I mean is because she would try to make the first move to have sex 90% of the time and that she would assume that every 'cuddling' move from me would mean that I wanted to have sex, its like it didn't make me feel like a man anymore. I love to have to seduce the girl. While this is very nice to have a woman come out of the shower and have that look, I really felt that it was a sometimes because she wanted it all the time. She'd tell me to go see a psychologist when I didn't want to have some for a few days in a row because she thought that something was wrong with me...How do you expect me to want it all the time when I felt forced at times. That certainly didn't make me want to have more.

I don't know, its hard to explain and I don't really know how to voice my opinion about this properly. Sex is one of the best experience in the world but you don't feel like it....you don't feel like it and trying to make the other feel bad won't help.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
List of Requirements? Maybe all of us should narrow it down and lighten up ;)
Posted: 7/26/2011 1:12:37 PM
People aren't gonna date other people they find unattractive just for the sake of dating someone "only for the inside" Not gonna happen!

The generalization wants that "beautiful" people aren't nice inside and "ugly" people are nice inside. That's not true!! There are only 4 options:

Good looks + good person
Good looks + bad person
Bad looks + good person
Bad looks + bad person
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/22/2011 7:10:59 PM
consigliori HAHAHAHA

I brush the ones that ARE NOT missing.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Picky about teeth
Posted: 7/22/2011 12:52:34 PM
I have some missing teeth but I brush them everyday like every other human being.

That being said, I've started the initial steps to "fill the gaps" this summer and hopefully it should be fixed before the holidays (it takes a long time for these stuff).

But if I were to be turned down by a woman specifically because of my teeth(which probably happens very often but they just don't have the courage to tell me) , I wouldn't be offended at all because I would understand. Attraction is something very important for them and me as well so I do have my preferences too when it comes to height, weight, cup size (I'm just being honest here), smile also, etc. I'd like it though if they would tell me its because of my teeth so I'd know it wasn't my attitude or anything. Vice versa applies too, if they didn't care that I have some missing teeth but they thought I was an ass. I'd be better off knowing so I can improve.

We can't always please everyone nor everyone pleases us.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Why is it so difficult for Women to give Men a 2nd chance ?
Posted: 7/21/2011 7:35:29 AM
It happens, don't worry about it. Sometimes the mule thinks he wants some fresh air and workout but all he wanted at that time was to sleep. I hope you "ate some cunnilinguine" for a 1:00 am snack to thank the hostess for trying to wake up that mule. If you did and she was very pleased, she'll call you back but bring the mule next time and remind her that it doesn't wake up by itself.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 7/20/2011 1:01:00 PM
Alright, I'll translate my description soon. It seems like a good idea.

What about the pictures, should I drop any? Do you(anyone really) like them?

I don't know which one to use a main. My favourite might not be the one I should choose.

thanks in advance.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Profile review please
Posted: 7/20/2011 4:51:59 AM
I agree with the haircut thing.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Help with getting replies
Posted: 7/20/2011 4:49:40 AM
If you figure it out, let me know. I'm not getting replies either 90% of the time, but its alright I guess. I can't really expect to get replies when I don't have a car at the moment.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
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Time for a profile review
Posted: 7/19/2011 1:08:58 PM
Thank

Well, initally it was in french but I figured it wasn't gonna be very productive even if I'm french canadian and looking for a woman living in the Montreal area too but this is an english website after all and most people post in english anyway. After the above advices, I tweaked some phrases and put them in better order.

Which picture do you think I should have as a main?
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How should I handle this
Posted: 7/19/2011 12:56:02 PM
go on with the date and enjoy the moment. Maybe it can be the start of a nice relationship.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 7/19/2011 12:52:40 PM
Thanks sony. I appreciate it.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 7/19/2011 10:33:56 AM
Yeah, you're right about the hot chocolate/ice cream cone thing. I joined about 2 weeks ago. I changed what you noted, it makes more sense now.

Who would drink a hot chocolate in this heat anyway...hahaha.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 7/19/2011 9:21:40 AM
Which picture do you think I should have as a main and is the pool picture killing it? though, I have been told that the pool picture has an interesting intense look.

If you're itchy to type this morning, this thread wouldn't be a bad idea, now would it? :)
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 7/19/2011 8:44:39 AM
Thanks for the advices!
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Time for a profile review
Posted: 7/18/2011 8:54:40 PM
Hello everyone!

I thought I'd drop in and ask for opinions since honestly, I don't have much experience in making written profiles about myself.

Any constructive ideas are welcome.

Thanks.
 Jimbojim_1983
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 13 (view)
 
'Friends'
Posted: 7/18/2011 9:05:36 AM
Yeah, let her go dude. Don't call, don't text and don't start conversations with her unless its a quick and formal 'hi how are you' while you keep walking in the corridor. Don't torture youself to think something might happen if she comes 'out of her way' to talk to you. If she does come and talk to you, reply in short answers and don't ask anything back (i.e. Her-Hey how are you? did you have a good week-end? You-I'm fine thanks, week-end was great......don't ask about hers). It sounds heartless and harsh but its the best way to get over her and she'll understand that you need some closure since you thought you had something going on and were dissapointed

Such is the way of life

Sorry

P.S. Some of you find malicious pleasure of being rude to people asking for advice. Why?
 
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