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parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Question about kicking our roomate out. Posted: 2/2/2009 3:53:39 PM
There are many web sites that will give you a basic yet structured form in which you may use. I was going to copy/paste you a form yet there are so many to choose from it would probably be best if you reviewed them yourself. I wish you the best!

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Am I still in high school??? Posted: 1/31/2009 2:47:00 AM
It sounds to me as if you have been quite fortunate - many of the ladies that you have met have made it extremely easy for you to know from the beginning that it is not a good match. Personally, I am thrilled to know if some one is lying (insert negative attitude, or any appropriate trait) to me (and/or the world) in the first moment of meeting as opposed to learning about a trail of lies after investing years or even months with them. The only bad experience(s) I've had in my life are the ones that I didn't learn from - the first time around.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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How bad is the Amiercan Health Care system? Posted: 1/25/2009 3:40:13 PM
Before reading any of the other replies to your inquiry, I will tell you my experience. Even though I work full time and have for years, I cannot afford the $600+ a month for health insurance - that's for single coverage (with employer's contribution}. I find it interesting that our hospitals are beautiful in the States. With that said, you can only imagine my surprise when my ex (from Ontario) had to go to the hospital many years ago. To me, it looked as if it were something from the 1950's - yet, he was treated immediately, even for his minor injury. Here, I've had to sit in the ER for hours (over 7) while in severe pain. My good news is that if I die from an overlooked disease (for an example), I won't have to be concerned about how my children will fair from my death because I do not have any.

parula

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Daily Beer Drinking Posted: 1/18/2009 2:01:00 PM
All of today's titles seem to get in the way for me. If a particular situation is causing a problem - then it is a problem. It doesn't matter if it's someone that plays golf to the degree the he neglects quality time with their family or some one that chooses to have beer every evening and it causes negative side effects. This is exactly why I don't listen as much as I watch what people do.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Divorce Etiquette Posted: 1/17/2009 3:47:03 AM
As one stated earlier, in the first year or so, I can understand the situation. I also know that people with nothing to hide, hide nothing.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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How do you fill your day? Posted: 1/17/2009 3:19:14 AM
In reading your profile, I see that you enjoy cooking and the outdoors. I'd suggest that you volunteer at a local park or at a shelter that is needing help in the kitchen. The cost is minimal and the pay is very high! You can chose how often you help out so it doesn't interfere with your lifestyle. There are also volunteer opportunities online that are just as rewarding. I did work for an animal rescue for years until my new job took up too much of my time. I seriously considered changing employment to ease-up my time restraints because I so loved volunteering yet, in this economy, I chose to let my passion go - for now. Also, at least once a week, I go on organized bird walks. OK, I know tromping around fields and forests looking at birds isn't for everyone. I mention this because this is just one example of the enormous options that are available.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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loaning money Posted: 1/9/2009 8:09:56 PM
You are being vague on the details and details do make a difference. Care to elaborate?

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Boyfriend writes to girls on POF Posted: 1/3/2008 6:29:50 PM
To me its almost like cheating. What is almost cheating?!?! If you're not happy with his choices and he does not respect your needs, move on. IMHO, it sounds as if communication is severely lacking (?) All that you need to do is make the best next move.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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What to get- 2nd car or a boat? Posted: 11/30/2007 7:21:40 AM
In an attempt to over look the pretentiousness of the OP's question - here is how I view it. I feel that every single person should have 2 vehicles. This way, they always have a back up. Although a boat can be fun, it does not support a sensible lifestyle. I have two vehicles (both valued under $1000) because I want to be as self sufficient as possible. I learned a looong time ago that I don't need to have a great looking car because even the ugly ones get me from point A to point B with much less cost associated. I cannot respond to your inquiry about throwing away money as the thought never crossed my mind. Perhaps a bonfire - at least it will give you some temporary warmth. When I have money that is not budgeted to monthly living, I always put it in my 401(k) so that I may live a comfortable lifestyle and be able to travel when I retire. I know that 30+ years of retirement is going to take a good sized chunk of money!

parula

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Spitting on someone is abuse! Posted: 11/16/2007 4:42:39 PM
mr. dynomite - you crack me up! There are times that I'm skimming through a thread until I see your post - put on the brakes and I have to read your comedy! Thank you! OT - Abuse is abuse. It's a matter of a person's boundaries... either you have them or you don't. Personally, name calling is a deal breaker for me. Spitting? Notta chance!!

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When to exchange phone numbers Posted: 11/16/2007 3:44:41 PM
ladyinwaiting51 - I have been perceived as being desperate as well because I don't like to try to learn a person via the internet. I've learned that it can cause unrealistic view/ideas of another person. I prefer to meet in person as soon as possible as this is a dating sight. I decided to preface my emails with basically what I just said and have never had an issue since doing so. So, to answer the OP's question - within a week I'd like like to talk on the phone and if that goes well, meet in person.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Do You Feel Owed an Inheritance? Posted: 11/14/2007 6:55:33 PM
Owed? That's different for most all situations. Being from an extremely abusive childhood - there was a part of me that had hoped that I'd get a bit of money when my dad died (my Mother died when I was an infant). My dad had a home business that I worked for since I was old enough to speak properly (~age 4). I progressed in the business as I aged until I was doing the invoicing by the time that I was ~10, taking on more responsibility progressively thereafter. I didn't know until years after his death that he was a multi-millionaire. I didn't get a dime. The good news is, I understand that it is what it is, I never expected it and I will never get free money for the rest of my life. No one owes me anything financial and I'm not just good with that.. I'm happy with that!

parula

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 11/10/2007 6:51:43 AM
islgurl - I appreciate the way you describe the victim in these cases. Your analogy to being a rape victim is right on! Over the years after getting the N out of my life, I worked diligently on getting my life back together, being brutally honest with myself and growing into the person that was hiding during my time with the N. I found a stability that I had never experienced and began enjoying life on a new level - quite a variation from where I was! I have met a wonderful man and it was only then that I realized that I wasn't as emotionally stable as I had thought. With his patience and kindness, I was able to work though those issues also. I now experience a 'wholeness' about myself that is a welcomed and cherished feeling. The months that followed after the N's departure was the worst time of my life. After I was able to forgive myself for being a participant in the abuse, I was then able to grow stronger than ever. For those of you that are still walking on the egg shells, there is hope - better than you can imagine!!

parula

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credit problems Posted: 11/4/2007 5:18:51 AM
Just because you may have bad credit doesn't mean you are a thief That is exactly what it means. You bought something, put it on credit and never paid for it. I disagree. I had very good credit when I went into my marriage - he did not. I had to have my name on the house so we could get a better interest rate. During the divorce, he was court ordered to pay the mortgage and utilities that were all in my name. He did not comply. The house had gone into foreclosure and most of the utilities had been disconnected. To keep the house in a condition to have it even viewed to be sold, I put many of these bills onto my charge card. Now the charge card company is charging me over 34% in interest because of my newly acquired bad credit rating. Everyone around me is telling me to file bankruptcy as the bills are higher than my housing cost. I won't do that because I don't feel that bankruptcy is the answer to financial stress. I recently changed jobs and I am currently in charge of running the entire financial aspect of the business - in 7 digit figures. Had the president required a credit check from me, he would not have hired the loyal and dedicated employee that he did. He has thanked me for being so trustworthy and having him at ease. If I were a thief as per my below par credit rating, I would be typing this from the Sheraton Huts, not from Indiana.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Investing all...before knowing what you're investing in Posted: 10/16/2007 1:05:18 PM
Like the OP, it took investing too much in a past relationship before learning this valuable lesson. I've since learned that one should never invest more than they are willing to lose - be it in an emotional or financial relationship.

parula

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Is there a quality you've always wished for in a partner but never gotten? Posted: 10/16/2007 7:13:08 AM
I'd like to find a person that enjoyed the water as much as I do - rent a houseboat a couple of times a year - buy a john boat and go fishing a few times a month - surprise me with a quick outing after work on a beautiful evening. ~heavy sigh~ Now I'm feeling melancholy.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When do you stop feeling sexy? Posted: 10/9/2007 1:25:58 PM
I tend to stop feeling sexy after a large bowl and pasta and garlic toast - then I begin feeling like a beached whale. Otherwise, I have never felt sexier in all of my life!

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Whats the silliest thing you fought over when you split? Posted: 9/13/2007 5:34:56 AM
We didn't fight over it by any means - he asked the courts if I would give him his shaving cream - Huh?!? I looked at him and then the judge with quite a befuddled look and said no. I figured he could afford the $1.69 to get a new one. Like mother tucker - he didn't want much of anything. I had a huge garage sale to help cover the expenses that he was court ordered to pay but didn't (I did without many utilities for several weeks and the house was in foreclosure). Little did I know that at the time he'd bought a $350k house and was busy paying for his newly acquired family. Parasites are so predictable! It was a great learning experience!

parula

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Unfinished Business! Posted: 7/17/2007 5:28:49 PM
I appreciate that you're giving more information - I prefer a person that makes a commitment and sticks with it. Sure, there are the few exceptions. What I'm hearing you say is that you don't have boundaries and are willing to except what he's dishing out. You keep letting him come back.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Unfinished Business! Posted: 7/17/2007 5:09:40 PM
I know the feeling - it has nothing to do with the other person - the unfinished business was within me. It can be a tough lesson yet one that I grew severely from. Wouldn't pass up that chance to grow to that extent! Good luck!

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Women in control Posted: 7/17/2007 2:28:36 PM
simply asking what a variety of people think of them and their way of life Asking what people think of a husband of an unfaithful wife? I think that he'd have to evaluate his relationship and boundaries and determine what his next action would be.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Women in control Posted: 7/16/2007 5:30:43 PM
Perhaps there is a language barrier here. The American Dictionary reads: cuck·old –noun 1. the husband of an unfaithful wife. –verb (used with object) 2. to make a cuckold of (a husband). Unfortunately, #2 does not elaborate. whosalady - care to expand upon what you're asking? trancer32 - you so get D/s! Not many do...

parula

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How long before you should meet? Posted: 7/16/2007 3:39:23 PM
I agree with tinydancer - I cannot get a feel for a person via email. A phone call and if I'm still interested, meet ASAP when time allows.

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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why does it have to be more? Posted: 7/13/2007 6:16:40 PM
I was going to break down my theory on the subject from experience and talking with others, yet, per your own words, you'd prefer to stick with your original thoughts/feelings. Once you chose to start chastising people, I lost all desire to share. I hope you find what you need and not want you want...

parula

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if you had no kids would you date a grandma/grandpa Posted: 7/7/2007 7:08:11 PM
For me, I think that it would be the perfect situation. Having no children of my own, to be able to enjoy the moments that a child (grandchild) can present and then send them back to their parents' is an ideal set of circumstances!

parula

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How important is having similar amounts of room left for growth? Posted: 7/5/2007 2:56:38 AM
I agree with Funny Girl - I can't imagine not growing on a continuous basis. I've grown more in the last decade than my 20's had to offer. It would be difficult for me to be in a relationship with someone that is not willing to constantly challenge their beliefs. Also, does "you can't chagne somoene" mean the same thing as "people don't change?" I feel that lessons are 'handed out' when a person is in a position to learn/grow from them. If one does not learn, the same lesson is given over and over until said person 'gets it'. I also feel that no one will change anyone that is not ready, or in a position (emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc.) to do so. People can and do change, when they deem the timing correct.

parula

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Hard to be real online? Posted: 7/1/2007 6:06:09 PM
I realize this is not a chat site....Maybe I'm just a little old-fashioned but I prefer to know something about someone (aside from their screen name and that they are "fine") before I actually date them.... I agree with you - - that's why I prefer to talk on the phone once maybe twice, then meet and take it from there. Someone that I know on here has his sister write all of his emails - - that taught me to never assume!

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Hard to be real online? Posted: 7/1/2007 5:58:42 PM
Because this is a dating site - I prefer to meet people and then potentially date someone. This is not a chat site and I do not use it as such, yet I seem to be a minority with this way of thinking. Frustration comes from having higher expectations than the outcome. I expect nothing, therefore if some one were to come along that I am attracted to, I would be happy about it and not frustrated when they do not. It's been working for me because I highly doubt I'll ever meet anyone that I am compatible with. I'm good with that because I like me and living with me has been working well for years!

parula

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Blending Life Styles Posted: 6/11/2007 4:29:15 PM
When people start out they should flip a coin to see which one has to become exactly like the other. Ewww - I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with me - I want some one that has different points of views, different likes and dislikes. OP, it would be difficult for me to be in a 24/7 relationship with some one that did not take care of them self - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. That tends to tell me that they don't respect their self so I probably would not be dating them in the first place. As others have stated, it's a matter of balance. I feel that activities are of personal preference. I like 'my time' and many times I prefer to do my chosen activities by myself or with the group that I've been doing them with. If he has 'his' activities, that's even better because that gives me time to do what I choose to do. I was in a relationship with someone that watched sports on TV consistently. I never thought much of it - I'd work in the garden - sit on the porch - make my phone calls - - I never felt neglected because he was doing what he wanted to do and I was doing what I wanted to do. The relationship was the bond, not the activities.

parula

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what info would send you running on a first date. Posted: 6/2/2007 5:52:32 PM
^^^^Whatever. Merely trying to help you understand the difference. Sorry if you took offense to my assistance. The good news is, now you understand the difference!

parula

Joined: 12/9/2006

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what info would send you running on a first date. Posted: 6/2/2007 5:46:07 PM
For me i think if someone were to tell me "i have been to jail" A dear friend of mine was helping someone move and drove their pick-up truck, loaded with furniture - got pulled over for a break light being out - only to find out that it was considered a stolen vehicle several months prior. He went to jail. The person that reported it stolen, neglected to re-contact the police to let them know that her son 'borrowed' the truck without permission. Please, maryrachelle, do not assume. What could someone tell you on a first date that would send you running for the hills?? I'm still thinking about Geneseo's basement comment - where does one put all of the bodies? maryrachelle - per your last post, you're referring to prison, not jail.

parula

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Rock shrimp Posted: 6/1/2007 6:25:09 PM
Aw... ok, so that's the difference that rock shrimp have. I'm supposed to go to a place called Dixie Crossroads in Titusville next weekend and saw that on their online menu. I may have to check them out! They do seem to be quite regional to your area.

parula

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How is the rose working for us old farts? Posted: 6/1/2007 12:29:13 PM
I'm with CDN Guy on this one - like him, I tend to be literal and the 'be mine' gives me the wiggie jiggies. I've never sent one nor received one - which is fine with me... I do wish it didn't have the 'be mine' attached - I'd be more likely send them out to people.

parula

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Calling ALL Servers/Bartenders VENT here Posted: 5/31/2007 5:32:51 PM
I worked as a server for years because I actually enjoyed it. The one story that keeps coming back to me is the woman that was yelling and cussing at me that wanted for me to take her steak off of her bill because all of the other times that she's ordered it, it was never that thick. Huh? In my area, servers make $2.13 / hr. Our paychecks are zero or less (will owe during tax time). No health insurance and terrible hours. Servers here have to claim 8% of their sales as tips, if they make them or not, so one can literally lose money on a table (or an entire shift) by being a server. I forgot someone's extra mayo once and he left without paying - I was responsible for his bill. Sold $465 that shift and walked out with $27. I understand that there are some pretty poor servers out there - that's when I talk with the manager. If I'm not part of the solution, I'm part of the problem.

parula

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Inquiring about budget shopping Posted: 5/28/2007 7:39:43 AM
I am a queen of casseroles - I cook for myself only so a casserole is great because it's easy to rewarm and I will live off of it for the week. Just google what you're looking for - 'chicken rice casserole recipe' for an example. I agree with the above poster - dark chicken meat is usually less expensive as is getting a whole chicken. At some sights, you can enter what ingredients that you have and they will give you different options for recipes.

parula

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Using a dinner coupon on your 1st date Posted: 5/28/2007 5:10:50 AM
Personally, I prefer the option of one person picking 3 places to go (have dinner) and the other person picking one of the given options. With that being stated, had he said, "I like the restaurant at 5th and Elm, the one at 8th and Main and I have a coupon for the one at Center and 4th - which would you prefer", that would given her the choice. If she's a frugal person like myself, she probably would have opted for the latter. If she viewed the coupon as being cheap (different than being frugal) she had two other choices to work with. (Sheesh, I'm such a win/win person that I make myself sick sometimes )

parula

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I need to ask a question. Posted: 5/28/2007 4:29:58 AM
robin4wheels - I so appreciate your attitude! Thanks! Track/sweat pants - I have several pair and wearing some now - at home, by myself. I even state in my profile that I don't wear them in public so it's safe to say that I don't consider them appropriate public attire any more than pajamas in public. On a date?!?! Oh my! 'What Not to Wear' would have a field day with that!

parula

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what did you do following a break up? Posted: 5/27/2007 6:03:28 PM
I've been quite amused reading some of these stories. My ex hated the fact I was breathing.... so I decided to keep doing it to spite her. I showed her! That's priceless, Rick! After he was finally out of the door, I started going through some of the items in the basement, I discovered soooo many of his secrets. Things that he said that he'd borrowed, had receipts and things that I had no idea were down there - it was amazing!! So, I decided I would have a garage sale and sold everything that was a lie - $2175.00 worth of lies (garage sale price). ChaChing! I didn't sell the women's naked portraits that he'd photographed (another lie that, although they probably would have given me some nice coin) - I used them to start fires during the evening - it made the atmosphere that much more cozy.

parula

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Convenience - what does it really mean ? Posted: 5/26/2007 7:38:55 PM
I am so passionate about this subject that I will not attempt to state my feelings via typing. I very much understand what you are saying.

parula

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Should I??? Posted: 5/26/2007 6:44:32 PM
First off - do not make your decision based upon emotions! Yes... it's an inviting financial situation - as a Mother, your children's interest come first. How would his life style impact them? What do you want or not want? I feel that this decision will take you quite a bit of time to sort through. If you can reflect yourself in 20 years, looking back and knowing you made a wise choice, you did good. If you reflect and you feel yucky, do not do it! If you are leaning towards doing it, I suggest that you do some searches online and find a basic contract - tweak it to your needs and be specific. So specific that it states items like - 'No drugs in the house', 'no women while the children are home (not just asleep)', 'no sexual expectation from me as payment', 'he pays for rent, utilities, groceries with no expectations what so ever', etc. This may take a couple of weeks (possibly longer) for you to decide what you will and will not tolerate in the interest of your priorities (your children). It's a matter of balance and boundaries. I heard someone say the other day that .... it's not what you tell your children that forms their life, it's how you treat yourself with confidence and boundaries - this is how they form their own lives - via how you've taught them. I wish you the very best on your choice!! Also - I strongly suggest that if you decide it is the wisest choice, that you put back 95% of the funds that you saved by being there. It's a win/win - you won't have the stress of the working hours and you'll have a nice nest egg to have as a buffer for your family's future!

parula

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Added as favorite Posted: 5/26/2007 6:04:58 PM
I'd suggest that you place your post at http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingForum4.aspx titled Plentyoffish Site/Suggestions/Help. They may monitor those threads and be able to reply to or fix the problem. You can also block anyone from sending you emails by clicking on 'block this person'. Good luck!

parula

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Strange combinations Posted: 5/26/2007 4:17:35 PM
Hm - I thought that salt on any melon was normal. ~shrugs~ I only use salt on my melons and potatoes. Not much of fan of it. I like goat's cheese on pizza. Raisins in my garden salad. Real maple syrup on my sausage patty. I like the idea of ranch dressing in scrambled eggs - I'll try that tomorrow!

parula

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Azureus Posted: 5/26/2007 3:34:30 PM
I'm wanting to avoid using some of the P2P programs that have spyware and the such. I'd email you but I'm too old (again) and the wrong gender.

parula

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Blocking people I viewed Posted: 5/26/2007 3:17:02 PM
sweetgem_in_i - I understand what you're saying. I'll check out someone's profile in a forum that I didn't post in and when I check who's viewed me, there he is! He can live 4,000 miles away - it matters not. I agree - I don't think it's even close to fool-proof as this happens often.

parula

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Azureus Posted: 5/26/2007 3:10:01 PM
After doing research, I recently acquired Azureus. I went to their help page and, well, it wasn't very helpful. I was hoping that some one here could assist me. What I'm needing is - seemingly - quite simple. I'm wanting to get music by a specific artist or song title. How do I do this?? When I go up to the upper left side and type in the name, I get games, movies and things that I'm not sure what they are - but nothing to do with that artist or song. I'm sure I'm going to feel like a fool when someone points out my errors - but this has been driving me bonkers for hours!

parula

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Can we become too spoiled from being single too long? Posted: 5/26/2007 11:06:10 AM
Drinking out of the milk carton (why dirty a glass?) - eating out of the cottage cheese container (dirty a plate?) - getting a phone call while watching a movie and putting it on pause for an hour - running errands and deciding I want to go to XYZ also - perhaps not returning until tomorrow - knowing my clothes will still fit me after being washed - never having to question the balance of my checking account - having the stereo jamming to my kind of music, whenever I want - knowing exactly how much gas is in my vehicles - changing the heating element on my clothes dryer without being micro-managed - knowing my reminder notes will be where I left and need them to be... Yeah, I am spoiled by being single - life is much more simplified.

parula

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Creamy Curry Chicken Posted: 5/26/2007 10:16:40 AM
I love curry and this sounds like a very easy meal - can't wait to try it! Thanks for the post!

parula

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Have you been recycled? Posted: 5/26/2007 9:32:33 AM
What I've done when this happens is that if I like the guy and would want to get to know him better, I ask him, "what has changed with you that you now want to begin seeing me again?" If they can't give me a decisive answer, then I don't waste my time. Usually I hear that I'm a nice person and they were busy 'back then' or something similar. That doesn't fly for me. If they say something like they were in a weird place in their life and has since settled down (emotionally/mentally) and are now interested in pursuing a relationship - I would give it serious consideration. This is what I've found that works for me - Good luck!!

parula

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Can you be too picky? Posted: 5/25/2007 7:40:52 AM
I don't believe you can be too picky, but just have to be careful not to put emphasis on trivial things, and miss what's most important. I agree - it's a fine line as well. I know that I have overlooked details in my life that I may see in someone else that I could easily dismiss them for it. For an example - back (way back) in my early 20's - I was meeting a potential new roommate. I was about 10 minutes late. She decided that I was not dependable and wished me luck. I can count on one hand how many times that I've been late for anything during my lifetime. I understand her reasoning for her decision - yet I feel that I deserved a second chance. I have wondered if I've done the same with potential relationships.

parula

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After 3 dates... Posted: 5/23/2007 6:45:22 PM
I've never heard about the weekend thing. Sheesh - these games just don't apply to me. If I like the guy and want to learn more about him, I'm available if my schedule allows it. As far as the name goes - to this day, I cannot get any one to call me by my first name - even family. I asked my X on several occasions to call me by my name - a big nopers! If you like her - see her more - learn what you can and want to learn - if things change - they change. No pressures here.

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