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azalea path

Joined: 12/9/2006

Msg: 98 (view)

Women: Put a little effort into it? Posted: 5/14/2009 11:07:53 PM
Why Not Just ASK???????? Jiminy Christmas, why don't you just ASK the woman you're with what she would really like in bed? Why not just ask her what really gets her motor revved and then do it? It doesn't make you any less "good in the sack" it actually makes you better. Women are not all the same. Spank one woman, and she'll go nuts. Spank me and you might as well throw ice water on me. Communication is the key; you are NAKED with this person, you can't talk with them? I can promise you that if you and your partner communicate with eachother about your likes and dislikes in bed, you will both have a better time, and you will definitely get more of an effort in your parter if they know they're doing what you want and they are also satisfied.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated Posted: 5/22/2007 9:50:09 PM
Oh heck no. I once went out with a guy from here who was actually still living with his soon to be ex wife and her boyfriend. The ex wife was pregnant by her boyfriend. You want to talk about some baggage. I think dating someone who is separated is still cheating. Sign the papers, get some distance between you and your ex, and then we can talk. Before that? No chance.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/22/2007 9:46:55 PM
You know what else I just noticed about my matches? Almost all of them listed themselves as being "two or more races". I'm also bi-racial, but that's about the only thing that I had in common with my so called soulmates. Is that one of the matching criteria or was this just a weird coincidence? Has anyone else noticed anything like this on their matches? I still think the whole thing is a crock.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 7:55:32 PM
This ":compatibility match" is a JOKE. First of all, my results are NOTHING like me. "High self confidence"? Hello, my old name was noselfesteem! And my matches were just jokes. Guys that were totally unattractive physically to me, guys that were too far away, guys that had one line profiles, guys that were STILL MARRIED and didn't want to get remarried even though I said that marriage was extremely important to me. Yeeeeeesh. I haven't checked all of them yet, but if what I've seen so far is any indication, I think I'll pass. I will just stick with my cutie pie in California.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Sex & The Number Question Posted: 5/12/2007 11:42:26 PM
The "number" is relative. I've had guys call me a whore that no one would want after I had slept with one guy. I've had guys sigh with relief after I tell them my current number (under ten). It all depends on the perspective of the person. Keep in mind, that just because a person may have been with a high number of partners in the past doesn't mean that they are still "promiscuous". PEOPLE CHANGE, and sometimes for the better. Some women are naiive and believed all those guys who said "I love you" and "I'm not like other guys", only to have their hearts broken once they gave it up. It doesn't mean that they were sluts, just that they were looking for love an affection in the wrong places. I don't even ask anymore. I don't think you should ask if you're at all afraid of the answer.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

Msg: 66 (view)

Ever seen a mail order husband? Posted: 5/12/2007 11:37:56 PM
Hey, I've thought about a mail order husband. Pickings around here are MIGHTY slim. I have also considered prison pen pals and driving to the border to see who needs a green card badly enough. Yeah, I'm that desperate. NO, any woman can not get a man. If that was true, I would have been married a looooong time ago, and yet, still single. Still haven't been in a relationship or had sex in two years. There just aren't any guys here who are willing to go out with me, or to whom I am attracted. There is however, at least one superfly honey of a man in Chico, California. He's definitely got me California dreaming....

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Your Worst Kissing Experience Posted: 4/28/2007 7:43:27 PM
THE TONGUE RAPISTS!!!!!! Why, why, WHY do men think that it is EVER a good idea to, on a first kiss, immediately shove their tongues down a woman's throat and perform what appears to be a tonsil scraping??? My One True Love (ha!) did this on our first kiss. I'm shocked I actually stayed with him after that. The worst time, however, just HAS to be the guy I met recently at a strip club (hey, my friend wanted to go). This guy sat across from me all night, not looking at me, not talking to me, then five minutes before close, he starts talking to me and I realize he is totally wasted. He introduces himself, and I'm slowly backing away, just trying to be polite. So he says, "Come here a second. I want to tell you something." I lean in a little, he grabs my face, plants one on me with his mouth just as wide open as possible, his tongue wriggling in my mouth like a fish out of water. Did I mention he also had beer breath? Definitely the worst kissing experience EVER.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Are you worried about posting Posted: 4/28/2007 7:35:58 PM
I think I've had someone stop dating me because of something I posted in the forums. I can't be sure that was it because he blocked me and wouldn't talk to me or tell me what was going on. Oh well. His loss, not mine. If people don't like what you say, they're not right for you. I don't worry about it anymore. I like the forums. You can be totally honest in them and get some pretty good advice. In fact, the forums are the only reason I'm here anymore. I haven't had too much success in the dating department.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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lond distance relatiionships....do they work? Posted: 4/23/2007 9:41:08 PM
NO. The answer to that is a definite NO. Long distance relationships NEVER work.. Not unless someone is willing to move. Out of sight, out of mind. Not to mention that there are always people where the other person lives. People that are there, in the flesh, day after day for real dates, face to face conversations, and yes, real sex. Unless the two of you are able to get together long term soon, I would say forget about it. Trust me, I speak from experience..

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Do women like the taste of a mans semen? Posted: 4/13/2007 11:37:12 PM
Gag, NO! I almost puked the first time I swallowed. But I kept on, steeled myself and did it, and always have. The things we do for love. Or lust. Don't complain about my taste, and I won't complain about yours. Why guys are so freakish about tasting their own is beyond me. If it's good enough for us, why isn't it good enough for you? I've tasted myself, just to see what it was like. Not bad, by the way, lol.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Dating Male Virgins Posted: 3/13/2007 11:39:25 PM
Hmmm. Well, I've personally deflowered three male virgins. (one of whom I think was lying, so maybe just two.) The first one was the one I lost my virginity to. Our first time should have been filmed and sent to America's Funniest Home Videos In my experience, a lot of guys who are "older" virgins are just looking for a "practice girl" to take their virginity and give them some experience. Just my experiences, though, I can't say that about all guys.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Giving it up 20 mins after u meet, and it was my first time??? Posted: 2/12/2007 12:37:53 AM
^^^^ I have to tell you, Mad Girl's Love Song is my all time favorite Sylvia Plath poem. I'm sure you can tell by my name that I am a huge fan. I would have sent you a message, but I'm out of your area. Very cool nic. OP: Geez...20 minutes??? I waited three hours before giving it up to a guy I met online! Seriously, I know where you're coming from. I'm afraid you're going to have to write that guy off and chalk it up to experience. Better luck next time, and next time, WAIT!!!!!!

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Would you date someone who is disabled? Posted: 2/12/2007 12:23:48 AM
The difference between you and the person I'm speaking of is that YOU are comfortable with your disability. You don't make people feel guilty or shut people out or drown in neurosis. That is what I am talking about. I would have to tread with extreme caution if I was to date someone with a disability again. If it's no problem for you, it's no problem for me. If it's a problem for you, I wouldn't want to get involved. In the particular case that I'm thinking of, he was physically disabled yes, but he is emotionally crippled by that fact, and THAT was the problem.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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}\|{ Anna Nicole Smith }\|{ Posted: 2/11/2007 10:46:25 PM
Dannielynn...that's all I can think about. That poor little baby girl. I always loved Anna Nicole. I remember when she first came out in the early nineties. It was so refreshing to see this gorgeous woman who was NOT a size zero. If there is any good to come out of her death, it is that she is reunited with her beloved son Daniel. I know that Dannielynn has her momma and big brother watching over her now. I only hope that she is raised by people who truly love her and don't see her as a meal ticket.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Would you date someone who is disabled? Posted: 2/11/2007 10:04:16 PM
Allow me to change my previous statement. Not just no, but HELL no, I wouldn't date someone who is disabled. Not again. At least not someone who wasn't comfortable with their disability. Otherwise it's just a setup for frustration and disappointment. YOU can be as loving and accepting as you can be, but if they can't accept themselves, it's pounding your head against the wall. Bitter? You bet I am.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Something i just found out that you may not know Posted: 2/11/2007 9:09:18 PM
WHY? Why on earth would a woman conceive of raping a man? I'm truly lost on this one. Maybe if you're talking about using emotional pressure, but physically, I can't see it happening. I'd love to do some research on these "statistics". Yeah, I know. Messages this short may not be posted. blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Have you, yourself ever dated someone that you met online ? Posted: 2/10/2007 9:17:47 PM
I've dated quite few guys I've met online. Some only lasted one date, some ended up in relationships that lasted for several months. It's just another way to meet people, like the grocery store,or a bar, or church, or whatever. You can meet crazies here or in real life. You can meet the love of your life here or in real life. I use it a lot because I'm really shy in person, and this is a lot easier for me.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Attracted to same body type as your own???? Posted: 2/10/2007 9:10:23 PM
I'm a bbw, and I do prefer men my size. I just feel weird with smaller guys, although I have dated them in the past. I'm also fairly tall for a woman, so I want a taller man, too. I would definitely perfer to be with someone at least an inch taller than I am. Of course, if I found the right man, his height or weight would hardly matter. Nice looking outside doesn't mean nice on the inside.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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flip flops Posted: 2/10/2007 9:03:57 PM
What the heck...I love flip flops and have lots of them. They look good with just about everything. I live in a warm weather climate, so they can be worn just about year round. They're cheap, fashionable, and comfortable, so what's the problem? Aren't there worse things a person can do than wear flip flops? Of all the silly things to complain about...

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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what's going on with coffee dates? Posted: 2/10/2007 8:57:01 PM
I think he probably thought you were making an excuse when you said you have to leave. His loss, I guess. The other possibility is that yes, he was hoping for something "extra" after coffee. Personally, I like the coffee date. It's a good way to meet someone without committing too much. Don't let one guy discourage you.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When he doesn't make a move Posted: 2/7/2007 12:23:16 AM
^^^I MADE the first move! I have been making moves on him, and they are summarily rejected. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm thinking he's just got me squarely in the friend zone, and there is no way out. He just isn't attracted to me, I guess. I really can't think of any other explanation. He's got to know by now that I'm not put off by his physical limitations. We had that talk, and he seemed to understand. Just not sure what else I could possibly do.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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~Sexual fulfillment without intercourse~ Posted: 2/7/2007 12:13:44 AM
Thank goodness for this thread. I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one who realizes that you can be intimate and satisfy eachother even without intercourse. I'm dealing with a situation now with a man who can't have intercourse, but won't do anything else physically, and I mean NOTHING. Azalea Path is one seriously frustrated lady right now.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When he doesn't make a move Posted: 2/6/2007 11:39:39 PM
Well, I finally got back in touch with him. He just dropped me off, actually. So things are okay as far as getting along. We had coffee, talked for a few hours, and that was about it. I'm getting really frustrated here. He won't even kiss me now unless I initiate it. How long do you think I should give him? I really like this guy, but I think it's getting apparent that he's not that into me, at least not physically. This is pretty different for me, and it's quite frankly, getting old. Fast.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When he doesn't make a move Posted: 2/5/2007 12:37:28 AM
Well, a little more time is going to be difficult since now he won't even talk to me! He's not a virgin, so I know that's not it. I guess that part that is really confusing to me is the vanishing act. Things were going really, really well with him until then. PS. Thank you for the compliment. After a rejection like that, I really need it!

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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does sex come too easy these days? Posted: 2/5/2007 12:28:46 AM
Does sex come too easy??? Not for me, I've been celibate for TWO YEARS NOW! It does seem to come easy to teenagers, though. In my high school, I counted forty, yes, forty girls who were pregnant or who I knew had babies, and those were just the ones I knew about. I've actually been to more baby showers in high school than I have as an adult. I knew one girl in MIDDLE SCHOOL who had two children. I knew a couple of girls that had three kids before they got out of high school.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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BACK SEATERS Posted: 2/5/2007 12:23:19 AM
I voted not to delete! Personally, I love sex in the back seat. I felt like a teenager. There was also the thrill that comes from the risk of getting caught. We didn't realize it, but we were practically in someone's backyard. Of course, it's been TWO YEARS since I've had sex, so at this point, I'd take it in the back seat, front seat, on the hood, ANYWHERE! Funny story: While we were driving around on dark country roads looking for a place to park and "do it", I came within about a foot of hitting a big black cow that came out of nowhere! Yikes!

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When he doesn't make a move Posted: 2/5/2007 12:06:03 AM
So it's the third date. We've been talking for a few weeks online. Everything is going great. Every date has latsted at least eight hours, just talking and enjoying eachother's company. Things are fabulous! So again, it's the third date. I tell him I would love to go back to his house to fool around. He says great! We go to his place. We're lying in his bed, talking. And talking. And more talking. It gets to be three am, so we decide to go to bed. Fully clothed. NOTHING happened. It's not like I didn't let him know I wanted something. Why wouldn't he make a move or repsond to MY moves? Everything had been going great up until that point. Granted sexual intercourse was not an option, because he can't due to an injury. I had no problem with this. There are other ways to be intimate without intercourse, right? The worst part is that now, he won't even talk to me. I have spoken to him once since then for a few minutes, but that's it. I call, he doesn't answer, he doesn't return my calls. I send IM's, I get no response. Did I just do something wrong by coming on too soon? I'm driving myself nuts here trying to figure this out. Thanks for the advice.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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going back to a ex Posted: 2/2/2007 10:21:32 PM
Personally, I would never go back to any of my exes, with maybe one exception. I think it depends on why you broke up and have you changed during the breakup? My parents split up when I was very little, but reconcilled and remarried several years later. It lasted until my father's death. I have a friend whose parents went through the exact same thing. They split up, reconcilled years later, and stayed together until my friend's mom's death. Same with my grandfather and stepgrandmother. They divorced, then remarried, and stayed together until my grandfather's death. Never say never.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Would You Help An Ex In Need? Posted: 2/1/2007 11:52:09 PM
Would I help an ex in need? After the way my exes have all treated me, I wouldn't so much as spit on any one of them if they were on fire. Kudos to those who would help an ex. Either you have better exes than I do or you're better people or both. On second thought, maybe I would help one of my exes. I'd help any one of them under a passing train.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Have you had a man from POF make a date and cancel prior Posted: 2/1/2007 11:18:51 PM
I got stood up by the same guy twice in a week. First time, he is a no call, no show. Second time, (yes, I foolishly gave him a second chance) he doesn't even call to confirm. Also a no show. Then he has the nerve to call AGAIN to ask if I still wanted to go out and would I give him another chance? Sure thing, pal, meet me at the corner of Noway and Nohow at Never O'Clock. Jerk.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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going alone to movies/dinner/bars Posted: 2/1/2007 9:39:35 PM
I do just about everything alone. Since I have always been alone and will always be alone, it's something I've had to do simply to get out of the house. That's just the way things go. shrugs I'm pretty sure no one ever wonders why I'm alone. When you're as fat and hideously disgusting as I am, it's pretty obvious.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Would you date someone who is disabled? Posted: 1/28/2007 11:38:22 PM
Would I date someone who is disabled? Would, have, and currently am. The first time I did it was with my ex fiance who had Muscular Dystrophy. That relationship ended not because of his disability, but because he was a liar and a cheater and oh yeah, gay. Currently, I have been seeing someone who is disabled, and all seems to be going well. . With one tiny little exception... *If anyone here is disabled or has dated someone with a physical disability, could you give me a bit of advice on something? It's not something I'd like to post in the forums.* I really hope it's not against the rules, I just don't want to bring it up in public.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Fear of meeting in person? Posted: 1/26/2007 10:24:40 PM
This happened to me. I really didn't want to meet this guy, just because I was afraid to be rejected by him. I'm sure that's why most people avoid meeting. They are insecure and are afraid of being rejected by this person that they really like. I suppose it could also be that meeting in real life moves someone outside of their comfort zone. They only want to talk online, but have no real interest in meeting in person. PS. The guy I didn't want to meet? I finally met him. We spent eight hours together on our first date. Ditto the second. Very much looking forward to number three tomorrow night.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Brazillian (shaved) Posted: 1/23/2007 11:57:05 PM
Yikes! The crazy things we women will do for beauty! This thread has made me glad, for the first time, for my radiation. A wonderful side effect of radiation is that it zapped the majority of my pubes permanently at only 1500 dollars a day. OT: This reminds me, I want to start a thread about cosmetic gynecology...

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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If you've had cancer or an illness at what point in a relationship do you tell Posted: 1/23/2007 9:27:19 PM
Right away! It's a trust and honesty thing! ^^^^^ I'm afraid I don't understand that one. It's not like the person is lying about being married or an ex felon or something. I'm a cancer survivor of two and a half years myself. I tell right away just because my treatment involved a hysterectomy. I really haven't ever had anyone react negatively to the fact that I have had cancer. The hysterectomy thing, though, has gotten some pretty nasty, insensitive remarks. When you tell is up to you, when YOU feel comfortable. Are you in remission? Is your treatment ongoing? What is your prognosis? It is a good way to weed people out, though. Anyone who would freak out over something like that is not worth your time.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Weird but true Posted: 1/13/2007 12:10:43 AM
Gather 'round kiddies...it's time for the Parable of the Black Skirt. So I was looking for a black skirt. Just a plain black knee length skirt. I find them with ruffles, bows, sequins, pleats, too big, too small, everything but what I want. I finally gave up. Shortly after, I was in Bealls, a store I don't particularly like, with my mom. She picks up a skirt from the clearance rack. It's perfect. A-line, knee length, black, no frills. It's the only one they have and it's in my size! It's also half off! The lesson here is, sometimes, yes, you can find something when you're not looking for it. In my experience, though, this only applies to black skirts. When it comes to men, I don't find them whether I'm looking or not. And sex? Refresh my memory, is that some sort of Chinese food or a band or something? I have only the vaguest recollections...sigh.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Please review Posted: 1/12/2007 11:56:18 PM
I need some help here. I've gotten a grand total of one response since I've changed my profile. What the heck am I doing wrong? I have information about myself, and some about what I'm looking for. Too exclusive? Is it just me personally that guys aren't interested in? All suggestions welcome. Thank you for your help.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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How can a guy hit on a woman who is obviously taken? Posted: 1/12/2007 9:38:24 PM
I always thought it was because she was in a relationship. If he can get her to cheat, he gets free sex with no possible strings. Of course, he might also get an angry husband looking for him with a shotgun, but guys who are willing to sleep with married/taken women are only thinking with the little head. It might be a little different for women. I think women who do it are either doing it to hurt the wife if she knows her, or just for an ego/power trip. If she steals another woman's man she is obviously the shizzle. Sick either way.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Guys/Girls What are your experiences with impotence and drugs like Cialis/Viagra Posted: 1/11/2007 11:18:49 PM
If the drugs don't work, or insurance won't cover them, there are alternatives. Muse and Caverject. The only downside is that Muse is a urethral suppository, and Caverject is an injection that is self-administered directly into the penis. They may be alternatives for men who can not take ED pills or have had no success with them. Vacuum pumps can also be an alternative, but are not as effective.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Best Way ..... Posted: 1/11/2007 10:40:08 PM
I can relate to this. I lost my best friend two and a half years ago for something that was TOTALLY my fault. Before you say that this was the worst falling out ever, trust me, mine was worse. Think of the worst thing you can do to a friend. I ended up having to go through my cancer and treatment by myself because of this. About a year after our falling out, she called me. Three days before Christmas, and it was the absolute best Christmas gift I've ever gotten. A TRUE friendship can survive anything, absolutely anything. If you were wrong, ADMIT IT and apologize. If she was wrong, try to look at it from her perspective. SO's come and go, even friends come and go, but true friendships are as rare as fine rubies, and far more priceless. If she is a true friend, this will resolve itself. Just give her some time and space. Once you two have made up, don't revisit the issue, just put it in the past where it belongs. My best friend forgave me and I am going to visit her in two weeks for my goddaughter's birthday! Reconcilliation and forgiveness are possible if you two are willing to work it out. If not, she wasn't much of a friend to begin with.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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men with ponytails ... ?? whats the opinion ? Posted: 1/10/2007 10:57:25 PM
Get a haircut, hippy! Seriously, though. I just can't stand long hair on a guy. The guys around here, at least who have long hair are either greasy and gross or queer as four dollar bills. I just don't like the whole idea of long hair on guys. I'm the type who likes a "manly man" and everything that goes along with it.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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What do you wish men understood about women? Posted: 1/10/2007 10:28:28 PM
^^^^^^I have to disagree here. When I need to be alone because of an emotional reason, it really means, I WANT TO BE ALONE. I need cooling off time, or crying time, or just plain time to think and sort things out. Any man who tries to follow me during this time is probably going to be missing some key body parts. I wish men would understand that just because a woman may be more emotional they they are, that doesn't mean she isnt in control of her emotions. Just because I'm crying now doesn't mean I'll be crying forever. Just because I'm angry right now doesn't make me "psycho", it means you left your underwear on the floor one time too many, or slept with my best friend or something between the two.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Cute co-worker possibly interested? Posted: 1/10/2007 7:37:44 PM
Here's something. NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER. NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER Are you starting to get the message? NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER. If he's NOT interested, you could be up for sexual harassment charges. If he is and you go out, you're making yourself the target of office gossip. Your supervisor will see it as unprofessional. If you get into a relationship and break up, well, you get the joy of seeing him EVERY SINGLE DAY. NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER. Period.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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Girls: Would You Go To A Class On Men? Posted: 1/10/2007 12:49:08 AM
Depends...will there be cute guys there? Seriously, though, I would probably go. I am the first to admit I'm pretty clueless when it comes to guys. That's one thing I like about the forums. I've learned a LOT about guys, and some of it has been both terrifying and depressing. The things I thought or hoped were just ridiculous stereotypes are sadly enough, true for a lot of guys. Eh, on second thought, maybe I'll use the 90 bucks for a good toy and a bottle of wine and just keep surfing the forums.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When do you tell? Or should you even tell? Posted: 1/10/2007 12:16:15 AM
lol, no problem, I was just curious about that point. I stay out of those political forums, those places are scary! Of course, so are the relationship ones, but hey... message too short. Dang, I really hate that stupid error message. I guess I could just fill the box with mindless blather. blather blather blather blather

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When do you tell? Or should you even tell? Posted: 1/9/2007 11:56:38 PM
^^^^^ Not in this case. I had a full hysterectomy two and a half years ago. Personally, I tell right off the bat or close to it, just wondering if it's the right thing to do. I hear all the time that you shouldn't divulge too much personal stuff too soon, but there are some things you just need to know! Also, why before I slept with someone? Not criticizing, I'm just not sure why. Thanks for the responses, though.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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When do you tell? Or should you even tell? Posted: 1/9/2007 11:08:33 PM
When do you reveal something about yourself that is or may be construed as negative? I'm thinking about my own personal situation of not being able to have kids. I've gotten positive, negative, and indifferent responses when I reveal. So at what point do you reveal something that may not be obvious about you that may scare someone off like an unseen disability, illness, infertility, past addiction, etc? Do you tell right away to weed people out or wait until things are more serious?

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

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How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker? Posted: 1/8/2007 11:12:06 PM
Let's see...he's married. He's a co-worker. Yeah, that's pretty bad. A definite 10. You're facing either being fired, being the topic of office gossip, or an angry wife looking for you with a baseball bat in her hand. That being said, I've been in your shoes. It doesn't say much about you, as it didn't say much about me. DON'T DO IT AGAIN. Trust me on this one. :

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

Msg: 69 (view)

why are women threatend my female friends Posted: 1/8/2007 11:01:59 PM
I've been cheated on four times. And three out of those four times, it was with his "best friend" who happened to be a female. Most relationships start out as friendships, and the so called experts all say that the best relationships started out that way. My One True Love (ha!) had just such a friend. Except she expected him to be single and a virgin forever until she was ready to settle down. Meanwhile, she was sleeping with half the town including his best male friend. Eventually, he left me because he felt like he was "cheating on her" with me. This woman used to call...at three am...to state that her fire alarm had gone off, but there was no fire. She was just calling to make sure I wasn't spending the night, stealing his virtue. They didn't even get together, he just wanted to be single, "just in case." Female friends are one thing, but that one "best friend" is a deal breaker for me. I just can't do that one again.

Azalea Path

Joined: 12/9/2006

Msg: 4 (view)

starting a relationship thru compliments? Posted: 1/8/2007 2:37:13 AM
Compliments sure beat the heck out of insults. Of course they're positive. They're good for anyone's self esteem. Even mine. Funny thing is, I don't get that many on my pictures, but in person, the guys I've met have mostly gone on about how beautiful I am in person. They may have just been buttering me up for something else, but hey, it works.

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