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thebiz04

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Ladies need some insight?? Posted: 1/27/2009 11:08:31 AM
I see I have to update this...... Im not on this site much but yes this post was 3 years ago the ex GF in the post is married with 2 kids and where acutley friends, also yes I am single unfortunatley it didnt work out with the next girl.

thebiz04

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dumped for committement issues - do i get back together? Posted: 7/24/2008 8:51:13 AM
Sorry buddy have some bad news..... about 3 months ago I went through this same thing almost identical conversations and around the same ages, here the thing with women, women dont wake up one day and decide that they want out it takes them awhile of being unhappy before they finally decide that and usually its another guy or a friend in there ear that gives them the final push. In my case she waited untiled she was all moved out of the house and everything in my name and she got the dog and any money coming to here we even dating for a month after but she was cold and distance. I figured that she just wanted to be alone space time to figure things out and come back but instead she was on myspace emailing guys for dates and know she is dating and wants nothing to do with ever getting back with me.... its probaly for the better committement is a big issue these days and if someone is showing you that they will always be looking for greener grass then you dodged a bullet hopefully there is someone out ther for all of us that will neve get cold feet no matter what issues arise good luck theres alot of ppl out ther with the same story and it always ends the same

thebiz04

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Ladies need some insight?? Posted: 2/8/2005 6:06:43 AM
Ok so me and my so called GF are trying yet again to work things out. Things have gotten a little better but not much, anyways we get into an agrument last night about her going out to clubs and states even though Im going to be quiting my weekend job she will still contiue to go out to the clubs, but the kicker is she may dance with guys now to me thats not good so I say how would you feel If I danced with girls response I would be pissed because you dont go to clubs to dance and it would mean you want to dance with them for me thats what I do for fun is dance so its no big deal. The conversation ends with her being mad at me for even talking about the subject. what is some ladies opion about this?

thebiz04

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Your first date... Posted: 1/21/2005 7:06:14 AM
Entertaining

thebiz04

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IS LOVE A REAL THING? Posted: 1/20/2005 7:39:10 AM
Love is not how you feel during the good times but how you feel and react during the badtimes. Most fail during the bad times

thebiz04

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What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for? Posted: 1/20/2005 7:26:50 AM
Without a doudt ppl get rejected beacuse of personality.

thebiz04

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Have you ever.....? Posted: 1/19/2005 4:37:43 PM
Answer you can not commit to someone else if your heart has been stolen by someone else, its not possible and you will live your life thinking what if. So its better to let the other person know that they are not the one, do it carefully, nicely and gently, it will hurt them but in time life will be better for both parties, it sux that these things happen but we cant control who we fall in and out of luv with.

thebiz04

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Women have the advantage in dating Posted: 1/19/2005 4:31:29 PM
I might be miss understanding some of the posts but my arugemnt was that women dont have the advantage, yes they get hit on more but usualy by jackass's. Thats not much of an advatange to me what Im saying is guys need to stop thinking that women do have the advantage and just relax and have fun and enjoy the dating sence cause believe me when you do settle down and even though your totaly in love with the person you will miss it. Believe a guy who walks up to a girl no matter what he looks like and has something inteligent to say instead of, you have a great ass, will get a better response it may not lead into a date but its worth a shot and least you wont look like a jackass.

thebiz04

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Inside Not Outside Posted: 1/19/2005 12:45:29 PM
The funny part is that girl is probaly very insecure about her self, so she needs to do dumb immature stuff like putting someone else down to feel better about herself. I hate to say it but if im not attracted to a girl Im not going to date her but I would never put a girl down for her looks this is what god gave us and this is who we are. And if certian ppl dont like it they will find life very lonely in the end for being so shallow.

thebiz04

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So Confused???? Posted: 1/14/2005 9:09:47 AM
Where not planing on moving back in together she is going to live on her own sorry if Im made it soudn confusing. And I like your advice and that is exaclty what IM going to do or if I cant wait forever finaly move on in this sistuation I have to see how much patience I have

thebiz04

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So Confused???? Posted: 1/14/2005 8:54:57 AM
The problem is I dont know the answer to that question, She no longer wants any conact with her X and we talked about the hole situations in detail and she will never speack to him again, and when we got back together after I might have put to much pressure on her, when shes at a time in her life wheres shes trying to prove to herself she can be independent and be herself and whether I like it or not shes a good looking 23yr old who still has some hell in her. and thats who she is but are long term goals are the same and I feel are luv for each other is the same. Now I could be just naive but why does she keep coming back. and when she calls its never when shes drinking or wanting just to hook up. And theres 2 major changes that are about ready to happen in this sinario One shes moving just 20minutes away from in an month and a half and 2 Im quiting my bar job for me to have more time but that was a big issue in are relationship that she resented. And for the most part she just does things like movies dinner and shopping with her friends and when she gets a weekend off she may go out at night with them. I know I sticking up for her way to much but what if thats all that there is at this point in time I consider us just dating no phone call everyday, no worrying about when the next time we will be together, no getting upset when she hangs out with her friends just dating cause I dont think we realy gave that a chance with moving in togther so quickly I could be totaly wrong about all of this but for some reason my heart is telling me this could go either way maybe my heart is clouded right now. But its all I got for guidance right now

thebiz04

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So Confused???? Posted: 1/14/2005 7:09:22 AM
Ok my question is this I meet this girl at work she was an intern we statred dating a couple months after at the time she had a boyfriend she left and then was with me. Of course in the begging it was great then after 2 and half months of dating we move in together now we where up each others but then she gets a new job thats closer to where her parents live which is an hour away she then makes new friends at works, she then wants to start going out more and hangin out with her friends then the day comes where her x calls her shes talks to him on the phone then goes to his house nothing happens between them except talk she tells me this happens I throw her out, then she calls 6 days later crying she luvs me the break up is killing her and she screwed up bad well I take her back. then things are realy different I spend a alot of time worrying about the realtionship and she still wants alot of space she then says she confused dosesnt know what she wants. we break up again. she calls me the next day about nothining and then calls me 4 days latter about returning a necklace I ask her to return and that shes going out to the bar I work out for her friends birthday we start talking and decide to get back together but take things slow. I ask her the all important question do you luv me or are you in luv with me she states shes in luv with me and dosnt want to loose me. Now Im confused is this relationshiop doomed to just keep repeating the same nonsense or should I just give her all the space she needs and wait for her to get her act together?

thebiz04

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If a woman cheats on her BF but wont leave her BF Posted: 1/13/2005 11:34:25 AM
Exactly Can you say Divorce

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Picture ceases chat conversation Posted: 1/13/2005 10:54:30 AM
jizzabelle best profile Ive seen yet LMAO

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Have you ever.....? Posted: 1/13/2005 10:04:33 AM
ever experience deja-vu? its been a long time guess no agents have been around (for you matrix fans) But NP I luv to help

thebiz04

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How do I become a happier person Posted: 1/13/2005 10:00:46 AM
2kewt 2bgood nicely stated you should listen to this girl she is exactly right

thebiz04

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Have you ever.....? Posted: 1/13/2005 9:58:47 AM
If your truly happy with the one your with no else no matter who they are will be able to distract you maybe a quick wow there hot or nice but would never consider acting upon it so if your even thinking of acting apon another and your with someone already chances are deep down in side the one your with is not the one. So go for the gusto and no regrets

thebiz04

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Women have the advantage in dating Posted: 1/13/2005 8:53:38 AM
I see a lot of post complaining about how women have the advantage in the dating seen. I realy dont agree with this at all. before my last relationship I dated for 5yrs and during that time I got laughed at I got no call backs, I got many reasons why the wouldnt see me again I got I just want sex the whole nine yards and you know what the same happens to women. I cant tell you how many times a girl was interested in me made the effort to let me find that out and then I take her out and then NOTHING, I would give her one phone call if I never heard from her again no big deal cause if thats they way she was I wanted no part and when I saw her again I would say hi hows things thats it. I knew it would be just a matter of time before someone else came a long could be days weeks years. Bottom line guys dating should be fun yeah theres some games involed but whey do humanes play games to have fun. Just beacuse you might be losing a lot dosnt me you wont win the next time you play. And just because someone dosnt like the way we look or act dosnt me anything is wrong with them or us just mean you werent compatiable with each other. So guys do your self a favor dont take dating so serioulsy and enjoy the fun. Also dont be afriad to be just friends with women to be honest having just girlfriends is where I have learned the most about dating and the oppiste sex.

thebiz04

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SO NOT FAIR!!!!! Posted: 1/12/2005 1:40:03 PM
Patience is what you need you never know where your going to find the next luv off your life. You know I just got burnt bad but Im not to worried right now its time to have fun and do what ever I dont have to worry about answering to anyone or worrying about what someone else is doing and at work this weekend Ill see may pretty girls but its alot more then just looks that strike my interest. Ill probaly meet someone while pumping gas

thebiz04

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SO NOT FAIR!!!!! Posted: 1/12/2005 1:28:42 PM
there are plenty of good looking straight guys out there, but they just dont go to drag queen night. sorry but thats the truth I would stay away from those places. Its all in where your looking kiddo

thebiz04

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Heartbroken Posted: 1/12/2005 1:21:21 PM
Ive been been realy heart broken twice in my life once 5yrs ago and right now Im going through it. the hard truth is when someone is over witht he realationship it doesnt matter how hard you try and what you do in the other persons mind its over. This is going to be a very difficult time for you but your very young and have your hole life ahead of you in years to come you will be a very strong person because of all this. heart breaks take time when I start becoming sad or angry about losing the one I luv I just theres nothing I can do about it its my time know time to be happy with me by myself it hurts I know. and it will take time try not to think what if or I did everything you could or blame yourself its just life and ppl emotions let fate take its course and good luck

thebiz04

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Let me ask yall this..... Posted: 1/12/2005 11:24:49 AM
yeah but jenny never pics up I keep calling LOL

thebiz04

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ugh...... I have a question- Need help... Posted: 1/12/2005 8:40:14 AM
Exactly ture luv finds you, but the more you look the less youll find it. when you dont have true luv in your life be happy with you be happy with friends and famliy, enjoy what you do in everday life. Cause when you do find true luv it all changes hopefully for the better and the happier you are with yourself and the happier you are by yourself the sooner luv will find you

thebiz04

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Let me ask yall this..... Posted: 1/12/2005 7:21:33 AM
yes this is a common thing, see most ppl want what the either dont have and dont think they can get. So you start telling somebody they cant have somthing thenthey want it but then when they get it the think did I realy want this and may say no and no longer care about the thing they got cause now they have it no longer a desire. Its not a cool thing but unfortunalty its humane nature among most of the selfish imature ppl in this world. Ok Im a little bitter but I stand by my first paragraph

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Honest but brutal, or subtle breakup? Posted: 1/11/2005 10:03:20 AM
AMEN!!!! To both points

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Dating Younger Posted: 1/11/2005 8:08:30 AM
I just got out of a relationship with a 23yr old and at first what she wanted was a nice stable guy to settle down with but it didnt take long before she wanted her freedom back and to start partying again, Not to say all 23yr old arnt ready but in my opion the age diff between us was a big problem and we are just at 2 differnt stages in life right now.

thebiz04

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Hey buddy.... Posted: 1/10/2005 6:31:18 PM
Thank You for your kind words and I hope that you are right because it took me 5 years to find her and only 9months to become boken hearted again. so finding someone else I feel is going to be a near impossible task

thebiz04

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Hey buddy.... Posted: 1/10/2005 5:19:38 PM
Well As I mentioned in other posts the day did come where she says her feelings are not as strong as they once where and we should go are sepearte ways. Wonderful glad I went through all that BS just to have happened what I new in my gut would happen it was very selfish of her to make that call to me that night and want me back just to break my heart again 3 weeks later. Its going to be a long haul from here I hope I might the right decisions in life

thebiz04

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Need some advice Posted: 1/10/2005 9:29:15 AM
Although I def dont have the situation that you had, I just had a brake up with my X shes 23 and Im 29. And I did alot for her emotioanly and monitarly. I was saving to get us a house the ring whole nine yards. but she came to a point where she hung out with her X wanted to be with her girlfriends and go out and not have to answer to anyone. hence she lost the strong feelings for me she once had. Now niether one of us are wrong for what we want in life just at this point its 2 different things so the best course of action is to be done with the relationship for good so we can both go find what we want. But bottom line is when its over its over. My sistuation cost me a couple of grand supporting her but yours is much worse All I can say bud is go find that life you where looking for but it def looks like its not with her and someday somehow your in a new routine in life whether its with some else or by yourself and youll be just back to the everday problems like the slow person driving in front you. Best of Luck biz

thebiz04

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Moving On with closure Posted: 1/10/2005 7:24:44 AM
As some off have seen in my previous post Ive been having a realy crazy and stressfull time with my now former X. During the day yesturday she final confessed that she has lost that spark with me and dosnt think it would ever come back so its better we part ways. Great I got closure. But the heart break is still very hard since the conservation Of all I think about is her and would good times we had, I think of her being there, think of her in so many ways just the way she walked. But I even know that this decsion is the best for both of us we are at to different stages in are life and althogh if she where A little older and more togther we would be perfect its not the case. And I dont have years to go through what Ive been going through with her. Ive already starting setting new goals in life and things I want to accomplish, Ive planned a killer spring break vaction Ive already meet some new ppl and started new friendships. All that stuff is great but I know for a while its going to hurt and that when I see a car like hers and just look at my bed that was once our bed my eyes will begin to tear up and I will miss her terriable cause althogh she started to fall out of luv with me I still luved her very much. Good thing is we where only together for about 9months and this is my 2nd major heartbreak so hopefully it wont be to bad. So in closing even though Ive got my closure the heartbreak is very hard, and the pain sadness and feeling of abandment is still very much there. Its just to bad that one day your in luv and the next your not, its nobodys fault its just the way life goes, and I can rember how I broke sombodys heart once it seems to be a never ending cycle. that all we can hope one we meet the one that we will luv forever and inturn will luv us forever. Biz

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Broken Heart Again Posted: 1/9/2005 4:35:26 PM
Well everyone its finaly over, after talking on the phone for and 1hr or to she adminted she doesnt feel as strongly about me as she did before and lost the OMG feeling and wanting to see me so Its hard but probaly for the better and the last 3 weeks have been hell trying to figure out what shes been thinking but Of course it still hurts so hopfully with some time and realizing that Im better off not beeing in that realtionship Ill be back but off course the ever haunting good memeroies will be there and of course adjusting to being single again sigh luv can be so painfull at times but at least no more questions

thebiz04

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Broken Heart Again Posted: 1/6/2005 5:23:04 PM
Hey Hey Hey no violence Im very fraile

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To forgive or not to forgive Posted: 1/6/2005 5:17:19 PM
Hey Man I know the feeling find some of my post of what Ive been going through it wasnt a marriage or for years but taken them back I dont think is a good Idea

thebiz04

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Decision time... Posted: 1/6/2005 4:56:15 PM
Your no my story and boy I give you credit your a very mature and strong person, Ill be able to yes to your question when I finaly just do it myself :)

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Is this fair for Men? Posted: 1/6/2005 11:44:48 AM
I like when the gain a little weight after Ive been with them shows there content in the realshionship

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Broken Heart Again Posted: 1/6/2005 11:41:05 AM
When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened I think thats great I need to keep that in mind

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Broken Heart Again Posted: 1/6/2005 9:02:44 AM
NO I dont think its that at all O believe me she says she still wants those things but not right now, now shes looking for me to be there and her have her space to check out my other fourm post Question under realtionships that explains whats been going on

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Broken Heart Again Posted: 1/6/2005 8:07:27 AM
yeah the ring thing the scary part about it is we where looking into just doing that and buying a house before all this went down so your right at least she did it before all that. Kids these days.

thebiz04

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Hey buddy.... Posted: 1/6/2005 8:04:31 AM
Yeah will see if that day everycomes but shes totaly done with her X at this point believe Id some checking around thats not so much the issue as her expecting me to be this good little boyfriend who treats her like gold but then when its time for SPACE she dosnt want to be bothered and it turns out she is going to one of these house gatherings in a few weeks that her friend is having but its all girls and the last season of sex in the city on DVD I dont know that could be worss then a house full of drunken guys but again it boils down to having the respect to make me feel like Im a priority in her life and I know I cant always be number ONE but just making me feel like it goes a long way and again I think at this point shes done to much damage I realy dont see anything big coming out of this anymore cause even if a month or 2 guys by and shes on the same page what happens when she gets that ich again no thank you go scrath by your self by that time Im sure Ill be doing my own scratching :)

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Broken Heart Again Posted: 1/6/2005 7:28:26 AM
I couldnt agree more

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Question??? Posted: 1/6/2005 7:25:17 AM
Peace2u first off I would like to say who ever you spend the rest of your life with is going to be one lucky person 2nd I know everyday I deal with the ups and down with last night she called and again although it was a legit excuse she wasnt going to see me again this week I just lost it for the past 2weeks Ive not wanted to yell or show to much emation and push her away again but Im fed up and at the end of my rope I went off on her for like 15min and at the point I was saying I dont think I can do this anymore a I could sense a few tears from her I basicaly told her you know lifes been good for you, you pretty much come and go as you please and youve got a great guy on the side and thats its easy for her cause I call her and make her feel secure but on the other had I know she dosnt want to see me with anyone else and cant bare the tought of not having me I got a sense she agreed so and I said to her a bunch of other things Ive posted in the forums so the converstion ended with me calming down and her to and I said well thats how I feel and she told me she didnt know if she felt mad cause we fought or bad cause of how shes been. she did call me again after hanging out with friend later that night and it was a civil conversation and I told her not to come over tommor the weathers going to be bad but again its only a matter of time probaly today befor shes back to selfishness and those little phone calls I get when she can tell Im at the end of my rope arent going to save her anymore I said actions speack louder then words so my guess nothings changed and this Im not thinking it has it will be her loss and I think at this point her heart breack will be worss then mine cause Im the one thats unhappy and she got her cake and eat it to or though she thinks

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How would you feel? Posted: 1/6/2005 6:59:34 AM
THats a tough call bro just when you thought is was girls that just acted shady to each other my take and I could be all wrong is it seems your brother was just looking to get some and in the past that may have also been the case and the reasoning why he doesnt want you around is he probaly feels that will lessen the chances he will get some not because you want her for yourself but maybe with the distraction of you around hes less avaible to make his moves and also with you around she may be less likely to go through with it cause she knows that you have respect for her and your a friend and wouldnt want to change your views or her, but your def could have approached this a look better by maybe just calling you up and leveling with saying hey she wants to hang this is what Im planning on doing how do you feel about this, so I think you have a right to be upset with both in the party but more at your brother then her. Ive had dumb stuff like that happen with my friends in the past and I was left home doing nothing cause he was trying to get some I would have made other plans at time but hey live and learn Good Luck Biz

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All time worst date? Posted: 1/5/2005 5:11:47 PM
2 days ago = 2 days after I meet her

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All time worst date? Posted: 1/5/2005 5:11:07 PM
mine had to be when the girl got in my girl with those fake teeth that make them look all messed up I wanted out quick O wait the other was when I meet a girl at a club then took her out to dinner 2 days ago and boy beer eyes that night cause when she answered the door OMG bad move but I went through it anyways maybe Im a little shallow but hey looks do count and help

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What Turns You Off?? Posted: 1/5/2005 8:35:24 AM
O I got you well at least if you get bored and have extra minutes your all set

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The Option Is On The Table.. Take or Leave It? Posted: 1/5/2005 8:28:05 AM
I thought you could take EX's back after they screw boy was I wrong I did just that and now the past 3 weeks of my life have been pure hell and instead of it being close to month since we broke up all Ive done is prolong the pain and suffered in the process

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ppl with no respect! Posted: 1/4/2005 6:33:43 PM
DragonRider you are a good man bro its nice to see mature ppl in this world cause it seems to me no matter what age 90% I meet in this world just refuse to grow up, and I also agree looks although I will admit are important to me arent everything cause when you start spending alot of time with a person its who that person is is what will bring happness to you and that other person. Damn my profile sux but its the truth

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How do you move on without Closure? Posted: 1/4/2005 6:16:58 PM
opps my bad figured it out

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How do you move on without Closure? Posted: 1/4/2005 6:16:14 PM
who the new guy or the guy youve been seeing

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Question??? Posted: 1/4/2005 5:50:59 PM
Thanx again Im moving on each day that goes on she digs that hole deeper and deeper and when that day comes which I feel is very soon I can see it now she go away and a week or 2 later the tears and I dont understand we can make it work blah blah blah hey you only get 2 chances with this kid and your lucky you got the 2nd though it will hurt I will surive

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