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soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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Dating the same sex because your heart was broken Posted: 11/25/2009 4:48:02 PM
colt8301 you crack me up, did you read all of my post or read what you wanted to read? If I was gay, I would say so. You all are missing the point. My bf cheated on me, I was hurt, was hanging around someone who was bi, and was attracted to a tomboy. Realized dating a woman just wasn't my thing. Where do you get gay out of that?

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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Dating the same sex because your heart was broken Posted: 11/25/2009 2:20:26 PM
OP, of course it is drastic, that is why I am asking....the girl I did date was a friend of a friend of mine who is bi in a relationship with another woman. We just happened to meet when all of us went out, she was actually very cute, very tomboyish.......

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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Dating the same sex because your heart was broken Posted: 11/25/2009 2:01:16 PM
I am curious who has tried dating someone of the same sex after your heart was really broken by someone of the opposite sex. I did try it and it lasted for 6 months but I realized it just wasn't for me...just wondering if this has happened to other women (I ask women because I doubt men venture to the other side)

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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Whats the difference? Posted: 11/25/2009 12:14:04 PM
I have had long term and then met someone dated him for a bit, then he had the nerve to say "you know guys think when you put long term down you are desperate", needless to say I dumped his a$$ and funny thing he messages me a month later with this sweet innocent email asking how I am blah blah blah, yeah look who's desperate now. Also to though, I do get more responses from men with dating vice long term.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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What went wrong Posted: 11/23/2009 4:14:56 PM
"We felt comfortable with each other and yes there were plenty of sparks when we met and we both had great orgasams so that wasn't the problem." OP, you didn't mention that in your first post. At 46 you should know better why a man doesn't want to see you again after having sex with him on the first date. JMO

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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How to show a Man you Like him without being Clingy Posted: 11/23/2009 3:42:28 PM
OP, I would take Landra2's advice, and don't tell him some other guy is flirting with you, that is so 16.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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where do you draw the line Posted: 11/23/2009 3:22:44 PM
OP, I would have to agree with RedDragon...well said..

soldiergirl99

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Goodbye to the past, hello with the new! Posted: 11/23/2009 2:55:55 PM
OP, I think the title of your post says it all. I think we have all loved someone and been used as a door mat, but there comes a time when enough is enough and you have to have some self respect. Good luck.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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WTH was he thinking? Posted: 11/23/2009 2:43:23 PM
That is why I didn't answer the phone after his second attempt on asking me. Then I receive an email on Saturday, "Hey Chelle I tried to call and you didn't answer", delete, then another email on Sunday "I'm not into you" delete, then last night another one "I hope you aren't mad at me" delete AND block.

soldiergirl99

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WTH was he thinking? Posted: 11/22/2009 11:18:36 AM
Actually Chardly Girl ...yes i have been on here on and off for 3 years. I was married and my son passed away at the age of 2 years on 24 Jan 06 and we separated in May 06 and my marriage ended like they say 9/10 out of ten when you lose a child, came on here to try and forget and then took a hiatus and came back this June, hope that answered your question. Have a wonderful day.

soldiergirl99

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WTH was he thinking? Posted: 11/21/2009 4:17:17 AM
Is this a pitty thread or what? he was seeing if you would put out to him or not he didnt want youto waste his time, your just someone he meet over the net he had nothing to loose simple as that, if you were someone he meet in the real world he may not of been so sleezie,are you offended that all that he wanted from you was sex if you are move on if your not then im so dumbfounded that anyone could post such a rediculous topic. OP where do you get pitty? I posted because I thought it was funny as he$$ and wanted to share. Offended? I was dumbfounded he had the audacity he thought he drink to much so he wouldn't have to drive home on a "first date" and stay at my place. I thought the whole thing was funny, but instead of taking it as humour you're one of those people that need to put people down to make yourself look and feel better because you have low self esteem.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 11/20/2009 9:15:10 PM
When American soldiers come up here and train with us periodically. Doesn't matter what they are doing, walking, talking, shooting,.....I just stand and stare unnoticed never getting any work done! And dang it, those accents are sexy as hell too!

soldiergirl99

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WTH was he thinking? Posted: 11/20/2009 8:52:43 PM
Well I'll chalk this down as a prequil to my date tonight. I never got as far as the date lol. I'm laughing as I type this, I had to share because frankly I am dumbfounded that someone can be such a tool. Started conversing with a guy on here and over a week, conversed on msn then phone. We talked on about 6 occasions on the phone and we planned to meet tonight. So last night we spoke where to meet, I suggested halfway so he didn't have to come all the way out here. There is only Timmy's and a small quiet pub with great food. I didn't feel like having coffee so late. He suggested we go there for a couple of drinks and I said sure. He then asked me how far away do I live from the pub. 15mins I said, so he says if I have to much to drink your place is n walking distance because I don't plan on driving. I says oh you're planning to sleep on my front lawn? He's say either that or my truck. I said oh ok, because you're not sleeping in my house. I have a 20 yr old son who will want to know wth you are doing in our house and secondly I just don't do that kind of thing. I told him I have females friends stay over but not guys, he says tell him it's a guys night sleepover. I chuckled on the phone as I rolled my eyes. And also there was never one word about sex mentioned the whole week we spoke, I never gave off an vibes or impression that I was looking for it. Today calls me at 1pm to give me an idea what time he is done work at. He asks me if my son is home, I said "yeeeeees" with an attitude kinda sorta, then he asks "so we're going back to your place tonight after right?" I said "ah noooooo" he suddenly says to me I have to go and I will call you back. Bah he called at 8pm and the phone rang once I didn't bother to answer it. I thought for sure he was just being silly and testing the waters to see what my reaction would be when he asked the first time about staying over. Wow just when you think you've seen it all, you get another eye opener. I hope y'all had a good chuckle reading my fiasco.....ahhhh another one kicked to the POF curb.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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33 and tired of chasing @$$ Posted: 11/20/2009 5:26:31 AM
OP, I would get a profile review immediately and see what people say.... "Violator Girl" I agree with you there, how some people respond to others posts. They do that to make themselves look and feel better because they lack self esteem.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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Reeling in and headed for shore :\ Posted: 11/2/2009 4:31:24 PM
OP, I will have to agree with jakeya, your pic needs to be changed or put a few more up....you look a little angry; the look on your face kinda gives me the creeps. Just sayin

soldiergirl99

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separated but still living together... to believe or not Posted: 10/31/2009 2:44:04 PM
OP, I lived with my ex husband for 15 months after we separated. He moved into the basement and I stayed upstairs. Both of us were to stubborn to move out, me wanting him to move and vice versa. We both started dating others. He finally moved after the 15 months, so it does happen.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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Does exactly what it says on the tin? hmmm doubtful! Posted: 10/29/2009 2:15:01 PM
OP, I will have to agree with itsmejuli, JMO.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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He's just not that interested Posted: 10/29/2009 1:57:52 PM
OP, all I can say is WOW, I understand it wasn't a rant, but if you were trying to give women sound advice you failed. Letting a guy come to your house within a couple of hours of talking and spend the night is just crazy.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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eharmony ... Really? I'm a match with a troll? Posted: 10/20/2009 8:46:07 PM
My niece met a great guy and they are getting married next September, so it is possible.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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met on POF Posted: 10/20/2009 3:24:13 AM
OP I'm sorry this happened to you and you are hurt. It happens to the best of us, 20 or not and you weren't wrong for falling in love with him and letting your guard down escpecially if it felt right. It felt good to have someone want you, care about you and love you so I agree with FreeSpirit, don't lets these OP with thier harsh comments get to you. I would chalk it up as a learning experience and keep your chin up and keep busy. You are a beautiful woman, all you need to say is NEXT!

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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I'm an Idiot Posted: 10/14/2009 11:29:20 AM
Of course I am, sorry' don't feel like reading your childish links. : Btw if you are in Toronto feel free to stop in to see our Bn of Airborne soldiers whitch one has a medal of bravery and one was hit by an IED but he has recovered, and let them know that YOU had no idea we had a military infront of formation you might like it.

soldiergirl99

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I'm an Idiot Posted: 10/14/2009 5:23:56 AM
"wait.... canada has a military?" You sound just like Greg Gutfeld from Fox News, your head must be pretty far up your azz. Get a clue will you.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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What gym behavior annoys you the most? Posted: 10/13/2009 10:35:00 AM
I would have to say people not wiping down machines after they've used them and also I wouldn't say this is a behaviour BUT when women come into the gym with a ton of makeup and lip gloss on with their hair down ready to work out. Please.

soldiergirl99

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I'm an Idiot Posted: 10/13/2009 6:04:09 AM
32flavors, keep your chin up, you did the right thing by kicking his butt to the POF curb. I still agree that something wasn't right to not only have time for you every 3 weeks, kids or not. I have been in a couple of relationships where my SO had children, actually that were younger and he would include me in whatever he was doing with them that weekend. Because he wanted to, and wanted to see me. I think he strung you along and saw you when he deemed fit and so you did the right thing by not settling. Hang in there and move on, you deserve better.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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What is the Worst Thing You Experienced after a Long Term Breakup? Posted: 10/12/2009 4:18:38 AM
Sleeping alone, I miss being held and spooning. I also don't like coming home to no one.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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I'm an Idiot Posted: 10/11/2009 7:02:56 PM
OP, you do sound very confused. It sounds as if he just didn't have time for a relationship only seeing you every 3 weeks. And we all have certain things we want in a relationship and you are not wrong in wanting to see him more often. If he couldn't give you that at the beginning you shouldn't have tolerated it for 7 months. I also think you need to pull your big girl panties up and not email him saying you're sorry and you still love him. He already said not to contact him. If you contact him that will push him away even more. Have some self respect and I know you are heart broken and sad but seriously don't be emailing him like that. You're an attractive woman and if you want a relationship and to see your SO more often then 3 weeks than don't settle. There are lots of other fish in the pond. Hope this helped.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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Best question ever asked. Posted: 10/11/2009 6:31:52 PM
"Might want to check again... Not trying to burst your bubble here but my brothers have or are in the military, plenty of my friends are former military and I work in an area where most of my co-workers were in the military, all different branches, and not one has ever mentioned anything about Canadian women. Asian women, yes. South American women, hell yes (Even I will agree to that one) But Canadian women...nope. Not once has that ever come up in conversation." Sorry to burst YOUR bubble but I have been in the military 22 years and have worked and trained with all kinds of different military's from all different countries and unlike you who are talking to former military personnel I've had the opportunity to see how Americans love us. OP considering the U.S. military is 1,4 million and you have friends and family in the military, it's obvious we aren't talking to the same people. Some of my closest friends are in the U.S. Army and have told me that they love Canadian and Australian women. Maybe it's because we have a thing for Americans too.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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a man lies for sex Posted: 10/11/2009 4:54:17 PM
20 mins? You are responsible for your own actions, besides at 57 you should know better. You're not 17.

soldiergirl99

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Do you touch your partner's head as he/she performs oral? Posted: 10/11/2009 3:55:57 PM
I like when my SO runs his fingers through my hair gently, and caresses my face. It really floats my boat.

soldiergirl99

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Seriously Why would you give head on a first date then ignore calls the day after. Posted: 10/11/2009 3:21:35 PM
I'm not sure why you would want anything to do with a girl that was that easy on the first date and wanting unprotected sex. I wish they had a vomit emoticon.

soldiergirl99

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Lesbians get the Hottest Chicks Posted: 10/10/2009 4:08:50 PM
But the best looking guys are gay.

soldiergirl99

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lost and confused Posted: 10/10/2009 3:38:27 PM
You need to take a stand and tell him you are not putting up with this behaviour. You are a beautiful young woman and don't deserve to settle. You deserve much better. Get rid of him, pull up your big girl panties and remember your 3 children come first and don't deserve to be around that kind of environment where there daddy is out getting drunk and thinking of hitting on another woman while there mommy is at home taking care of them. Get rid of him and take a stand and not let him walk all over you. If this is the way he wants to act then let someone else have him and deal with him. I know about all this because I dealt with it at 21 and I took a stand and got rid of him. Funny thing is when I did he would do anything to get me back including AA, but the damage was done and I could never trust again. I also think that you should talk to a therapist and get your self esteem back. Your a gorgeous girl and you and your babies don't deserve that kind of environment.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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Married Women and masterbation? Posted: 10/10/2009 2:49:09 PM
I also masturbate to the thoughts of him masturbating. (Love you Dorsel)

soldiergirl99

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Married Women and masterbation? Posted: 10/10/2009 8:40:23 AM
I think of a guy named Dorsel when I do.

soldiergirl99

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For our Northern friends Posted: 10/9/2009 8:06:14 PM
ucmu Rockman P.S. btw we drink beer after our turkey, our beer rocks

soldiergirl99

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I miss him Posted: 10/9/2009 7:18:17 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^ Awwww hang in there curlygirl......

soldiergirl99

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For our Northern friends Posted: 10/9/2009 6:15:38 PM
Thanks, eh.... God Bless America

soldiergirl99

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Let me tell you about a boy and a girl. Posted: 10/9/2009 3:13:03 PM
sounds like you screwed up when you broke it off the first time and now she doesn't trust you or want to be with you. I guess you will learn from your mistakes. You're young still, I'm sure you will learn to love again. Good luck.

soldiergirl99

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Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 10/9/2009 12:39:49 PM
I have to say that I prefer men younger than myself and find men my own age or older boring and kinda on the crusty side. At one time it was the other way around until the only kind of guy I would attract were much younger than me. My last one was 27 and my ex husband was 34. As long as they are mature, I have no problem.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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The soft blow off, how do you handle it? Posted: 10/9/2009 7:42:20 AM
No reply at all would be what I would do.

soldiergirl99

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Why do people always want more pics , even tho you already have like a million on your profile Posted: 10/8/2009 7:07:15 PM
OP when you have suggestive pics like that on your profile, asking for more, well they are assuming they will eventually get a nude one from you.

soldiergirl99

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When is the last time you cryed ? Why do we cry ? Posted: 10/8/2009 6:57:50 PM
Today, missing my son who passed away 3 years ago at the age of 2. FML.

soldiergirl99

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I miss him Posted: 10/8/2009 6:49:33 PM
I miss him too, miss the way he would hold me and make me laugh till I had tears in my eyes. But I don't miss his temper.

soldiergirl99

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Most Wild Place You Had sex! Posted: 10/8/2009 6:05:18 PM
On a country road right next to someones property on the hood of the car in broad daylight.

soldiergirl99

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When I confronted him with a bad odor Posted: 10/8/2009 5:29:05 PM
My ex fiance would tell me that he loved it when I came back from a run all hot and sweaty, told me that my skin smelt sweet.

soldiergirl99

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Does intelligence turn you on? Posted: 10/8/2009 5:00:01 PM
I love a man that is intellectually stimulating.

soldiergirl99

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guy/girls who were cheap on date Posted: 10/8/2009 12:25:42 PM
I dated someone I met on POF. I guess it does bother me when someone is cheap. Our first date we went out for a couple of drinks, and he paid. Nice. Second date was lunch and I paid. He had told me he had gone to his sons soccer game the day before and his ex wife offered to go out for lunch, he said since she was paying he went because it was a free meal. I went over to his house one evening after him giving me the key and saw a list on his fridge on what he had spent that month on gas, food etc, that's fine because sometimes I do that. BUT this is the kicker. He came to my place one evening and my son and his gf were going to DQ to get an ice cream, he asked me if I wanted anything and I said no. I asked my SO if he wanted anything he said yes a cheeseburger and fries but he had no cash just debit. I thought of being polite and said well I'll get you that so he says oh since you're paying I'll get a banana split too. I was dumbfounded when he said that and broke it off with him a few days later for other reasons but that was one of the reasons why. Also too he had stated he wanted to take me out for dinner but he couldn't find his gift certificate for the Keg, but soon as he found it we would go. He works at Canada Post and makes good money as a supervisor. It just bothered me that since I was paying for DQ why not get more food right? And won't take me out for dinner until he finds his gift certicate? FML

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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The Dangers of Faceboof!!! Posted: 10/8/2009 7:44:12 AM
I would have to say that 70% of the people on my FB are male, and that would be due to the fact I am in the military. OP if you are 47, why on earth are you worrying about FB. OMG you sound like you are 19. Seriously after 2 months of dating? I think you have other things to worry about.

soldiergirl99

Joined: 12/13/2006

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men in uniforms Posted: 10/6/2009 7:35:43 AM
I have a weakness for American soldiers in thier ACU's, also USMC in thier dress blues. Canadian soldiers just don't do it for me really. shrug

soldiergirl99

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No connection, no chemistry, no passion...but....they're nice? Posted: 10/6/2009 7:31:06 AM
I will have to agree, it takes 30 seconds to tell if I would kiss a guy or not, I know right away. It would only take 1 date to find out if there is chemistry and if it's going to lead somewhere.

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