We met at a lovely sushi restaurant.

Is this something that continues well into our children's adulthood? Or am I just a simple worry wart? Anyone have thoughts on this for me?

Are there men and ladies out there who have a full life and only want someone if they have a free slot where you can come round and stay in with them as they are so exausted by thier own social life it is the only free time they can offer you ... lol I do get put off by this. do you?

i dont know if i should just forget it and walk away
or if i should just stick it out and deal with it....
suggestions?comments?

....these men are interested in dating much younger women, women who may want a family, so these older guys don't want to eliminate themselves from the dating pool; however, in reality, they probably have no desire to start a family after 45 or 50.

I wrote him back and told him that he seemed to be hiding something, and I didn't feel comfortable meeting him for the date. Instead of proving me wrong, he just tells me that I'm f-ing wrong about him hiding something and basically makes me feel like a freak for not going. My question is, Would anyone still go??

My question is Where do you find the folks who are TRULY ready for a serious relationship, who have an open heart & their guards down?

I'm starting to think that I may never again enjoy the pleasure of a man's company on a date;

It is upsetting to get up my courage and write to a man first and then not have them respond at all.

He waits for her to make contact.....she waits for him to make contact.......contact is never made......is this like 2 ships passing in the night?

I believe that, secretly, most men want to be the pursuer, from the beginning. Am I right or wrong about that?

Its only the ones who claim they make their decision irrevocably in the first 5 minutes, or 5 seconds, who I contend are being extremely shallow and shortchanging the other person AND themselves!

So about time too HERE IS MY QUESTION, can you really date out of your league, can a working class man really date a Lady, could a shop girl marry a Lord and would they be accepted in society as if they were born there? What do you think?

I like attraction to be a part of dating for me, and if it's not there in the first 5 minutes or so, it's never going to be.

I don't care what anyone thinks, I am not wasting my time on men I am not attracted to.

I didn't have any spark with my guy when I first met him. And after a few dates, I backed off. After about a month or so with not seeing him, we started dating again. Not sure what made me change my mind.

Sometimes, the guy seems great, but he's just not what I am looking for. I've said "I had a great time, but I just don't feel the chemistry (or that we're a good match)"

Let me see if I have this straight. A man who has sex with a prostitute will not feel satisfied because deep down he knows she won't bear his offspring. OK, a man who has sex with a woman who had a hystorectomy knows deep down she won't bear his offspring either. I suppose you could ague that the guy can look elsewhere and I'd rather let the women deal with that one. So, if a man has a vasectomy, does that mean he can't ever have a satisfying sexual relationship because deep down his brain knows he won't be making babies?

I'm not suggesting that people should settle or lower their standards. But there is nothing wrong with having more flexible standards and dating someone who isn't exactly your ideal type.

One guy who she was wildly passionate about was a player, and the other was a long term friend that she loved to death, but wasn't interested in him romantically (he had recently expressed his interest in her romantically).

.....It’s easier than admitting that the fault lies within themselves; that their lack of positive personality and character traits, and their lack of physical appeal, is what turns a lot of women away.

So, what says the POF community? Are you looking for that "first 5 minute fireworks" and is it a total showstopper if its not there that quickly?

...BUT when it gets to the level of trying to manage and resolve relationship issues / arguements it is useless and a very, very poor and immature way to handle a relationship...... and needless to say is usually a one way ticket to relationship failure in most cases.......

So, my point is, whats with the texts?

Then Thursday came the day of our date which I had already decided if he did call I wasn't going to go and NEVER CALLED...anyone every have an experience like this ...the only thing that keeps running through my head is , there are some real looney tunes out there and oh yeah WTF

It really has just been a couple of months of total frustration. (that alone should tell me something i guess)

Attempting to jump from "friend" ladder to "romance" ladder usually results in jumper ending up in the abyss.

The only time we spend is sexual and grabbing a quick bite to eat.

I think a good chunk of our lives is played out by the choices we make.

I meet someone on here one year ago .... only to find out she is an alcoholic

3. Are childless married couples selfish?

....Of those, only the women who actually like dating would be fun to go out with. That would be fine with me but such women are imaginary.

...men would be much much much more satisfied with their sex lives! : )

I have even seen on a profile of a 43 year old woman "if you email and I am interested I will reply". I ask you, what self respecting man would even bother to write to this woman.

...most of the good material isn't about "faking" anything, it's about presenting the real you in a format that invites the other person in at a pace they're comfortable with.

Anyone else have this happen? Or am I just being stuffy?

You need to move on. He may be nice, he may have good intentions, but nothing is going to change. If you aren't happy with this situation now, you never will be. And you know, nobody should feel lonely when they are IN a relationship.

Some of these guys are more than just "pick up artists." They are more about self help.

Having a girlfriend might be ideal...

Many women seem to respond w/ the 'I'd rather be alone than settle for less than I want'.......which is precisely what many of my male friends did thru their late teens/20s. Those men concentrated on their education/career & are now in the position to get exactly what they want.

What I find amusing is there are so many people writing collumns, books , and appearing on talk shows giving us the "formula " to get laid , increase dating frequency , find the woman / man of our dreams.

Why on the internet are people so harsh! Why if you have a spat, is it the end of the friendship you were building on the way to meeting?

So my question is, is there double standards for maintenence of looks and youthful appearance with older daters? Are women more accepting and forgiving when it comes to those types of things?

I guess it depends on the woman, but I think one man who is into you is better than a new man every week.

Am I the only one here who thinks the real red flag is that the OP quit her job to be with a guy she's been dating only 3 weeks?

So,was he funny? or just plain MEAN?

But, seriously, what do you think of an older man w/ lil kids????