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NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Ladies - does separated scare you away Posted: 11/5/2009 11:11:57 AM
I just responded to an email message from a guy who says he's separated and I don't know if it's wise to continue or not. I won't lie - that DOES make me recoil a bit only because it's such an iffy situation...DOES he want to go back to her, does she want to go back to him...if I get involved with this person, will I only be the rebound person? Those are all the questions that come into play. Maybe I should've just deleted the message but, at the same time, it's not like I have many male "phishes" sending me thousands of messages and I would feel badly to eliminate a guy JUST because he may TRULY be separated. I guess it's just a chance one has to take.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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What makes you sigh... and say I wish Posted: 9/26/2009 5:23:36 PM
I sigh that "I wish" sigh every time I'm in a store just to buy groceries only to realize I don't have enough cash and have to resort to pulling out that damned already over-balanced credit card instead. I wish I could just have enough cash to be able to, not only do the things I WANT to do, but what I HAVE to do, as well!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what? Posted: 9/26/2009 5:18:44 PM
I turned 45 in July, and the only down thing that hit me right square between the eyes was the fact that in a short 5 years I'll be FIFTY!! THAT'S what's depressing for me. The older I get the faster the years go and I'm so NOT ready to turn 50! I mean, hell, I still feel like I'm 21 - except for when I get out of bed with all the aches and pains that seemed to have come from nowhwere! And, what's with me coloring the grays out only to have them creep up again 3 weeks later?! What's up with that?! Yeah, I have to say, my inner child is screaming non-stop nowadays because the inevitable seems to get closer and closer and I feel I haven't even LIVED yet!!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Where Did My Music Link and List Of Posts Go? Posted: 9/4/2009 9:39:57 PM
Thanks, Ms. Taken. I'm sorry to see the five last posts removed permanently because that's how I kept up with whether there were new postings on subjects I either participated in or topics I started. I don't understanding the reasoning, (if there's actually a logical one), for this decision, but it's unfortunate that we, the profilers, don't have the option of keeping such a thing on our profiles viewable or not. Oh well, so much for democracy.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Where Did My Music Link and List Of Posts Go? [THREAD LOCKED] Posted: 9/4/2009 5:01:54 PM
My profile is now missing that imbeem or whatever it was called link and there used to be a list of a couple of posts that I either participated in or started that were also on my profile and now these features have been deleted. What happened?

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Can You Feel The Loneliness? Posted: 8/20/2009 12:32:11 PM
Thanks for the compliments. Much appreciated! It's so sad to admit this, but it's good to know that I'm NOT the only one who feels this way - I guess it's true what they say - misery DOES love company. However, this ISN'T the company I had in mind - then again, I'm not exactly MISERABLE, either. I just find some messages confusing. Some say, when you least expect it, he'll come your way...others say, if you don't go out and search for him, you'll never find him. SO WHICH IS IT??!! Make up your mind, already! LOL In any event, I AM living my life the best to my ability and can only hope for the best when it comes to finding romance. Of course, I'd REALLY like that to happen BEFORE the holidays!! Is that too much to ask?!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Can You Feel The Loneliness? Posted: 8/16/2009 8:07:59 PM
I am so sorry to read that. Hopefully, your "true love" (if there really is such a thing) is out there and the two of you will find each other very soon. In the meantime, join, what seems like the rest of the world, in a continuous search! Why this insists my messages are too short when I see others post one sentence, is beyond me! THERE! I hope THAT works!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Can You Feel The Loneliness? Posted: 8/16/2009 6:12:35 PM
The summer's coming to an end which means the holidays are right around the corner. Can you feel the loneliness coming along with them? Now, I'm not one to be considered normally a pesimistic person, but with each new year comes me getting a year older and still have no one to share my life and love with. Am I trying to make the best of it and doing my thing and living my life? Abso-freakin-lutely, but I AM HUMAN! I have needs and wants and desires and not all pertain to the sexual way. I DO want to share my remaining days on this earth with someone. I DON'T want to die alone. I DO want to share my bed with that special someone. Question is, where the hell IS HE?! Please say I'm not the only one who feels this way!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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What do men vs women consider to be RED FLAGS?. Posted: 6/14/2009 4:25:15 PM
If we've met already, it's the dreaded smothering thing - he calls constantly just to hear my voice and say nothing in particular. If we haven't met and we're still doing the email thing - then it's him getting sexually graphic way too soon! That's a COMPLETE turn off for me! "How big are your tits?" "How long a diick can you take?" Those stupid, inane questions! Flirting is one thing, but TMI when you barely know each other is another!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/10/2009 6:34:44 AM
Passionate Gent, Guilty. I'm the one that mentioned the interracial relationships. However, I spoke of the ones I witnessed when I visited London way back when. Now, I don't know anything about the divorce rate pertaining to such relationships in Europe, (I do believe they are more tolarant than we are here in the States), but it doesn't surprise me that the divorce rate here is higher when it comes to interracial relationships. Then again, the divorce rate here is high - period.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/10/2009 6:31:37 AM
GrandmaBooBoo, Don't think I WASN'T tempted to yell something back, but I guess my reflexes are slow because I was more astounded and dumbfounded then on-the-ready to spout out something in return! LOL Thank you so much for the kind words, I truly appreciate it. The move comes this Friday and right now I'm knee-deep in boxes all over the place!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/9/2009 8:56:30 PM
WOW, Saddle Tramp, I guess you're the exception to those "across the pond" that are tolerant when it comes to interracial relationships or other ethnicities to begin with. When I went to London years ago, it comforted me to see interracial couples walk hand in hand and see that no one gave them the time of day in as far as glaring and staring - but I'm sure you aren't the accepting type. How small-minded of you - sad.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/7/2009 10:24:13 PM
What amazes me with some of these comments is how everyone is focusing on the fact that I referred to Obama as a Black president as if that were the sole topic of the discussion. It was just one PART of it, people - just making a statement. It is what it is. Move on, already.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Dating exclusively outside your own race? Posted: 6/7/2009 7:26:00 PM
I fall under this category. My preference, initially, was dating Caucasian men exclusively, but I'm now broadening my horizons to include Hispanic men. As for whether this annoys others, I particularly don't care. They have nothing to do with my social life nor do I care to hear their opinions on the matter. This was a concious decision on my part to date whom I date and I feel that has nothing to do with anyone else other than the person I'm dating at the time, (which is no one right now, by the way!) Hey, just puttin' it out there!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/7/2009 6:48:12 PM
XoticDeeva, Yeah, after forking out a good chunk of change, my car DID get fixed! Thanks! LOL Unfortunately, you're right - like so many others here have expressed, that stupid word really ISN'T going away anytime soon. It just takes me aback when I still hear it, y'know? And, when it's spouted out at ME (rarely, thank God), it really throws me for a loop. It's something I'll never get used to hearing, y'know?

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/7/2009 7:38:04 AM
WOW, PEOPLE, SUCH VENOM! This was just something I wanted to start as a DISCUSSION, not as an "attention getter". You can have your eyes on me all you want Marial, if you've got nothing better to do, but trust me, while your eyes are on me, you'll be missing out on others who really ARE starting trouble. I really thought that people could discuss this topic in a mature manner but I can see that's not the case, (at least for some). What I DON'T want is for this thread to turn into a "race war" of any kind. I WANT people to write how they feel about the issue but there's no need to get personal about it. I KNOW Black people use this word in rap music and the like, and I'm not saying that it's right! I liked rap music "back in the day" when topics were discussed in the words and there were songs about happiness and just enjoying life. Then came "gangsta rap" and that's when everything in that particular part of the music world changed. THAT'S the rap I can't stand! The ones where "btchs & ho's" are used in every lyric along WITH the word "nger". I just keep asking myself, "WHY?" If it makes anyone feel better to attack me for starting this topic, then so be it - it's a free country and you're entitled to write whatever you want - I get that - but at least be INTELLIGENT enough to UNDERSTAND that the topic DOES exist in this world and WE'RE ALL PART OF IT. Now, if you choose to remain on the path of attacking me - fine, I'm an adult, I can handle it. Crap like this happens from time to time, I get it. But, ask yourself WHY you feel the need to go on the attack on ME when it's just the TOPIC ITSELF that's fueling your anger and really all I want to have a discussion on. Believe me, I'll understand if this entire post gets deleted but I'll also be saddened by the fact that it HAS to be only because in order for human beings to understand one another, we HAVE to have discussions such as this one. I'm not necessarily referring to the "N" word, but basically writing about TOLERANCE. This could've easily been about me walking down the street and being yelled racial epitaphs about being an Iranian, Hindu, Egyptian, WHATEVER and people would still be bashing me about it. The more things change, unfortunately, the more things remain the same. There will ALWAYS be a lack of tolerance and there will ALWAYS be small-minded people that feel oh so much better about themselves for having to spout out racial slurs or attack others on a forum thread . It is what it is, I suppose. That's what makes the world go 'round...so sad.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/7/2009 7:17:46 AM
Marial92, All good points were made in your post and I appreciate everything written. However, had we not known Barak Obama's background, (born in Hawaii, white mother, black father, etc.), and just LOOKED at him - what color is he in your eyes? What jumps out at you the second you see him? I DON'T think the word will ever go away - that wasn't my point. What I was trying to say was, in the year 2009, we've come this far TO have a, (yes), BLACK President and yet, there are small-minded individuals out there still using a term coined way back when to continue to hurt people. (Notice I said PEOPLE and not JUST Black people). I understand ignorance goes both ways. Yes, there are Black people who feel that now that we do have a Black president it's their RIGHT to flex their muscles and show white people that we've "over come". I'm not saying that's right, either! In my opinion, you treat people the way you want to be treated and that's just that - but then again, that's me. Not everyone feels that way - unfortunately. And, bringing up Al Sharpton - HUH??? What's up with THAT?! No, I'm NOT trying to "start something". This may be a controversial topic, but it's a topic that exists still to this day (obviously). What's wrong with wanting to know people's opinions on the matter? Can't we even DISCUSS this? No need for it to be buried under the rug when it's obviously still quite prevalent in this world. The people who DO feel the need to "start something" are those who DO want to rile people up - they have nothing better to do and obviously aren't mature enough to have this discussion.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Quirky Habits Posted: 6/6/2009 9:14:12 PM
Rune, Thanks so much for that link! I AM iron deficient and I'm anemic! I've stopped taking my iron pills for some reason but I guess I better go back to taking them on a regular basis and perhaps I'll notice the ice-chewing will lessen. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Quirky Habits Posted: 6/6/2009 3:35:28 PM
I use a fan to sleep, as well. But, a REALLY quirky habit I have is I crunch ice cubes! Of course, this could be because of sexual frustration, (or so I've heard that as a reason), but I LOVE ice cubes! I take out a tray and I literally pop 'em in my mouth and chew on them until the entire tray is empty. Then I go, fill it up with water, place it back in the freezer and go for tray number 2. (I have 4 trays all together). I sometimes don't stop chewing until my stomach is so full of water that I just can't chew on another piece! Now, THAT'S a quirky habit!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/6/2009 3:13:34 PM
"If you label yourself that, people will refer to you as that term. " How can one person, just by looking at them, determine whether they label themselves by that term or not? I'm black, yes, but the "N" word? Ummm...no! I never have, nor ever WILL label myself as that - but would YOU know that by just looking at me?!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/6/2009 1:39:52 PM
j in sd Amazing how others, whether they agree with my post or not, have the backbone to show their face in a picture - yet, there you are - spouting out little spurts of noise and not even man/woman enough to show your face. If you're going to do nothing but criticize, have the decency to do it openly without having to hide behind your nonsense.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/5/2009 9:34:48 PM
RLC89, I couldn't agree with you more! The rap world thinks that by "owning" the word it diminishes it's power. Personally, I happen to abhor that way of thinking and can't understand it for the life of me! That's like if a rapist proudly claimed that's exactly what he was and did for a living! I MEAN, COME ON! Surely, we have made giant leaps and bounds to BETTER ourselves, not perpetuate the stereotype. But, me not ever being a fan of the rap world to begin with, I suppose I'll never understand that logic and how that type of "music" can be accepted in the first place - I suppose that's where freedom of speech comes into play but that's a different topic all together!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/5/2009 9:28:39 PM
Wildcard74, Believe me, I was more upset that my car broke down and had to be towed, than letting that moron get under my skin! LOL The car ruined my entire day and not only that, but I had to eventually leave the car at the towing place because of it's electrical problems and I had to actually have Enterprise come and pick me up so I could go rent a car for a day! THAT'S what REALLY ticked me off!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The N Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/5/2009 9:23:58 PM
Chrispickle, That wasn't my intent to feed into the racist garbage, however, it still is a hot button topic that obviously won't go away anytime soon and I just wanted opinions on the matter. I don't mean to start a race war at all. But, I am keeping my head up and even though it's a bothersome word to ME, I really DON'T worry about it.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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The "N" Word Still Used in 2009! Posted: 6/5/2009 8:43:45 PM
My car decided to break down a couple of days ago as I was on my way from Forest Hills, NY to Great Neck, Long Island where I'm in the process of moving to. As I waited in my car for Triple A to come and rescue me, my windows were half way rolled down and a passing white van with an idiot on the passenger side drove by and he yelled out, "Hey "Nig--, get that piece of sh-t off the road!" Now, being a female alone in the car, it startled me and truly took me off-guard. I flared up in anger for a split second but quickly calmed down, shook my head and said to myself, "What an ass----!" I know Great Neck, NY is a predominantly white area out on Long Island, but really, people, is this going to be the norm where we now have a black President and yet that horrific word is still being used? Are minds still that small even after all these years? What's your take on the use of this word? Should black people now be able to just shrug it off or will it always be a deep-rooted and hurtful word that will never lose its power? What are your thoughts?

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Unemployed & Changing Careers Posted: 5/28/2009 6:13:14 AM
LadySqueak, KEEP HOPE ALIVE! I know exactly how you feel about panicking. I'm in that boat with you! But, just KNOW deep down that something WILL turn up. Right now, I'd just be satisfied working - and perhaps fiddling with Photoshop on the side. If I could actually get a job in a publishing company or literary agency where book covers are created, I could perhaps sneak down to the graphics department to see just how the magic is created through all those wonderful programs like Photoshop, Illustrator and/or InDesign.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Problems with POF Posted: 4/22/2009 12:10:30 AM
I just keep getting the same pitiful pictures of men that, in no way, would I be interested in. And, it doesn't matter how long it's been since my last viewing of that specific part, it's STILL the same, tired lookin' men! So, you mean to tell me, they're the ONLY men who think I'm hot??? Well, beggars can't be choosers, I suppose - I should be flattered...right?

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Unemployed & Changing Careers Posted: 4/17/2009 4:59:18 PM
Thanks, kantc, but I'm not doing this with any grants. This is all out of pocket money, and if the desktop publishing doesn't work out, I can still fall back on my administrative skills. It's really what I'm best at, anyway, but it never hurts to widen my options, especially now that I'm excited to do so, and am taking the proper course of action. And, who knows - if I really get good at it, maybe I can go into business for myself! People will always want newsletters created, menus created for restaurants, magazine and book covers, etc. I don't think the advertising world has much to worry about - I know I won't!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Unemployed & Changing Careers Posted: 4/17/2009 4:53:00 PM
Observant, Thanks for the well-wishes! Believe me, I'll need 'em! It didn't even take being interested in Photoshop to realize how little I knew! For example, I'm taking these courses from my alma mater and it's changed so much that when I went to register, I didn't even recognize the campus! And, I went there for FIVE (not even four - FIVE) years! But, I'd graduated in 1987! Fast-forward 22 years later and you can imagine how much the campus changed!!! I had to actually stop a student and ask him where the registration was taking place and this had been a building I'd frequented quite often for my classes!!! The irony is that now, the courses that I AM taking are in buildings I'd NEVER been in before but had always been on the campus! Go figure! Anyway, I'm having a blast - unemployment be damned! LOL

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Unemployed & Changing Careers Posted: 4/17/2009 4:30:46 PM
We must be separated in birth - YEARS apart! LOL! I feel my path in life has ALWAYS been to do things a bit later than most! (And, that even includes losing my virginity!) I felt strongly about actually going TO school also, as opposed to doing the online education thing. It's so bizarre because I was NOT fond of school growing up but now, I can hardly wait for classes to begin! Hell, I'm even anxiously awaiting for the SUMMER course book to come out so I can check out what will be offered then!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Unemployed & Changing Careers Posted: 4/17/2009 3:42:53 PM
I know EXACTLY what you mean! I became way TOO complacent for 17 years at my last position! But, as they say, it really never IS ever too late! Which is why I didn't hesitate to begin taking evening courses of the subjects that will HOPEFULLY lead me to a field that I will actually enjoy AND that pays well!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Unemployed & Changing Careers Posted: 4/17/2009 3:03:49 PM
How many of us out there are unemployed but finding out that we'd like to shift careers? I find myself in this predicament right now. As it turns out, my newfound interest is desktop publishing and I'm taking continuing education courses to further my knowledge in this field by starting out with an Adobe Photoshop course. It starts next Tuesday and I can hardly wait!! I've dabbled in creating PowerPoint presentations and I've also taken a Microsoft Publisher course. I just find that my true calling seems to be geared toward the more creative field. The last job I had was as an Office Manager and, although, I created a few PowerPoint presentations, they really didn't allow for much creativity in as far as slide shows and the like. I know I can't be the only one that seems to be walking down a different professional path. Who else is joining me in this new adventure of life while still on the search for a job?

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Susan Boyle on Britain's got talent. Posted: 4/16/2009 6:23:10 AM
jdeezero08, Y'know something - you're right! It really ISN'T so hard to find an ugly person and write some lines. I mean, look at YOU, after all! I'm not referring to your looks, but your attitude and cynicism! And, lets just say, for the sake of argument, that it WAS all staged - don't you get the MESSAGE?! Has life kicked you in the ass SO damn hard that you've become completely and utterly bitter to such possibilities and beauty?! Have you not also heard that if you have nothing nice to say, say NOTHING at all?! You're, by far, a complete and utter buzzkill, buddy!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Susan Boyle on Britain's got talent. Posted: 4/15/2009 5:48:57 PM
This was actually a topic on The View this morning and a girlfriend of mine emailed the youtube link to me last night. I was moved, and ashamed of myself, all in the same breath. I, too, immediately rolled my eyes and began giggling even before she opened her mouth because I just "KNEW" what I was about to watch would be an absolute disaster! Instead, she not only shut ME up, but shut up the judges, as well! I was ESPECIALLY thrilled to see Simon's eyes practically pop out of HIS head!! I'm sorry I didn't answer your question, but I really believe that we ALL should learn something from this video - NEVER, EVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER!!!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Its only a stereotype ... not everyone agrees (Cougar show) Posted: 4/15/2009 5:45:29 PM
Of course you're entitled to hate the term, "cougar", but I don't see what you mean when you say it's a stereotype. Is it all of a sudden that older women immediately want younger men? I don't find that to be the case at all. Personally, the term doesn't phase me one bit. Hell, a few years back I had a summer fling with a then 25 year old and it was great! Some women, (not necessarily myself), find the term empowering, in fact. Men have been holding this "priveledge" for years, why should it be a derogatory thing when a woman does it? Isn't what's good for the goose, good for the gander in this particular case? Why is it all right to have a show like "The Bachelor" on but not this new cougar show?! The only difference is the "star" is a woman and not a man. But, in The Bachelor, there are older men seeking out younger women - that gets a yawn, but when it's in reverse, all of a sudden it's "shocking". I don't get what the big deal is.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Do you thinkl the 7 year Itch is just a myth? Posted: 4/15/2009 3:57:40 PM
I don't know what it is about that magic #7, but that's how long my ex and I wound up living together and I ended it after the 7th year. We were living together but, in all honesty, things began deteriorating after year 5. I wanted to leave then, but he begged me to stay and I so didn't want to break his heart, so I stuck it out for 2 more years. However, after realizing that the passion and attraction was gone and we were living like roommates instead of lovers, I couldn't live like that any longer. And, it ended exactly after 7 years. I don't believe it's just a "man" thing at all. Hell, it happened to me!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Hulk Hogan States That he Totally Understands O.J. as it pertains to his relationship with his Ex Posted: 4/15/2009 3:02:04 PM
Some people say stupid things out of anger and bitterness. I think this is one of those cases. I'm sure, in hindsight, he's gonna be apologetic for his phrasing, but at the same time, what his ex did to him - and with WHOM - it's pretty understandable where the sentiment is coming from.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Cologne for your man? Posted: 4/15/2009 2:53:13 PM
Boy, am I dating myself with this reply, but here goes: Aqua Velva and English Leather and Old Spice! Now, Paco Rabonne used to do it for me, also, but those earlier ones really turn my head! Hey, just as long as the guy smells nice to begin with - cologne or no cologne - that will always pass the test with me!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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younger men flirting with women Posted: 4/15/2009 2:49:34 PM
I just responded to a similar question on another post so I'm just pasting what I wrote over there, here: Are you kiddin' me? WHOO HOOO is what I say! Whip out the party favors! I do enjoy being complimented by a younger man! Makes me feel like I've still "got it", y'know? Now, as for the woowing in hopes of a relationship, there's a fine line there. I'm 44 so being seriously pursued by a 20-something is completely out of the question. I mean, grant it, I'd be flattered as all hell, but to try to have an actual RELATIONSHIP with someone that young, I'm afraid not. He wants to do things that to me are "been there, done that" and unfortunately, you can't turn back the hands of time. Now, if a guy is in his mid-to-late 30s, THEN I'll contemplate the idea, if he's mature and 100% serious about wanting a real relationship. By then, I would HOPE that he's gotten a lot out of his system, (having sewn a few wild oats), and is thinking more along the lines of a future with someone. But, that's ALSO a pretty fine line because he may be thinking "kids" - and at my age, it would be quite risky for both me and the child, and I wouldn't want to GO through that, much less put HIM and the BABY through that. So, if he's 100% sure that he DOESN'T want kids, then that makes things a lot easier. Although, the alternative is adoption - but not many men want to raise someone else's child. Some feel rather strongly about their own spawn. LOL! But, in conclusion of answering your question, I have absolutely no qualms about receiving attention from a "youngin'" whatsoever! LOL

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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College & Dating over 45 Posted: 4/15/2009 2:39:31 PM
First and foremost, BRAVO for going back to college!! I'm attending continuing education courses myself and I agree 100% - it's NEVER too late! If you're open and honest with your potential partner about what you've got going on with your life right now, I don't see what the problem is. She knows you work full-time (congrats to that in this economy, by the way, from one who was let go from my position back in November and have yet to get another job), and she also knows you're going to school, so that being on the table, she should understand if you can't wine and dine her every night. If she's understanding, she'll support you, but make sure TO take the time to raise your nose from the books every once in a while, just to reassure her that she's not in the TRUNK of the car, but temporarily only in the BACKSEAT! LOL I would have no problems whatsoever dating someone who only wants to enrich his life and be more of a well-rounded individual - as long as the lines of communication remain open, (an email, text and/or phone call once in a while). Hell, I'd be getting something out of it, as well - a man who's got ambition on his mind! And, really, what woman wouldn't want THAT?!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man? Posted: 4/15/2009 2:22:44 PM
Are you kiddin' me? WHOO HOOO is what I say! Whip out the party favors! I do enjoy being complimented by a younger man! Makes me feel like I've still "got it", y'know? Now, as for the woowing in hopes of a relationship, there's a fine line there. I'm 44 so being seriously pursued by a 20-something is completely out of the question. I mean, grant it, I'd be flattered as all hell, but to try to have an actual RELATIONSHIP with someone that young, I'm afraid not. He wants to do things that to me are "been there, done that" and unfortunately, you can't turn back the hands of time. Now, if a guy is in his mid-to-late 30s, THEN I'll contemplate the idea, if he's mature and 100% serious about wanting a real relationship. By then, I would HOPE that he's gotten a lot out of his system, (having sewn a few wild oats), and is thinking more along the lines of a future with someone. But, that's ALSO a pretty fine line because he may be thinking "kids" - and at my age, it would be quite risky for both me and the child, and I wouldn't want to GO through that, much less put HIM and the BABY through that. So, if he's 100% sure that he DOESN'T want kids, then that makes things a lot easier. Although, the alternative is adoption - but not many men want to raise someone else's child. Some feel rather strongly about their own spawn. LOL! But, in conclusion of answering your question, I have absolutely no qualms about receiving attention from a "youngin'" whatsoever! LOL

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Adobe Photoshop & ImageReady CS 8.0 Posted: 4/13/2009 4:26:50 PM
I just registered for a course in Adobe Photoshop. I don't know what version the instructor will be using while teaching, so I bought two really good books at Barnes & Noble - Photoshop CS4 and Elements 7. I ordered the CS2, so I should receive that by the end of the week. Just browsing through the books, I'm already excited at so many possibilities! I've also been watching tutorials on youtube - awesome stuff! Yeah, I can see how this can become addictive! I'm actually taking the course because I'd like to enter the field of Desktop Publishing. I know absolutely NOTHING about it, but doing some research and reading up on it hasn't been dull in the least! I look forward to entering this field and possibly being able to actually make some money out of it!!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

So you have a degree, Was it worth it? Posted: 4/13/2009 2:57:32 PM
Boy, is 20/20 hindsight in my particular case. Although I got a B.A. in Communications, the courses I took got me but so far. Then again, I wanted to become an actress and conquer Broadway! Little did I know that going from audition to audition to audition - with NO INCOME - would take its toll on the fact that I couldn't make my car payments and I was still living at home! That was when reality slapped me square in the jaw and said, "SNAP OUT OF IT!" Now, whose to say if I were more committed and more ambitious to follow that dream that I couldn't have made it - I'll never know. But, the fact that constant rejection finally took its toll was a message to myself stating that I didn't have that tough enough skin one needs in order to pursue that career in show business. Fast forward to me being in my mid 40s, and presently unemployed due to being let go from a job I attended for 17 years. My Communications degree didn't go completely to waste, but the courses that I took, (all drama related), didn't quite come in handy in what I needed to get a really good job. So, what I had to do was start all over again - to a certain "degree" (pardon the pun!). After taking courses to advance my administrative skills, like Word, PowerPoint, Excel, I decided to take courses that seemed interesting to me - like Microsoft Publisher and I'll be taking Adobe Photoshop next week. Come to find out after taking PowerPoint and Publisher, that I am really tapping into my creative side and that continuing to take courses such as these, can open up a whole new career for me in Desktop Publishing! I've been researching it and viewing tutorials in Photoshop and expanding my knowledge on the subject. This is something that fascinates me and that I just may be happy in! To answer your question, was my degree worth it? Yes. To have a degree opens doors for you in the work world. It gives the employer confidence in the fact that you're a step above someone who doesn't have a degree. That doesn't make the person that doesn't have a degree worthless - NOT IN THE LEAST - but on paper (resume), it shows that this person is more knowledgeable in the field that they are applying for. It always helps to have a degree. It gets your foot in the door. Whether that door opens up fully, well, that's left up to chance, but without a degree, that foot isn't even coming close to that door. So, it's always a good thing to have one - even if the job you go for doesn't require one. It can only be a help - never a hindrance.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Starting a new career over 40 Posted: 4/13/2009 2:39:59 PM
Kasia, I'm sorry if you felt I was attacking your profile. That wasn't my intention whatsoever. I just wanted to point out a certain factor. But, onward and upward. If you'd like some encouragement outside of the forum, I'd be more than willing to write to you so we could bounce off ideas and give each other encouragement in our similar circumstances. I come in peace! Feel free to drop me a line if you'd like. I welcome all emails.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

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Starting a new career over 40 Posted: 4/13/2009 9:32:15 AM
Just another piece of advice, Kasia...I, too, read your profile and I think you should really change it and write something more honest. Are you really looking for a man between the ages of 92 and 97??? Are you really a hand-model?? People want to believe what they read to be somewhat truthful and right now, you're not being that at all. With your present situation, maybe you should revise your profile to say that you're a mother and are looking to go back to school. True, not all men may find these facts attractive, but it's your job to separate the wheat from the chaf...the real men from the boys. In being honest, you may find a truly honest man that is not only willing to date you, but support you in your life's decision and you may find a true friend in that man, along with something long-lasting. If you're looking for a change in your life, your best bet is to start with yourself - not only when it comes to your education, but something as simple as your POF profile, as well. No judgement - just words of advice, as well as encouragement.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

Starting a new career over 40 Posted: 4/12/2009 9:05:37 PM
You're so NOT alone! I'm 44, single and live in an apartment that I will have to move out of before August. I was let go from my job back in November and I'm presently on unemployment and my severance will be coming to an end soon. What I'm doing, while looking for employment, is taking continuing education courses and I'm realizing that I want to enter into the field of desktop publishing - something COMPLETELY different that my Office Manager position I had for the past 17 years! Sure, I'm skeptical and unsure, but maybe what's happened to me is what NEEDED to happen in order for me to turn this new corner in my life. Don't feel hopeless!! Go back to school! (Trust me, it's not as scary the second time around!) It will open doors for you. You can talk to teachers about your situation and they can guide you on the path that's right for you. It really doesn't suck as badly as you might think. All you have to do is take that first step and not waste any time! It'll turn out to be the best thing you ever did!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

How's The Dating Coming Along Now That You're Unemployed? Posted: 3/13/2009 8:04:31 PM
Korky, although it's rather immature of you to admit to such stupidity as actually delighting in the misery of others, it's rather ignorant of you to presume that most of us who have been let go actually DESERVE it. On the other hand, I do get your bottom line message. However, Kounselor, KARMA'S a **** so I'd be careful if I were you to continue revelling in the misery of others. What goes around, comes around, my friend!

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

How's The Dating Coming Along Now That You're Unemployed? Posted: 3/11/2009 3:32:10 PM
1Lilly, I'm doing exactly what you're doing! With being at my job for 17 years, I wound up with a decent severance and am also going to school (got a class tonight, as a matter of fact), so it's not like I'm NOT doing what I'm supposed to be doing. In fact, if someone told me I'd be going BACK to school after college, I'd have laughed them off this planet, but as you can see, never say never, right? But, keeping within the topic, it just would be nice to be in the predicament I'm in and have someone's shoulder to lean on who's mature enough to understand, y'know?

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

How's The Dating Coming Along Now That You're Unemployed? Posted: 3/9/2009 11:05:45 PM
Thanks for those kind words, Red! Nice words can always be a comfort in times of need such as these! I appreciate it - thank you! Apparently, this message is too short to be posted, so let me say that I definitely agree with your message of all of us pulling together and keeping hope alive and what-not! There - let's see if this time the message is long enough to be posted.

NancyGooGoo

Joined: 12/17/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through? Posted: 3/9/2009 10:48:57 PM
Well, I turn 45 this year and I've never been married and I don't have kids, but I'm certainly not going through a mid-life crisis, either! Presently, I'm going through an unemployed crisis, but that's another story. Where, in society is it written in stone that people HAVE to get married and HAVE to have kids, anyway? Am I committing a crime by not following this "golden rule" of life? Should I now be banished from humanity because I chose a different path for myself? Well, as far as the not wanting kids - that's all me - but I didn't CHOOSE to be single this far in life. I WANT to share my life with a man. There just doesn't seem to be any single, sensational, intelligent, good-looking ones out there that want to share their life with ME! So, in a case like this, what is a person to do? Commit suicide or continue living life to the best of their ability? I choose the latter, brother!!

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