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BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

Msg: 27 (view)

Not making a good first impression? Posted: 5/24/2013 6:04:44 PM
It's probably because your new pic is so great. (Yes, it really is -- no sarcasm.). Plus, you're wearing red, which has been proven to attract the opposite sex. Maybe the color red makes them forget themselves! LOL

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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She Left Me For A Tattoo Artist Band Biker Mechanic Posted: 5/18/2013 9:06:36 PM
This has got to be the title of a country song! Red Jello has it pegged. LOL

bicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Am I being scammed? Posted: 5/17/2013 5:00:51 PM
As soon as you deposit the check, you'd be engaging in behavior that would make you an accomplice to this scammer. The authorities would find you easily and charge you with a crime, while the scammer mastermind would never be found. If something seems to be too good to be true, then it is.

bicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Motorcycles Posted: 5/17/2013 4:52:05 PM
Just wondering why so many men on this dating site ride motorcycles. Because they like to? It's a pretty popular mode of transportation. To me, it's a turnoff when I see photos of bikes on a man's profile. Then you push the "next" button. Simple! A couple of years ago I dated a guy who would ONLY ride his motorcycle, all four seasons, because he had been in a horrific car accident that left him with serious injuries. He rode BMWs -- rather quiet bikes -- and his favorite cycle had a big sidecar which I rode in. (He also rode bicycles for exercise.) Although it didn't work out between us for various reasons, I understood why he rode motorcycles, particularly after the fun rides I had in the sidecar. I wouldn't take up motorcycling myself, but it wasn't a big deal to me if he preferred his motorcycles to a car.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Your Personal Philosophy Posted: 5/10/2013 7:08:35 PM
My personal philosophies: be grateful for what you have rather than unhappy because of what you don't have (a paraphrase of something Goethe said); be content with simple things and you'll be content almost all the time; be flexible because there's also enjoyment to be had in Plan B even if Plan A doesn't work out; try to be kind to others as much as possible. I'm always aware that I'm a fallible human and will make mistakes, just as other people are also human and also make mistakes. I try to forgive myself, and others, for mistakes made, and try to do better next time.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Why did you pick the name you did? Posted: 5/10/2013 6:56:48 PM
BicyclingGal...I love bicycling, always have.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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songs that scared us when we were kids Posted: 5/10/2013 6:51:35 PM
Timothy" by The Bouys, 1971. Very creepy. About a murder and cannibalism. . Ugh, I hated that song, still gives me the shivers.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Motivation to exercise after 40 Posted: 5/10/2013 6:04:52 PM
my body gets conditioned to do one type exercise very quickly and that is when I start to notice I am not achieving my goals That is so true, and why it's good to mix up workouts and different sports so that you don't plateau and get stuck at the same level. My experience with weights is, if I use dumbbells I can work different parts of different muscles by using different positions. For me it's more challenging than being on a machine which works the same muscles in the same way all the time. What motivates me? I LOVE HIKING. . That's how I feel about biking (although I do like hiking very much). If you find an activity that you love, it's a joy to engage in that activity just as much as you can. That's really the motivation to exercise no matter what age you are -- doing something you love.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Motivation to exercise after 40 Posted: 5/9/2013 6:39:17 PM
I guess in essence exercise is my hobby, along with my love of cooking, hence the need to exercise. True -- if a person loves to cook and bake, he or she should also have working out as a hobby to balance all the calories in, I also think that as we age we should consider taking up different types of exercise so we have a fall back in case we have to give something up due to injury or physical limitation. I tore cartilage in my knee 6 months ago and had to give up the elliptical temporarily and resort to swimming, which I find boring. But I should really discipline myself to brush up my swimming skills in case that happens again. Plus, I think there's research indicating that your brain develops new neural pathways when you pick up a new sport, so you could help yourself avoid dementia as well.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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How does one let things go? Posted: 5/8/2013 7:53:40 PM
Wait, she's crazy jealous, too? Sounds like she takes the position that her promises can be broken, rules don't apply to her, but you'd better toe the line or else she'll give you hell. She is not a person you want to have a relationship with.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Would you 'date' a guy with mental health issues? Posted: 5/4/2013 8:42:56 PM
I know others have said this, but I'll chime in anyway: Never again. Not if he was the last man on earth. Having suffered through a marriage with a mentally ill spouse, having tried to start a relationship with a guy whose mental health went south because he was not over his marriage, being hassled by said ex-husband whose mental health is getting worse --- nope. Never again. Not until he's mentally healthy.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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a good book on online dating advice? Posted: 5/1/2013 5:09:38 PM
Psychology Today has excellent articles about online dating and relationships. I agree, and the articles are free. Go to their site and search for "The Attraction Doctor" -- he writes a blog discussing psychological research in relationships. Very interesting stuff.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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When did burning candles get so complicated?! Posted: 4/29/2013 6:39:57 PM
Yup, get candles that use batteries. Then the cat won't light its tail on fire as it walks by!

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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downgrading to lower education or profession on profile Posted: 4/27/2013 7:54:30 AM
Where the issues come out in dating, is when they assume ALL men are like their workplace 'competition' - and dates get treated with competitive hostility instead of romantic grace...........I really hope some women can take the hint that if you don't allow your man to be a gentleman/hero once in a while, you're not letting him be happy. Generalizations sbout women are going to get you into trouble, Dan. You may have had some experiences like this with women who have advanced degrees or have professions instead of jobs, but trust me, we are not all the same. Personally I have NEVER treated a date with "competitive hostility" (or hostility of any other sort, for that matter) -- in my field, one is expected to treat business competitors with politeness and diplomacy, so even if I did treat a date like a competitor he would still be treated well. I also don't think that it's accurate to generalize about all men. Some men appreciate women who are equal partners -- which may mean paying her own way on a date, if that's what the two of them agree upon. Some men like to discuss, negotiate and compromise issues arising in a relationship rather than falling back on assumptions and stereotypes about gender roles which may or may not be accurate. Some men communicate their needs and wants rather than expect women to read their minds -- those are the kind of guys I prefer to date. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder concerning women with advanced degrees. Maybe it would be helpful for you to examine your misconceptions rather than stereotype professional women as lazy, dependent, hostile, pushy broads who won't let men be "heroes" (whatever that means). You never know, one of those pushy broads could one day become your boss, and then what will you do? :-) BTW, in case you were wondering, my parents were lower middle class, neither graduated from college, and I took out student loans and worked during school to finance my education.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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downgrading to lower education or profession on profile Posted: 4/26/2013 5:56:00 PM
BicyclingGal, Suppose a man passed over your profile when you stated your profession literally, and the same man contacted you when you used a more vague term. Does that say anything about him that would make you hesitant? I realize it depends on the specific profession and the public's stereotypes attached to it, but I'm still interested in your personal take. Oh, absolutely. It might tell me that he hates my profession, which is not a good thing since I've been in it for 28 years now and it pays the bills. It might signal that he doesn't like to date or partner with women who have higher education, perhaps more education than he does. It might indicate that he's had experience with others who are in my profession and it didn't go well for him. I had a first meet with one guy whose father and brother were in the same profession as I, and it was clear to me from his life story (which he freely told) that his whole life had been spent in rebelling against joining this profession and doing the opposite (flunking out of college, getting into drugs and alcohol, marrying inappropriate women several times, etc.). I think that each person dating or partnering has to respect the other's career or profession, or the relationship won't go well from the start. What's also interesting is that way back when I was on the Jewish dating site JDate and listed my true degree and profession on my profile, I had to beat dates off with a stick because not only were they not put off by my profession, they actively sought out women with advanced degrees. Go figure. A vast majority of women who set out to get these [advanced] degrees bascially KNEW nobody was going to come along and rescue and take care of us. So we went out, got the education and training to make ourselves more marketable, employable, and prepared for what life may throw our way. Amen, sista. For me it wasn't the idea that I wanted a man to rescue me or thought that no man ever would, it was my mom preaching to me that I needed to get a good career (and have a backup career, too) so that I would never have to rely on a man to support me. Best advice I've ever received.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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downgrading to lower education or profession on profile Posted: 4/25/2013 7:31:13 PM
I was hoping one of the women who changed their degrees on their profile would comment here and share their experiences, but given the responses it's not surprising they're staying away. To me stating your degree in the little box is a non-issue: POF asks for a simple fact, you give it. There's also a big difference between outright lying and being non-specific. Okay, I'll bite, although to post here is to open oneself up to attack, IMO. I am nonspecific about my degree and my job on my profile, and it is a tactical move on my part. I work in a profession and field about which many people have strong opinions, sometimes very strong and polarized. I've found through the years of online dating that if I put my specific degree and precise profession on my profile then I am passed by more often than not. If I am vaguer about my career and degree (yet still truthful) then at the first meet guys are pleasantly surprised that (a) I am nice, and (b) I don't fit the stereotype, so it becomes a nonissue. Plus, dates have told me that it's great to find a woman who has a good solid steady career, doesn't expect the guy to always pay, and sometimes treats him to dinner or pays for the date. So why would I shoot myself in the foot when I can be a little vaguer and have good luck getting first meets and subsequent dates? I haven't read the rest of the posts here but hopefully this explains where I'm coming from.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Ultra match feature Posted: 4/14/2013 6:11:00 PM
^^^^^The forums were also removed from my top banner. I've had a couple of days of worry thinking the forums were eliminated, but just now I was able to access them through a link to a POF event. I wonder if the POF gods are thinking I am simply spending too much time on the forums, and not enough time looking for a date? (They'd be right!). So now I can waste my time again, hurray! LOL

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Relocating For The Over 45 Crowd..... Posted: 4/11/2013 4:05:49 PM
Once my son is in and out of college, then yes, I would. Perhaps near the Smokies --Knoxville, maybe? Or someplace where I can bike most months of the year.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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over 50 then look at this Posted: 4/10/2013 9:08:25 PM
I know I'm bad at math, but these numbers just don't add up. Want some cheese with your whine, OP?

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook? Posted: 4/9/2013 7:21:53 PM
My ex-husband stalks me on FB, I recently found out. Luckily the only things I have ever posted are about what I am cooking, what the weather is like, and how far I biked. I don't share or like any of those "cause" pages, IMO that's ridiculous.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Do you ask if his/her parents are still alive? Posted: 4/9/2013 7:13:56 PM
Yes, I would ask and have asked. I also ask if his parents are married or divorced. I was a caregiver for my mom for the last 7 years of her life, and it is difficult. If a date is or will be caring for elderly parents, I would not necessarily consider it a red flag but could share my experience and thoughts with him if he wanted me to, in case it is helpful. In fact I am doing that right now with a friend, and he appreciates my insights while I sympathize with his situation, so it's a win-win. ETA: If my potential date was already a caregiver, I might be careful about getting too involved, depending on his situation. As others have said, caregiving drains you and you don't always have the emotional or physical energy to put into another relationship unless there are other family members, friends, or other support systems to help you.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Roger Ebert Thumbs up-thumbs down. Posted: 4/8/2013 6:35:47 PM
When I am thinking about seeing a movie, I visit Roger Ebert's website and see if he has written a review for it. I found his opinions to be close to mine. I wonder whether his site will stay up, but feature reviews from other critics going forward?

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Bacon Hater! Worst/funniest date evah! Posted: 4/8/2013 6:19:21 PM
^^^ And there are some Jewish guys who find bacon so delectable that they take a "don't ask, don't tell" attitude towards it. I had a friend like that. We went out to lunch one day and he had the vegetarian plate, which included collard greens, among other things. He offered to give me a taste, and the greens clearly had bacon in 'em. That's when he told me his "don't ask, don't tell" mindset. I dated a guy last year who didn't like bacon. I cooked dinner for him one night and suggested making bacon-wrapped filets...he confessed he hated bacon. Needless to say, it didn't work out between us.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook? Posted: 4/7/2013 8:12:20 AM
OP, I'll answer your question with one of my own. Why do so many women believe in sweeping generalizations about men? Hmm, why do so many men posit sweeping generalizations about women? Men gain their satisfaction from what they think and what they do. Women gain their satisfaction from what they buy or who they talk to. By these standards, I must be a man! RFLOL

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Why are woman fascinated with height? Posted: 4/4/2013 7:39:41 PM
the last 3 guys I had dates with (last year) were on the shorter side. OK, 5' 10" is an exact height. What exactly is "on the shorter side"? You're 5' 3". Were they 5' 1"? 4' 11"? Or 5' 7"? Or 5' 5"? The latter two would still be taller than you, not shorter. I don't know how tall those guys were. I'm not sure I paid any attention, either by looking at their stated height on their profile, or noticing, or asking them. It's not a big issue for me. They may have been a little taller than me, but if so, not by much. I thought this thread was about women's fascination with height, and my comments were to the effect that it's not something I absolutely screen for in dating.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Motivation to exercise after 40 Posted: 4/4/2013 7:30:52 PM
Dragon, I've done many bike vacations over the years since 1989, the last 2 in 2010 and 2011. I don't keep track of my heart rate, sorry. You're right that the plural of anecdote is not evidence, but it's just never been a problem for me, despite biking hard 4-5 hours per day for a week. Guess I must be doing something right.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Motivation to exercise after 40 Posted: 4/3/2013 5:12:24 PM
intense exercise over an hour lowers one's immune system. I don't agree with that broad statement. I think the type of intense exercise that lowers one's immune system has to be day after day after day, for a long period of time, without adequate rest, like the marathon training you cite above^^^.. The times I've gone on weeklong bike vacations (60+ miles per day for 6 days) I have not gotten sick afterwards, never once. Nor have I gotten a cold after riding a century, or 75, or 50 miles. I may have gotten sick of biking, true, but that's not the kind of sick you mean. And when I've gone on hiking vacations where we hike 4-5 hours per day, I have not developed a physical illness like a cold afterwards either. I suspect you were in the process of developing a cold before you did the intense exercise.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Women don't go to the gym... Posted: 4/3/2013 4:58:37 PM
I think it depends on the gym/health club, and the time of day or night you go. You may want to visit a couple of gyms close to home and/or close to work to find one that fits you. I belong to a big health club with multiple sites around the city, and it can be quite busy there after work when all the younger crowd fits in their workout on their way home from work. Mornings are usually when the older folk are there working out and drinking the free coffee. Weekend mornings appear to be for socializing and are really busy. Most times there are lots of women of all ages, shapes, and sizes there, except for 8-9 p.m. when there's hardly anyone there.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Dealing with cigarette smoke Posted: 4/2/2013 4:22:22 PM
If you think dying from lung disease is quick and painless, you're delusional. +1 If any smoker witnessed the last years of a person who contracted COPD (emphysema/chronic bronchitis) from smoking, he or she might think twice about their cigs. The relentless steady loss of lung function, having to rest often when doing daily activities like brushing teeth or eating, tethered to oxygen 24/7, increasing anorexia due to the large amount of energy used in the struggle to breathe, having to take anti-anxiety meds and finally morphine to reduce the panic of drowning in your own mucus.......it's a terrifying death that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. And it takes a big toll on family caretakers. Oh, smokers will say, not every smoker contracts lung cancer, COPD, chronic bronchitis, it won't happen to me, we all gotta die someday, I might as well die doing what I love (smoking). Well, good luck with that, and hope you have good health insurance and lots of family to help you in your last years.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about? Posted: 4/2/2013 4:07:10 PM
Only one ex-BF, and only if since we split he had become mentally healthy and stopped letting his parents control his life. Since I suspect those things would be unlikely to happen, I would not go back to him.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Exercise bike,rower or treadmill?? Posted: 4/1/2013 6:19:19 PM
For me, the elliptical is best, and I agree with the poster who recommended interval training. Add some weight work 2-3 times per week, and you'll be fit and toned. ETA: But everyone has to find what works best for them. What works well for me won't necessarily be best for anyone else.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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in which ways are you older and wiser after your experience in dating sites? Posted: 4/1/2013 5:48:27 PM
I've learned to take dating slowly and not to buy new outfits for a date that may (and will likely) go nowhere. Along those same lines, I've learned not to get too excited about possibilities, but rather to stay in the moment and enjoy the present experience for what it is. That alone has made dating more fun. I've learned that I am a gem...this has been said to me more than once. However, to continue the analogy, I rarely find a jeweler who appreciates me. And I've learned to be fine with that. I've learned that there are a lot of damaged people out there, damaged physically, emotionally, or intellectually, and sometimes all three. I've learned that their damage is not always initially evident and sometimes takes a while to manifest. I've learned that it's better to be happy alone than to be miserable in dating. I've learned that sometimes, not always, ex-dates can turn into good friends. Guess I'm still learning.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Self conscious and hoping to join a gym Posted: 3/30/2013 5:43:08 PM
Get on a real bike, or go for a run. You'll enjoy it more. That way it's not exercise as a means to an end. Yes, but those of us who live where there are snowy winters can't always do that, nor is the snow always in good shape for x-country skiing or snowshoeing (or I may not have a couple of hours to do that). Going to the health club is a way to keep up my fitness in inclement weather. My diet isn't so bad, but my weakness is I work in an office which hosts a lot of meetings. Each meeting is catered and there is ALWAYS leftover food that goes in our kitchen for anyone to eat. It is SUCH good food that I find it hard to resist, even if I have already eaten my lunch. I'll do my best though haha. OP, you may find that as you get more fit, you will be proud of your improved physique and not want to wreck your hard work by eating the leftover food. At least that's my rationale for avoiding the doughnuts and cookies at work.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Great day Posted: 3/30/2013 5:28:31 PM
WRX, as in a Subie? Love Subies, I have two. <3

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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What are good 1st messages? Posted: 3/30/2013 6:15:07 AM
^^^^^Don't send a "hi, how are you?" Those kind of messages are guaranteed not to get a response. Boring and lame.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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On Wisconsin. Posted: 3/30/2013 6:11:48 AM
TLDR any of the thread. Life's too short to waste it reading these tortuously long threads. But On Wisconsin, indeed! Although Walker's a loon.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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What questions would you add? Posted: 3/29/2013 7:04:26 PM
A speeding ticket is a crime in Canada? They really throw you in jail or prison for a mere speeding ticket?? Wow. I've loved vacationing in Canada, but in future I'd better watch my P's and Q's or it will be like "Midnight Express"! (Just teasing.)

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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What questions would you add? Posted: 3/29/2013 6:57:07 PM
Have you ever been convicted of an indictable offence? Not all jurisdictions use indictments. How about, "have you ever been convicted of a crime?" Actually I'd like to know whether he's ever had a DUI/DWI, whether he's ever been convicted of disorderly conduct, assault, harassment, or domestic violence. But then again, I can find that all out in my state just knowing his full name and checking the online court record system. Here's one: "how many times have you been married, and for how long each time?" How much debt are you in? +1. I'd add, "and what kind of debt?" Mortgage debt is one thing, student loan debt another, credit card debt yet another, each signifying something different.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Do you find many over 45 people drink too much? Posted: 3/28/2013 5:32:11 PM
I drink when it fits the meal, like pizza tastes good with a beer. Very true. Got that one beat.. the guy I met several months ago from here ordered 4 double gin and tonics within an hour.. but he didn't' have a problem. Man, wonder what his BAL was. I would have called him into the police as a DUI. My wife is a 100% against alcohol for herself, it would distress her too much for me to drink more that a couple, so that another reason to never drink too much. That's really considerate. One doesn't find much of that in forum posts.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Your last glass of wine Posted: 3/28/2013 5:16:59 PM
"Sideways" and pinot noir.....such a funny movie, I should rent it and see it again. Paul Giamatti is hilarious. Wonder what he'd think of white Zinfandel? LOL True confession: I actually did start drinking pinot noir because of that movie.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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stopping weight gain when not active Posted: 3/27/2013 6:14:52 PM
I agree about swimming. I tore cartilage in my knee last fall and the only exercise I could do was swim, so I went to my health club's pool frequently. Swimming did help with reducing pain, too, and then as a treat I got to sit in the hot tub afterwards and aim the jets at my knee, which felt great. Feel better soon.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Self conscious and hoping to join a gym Posted: 3/27/2013 6:05:07 PM
OP, for me, having the proper athletic gear is very motivating, so I get your spending money on good gear. Not everyone agrees, but to each their own. If I buy a new biking jersey, darn right I want to bike as much as possible so I can wear the new pretty shirt. :-) One tip that may help -- start slow and go consistently. You don't want to exercise a lot one time, then skip a week because your muscles hurt. Better to go 3-4 times a week, perhaps every other day to let your body rest, and work out moderately. It's the consistency that will improve your fitness. And once your body gets used to one type of exercise, switch it up and try something new. But as for weight loss, you do have to look at your diet, Peppermint Petunia's right. That doesn't mean you have to eat twigs and sticks, but perhaps there are some easy and minor substitutions you could make in your normal diet that would shave off 100 or so calories per day? For example, if you drink whole milk, you could ratchet down to 1% or even nonfat and save calories/fat. Or if you eat two chocolate chip cookies for lunch, reduce that to one cookie. Small consistent changes will bring about big results.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Your last glass of wine Posted: 3/27/2013 5:52:01 PM
Malbecs from Argentina are getting good reveiews, and Trader Joe's has some. A couple of years ago I dated a guy who introduced me to Layer Cake Malbec. Yummy. Although I'm sadly no longer dating that guy, I can still drink hat Malbec and reminisce.......

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Do you find many over 45 people drink too much? Posted: 3/27/2013 5:40:46 PM
I can only think of one guy I dated in the past 5-6 years who perhaps had a problem with alcohol. I say "perhaps" because we didn't date long enough for me to observe him long-term. I suppose it's possible that some of the guys I met for coffee or activity dates could have abused alcohol, but since we weren't drinking booze in our lattes it was kinda hard to tell. My dad was an alcoholic, so I know enough to see when a guy is planning his life around drinking. As I've said before in other threads, I like good wine. I may drink 1-2 glasses of wine per week if I'm out to dinner with friends, or I may not drink at all during the week if I don't have any social plans. This week I had 2 glasses of wine at a company team-building event, and since my Friday night plans have cancelled, I probably won't have any more than that. Or maybe I'll have a glass of wine Saturday night; I haven't decided yet. I don't sweat how much I drink because it's never been a problem. I'm not going to judge anyone for drinking, but I will simply avoid those who consistently drink too much, or who can't have a fun time without drinking. Since I divorced, I don't have anyone like that in my life any more. I believe in everything in moderation, including wine. Oh, and brownies. :-)

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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What You See Is What You Get Posted: 3/25/2013 3:16:45 PM
When I see that phrase, I think of someone who has thought themselves controlled in a relationship and so going forward, they are not gonna change for no one, no how. That includes never compromising on anything. Thus, when his date asks if they could go out to eat at a seafood restaurant, he can say, "No way. You knew I was a steak lover when you first met me and I'm not gonna change!" Saying, "what you see is what you get" is just another way of saying, "I'm always gonna get my way and I don't care what you want." Relationships with people like this are joyless and stifling. I've got to agree, I can't date a smoker (like previous posters, my mom died of a smoking-related illness). I'm also unwilling to date a controlling individual, or someone who has character traits falling in the personality disorder category. Been there, done that, learned never again.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Your last glass of wine Posted: 3/23/2013 8:41:28 PM
BicyclingGal: You know... you may want to buy two (of the same bottles of) 2011 cabernet sauvignon. Drink one and note the amount of tannic flavor. Save the other one for about three years (on its side) somewhere cool. It will have mellowed out and become something you'd love, I'll bet. Or, just plunk down more money for an older red. I would do either (don't mind spending money on good wine), but Cabs are pretty much wasted on me. I'm not that complex. LOL

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Your last glass of wine Posted: 3/22/2013 9:06:01 PM
^^^ Lucky you, to live near a winery! Jealous. :)

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Bond movie trivia Posted: 3/22/2013 7:08:43 PM
IMO Sean Connery was THE best Bond -- best looking, funniest, sexiest. Daniel Craig is SO not a good Bond, IMO.

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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Your last glass of wine Posted: 3/22/2013 7:05:27 PM
Wine tasting is a good way to branch out of your wine "comfort zone." About a dozen years so I was part of a group of gals from work who did a monthly wine tasting. We'd pick one variety, buy 4-5 bottles of that variety from different vineyards, put them in brown paper bags with numbers, then at the end of the evening we'd vote on the one we liked best. We'd have a lot of appetizers available, too, so we wouldn't get blitzed. That was really fun, and it's too bad that all of them left the company except me. That's where I learned that I like unusual whites like Viognier and Gruener Veltliner. I'm not really a big fan of reds, as some of the more tannic ones like Cabs turn me bright red. Pinot Grigio does that, too; someone told me that it's because it's made with red grapes (does that sound right?). What was it the poet said? "A loaf of bread, a jug of wine, and thou."

BicyclingGal

Joined: 8/1/2011

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New Health Supplement Posted: 3/21/2013 4:20:04 PM
There wasn't much on WebMD? Yes, there was: How does it work? Developing research suggests that garcinia might prevent fat storage and control appetite; however, whether these effects occur in humans is unclear. Possibly Ineffective for: Weight loss. Taking garcinia fruit rind extract doesn't seem to decrease weight, fat breakdown, or energy expenditure in overweight people. There is some mixed evidence that garcinia might help people feel full even when eating less, but it's too early to recommend garcinia for this use. Garcinia is POSSIBLY SAFE for most people when used for 12 weeks or less. Long-term safety is unknown. Garcinia can cause nausea, digestive tract discomfort, and headache. The appropriate dose of garcinia depends on several factors such as the user's age, health, and several other conditions. At this time, there is not enough scientific information to determine an appropriate range of doses for garcinia. Keep in mind that natural products are not always necessarily safe and dosages can be important. Be sure to follow relevant directions on product labels and consult your pharmacist or physician or other healthcare professional before using. I think it would be most effective in separating you from your money! LOL I for one would run away from any supplement that is not only "possibly safe," but ineffective. Not only that, supplements are not FDA regulated, and God knows what you're getting when you buy it.

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