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Charm1ngMuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 279 (view)

Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex Posted: 10/5/2007 2:20:29 PM
I can certainly understand if someone feels uncomfortable in giving oral to me, but if he suggests, encourages or insists that I give it to him, then he gets the boot. I dumped a guy who was very selfish in this manner and won't make that mistake again. Sexual intimacy should be an adventure, an exploration of the body and most certainly a reciprocal trip. If one is willing to do something, then the other should at least try it once. If one is disgusted by a particular technique then they should not expect their partner to perform said technique on them. so there!

Charm1ngMuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 254 (view)

Her sexual past.....ur business? Posted: 10/5/2007 2:03:32 PM
Sorry, I don't want to date a man who has slept with most of my county. I am concerned about health issues so you better have your physician's report handy and up to date. I married a man who was overactive in college, screwing women several times a day. His best friend's wife didn't feel it necessary to say anything to me before we married but she sure didn't have a problem discussing it afterwards! I like Gene Simmons' humor but I wouldn't touch that with a twenty foot pole! I wonder how his wife feels about his sexual proclivity. I'm not looking for a virgin (aaaaacccckkkkkkk!), but don't want someone who just couldn't keep his damn pants on. A guy who gets sexual on the first date is kinda creepy to me too. Maybe I'm a prude, but I know that I won't die or be seriously innjured due to my sexual behavior! Can those of you who fling caution to the wind say the same?

Charm1ngMuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 118 (view)

What do women need in order to want to have sex? Posted: 10/5/2007 1:56:43 PM
Just wondering how many of these replies from men (who suggest that what women want is money, jewelry, etc.) have been turned down because they don't have money, jewelry, cars, homes, etc. We all want to feel genuine interest, respect, kindness and sincerity from a sexual candidate no matter if it's the first date or the tenth anniversary. It's a lot easier to dump a person, ignore their calls and delete their email if they don't demonstrate all of these characteristics in some form and to some degree during the encounter or relationship. Guys, you might be the hottest thing since Brad (you wouldn't be dating me), or the sexiest creature to breathe air, but if you answer your cell phone frequently during our time together, or are always looking for the next best thing while we're out, or use foul language like Courtney Love, you aren't going anywhere with me... That's why I drive to the venue rather than let you pick me up. It's the same thing on a woman's behalf. Girls, even if you look like Gisele or have been voted to the most sexiest on the list, a guy will get fed up when you use him and abuse him over and over again. Show him Genuine Interest, Respect, Kindness and Sincerity and he will want to be around you as much as you want him to be there! Good Luck POFers! P.S. For those of you who posted dumb answers e.g. money, cars, jewelry, PLEASE, please do not send me a note... I am sooooo not interested in your version of Man.

Charm1ngMuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 224 (view)

I disagree with Mr. Z's opinion.... Posted: 9/20/2007 3:36:50 PM
Just because a woman won't have sex within 3 or 4 dates doesn't mean that her libido isn't in sync, or she suffers from a 50's mentality or that she's withholding sex to get something else.... That is very backward thinking and you (Mr. Z) haven't learned very much about what makes women (in general) tick.... I am not comfortable becoming intimate so soon. My libido is raging, I wasn't born in the 50's and I don't NEED anything from a guy, it's what I WANT to share with a man that drives me on... Engaging in sex is a mutual decision, NOT exclusively the province of man or woman, tho' most men want to be intimate quickly. If I don't feel a deep connection, you aren't going to be allowed in my panties.... Men and Women operate differently. It's compromising that makes us successful together!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Wake up sleepyhead. Posted: 2/9/2007 1:03:30 PM
Last time I did that, I woke up with a mouth full of feathers.. .Oh yeah... I was the only one in the big bed. Thought I had a playmate and went down on my pillow! Just another reason why I'm nicknamed the Virgin Shari awaiting the next Immaculate Copulation... Enjoy your weekend kids!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

Ooze sex appeal Posted: 2/9/2007 8:10:29 AM
yaawwwwwwnnnnnn... I'm bored.... Very hard to comment intelligently on this thread when my habit is itching me terribly as I sit in my clerical cell waiting for mass to begin... The Virgin Shari awaiting the next Immaculate Copulation yeah, yeah I know... Mary was busy this time around. I'm the stand-in for the dirty deed.

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

The Man’s day? Posted: 2/9/2007 7:54:18 AM
That's too funny and most definitely deserves a t-shirt in the very least! Are we allowed to provide and perform for any man of choice? Can I get random and dial up the local priest who really needs some stress relief about now? signed again, The Virgin Shari awaiting the next Immaculate Copulation

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

Girlie Girl Types Posted: 2/9/2007 7:49:23 AM
I'm a girlie girl cause I love the feeling of celebrating my femininity every day. I love to have pretty ahnds and feet, luscious hair, cosmetics, perfume and great clothes and shoes! Not necessarily high maintenance if I can afford to do this myself. But the convent doesn't like it... They call me the painted lady now... slinking back to the Convent of the Virgin Shari awaiting the next Immaculate Copulation I know, I know, it's getting old now! So are my eggs...

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 169 (view)

Women with LONG HAIR Posted: 2/9/2007 7:44:27 AM
Every guy I've dated loves my hair when it's long... Can't seem to find any takers now but that's another thread... My blanket's unraveling... Tucking my hair back underneath my nun's habit and returning to The Convent of the Virgin Shari awaiting the next Immaculate Copulation

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

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Going limp at the finish line Posted: 2/9/2007 7:13:43 AM
I agree with Chazz... You don't have to explode every time you get hard... Enjoy the sex and relax in between each other's orgasms. Give her the beauty of screaming on one, then you enjoy the next! Cumming together every time is too difficult to orchestrate though not a problem for me. Sharing and taking turns at pleasure is what it's all about. Too many made for TV movies and porno try to dictate to us what the experience should be. Be the man that you are and let her be the woman that she is. Enjoy! More advice from the Virgin Shari awaiting the next Immaculate Copulation while sitting in the tower window of the convent

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

do girls like just meeting for sex Posted: 2/9/2007 7:04:14 AM
Virgin Shari here touching Jason for the very first time... Of course there are one night stands that involve men AND women, not just sheep, knotholes & liver or blow up dolls. I was with a friend recently. I was under the (obviously) mistaken impression that he wanted all of me, not just the kitty. We officially became a one night stand three weeks later as he recited again (and again) that he would call me... Imagine my embarrassment! Here I was thinking I had finally hooked up with a guy who liked me and wanted to spend time with me. Going back to the Convent of the Everlasting Virgin Shari hoping for more than one Immaculate Copulation saying my prayers...

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

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am i cursed????or are they cursed????? Posted: 2/9/2007 6:47:58 AM
I hear you OP. It's very frustrating to search the profiles. Finding someone who looks good on paper (onscreen) AND in person is difficult. Perhaps I'm reading too much into the profile. Someone once said lower your expectations and you won't be dissappointed. I can't do that. I have high expectations of myself becasue I want to be the best person I can. I want to meet a man who inspires me to be fabulous. I want to inspire a man in the same way. Remember the line from "As Good as it Gets"? Jack Nicholson tells Helen Hunt in his OCD freaky manner (during dinner) that she makes him want to be a better man. I am always stunned by the impact of those words. I would hope that something like that can and will be said about me during my life, and at the end, during my wild wake. I know my child feels that way, but if I could achieve that wondrous effect on a special man in MY life, I would be satisifed! and obviously, very much in love with him! I volunteer in the community, work at a fabulous college and a high end steakhouse where I meet incredible people all the time. Has any dating interest come of it yet? No. Just as nothing significant has happened due to my membership here and on other sites. I don't know what I'm doing or not doing to provide an open, welcoming attitude towards men. I flirt sweetly, I dress very well for my shape, I am intelligent, funny and loving. Soemtimes, I wish I could hire my own reality crew to film me so I could watch the dailies to see how others see me. I must be scratching my a$$ or picking my nose... I don't know Sign me, Teary-Eyed, Frustrated and Lonely Too Returning to the Convent Soon The Virgin Shari Just Waiting for another Immaculate Copulation

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 48 (view)

Common law vs. Married Posted: 2/9/2007 6:35:38 AM
I think the biggest difference between marriages and common law relationships are the legalilites. Through marriage, you have legal ground to stand on in most situations. In a common law relationship, you do not. People have mentioned wills as a protector in case of death, etc., but wills can be changed privately to reflect a current interest. Suppose a CL person initiates an affair with someone else during the CL relationship, changes their will secretly, then dies. The other CL partner is entitled to cry and wail about the unmitigated deceit and that's about all. If married, the spouse ahs the ability to challenge any will and receive a decent portion of an estate even if the deceased spouse cut them off. Common Law works for quite a few people because they have the ability trust one another and do dedicate their lives to one another. I'm always amazed to meet couples who have spent decades together whether married or not. We should cheer that longevity or love, support and dedication! Thanks for being an example of a strong relationship no matter how you define it!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Best friends for 20 years over for what Posted: 2/9/2007 6:23:31 AM
lmao Gimme a BrokeBack Mountain man any time for a friend! No need for jealousy there and he can point out the gay men BEFORE I make a fool of myself in flirting with them. Anyway, OP, I don't see any reason for you to back off of being friends with Sara just because Little Tim has his nose out of joint. He needs time and maturity to realize that you are a good friend to both and you should not be forced to choose who you relate to based on HIS opinion. Perhaps he's concerned that you are sharing personal info with Sara about him. There may be other people in the pic insinuating such. Be the man that you are, be friends with who you choose for the right reasons. Good Luck!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Shafted? A different type of relationship problem. Posted: 2/9/2007 6:15:24 AM
OP, Boy do I know what you're talking about! My situation was mildly similar in the fact that my best friend of 10 years chose her sister to be Matron of Honor (she would have had a hissy fit if I were chosen over her). Friend spent way more time with me than her sister even though we lived 1000 miles apart. Anyway, I sucked it up as a good doobie does and was Bridesmaid #5 out of 6... During the wedding trip back to Pennsylvania, the Matron did nothing to assist the Bride... Did not plan a Bridal Shower, Bachelorette Party and got so drunk at the reception that she couldn't assist there at all nor give a toast! The Bride missed out on several key elements of the time that could never be captured again. I ended up spending the reception working! The Best Man and I were collecting the envelopes and gifts to transfer to the hotel suite. I collected all of the flower arrangements afterwards to bring back to the room. I made sure the Bridal Bouquet was put into cold storage as she was going to have it freeze dried and mounted AND I was assaulted by a creep who I thought was attending who helped me bring flowers back to the suite! Talk about crazy! The Bride and Groom, thankfully, were very appreciative of what I chose to do for my friend and invited me to a private breakfast the next morning and included me in the opening of the gifts with their families later that day. She and I remained friends for years, right through the eventual divorce sadly. Now she has returned to the area, but lives with her sister and brother-in-law. We don't see one another at all any more. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

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Not to burst anyone's bubble!..... Posted: 2/8/2007 8:19:29 AM
I have crushes or infatuations on different people all the time. It's also similar to being awestruck because of someone's charisma, influence or star celebrity status. I have had crushes on men and women which are NOT sexual in nature. They simply attract me and make me want to be near and dear to them. It's very common in schools ettings as kids learn what their identity is and who they want to be. They congregate with similar personalities and build their lives accordingly. My adult daughter still confesses crushes on her girlfriends though she is definitely hetero. It's a natural thing!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

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Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 2/8/2007 6:38:45 AM
Ten years ago in my thirties, young 20 somethings were hounding me like there were no other women on earth. It was really quite amusing and great for my ego since I divorced at 30! I wouldn't consider a man under 30 now because our lifestyles would probably be very different. I also don't care for board shorts, surfer cuts and video games so I don't know what they would see in me besides an exceptionally great f*** Now in my forties, I love men in their 30s but if they haven't married yet, most will want to have children (I'm done with that!), or if divorced with children, those kiddies are very young (Don't want to change diapers or babysit). Men in their forties are awesome because their kids are grown, generally speaking, and they are experiencing a renaissance of sorts. I'd love to be their Venus! I thought this was a pickle too until I clicked it the first time... It's all good as long as it's firm yet pliable...

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

What are you thinking? Posted: 2/7/2007 1:44:16 PM
Two calls unanswered are enough. No one is so busy that they can't take a moment to return a call, even if it's just to say, "I'm sorry. My life is crazy right now. Can I call you next week?" or WHATever! She's not interested and doesn't have the social skills or common courtesy to say so. In the very least, she could email your profile and say no thanks or make up anything... You'd never know the difference and you wouldn't be hurt by it. P.S. If you're on eof those people who will make up anything to say, be sure it isn't "I've met someone..." and then continue showing up on singles dating sites! Hell hath no fury, etc. etc. etc.

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

people who own dogs and kiss them Posted: 2/7/2007 1:24:17 PM
oh Smith... barf!!!!!!! Bubbles said it best... Dogs eat poop Dogs lick their balls Dogs sniff each other's butts No dog kisses for me! BLECH!!! P.S. I have a kitty cat who I kiss all the time... on the top of his white head.... with red lipstick! Not on the mouth... Don't know which neighborhood kitty he's been tomming with lately!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 111 (view)

I'm all for intimacy and cuddling after sex with someone, but at what point do you get cleaned up? Posted: 2/7/2007 10:08:21 AM
Well hello to one time per night people! Sheesh, if I showered after each session, I'd look like a prune by morning! The last time I enjoyed an all nighter, we were both too passionately exhausted to leave the big bed. He rocked me till I fainted and he was overwhelmed with the passion fires! We just kept rolling one another over and over till morning. He didn't get a shower at my place as we woke up late and he had a plane to catch. I didn't shower till after my pretty little eyes opened fully... I did wash my sheets later, but I love the smell of sex! I'm not as fast as some of you to get rid of it...

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

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time and hair Posted: 2/7/2007 9:38:02 AM
and while you're at it, can ya make my house payment and car payment too, pretty please? Good Grief! My hair is long because I like it that way right now. My hairstyle is mine, not my dates! He doesn't have a say UNLESS he is picking up the total cost of maintenance! So along those lines, my hair care is probably close to $100 a month (shampoo, conditioner, color, cut, clarity :), but the greatest expense is time... Time to brush it out each night and each morning, then styling it for work or play. The worst part (no, not the money outlay!) is that I have such dense hair that when it falls out, it can be like a carpet growing in the bathroom. I'm always pulling strands off my clothing, cleaning my pillows and bed linens, sweeping floors, etc. I'm worse than the cat, I think! But it's awfully fun to play with, my dear!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

When the clothes come off.. Posted: 2/7/2007 9:30:10 AM
How wonderful to hear a man's point of view about body image. That's part of the romance of dancing and hugging and kissing. You get to feel the person you're intimating with and have a pretty good idea of what's under all those layers of clothing... I feel that my hips are too big and I hate the "fullness" of my back but guys still like to put their arms around me. I've been told I have very sexy hips. That's always nice to hear. As for what size a guy really is prior to completely undressing... If we are going in that direction, you better believe I'm going to grab his handle before we get too far. I live in a city with a large community of gays and lesbians. Sometimes I can't tell the guys from the girls from the guys... Yikes! P.S. There are lots of things you can do with any man. Be creative and enjoy him! Just fishing here...

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

Arm Hair on a Woman Posted: 2/7/2007 8:57:24 AM
I prefer to be bare as possible because my Italian heritage is inclined to keep me "warm". I shave my legs, armpits, lower arms and my "girlish parts" too. I know a Cuban woman who is pale, pale, pale and her hair is jet black. Ends at her wrist so she looks like she is wearing sleeves.... She's self-concious but won't do anything about it. Not in her culture to change that much, I guess. I love the smooth sensation of my skin so hair beyond my head is not attractive to me, though I do keep a bit of a tuft down there. As someone so duly noted, it captures the scent of a woman!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

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Eater Or Nibbler... Posted: 2/5/2007 12:45:47 PM
I don't have a problem eating normally with a date. It's another form of that Secret Single Behavior that's exposed once you really start dating someone seriously, so why hide it? Besides, no one who has met me would ever confuse me with Nicole Ritchie or the Olsen Twins... <~~~ A&W Root Beer, btw Eat, drink and be merry!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

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what do i do with a cheater? Posted: 2/5/2007 12:41:16 PM
shoot him then dial 911 to turn yourself in cause you perpetuate his problem... You're the kind of girl that hurts good men while waiting for your loser b/f to return. This makes it hard for us, the good women, to hypnotize the good men who've been blinded by the pain. STOP IT NOW! Buy some self-esteem, find a good man and quit posting!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

My Boyfriend Followed Me.. Posted: 2/5/2007 11:36:06 AM
So what happened to meeting your neighbors? joining an athletic organization in town? volunteering at a charity? All of these options will help you meet friends, real friends, not make-believe ones... Any involved person who enters a single site to make friends is looking for something on the other side of the fence. There are plenty of blogs and chat sites that do not specifically cater to matching people up with one another. Sorry, Girl, You're shopping around and you've been found out. Wait till you move out for crying out loud! ............................. ............ ........................................

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 145 (view)

IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT?? Posted: 2/5/2007 9:58:01 AM
Again, and again... Don't make someone a priority in your life when you are still an option in theirs... Since OP hasn't confirmed (as far as I can see) that she and he were in a committed relationship, she was in the wrong to set him up. Until they agree to be exclusive, what he does is none of her business and vice versa. Simple as pie...

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

do you talk with people who dont have a picture Posted: 2/5/2007 8:15:38 AM
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charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

do you talk with people who dont have a picture Posted: 2/5/2007 8:14:34 AM
Well I can say unequivocally, that I have recieved absolutely no response from my profile after I pulled my picture. I do get email from fellow posters, but none from the POF community at large. Maybe it's because I've been clear about what I won't accept (whiners, cryers, complainers). "I'm just here for the Forums."

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 120 (view)

Why don't men like to dress up for dates? Posted: 2/5/2007 7:32:35 AM
Dressing appropriately to meet someone for the first time is important! This isn't a random meeting at the grocery store or the hardware store where you are what you are in that particular moment. If we've made arrangements to meet, I expect the gentleman to take care in how he dresses. It should be appropriate for the venue we've chosen, naturally. I am not a fan of the low slung jeans or board shorts and if those clothes aren't clean, you will never see me again. Ditto for body odor or dirty hair. That's a sign of how much you respect yourself. If you can't even clean up to meet someone new, then I am so afraid of seeing you on a typical day. I will not date a slob, period. That just reduced my pool of fish a bit, eh?

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 314 (view)

Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 2/5/2007 7:14:51 AM
Replying specifically to Ligon's comments... I may be attracted to a guy who later confesses he's one broke man, but I'm not going to commit my self to him. If he can't pay his way in life or contribute to the household, there's no way I'm going to spend much of my time with him. In my town, one person needs a minimum of $50K to live comfortably. That translates to owning a BASIC home, a decent car, and taking one 1 week vacation each year. Two people can live on $75K in the same circumstances so there's the minimum income. Fortunately for me, I live in a wealthy town so most men I date have more than adequate resources behind them. I don't look for a specific income, but I do look for a compatible standard of living. Why would I give up my home on the great side of town to live with a man in the blighted side of town? My ex-husband fancied himself a playboy with the ability to get money from his mother any time he wanted. He got a rude awakening when she cut the hand-outs and I cut him off. I just don't want to pay someone else's bills for them. I have enough of my own and my daughter to handle right now. I also don't expect a man to hand me cash every month or "rescue" me from my indebtedness. That's my responsibility. When anyone asks a question such as the OP has posed, it's to determine your standard of living. I notice the OP didn't complain about women asking if he is a CEO, what kind of a car he drives or the value of his home. This is a basic question coming from everyone and directed to everyone. I ask it. Why not?

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 110 (view)

For The Guys- Would you seriously date an ex-prostitute? Posted: 2/4/2007 1:47:31 PM
People ask about the past all the time! It's called using your judgment as you enter a relationship or liaison with someone. It sounds more like a matter of choice on the woman's part. Has she given up the "Job" or "Lifestyle" or whatever what you want to color it? Can you seriously see yourself having an intimate relationship with someone who has had sex with hundreds, perhaps thousands of people? Regardless of the reasons for entering the trade, knowing that someone has had that much activity wouldn't stop you from doing her? Does your answer remain the same if we change the question to "Would you date an ex-porn actress"? Just wondering on that point... I feel like I've entered Holy Ground again. Just call me the Virgin Shari (compared to these women)

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 259 (view)

Is being woke up with sexual favors rape or not? Posted: 2/3/2007 12:00:12 PM
I think that a guy waking up his honey bby putting his d*ck in her mouth could be a bit dangerous. Now if he wakes her up by going down on her or penetrating her... woo hoooooo and vice versa for a woman. I don't think I'd sit on my man's face while he was sleeping but I have no problem playing with morning wood! This is part of the pillow talk you have with your lover! I make certain things like this crystal clear especially if they bring great pleasure. When I was with a particular guy, I would wake up in the middle of the night, go to the bathroom, come back to bed and go down on him. I'd fall asleep halfway into it and sleep just like that. He'd wake me up on occasion by stroking or subconciously orgasing. That was pretty wild, but I put my mouth there! :)

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 101 (view)

why do guys have to sit with their legs so far apart? Posted: 2/3/2007 11:52:35 AM
Thanks for the defensive play, Vulf... Sheesh!!! FYI... I like dingles dangling kinda close to my holy ground :) Howzabout I call it the Staff of Life searching for Holy Ground... Will that make you happy?

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Where has the art of writing gone? Posted: 2/3/2007 11:41:49 AM
Builder's Engine is purring with pure artistic and expressive thought! How lovely to see so many of us at least attempting to record concepts in a creative and genuinely descriptive style. I agree that most people resort to short-hand as the amount of stimuli with which we are bombarded increases each day. We struggle regularly with absorbing and disseminating tens of thousands of bits of data that are supposedly improving our lives, our waistlines, and our very souls. Why, I am queen of multi-tasking and multi-stimulation! I can read a newspaper while perusing the internet with the TV on mute and the stereo playing. Throwing out a phrase or two in the direction of friends is not uncommon at the same time. But what is sacrificed for the expediency of expression? The very qualities for which we hunger causing our souls to cry out for purity in a disheveled world. Rent one of the movies: Midsummer's Night Dream, Taming of the Shrew, Sense and Sensibility, etc. The vernacular of the English language becomes beautiful and poetic, transcending our crude usage today. We don't need to be poets to express ourselves eloquently, thoughtfully and lovingly. P.S. I kinda like the bouncing Green Guy ~~~> P.P.S. A friend and I wrote Star Trek episodes in the 70's and I can write a check that won't bounce like little green guy... Does any of THAT count? :)

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Something I was told about the average guyon site Posted: 2/2/2007 12:55:08 PM
I think each of us needs to bait our hooks with what the fish want... If guys are looking for cute sexy hip fun girls, and you are one, then by all means say so in your profile. Guys, we look for those qualities you've mentioned we put into OUR profiles, so give up that info on yourselves. I want a cute sexy hip fun guy who can pay his own bills, drives his own car and doesn't live with Mommy still.... nuff said... Look ^^^ Synchronized swimmers! Any guy with some of those is cool too! lmao

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

just a helpful hint for all the men on here Posted: 2/2/2007 12:38:53 PM
aaawwwwwww GUYS!!! We love ya anyway!!! and

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

what would make you hit on a girl? Posted: 2/2/2007 12:05:25 PM
I love the idea of leaving a chair open at the table. It's a lot easier for a guy to slip into the chair for a moment, say hello, get shot down and still depart without losing face. It's even better when he's invited to join the group for a drink. Give us more, Salmon!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

What gives? Profile says long term, but on phone they want to talk sex Posted: 2/2/2007 11:57:08 AM
laughing a bit at Magical's comments... I like men but I'm not about to spread 'em for each one I meet. Men in general are fun to play with, fun to date, and fun to live with. I love men or else I'd be Lesbian by choice. Please explain to me again how a loose woman is morally superior to someone like me? I'm confused on that point. ANYWAY... I don't mind discussing !briefly! sexual habits and preferences because I too, do not want to get stuck with a guy who thinks HIS one orgasm a week is going to do it for both us. I want to find sexual compatibility along with social, political, spiritual and familial compatibility. I find it vulgar when a guy demands that I recount my entire experience on the first date. That's none of his business. I haven't even decided if I want to see him again. I'm certainly not going to get into specifics with him initially. I would probably cover that ground in email to help weed out the chemically dependent, broke-d*ck men just like I will be weeded out from their cache for any number of reasons. That's life... Yeah that's what people say....

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 93 (view)

why do guys have to sit with their legs so far apart? Posted: 2/2/2007 11:33:01 AM
okay, just for the record in reference to men and women catching things differently... I just dropped a piece of pineapple while sitting down and naturally closed my legs to catch it. Women close their legs to keep men from dangling their dingle so close to holy ground! It's similar to why men snore when they lay on their backs. Their balls drop over their a$$holes and create vapor lock. It's gotta escape somehow! or so my doctor told me.....

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

Here's what's really going on here! Posted: 2/2/2007 8:45:26 AM
I enjoy the forums also, but I belong to the 35% singles group, so still browsing a bit. My goal each year is to meet people, any people. I like using the internet services because you are exposed to many more people than in your daily routine, generally speaking. I want to start a journal of the new people I meet in business or pleasure, and make short notes about them. A description followed by my impression of the person will help guide me towards the kind of person I am most attracted to and hopefully, point out the ones I have trouble dealing with. (OOO I hate ending a phrase or sentence with prepositions!) Anyway, this might be a way to open my eyes, broaden my horizons and expand my opportunities! Just my plan... What's yours?

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 128 (view)

he googles everything I say Posted: 2/2/2007 8:30:15 AM
Googling Minds Want to Know I'd b*tch slap him if he kept running off mid-sentence. I'd ask him to google OCD symptoms, and annoying people too. I do like the idea of printing out the evening's topics of discussion and handing them off to him at the start of the date. lol Now THAT would be funny. If that doesn't cure his OCD, nothing will!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 181 (view)

do women want 2 men? would many men be willing??? Posted: 2/2/2007 8:16:55 AM
I think if the ground rules are discussed first, any sexual encounter could be fun and adventurous for those who want it. It sounds like most men ASSUME that MFM absolutely means that the guys will do each other. Guys, just because you want the GIrl on Girl action doesn't necessarily mean your woman wants Guy on Guy during a MFM. I fantasize about it because I enjoy the idea of my pleasure being of utmost importance. It's a selfish thing. I don't expect the guys to go after one another, but having two men desiring me, touching me, caressing me, kissing me oooooollaallaaa I don't think I would do it in a LTR but I haven't had that opportunity roll across the desk yet so who can say for certain? It depends on where you are in life when the opportunity arises.

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 104 (view)

Does perfume really work? Posted: 2/2/2007 7:58:49 AM
OMG I get whiplash when someone yummy walks past me. I always try to ask what they're wearing so I can keep it in mind. I love to wear a perfume that works beautifully with my chemistry AND has a great name like... Delicious! Right now, I wear Sublime by Jean Patou and everyone loves it on me. I get more compliments than ever with Sublime. It just sounds fabulous when I say it in French also. I personally prefer crisp clean scents on men or a subtle musk. I really cannot stand the spicy scents that seemingly many Asians and Latinos prefer. Too much for me or perhaps it's the amount they put on. A good rule of thumb: One squirt on the back of your neck, one at your throat so you can smell it, one on the left wrist then rubbed gently against the right wrist. Don't bruise the scent by grinding! For women, layer your scent by using a body wash, lotion or powder then the perfume. Remember just because you may not be able to smell it immediately, doesn't mean you need another squirt. Your olfactory senses have become accustomed to the aroma. Just ask the person standing next to you what they think of your cologne or perfume. Any answer beyond "I can't smell anything" tells you it's still there!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 249 (view)

too much masturbating? Posted: 2/2/2007 7:50:13 AM
Okay, the cape guy? That's just gross! Especially in a public place. I would have dialed 911. One thing is definitely true about masturbation. If you use additional stimuli beyond your own hands, it can desensitize you to the feeling of a real c**k so go easy girls with BOB if you've begun dating a guy. P.S. It's a great way to relieve stress and tension before a first date. Just make sure you wipe it off your hands, face and out of your hair before s/he shows up. That "something" about Mary should not be shared so soon.... My opinion!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

going alone to movies/dinner/bars Posted: 2/2/2007 7:40:04 AM
Sophia, love your comments! I'm going to buy a white hat to keep in the car for movie nights! I spent a lot of years going to the movies with my daughter. Now that she's driving her own car, we don't do as much as we once did. I do enjoy movies and go on occasion by myself. I've actually met people there and struck up conversations and ended up sitting with someone else. It's been quite amusing and fun too. I work part-time in an upscale restaurant and people come in all the time alone. One gentleman dines alone 3 times a week, in a big booth, since we opened 3 years ago. Most usually sit at the High Tops in the bar so they aren't taking up an entire table, but they do order a full dinner. Nothing wrong with it especially if the staff are friendly, considerate and sincerely appreciative that you've made a choice to dine alone. These guests range from first timers to community upper echelon (movers & shakers). Remember the movie Hope Floats with Sandy Bullock and Hhhhhhhoootttt Harry Connick Jr? In the restaurant scene, he tells her that you have to act like you choose to be there alone, "mysterious". And order dessert just to spite 'em! It does take confidence to dine alone but think of the opportunity to meet! It's so much easier for a gentleman to stop at your table, Ladies, when there is only one dining versus a whole gaggle of girls. I notice most of my single guests in the bar noticing me. That's a nice compliment to me and I reciprocate with a smile and a nod of encouragement. Always be open, always dress decently and wear that secret smile!

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 102 (view)

The art of removing her bra Posted: 2/2/2007 6:49:11 AM
All of my bras are front clasp, soooo much easier for me to put on and soooo much fun for him to take off. Personally, I like a guy to wrap his arms around me while he's unhooking so if it's front closure, stand behind me. If it's back closure, stand in front. He doesn't have to get tricky unless he's trying to be sneaky. If we are that hot and heavy, I expect him to remove my bra or leave it on while we fool around. I think it's especially sexy to keep my bra on and feel his fingers explore under the fabric while we become intimate. :)

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 82 (view)

Masturbation Tools Posted: 2/2/2007 6:44:36 AM
Masturbation by remote control is NOT an urban legend! hee hee hee Imagine dining out and getting a buzz whenever HE wants to see you light up! Anyway, the sander sounds like a scary thing to me, but consider the humble Turkey Baster... Long cylinder for penetration and rubber cup for suction (for both!) Hmmmm... now who suggested that to me originally? :)

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

Dating and the Drive... Posted: 2/2/2007 6:23:10 AM
DANCE DANCE DANCE

charm1ngmuse

Joined: 12/18/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Dating and the Drive... Posted: 2/2/2007 6:21:48 AM
Scratch! I LOVE SpongeBob!!! Dora the Explorer and Bob the Builder bring out my inner child. Oooooohhhhhh Daddy, schpank me and make me thank you! lmao Now don't you all get upset about the above ^^^ It's just a joke! Anyway, I find contemporary Jazz is a good medium until you both talk about the kind of music you like. Then select from an appropriate CD as radio throws in talk too much! In any case, the music should be background to your conversation at least until Smashing Pumpkins rocks on with I'm a Believer. Then you have to stop the car, get out and dance!

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