| FORUMS |
Show ALL Forums
Posted In Forum:
Ask A Girl
Ask A Guy
Dating & Love Advice
District Of Columbia
Event Hosts forum
Health & Fitness
Plentyoffish Get Togethers
Poems And Quotes
Prince Edward Island
Recipes & Cooking
Sex and Dating
Technology and computers
Volunteer Moderators Only
Thread: After 7 years, should he be able to walk back into his daughters life?
After 7 years, should he be able to walk back into his daughters life?
Posted: 4/12/2007 7:04:50 AM
Bottom Line: 7 years ago, yesterday, tomorrow and 5 generations from now...he will STILL be her father. Yes he may disappoint her, you will as well! Not in the same degree of course..but still! Every child has a right to know their parents, it helps complete them. Growing up without a father does so much underlying damage to a child, that has been proven over and over.
Of course, that does not mean give him free rein of her but he deserves the chance to step up to the plate and be the father he chooses to be. You have no way of knowing his intent, you can only let go of the past, forgive him and encourage him and your daughter to form a new relationship. That will take a great deal of self control on your part but in the end your daughter will thank you. No matter the outcome you will know you have done your best to raise a healthy, happy, well rounded child. After all...life is full of joy AND disappointments. Hard lessons to learn yes, but ones we deal with on a daily basis.
My ex is not the father I wish him to be, nor the father my children wish him to be...but he is still their father, he is still present at times and I have taught my children to enjoy him as they can, to love him and cherish him. Sometimes people take roads they never meant to take and before they know it...they are in the gutter. It happens. You simply do the very best you can to raise your daughter and not speak badly about her father, that will crush her almost as much as his neglect can.
dating a guy who is all over me from the get go
Posted: 4/4/2007 7:54:36 AM
Come on girly, you know what to do! Your instincts are there for a reason, listen to them!
In all honesty, we are ALL after the nookie...but really, not in the first few dates! Heck, a guy is lucky if he even gets a kiss from me in the first few! Now, I'm not a prude so DO NOT read too much into that but I think if a person is looking for something long term they will conduct themselves in a more guarded manner.
would you date a person that used foul language all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2007 10:27:19 AM
bucsgirl...I could not have said it better myself. When I was younger I cussed WORSE than a sailor. After maturing some I realized how awful I must have sounded. Nowdays I still cuss a little (after all..fxxk IS a beautiful word :) but make it a point to NOT do it in front of my children. I guess I kind of view it as a way of "letting my hair down" when I am without the responsibilty of anyone but myself. I would NOT date a person that used it in their daily language and especially in front of children or with the public in general...that would just be plain embarassing. Cussing and lack thereof is kind of like a rite of passage. We do it when we are teens to show anarchy, to fight the system, then we grow up and see what this world is really all about.
Money or Love
Posted: 3/30/2007 10:50:55 PM
Money is a necessity....love is a burning desire.
I guess the thing to remember is...if it is the love of my life, destined to be together forever it really wouldn't matter that I was losing half my income...after all...I will be gaining HIS! (we'd gain each other's of course if you want to be politically correct!)
Show ALL Forums