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crazydiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

Possibility for rejection Posted: 10/6/2008 7:27:02 PM
I paid attention to every poster and realized I have my own conundrums, which may be universal, or not ........ so far, most men have approached and 'carrot dangled' in the form of email responses...... then that was it. I'm thinking that perhaps, I have been reticent in my responses... at least, that is what I tell myself, in lieu of accepting the fact that mayhap, I am not tantalizing enough. I admit to having lost confidence through this medium.

crazydiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Would you leave him if he is impotent? Posted: 10/6/2008 7:10:11 PM
Yes, I would, and I have. Sadly, they were all named 'Michael'. Even more sadly, they did not make any efforts to correct the problem...which is so simple these days. Worst of all, I took responsibility.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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*NJ get together- Saturday, Feb 9 2008, 12-2 PM Cream Ridge Winery* Posted: 2/11/2008 10:41:48 AM
Well done Mark - you certainly pulled out all the stops to make things easy for all of us - thank you so much for your attention to detail, and mostly for standing out in the cold so long, catching up with stragglers - I 'spect the bright green hat kept you warm enough Cheers, Toni.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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*NJ get together- Saturday, Feb 9 2008, 12-2 PM Cream Ridge Winery* Posted: 2/8/2008 11:12:08 AM
I was trying to get in touch with cl092 - but she is not accepting emails from my age or gender About tomorrow's wine tasting event. T.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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DANCE PARTY W /POF DJ RPM NO COVER Feb. 2nd Posted: 2/7/2008 10:25:34 AM
Oops! Missed it... I knew I was missing something, dammit! How many folk went and how much fun did you have?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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The date and the parking situation Posted: 1/14/2008 1:00:04 PM
Womderful - thank you. What is the name of the band?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Monmouth County Pre-Winter Week-end Mingle Posted: 1/14/2008 6:55:48 AM
Sounds wonderful, although finding a parking spot in Red Bank is like trying to push butter up a porcupine's bum with a red hot needle! Virtually impossible ! So is it Friday the 18th January or Friday 25th that folk are planning on meeting? Cheers, Toni.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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*NJ get together- Saturday, Feb 9 2008, 12-2 PM Cream Ridge Winery* Posted: 1/11/2008 6:00:12 AM
This sounds terribly exciting. I'm only concerned about drinking and driving. Anyone from the Neptune / Belmar area considering going? Might be lovely to double up. Cheers everyone. Toni.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Monmouth County Post Summer Mid-Week Fun Night Posted: 9/26/2007 7:32:36 AM
OK - so I've missed a few days - where are we going and when?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Meeting in traffic... Posted: 9/10/2007 8:11:51 AM
Smiling always works well for me. Asking directions would be a huge step forward Sorry - accidentally taking the mickey out of men and the stereotypical comment about "asking for directions"! (shame on me). Sign language has helped immensely in situations where hearing is not an option. I'd still go with the huge card held up with a telephone # on it - but you'd be putting yourself out there I'm afraid - things/people aren't always what they seem. JMHO.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Monmouth County Post Summer Mid-Week Fun Night Posted: 9/6/2007 8:33:31 AM
Oh Jerry - for goodness sakes - You can manage it! I've seen you on the dance floor, don't forget - you've got energy to burn, Sunshine !

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Monmouth County Post Summer Mid-Week Fun Night Posted: 9/6/2007 8:32:18 AM
Harley - how marvellous - if you'd stop by Neptune on your way through, I'll climb on the back and ride with you. Got all my own gear, so that's not a problem - all you need to provide is a b-i-t-c-h pad and I'll park my a-r-s-e on it. Sound good? Cheers, Toni. Oh - here's a thought - email addy is Amkiwi@optonline.net.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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middle aged & multiple divorced- a red flag or not? Posted: 8/22/2007 9:41:04 AM
I am replying to message 78 - Guesswhoo - You certainly hit the nail on the head here. His Lordsh!t actually went to extremes to tell everyone I was nuts and he had to get out of the marriage. This falsity did not really come to light until after I was long gone, when his true colours were flying high. We divorced over religious differences - he thought he was G0D and I didn't!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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middle aged & multiple divorced- a red flag or not? Posted: 8/21/2007 10:04:23 AM
I, too, was raised in the 'should be married' era - that marriage lasted 18 years and produced a terrific lady and two grandchildren. Sadly, I came home from working abroad and found him in the hot tub with my neighbour and good friend. So then I married his best friend - mistook lust for love. That ended brutally after 4 years because he only knew how to communicate by pistol-whipping me, jacking me up against the wall by the throat, and kicking me with his boots on - the final straw was the 410 shotgun in the mouth - that was when I ran. He was 17 years older than me and after I got out (by the skin of my teeth) all was revealed - he had beaten his first 2 wives, and subsequent girlfriends (over a period of 20 years), AND - shockingly, is a pedophile. I loved being married, and I thought I wanted to again - apparently I spend more time avoiding getting too close, in case I accidentally get married again.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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lights on or off? Posted: 8/20/2007 9:57:33 AM
Msg 37 - That's what I was going to say.....

CrazyDiamond97

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I want to be woo-ed. (Or proactively, do the woo-ing) Posted: 8/17/2007 12:15:41 PM
How interesting............ I looked at Spider 45's profile and read with some interest and amusement - he challenges the reader to make contact and not just breeze through as in a Sears Catalogue, so I took him up on the challenge and decided to send an unsolicited email - purely to bely his comments about there being very few ladies left and in response to a few other caustic remarks - I was hit with a "Spider45 DOES NOT WANT TO TALK TO YOU. Please return to your inbox!" Hawhahahaaw

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Over 45 .. how do you look at a new relationship ? Posted: 8/16/2007 12:54:31 PM
I concur with Maeflower's msg 13 -- just now - up until this posting, I believed I was looking for a long term relationship. Maeflower caused me to rethink. I am happy being independent, but I miss the intimacy and familiarity of being in a relationship. A common statement among women these days, I find, is : "I'd like a man in my life, but not in my house." Perhaps that is, after all, what I really mean. Gosh, that revelation sucks, somewhat! Ought I to amend my profile? Ah Bollocks!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Got a great new vibrator! Posted: 2/22/2007 12:56:28 PM
I have yet to meet a man that would use his d*ck for clitoral stimualtion only and keep it there till she got off, lol, yah right. Brilliant and most perfect answer. Ain't it the sad truth??

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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SEX AND WOMEN OVER 40 OR 50????? Posted: 2/22/2007 11:52:43 AM
I was about to say the same thing, so thankyou. Saved me the writing. Cheers.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Honest Liars? Posted: 2/22/2007 8:48:56 AM
And its 'TACK' not 'Tact' - "The opposite Tack" as in direction ................ are we clear on this? And you were doing so well with your dictionary - extrapolate??? WTF

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Laughing Orgasm Posted: 2/19/2007 12:39:06 PM
Hell's Bells, I thought it was just me and have found myself apologizing profusely. Excellent - now I can really let rip - so is pharting allowed at the same time as well?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 2/19/2007 11:50:54 AM
Laissez-faire - a doctine opposing governmental control of economic affairs beyond that necessary to maintain peace and property rights.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 2/19/2007 11:11:31 AM
I'm with you on this one Dime - my exes would settle an argument or a disagreement by saying something barbed such as : "Jeeze, living with you is like living with a frigging encyclopaedia or a dictionary!"; or: "So what are you saying? I'm an idiot with a big d**k? So what does that make you?" - of course this had absolutely no bearing on the topic under discussion, but it served to impale the barb in the softest spot. Back then, I would retort in kind with something like "Excuse me, were your Mum and Dad Joseph and Mary?". Suffice it to say, it is, in my opinion, terribly important to be on a similar level of education and intelligence with your SO. In the long run, he didn't end up more intelligent or kinder; I ended up hurt and disgusted with myself for scraping the bottom of the barrel with unkind return-barbs!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Women who won't commit Posted: 2/19/2007 7:39:31 AM
Blastkissed - thanks for writing everything for me - especially this part: "So far, I can't even get past the first date. Mostly because I just feel unimpressed. I don't know if it's the city I'm in (quite possible) or what but I seem to keep attracting alcoholics or drug users." I am increasingly bored with the men who pursue me, also - and I'm really fed up with the men who 'don't drink anymore' - 'can't drive until they get their license back' - 'have cats and dogs they need to get home to to feed' - 'in between jobs' - etc. I always seem to end up carrying the conversation, making the decision where to go and what to do - where are all the adventurous men? The 'take charge' men? Someone I might be entirely interested in thinking about committing to? Currently, one of the men I am interested in is out of the state at least 2 weeks of the month, which would be fine, except he has 3 children who demand his attention when he is back in town, so I'm always taking a back seat and having dates postponed or cancelled. Couple that with a demanding and aggressive ex-wife - and that spells the end of this relationship, which had the potential to be extremely satisfying for both parties - I would have been ready to commit to exclusive dating with this person, but I don't see anyway around the situation. Referring to the OP's initial comments - I do fit most of the criteria mentioned that would label me as 'commitment-phobic' - but that profile has been a long time (and a lot of water under the bridge) under development - making me extremely wary, and obviously picky, of making decisions too quickly - I'm using my head more than my heart these days.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Women at Pubs by Themselves Posted: 2/12/2007 12:02:34 PM
If you want a drink and you're out, stop off for a pint....why not? If you're single and you want to get laid, go out and get a drink....why not? Guys don't have to justify why they go into a bar alone, why should you? WELL SAID!!!!!!!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Women at Pubs by Themselves Posted: 2/12/2007 11:59:31 AM
Well said, Mari - I have no problem going to pubs alone, either. (Fancy you finding one with Kiwis in it - hahaha). Anyway - in all of those countries you mentioned - especially NZ and England - it was a common practise - we didn't think anything of it - Do you remember the Ladies Lounge? For the most part, our husbands/boyfriends would likely turn up later. Then there's the Darts Teams - women and men alike belonged. It wasn't until I came to America that I found out there is a stigma attached to single women who go to pubs alone. I refused to take on that pressure and stigmatize myself. There's a huge difference between a single lady going into a pub alone, and a single 'tart' going into a pub alone. It's blatantly obvious to me, so I'm guessing it's pretty damned obvious to the blokes who are in there and just happen to know which ones to hit on. I say 'piffle' to a man who will lable me a (what do you call it? a slut/whore?) - I prefer tart/harlot! - Whoa betide him if he calls me that to my face - he's likely to wear a # 6 1/2 boot right up his fundamental orifice!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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How does POF make you think towards the opposite sex? Posted: 2/7/2007 12:49:31 PM
Well Mr Baker - I can honestly say that I am who I say I am in my profile. The pictures are all real, a person whom I lovingly refer to as my stand-in, and who is available on an hourly basis. (Kidding) - my photos were taken last summer and last month. But yes, in a way, I agree with you. I'm fed up to the back teeth with going to all the trouble of meeting someone whose photographs are about 10 years old, or 100 lbs earlier - who ask you to meet them in a bar, and then don't have the decency to meet you outside, or even stand up when you arrive - who say they drink and smoke, and don't do either, and don't like women who drink and smoke! It's ludicrous. For the most part, to be fair, these types are few and far between (I sound as though I'm contradicting myself, don't I?) - but there are the exceptions, and they are the fun dates. I'm not giving up yet though - I hear you have to kiss a lot of frogs..........................................????

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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The I'll call you Posted: 2/7/2007 9:49:13 AM
That's what I was going to say, trolley. It's blatantly obvious at the end of a 'meet', if the man asks when he can see you again, as opposed to "I'll call" - better yet............put them both together............."When can I see you again? I'll call to set up a time" - something like that anyway. But on the other hand, referring back to my first posting - I find it extremely difficult to tell the person I just met that I am not interested and there will likely be no other times we will meet. This is something I need to work on, I think. I wouldn't mind some input, either. Just not the brutal kind!!!!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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The I'll call you Posted: 2/7/2007 9:39:04 AM
Jeeze nos800 - so am I (guilty). So how does one get past the 'easy way out'? I met this chap on Sunday early evening for 'Men in Tights' (Superbowl). He is soooooooooooo not my type - and absolutely nothing like his profile or pictures. Several reasons why - anyway - I left early (paid for my own drink and bowl of onion soup - which he didn't turn a hair at), making an excuse that I was not feeling well at all, and had to be in court first thing in the morning. Off I go, thoroughly relieved. He keeps calling to make other plans (such as 'sitting with him in front of his fire'.........!), and I have no idea how to deal with it. I'm loathe to tell him I am just not interested, which I probably should have done from the get-go - but that's water under the bridge now. I cringe at the thought of hurting someone's feelings........what a dilemma! I'm sure the claws will come out at me on this one, but I had to admit, I am guilty of the 'I'll call you' cop out. Sorry.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Just throwing this out there... Posted: 2/7/2007 9:08:50 AM
I'm with you on this one ya472 - sounds too preposterous to be genuine.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Setting out expectations for relationships in the beginning? Posted: 2/7/2007 8:56:47 AM
Edit: I think you were hurt by the fact that this Ex of yours never did, or could not, come up with a really good explanation as to why he wanted to move on with his life. The not knowing part hurts the worst, does anyone that truly cares. This (edit) really hit home with me. I believed we were both thoroughly enjoying our relationship (long distance or not - 2 hrs), but for some odd reason, he stopped calling after our last wonderful visit, stopped answering emails, and didn't return voicemails. For a month I was completely bewildered. My immediate thoughts were; 'he's been hit by a truck'; 'he's over a cliff somewhere'; 'he's in a coma in a hospital somewhere' - and I had no idea how to get information - all I have is his phone number and email address. Eventually, perhaps 5 weeks later, I had a short reply to a 'please tell me what the hell has happened' email - "Sorry he hadn't been in touch. Been very busy and things were getting complicated. Sorry I didn't feel I could talk to you about it." End of message. That was 3 weeks ago. Has been 'dead air' ever since. I see-sawed from shock to heart-wrenching pain, to anger, to self-doubt, to anger, pain again, now I'm back to building up the wall around my heart. Yes, the not knowing part hurts the most - I'm wondering if I wouldn't have preferred a giant a**-blowing lie.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Why do women find sex on a first date so weird? Posted: 1/29/2007 11:12:11 AM
I was thinking the same thing, Kaos - and these days, if it wasn't for first dates, I'd never get laid!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 1/26/2007 9:51:08 AM
Yes, Plumbers Daughter - you're right about downtown Freehold - also there is The Court Jester, that can be a bit roudy with after work crowds, but still and all, a fun and safe place to meet. There's the Cabin on Route 33 - there's music there (Classic Rock) every Thurs, Frid, Sat night. Beacon Street Grille ?? decent enough food, quiet places in the restaurant proper, or booths around the bar. Connolly's Station on 8th Avenue and Main in Belmar - separate dining room, or booths around the bar - usually live music - The Brick Wall in Asbury Park - new chic place - live music most nights. Then again, there's always Red Bank - Reds (club and restaurant - caters to the younger crowd), Ashes - you'll hate this if you're not a smoker. Buona Serra (sp?) in Red Bank. Then there's Elements in Sea Girt - owner is Jon Bon Jovi's brother - not sure if they're still serving dinners or not. Ichabods, across the road in Sea Girt - great biker bar during the summer season, for rides out to Sandy Hook and along Ocean Boulevard through Deal, Long Branch, etc.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Making your sex life better for your partner.... Posted: 1/24/2007 1:10:51 PM
Msg # 5 - Justaguy - Are you busy tonight, or this year? I reckon two Gemini's together could blow holes in the sheets, don't you?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Old love Posted: 1/24/2007 8:49:47 AM
I empathize with you. I had a very similar situation for 6 months last year, only this bloke lived directly around the corner from me. I would go to my car in the morning and there'd be flowers, gifts, cards, chocolates, etc., on the bonnet of my car. He would cruise the car parks of the local pubs looking for my car and then sneak into the bar and stand in a darkened corner, watching me, waiting for me to leave - if I was with someone, he would make such a gawd-awful scene, the bartenders would throw him out and call the police. By the time the police arrived, he had left. He'd park on the street in the dark and wait for my car to go by then follow me, riding close on my bumper. Text messages up the wazoo - up to 30 in a day, starting out pleading, then bleeding hearting-it, then cursing the day I was born and 'no wonder I was single - I was such a mean, selfish bch and should never be allowed to breed.' This went on for 6 months after I broke off (tried valiantly too, anyway) a 6 week relationship. As soon as I realized he was completely possessive and possibly dangerous, I broke it off - well, that was entirely the wrong thing to do - I apparently had no right to 'destroy' someone's life, when all he wanted to do was love me.! I gave the police all his information, and they went to his house several times, but he was never there. I copied and printed all his text messages and left them with the police, and gave my cell phone with voicemails to the police to listen to. Apparently, there is nothing the police can do until he has actually injured or physically threatened me in any way. Talk about shutting the gate after the horse has bolted ~! I was unable to have my cellphone company block any incoming calls or text messages, T-Mobile does not offer that option. So in essence, I was in a complete pickle. I had to have 'look-outs' at my local and if he turned up, I would high-tail it out the back door through the kitchen. One day, he got smart and was waiting by my car, he grabbed my arm and threw me onto the bonnet of my car with his nose 2" from my nose and started hissing obsenities at me - my trusty bartender/bouncer was right up his a* with a #14 boot - jacked his arm up his back and tied him to a telephone pole and called the police. A couple of nights in jail to cool his heels, where he ironically met another woman and started dating her.............. how's that for a story? worthy of a book?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 388 (view)

Why men wont date independant women Posted: 1/24/2007 7:34:29 AM
Mesna - thankyou - everything you said, I wanted to say, but you said it more succinctly - I tend to have verbal diarrhoea when I'm trying to explain what 'independence' means for me. When asked what I want in a man - that's hard to answer too, and you did it for me. Rather it's easier to state what you 'don't want' in a man, isn't it? Thanks again - can I cut and paste ?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Anyone here regret having oral sex too early in a relationship? Posted: 1/23/2007 6:59:20 AM
Too frigging funny - I refer to the post that said "once we've exchanged names.............." Sometimes I think to myself, "if it wasn't for first dates, I'd never get laid!"

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Does it get sucked in? Posted: 1/22/2007 12:45:56 PM
Nope luvey - it doesn't get 'sucked in' - if there was anything to excrete, it would have been done, if he'd gotten his deed done. But it doesn't have to be Mr Vesuvius every time, hon! Also, if he went limp virtually straight away, then he did his deed, if he stayed at attention for some time, and you could conceivably have called him 'Tripod' as he tippy-toed off to the loo, and had to steady himself with one hand on the wall, and standing at quite an angle in order to Aim to Please, then you can satisfy yourself that he f-f-f-faked it and go and pour yourself a stiff one! (Every pun intended )

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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What does it mean when a woman calls a guy sweet? Posted: 1/22/2007 12:18:26 PM
I must agree with you and Sparty-cus whatshisface (no offense Sparty - I just drew a blank on your screen name). It's true, in my case - if I say "Oh, that is sweet, thankyou." It's pretty much a foregone conclusion, at least it ought to be. When the Postman brings my letters to the back door, rather than leave them in the letter box, he would get a "Oh, that's sweet, thankyou." If I say "Whoa! Sweet !" then chances are good that we are almost knickerless.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

Why do men want to change you? Posted: 1/22/2007 11:32:18 AM
Bloody good point! I'll think on that one also.

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

Why do men want to change you? Posted: 1/22/2007 11:30:08 AM
I'm right behind you on this one, Gallivanting. Everything you said about why they were first attracted to you, then the resentment, then the accusations that you are all of a sudden a big flirt and not the 'outgoing, fun-to-be-with person' that originally attracted them in the first place. Go figure - it's beyond me. Oh, one more thing - he loved that I had lots of friends - then after a while, those friends were 'No good for me' - 'Just out to pick up men' - 'using me' - 'living vicariously through me' - 'dragging me down' - to the point where I ended up estranged from all my friends and only able to socialize with his friends, who eventually began to dislike me because "apparently" I was making his life miserable! You can imagine, that particular bloke is now walking with a limp! And walking alone too!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 101 (view)

Someone explain what headgames are? Posted: 1/22/2007 11:14:42 AM
Well thankyou Vulf - what a sigh of relief I just breathed. I omitted the final curtain on this type of situation - constant phone calls and requests to meet again, and I really don't want to so I'm always too busy, until finally, two days later (after date one!) I get a pithy email that says something like "Sob....sob..... I thought we would be so good together, but you're always too busy for me....sob....sob..... why didn't you say you didn't want an LTR when I first contacted you?" -- That's the bit that floors me........................ I desperately want to scream back "Listen DOPEY! - I DO WANT AN LTR - it just isn't going to be with you - Only I was trying not to hurt your feelings! Now, Sunshine - how does that feel?" You see Vult, I could never do or say anything like that, so I take in on the nose and feel like I've just been dragged through a bush backwards. There ya have it!

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 96 (view)

Someone explain what headgames are? Posted: 1/22/2007 10:37:52 AM
Gosh, I've gone cross-eyed reading all these responses to the 'Headgames' question. I'm so hoping I haven't been doing that, but if so, may I explain? One question asked of me in the initial contact (the first email) is "What do you think of my picture?" or "Are you interested?" How can I possibly answer those questions from either of those two sentences? So you respond, and they seem nice, then you agree to meet, because dragging it out would be like pulling teeth without an anaesthetic - so you meet, and you're not at all attracted to him, not in the slightest - but now you're in the middle of something, and he's pulled out all his stops - i.e. - he's freshly shaved with only a few little pieces of toilet paper dotted around his ears and chin, he only got lost twice and you had to go and find him, he doesn't drink (and his profile said 'socially') - he doesn't smoke and hates smokers, (but he supposedly read your profile - EVERY WORD but missed that part that states you are a smoker!) - so then the first meeting is going swimmingly for him, but you are drowning. Then he wants to see you again because he feels you are 'totally compatible' - well, hell, POF matched us up! GTFOH! Now, I'm still trying to be nice and not hurt his feelings, so I say something pathetically banal, such as "Oh, yes, friends sounds good, we can do that!" "Sure, you can call!" - Can this be construed as 'headgames'? Should I say up front, "This is not going well" - and run the risk of hurting his feelings? My Dad always told me, "Never say NO to a man who asks you to dance, because it took him a lot to get up the courage to ask, and it's only a dance!" I'm finding myself in a terrible quandary trying not to hurt feelings and balancing on the edge of egos, maybe coming dangerously close to 'headgames' - AM I? Toni

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 245 (view)

NY NY meet and greet Posted: 1/19/2007 10:00:42 AM
Akshly - I was thinking the same thing - no call, no card - nothing. Now I feel like I am a day late and a dollar short - was the meet and greet in March of 2006? And I'm just getting wind of it6? Or is it this March, 2007 in New York? possibly NJ?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 244 (view)

NY NY NY Meet and greet March 31st Posted: 1/19/2007 9:55:03 AM
I'll car pool with you, nursekay - I'm in Neptune. Actually, I just started reading this thread so I really have no idea what I'm car pooling to. I understand it's a Mee4t and Greet, but where in New York. Here's another idea. The train is a great way to travel - if you're close to the station, should work well. Anyone else in and around Jersey Shore that is happy to 'train it'?

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

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Building castles in the air Posted: 1/19/2007 7:28:13 AM
Jadore, thanks for mentioning the book - 10 Thingies...............etc..... I shall look for it on line. Cheers (from Further Down Under!)

CrazyDiamond97

Joined: 12/21/2006

Msg: 145 (view)

Older women-Younger men Posted: 1/18/2007 12:59:35 PM
I'm with you Shore. I've had an LTR with a chap who is 19 years younger than me, and it's perfectly fine. In fact, I am bored silly with men my age and older. I'm not exaggerating when I say that they are soooooooooooooo out of shape and they are searching for a petite woman who takes care of herself and her body! that's the kicker! I do have to weed out the obvious "searching for a Sugar Mummy" youngster though. I often wonder if they are thinking - "Well, hell, she's single, perhaps she bled her ex dry in the divorce, or perhaps the old guy 'karked it' (died) and left her a bundle." In which case, he's expecting a brand new car every year and trips to Tahoe and the Italian Riviera. It soon becomes obvious when he asks what kind of car you drive. I'm on the floor guffawing raucously at this point. Shine on!

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