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kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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In the Heat of the moment he ask !!!! Posted: 11/24/2009 3:37:09 AM
I do know is that he is going to get upset if I start seeing other people. So what? His words say that we will go our seperate ways with other people someday but in the same breath he say's we will be together as friends forever. And you're buying that jive? I have come to the concluesion that he has no idea what he wants. Sure he does: friend-with-benefits. Sounds like he's getting it, too. I really care for him and don't want to hurt him or lose his friendship. Is it possible? Not now.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Why does he say best date ever then not call? Posted: 11/24/2009 3:28:07 AM
Obviously he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear. ... and then never call? Because he's shot his wad, run out of superlatives.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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hey guys need your advice Posted: 11/24/2009 3:16:28 AM
shall i pay something next time? Yes OR shall i get him something as gift? No.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Do women differ in how they select a mate? Posted: 11/24/2009 3:10:58 AM
Do women differ in how they select a mate? No. They all want the very same thing. Haven't you noticed that all husbands are exactly alike? And to anticipate your next profound inquiry, all men want the very same thing, and all wives are exactly alike. Consummatum est.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Laugh Tracks Posted: 11/23/2009 5:01:50 AM
Am I the only one who thinks sitcoms with embedded laugh tracks are just stupid beyond comprehension?" "That stupid program insults my intelligence every day!" — Morrie Brickman

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Met on date site now does one withdraw or ask the question? Posted: 11/22/2009 3:36:47 AM
...the meetings becoming less often, should one take the hint? Yes. if the relationship is over nine months and that person seems to still be interested but has all manner of reasons for not meeting up, then is it time to call it a day. Yes again. If this LDR were to develop, one of you would have to relocate. And since the attraction is already fading, someone would end up marooned. ...or do they prefer to be left alone and for the woman to find new innovative ways to keep their interest alive. Alive for what? More than pulling teeth, this is like putting them back in.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Conscience Bothering Me Posted: 11/22/2009 3:15:16 AM
Anyway, the conversation got sidetracked and the subject was changed and I never had a chance to tell him the full story. Then he didn't care to know at the time. how do I reopen the discussion to clairify that part of my life or should I just let it go? Let it go, until he asks.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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he likes you he likes you not Posted: 11/21/2009 1:40:05 AM
...he has huge feelings for you and that he is totally into you... that he cannot concentrate on you now and he does not wanna worry about you and that he is sorry that you will get hurt you came at a wrong time into his life. This would be a pattern for the future--if there is a future, and for your sake I hope there isn't. If it's "a wrong time" in his life, he had no business spewing out the romantic prelude.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Best way to turn a guy down? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:07:42 AM
Don't reply. You just open yourself up to abusive emails from frustrated guys. Agree with Cowboy. Do a thread-search, and you'll see that this is the trend. Or don't do it, and see how long you like being cussed out.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Whats up with that? Posted: 11/20/2009 3:51:47 AM
Why not tell her in a phone call exactly what you told us and see what she says? No. OP has already attempted conversation, and this is what he got. She may be unstable and/or something, but obviously a waste of time.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Anybody interested In American literature Posted: 11/18/2009 4:22:56 AM
Robert Crumb Interesting choice, Fish. So how about Harvey Pekar? He pioneered "slice of life" writing in the comic-book format. Nowadays if you look at the 741 shelves in the library, you'll that it's not all "comics" anymore. Librarians have added terms like "graphic novel," but that's not really adequate. As Pekar said, we're getting more "words with pictures." I believe this is a major break-thru. Until recently, printing text and images on the same page was expensive and a PITA. But now with digital, it's easy. Almost any subject is better with illustrations than without, so I think we'll see more of it.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Anybody interested In American literature Posted: 11/15/2009 4:50:39 AM
How about Dorothy Parker? A much underrated writer, her short stories are rich and subtle: why is she underrated... Excellent choice. To this day she's still the monarch of the one-liner comeback.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Need an explanation Posted: 11/13/2009 3:50:57 AM
I'm probably not going about this the wrong way... No you're not. What you're doing is about all that can be done. ...it just makes me feel like she isn't interested, or can't hold a conversation That is correct.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Do you recontact after a period of time during which there's no contact? Posted: 11/11/2009 4:40:37 AM
Do you recontact after a period of time during which there's no contact? Nope. Done shot my wad. Conversely if someone recontacts you after a period of time do you respond? Maybe and skeptically, and maybe not. Am I supposed to be Plan B?

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Can you believe it ? Posted: 11/10/2009 2:42:54 AM
Compensation? Consult the Yellow Pages for "escort services" and call around.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Is it harder to fall in love after you reach a certain age? Posted: 11/7/2009 2:00:21 AM
We'd like to think it's harder to get fooled, or to fool ourselves, over time.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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I Don't Know What to Say? Posted: 11/2/2009 1:48:27 AM
First, say something to make it clear that you've read the profile. If you ignore obvious incompatabilities, it will look like scam. If there's nothing in a profile to comment on, then that person doesn't know what to say either.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/1/2009 2:34:54 AM
What's the upside to being over 50 and single Admitting that No Company is Better than Bad Company.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Is it okay to ignore an email from no photo? Posted: 10/31/2009 3:29:33 AM
It wouldn't take too much time to reply with "Thanks for the email. I'll need a photo to continue" or something similar. Oops. Wait a sec. What if you don't like the photo? You would have led him on, only to cut him off. Otherwise, set you requirements to "must have photo" so you won't get email from photoless people That's much better.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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I'd Rather Him NOT Respond at All Posted: 10/31/2009 3:18:28 AM
This is the great, big, anonymous World-Wide Web. Anybody with electricity and a little money can get on. There used to be a popular riddle "If you had a roomfull of monkeys with typewriters and infinite time, what could they produce?" Well, now you have one example.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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what exactly is high maintenance Posted: 10/31/2009 2:59:03 AM
1. Possessed of expensive material tastes and requiring lots of money. 2. Emotionally helpless and requiring lots of propping-up.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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does he like me or just being friendly? Posted: 10/30/2009 3:35:30 AM
he also asked me my sign How moronic. Oh well, if you believe in that, you'll believe anything, and if you're already an adult, there's no remedy. Everything's pre-ordained, so do as you're compelled.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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HELP Posted: 10/30/2009 3:20:24 AM
When we are together we have alot of fun until he starts drinking and then he becomes annoying. Then alcohol is a truth serum because it brings out the true personality. In this case it's an excuse for bad manners. Remove the alcohol, and he'll find another pretext. I really could see a future with him… No kidding! You're already there.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Does he or does he not like me. Posted: 10/29/2009 4:04:43 AM
We have 100% compatibility. You most certainly do not, because the foregoing blurb refutes it. You're fooling yourself.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Its been a year and a half Posted: 10/29/2009 3:58:31 AM
And hes still not really over his ex. Bzzzzt. Game over. End of story. Should I wait it out until he tells me he is over her, or should I be the good friend who is there to listen Listen to what? The same thing over and over?

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Guys, what do you think about this...? Posted: 10/29/2009 3:51:25 AM
...more like lack of confidence shy. Does this turn you off... Sure does. ...and if so, to what extent & why? To the total extent, because it entails constant propping-up, for which it's too late. It's like having a daughter without having a wife first. If you're otherwise very attracted to her, will it turn you off enough to stop you from asking her out again? Certainly. Once was enough. I'm not qualified to adopt.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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When a girl says,I'll think about it... Posted: 10/28/2009 2:32:25 AM
How come when a girl says, "I'll think about it," some guys think that means no? Because, at the moment, that's exactly what it means. It's your ball now.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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I wrote song for him. what do guys think of the idea of an ex-gf singing to them as a xmas girft? Posted: 10/28/2009 2:23:19 AM
if you do that then that may be the most awkward moment you both will ever have.... If not "ever," then certainly up till that moment. Drop it.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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What does it mean Posted: 10/28/2009 2:07:10 AM
I'm a bad girl and you're just so sweet and you deserve someone so good" or something like that. She's telling the truth. Get out before you get burned.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Kiss of Death? Posted: 10/27/2009 2:08:50 AM
To me it's like a dog marking it's territory It sure does look that way. Or like a carnival-barker shouting "Who's next? Step right up!"

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Conversation and Relating to Women Posted: 10/26/2009 5:43:30 AM
Is it normal to meet some people and have absolutely nothing to talk about with them? Hell, yes. Most of the time, as you'll probably find out eventually.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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question when a male friend reads a profile Posted: 10/26/2009 4:07:03 AM
i took out a profile out on eharmony i do not understand when he found out he was not too happy Aw, that's tragic as all get-out. Life is so unfair. he just found it when he was probably entering his anyway what gives It's the old double-standard. He stuck his nose where it doesn't belong and got it punched. Presumptious little snot.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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have a question please... Posted: 10/26/2009 3:53:19 AM
…or are some people just divorcing because they're so bored over the yrs w/the same person Some are. But mainly, more people are divorcing nowadays because they can. It wasn't always so easy. No-fault divorce wasn't law in most places until the 1970s. Also until about then, it was uncommon for women to have careers that paid for a decent living. So they were forced to be dependents. At the same time, the ex-husband could lose everything in alimony. So marriage was more of a trap than it is now. it seems by the time you marry, you know the other person well enough to have a pretty good idea of what the other person is like... Apparently not, since at least half the marriages end in divorce.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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help, im so confused! Posted: 10/26/2009 3:27:33 AM
You have a FWB that you have included into your childrens' lives …What in bloody are you thinking "Hi, Uncle-Daddy-Mister!" — cartoon by R. Crumb

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Could use some help on what happened. Posted: 10/26/2009 3:04:56 AM
For all you know, it wasn't even a girl you were talking to. Anyone can create a profile and steal a pic to upload - it's easy & it happens I'm surprised that so many people overlook this. If we'd had Internet when I was 15, I'm sure I would yield to the temptation.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Brushed Off Easily Posted: 10/26/2009 2:44:24 AM
but I've had a lot of conversations that go about 5 messages, I think we're getting along and she stops talking. Then she's probably run out of things to say, as most people do. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. You don't have to do anything wrong. People are not (necessarily) interchangeable, and any two picked at random are probably not a match.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Does this sound like a scammer? Posted: 10/25/2009 3:54:35 AM
One of the clues was that the first communication from my first scammer had the word "honesty" 12 times in one paragraph. And don't forget the phrase "god-fearing." I have no idea WTF that's supposed to mean, but crap is crap, and who needs categories?

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Sleep over's Posted: 10/25/2009 3:33:54 AM
i know that i'm just not ready to spend all day at his place while he's at work Then don't. What would you do all day, anyway? …and i think it's way to soon for that is it ok if i just tell him… Of course. …or should i take a chance and spend the weekend Only if you like being furniture.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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I am gettin a complex Posted: 10/25/2009 3:21:21 AM
…but keep getting shot down because of a picture? Should I just put my picture open for everyone to see and have it be a superficial start If that's the problem, then yes.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Second (or Third or. . . ) Time Around Posted: 10/23/2009 3:22:31 AM
In some ways, I think I was haunted by the possibility that somehow I hadn't tried hard enough the first time If you get too lonesome, it's easy to remember the good times and forget why you had to divorce.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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if she says there's no romantic feelings Posted: 10/22/2009 3:37:28 AM
if she says there's no romantic feelings Then there aren't. Which part of NO has you stumped?

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Is rebellion getting old? Posted: 10/21/2009 7:17:07 AM
The only thing left to rebel against in pop culture is rebellion itself. Hardly! There's always materialistic, consumer greed that exploits natural resources and human labor. But then, poor people don't buy music. So "screw you, Jack; I got mine." But as Iconoclast said: As long as people feel oppressed by the society they live in there will always be rebellion

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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The old Circle back..... Posted: 10/21/2009 6:49:53 AM
The people who do this aren't flakey per se... they are just cruel and un-empathetic... I've seen both. One woman sent an e-mail, I answered in kind, and after a few exchanges it fizzled because there was no match. Then months later she wrote 'Saw your profile and…' I replied 'Don't you remember…' and got cussed out. They don't think you are good enough to give 100% effort but they want to keep you around "just in case" things don't go well with their main object of affection. That yes, and I think the problem sometimes is long/mid/short-term memory deficiency. Whatever, it won't do at all.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Location, location Posted: 10/20/2009 3:13:45 AM
Would you gamble and risk leaving a good job and/or a good home towards a richer partner environment on the hopes of meeting someone? Certainly not with that motive. You could end up a stranger in a strange land that you don't like after all. If you're going to move, pick a place you like, and you may meet someone who likes it for the same reasons.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Are Your Filters Set Too High? Posted: 10/19/2009 5:52:05 AM
Are you willing to compromise on anything or expand your horizons and search in a new direction? If you can't find your ideal are you quite content to be alone....possibly for the rest of your life without a partner? No company is better than bad company. No trouble is better than lots of trouble.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Should I make contact again? Posted: 10/19/2009 12:28:39 AM
...sent him a message...that you could describe as open-ended, meaning I did not state that if he wanted to talk or was interested to contact me. You don't have to, because that's implicit with a dating site. we seem to have a lot in common Yall don't have that belief in common. What do you guys think I should do? Drop it.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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making things official Posted: 10/18/2009 3:21:19 AM
sometimes they get into fights with their men for this, i was wondering do guys care about making things "official"? "Official" is fine, but some people like privacy too, and Facebook blows that all to hell. BTW, most guys your age don't know what they want.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Says he love me but still chatting to others. Posted: 10/15/2009 3:39:16 AM
So, how do I 'compete'? "Compete?" Compete for what? A place in line? From which you must defend your title until a newcomer knocks you off? I want to know how to 'win' him. Like a trophy, as opposed to a human being? No dice. Says he love me but still chatting to others. Since this bothers you, and surely he must know, he's throwing the word "love" around like trash. If you continue to eat it up, you'll get an appetite for it. And no trophy.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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Is he interested? Posted: 10/15/2009 3:20:54 AM
He responded to all my questions but he didn't really seem interested and I got the feelin he was just trying to be nice because he didn't seem to wanna get to know me. That's right. On the other hand, he might not have replied at all. Which do you prefer? Should I give up or just get to the point and tell him how I feel? Give up on this one. He's not the only fish in the sea. Telling him how you feel (at the moment) won't accomplish anything, because he doesn't want to know.

kornbluth

Joined: 12/25/2006

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I'm 45 and going back to school at night to finish my Bachelors Posted: 10/11/2009 3:26:58 AM
Be aware that if you get sucked into the student-debt scandal, you could be paying to go to work.

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