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Joined: 8/18/2011
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What political things makes Canada and the US much different countries?
Posted: 5/24/2014 11:18:46 AM
So a friend of mine from the Netherlands comes to North America for the first time. First, she and her husband travel to Toronto, Montreal and Vancouver, then to Seattle, LA and we meet in Miami (these Europeans and their month long holidays!).

Anyway, when we meet, they tell me that they were so surprised how different the US is to Canada. Not in the culture (obviously, living in Europe, they are used to different cultures in nearby geographic areas...Don't get me started when I asked the difference between the Dutch and the Danish!) but in how a political system can shape countries differently. They asked me what the key differences were (being a Canadian living in America).

At the time (we had been drinking more than a couple of Coronas) the answer didn't come to me easily, but now that I have a clear head and thinking about the topic, I think there are three major differences.

1. Americans see Capitalism and the Free Open Market system as a good thing. Canadians, not as much.

Canadians see complete capitalism as something that leads to inequality, to the rich getting richer and the rest getting the short end of the stick. That is why Canadians are okay with their level of regulations, the amount of taxes they pay (redistribution of wealth), forced Universal Health Care (they want that as much as Americans want guns) and have this feeling that they are all in it together.

Americans see this as something that stunts exceptional individualism, taxes are nothing but giving what hard working people make to people who may not deserve it and that the Canadian System takes away from personal responsibility (the welfare of fellow man is not the responsibility of government but personal responsibility).

Having said that:

2. Canadians see federal government as a political body that propels a society forward while Americans see federal government as something to be weary of.

American's always talk about two things (at least from the Midwest where I am from). Power should be provided to government bodies that are as local as possible (states vs Federal rights) and that people should be weary of their government (hence the second amendment which is there to "protect the people from the tyranny of their government"). Many people in the US see the Federal Government as an entity that has long overstepped its bounds. Some states even challenge the powers of the Federal government (ie: Immigration). Many people also do not take well having their taxes to pay for things that they feel could be done better by the private world because its a personal responsibility.

Canada seems like they have much more faith in Federal government than Americans. In fact, the Provincial governments (except for that in Quebec), I think are fairly weak and many people look to the federal government to be the ones shaping the social and financial future of the country. Most of the major social programs have been created and administered by Federal Government and the Canadian people (who grumble like all citizen of any country) seem to be more Federalists than Provincialists.

3. Canada's Defence stops at their borders (usually) while the US' Defence doesn't.

Canada has a modest army and is often the butt of jokes. However, Canada doesn't see itself as the policemen of the world and rarely initiates any military action, like most countries in the world. Canada doesn't see itself committing large number of troops to any conflict in the world, nor do they believe they need bases in other countries. Hence their faith in NATO as a collaborative military collective.

America outspends more in defence than the next 17 countries combined. The truth is if they were ever only look after their own borders their military would be much smaller. However, the one thing that the US Constitution requires of the Feds is that they maintain the military, and in this case it is a monster.

If you think there are other difference, I'd like to hear it. Maybe it's Canada's policy of Multiculturalism, Official Bi-lingualism, etc. I think these fall into one of the three points above, but I am just stating my opinion.
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 22 (view)
anyone ever considered traveling the country as a homeless person?
Posted: 11/19/2012 5:53:58 AM
I was once considering to travel across country in beat up RV that a friend of mine owned for a year. I would stay in KOA campgrounds and trailer parks. I would live a very modest life. I would then return the RV and then backpack across the world (no planes, other than the first plane to get me to Europe and the last plane that left Asia).

There is something about that that just appeals to me.
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 1 (view)
What is it about the iPhone?
Posted: 11/19/2012 5:43:49 AM
I am looking to buy a new smartphone and while I think I am certain of my choice, I am finding that many people are recommending the iPhone. Being in marketing, I would admit that I would say 70% of my friends in the industry carry one.

My question is why? IMO the iPhone 5 (and other iPhone models) is:

1. Overpriced at the $199/299/399 price point of the device.
2. Underspeced compared to other devices
3. Have a tendency to become a cracked screen device (alot of my friends have a iPhone with a cracked screen)
4. Looked nice, but the iPhone 5 I don't find all that pretty.
5. Call Quality is average, reception is less than averagte
6. The screen is small.
7. I've been told product quality isn't that much better than companies like Samsung and HTC (from Carrier friends I have).
8. Doesn't have a good Navigation feature (Which is the feature I use the most).

So, in my opinion, there is a lot of things going against it. But anyone I talk to recommends it without question. The reason I hear is that it just works really well. But the truth is, Android works really well too, as does Windows Phone (which does lack the apps though....that, and turn by turn navigation).

So my inquiry is: What is it about iPhone that are driving everyone to buy one? Is there technology inside the phone that I am missing? Is it the apps (although both iPhone and Android have hundreds of thousands of apps)? Is it the cool factor? Or is there just some je ne sais quoi? factor that I will not see until I own one?
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Msg: 265 (view)
Posted: 11/17/2012 8:01:50 AM
have it quite entertaining to find that most "vegetarians/vegans" that I meet are grossly overweight/obese. But like a friend said to me once after I commented on how shocked I was that this obese woman in our class was a vegetarian :
" there's no meat in ice cream, is there?"

BTW: Many Vegans avoid dairy as well.
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 264 (view)
Posted: 11/17/2012 7:56:09 AM
"I tried the raw vegan thing for a week.. I felt great for the first few days, and then the dreams started.. by the last day I was jonesing like a crack addict for chips, ready to rip someone's head off until I got them. It was a bit scary, lol...

It's been almost a year for me on a vegetarian diet, and it pretty much chose itself. My body simply couldn't tolerate meat anymore after a month in India without it. I eat salmon/seafood on occasion when I'm craving it though. It's been quite an adjustment. Sometimes a pain in the ass to be honest, and at other times exciting to experiment with new grains/recipes, etc..

I really can't imagine being all holier than thou about what I am choosing to ingest. I mean, it's your body and you will decide what goes in it. Why would I get all parental about it? Seems weird to me. And really, if you are wanting to influence others, the best way to do so is to BE a positive example. Not get all preachy and controlling. "

I couldn't agree with you more. I find the OP post to be weird, because most Vegans/Vegetarians on on this path for their own health, not on everyone else's path. But of course, I've never met someone from PETA either, so maybe my view would change. I consider myself a Flexitarian as well but stay 95% with Fish.

Wish you well on your path.
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 263 (view)
Posted: 11/17/2012 7:52:29 AM
"Wow, you've nailed almost all of the popular fads from recent memory. Without trying to be too abrasive, you sound like a victim to me. I'm sorry to hear that you spend so much of your energy on this stuff but that is entirely your choice.

Also, having suffered a heart attack at such an early age means that you were probably counselled by nutritionists and dietitians for good reason. There are very important steps that someone in your special circumstances needs to be mindful of. Good for you for taking these proactive steps towards better health.

The point at which your efforts become the justification to judge others is where we part ways however."

Sorry, I don't get where you think I was a victim, other than being a victim of a heart attack for my poor eating habits in the first 40 years of my life. My problem was not spending enough energy on "this stuff". As for Fads, I never read a book, other than the "China Diet" which I found boring but insightful. And nor have I ever been on a diet before. I am not on a diet now, I just eat healthier.

I find it funny that you consider my eating healthier (Fish, Egg white, less fat, less white carbs, less sugar and salt and less meat (yes I do break down because I live in KC after all) a FAD, while the typical American diet of eating processed foods, fatty fast foods, high percentage of white carbs, sugar and salt is considered "Regular eating"?

As for judging others, the only jugding I see is from you. The only thing I said was show me the proof that Vegans on a macro scale are what the previous poster said they are. Prove to me that they are weaker, more frail, and that many of them are morbidly obese. The previous poster says she has this data because she worked at a co-op, but shopping at a co-op doesn't automatcially mean you are a non-meat eater. I go everyweek to a food co-op and a farmers market and I could use my observation that they all are thinner and healthier than those I see when I go to Price Chopper as well, but the fact is:

1. I don't know if these people at these places are actually Vegan/VEgeatarian or Meat Eaters.
2. I don't know if these people are actually healthy, just because you are not overweight, doesn't mean you are healthy.
3. And I don't know how often they go elsewhere and eat a 72 ounce Porterhouse.
4. Maybe ppl who go to farmer's markets are richer than those people who go to a price chopper (if they aren't like me and go to both place). Many studies have shown that Richer people have, on average, a lower BMI than a lower class person.

hence I didn't bring it up. I only gave my experience. What you do with your health is up to you. And to tell you the truth, I've never met a Vegetarian/Vegan who have "condemned the rest of the world for not following their example" as you put it. Bit of Drama in your argument, don't you say?
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Msg: 262 (view)
Posted: 11/17/2012 7:37:42 AM
"your strawman arguments about macro-studies following vegetarians and vegans around like they're fundamentally superior to everyone else."

First off, I never said that looking at Macrostudies are pro-or-con to the vegetarian lifestyle. I merely represented the fact that I will never take the advice or wisdom or someone who said "All my friends are meat eaters and they are healthy and all my vegan friends are sickly" over a study that looked at 20, 30 THOUSAND member over a long period of time.

Mainly because there is often an agenda and secondly making assumptions based on a sample size of 1, 2 or 5 people is not representative.

"it's unusual to make yourself sick or malnourished on a vegetarian diet, because most vegetarians are more health conscious than other people, but it can be done. for example, weighing 280 pounds when you are a 5'7" woman is not healthy no matter how ultra-orthodox of a vegetarian you are (the "proud" vegetarian i mentioned earlier.) this is a women who was sure of everything to the point of keeping chickens in her kitchen for the winter because it was too cold for them to be outside, but she couldn't figure out why she needed a tommy lift to get in and out of her van."

Again, strawman. This woman's experience may or may not be the norm. The only thing that provides any sway with me is either a personal experience that provides context or a macrostudy that is more definitive than what happened someone else.

"just because *you* had a heart attack and went on a strict diet, that doesn't mean everybody else should give up eggs and red meat. "

I've never asked anyone to give up eggs yolks and red meat. I find your comment funny because I am a liberatarian politically. All I can do is give my experience and my results (THIS IS A FORUM AFTER ALL) and ask people to look at Macro studies when making up their mind to go Flexitarian, Pescatarian, Vegetarian, Vegan or stay a meat eater.

What I am not a fan of (but will block ridicule one's right to say it) are people who make up assumptions, make up stories, make up statistics to make a point.
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Msg: 256 (view)
Posted: 11/13/2012 8:14:33 AM
"being a vegetarian can work against you or for you depending on other factors. it's not a panacea for good health by any stretch of the imagination. i've known vegetarians who took great pride in being vegetarians but they were also morbidly obese. whoa something doesn't add up... pass the macaroni & cheese lol. i've known other vegetarians who looked frail and weak. I used to work at a food co-op just to get the discounts, and the guy who managed the place liked to crow about following a strict macrobiotic diet. but if anyone ever got around to slugging him for being such a blowhard, they would have broken his jaw."

All straw man arguments. The truth is that many people can point out a smoker who lived til 90 and never got cancer, or someone who never ate a vegetable in their lives and had perfectly good health at 40.

The way to get to the truth is to look at macro-studies following Vegetarian, Vegans and those eating a healthy diet and those eating a bad diet and compare results. If I were to pick my friends, my healthiest looking friends drink too much, smoke pot and don't eat regularly (at least they look the healthiest on the outside). But they are are all under 30, so who knows what they will look like when they are 50.

I am under 40 and have given up red meat, dairy, reduced oils and egg yolks, on top of the fact I reduced Sugar, no Soda and lowered my white carb intake. My Cholesterol is now low, my blood pressure is good and I have lost 20 pounds. Is it due to me not eating red meat? Not sure, but I am sure that my current diet is better for me than what happened to me before (I had a heart attack) I made the change.

In actuality, my diet is so good that I am reducing the number of heart health related pills I took before I had my heart attack. My only wish was not adopting this diet 10 years ago.
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Msg: 80 (view)
Are you surprised on any of the election results? Why? What are they? What do you feel are the main
Posted: 11/13/2012 8:02:55 AM
"I actually believe that many ppl are from the middle...they want fiscal responsibility...the issues arise in where to cut the budget and whether or not to raise revenue. The extreme right has many GOP legislator's hand-cuffed with the contract they signed with Grover Nordquist...The GOP is afraid the Nordquist is so powerful that any vote to raise revenue would be met with a Nordquist move to have them ostrasized out of office. The democrats aren't so far to the left...there is no contract with anyone to do anything, other than their constituent's....and it is their constituencies that hold the power for re-election or not"

I agree with you on that. That is why Bush 2 and Ronald Reagan won twice. They won the middle. No matter how stupid people thought GWB was, or how right wing the far left thought he was, he had moderate immigration policies and his tax cuts and financial failing didn't come until the end of his term. If he could have managed the housing market better (yes, with more regulations, not less regulations) as a moderate republican, people would have forgiven him on the debacle that was Iraq/Afghanistan. He would have a more popular president.

And with Reagan, while the far right love him, the far left tolerated him and those in the middle liked him. There is no candidate or incumbent that will meet our complex needs as a people, but Ronald Regaan was a President you could support, even if you believed in his policies. He was a good speaker, good hearted person and under his watch, the Soviet Union, a source of consistent worry for the past 30 years, went away. Whether he had direct impact or not, he deserved the credit.
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Msg: 74 (view)
Are you surprised on any of the election results? Why? What are they? What do you feel are the main
Posted: 11/12/2012 8:05:00 PM
I think it is simple. Romney lost because of three things.

1. He didn't defend himself. Whether true or not, Romney came off looking like a person who had no personal convictions, not only was he wishy washy and flip floppy, but his original "moderate republican" view turned very right wing when the tea party and conservatives got ahold of him. As he suddenly turned to move back to the center, it was too late. He came off looking he was promising everything to everybody and no one took him to heart. Military spending for Virginia, lower taxes for the rich, not touching social security and medicare for the elderly, turning against abortion and anti universal medicare for the conservative. Heck, he says that he even saved the car industry.

So not having convictions, the election became more about "get rid of Obama" than "Elect Romney". And with the storm, alot of the focus of the election dissapated, and those who really weren't for Romney did not show at the polls as much as should have. Alot of the loss wasn't from voters who came out and voted AGAINST Romney, but moderate Republicans who didn't show up FOR him either because there was no passion for him.

2. He catered to the Tea Party and the craziness of their candidates did him in. The truth is the race was his to lose, there are more conservatives and republicans than liberals and democrats. He was winning the undecideds after the first debate. But then he did things to satisfy those who wanted him to take a far right approach. He pandered to the people who hated the "47%". He suddenly wanted Mexican's to "Self-deport" themselves. A whole bunch of things to satisfy the far right and the people closer to the middle saw the craziness and left him. It didn't help that he had idiots like Todd Akin and Richard Murdock associated with his party, or conspiracy nuts like Michelle Bachman or pundits like Rush Limbaugh and Mark Levin, who are a turnoff to many thinking Americans who can vote either Red or Blue. And that leads me to the last point.

3. He seemed out of touch to most people: He comes from a pure background, his sons all are perfectly coiffed and wear white shirts and khaki's. He owns multiple houses and has the great American lifestyle. HE is a mormon, so he doesn't really swear, drink or party (opposite of the Clinton's that for sure). But that was the problem.

He came off looking like he had never had one gay friend, with the 13% taxes he paid, he sounded like he had no idea what working class families went through, his party snarkily (even many posters here) have this hatred of the President that is so deep, with their comments where they emphasize his middle name, or claim he is not from the USA, that is offputting to many moderates. His party is the party that claims they hate illegals, but seemed like they were picking on Mexicans and other Latinos. Also, many women, not only with people like Akin, were uncomfortable with Romney's seeminly 1950's views of women in the work place.

There was so much he and his party could have done, but instead polarized many of the people he was hoping to serve.

But I think that Republican's have a choice. To be more viable they need to:

1. Cast off the Tea Party. Show moderates and undecideds that those who have a hate for anyone supporting the far right has no place in their party.

2. Not make it about social issues. But if social issues take center stage, take a moderate TONE, rather than try to inflame.

3. Have a game plan and stick to it. Flip Flopping is not going to get votes from people looking for leadership.

4. Do not let pundits and contributors control the party. It is the party of Republicans, not that of the Koch Brothers or Sean Hannity. All these people do is make noise and polarize.

If Mitt Romney had been just more plain spoken and to the point, someone like a Harry Truman, he would have handily won the race because while I reject the far right notion that Obama has done great harm to the nation, I do feel he was not effective in handling this crisis, from either a policy or PR standpoint and people were actually HUNGRY for a change, for someone who could lead America out of this darkness. Romney had it for 90% of the way there, but he was hamstrung and eventually crippled by the elements of his party that are not liked by the more moderate undecideds.
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Msg: 57 (view)
horror films, what are the best?
Posted: 11/6/2012 5:16:08 AM
"It seems to me that Argento's time has passed. His recent movies have been very weak in my opinion. "

I agree, I recently saw Mother of Tears, which was the third in the Mother's trilogy (Suspiria and Inferno begin the other two). It was so generic and flatly directed, I wondered the same thing.

Other directors I liked in the past, such as John Carpenter also lost their way.

Another movie I should recommend is Guillermo Del Toro's Devil's Backbone. Something must be in the water source there, they are creating some wonderful movies.

And while I am not sure it is a horror movie is the movie Old Boy from Korea. It is a tremendously well written, even epic, thriller.
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Msg: 56 (view)
horror films, what are the best?
Posted: 11/6/2012 5:10:10 AM
The other thing about The Mist is the controversial ending as well. Some really liked it, because it comes out of the blue, while others thought it was unnecessary.

The outstanding character in this movie is Marcia Gay Harden's bible thumping Mrs. Carmody, whom I hated (in a good way). Of course, two Walking Dead players (JEffrey DeMunn and Laurie Holden) are also in the movie, which gets a kudos for me. Not surprising, since Director Darabont created that show as well.
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Msg: 53 (view)
horror films, what are the best?
Posted: 11/5/2012 6:47:27 PM
When I was a kid, it was about T&A and the ability to gross me out. Nowadays, movies like Hostel and ones that are even worse (Torture Porn or Sexploitation films) make me sick (not physically), even though I still watch them.

I love a horror movie that can create a fascinating, atmospheric, eco-system (an example is Evil Dead or Silent Hill) or has a good story with engaging characters, even if the story is outrageous. However, it needs to be well-crafted movie. Directors like John Carpenter is a master of isolation (The Fog, the Thing), has presented us with some intriguing characters (anything with Kurt Russell) and his movies are so very well made and atmospheric (I even love Prince of Darkness, which tried to create an alternate mythos of Satan, wrapped in Science).

One example is a vampire movie I LOVE, it is called Stakeland. IT is a low budget vampire apolcalypse movie that has good character development and it is tragic as many of the characters you love, don't make it through the end of the movie. The Walking Dead is a series where I love many of the characters.

Some movies are achieve both and is just very well crafted. The Exorcist is one of them. The mythos around the devil and Linda Blair's innocent Regan is an example of evil personified makes it one of my most favorite movies.

Another is the directing of Dario Argento movies, especially from the mid 1970's to early 1980's. Deep Red is one of my favorite movies of all time, as is Suspiria.

Other movies I thought were very well made were:

- The Decent: A claustophobic, nail-biting, depressing movie that has a nice twist at the end.
- The Mist: The best Stephen King movie (even better than the Stand IMHO) where Frank Darabont creates a world where a supermarket maybe the last refuge on Earth.
- The Keep: A flawed movie but the idea of a castle holding a demon let loose by unsuspecting Nazi soldier was an idea that was worked for me (it was a crazy idea, but a GOOD crazy idea).
- Shock Waves: The movie isn't that great, or gory. But the directing is something else. I never thought I would be interested in a horror zombie nazi movie (starring sexy Brooke Adams is a plus) that takes place in the bright sunshine of a carribean island.
- [Rec] 1 and 2: The first one of this Spanish duology was made into Quarantine, which is not as good. This movie terrified me, which a horror movie should do.
- The Abandoned: Directed by notorious director Nacho Cerda, this movie I found to be fascinating about a brother and sister who go to Russia, which they inherited. Unfortunately, the house is haunted...but ghosts that look just like them.
- Brotherhood of the Wolf : A conspiracy film around the Catholic Church. IT is a well directed movie with a interesting premise, even though a martial arts Native American running around mideval France was a little much (Especially that he is also the host of Iron Chef America).
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Msg: 34 (view)
Wearing Suits in Casual Settings: Attractive or Overkill?
Posted: 11/5/2012 6:02:36 PM
Depends on location and setting.

Two weeks ago I was at the W Hotel bar in Union Square, NYC. I wore a navy suit (no tie) and I was well dressed. A guy showed up in Jeans and a T-shirt and he looked out of place.

Then last week I was at a Bar in KC called Kelly's Westport with some friends and I was in Jeans and a sweatshirt (a nice one, not a dirty old one) and I felt perfectly normal.
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Msg: 220 (view)
The bathroom mirror pic; why so bad?
Posted: 11/5/2012 5:57:04 PM
The funny thing is that the photo I get the most compliments on, from this site is my profile pic.....which is a bathroom mirror pic.

It's all about presentation. I notice that many people on POF just don't care about how they present themselves, whether it is looking awful (or even scowling) in their picture, a rant filled profile about "no drama" and not talking positively about themselves or thinking showing kids or cats will attract many guys or gals(it doesn't, we want to know more about YOU, not your pets and not your kids...not yet).
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 328 (view)
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 11/5/2012 5:45:00 PM
It's not about the number of pounds, its about % of weight lost. A person who goes from 200 to 180 would be more noticeable than a person going from 400 to 380.
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Msg: 314 (view)
What women really look at on your profile...
Posted: 10/29/2012 7:25:42 PM
OP just proved that Women are no better than Men and that one's eyes often over-ride one's brain in the decision making process when it comes to a desirable mate.

Having read more than a few pages of posts, the funny thing I see is the ASSUMPTION that these women who would respond to the fake profile are somehow DAMAGED or have ZERO SELF ESTEEM. They must be because they are responding to this jerk's posts right? I mean a normal woman with normal self esteem would NEVER think with their nether regions because they are too smart for that superficiality right?

I mean, a real women would never stoop to the level of the average man (who often admit to judging a woman's attractiveness by their picture) would they?

I think there is more than enough stereotyping on both sides of this argument.
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Msg: 98 (view)
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/19/2012 7:33:55 AM

I tell you what, we'll make a trade

Date men your same height, and old men will date women their same age

Even Stevens

It's funny you are making trades with an aspect (age) that doesn't apply to you. I guess win-win for you!
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
Simpsons,Family guy, Aquateen Hungerforce, Adult Swim
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:45:02 PM
I got to admit. I find Squidbillies one funny show. Also Robot Chicken.

One show I found twisted but fun was Superjail! But I don't see it anymore, wonder if it was cancelled.
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Msg: 1 (view)
A few changes to my profile made all the difference.
Posted: 7/30/2012 8:12:07 PM
Just a couple things have made a difference for me.

1. Changed my picture to that is more light hearted and more flattening, but it isn't a lie (like me taking a picture and photoshopping out 20 lbs). My original picture, I am barely smiling and looking way too somber.

I am always surprised by the picture many people take, including a picture of a woman who messaged me, she looked like she was either dead or sleeping in her picture. If you are trying to make an impression, I guess that does make one, but just not a positive one (I love Zombies, just not in a sexual way).

It is also amazing to see the number of shots from ppl that :
a) Don't mind that they are out of Focus
b) Love Taking pictures in bathrooms
c) Have hair that looks like they just stepped out of a shower.
d) Obviously from more than 10 years ago (unless Bell Bottoms are in again).
e) don't know the first thing about lighting
f) Have their face so close to the lens that it takes up the whole shot.
g) Wonder why having their picture with 10 of cats or with your half drunk "friend" in a pickup bar doesn't illicit responses from people who want a long term relationship.
h) Think that if they look Angry, Bored, Unhappy, Offended or Sick will definitely impress us.

2. Injected some of my self-deprecating humor without being sarcastic. I noticed I was being too serious in my post.

3. Don't share too much. No one wants to know small details in my life. They just want to know that I'm not some a creepy unibomber type but I...

4. ...became more personal in my profile, including the fact that I had a heart attack this year. However, I don't linger on my attack and use it as a lesson learned (I list three things).

5. I remove all the things "I don't want in a woman". I found that women consider that to be a turnoff. If someone has the things I don't want in my life, I can usually find it in THEIR profile and our interaction doesn't go beyond that. I would also recommend women would also remove that (Women are more guilty of it than men are). It creates a wall and is a turnoff for me.

Anyway, I went from a few looks a month to roughly 5~10 views every couple of days (I don't look as often as I should) and I am talking to several women who have caught my eye.

You don't have to be a cassanova or look like <insert hot actor here>, you just have put your best foot forward (unlike my old profile which I obviously didn't much thought into). I will revise it again because, like fine wine, my profile just get better with age.
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Msg: 131 (view)
Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 7/30/2012 7:42:09 PM
I don't find a woman who has little money outside of necessities to be an issue. But I find a woman who thinks they should live a JLO lifestyle off my money to be a problem.
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Msg: 193 (view)
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 7/30/2012 7:02:41 PM
I've become friends with 2 women on POF but have never met them. We are facebook friends.
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 175 (view)
Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/30/2012 7:01:51 PM
Yes. All but one girlfriends have remained friends (or at least amiable). But close friends? None but 2.
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 41 (view)
Why is the min wage so low in the US??
Posted: 7/24/2012 11:00:30 PM
The minimum wage is seen in two ways. Those who support it often see it as a living wage for long term employment meant to provide a minimum standard of living to all citizens of the country, if they choose to work.

Meanwhile other people see these jobs as unskilled labor not meant for long term employment and hence do not agree with a minimum wage because they see minimum wage as a inhibitor for future personal growth and development, as well as a limiter of low end job creation (a job they feel is worth $4 hour will only create half the amount of employees if the minimum wage is set at $8).

I don't believe that without a minimum wage, that wages would suddenly go down to $1/hour as some here have suggested. The fact is that supply and demand that makes up the employment market would limit $1/hour jobs (as no one would ever take it due to the availabilty of other jobs paying more).

I fall a little more on the latter as well. I feel that a minimum wage is not needed because many unskilled jobs are often temporary (such as in the service industry) and with people right to job mobility (get educated or trained and get a better job) and collectively bargain, I feel that the market tends to work itself out.

Then again. I am a bit of a libertarian.
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Msg: 185 (view)
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/24/2012 7:16:14 AM
Date, sure, marry not so sure.

Right now, I have a FWB who is 15 years younger than me and met a woman that I really was attracted to who was 22 years older than I am.

The 62 year old woman, who is an amateur triathlete has a body that a 24 year old would love to have. I know because my friend has told me that.

People often don't look their age. I've been told that I looked 30 recently. However, I feel that a 20 year age gap would defintely matter down the line. When I am 60, the same tri-athlete woman would be 82. Would she even be alive by the time I reached retirement age.

No one knows (she's more athletic than I am now, and in better health), but I would always keep that in mind.
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Msg: 1 (view)
Seattle Freeze: Question...
Posted: 7/24/2012 6:55:12 AM
For all you folks who answered my original thread. Thanks for the conversation.

I wanted to know, as a followup question.

Does Portland (which is 2.5 hours away) have the same Freeze syndrome as Seattle or do you think it is a "friendlier" town?

The reason I am asking is that I am actively trying to move away from Seattle and my employer asked me if I would move to Portland. I don't want to move to a place that is the same but just smaller (and cheaper).
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Msg: 22 (view)
Why girls love Seattle
Posted: 7/24/2012 6:50:53 AM
One additional thing I've been told from alot of female friends (from Seattle and friends who have viisted me in Seattle).

The man pool is pretty lackluster here as well. If you like wimpy looking geeks, then Seattle is the place for you. If you like Athletic, strong featured men, look elsewhere. Male passive-agressiveness that Seattle is known for drives women who like take charge guys crazy (that's crazy in a bad way).

Us men don't seem like we get a pass either.
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Msg: 65 (view)
This extreame heat
Posted: 7/8/2012 10:09:50 PM
I feel for my friends in KC, where it has been sweltering.

On the opposite side, I find it humorous that my Seattlites complaining that it hit 85 degrees (no humid) in our Emerald city.
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Msg: 87 (view)
Numbers of men vs women on here
Posted: 7/1/2012 10:48:25 PM
Within 5 miles, ages 30~33 of 98004.

Men: 600+
Women: 378
Men looking for men: 58
Women looking for women: 37.

Hope that helps!
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Msg: 115 (view)
What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 7/1/2012 10:28:49 PM
Watching or playing?

I find watching sports, whether you are with friends or at a game is more of a social thing. I don't know football worth crap, but I LOVE going to the game (go Chiefs!) and cheering for my city. When you and 60000 fans root for the same team, it can be exhilarating, whether you know the game well or not. I would also watch sports on TV with a girlfriend if it was something she was passionate about. If not, I'm sure she would be just as happy if we went out and took a walk instead. The thing isn't the sports, it's spending time in each others company that's important.

As for playing, I think most women probably don't care, unless it is their passion and they want someone to share the same passions with them. I had an ex who was hardcore into "guy" sports such as motocross, surfing, skateboarding. I didn't do any of these things (at least well) and we had a solid relationship as she separated that part of her life from our relationship.
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Msg: 56 (view)
Anyone else notice that Canadians are starting to revolt?
Posted: 7/1/2012 9:39:40 PM
"the cost of one F35 could pay to hire 1,400 nurses in Canada for a year. A contribution of 1/6th of the cost of the F35s or 1/5th of the annual defence budget could provide free tuition to all post secondary students across the country for a year. $2 Billion alone would retrofit all homes in Alberta needing energy efficiency upgrades, lowering emissions, and creating up to 22,000 direct and indirect jobs."

I didn't know that nurses were federal employees or that the government is responsible for giving free tuition or retrofitting homes. I would have thought that fell on Universities or Utilities to do.

Governments are responsible to many things and one of them is for the defense of their borders, with a capable military. As for your comment on jobs, the last I saw, the Canadian unemployment rate of 7.3% is much lower than the American rate of 8.2%. That switch of Canada having a lower unemployement rate happened under Harper's watch and it is the lowest in the G8, so I guess he has been doing something right.
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Msg: 54 (view)
Anyone else notice that Canadians are starting to revolt?
Posted: 7/1/2012 9:23:07 PM

Many Canadians are comparing their PM to Hitler

You realize that Harper would be considered a Liberal Democrat in the US right?

Conservative policies aren't that far right of Obama's policies. Actually, many of them are still to the left.
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Msg: 1 (view)
Moving to the mid-west. Where?
Posted: 7/1/2012 9:17:57 PM
I am potentially moving back to the mid-west from Seattle. My company is letting me move where I want, since I will be remote.

I've given myself four choices. Three are where my customers are and the other is where I moved from.

I love a lively city, fully of restaurants, bars and live entertainment. Having living in Seattle, I realized looking a beautiful lakes and hiking mountain are nice to do once in a while, but not a lifestyle for me (other than really liking skiing). Being single, I am hoping to pick a city that has a vibrant single scene. I have dated the spectrum on race, age and personality.

I'm not much of a hipster so an alternative culture doesn't work for me anymore, I like watching ball games (soccer, baseball, football) and for me, it has always been friends that make a city worth living in.

Anyway, I moved from KC so that is a choice. I loved KC and still have many friends there. KC would be the easy choice. The BBQ, the bar scene as well as the friendliness of the people was something I didn't get in Seattle (I have a thread on the Seattle freeze). For me, I would love to move back (had good dating luck there), but I am wondering if the other cities are even better.

The other choices are Denver, Dallas or Chicago. I have been to all of them, but I only have visited Dallas socially.

I like downtown Dallas and the cost of living is cheap (cost of living is important to me), but I find the city to be alittle too spread out. I'm not sure of the people there either, but the few I've met I liked. The problem with Dallas to a certain degree is that it is further away from my hometown of Toronto.

Denver and Chicago I am not too certain about and I like 4 seasons. I think both cities are more expensive than KC or Dallas.

Anyone like to make a suggestion?
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Msg: 11 (view)
?4Ladies, Where is a good place for GUYS to MEET you?
Posted: 7/1/2012 8:46:59 PM
Starbucks. Most women want to meet for coffee anyways....
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Msg: 10 (view)
30 years ago....The movies of 1982.
Posted: 6/29/2012 8:28:04 PM

Damn dude you didn't mention the Thing?

I am a HUGE fan of the Thing. It is, at the same time, one of the most atmospheric, yet bloody disgusting movies of all time.

However, I am a horror fan geek. I was aiming to show a list that was more "mainstream".
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Msg: 12 (view)
Why girls love Seattle
Posted: 6/29/2012 8:20:49 PM
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I don't like the barbie type porn actress looking type. I like plain looking women who looks better without makup than with.

Compared to KC, the women of seattle are definitely fitter and have a more natural look. However, I find that the women of the midwest are much more approachable, so I guess it sort of equals out...;)
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Msg: 39 (view)
attractiveness difference
Posted: 6/10/2012 7:42:21 PM
^^^^^^ Huh? Out of 7 photos, only 1 am I wearing make-up.

I think what he is saying that most women are also ordinary but they cheat on their looks by being able to wear makeup, already making the playing field unequal.

That if everyone didn't wear makeup, many attractive women would look as "ordinary" as ordinary men.

Just interpreting.
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Msg: 38 (view)
attractiveness difference
Posted: 6/10/2012 7:37:39 PM
I think to each their own. I am very ordinary looking and I am not going to settle with what someone else feels that I can get. Now, if that means I date alot less than what I could be doing, that is my choice.

And OP, the Biltmore is an awful place to be in a zombie apocalypse. Too big and open. I'll take a fully stocked panic room with a bathroom and my Blu-ray movies anyday (in case internet -and Netflix-goes down).
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Msg: 1 (view)
30 years ago....The movies of 1982.
Posted: 6/10/2012 8:20:15 AM
I personally think that the movies released then, was so MUCH BETTER than the ones that are being released now.

What do you think?

Movies like Tron, ET, Poltergeist, Blade Runner, Officer and a Gentleman, Wraith of Khan and The World According to Garp made it a year of movies to remember.

What do you think? 2012 or 1982?
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Msg: 224 (view)
Will Capitalism Fail?
Posted: 6/10/2012 7:47:50 AM
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Msg: 34 (view)
Seattle Freeze: Do you feel it?
Posted: 6/6/2012 7:28:08 PM
"I'm from Indiana. IF you meet someone from the midwest they will tell you their life story in 15 minutes."

Having moved from Kansas City, I completely concur.
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Msg: 1 (view)
Are who we choose to date pre-determined by biology?
Posted: 5/28/2012 7:55:52 PM
Every week there seems to be a new study out there that tells the reader that who you choose isn't your choice, but it is all about biology.

Such as this:

Why women choose bad boys

The oft-asked question of why some women go for bad boys has been answered by procreation means. A new study from the University of Texas at San Antonio has shown that nice guys finish last at times when females are thinking about family life.

Kristina Durante, Assistant Professor of Marketing at the learning institute's College of Business, noted hormones linked to ovulation can play a key role in shaping a woman's views on certain men and their potential as fathers.

Ms Durante observed previous research has shown girls are attracted to sexy and rebellious men - such as real-life Hollywood star George Clooney or fictional spy James Bond - around the time of menstruation, but it has so far not been known why they long for relationships with these characters.

She stated: "Under the hormonal influence of ovulation, women delude themselves into thinking that the sexy bad boys will become devoted partners and better dads."

Dr Pauline Rennie-Peyton, a Chartered Psychologist, adds: "I too consider it to be delusional to think bad boys will be better dads. The reality is they are more easily available for impregnation and less likely to worry about contraception."


Do Men Find Dumb-Looking Women More Attractive?

In an article soon to be published in Evolution and Human Behavior, University of Texas–Austin graduate student Cari Goetz and her colleagues explored what they called the sexual exploitability hypothesis. The hypothesis is based on the differences between male and female reproductive strategies as humans evolved.

The study involved a group of undergraduate kids who were asked to nominate some female gestures that signal vulnerability or low intelligence. The participants produced a list of 88 signs — lip lick/bite, over-the-shoulder look, sleepy, intoxicated, tight clothing, fat, short, unintelligent, punk, attention-seeking and touching breast, etc. It was concluded that men found pictures of women in such poses appealing, and were ready to consider the women for a one-night stand.

The dumb-looking and inert women were also perceived as being more attractive than their more lucid or intelligent-looking peers, but only when it came to short-term relationships. When the men were asked to judge the same liquored-up, silly-looking women in the photos as potential girlfriends and wives, the women had entirely lost their appeal to them.

Psychologist Hemant Mittal explains this trend. “These so called ‘dumb’ women are basically the types who are constantly vying for attention. And because they want to be the centre of attraction all the time, they start using all their personality traits to garner attention — right from dressing up to talking to flirting,” he explains.

I'm wondering if biology really directs us when looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend or have we evolved to the point that "free will" is how we pursue someone?

I think many people would love to say that they choose with their eyes and brain, but I wonder how much is pre-wired into our biology?
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Msg: 63 (view)
Why Asian?
Posted: 4/27/2012 7:22:58 PM
Having dated the spectrum of women, including ALOT of Asian women (especially Koreans) which is what I am, I'll give you an Asian's perspective.

I would say that there is a big difference between Asians raised outside Asia and "FOB" Asians.

I am not attracted to Asian's from Asia anymore, mainly because I find none of them really fit the "submissive, passive" stereotype (which is an OLD stereotype). This is especially true of the younger generation.

Maybe these Asians don't expect alot from Non-Asians but I find Asian women from Asia often unreasonably childish, selfish and way too clingy, and expect alot of out-of pocket spending to keep her happy.

I feel alot of them are expecting to be treated like they are to be put on a pedestal all the time, that we should cherish the fact they chose US to date, since they have alot of choices out there.

I think alot of it has to do with Asians women who come here, are no longer improverished and don't need an American, because alot of them are here to learn/work and then go back home. The Asian women who come here, often are here to study, and come from families with money. Their expectations of a mate are much higher than of Asian women 20 years ago. Nowadays, I find many of them to act like spoiled princesses.

As for Asians who were born and raised here, I find I am attracted to the ones that keep their culture and have lots of Asian friends. I consider Asians who are completely Americanized to be no different in attractiveness than an American woman.
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Msg: 12 (view)
Zombie Apocalypse U.S.
Posted: 4/24/2012 7:09:43 PM
My Zombie panic room, which has 30 days worth of canned food and water, a toilet, generator, shotgun and a baseball bat.

Now, all I have to do is wait for the world to end while training by playing Left for Dead 2 for 8 hours a day.
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Msg: 21 (view)
what reggae songs would you like to hear at a party?
Posted: 2/11/2012 10:26:48 PM

and anything Shabba Ranks like:
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Msg: 146 (view)
The Decline And Fall Of The United States Of America
Posted: 2/10/2012 9:31:32 PM
Blame Clinton, Blame Obama...even blame Bush. The truth is that there is little difference between both parties. They may have different ideologues but the truth is that they are in it for their friends and their base. They are popularists.

The sad thing, there is ONE person who is willing to go to bat for America and not care what the left or the right think. That person is Ron Paul. But neither Democrat or Republican would have him.

The truth is that most Americans talk about reducing the debt, but no one would be willing to do what it took to get the debt down to a reasonable level. The truth is that to get the debt down you have to severely shrink the size of the government AND increase revenues through increased taxation. That means most Americans making over $50K would have to contribute more in taxes and eliminating loopholes and subsidies (and those 49% not paying federal taxes would start having too) while no longer getting the services that we have become used to.

That would mean reducing our military across the world, lower social security benefits, raising the retirement age, reducing the number of people who can go on Medicare and Mediaid and dropping certain services that aren't "life-saving".

It is easy for us to say we need to do more. The truth is that most people would freak out if they were told to do their part. Even tea partiers would be shocked and probably outraged on how much many of them rely on the government for services.
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Msg: 111 (view)
Should I settle?
Posted: 1/31/2012 8:08:24 AM
"One problem though, and you already know, that successful guys of our age (30-40s) after younger 20+girls, childless etc...So we have to compromise unfortunately"

Such a lame comment. I have 4 female friends who recently married men with stable careers (not jobs) in their late 30's and 3 of them had 2 or more kids.

Don't blame the men for not getting what you want, there are many career men who would love to date a successful woman, with kids.
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Msg: 2927 (view)
what is everyones opin on tattoos?
Posted: 1/29/2012 8:11:23 PM
Part of a post I wrote on facebook on the decline of the modern man that got lots of positive feedback.

"Guys : Remember back in the day when...
- Tattoos and Scruffy Beards were a lifestyle rather than a fashion trend?"

I love it when people do something permanent, like a tattoo, because something profound has affected their life, rather than because was the cool thing to do.

I will always respect a persons tattoo if it has a personal story behind it.
And when I mean personal story, I don't mean "I got drunk one night and woke up with a tattoo." or "my friend xxxx got it, so I had to get one too."
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Msg: 32 (view)
Who was the first Rap Artist?
Posted: 1/29/2012 7:50:38 PM
I think we should separate the difference between RAP as a genre and the genre's that influenced RAP, such as Beatnik Jazz, Funk, Scat and even Blues. If you want to go all the way back, the first RAP songs (defined as "rhythmic and rhyming speech that is chanted") it probably goes to Griot Praise Singers from Africa who used speech and music to tell their tribes history throughout the centuries.

And if you wanted to be more specific, it shouldn't be the first Rap artist (which is too generic), but the first Hip Hop Artist.

Hip Hop is much more defined of the modern genre. It includes not only rapping, but DJ'ing, scratching, beatboxing and sampling as elements that make up a hip hop song.

Hip hop was first coined by Keith Cowboy of Grandmaster Flash.

It is believed that Cowboy created the term while teasing a friend who had just joined the U.S. Army, by scat singing the words(improvised vocal jazz) "hip/hop/hip/hop" in a way that mimicked the rhythmic cadence of soldiers marching.

The first group to coin the genre was the group Afrika Bambataa in the late 1970's.
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Msg: 734 (view)
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/29/2012 7:13:08 PM
" am posting this because it was said on another message board that if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken...."

So to the original post....If you are talking about Marriage. The average marrying for a man in the US is 29, so for nearly half the states. Being a guy and single over the age of 30 isn't strange, it is NORMAL.
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