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Nyght_Tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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Seriously need help Posted: 3/9/2008 5:36:11 PM
i second the opinion above, you seem like a really nice guy! the only other advice i could give you is to say in your profile what you were saying on here, let your personality shine through more! my favourite profiles and the ones im most likely to respond to are the ones that make me laugh and are full of random bits of information, especially if i find i have some unusual things in common, and if we dont it always makes me think at least we could have some interesting conversations! the more personal to you the better (at least for me) something like 'i love watching old silly horror films with bad acting', or 'i love playing oasis songs and rock ballads on my guitar' or 'my greatest ambition is to live on a thai beach and teach english to local schoolchildren'... anything! some more things to spark a conversation; and maybe give a little more detail about the hobbies you did list. you say you liked martial arts- what do you like about them? what kind of level are you at? etc. the cat line was funny, maybe you could try adding that on the bottom of your profile- might prompt some interesting emails. and what you were saying about wanting the kind of girl who you can mess around and have fun with, who will look at you and affectionately call you a nutter- that was sweet! i'd love to see a line to that effect in a guys profile, it paints a really lovely picture of the time you could have together, i think thats the kind of thing loads of girls would want to have too. maybe if you're looking for inspiration you could check out some other peoples profiles and borrow ideas for topics of conversations from the ones you liked?

Nyght_Tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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Seriously need help Posted: 3/9/2008 2:30:36 PM
well from first impressions reading your profile; 'I understand I am not good looking, but at least chat with me. You might be surprised, or not, I don't know. I am sure I can offer an interesting conversation at least' I don't know exactly what to advise except this would instantly put me off- and not because you look unattractive! I like a guy with confidence; in my experience guys who are convinced they are not good looking make for depressing dates and more jealous and clingy boyfriends. If you don't feel it fake it, first impressions arent the time for insecurities! Yes the world runs on looks but attractiveness isn't so black and white, a guy with confidence and self belief is instantly loads more attractive. If you are having a hard time getting a date POF could work for you- just try and sell yourself in your profile more. Convince girls reading it you'd be a great date/ boyfriend and maybe you'll get a more positive response. Good Luck!

Nyght_tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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Danger: Crushes are decadent and dangerous Posted: 10/15/2007 2:55:37 PM
i got a crush on the guy who worked at my local shop once. it was so embarrassing! i got red and flustered everytime i went in to buy food and dreaded going up to the counter because he'd always chat to me and id lose all ability to speak. never had a crush like it before or since, sometimes he'd flirt and that made me even worse went on that way for months until my friend came round one day with his number. she'd just gone up and asked him for it for me, just like that. went out with him a few times and that sorted the crush out tho

Nyght_tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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Must not do drugs....? Posted: 10/11/2007 12:44:03 PM
i know its a touchy subject but id love to know how people consider the issue in relation to the reports that came out in all the UK papers this year; http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/6474053.stm in my personal experience i have known people who have been far more ill off alcohol than any drug they've ever taken- i've been to parties where the people drinking alcohol had far less control or idea of what they were doing than those snorting coke or getting stoned. just my two cents worth but i cant help thinking that if alcohol or nicotine had been discovered at a later date they would be classified class A's along with the rest of them. it does make me think of a friend of mine who told his (very loving and responsible parents i might add) that he took pills. his dad then went along on a night out with him and tried them too to try and understand, and after that night he was fine with his son taking them, much to my surprise. i dont use anything personally but ive been around people who do. what i find funny are the drug users ive known who have turned their noses up at me for being a smoker, believing what im doing is far more stupid than anything they are. maybe they're right, think i read somewhere nicotine is as addictive as heroin, and to be honest although im only on a few a day now its one hell of a habit to kick.

Nyght_tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date. Posted: 10/5/2007 7:17:31 AM
well it wasn't so much 'said' but after a good hours normal chat (the guy seemed nice i swear!) he asked if i wanted him to switch his webcam on. pleased with the chance to see his face as he had no pic i said yes... the guy comes on butt naked, har*d as anything, playing with himself, and somewhat more freakishly the cameras angled so u cant see anything from his neck up. he then continued to talk about his hobbies like nothing had changed!!! i couldnt block him fast enough!!!!

Nyght_tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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For arabic guys to answer.. i need a clarrification Posted: 9/17/2007 5:16:47 PM
Well i asked my muslim (egyptian) boyfriends opinion on this one because i was interested in his answer... he says in some strict families it would be considered to bring great shame on the family if u didnt convert, however in others if u were Christian it would be considered fine also, as long as you were fine bringing any children up to be Muslim too. You didnt say if u were religious in your post, but the one thing he did stress was that it would bring great shame on a Muslims family if he married an unreligious woman, that she would be considered the lowest of the low. He may have felt on reflection that your previous conversation that having an islamic wife would have been important long term so you could share in praying and fasting together, and to avoid conflict in how to bring up any children? i dont know. And in response to the 'death penalty'... well its a sin and a betrayal but he says its not that harsh- at least he's never heard of such a thing =P hope that helps a little... as yet religion hasnt been too much of an issue between us thankfully

Nyght_Tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It? Posted: 2/23/2007 6:23:09 PM
i always have my cell phone with me, although on silent, but ive never seen anything wrong with answering texts while the person im with is at the bar or in the restrooms and im waiting for them to come back. or if they do the same to me. its something to fill in the time while waiting, ive never thought it was rude? i wouldnt go as far as to answer while we were talking...

Nyght_Tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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Advice .. married but almost single Posted: 2/5/2007 12:17:15 PM
i started dating a guy who was still living with his (fairly new) ex last year. he'd finished their 3 year relationship (not for me, it just wasnt working) and there was a lot of sexual chemistry there. the attraction between us felt amazing, and so i believed all his assurances that he didnt want to be single for a while, that he hadnt loved her for a long time and that i was really what he wanted because thats what he kept saying... and yet she still was never far from his mind. Sometimes he'd just break down and cry about her and there was nothing i could do. Sometimes he'd push me away and sometimes he really wanted me there. i'd just say be careful, i think anyone out of a long relationship is going to be both emotionally needy and emotionally not avaliable for a long while, i didnt realise quite how much until i was already emotionally involved- and i'd like to say it worked but it didnt. i think i was just a bridge girl in the end, looking back i wish we hadnt started anything because it just ended up hurting me in the end. if you really like him i'm not saying you should push him away... just take things very slowly and try to keep it friendly more than anything until you really think he's healed. i think its going to be a very rough ride with him for a while xx

nyght_tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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What is a good first email? Posted: 1/25/2007 7:08:05 AM
personally i get a lot of 'hi, want to chat sometime' emails... i dont mean to be rude but i often forget to reply to them and i find them quite boring to reply too anyway, the conversations always seem to turn out the same way! email's talking about my profile are ok but to be honest my favourite ones manage to be a bit crazy... maybe its just me but the guy who manages to keep an interesting, crazy, flirty and entirely irrelevant conversation going with me will have me smitten!

nyght_tiger

Joined: 12/27/2006

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Favorite Shirts with Words Posted: 1/8/2007 9:10:24 AM
'you've been a naughty boy. go to my room'

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