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Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women? Posted: 9/4/2005 8:21:10 AM
see.....she felt used.......and she was. Wrong motives, bad outcome.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women? Posted: 9/3/2005 1:57:33 PM
I think that you can't choose who you fall in love with, and really, when it's love, we become helpless to a certain extent and have to go with it. Not all attractive people are boring or stupid or egotistical. Not all unattractive people are secretly hiding a wonderful spirit either. I think it's down to just being yourself, having confidence that you can't even throw away what belongs to you, and that whomever is "slated" to come into your life and love you is going to get there regardless of your efforts or even lack of efforts. I'm on the verge of changing my profile so that I can just be here for the forums which I enjoy because I've recently paired up with someone. (whom I met through a friend, not from here) That someone is the most gorgeous guy I've ever been with. He's the kind that women go up to in stores just to start a conversation with. He's so fit you could bounce a quarter off any part of his body, so wonderful to look at that I just love to make him smile (his smile is like the sun), so kind to me I can hardly stand the incredible intensity of his love, he brings me tea in the mornings in bed, loves to cook for me (and is marvellous at it!), works like a fiend at his employment, and has an outrageous sense of humour. He is also 13 years younger than I am. I avoided him at first because he was so gorgeous I didn't want to care and feel a fool. I guess that avoidance made him curious. I have to have confidence that he really wants to be with ME, and that he could have anybody but he chose ME. HE was the one who approached me, and who made sure that I would not want anyone else. But through his friends he got to know me. He found out that I am a sincere person, and kind hearted. He works so hard to be aware of my needs and to listen to what I say, and give as good as he gets. That makes me want to spoil him rotten. (which I do!) We have chemistry, and are very attuned to each other in spirit. The silences are comfortable and the other stuff is amazing. I have never had a long term relationship with a gorgeous guy. I've always been nervous to trust that it could work. But when there's good chemistry and you really get along, and want to be with each other as much as you can because it's so rewarding personally, then you really have something. We have much to offer each other on many levels. When the motives are to love (otherwise known as giving) then it stands a chance of working. When the motives are to show off this gorgeous person to the world as "yours" then you are operating from selfishness and likely it won't work. I don't know where it will go, but we certainly have plans and they include each other. I just lost 20 lbs and am feeling terrific. I want to be as fit as possible so I can go bicycling with him (he bikes many miles to another town just for the fun of it and then rides back) and keep active for as long as possible because it means there will be even more things we can enjoy together. Lust is all about finding suitable targets to enact our fantasies .....Love is sincere and very giving....being with a really attractive person is scarey at first, but they are not all idiots inside. Trust me :)

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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oh come on.... Posted: 8/28/2005 11:04:10 AM
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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oh come on.... Posted: 8/27/2005 1:43:06 PM
Hello all, I am a Canadian who has been following the whole story of the process which led to the Iraq issue and consequences since. I read the forums a lot and also make comments when I feel inspired to do so. It is my opinion that as long as the US maintains an attitude of parental authority over the world, the world will dislike the US. No country wants to have anything the US wants, because they feel the US will just go and take it. It appears to be human nature to fight for the last cookie. The last oil, the last clean water, the last bag of rice, whatever. We are animals and animals are opportunists and that is what allows us to continue to survive. We are evolved, however, when we put another's needs ahead of our own. Wouldn't it be more productive if the US with all it's money put the same effort into trying to implement alternatives (to starving and lack of fuel etc.) and lead the world into a safe and productive phase....than it is to spend all that money on military takeovers? There are so many people in the US who are soooo poor. What about them? Bush seems to not care how much is sucked out of the country to serve his short-sighted purposes. He doesn't seem to care about all the sons and daughters who are sent there to die. You can count on it he would not send any member of HIS family over there. The senate had one son over there I think when they were asked. All he wants to do is win. But what does he win? And at what cost to life? Whatever he wins is only temporary. The US has the power to propel us all into a positive future. But Bush knows there are enough "yea let's go kill somebody to flex our muscle" kind of citizens...and he can use that energy to manipulate people and enormous amounts of American money to serve his purposes. He cloaks it in the name of this and that, but intelligent people can see through it. A mother who is hysterical over the needless death of her son should be allowed to rant and rave. If I was that mother I'd totally lose it. My heart goes out to her and all others who have lost a loved one. If she makes anyone think twice before exercising the "shoot first, ask questions later" kind of attitude, then she will have succeeded. You can count on it, where her son is now, he would not be applauding the war, he would be trying to comfort his mother and feel sad that he was cut down so soon in life. This is a very delicate topic, and those who come in here to show disdain to those who try to have a sensible approach to it are likely negative people in this world who are still thinking that the boogeyman under the bed is gonna get them. I'd like to tell them that the boogeyman under the bed is THEM. The US likes to put down Canadians because we didn't hop on the bandwagon over Iraq. But we have troops everywhere the US has "helped". We seem to be a good enough country to come here for holidays and business trips and to shoot films and to buy land....and to take in your draft dodgers when they need a safe haven. We just want peace in this world and don't want to add to the mess. Try to take it easy on each other. That is where it starts. The way the world is, we are all teetering on the brink of ww3.....and I don't feel that is alarmist. Can't we get our crap together and do what's right? Must it always be death and destruction which wins? Have we learned nothing?

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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what kind of question is this, Posted: 8/4/2005 7:21:57 PM
No....not much class or knowledge of women who HAVE class. I'd pass on that one.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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Are there dog lovers out there? Posted: 8/4/2005 7:09:45 PM
Gee Ntzlprtzl.....I sure hope you find a good home for your dog. The poor thing will feel very hurt by your giving it away and will need lots of love in the new place. I have three rescued dogs....and they are my darlings. If you don't get any luck please let me know. I'll ask around for you. Anything but the pound. Good luck!

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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What is your #1 Pet Peeve in Profiles Posted: 8/4/2005 7:02:35 PM
Zauvir: Way to go! You have beat the odds! And your mom must be an amazing person! It takes everything you have and MORE to go through what you went through and I commend you. I'm sure they didn't mean someone like you....they mean someone who is too lazy to be bothered to cut the apron strings, mooching off a doting parent(s), and unwilling to make the effort to be independent. You have extenuating circumstances. :) Good luck to you.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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anyone from thunder bay ontario canada Posted: 8/4/2005 6:45:29 PM
I'm not from your area but I've sure been up there and it's gorgeous! I would love to explore the amethyst in your area! (I have a small piece of it when I went there) I hope you get some people responding. Good luck!

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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Honestly ladies, Guys with money or guys without? Posted: 8/4/2005 6:31:54 PM
I think that everyone should learn how to support their self. We shouldn't mooch off others, and we should try to be generous to those in need. A person who has not learned how to support their lifestyle has a lot to learn and is in a state of imbalance. I have found that it is often the case when a guy is wealthy, that he has had no time to be well developed in other ways (say emotionally mature for instance) and you don't get wealthy by giving it away or squandering it. (so they can be cheap) A guy who earns his way and tries to keep his debts down is being responsible. If he is generous (within reason) and also kind and considerate and fun, he is usually more approachable and developed emotionally. Some people are gold diggers (male and female) and their motives for "love" kinda stink. Just remember...what goes around comes around.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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How does anyone prove that they are honest and nice everyday person Posted: 8/4/2005 6:04:27 PM
I wouldn't think you would have to "prove" that you are honest and nice etc.....it takes time to know people and we can't expect others to know how wonderful we are in a flash. We can be judged by past actions and if we do what we say we will do. Some people promise the moon and give nothing. Sometimes people are honest one minute and dishonest the next. It takes time to see what a person's consistencies are.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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Matrix philosophies and your thoughts on life Posted: 7/31/2005 4:25:47 PM
"why some people have abilities that others don't. " I think that people live several lives, and a theme develops after so many, of where they have focused and where they spent their energy and time. These themes become strengths.....and talents....if a person has experienced enough of specific things, they develop ability where others don't. (art, music, psychic or spiritual development, etc.) If we are not curious about life and live our lives like dull slugs, then we will not develop abilities. We are doing right now what we choose to do. If we develop a passion for it, it might tide over into the next life...and we will develop it further...etc.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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How can anyone betray a single mom? I was betrayed. Posted: 7/28/2005 6:05:45 PM
Sometimes guys will contact more than one woman, checking out various people they are interested in. Then two make a reply, and then he starts to know them...then he has to choose. That's when it gets messy. "well I like her because of this" "and I like HER because of THAT" Then they get caught in their own lies and eventually they are doing something that is way over the top and the thing blows up in their face. Then they are an a**hole. A lot of bad behaviour is merely stupidity. Thank your lucky stars you didn't end up giving him 10 or 20 years of your life. No one really wants such a confused individual in their life as a steady diet.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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To Be or Not To Be............. Posted: 7/28/2005 3:55:38 PM
It is far better to BE than NOT to be......we have to hang in to see how the story ends. We are the heroes in our own stories. The trick is not to go on a downward spiral of negative thoughts, because what follows is always more negative experiences. consider a closed door an opportunity...and look for it. Look for the beauty. Even if you are in jail and awaiting death, you can still think of something of beauty and lift your spirit. It's all in the mind. The ex can go back to the past where he belongs. Give him nothing to feed upon. We go through cycles of rough spots....make sure the "shocks" are in good order and go like hell! Let the Light win.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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How many TRULY admit your issues ? Posted: 7/27/2005 7:56:33 PM
Issues, baggage, hang-ups, whatever....we've all got some, and they are the work we have to do on ourselves. I try to go through my fears to get out the other side as soon as possible. Case in point, I had a major fear of snakes (brought on by my mother's fear of them) so I asked a friend who raised several to let me come over and meet them. One by one, I let him drape a snake on my arm and I stroked it and talked with it. An anaconda, a boa constrictor, you name it. At least now I know I can hold one of those things without freaking out. Fears are fed by the subconscious....but we can tell the subconscious to not be afraid. It takes things very literally. Once I lost ten pounds by saying out loud at lunchtime that I had to eat my diet pie or I wouldnt' lose weight. My girlfriends knew what I was doing and chimed in the same. We are at the helm. We choose our ways.

Paisley2

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If God Was a Real Entity, Would it be male or female? And, do you care? Posted: 7/27/2005 7:18:49 PM
Ok....it's all taken care of :)

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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ok so-cal girls what am I doing wrong? Posted: 7/26/2005 4:21:50 PM
hahahahahaha! paranoid or what. I told you I didn't follow you. Trust me, you are not that interesting. Geeze...get a grip. Let it go!

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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What do we love about being single? Posted: 7/26/2005 4:16:14 PM
I have enjoyed living alone for several years. For 8 of them I lived alone in the wilds and loved it. I like time to think quietly, or play music loud, or have a buddy spend the night, be gone for as long as I want, eat when I want, and find my own path. It's hard when you are living with someone and you feel lonely. You can't do much about it. The odd times of loneliness when I am alone are few, but bearable. That being said, if I "fell in love" with someone who was just as independent but considerate, it sure would be nice to have help with the chores of daily living and bill paying ......not to mention the wonderful company. I think if you enjoy your own company, then if you end up with someone, it's a lot easier. Living with someone requires teamwork and compromise. If you have an honest relationship then you can each inform the other on what works for you.

Paisley2

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ok so-cal girls what am I doing wrong? Posted: 7/25/2005 9:56:53 PM
It doesn't matter where a person lives, they can still speak their opinion on HERE. I have been to California, and stayed for a while before I drove down to Baja. Also been across the top of the states and down the east side. Where have you visited in Canada? Your pictures are all the same. You don't smile. Isn't a smile a nice thing to see on someone if you wonder about them...meeting them etc.? It's inviting. There seems to be nothing warm about you. (except a hot temper) Saying you are heavily into drugs etc. is not an attractive thing except for others who are also that way inclined. It doesn't matter where I come from, it's kinda obvious why women stay their distance. You appear unavailable emotionally. If you want to attract a woman from ANYwhere, ya gotta snap off some of the quills. Oh and I don't stalk. Stalking is for losers. I just look for interesting topics. I have studied astrology for over 30 years and would not attempt an intelligent conversation on it with someone who has such a negative and personally inexperienced bias of the topic. So relax. Take one of dem pills.

Paisley2

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ok so-cal girls what am I doing wrong? Posted: 7/25/2005 10:30:30 AM
I just read your profile, "peaceful hermit" and I must say, if there are any anti-social drug addict women out there, you'll hit paydirt.

Paisley2

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Your astrological sign can be a factor in how many responses you get. Posted: 7/24/2005 3:17:40 PM
There has been a lot of discussion about Scorpios not being that great in a relationship. (as well as other signs.) Anyone who is really into astrology will tell you that you need to have a full chart done of a person to know them. The planets are WHAT is happening, the signs are HOW it's happening, and the houses are WHERE it's happening. Then there are all the aspects (the numerical degrees relating the various positions of the planets to each other) and so on. The sun sign is the will of the person, granted, but if it has various aspects which alter the nature of a "true" scorpio, then that person can be very different. The helping professions are full of Scorpios. Once they evolve they can make incredibly dedicated humanitarians.

Paisley2

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psychic/tarot for our advice?? Posted: 7/24/2005 3:04:02 PM
Usually means "in most cases".

Paisley2

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If God Was a Real Entity, Would it be male or female? And, do you care? Posted: 7/24/2005 2:47:43 PM
I sent you an email London, so it will allow communication now.

Paisley2

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If God Was a Real Entity, Would it be male or female? And, do you care? Posted: 7/23/2005 9:57:40 AM
There are some who believe that God is a figment of the imagination, an invention, but if you study nature and even your own body, to my way of thinking, it's pretty complicated and yet it all works. Nature is a system. Not without purpose or plan. Accidents don't happen. It's all a matter of how you look at life. There are no coincidences. This is not my invention....it is what I have observed and studied on my own, but many agree too. If you only look at the difficult parts of life and have a negative attitude, then that is the slant you take on life. If you can go through the difficult parts and still "land on your feet" with optimism and vision and realize that you in fact equate what you live, then you have empowered yourself. Life becomes a conscious act and is indeed what you make of it. If you are negative, then life is what happens to you. You are a victim. (and are ruled by the fears of your subconscious) Being a psychic medium has given me several experiences which have proven there is life after death and that life is continuous, regardless of the appearances. (there is no "escape" so we might as well settle in for the long haul) Whomever we are at the time of death, that is what we are surrounded by when we die. We eventually crawl out from under our own self made oppression, but it takes time. Both here and on the other side. (as above so below) I have made contact with those who have crossed over on several occasions and helped them communicate with their loved ones. People who died of cancer or were killed....are whole on the other side. Most are full of joy. It's really quite amazing. No one has all the answers and I am certainly no exception. But we can gain glimpses of other frequencies and experience a more full understanding of what constitues reality. People experience a negative view until they learn that it isn't necessary. Some people need to live several lives to deal with just one issue! Anything which uplifts the spirit and gives it strength to meet the next bump in the road (which we put there on purpose before we are born) may eventually get to the point where they take full responsibility for their lives and realize they can be the hero in their own story. Is God a reality? Ask your inner self. And LISTEN.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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Older Crushes Posted: 7/17/2005 3:22:13 PM
Older, younger, whatever....if there is chemistry it can be appreciated...if you have a meeting of the minds then even better, and if you feel devoted to each other and wish to be together exclusively.....maybe it will work. What is guaranteed....only change. People are agist and sexist and racist etc.....once we get over all that crap we can be real with each other. Usually a relationship built on "excitement" and a "thrill" doesn't last.....but if both can handle that...it could be fun for them.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

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who said there is no prejudice here...? Posted: 7/17/2005 3:09:50 PM
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- sometimes I encounter guys from a very different social background than mine and I just can't be bothered to try to update their view of women. It takes too much out of a liberated and independent woman. I'd rather find someone who knows what level I operate on normally. and go from there. If you are married and looking for "action" this will turn off a lot of honest women. This shows a definite lack of respect for women.

Paisley2

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If God Was a Real Entity, Would it be male or female? And, do you care? Posted: 7/17/2005 1:39:27 PM
Thanks London shy Guy............................................................................................... I think about all this kind of thing all the time. It flows naturally to have something to say on it. Add your views....please?

Paisley2

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Dating older men???? Posted: 7/16/2005 7:52:15 PM
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ If I dated an older man I'd be dating a cadaver! hahahahahaha!!!!

Paisley2

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Is anyone else annoyed by this question? Posted: 7/16/2005 7:50:49 PM
I got tired of people asking ME that question (when I lived alone on 42 acres) and so I began to say : I dated a bear for a while but the sex got rough. rough rough

Paisley2

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What do woman want here on the very first contact? Posted: 7/16/2005 7:47:10 PM
You asked what do women want on the very first contact: I'd say first off, respect.

Paisley2

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Are Canadian Women more Conservative then American Women? Posted: 7/16/2005 7:05:48 PM
The nationality of a person does not determine how nice/open/fun/chatty they are.

Paisley2

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Do you ladies know Mr Right cause i don't know Miss Right ! Posted: 7/16/2005 6:41:24 PM
Everyone has their own idea of who that would be. A lot of people feel that it's someone who they have chemistry with, who they are proud of, who make them feel wonderful, etc etc.....but really....they can come in many different packages. When you meet that person it hits you between the eyes. You don't have to guess or wonder. If you have to ask if it's the right one, it isn't.

Paisley2

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Ever dumped someone cause they sucked in bed? Posted: 7/16/2005 6:27:34 PM
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------- If your partner does not listen to your needs and ignores them, and is selfish and ungiving, then sure, dump them. If your partner does not turn you on in any way, (why did you say yes to begin with?) then it's not going to get better as time goes by. If your partner is willing to do whatever it takes and is a fast learner and good when they apply their new knowledge, then you may have better than someone who won the olympics in the sexual division. Sex is different things to different people. To some it's a spiritual experience. To others it's a meat experience. To still others it's an ego thing. But don't we agree that to make it good, there has to be the need to communicate and to be communicated with? (shrug) What I hate is a guy who sort of lays there in all his glory and thinks you are the one who is going to make his dreams come true and he does little to you to make it a reciprical (sp) experience. I feel like saying, "you know what? I think a prostitute would do better" because you just tell them what you want and they do it and there are no expectations of anything else. To me, sex is good when both people are comfortable with each other, there is good chemistry, and it's not a case of proving you know all the positions but more of an experience of caring, sharing, pleasure, and if lucky, a little taste of Heaven

Paisley2

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What is meant by mind games or head games? Posted: 7/16/2005 6:04:37 PM
Some people can't shoot straight. They feel and think one thing and say another. They do little things to stir up trouble and then blame the person who gets angry. They tell lies and also expect the other person to guess what it is that is bothering them. Someone who doesn't want mind games wants the other person to be open, honest, straightforward, not to go nuts over the slightest thing, and to walk their talk. They don't want a guessing game, and are usually not very complicated people. I only play games with others when I make it very clear that's what I'm doing, and then we can have fun. Games are supposed to be FUN!

Paisley2

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I HATE JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE Posted: 7/16/2005 5:35:34 PM
Just like when you meet people in "real life".....here too, life is what you make of it. If you put into it a pile of positive energy, eventually it pays off.

Paisley2

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So 'cmon!!! spill the beans!! What to you equals being a nympho? Posted: 7/16/2005 5:00:54 PM
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------A nympho is someone who gets more sex than you do

Paisley2

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Women and men are looking for completely different things. Posted: 7/16/2005 4:43:18 PM
Ever since I read in a scientific article that men's chromosomes are closer to chimps than women I've figured that I am indeed an animal lover

Paisley2

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If God Was a Real Entity, Would it be male or female? And, do you care? Posted: 7/16/2005 4:40:46 PM
Just a few thoughts on the subject: I think that we turn God into what we can handle....either a fatherly figure or a motherly figure....but really that's kinda silly since God doesn't have to breed I suspect.... Is your SOUL male or female? I find the "God force" as I call "it" is everywhere and can express the energy through any means and creates a dance of light and material and energy and intention that is all powerful and if we are honest with ourselves without attitude....we can connect with that energy and dance right along in a conscious manner. We are allowed just enough ego to enjoy it

Paisley2

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The Paranormal... Posted: 7/16/2005 4:30:49 PM
....................................................................................................................................I have had many interesting experiences throughout my life, one that comes to mind here. Years ago when I was pregnant with my daughter I had several very spiritual dreams but one in particular was memorable that keeps coming back to me. I dreamed that I held my left hand up and admired a gold ring on the wedding ring finger which was an image of a cherub (just head and wings) with the wings wrapped around my finger to make the ring. It was beautiful. This was before such things were "popular". The next day I tried to draw the lovely soft face with the gentle little curls...but I just couldn't capture the sweetness. So I went for my walk through the fields and to the forest where I usually took a path I'd made to the left. However this time I just sort of wandered straight into the woods and stopped and something inside me told me to look down at the ground. I looked and noticed a tiny little bit of white in the leaves and black earth at my feet. I picked it up and it was a beautiful porcelain head of exactly what I'd been trying to draw. There were no buildings near this, it was in the country, and nothing near it except woods. I still have this little head and it sits in the middle of my large collection of crystals. Not all things can be explained by science (aka the intellect)...there are many frequencies of life we experience. There are different rules for each of those places. Often the lines between them merge and we get a glimpse into "another realm"..... I have more stories .....when I get time I'll add to this.

Paisley2

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Is it true that once you reach the over fifty group you dont have a chance on date sites. Posted: 7/3/2005 4:37:51 PM
.............................................................................................................................. I find that I end up with younger men when I meet them in person, and older guys from on here. I had to put a restriction on the age (38) because young guys were sending me messages wanting sex all the time. (bless their dirty little hearts) Dating a younger guy would be fine if he were emotionally evolved and independent. Some times I have found that the older guys are more interested in their lazy-boys than they are in getting out and enjoying life. But I've met great from old and young! Takes all kinds. If there is magic, then go for it.

Paisley2

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psychic/tarot for our advice?? Posted: 6/26/2005 1:09:02 PM
Rocky you said this: (The one thing I found is the ones that charge are usually phonies. I read cards for free for the right person. ) How should this be interpreted? How many psychics have you MET? I don't think I was being reactionary about this.

Paisley2

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psychic/tarot for our advice?? Posted: 6/24/2005 3:53:51 PM
you are still being aggressive and i don't respond well to that. I have sent a woman home because I could not read her and i sure didn't charge. It's sweeping statements in a negative tone that bother me when it includes me. I don't think it is fair to say such things.

Paisley2

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How do you deal with people like this? Posted: 6/24/2005 3:51:33 PM
I think Caressa has it perfectly..... "why would you ask?" or.... "why does it bother you?" put it back on them without an attitude because otherwise you will get into an argument....you can make it known that when she gets personal you want to know why and so she will have to have a good reason. or you can say, "well since we are commenting on personal things with each other...why are you so free with your advice? How could you think that I'd want to hear that?" I would say I am wearing what I wear because I like it. Period. And walk away.

Paisley2

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psychic/tarot for our advice?? Posted: 6/22/2005 3:50:47 PM
"The one thing I found is the ones that charge are usually phonies. I read cards for free for the right person. You must know who you can and can't read and be honest about it. The ones who take money for it and know the outcome of there reading will be poor hurt this profession. " I take exception to this as i am an honest person and give the goods for the money. This is part of how I earn my living and I would never breach that trust with someone like that. It's ok to charge for something you do. People do it for every facet of human life. Is a doctor wrong to charge for helping someone if they are sick? No...they try to cure them. People who state that others are bad for doing what they do in an honest circumstance because they aren't good enough at what THEY do...I wouldn't give you a nickel for. Dabbling is not doing something as a career. I'd rather be helping people like this than cooking burgers for people. If people who sold burgers could do this do you think they would not do it? Why not say way to go and be supportive....there is so much negativity.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

Msg: 11 (view)

psychic/tarot for our advice?? Posted: 6/21/2005 9:22:11 AM
Each of us has psychic ability to varying degrees. Some people do not have clean motives in their dealings with others. Still others let their ego drive their thoughts and actions. To be a good psychic (or psychic/medium in my case) you have to have dealt with all that crap before you can really be good. I've done work for the police very successfully. I give readings as a side business and people ask for guidance and strength and hope when they come to me. Some don't want to know any "bad" stuff. Others want verification of what they already know. Some want proof that their loved ones survived death. I help people get over their fear of death and then tell them who is going to meet them on the other side because they are standing there right beside them wanting me to tell them. Then I prove that it is them. Then when the person dies, they meet up with them and come and visit me in the happiest state...everyone celebrates on the other side when we meet up with them whole and vulnerable. There are some who cross over and have a lost attitude and are enveloped by their own oppression. It takes some time to get "clean" again but they do eventually. Some days I am so right on I don't need anything...other days I use my crystal pendulum or the cards to jump start the process but when I'm really psyched (ha!) I find them almost restrictive. Some things we are not meant to see too. Things CAN change. And yes you CAN change your fate if you know what's coming. And if you change the circumstances. Animals have this sense already. We are animals but we forgot how to do this. Some of us are born without having forgotten. Psychics have a bad reputation because people take advantage of others (we are opportunists by nature) and I have to fight that all the time but I get Christians coming and those who are totally in tears and lost...and my high comes from helping them see some light in their lives. I only "preach" to them to raise their sites and create their own reality by being positive and desiring good things and not let fear rule them. That is a huge task in itself. I also do a full astrological service (I have a professional program on my computer) and can even tell people where their bands of strength are on this earth for jobs or love or whatever. So far it's proven totally accurate. If you have never had your chart done this can really blow you away. The sun sign astrology in the papers does not do astrology justice. I hope I've helped. And no, I don't do free readings in Plenty of fish.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

Msg: 16 (view)

how do you get rid of an ex Posted: 6/19/2005 1:39:12 PM
I have had stalkers and harrassers of all stripes. Consistency and a sense of seriousness...and telling him he is harrassing you or stalking you to give it a name that he can recognize as being against the law, and then telling him you fully intend to report this to the police because it's already gone over the "line".....(and do it!) and that he had best get a grip on reality because the law is on your side over this....is about all you can do. Never be nice to them, never give them anything they want. Whatever they ask for say no firmly and do not give any nice words. Tell them to f**k off and keep it there. If that is all they get eventually they give up....or most of them do. If they phone, hang up. I moved and so my address and my email and phone number changed so it helped a lot...but I didn't move just because of someone who was being a pain. some people are mentally ill and want to suck the life right out of you but you still can put up a good defence. Visit your local police station and ask for some advice from them too. They have seen this all so many times before. Take stalking etc seriously.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

Msg: 182 (view)

How do you get an older woman to take you serious? Posted: 6/17/2005 11:01:01 PM
Hi all, I'm new to this thread. I've read a fair amount but not all of the thread, and would like to add something. I feel that we must BE someone to GIVE before we can ask for a thing from others. If a guy expects to be doted upon by an incestuous mother figure, allowed to indulge his fantasies to the point of perfecting the act of taking (to new heights) and feeling free to complain if things don't measure up, had best be EXTREMELY good on several counts, not the least being self awareness and sensitivity for others. His sexual attractiveness and ability to please had better be absolutely mind boggling. He must make that woman believe that her varicose veins and stretch marks and wrinkles are each loved to the core and that he desires to see even MORE. No woman who has acquired property got there by being stupid. On the other hand, older women who need some love and affection and to feel desired can pretend that a player/user/loser means what he tells her until of course he smashes her car up when drinking and touring with his REAL girlfriend.......then she throws the bum out and cuts her losses. My experience with younger men often means for ME that I spend time with someone who can keep up with me. I find that older men are way more slowed down than I am....and much more "careful" about life. There is usually way less risk entailed to a thing than we often endow it with. I have a youthful attitude most of the time and just look to share that. If I met a younger man who was mature enough emotionally and even half as curious as I am about life, and we had chemistry, and didn't want any (more) kids, then we could spend time together and who knows? Most of the time, the people who float through our lives are doing just that...floating through. Sometimes one or two of them stick. But mostly, we just have to appreciate change and learn from it. Love is everywhere. We just have to recognize it. An'.....stir it up a little. Use and be used.....or love and be loved.....we can choose.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

Msg: 24 (view)

What are you afraid of? Posted: 6/5/2005 2:32:15 PM
If you operate from a condition of fear, you are coming from the subconscious, and life will be what "happens to you"..... If you operate from a condition of positive energy, then you are being conscious and life will be "what you make it".... Whenever a person rejects us, or does not choose us, or has been with us but now wants out.... they are saving us time and energy because we don't belong with them and we can't even throw away what truly belongs to us.....we don't need to chase after anything. All we need do is be aware when things happen and behave appropriately. (and know what we want and what we don't want) (and be positive ) If someone lusts after us, they are exercising the desire to TAKE. If someone loves us, they have the desire to GIVE. When you spend time with someone and they rarely listen to what you are saying, always talk about their own lives, don't ask how you feel or what you want....do ignorant things to you....walk away. They won't change. Be your own best friend and you can't go wrong. Does this person add to your life? Or do they suck the life right out of you? Best to spend time with those who are supportive of us and who want to see us achieve our goals and dreams and may even want to HELP (if you want it). Tell the universe you are grateful for what you have, and know that you deserve a good life, and ask for what you want. And give room for the miracles to happen . Don't let your fears rule!

paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

Msg: 9 (view)

Brockville Kingston Cornwall and surrounding area Posted: 6/3/2005 7:33:11 PM
Hi all... I work in Brockville and live just outside Smiths Falls....am moving to Brockville....I love this town!

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

Msg: 13 (view)

Sorry , I have to walk my dog what do you think ?? Posted: 5/31/2005 12:44:53 PM
It's hard to know when someone is being honest and truly has to take their dog out for the long awaited walk....but, dogs are creatures of routine...if they always get their walk at this time, they bug you until they get it....they need their routine to feel secure. Their systems are also geared to getting relief at that time. (I have three dogs) If someone says it when you are enjoying speaking with them, ask when you might get together again to chat.... It is my experience that there are many liars on chat....people can be anything they say they are. There are also a lot of psychos. But sometimes a walk is just a walk.

Paisley2

Joined: 12/24/2004

Msg: 30 (view)

Deep Dark Secret of my BF Posted: 5/30/2005 9:19:14 AM
Wow I can't believe how mean so many of you have been to this girl who obviously is in a stressful situation and doesn't know what to think. If she could think any better at this she would. When you are young it seems like the slightest thing means the whole world. Life is a series of shades of grey and occasionally black and white. People discuss anything on here so why not this....if others don't want to post a response, they are free not to. You people read this, so it must have been worthwhile to you to read it. At least be respectful. Everyone's thoughts and feelings are valid even if they disagree with our own. As for sexuality, people have various urges and scenarios which excite them, often we don't even know why they do, they just do. Perhaps if you had a little more experience with your own sexuality, you might understand that this boyfriend's needs may not be gay or bisexual, they may only be a desire to understand his own sexuality even more. He may be feeling a little weird about it and may not be able to talk about it. Try not to suffocate him while he figures it out. If you have labelled him "gay" or "bisexual" to his face, he may wonder if he has a 'problem' with THAT now...where he didn't before. If he won't communicate with you, then your relationship is on hold. It is a crossroads....you have to let him think for a bit, then he may come to you and talk. If not, you have to decide what to do with a guy who is upset but won't disclose. A relationship where there is no communication can't last for long. Eventually the one who does communicate gets tired of talking to herself.

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