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loves riding

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 199 (view)

She is still surfing dating sites.. what am I to think? Posted: 10/24/2008 4:40:21 PM
I agree 100% with the OP on this one. If two people are dating exclusively, all profiles should be removed from all dating sites. This is just my opinion and it is the right thing to do. The internet is a great place to meet people and make friendships but it also is too tempting and does ruin a lot of relationships. If it's a my space there are ways to state that you are in a relationship and just there for friends or forums. I feel if someone is still surfing the dating sites, they are still looking for someone else and are not satisfied. It's c alled the jungle bar affect. It is a matter of trust and I do not want my man looking at dating sites or even being on one if we are together. Enough said.

loves riding

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 155 (view)

Leather and Lace Daytona/Deland Aug.30th @7pm Posted: 8/29/2008 10:34:36 PM
Hi Sassy haven't seen you in a long time since the Lake Wales ride - will see you at the Zone. Lorie

loves riding

Joined: 12/30/2006

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Coming to terms with the fact that he never loved me... Posted: 6/20/2008 6:13:05 PM
It hurts to find out that your love was not returned in the way you thought. Some people have different definitions of what love is. Some feel it deeper than others. Don't let it get to you anymore - you will find someone who returns your love in the same way - it just takes time to find. All I would suggest is that if the person hasn't shown you any sign of returning your love in a time period, then don't let it continue. Waiting for someone to love you will never happen if it isn't there to begin with.

loves riding

Joined: 12/30/2006

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Why still looking at profile? Posted: 6/20/2008 6:08:29 PM
I think it is a way to think about the person and what could have been. Or, maybe he thinks he made a mistake and wants to see what he lost. There are a lot of reasons people do this.

loves riding

Joined: 12/30/2006

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Is love a choice? Posted: 6/20/2008 6:05:24 PM
I don't feel love is a choice. Yes you choose people who attract you but when feelings are involved, I don't think you have a choice. It is either there or it isn't. I don't feel that you can force love. If it isn't there in a reasonable amount of time - it's time to cut your loses and move on.

loves riding

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 311 (view)

Your Pet or YourRelationship? Posted: 6/20/2008 6:02:19 PM
I would never give up my pets unless there was going to be a serious change in my life. Even then, I would look for alternatives to giving up my pets whether it be to a friend temporarily for a while or the person I was involved with spoke with a doctor for some medications.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 161 (view)

I am So fed up with men these days Posted: 4/27/2008 8:19:16 AM
Well, I did leave him because I was so hurt but over it now and moving on. I know I have a lot to offer a good man and will not give up hope but I will be more cautious in giving my heart to anyone.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 101 (view)

Devastated AGAIN!! Posted: 4/27/2008 7:58:57 AM
Sorry for what happened to you and boy can I relate to something similar. It seems that no one cares about feelings anymore. It's a disposable society. No one wants to tell it like it is and all they want to do is deceive. Well, I for one will keep hoping that I will meet one sincere man who believes in me.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 159 (view)

I am So fed up with men these days Posted: 4/27/2008 7:44:42 AM
You know the same thing happened to me recently with a man I was seeing. I just don't get it. Why do they have to be so sneaky about it. I asked him several times if he was trying to meet other woman and he always told me "no". What I don't understand is why keep seeing me if he wasn't happy. It just doesn't make sense. I cannot tolerate cheaters/liars especially since I asked if he wanted to change our relationship to just dating and of course he says "no" again. Why would his female friend (he says he told her he was seeing me) introduce him to a friend of hers? The big question is, why did he agree to meet this woman and still want to be with me. I figure it this way, what if the two of them got along and wanted to be with each other. Was I going to be dumped? I guess it didn't work out because he came to see me the following week. It really stinks when men do this. I really cared for him but I can't trust him anymore. The grass isn't always greener - he will find out. Tired of it all.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/3/2007 12:55:05 PM
I have to admit I did meet someone without a pic on another site and was not disappointed at all. We had such an attraction which led to a second date but of course that was when I found out he smoked. That was the deal breaker for me. Made me sad but that's the story of my life - lolol.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

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Why are older men so SEX oriented??????? Posted: 10/3/2007 11:51:25 AM
OP you are absolutely right. I was talking to a man and sure enough he brought up the subject of sex and would not let up. He said he was afraid of getting involved with a woman who didn't like sex. I told him there were no guarantees in life and that if he wanted to make a good impression he would have to cut down on the sex questions. Of course, this conversation didn't go any further. I was completely turned off by him. I also told him to let nature take its course and to stop trying to get absolutes on having sex with people he should get to know first. Just my .02 worth.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 104 (view)

Dumped mid date!! Posted: 10/2/2007 6:48:34 PM
This has never happened to me and I hope it never does. If it was only 5 minutes of him talking to her that would not be so bad but I think you did the right thing. Another reason to take your own car on dates.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 191 (view)

the first date and he wont respect your pet Posted: 10/2/2007 6:44:49 PM
Well I had a date with this man who called my dogs baggage because I could not go away on the spur of the moment. Needless to say, I no longer see this person.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 135 (view)

We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet? Posted: 9/23/2007 6:29:58 AM
Well as stated above, I did have a great date and was happy but on the seond date he chained smoked which he didn't do on the first. As a matter of fact, he didn't smoke at all so I was very surprised when he did and I just had to tell him I couldn't see him anymore. My health comes first. Sigh!!!! Some things are too good to be true.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 129 (view)

We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet? Posted: 9/17/2007 7:23:49 PM
I just came back from a date out tonight and for the first time in a long time I am happy. We had so much in common and were attracted to each other immediately. I must confess I didn't even see a pic of him but took the chance. I believe in spontaneity and figured if there was no attraction - no big deal. Boy, was I surprised and think he was too. All in all it was a great first meet and we are making plans to see each other again this week. To think I was going to give up on this.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 262 (view)

would you share your toothbrush?? Posted: 9/5/2007 7:24:03 AM
Reminds me of an old Seinfeld episode where Jerry forgot his toothbrush and his g/f handed hers to him. The look on his face was priceless. He just couldn't do it and of course she kicked him out

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 208 (view)

first date from hell Posted: 8/29/2007 6:20:56 PM
It just amazes me that the 2nd poster above talks about this woman he met and yet still has sex with her and complains later. These are the kind of men that make me sick. If she was so repulsive, why be intimate with her? Don't tell me alcohol. If I am not attracted to someone, there is no way I am going to be with them and especially let them stay all night. Get your priorities in order.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 140 (view)

How focused on image and weight are most men? Posted: 8/27/2007 1:28:27 PM
Get rid of the jerk!!! He is manipulative. I could never live my life with a man constantly criticizing me for my weight. I know what I have to do. That's like walking on pins and needles your whole life with him. Who needs that?? Find a man who appreciates you for yourself and who wants you whether your weight is up or down.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 72 (view)

isn't this strange behaviour from a man? Posted: 8/27/2007 1:13:07 PM
Ok I will be the one to say it here. He is CHEAP. If he hasn't taken you on a date outside of your home, something is amiss. He either has a girlfriend and doesn't want to be seen in public or he doesn't want to spend money. If he takes you to the wedding, he has to give a gift for 2 people also. Sorry, but this is my opinion.

loveluvlove

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Why are so many middle-age men in the online-dating-world into motorcycles? Posted: 8/27/2007 1:04:52 PM
I definitely don't think of riding a motorcycle as a mid-life crisis for men or women. I rode a bike in my 20's, got married, raised kids and now after 20 or so years have gotten back into it. These men you see have ridden for 30 or 40 years and still enjoy the ride. Why should they give it up just because they are older now? I have a friend who is in his 60's and has 7 motorcycles in his garage. I enjoy riding with him and plan on getting another of my own some day. Keep riding!!!

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

why does a guy contact u arrange 2 meet & not get back to u. Posted: 8/26/2007 8:46:07 PM
This happens a lot and my only explanation is that they are married or have a g/f. I was talking to this guy for a while and we made plans and as soon as I asked him if he was married - he told me no and then I never heard from him again. So, that is my feeling on the subject. They get cold feet or cannot get out as they planned to meet you. I hate this.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

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WHAT EVER HAPPENED.... TO THE GOOD OLE DAYS? Posted: 8/26/2007 7:57:43 PM
OP - I was just thinking the same thing. People make plans and then either don't call or show up for the date. You are right, things were much better at that time. It was a time of anticipation and fun. Now, either they are married or just jerks. I am just about to give up on this dating thing. Why bother. People these days just cannot be up front and honest. Can't stand the "wh0 cares" attitude and all the game playing. There is no romance or courtship in this day and age and yes they all expect sex on the first date. I try to still look for the good ones but they are few and far between.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 79 (view)

Cops and their handcuffs Posted: 8/22/2007 4:00:07 PM
I retired as an officer after 9/11 in NY and would not date a cop today. I have to say that a lot of officers have issues and most of them do have g/f's and wives from my 20 years of experience working with them. You really have to understand the whole system if you want to have a relationship with one. By the way, I hate donuts.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

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Ladies...is this par for the online dating course? Posted: 8/14/2007 6:14:42 PM
My take on this is that we are not mindreaders. If the guy I am dating doesn't ask to see me exclusively, I continue to date others. If he gets turned down after calling me at the last minute, so be it. Guys you have to communicate what you feel. I can't stand all this guessing, so I just continue whatever I am doing until there is a meeting of the minds.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

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Guys...when you're into a woman, do you always let her know? Posted: 8/11/2007 6:52:28 PM
I would rather a guy tell me how he feels if we are seeing each other often. I like to know where I stand. If it's friendship he wants, I want to know so that I don't let my feelings get away from me if they aren't going to be returned in the same way. Sometimes there are mixed messages. I may think there is more to the relationship and then he disappears.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 146 (view)

is it harder to date as we get older? Posted: 8/11/2007 6:45:42 PM
I think it is harder to date at this age than it was when I was younger. I have never seen so many picky older men than I have now. I am not saying that I don't have standards but geeze get to know someone before you discard them. I always give someone a second look and if it doesn't work then at least I tried. There are too many older people looking for partners that they think should look like someone in their 20's. I think I keep myself looking OK and yet have made no great connections.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 77 (view)

is being single so bad? Posted: 8/11/2007 6:39:20 PM
I grew up believing that y0u had to be a couple to be happy. I enjoyed being married but if it's not with the right person it can be hell. I have never been alone until now and it's not so bad. It took a while to get used to especially when the kids left but I am doing fine. I do what I want, don't have to cook for anyone, etc. etc. I am finding that I can do it all by myself. Sometimes it gets lonely but that's the trade off. Now I know that if I do have a close relationship with someone, it's because I want it and not because I need it.

loveluvlove

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Men and their feet Posted: 8/11/2007 6:29:38 PM
This thread made me laugh so hard - thanks I needed that. I get pedicures every two weeks and sometimes I see men in the nail salon getting their pedicures but few and far between.

loveluvlove

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What happened??? Posted: 8/11/2007 6:23:33 PM
I have had this happen to me recently and I just don't get it. He was calling me every other day and we went 0ut twice a week and then poof - he disappeared. He said he would see me before he went away on a trip that was planned before he met me and he never called. I am not laying down and dying or anything like that, but it is very frustrating to understand as we had so much fun together. Go figure. I really liked him.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 63 (view)

Baggage Posted: 8/6/2007 7:56:58 PM
A man that I am dating said that my dogs were baggage. He said it and then laughed when I looked at him. He then said he was joking. I don't consider pets as baggage and I am sick of men and/or women declaring anything you are involved with as baggage. I guess if I can't get up and leave at 4AM to go on a trip or whatever at a moments notice - then anything or anyone in my life that is my responsibility is considered baggage. Yes, I have to make plans in advance if I need to go away for a while but those are the trade offs and I won't compromise what I am about and that is loving my pets.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 60 (view)

why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs? Posted: 8/2/2007 9:36:27 AM
OK I read enough of you guys getting disgusted regarding dogs licking their owners hands. I would rather have a dog lick me than a man who scratches his ass, picks his nose and then touches food, etc. etc. Think about it ladies. I have seen more men do disgusting things and would rather have my dogs around than some of them. Enough said. People who dislike animals have something to hide or maybe allergies??? Dogs have good instincts and can tell when a person is evil. My dogs rule!!!!

loveluvlove

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Why so many laid back/easy going men on here?!!! Posted: 7/31/2007 9:33:07 PM
Well, there is a list of words on my profile that a lot of men use and it's a turn off to me - LAID BACK is one of them (do I have to prod you with a stick to get you to move??) -

loveluvlove

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Is it mostly women who believe Love Happens When You're Not Looking? Posted: 7/25/2007 10:47:09 AM
Well I've met my last 2 ex's when I wasn't looking so I believe in that. Also, recently I met someone - not on a dating site but in person - at a bike poker run when I definitely was not looking. We are going out to dinner tomorrow and i don't have to wonder if he looks like his picture - lolol. So, yes it can happen. I have more luck meeting men in person than I do on a dating site.

loveluvlove

Joined: 12/30/2006

Msg: 553 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 7/22/2007 7:56:04 AM
Maryjane - yes I feel the same way - I know my profile scares a lot of men away but that is my intention. I want to scare away all the undesireables and yes maybe they will leave me alone. I rather be alone than with someone I know I won't get along with. It's fine with me. If some men do get through my profile, then that is the man worth getting to know.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 76 (view)

my heart is broken Posted: 7/22/2007 7:39:41 AM
I won't repeat what everyone here has already said but "ditto". My son is 18 y.o. and there is not a day that goes by that I don't worry about what he is doing out there in the world. He moved out a year ago and has gotten into some scrapes but he always manages to come by and say hi to me. I always let him know that he can count on me for help whenever he needs it and I don't preach to him anymore like I used to. I tell him to use common sense and one day I hope he gets it. Let your children know they can come to you if needed. This way you will have peace of mind when they are doing their own thing in this world. I feel your pain and wish you a speedy recovery from your pain. Lorie

loveluvlove

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Msg: 169 (view)

People who just write how are you Posted: 7/20/2007 5:23:03 AM
How about getting the same greeting to the letter from a person twice and they forgot they sent you one in the first place month ago. He got a read/delete. Also, the person who doesn't read your profile and asks "So what do you do in your spare time?" He also got the dreaded read/delete.

loveluvlove

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sex, guys and idiots Posted: 7/15/2007 11:42:32 AM
OP - Your first mistake was letting him come to your home. You should never let a first meet be at your home. Next time a public place would be the best bet. I have come to realize that when you let these jerks pick you up at home, they try to get you into bed and forget about why they came to see you in the first place. I can't stand it when I am all dressed up to go out and your date has other ideas - namely getting you out of your clothes and ruining your hair and makeup - lolololol. NEXT!!!!!!!!

loveluvlove

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Msg: 43 (view)

now that you are OLDER/MIDDLE AGED, do you spend less time on grooming? Posted: 7/13/2007 5:57:44 PM
I spend more time. When the kids were young, I rarely got my hair and nails done or bought anything new for myself. Now, I get my nails and hair done all the time. Since I moved to Florida, I don't dress up anymore but other than that I have time to take care of myself now.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 115 (view)

Women in uniform... guys what do you think about this? Posted: 7/12/2007 8:05:06 PM
Before anyone starts agreeing with that poster Handyman - you tell me how are the police supposed to protect the public when the criminals are running around with all kinds of weapons? What kind of society do you want? One that is overrun with criminals doing as they please. Get a grip. I take offense to those remarks about police because they carry guns. You probably never had anyone hold you up and rob you or hurt you after taking your stuff. You have no idea what you are talking about. Being against guns is one thing, but being against police because they carry guns is asinine. You ought to have been down at the world trade center in NY on 9/11 as I was and then I want to see how brave you are. Those police, firefighters, military and medical personnel are the best. Yes, I have worn two uniforms - police and nurse.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 463 (view)

Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !! Posted: 7/12/2007 4:17:20 PM
I agree with the OP - this guy just wanted t get a look at her and wanted her to do all the work - driving the whole distance to meet him. He could of at least asked her to lunch if she was going to do all the driving. I call him a cheapskate and maybe even a liar. Why couldn't they have met later in the day for lunch and why did it have to be so early on a Saturday? My opinion - he was probably married and was able to get out for a few hours - didn't want to spend money on gas, etc. etc. I guess there are not many gentlemen around anymore.

loveluvlove

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40+ year olds that have never been married Posted: 7/9/2007 10:18:35 AM
OK I have been married a few times and have always felt that if you never got married, then you were selfish and could not share. Well, I had an experience when living with my ex before we got married that scared the crap out of me. He was having surgery which was supposed to be minor surgery. I was waiting for him in the waiting room and no one ever came to tell me the surgery was over. I finally got someone to tell me what happened. He had a problem with the anethesia and they could not arouse him. My point in telling you this is that they knew he was not married to me and would not tell me anything regarding his condition. He could have died right there - house in his name at the time and I would have had to pack my bags with my kids and leave eventually. Marriage does mean a lot and it isn't just a piece of paper. After this experience we both went out and had wills written up until we could get married. I doubt very much that I would ever remarry but I don't rule it out. I have seen too many people lose the things they worked for because their SO didn't leave a will. I don't however in this day and age think it's a red flag if someone never married. It's their choice. It could be a wonderful thing with the right person.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 74 (view)

Trusting someone in a new relationship Posted: 7/6/2007 6:11:16 PM
You know men aren't the only ones taken to the cleaners in a divorce and I for one am sick and tired of hearing you guys cry that you lost all your toys. I lost just as much as you have and instead of blaming all men for my lot in life, I've decided to build it up again and the only difference is I did it myself and not with a partner. Yes, it's hard for me to trust and that is why all my new possessions are in a TRUST so that I cannot lose them again. All I am saying is protect yourself and you will be fine. Stay one step ahead but don't let that stop you from trying to let someone into your life. Just be smart about it and aware of what's going on. I guess I still have hope and want to trust someone again.

loveluvlove

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Have you ever been your own worst enemy? Posted: 7/5/2007 11:39:36 AM
DawnMarie - I also have a sarcastic, dry sense of humor and perhaps that also offends some people I talk to but that's me!!! I don't mean to hurt anyone and I guess I have to be paired with someone who does get it. My last b/f loved that from me - my quick wit and sense of humor. So, it's back to the drawing board.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 203 (view)

the guys who fix things Posted: 7/3/2007 1:13:30 PM
I am very attracted to guys who can fix anything in the house. My last ex was useless when it came to this talent and when he tried to fix anything he only made it worse. I have learned to do a lot of things but some are beyond my experience such as anything electrical. So, yes it's a big plus to me and i appreciate it very much if a man is handy.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 175 (view)

So if a married guy isn't happy and wants to meet somebody new, Posted: 7/3/2007 11:10:11 AM
There are many reasons men and women cheat on each other yet won't divorce. It's fear of the unknown and people get attached to their "possessions". I personally stay away from married men. You have to be strong to split from your significant other. I for one could not be with someone if we could not get along. I've lost 2 houses and many possessions but for me it was worth the peace of mind to leave the marriage. I have no tolerance for someone who can't make the move and hangs on, but to each their own. They want their cake and eat it too. Either sh** or get off the pot. If I am with someone, I want to know they are free.

loveluvlove

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Why do guys bic thier lids? Posted: 7/2/2007 9:46:01 PM
I would rather see a guy with a shaved head than bald on top and full on the sides - hate that look. Bald is sexy!!!!!

loveluvlove

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Msg: 231 (view)

Just Why Do You Girls Love Motorcycles??? Posted: 6/28/2007 12:27:17 PM
Koolcop - if you were closer we could go for a ride as I have my own bike. Maybe you should move - lololololol.

loveluvlove

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What I am feeling and the mail I want to send one last time Posted: 6/27/2007 8:44:09 PM
OP If I have learned anything from all my years on this earth and this is it: You cannot make someone want or love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

loveluvlove

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Msg: 86 (view)

Would you turn off the game to have sex?? Posted: 6/21/2007 8:04:45 PM
There is a commercial that I saw recently here in Florida regarding your question and he just put a tape into the VCR and followed her into the bedroom. I thought it was cute.

loveluvlove

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Msg: 62 (view)

How closely do you look at someone's teeth? Posted: 6/21/2007 8:01:01 PM
I made sure that my son and daughter had straight teeth when they were younger. I know they appreciate it now. I do like to see someone with nice teeth but I have to admit I did go out with someone for 2 years that had less than perfect teeth. His other qualities were outstanding at the time and being the person that I am, I overlooked it.

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