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 Author Thread: flatmate intimacy
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
flatmate intimacy
Posted: 8/5/2012 5:06:45 AM
You are on here looking for a man, now you have found one & you're complaining. So silly, just like all the rules....don't eat where you chit, don't do this, don't do that ...pfffft!

I say go for it & enjoy every minute. Maybe it will work, maybe it won't but you won't know until you try.
As for loosing a flatmate, you were looking for one when you found him & if it doesn't work out you'll find another.

Have a great time & I hope it lasts for ever & ever & ever.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Do men act more considerate to you when you are thinner?
Posted: 8/3/2012 6:00:52 AM
Too many people want to be like what is perceived as the "beautiful people". Like you with your claim to be an average build KK Twin. But we all have a fat kid inside waiting to escape. And when she plumps up & makes her break we blame it on the "beautiful people".

Of course people are treated differently, that's just life. If you want to be one of the thin sought after beautiful fake females, then stop eating & put that fat kid back where she belongs.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 348 (view)
 
Breast Augmentation over 45
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:56:28 AM
I say do it, for YOU! But think long & hard about the size. It's a different world out there when you are well endowed. Clothes don't fit right, bras are really expensive & it's hard to find clothes that don't expose your clevege. You can't run, you can't jump, you don't dare play tennis when guys are around & forget about jumping on a trampoline. lol

You get lots of attention, but usually it's not the good attention. Men talk to your boobs, they try not to, but they do & the means girls think big boobs means you are trashy. No one believes they are home grown, just about everyone thinks you had implants & did it for the attention.

I got down sized when I was in my late 30's. I ran into some guys I had known in college & they were surprised to see that I have one blue eye & one green, duh. A female co-worker made a comment that it was so nice to see I had finally had those huge boobs removed & she just could not understand why I did that in the first place then added that she thought it was so trashy, duh again.

So I say go for it, but don't over do it.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Am I still In The Closet?
Posted: 8/2/2012 5:49:36 AM
I live in a gayborhood, so I'm used to same sex hugging & kissing, but some people are not. You have to know your audience or you can get yourself in some unwanted trouble, but that goes for everyone that goes over the top with PDA. Do what is comfortable, but be aware of your surroundings, there is a lot of closed minded people out there, unfortunately & you're so dang cute we'd hate to have something bad happen to you.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
My dreams
Posted: 7/31/2012 9:14:03 PM
Dreaming of a ray of light means you saw the light, the light bulb went off, there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Your 5-7 hours of fiction may hold all the answers to a current dilema in your life. Or it may mean you have been contemplating doing some writing & you subconsciously while sleeping saw the end of the tunnel & were able to put it all together in a story.

Trains, dreaming of the same train night after night, chugging along at the same speed with the same scenery means your waking life is probably doing the same thing, just chugging along day after day.

Trains are also symbolic of the penis. If you dream of a great huge powerful steam engine, flying down the track at a high speed, making lots of noise & blowing steam it means you probably need to get laid.

Dreaming there is evil & you are doing the same thing over & over again means in waking life you keep making the same mistakes but you are too scared to put an end to it.

David Beckman, dreaming of him means, hot dam girl friend I am jealous.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Should I or Shouldn't I
Posted: 7/29/2012 6:17:16 AM
FB=FaceBook or FB Friends with Benefits?
Doesn't matter. So you have a son that has been having problems for the last 5 years & your biggest concern is if you should be FB(?) friends with his mother? WTF! No wonder kids or all messed up, they get it from selfish parents like you two who have their heads up their arse.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 31 (view)
 
speaking with a lovely man from england
Posted: 7/29/2012 6:07:00 AM
Just a few questions:

Once you re-locate, how do you plan on supporting yourself until you get a job?
Do you have several months worth of savings?
If yes, does he know this?
Are you going to sell that large bed & breakfast guest home & make a nice profit?
If yes, does he know this?
Did you get a settlement when you got divorced?
If yes, does he know this?

Sorry but I used to be an investigator & I've been trained to think like a con-artist.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 395 (view)
 
Never been married, no kids. Is this a red flag?
Posted: 7/28/2012 7:37:29 AM
I've known several people that have never married/no kids. All have a reason why; demanding career, closet gay, grass is greener syndrom, commitment phobe & some just plain & simple did not want to. I know one woman & as soon as she opens her mouth it is understandable why no man would ever want to marry her.

But I'll take a never married/no kids over any of the widowed men I have met.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Near our breaking point.
Posted: 7/27/2012 3:29:26 PM
So you gave him an ultimatum, he called your bluff & you caved in. That is too bad because all you have done is let him know that you do not mean what you say & are full of empty threats. He now knows he can just give in until everything calms down then take it back & it will be just fine & dandy with you. You have given away all your control & power. The relationship is no longer equal, it all belongs to him now. He can do whatever he wants.

I don't understand why you would give an ultimatum & not follow through. I don't understand what your expected end result was.
You blew it girl friend.

(I'll bet he got the best sex of his life when you had that ring on & thought he was going to marry you.)

 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Opinions On This Man
Posted: 7/23/2012 4:02:07 PM
I think he needs to run for the hills because he's about to get involved with an attention seeking troll.

Not cool Op, you & your sock puppet are in trouble now. lol
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Blue Highways - Your most memorable road trip(s)?
Posted: 7/22/2012 3:03:22 PM
I grew up deep in the mountains in nowhere land between Crested Butte & Aspen, Colorado. We had this rickety old wooden horse drawn sleigh. Red velvet interior with bells & oil lanterns hanging all around the exterior. The horse was totally decked out in red velvet & bells too. It’s mane & tail had been brushed & braided with red velvet ribbons winding through.

Our family tradition was to ride that sleigh to Aspen. We’d set out early Saturday morning all of us packed into the sleigh, with an extra horse tied to the back, packed down with supplies. We rode through the snow covered forest & mountain trails singing Christmas songs, drinking hot Dr. Pepper & eating home made Venison jerky.

We took our time, stopping to watch a herd of buffalo or elk. We had a favorite honey hole, where we always stopped to do some ice fishing for trout. We‘d cook up our catch then camp over night. My father was an excellent fisherman & always managed to hook at least 5 trout. (Not really, what I didn’t know was he had gone to the fish market, just incase.) Around the camp fire he would tell stories, made up bull chit stories about things that he claimed happened but never did. He had such a great imagination & a wonderful way with words it didn’t even matter if they were true or not.

At night we could hear the coyotes’ howl, eagles screech , an occasional owl, & every once in awhile a bear or mountain lion roar. At least that was what my father said they were. It would get cold, really cold so all of us would be wrapped up tight in one tent. It would take all day, one night & part of the next day to get to Aspen. Years later I found out it was only about 18 miles away. My father really stretched the trip out & made it memorable.

When we arrived in Aspen all eyes were on us. The rich city slicker tourists were absolutely mesmerized by the sleigh & must have thought we were something out of the past. They took pictures & paid my father to take them on sleigh rides. Aspen was amazing, all light up, fantastic restaurants, skiing by candle light at night. At one time I thought it was the North Pole where Santa Claus lived.

We’d spend the week there at a small cabin my father had built. During the day he would take tourists on sleigh rides. Us kids would explore the town, the mountain range, go ice skating or skiing. At night we’d go to the opera house & see the Nutcracker or a melodrama, usually Sweeny Todd, or attend the free concerts.

When the week was done we’d head back home, camping out, singing carols & making memories. At the time it was just routine to us, but now when the memories come back I think WOW, how cool was that!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Ever had a partner with a phobia?
Posted: 7/22/2012 12:13:13 PM
@verygreeneyes When I saw the snake I attempted to escape in doing so I knocked over the table behind me which caused a domino affect. Chaos ensued & 5 students got hurt. No one in the class, with the exception of the professor, thought it was funny. The guy behind me got his front teeth knocked out, I had a concussion & broken arm. One of the guys that had gotten hurt, father was an attorney & he brought a suit against the professor. Sometimes we got to do what we got to do.

I was so hysterical I couldn't go back to that Uni. Even today the thought of stepping foot on that campus makes me come close to hyperventilating. I ended up transferring to a Uni out of state, which was extremely expensive. My whole life was turned upside down, all because the professor needed his ten minutes of attention & thought I would be a good candidate.

Any one who uses another persons fear to terrorize them has a sick mind & needs some serious therapy!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Ever had a partner with a phobia?
Posted: 7/22/2012 10:40:10 AM
Phobias are nothing to laugh at. Anyone who would actually on purpose terrorize someone & think it is funny is a cold hearted jerk!
I have a serious snake phobia, because of an incident when I was a child. The science professor knew this, yet being the jerk he was, he brought a snake to class & threw it in my face. He thought it was sooooooo funny! He wasn't laughing when he had to pay me 100 thousand dollars! LOL
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Clip in extensions on middle aged women?
Posted: 7/22/2012 10:10:28 AM

^^^meh! I think I take it to the other extreme & have had people tell me I should dress/groom myself more my age :oD


Blonde they are only saying that because they don't look as great as some of us do "at our age". It would be different if you wore daisy dukes with your koochie showing or a top cut down to your navel, but you don't dress that way.
So to those that think at our age we are not allowed to do yada yada I say mind your own bees wax!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Clip in extensions on middle aged women?
Posted: 7/22/2012 9:06:22 AM
Geez Blonde I can't believe you fall for the "at our age" crap! Are we all supposed to look exactly the same way once we hit 45? So silly! If you want long hair then grow it or get extensions. If you want to wear a short skirt, then wear one. If a guy wants to dye his gray hair, great, then dye it, or if he wants to drive a sports car/motorcycle or whatever, then good for him. But geez get over the "at our age" attitude.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
thinking about going topless.......
Posted: 7/22/2012 7:04:15 AM
I have a Mercedes Benz SLK 230. I bought it new in 2000. I love it, you just push a button & the hood slides into the trunk, easy peasy. It's small, a 2 seater & not much room in the trunk with the hood down, but that is the only bad thing. It's pretty good on gas, it handles great & it looks good too, real classy. It is fast it can get to 150 in no time flat & I have a speeding ticket to prove it.

This is the most fun car I have ever owned & I have had numerous cars that I thought were "the one". Even though it is 12 years old it is in pristine condition. I have never had any problems with it. Not that I haven't tried, I've driven it across the states numerous times, from Texas to Nova Scotia twice & to Mexico at least a dozen times. I recently bought an SUV for road trips, because I think I may be pressing my luck. So now I just drive it occasionally & love every minute.

There is nothing better than driving topless with the wind blowing your hair around & ZZ Top blowing out your ear drums. It comes with a kick ass Bose stereo & numerous other "got to haves", like a built in hands free telephone, thermometer, direction indicator, weather channel that automatically knows where you are, sooo many other fun/convenient extras. I love my Benz!

AND it's a serious man magnet, lol. I guess you wouldn't care about that, but I'll bet it's a woman magnet too.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
20 yrs different,,,is it worth it???
Posted: 7/17/2012 3:50:49 AM
My don't you think you're special, coming on here bragging about a rich old man that you think likes you a lot. Sorry sweetie but women like you are a dime a dozen. There is one like you on every corner & he knows that. He's probably laughing with his friends about how easily impressed you were & you were. In fact so much so that you had to broadcast it to a group of strangers.

He walked behind you so he could check out the merchandise before he bought it, duh! He doesn't like you a lot, you're just another item he can buy & when he uses it up, he'll discard it & buy another. I would think being real close to middle aged you would know that by now.

I smell a troll.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Can a relationship be too perfect?
Posted: 7/16/2012 9:43:33 AM
I won't date a man who claims his ex was a cheating, high maintenance woman with mental problems. You are putting all the blame on her, but yet you were so wraped up in yourself that you didn't even realize she was unhappy.

Sorry this happened to you, but you were just as much to blame. Don't hold your breath on the thought that she is going to come begging back, it just ain't going to happen, she kicked you to the curb. End of story, get over it & move on.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Imaginary love triangle??
Posted: 7/16/2012 9:36:37 AM
When I read crap like this I totally understand why guys say POF has some seriously crazy azz beotches!

You both need your profiles deleted forever!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
You know my name, not my story. So don't judge me.
Posted: 7/15/2012 12:27:34 PM
We do judge, but we like to sugar coat it & call it first impressions.

When I read statements like the OP made, the first thing that comes to mind is, “oh oh I am going to be blamed for something I did not do“.

We all have a story, everyone of us, some are so absolutely horrific it would make yours look like a Sunday walk in the park.

Personally, I don’t want to know about a person’s horrible past. I have my own story. I don’t want to know how the gates of hell opened up & destroyed an innocent life. There is just not enough room in my mind to absorb all the evil things that goes on in this world.

How we deal with what has happened to us is up to us. If you burden others with it & make them pay, then you have baggage & no one wants to be with someone whose baggage interferes with their life.

For you to come on here & demand a group of strangers to not judge you, gives me the impression you are still in victim mode & need counseling.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 225 (view)
 
age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/14/2012 4:27:13 PM
I'll take the perfect with a great attitude, but hey I'm shallow & I really like tofu, working out at the gym, being skinny & bench pressing. Oh soooooo boring, but to each their own.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 4:20:19 PM
Texting all the time, AT OUR AGE?

Yes, we all must follow the rules as outlined in the Age Appropriate Behavior Handbook for those 45 & Older.
Chapter 152, para 275, pg 1169;

You Are Not Allowed To:
a. use your cell phone for texting
b. own a sports car
c. ride a motorcycle
d. date someone because they have a smoking hot body
e. weigh the same/less than you did in high school
f. enjoy lounging on the sofa
g. have cosmetic surgery or breast augmentation
h. look younger than your age
i. tell anyone you act younger than your age, that is absolutely NEVER allowed.
j.
k.
l.
WTH!? Rolls eyes……….
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Beverage of choice on a date vs socially with friends
Posted: 7/12/2012 7:44:37 AM
Ima whiskey woman. Buffalo Trace Kentucky Straight Bourbon whiskey, is my choice. But it is expensive so I don't order it when on dates, instead I drink the Reisling house white wine.


But when I drink, I drink alone, just me & Ole Grandad, lol, love that song.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Stinky Perfume
Posted: 7/12/2012 7:35:14 AM
I usually wear Angel but recently bought Ange Ou Demon by Givenchy. I love the clean soft smell & have gotten tons of compliments.

There is nothing worse than someone who douses themselves with stinky smelling cheap azz cologne or the old lady smells from the 70's. UGH! That goes for men too that wear the cheap knock offs. Sorry but they do not smell like the real thing.

I have a friend that still wears Emaraude & another that wears Red Door & a guy friend that wears Hi Karate, yuk, they stink!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Cheater, Cheater...
Posted: 7/11/2012 3:07:37 PM
This man is a thief, lazy, a rule breaker, & cannot be trusted. He is not qualified to be in the security business, but neither are you or those that know what he is up to & continue to look the other way.

I used to be an investigator. Twice a year I gave classes to wannabes. A big part dealt with trust, being aware of the Privacy Act, not discussing details, in other words keeping your mouth shut about what you learn during an investigation.

I had a man that worked with me. The first day of class he would tell two people a crazy made up story about me. The last day of class I would ask those that knew of my crazy situation to raise their hands. I would ask that group to leave the room because they failed the course.

Don’t be surprised if your professor is doing the same thing.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 27 (view)
 
My bf doesn't want another kid and suggest me using sperm donor
Posted: 7/11/2012 10:33:42 AM
Import come through with flying colors, again. LOL, yeah OP, get a donor. LOL, gawd I just love these forums.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Is a married person welcome on the POF forums?
Posted: 7/6/2012 9:26:17 AM
Plenty of room at the Hotel POFornia
Any story you want You can find it here

Her mind is Tiffany twisted, he got the Mercedes Bends.
He got a lot of pretty, pretty girls that he calls friends

How they post in the forums, sweet summer sweat
some post to remember, some post to forget.

They’re posting it up at the Hotel POFornia
What a nice surprise, bring your alibis

You can check out any time you like,
But you can never leave

Welcome to the Hotel POFornia
Such a lovely place…….

LOL, welcome newbie, I hope you enjoy your stay. Yes married people are welcome, but I hope you have thick skin because you will need it.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Dating married women in O.R ??
Posted: 7/6/2012 5:20:27 AM

tries to get her to mess around with his buddies
and you fell right into their little game.

Walk away these two are playing you. She will never leave him, the two are peas in a pod & they are enjoying every minute of this. More than likely they are laughing behind your back, she's telling him all about how you have sex & he's getting off on it, they both are.

Get out of this mess.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Do u dress up or dress down on a first meetup?
Posted: 7/5/2012 7:49:38 AM
Some people think wearing high dollar designer sweats is dressing up. Some people think wearing a nice pair of jeans is dressing up. It all depends on where you live & the type of people you associate with. Where I live & the group I hang out with, neither attire would be acceptable.

If clothing is a concern of yours then maybe you should mention that when you ask for a meet up. Say something like, "we're going to yada yada pub, they have a great out door patio, fantastic view. It'll be hot so this might be the perfect time for you to wear that cute little summer dress you just bought", or something to that affect.

And yes I do dress up for a first meet. I wear dresses the majority of the time & big oversized hippy skirts without panites, cause it's soooooo hot! LOL
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Insomnia and..
Posted: 7/5/2012 7:05:08 AM
I used to think I was an insomniac. I wouldn't be able to go to sleep & this would frustrate me. I thought about it so much that I'd panic & it would add even more stress to my life. Then a doctor told me I was the type that did not need the normal 8+ hours of sleep. I stopped dwelling & stressing out on the number of hours I was "supposed" to sleep, now I sleep when/if I need it. I can get away with sleeping just a few hours a night & be able to function well. I don't try to force myself to sleep, if I'm not tired I don't dwell on it, I find something to do & when my body is ready it lets me know.

You might be the same way. Stop dwelling on not being able to sleep, take naps whenever you can, don't try to force yourself to go to sleep & see if that helps.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 33 (view)
 
This extreame heat
Posted: 7/5/2012 6:34:43 AM
I'm in Texas & it is always hot here. I'm not going to complain because compared to the record heat we had last year this is nothing. It's the humidity that really wears you down & zapps your energy. We joke that we have three seasons, Pert Near Hot, Hot & Real Friggin Hot!

I just got back from a road trip to the Grand Canyon, Sedona, AZ & was surprised at how hot it was this year. Usually it cools down at night, but it didn't the 2 weeks we were there.

Dayna we stopped by Santa Fe then Albuquerque, weather was not too bad, but we stayed a few days in Clovis. It was hot & muggy, ugh!


OMGWTF......I don't even want to hear that! LOL, right now the water in the pool is too hot to even swim in & you're enjoying yourself being cool, I'm jealous & it is not fair!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Judging a book by its cover and not its content.
Posted: 7/4/2012 10:49:30 AM
LOL, it sure didn't take long for the cat claws to come out. Take it as a complement, I've learned on this site the women that go into attack mode do so because they are jealous.

No longer do I judge a book by it's cover, over the years I have learned I have been wrong numerous times. It just happened again, I assumed a person was a nice Christian woman, but boy was I wrong!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 68 (view)
 
age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/4/2012 8:59:27 AM
With all the age defying products, enhancements, procedures, surgeries, etc available today, it is almost impossible to determine a persons age. I am almost 60 & some would say I look younger for my age, but in comparison to a person that has had “enhancements”, I would appear to either look my age or older, whatever that is supposed to be.

And to those that insist they can always tell when a person has had something done, no you can’t. Especially if you did not know the person before they had the procedure, or if a person is having procedures done that make a gradual change over a length of time.

Because of all the age defying enhancements available to us there is no longer a specific look each of us should have at a certain age. At one time it was easy to figure out a persons age, within a year or two, but not anymore.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
A guy who doesn't read books. Deal breaker?
Posted: 7/3/2012 11:13:03 AM
Apparently he does read, he reads articles on the internet! I read but I don't care if my partner reads or not, there are much more important qualities in a man I am looking for. But hey to each their own.

Cawk Blawker, lol, luv it!

And 50 Shades of Grey, oh gawd what a horrible suggestion.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 7:06:07 AM
There should be a disclaimer that reads "Forums Are For Entertainment Purposes Only"

When I read a long drawn out "disertation" I check their posting history. It boggles my mind how they can have any relationship/dating experience when they are on here 24/7.

Then there are those that quote every sentence & trash another posters opinion. If this is how they converse in real life, then no wonder they are on here, I can't imagine anyone wanting to be friends with a person like that.

Then there are the ones that every comment they make is to demean the OP &/or other posters, again no wonder they are on here, IRL no one would want to be their friend.

Let's not forget the ones that are an expert in every field, every topic, absolutely every one!

But we do have a few, very few, that actually do give excellent advise.

Grain of salt indeed.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 30 (view)
 
who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothing
Posted: 7/3/2012 5:42:54 AM
In another thread posters are arguing over whether finances are important. Finances are extremely important.

Here's another excellent example of why I date men that are my financial equal. No one should have to pay another person's way, doesn't matter if the other person makes more or not. The one with more money should not have to change his/her way of living because the other cannot contribute.

If you cannot afford to date someone with money then you need to stay within your own league.
She sounds Tiffany Twisted!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:51:43 PM
Some of you would be thoroughly shocked if you knew the things your grandparents did during the 70's at those "luv ins" & even more shocked when during the 80's when they had "key" parties. He's wearing her nighties, lol, that cannot even be considered as strange as compared to some of the fetishes people have.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Moving to the mid-west. Where?
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:35:39 AM
I have lived in all of the areas you have mentioned, loved each one, but I don't do winter. I live in the Dallas area. Uptown Dallas is a great place. It's inexpensive, you can walk to diners, sports bars, art galleries, opera houses, museums, shopping, enjoy live bands, just about anything you want is right there.

But there are also numerous suburds that have the small town feel with everything the city offers. Finding something to do or someone to do it with is not going to be a problem.

As for it being so spread out, it doesn't matter because more than likely you will find an area that suits you & has everything you are looking for because of that you will have no reason to travel out of that area. We also have tons of available, dateable, women in your age group.

We have several large lakes. We're a few hours away from the ocean, Houston area, a days drive from New Orleans & Mexico.

There is a guy that frequents the forums that has recently moved to the Dallas area. He can give you an inside scoop. Message me if you are interested in chatting with him & I'll give you his name.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 33 (view)
 
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:05:12 AM
Oh oh, I think I must be a guy that needs a reality check. I have sex with men I date, (gasp), yep I sure do & if they don't put out, then I'm gone. I can afford to buy my own meals, go to the beach, or bowling or anywhere else I choose. I certainly don't need a man to pay my way or pay to entertain me.
I get to know the man I am dating mentally & physically, yep that means sex! I am not about to do the long term thingy or even go exclusive until I find out if we are compatible in bed.
Either I am not understanding what dating means or I am just an old whore! Whatever. I can't help but wonder if some of you women still think you are sitting on a gold mine & sex is a way to reward a man for his good behavior. pffft! I like sex & I prefer to do it with men, it's so much more fun than doing it by myself. OMG! Did I actually say that aloud, now the uppidy are going to bash the heck out of me. Oh well, let the bashing begin.

Side note; I have actually had sex with men I just hang out with. OMG, what a horrible disgusting pig I must be. LOL
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 108 (view)
 
He claims his site was hacked
Posted: 6/26/2012 12:21:41 PM
I wish people would not think that just because they do not have the education/knowledge/experience to say “you MIGHT have been involved with a sociopath”, that others do not. It’s that old mantra, if it didn’t happen to you, then it must not be true.

OP, but now you know how to recognize a liar. Next time you will be able to figure him out before you waste too much of your time.

No it is not safe to post on here, there are people who stalk you & pinpoint every little thing you say in hopes of getting into a pizzing contest. If you are good looking then the claws really come out & the mean girls revert back to their high school ways. Ya gotta have thick skin or a great big pitcher of margaritas.

There is no medical diagnosis for a sociopath, it's all guess work & assumptions. But again, just because you are not trained does not mean we all are not!
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 102 (view)
 
He claims his site was hacked
Posted: 6/26/2012 10:28:00 AM
You might have been involved with a sociopath. That's entirely different than just a liar that we meet in our everyday life. Sociopaths lie, but to them it is not a lie, they truly believe the made up stories they tell are the absolute truth. They don't have emotions so they don't display obvious signs of guilt, because they do not feel guilt. That is the reason so many people get caught up in their scams, they are seriously convincing. They pass lie detector tests & psychiatrists/professionals have a difficult time detecting them. In fact, the only way they can tell for sure is to give a sociopath Oxycontin.
No offence, but I have a very hard time believing that with all the lies he told, you can remember exactly how he reacted every single time so that you know that he never once acted as I had outlined. Hmmm, you must have an excellent memory.

On topic, snooping, lying both the same, but we all do what we have to, whether it is right or wrong.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 100 (view)
 
He claims his site was hacked
Posted: 6/26/2012 9:53:39 AM
Nope don't watch crime shows, but I have 30 plus years in the business of detecting liars. Lying is not how you beat a test, controlling your reaction to lying is how you beat the test. I would think with all your husbands experience you would know this. The eyes thing is so old school, just about every liar knows to control their eyes so they won't get caught. Your husbands 8 years of experience should have taught you that. You can detect a person lying without seeing them, with your extensive experience I would think you would know that also. Maybe you should update your lying knowledge before you attempt that test.

I tend to think he did not know where he left his phone, thus the reason he called his phone instead of hers.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 92 (view)
 
He claims his site was hacked
Posted: 6/26/2012 7:59:19 AM
Why bother to snoop when it is so easy to detect when a person is being dishonest. All liars act the same.
Try the 3 monkeys rule, hear no evil, see no evil, say no evil. When a person is lying they will ALWAYS touch their eyes, or mouth, or ears, or neck. They do this subconsciously because; they don’t want to hear themselves lie,(touching their ears), or they don’t want to see your reaction to their lie, (touching their eyes). They touch their mouth trying to prevent the lie from coming out, same with touching their neck. They also clear their throat or cough as if the lie is getting caught. Most will talk real soft & slow &/or muddled.

They also make them selves as small as possible, (cross their legs, cross their arms across their chest, sit with their knees up close to their chest or sit real low in their chair, etc.) When you interrupt their lie by changing the topic, they immediately relax, usually smile, smirk, uncross their legs, arms, stretch out their legs & get overly involved in the new discussion.

If they are really making up a whopper of a story they will pick up an item to play with or make themselves busy by walking around or doing something so they don’t have to face you. Forget about being able to tell a liar by their eyes, that is just bullsh1t.

Liars also cannot repeat a made up story backwards, because they cannot visualize what happened in their mind. Liars get on the defensive when questioned & will go on a personal attack to the person questioning them & switch the situation around to make it appear you are at fault.

Liars embellish their story with silly facts, (account was hacked). Liars avoid using pronouns. Their emotions are delayed, they will tell a made up funny story but laugh first or after, whereas in a real story they would laugh during the telling or they smile before/after when lying & saying they love you. A person not lying smiles while they are saying they love you.

Men cheaters when caught lying about it will put their hands by their private parts, women will put their hands by their heart.

Easy peasy to figure out a liar once you know how. But if you absolutely have to have the last word so you can say ha ha ha ha I caught him, then go ahead & snoop.

And I seriously doubt he was "honest about sensitive subjects", more than likely he was lying his butt off.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 139 (view)
 
Living on a shoestring budget
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:31:01 AM
I've been keeping up with this thread, lots of good suggestions. Do you realize you can apply for SS Disability, for your knee, & more than likely receive more than you would if you applied for SS retirement? Also, if you don't own your home you can get housing assistance, your rent would be calculated according to your income. But if you do own your home you can put it on the housing list for a low income elderly roommate. (Not a bad way to find a nice man to date, not necessarily live with.)
There are numerous programs for the elderly through the various housing programs. There is also a program that hires the elderly to do part time work at the county,city,state,fed gov't offices. Easy sit down reception/telephone jobs. (Check out the blue pages in your phone book.)
The thought of working in my 60's & with a bad knee scares me. What if, what if would be going through my mind.
I have several friends that were living on a shoe string budget. In my previous post I mentioned 2 women that remove expired items from grocery store shelves. They now live with 3 other women & if it wasn't for that they would be in serious financial trouble. I think my number one priority would be finding someone to share expenses. My friends that now have room mates think it is the best thing they have done & wished they would have thought of it years ago.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 126 (view)
 
Living on a shoestring budget
Posted: 6/24/2012 1:55:37 PM
Two years before I retired I decided to cut back on everything that was not absolutely necessary. I put the money in a special account. After three months I was shocked & disgusted with myself for being so frivolous with money I had worked so hard to earn. Now it is a way of life but, I have expanded on it.

A group of us meet for dinner & drinks at least three times a week, spending $50 or more each time. I did some research & found numerous places that had $2 drinks, instead of the $10+ we had been paying & also has free food. My friends were laughing at me, but now it’s become a contest to see who can find the place with the best free food. Instead of paying $50+ tips three times a week, we are spending, maybe $10 & that includes a tip.

I search the web for coupons & now my friends are too. When we get together we exchange coupons. We have everything from apples to Victoria Secret. Some have come up with some really great money saving tactics. 2 of my friends advertise websites on their cars & get free gas for doing it. The same two work at 4 grocery stores, for free, removing the expired products, they get to keep the items.

I do lots of road trips. I plan my trip then get on the web & print coupons. I also do mini surveys & get numerous freebies, groceries, at restaurants, designer bags, discount coupons, I Pads, cell phones, manicures, spa treatments, haircuts, etc, etc. I sign up for the one hour presentation at resorts too.

I just spent 10 days at the Grand Canyon, not once did we pay full price for a meal. I had coupons for free appetizers & numerous discounts at the tourist trap stores. I signed up for a tour at one of the resorts & received a $50 gas coupon & $100 off the sun set tour of the Canyon. While having dinner at a high dollar restaurant at the Canyon a guy sitting next to us saw my “buy one get one meal free” coupon & was seriously jealous. LOL, I gave him all the info so he too could get freebies. He was very impressed.

The guy I’m dating is a serious golfer & has been looking at buying a new set of clubs. I signed up to do a tour of a golf resort & you guessed it, the giveaway is a free full set of Titleist clubs & the bag to match, which I wanted to keep for myself. I told bf I would give them to him if he’ll take me to Puerto Rico. He agreed, what he doesn't know is I have a coupon for 2 free nights at a resort & a hundred dollar off airline ticket. We are going to have a great time.

Don’t even worry about living on “a shoe string”, logical men appreciate a woman that can stretch a penny & knows how to be thrifty. The guy I am dating is always impressed with the deals I come up with. He has no problem using the coupons &/or bringing home leftovers. Bf thinks it's hilareous & braggs to his friends about how I can manage to find just about everything free or almost.

I'm not naive, I realize what I consider "living on a shoe string" may not be the same as others. But I do know most men appreciate a woman that takes into consideration the money he spends on showing her a good time & has no problem when she comes up with creative ideas in helping him spend less.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Parents who have lost a child
Posted: 6/24/2012 10:35:25 AM
My husband & I brought a little 2 year old girl into our home. She had been raped, beaten & left to die in the woods. It was a miracle she even lived. The first year she was with us she hid in the closet sucked her thumb & rocked endlessly. She was afraid of everyone, wouldn’t talk & wouldn’t eat, she just hid in the closet. Eventually with lots of work & therapy she became a normal happy healthy child.

The powers to be did investigate, but determined what had happened to her must have been a stranger & not one of her family members. So the courts decided she should be given back to her parents. We tried numerous times to adopt her, but the judge refused. After having her for 5 years we were forced to give her back.

She was with her natural parents less than 6 months & they found her raped & beaten to death, discarded in the woods like a piece of trash. Her 17 year old step brother did it, he was the one that did it to her the first time.

No she was not my biological daughter, but it doesn’t matter, to me she was. She was the apple of my husband’s eye, the whole world revolved around this little girl. He was so distraught I truly thought he would die of pain. The whole situation was excruciating. I can’t even fathom the pain one must go through when it is your own flesh & blood.

In the 1950’s there was a married couple, both actors, who had a daughter born with Down Syndrome. They wrote a book about her life & death called Angel Unaware, by Roy Rogers & Dale Evans. It is a heart wrenching but wonderful book. Before you read it get out the box of tissues, because you will cry.

Always be helpful to others
And give what you can spare;
For by being kind to strangers,
We help angels unaware."
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 48 (view)
 
That psyco Ex! have you every had one?
Posted: 6/23/2012 3:18:14 PM
I dated/lived with a man whose crazy x wife murdered him. When I think of some of the things she did the hair stands up on my arms & I sleep with the lights on. On a scale of one to ten, bunny boiler is a mere 2 as compared to what this woman did. I will NEVER date a man who claims his x is crazy. She's still out there charming her way into her next victims bed.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Middle aged man, new Camaro
Posted: 6/22/2012 6:02:12 PM
A new Camaro, aaaah saaaweat!

One good way of filtering out the gold diggers is to drive the old pick up for the first meet. If she says she will go out with you on an actual date, then drive the Camaro. Good luck & enjoy your new car.

Side note; people definitely treat you differently when you are in a nice looking sports car, especially women.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 109 (view)
 
Work rant about rich cheapskates.....
Posted: 6/22/2012 5:22:37 PM
I have a Mercedez & a Range Rover & it pizzes me off that I get labeled as a cheapskate if I don't donate to every cause that is offered to me.
I do my share, in fact more than my share & I have no intentions of explaining this to anyone! I choose where & to whom I wish to donate. I earned my money & it is mine to do with as I see fit. You can beotch all you want & call "rich" people cheapskates, but you have no idea what they do with their money if you did you would be truly shocked as to the number of people they support.
I would not donate, even a dime, without investigating how the money is spent, sorry, but there are too many crooks out there pretending to be needy. Call them cheapskates all you want, but reality is, we have learned to invest our money wisely & giving a dime to every store we shop at is not a wise investment.
Just maybe the person that turned you down went home, googled the info, decided it was a worthy cause & sent a check to the organization.

I donate bags to the Habitat Re-Store & I do not expect them to pay me a dime to do it.
 Drestin.Red
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Justifiable Homicide?
Posted: 6/22/2012 4:42:15 PM
Pffft, how absolutely silly. I also mentioned Sandusky so I guess that means I'm racist against whites also,disgusting, truly disgusting and reprehensible. lol!

I love being horsey whipped, but I prefer the pink & purple feathers with velvet whips, oh yeah baby,do it again, harder, harder.

Back on topic, the man was justified & the law realized it.
 
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