However, I think that love finds the right combination; not the other way around: i.e; love comes when you least expect it not when you go looking for it.

But first, for the people still rambling on about "Alpha males" - or worse, flaunting that they are one (Scared perhaps that a touch of humility may lead the women here to believe that they're too "girlie" for them - A blow to the ego that duplicitous exemplars of said type clearly couldn't handle)

Many so called Alpha Males are no different from the wussies in that most often neither type are authentic human beings!(There is NO so called Alpha Male.He is or HE isn't. This is not abstract or mysterious. It is factual.)

Freude’s Personal Dictionary:
Alpha Male = Wannabe ( then your choice is clear BETA or OMEGA)

And all the 'ALPHA MALES' that claim to be alpha males, you're not. You're just wannabe's that use your insecurities to cover up your lack of masculinity. Intelligent women see right thru your type and wouldn't touch you with a ten foot pole! (Intelligent women would do their home work, so I guess you are just a dummKopf or seizeklug, pick one.)

So the spineless are the regular-text-using-a$$holes and the Alpha Males are the bold-text using a$$holes?( NO, the one who using bold text is the one with the common sense, and you are obviously lacking it.)

This Alpha male stuff is bunch of bullshit.

The whole "alpha male" thing is just stupid someone who takes charge someone who is a leader someone who has an answer for everything, someone who's this, someone who's that, blah blah blah ladies such a man only exsists in hollywood movies

I'm assuming this is a "dress to kill" type of event?

ok then euro,do you agree with my last post?

Actually, "Alpha Males" ARE myths. And more farcically fictitious still, are those who proclaim to be one.

If you valued people over principles and you weren't a complete moral infant you could have just told them the truth - you did it because it was your mother's dying wish.

I'm non-religious and I'd have no problem engaging in whatever weird religious ceremony a loved one wanted me to do.[/qoute]

So, if you are not religious, what kind of belief would you suspend? Belief in Santa? If you have nothing on the line it is not difficult to comply with the wishes of others. However if it is contrary to your beliefs and/or value system, that becomes a different story altogether. What if you were asked to promise to abandon your fiance and never see her again? Would you comply? I think not. That makes you a hypocrite.





What a surprise. How could you - not much activity happening on the right side of your brain. You appear to lack spirituality, common sense, depth, the concept of loyalty,honor,as well as an understanding of the fundamental personal value systems of others. You are entitled to yours, they are entitled to theirs. Is this really that difficult to understand ? I fail to see your need to judge the OP for not compromising her values and beliefs just because they differ from yours. Bottom line - she stood up for her convictions in a time of significant duress.





definition of RITUAL:

- any customary observance or practice
- of or relating to or characteristic of religious rituals
- the prescribed procedure for conducting religious ceremonies
- of or relating to or employed in social rites or rituals
- stereotyped behavior
wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

I would imagine that some people may take exception to your ascribing things such as baptism, traditional dance and prayer to mere ritual. As a Buddhist, I question your labeling meditation as such. When neuroscientists study Buddhist monks in deep meditative states to investigate how it is possible for the human body to accomplish some rather incredible feats, we've gone way beyond mere ritual.

There are some that are part time or weekend Christians. Following the middle path as a practicing Buddhist is 24/7, not an easy path to walk at all. There is no absolution, confessional, or get out of hell free card. Your deeds, good or bad, accumulate and their are no shortcuts to salvation/enlightenment. This is how I prefer to live my life, taking daily ownership of my thoughts, words and deeds. Some may think that because Buddhists are peaceful, they are also pushovers - hardly the case; many Buddhist monks are masters in martial arts. Just because I choose not to do something does not mean that I can't. I would not hesitate to use a handgun in order to save loved ones from mortal danger BUT I am aware that once that happens, I am no longer the same person, meaning I can no longer claim certain values. I would have suspended my beliefs but it comes with a pricetag. When a temporary suspension comes with a permanent effect, I am no longer the same person. Is it worth it? In this case yes - although compromising my beliefs in a situation of mortal peril, I could still look in the mirror and say I did the right thing - I could live with it.



Making no attempt to understand the OP's logic, beliefs and convictions doesn't make her a moral infant, but it does make YOU a major jackass, especially in light of your chosen vocation.AND a source of entertainment in MENSA circles. You might consider working with other primates (chimpanzees?) because this whole human thing seems just too complicated for you.


Maybe you should get out more.Book knowledge is NOT a substitute for the REAL life one.