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LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 856 (view)

PICS: Images not showing up issues here...[Read the 1st Post (the OP)] Posted: 11/16/2008 8:46:58 AM
Hi: All of a sudden yesterday, when I went in to edit my profile slightly (wording only) when it appeared I had to picture there that has been there for the last 1.5 yrs. It is a perfectly acceptable face shot. I thought perhaps it was just my computer so I have logged out and back in, even restarted to clear away any old whatever! Nothing seems to work. I had seen a POF member that I wished to greet and went ahead and did so. That party replied back to me this morning and I noticed in his reply as always that it did not attached the pictures that I had originally attached. A full body shot (again nothing weird) and a pic of my dog. I am now concerned that something has gone flaky and my images are not there or not being included when I wish them to be. To that end, I have tried each and everything listed that even remotely applied and nothing seems to be working to correct this problem. Do you have any suggestions? Should I delete what I can and reload my pictures or what? WHen I view my profile, it does not show the main face shot but it does in the little thumbnails as it does the full body shot and a pic of my dog. But when I try to send any of this with an email all it comes up with is a little square with a red dot on it. The main pic on my profile is just blank and the word "dating" is there. I don't understand what's wrong. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks, Lady G

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 121 (view)

How to Date With A Disability Posted: 9/8/2008 2:15:28 PM
As a person who has disabilities I have been told by others and at another paid site that it would be better that I don't list that I have disabilities in my profile because if you look at me I don't look like I have disabilities and I could get away with "passing" as the paid site told me. I thought about that for a bit and was confused because what was I "passing" for? A human? A monkey? A alien from the planet Risa? I am a normal 47 yr old woman that has hopes, dreams, hobbies, friends, etc... I work as much as my body allows me to and I do whatever I can get away with! LOL! But at the same time I just feel that at least for me honesty is the best policy! At this time I get around quite well but unless modern science comes up with some really great solution there will come a time when I won't be able to move around worth a darn and I guess I figure whoever I'm with would probably like to know that up front! LOL! They also might like to know if they were to drop in unexpectedly why I from time to time look like a freshly risen vampire and have the same temperment (LOL) because I have a Migraine Headache from Hell that no drug can get rid of or I all of a sudden have to back out of a date or occasion. It's not because I don't like you or wouldn't like to go to whatever function or activity - it's because the pain in my head is so bad that if a mouse farts it makes me want to cry! And that this pain does not just last an hour or two but can persist for up to 6 or 7 days! (heaven help me somedays) I try to make it clear in my profile that this is not a daily or even weekly occurence and that I like to do all sorts of things - I love a long lazy ride on the back of a Harley or an afternoon spent fishing and trolling around a lake. I think decorating every surface for Christmas is a hoot and should be done so that little kids can revel in toys and Santa and making cookies and candy and passing down age old traditions and going to service at midnight or just standing outside and drinking in the cold crisp air and looking up at the stars and being grateful for such a beautiful nite and people and loved ones to spend it with. I think that each moment we have should be enjoyed and in other words - I don't want to miss out on One Damn Thing if I can at all help it!! LOL! Sorry, I kinda trolled off the topic there - the point is I am disabled but I am not broken but so many people do not understand the difference and do not even want to try to understand. You are just immediately passed by because people don't want to be awkward or uncomfortable or inconvenienced. But I guess that's okay because in the long run they are the ones that are missing out on me and others like me. The hard part is that it can get kind of lonely sometimes. I mean, come on, I am 47 years old and like the old saying goes I got as much of a chance at getting hit by lightening than I do of finding a good man! LOL! My friends and I have discussed this and even one bf who looks like a supermodel has spent months and months without anyone to go out with. So I guess there are no guarantee's and no one said life is fair but I know for me - I will make the most of it as long as I can go and do and see and experience and laugh and cry with those I love best! To all of you out there with disabilities - don't give up - I'm not going to! We just have to be patient that there is that extraordinary person out there that can see past the few words we write on our profiles and get that glimpse of who we really are and say I can't wait to me that woman(or man)! Good Luck All and Happy Fishing! :~) Lady G

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 143 (view)

Do you trust your pet's judgement on your dates? Posted: 8/21/2008 9:27:04 PM
I definitely trust my dog's judgement! I mean think about this - dogs sense things in a completely different manner than we do. They smell differently, see differently, perceive the world differently. There are dogs that can detect cancer, know when people are going to have seizures, wake their masters up with there is danger - fire, earthquakes, storms, detect drugs, bombs, cadavers, injured persons, etc... Dogs have an ability to "sense" things that humans in many instances can not even come close to. I know in my position I am expected to judge people's character all the time as an apartment manager and many times my dog has alerted me that someone is not of the most stellar caliber and character long before I sense it or the references and background checks are done! If he won't come near someone or yaps constantly then I know something is wrong because people that have been some of the best tenants were the ones that he immediately crawled all over if they were willing participants. So I have to emphatically say YES - I trust my dog's ability to let me know if someone is not of the most stellar character! Plus that in my life and my family we have an old saying that applies to all of us: Love me - Love my Dog! LOL!

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 837 (view)

He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 6/29/2008 6:48:41 PM
There's a real easy way to lose a whole lot more weight than that! DUMP THE JERK! Sorry, not very nice but true! He either accepts your friend for who she is and how she is.....in other words all her quirks, warts, etc... or she needs to just walk away. I mean it's okay to say, "Honey, could you please remember to put the cap on the toothpaste." but still realize that if she doesn't that's part of who she is! Toothpast cap things are common courtesy ---- losing weight, shaving that precious moustache, a dog, a motorcycle, oreo's before bed, Tuesday nite poker/bowling night or..... (whatever is your personal quirk) those are part of the package that you fell in love with and it's no fair saying I won't marry you unless.........There is a difference between common courtesy things (toothpaste cap, don't eat the oreo's in bed) and changing who you are to suit someone else. If she was good enough to be with and love for the last years then she should be good enough to marry without conditions. As the old saying goes: True Love is Unconditional! Tell your friend there are plenty more "fish" in the sea! This one is a bottom feeder - they don't taste good, they eat garbage and kill off all the good things in a lake. Throw him back. Find a new spot to fish in, throw your line back in and wait for a keeper! In my home state of Minnesota, that's a nice big Walleye! LOL! They are a little elusive but really sweet to eat and a whole lot of fun to catch!

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

When to tell someone that you're chronic. Posted: 6/8/2008 8:07:43 PM
Hey there! I don't have Crohn's but I do know a little something about chronic. I have Fibromyalgia and RA and very severe Migraines. I am very up front about it - in fact it's the final paragraph in my profile. My outlook is that I haven't let these things beat me and yes they do get me down somedays but hey - everyone has bad days and some type of limitations. I also have a niece who married a really nice guy that has Crohns and he was up front about it from the first night they met and it never did anything to lessen my niece's interest in him. In fact, being with her and her knowing how he needs to eat and rest and take care of himself to stay healthy has helped him have more good days than bad in the long run. I don't know if that's cuz my niece is a great girl who understands from having both her only Auntie and her Mom who have limitations in their lives but we've never let it get us down or what. But niece and her now husband have been together for 6 years now and just had a baby. So the right girl is out there for you and you'll know when she's the right one because she won't judge or run away she'll just accept this as part of who you are. That's why I post my limitations right up front. My chronic conditions are part of who I am and I live with them and do just fine within my limits but I figure honesty is the best policy and it's right for anyone I'm dating to know because if we stay together they have to be able to accept me for who I am and how I am. That would hold true with the fact that I'm a night owl and love science fiction books, movies and my dog is my best buddy too. That's part of who I am! Best honest and straight forward - that's my advice for what it's worth. Good Luck - the right girl is out there and you'll meet her!

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 529 (view)

Sex in the woman mind after 40. Posted: 3/16/2008 6:32:16 PM
Rap: I hear ya! The ole chassis may not be quite as good looking as it was at 25 or even 35 but by God the engine sure can purr!! LOL! Now if I can just find someone that can keep it purring and then red line it a few times that would be nice! LOL! Galadriel

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 563 (view)

Would you date someone who is on welfare? Posted: 3/12/2008 9:31:26 PM
I have to answer this one. I am 46 yrs old now. I have worked from the time I was 14 yrs old. Right around the time I turned 40 I started having physical problems that got worse and worse. I was diagnosed with various medical conditions that are genetic that I thought I had escaped. Depending on the day, I can wake up and be in so much pain that it leaves me in tears and as I am allergic to aspirin and ibuprofen alot of the drugs that I could take for the these problems are not available to me as they are similar in composition to aspirin, so the Drs won't even let me try them. So, I do what I can and continue on. Yes, I am on SSDI and I also receive a small portion of a pension. I also work part-time. I live in subsidized housing in a outer tier suburb of Mpls. I hate it! I would give anything to be able to work like I use to. I was the quintessential career woman. If the job meant working 60 hours a week then that's what I did! Now if I work when I am able. But I have to look at it that I am working! I am contributing! Here's the sad part - do you know how many men will not even continue an email conversation once they find out you are on SSDI and live in subsidized housing because they think no matter what you say that you are looking for a Sugar Daddy? Way too many men! I do not want a free ride, I did not choose to become disabled, I do not expect you to buy me things, I do not expect you to pay my reduced rent, I do not expect you to pay my bills, I do not expect you to pay for my car repairs. It would be nice if you are mechanically inclined and something breaks to check it out but I will take it to my mechanic and I will pay for it. My parents taught me long ago to not be beholden to anyone. And that you need to work for what you have and that as long as it's honest work then it's good work. But it still hurts when men (and women) judge you for where you live and how you support yourself. I have never asked for any help that I did not truly need. The only help I have even asked for in the last year was when I had to have a same day surgery I had to ask my nephew to drive me because those are the rules when you have anesthesia otherwise I would have drove myself. I even made sure as I would not be able to drive for several days that I had stocked up on any groceries so I would not need to bother anyone by asking to get a ride and I even paid the neighbor girl to walk my dog so that it was not a favor. I do not receive food support (I make too much money-LOL!), I do not receive free extra medical assistance but I do pay for it. I take care of me! I do not ask anyone else to nor do I expect anyone else to. So please, before you automatically discount someone that is one "welfare" or "ssdi" please find out their circumstances and a little bit about them before you go and make a blanket statement that you would not go near anyone that is on assistance. Also please do not judge or look down on those of us who do receive some assistance in order to live and get by. The old saying about not knowing someone until you walk a mile in their shoes really is true! Peace & Good Health to All!

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

The Pres OK's Torture Posted: 3/8/2008 6:34:08 AM
Mr. Frog (? LOL!) First - thank you for your service to your country! Your sacrifices over the years are appreciated. Secondly, I can not agree more with your statements. I would imagine that most people put in the position of needing information from a kidnapper of their child would find waterboarding acceptable along with many other forms of persuasion. And if these types of persuasion are what is needed in order to prevent American citizens from being shot, tortured, blown up, blown out of buildings and vehicles, blown to the angels in airplanes then I personally say - do it! I worked for the military as a civilian for over 8 years. I have 2 nephews that have been to Iraq. One of those boys came home with 2 purple hearts and the bronze star for bravery. The HumVee was hit with an IED and while they got most of their men out of it, one was trapped and my nephew had to watch his best friend burn to death. They couldn't free him and they were taking enemy fire. Personally, if it meant that someone stuck a fire hose up someone else's nose in order to get the information that would have changed it so that all of those young men came home and that none of those young men had to forever carry with them that memory - I would say DO IT! I thank God every day that our President has stayed strong in the face of so much ignorance on what it is like to be a soldier and to carry the burden of these types of memories and events. Would it have been Candy Land wonderful that we never needed to go to Iraq? Yes, it would have. However, we had to. The one thing that most of these people do not realize is that they can choose to fight the problem over there or they can fight it here on American Soil. Personally, I say fight it THERE! Don't let it get here! Use whatever means are necessary to ensure that 9/11 NEVER happens again HERE! As for me and mine - we fight for all those who don't have the chance to have a voice - like the Iraqi women who haven't received even a basic elementary education or an Afgahnistan child who might actually like to play a game of soccer. In closing, I would like to say again - Thank you for your service and your steadfast belief in the USA.

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 375 (view)

Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type. Posted: 2/9/2008 11:31:17 PM
It is truly a double edged sword! I know from experience that it is better to be alone but at the same time no matter how many good friends you have it's really tough when you just want to share life with someone that just flat does it for you and you are looking at another weekend when everyone is at home with their spouses, sig. others, kids, etc.... and you are tired of movies, books, hobbies, even your dog and it would be nice just to have another human to talk with and do something with! Like I said - a double edged sword! For me though having the experience of marriage/divorce and a long term relationship with a sig. other and then living alone the last 2 years - I still have to vote for being alone! The one thing I always try to remember when I am having one of pity pot moments (LOL!) is that even if all my friends/family are busy and the evening and/or weekend seems long that you never know what type of opportunity will present itself the next time you go to WalMart for groceries or to work on Monday morning! Life is a journey that is to be enjoyed in all its forms and when the time is right you will meet that someone that's "your type!" LOL! Peace and Blessings to All!

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

Message Mysteriously Not There Posted: 2/4/2008 11:08:45 AM
Thank you. I am guessing that because I have a part Lady type.... Lady and the Tramp dog that it does not like a portion of the proper name of the dog. LOL! I will try re-emailing and see what happens. I also see that it **** that part of the breed's name in my original posting here. Thanks Again! :~)

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

Message Mysteriously Not There Posted: 2/3/2008 9:28:10 PM
Hi: I sent a message tonight and I am always very careful to make sure that I am not sending something that would be blocked for some reason. I mean why waste the time. I do not cut and paste, in fact I try very hard to make any message I send unique to that person. Upon completing the message and clicking to include the standard picture - just the one on my profile - I hit SEND. The system replied as always "MESSAGE SENT." Now for some reason it has not appeared in my message sent file. Does this mean it was deleted? Does this mean there was an error of some sort? I sent another message shortly after that where I was replying to a different person and that appeared in my Message Sent folder. I was just wondering if there was something that I could be missing. I did not swear, proposition anyone, use a web name, nothing. The only thing I can possibly think of is I mentioned my****poo dog - would that be considered a bad word? (LOL!) Would it be a problem if I mentioned a TV show? Any help here would be appreciated as I would like to know if I did something in error as I don't wish to repeat it and plus that now I don't know if the person I sent the message to received it or not or if I try to resend and look like a dork! LOL! Thanks for you help all! Have a great week! Sherri

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 83 (view)

Guys, feeling depressed about this site? This will help! Posted: 12/17/2007 9:52:09 AM
Come on! Tell me you aren't checking out the chassis, the engine, the paint job and if there's any bondo or dents or dings! And unfortunately many men (as you are the more visual gender) will not accept a model that has a few dings and dents that have been acquired over a lifetime of service. Too many man only want the newer show room models and don't pay attention to the fact that the Classic Models still have an engine that is running pretty strong and the tranny doesn't slip yet but the chassis isn't perfect. So please don't label us as "just browsing" in a husband store! I don't even like shopping anymore. It's like it's become some kind of warped sport. So I guess I don't fall into the "shopping" example either because I tend now to be more "male" in my shopping habits as your described them. I know what I want, I head for that when I get to the store, if there are one or two products but different brands, I may read the labels but having done my research am usually able to purchase without a lot of dithering about. Nice try but you may want to rethink your theory! Merry Christmas!

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

being judged and passing judgement Posted: 11/3/2007 8:31:54 PM
We all judge - it's just hard for people to remember that you can't always judge a book by it's cover! I know that for a lot of folks its all about looks and to extent it is for all of us because we are all looking for that one person that fits both chemistry and personality wise with us. Like one poster said - maybe you look like his ex or someone he knew that died. Maybe he didn't like your hair color. Maybe he likes tall women and you are shorter. Who knows - his door bell could've rang right then and he had to run to the door - you don't know what's happening in the mind or the life of the person on the other end of the computer. I know it can be hard especially if you've had a bad day and are hoping to find someone to chat with and maybe perk your own spirits up a bit. But try not to take it personal. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's okay. Be true to yourself and don't worry so much about what other's think.

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

whats the worst thing a partner has done Posted: 10/11/2007 12:48:43 AM
mmmm........horror stories! I'd have to say that getting together with someone you'd known for 30+ years, been childhood sweethearts with and then spending 7 years living together as adults as you watched him fall apart from alcoholism and dealing with the lies, anger, drunken rages, cheating, and finally Hitting You. And then when you finally break it off, move out, are apart for a while and he begs to come to you and does and promises the world and you believe one last time, cuz he's sober and like he was before, then leaves the next day and still calls for 3 days with I Love You's and let's get Married ........then it's 3 days of silence. When you finally get to speak to him, he tells you that he's decided being sober is too much of a hassle and you are "C" and he has someone new and he just hasn't "F'd" her yet - and that he's actually been "playing" with her for about 3 months before you even moved out. But the final clincher was - Oh BTW - I still want to be friends with you just like always! That's pretty much of the lowest of the low! (without doing something totally illegal!) Fast forward 20 months - I am happier, healthier and more content than I have been in a long time! Life is Good! And the Road Goes Ever On..............

LadyGaladriel45

Joined: 1/2/2007

Msg: 402 (view)

whats with women and harleys? Posted: 10/11/2007 12:14:16 AM
There's just something about that vibration!! But the men who ride them have that certain "magic" something too! There's a pure sensual overall vibe to being out on the back of a bike with your arms around your man and it's just the 2 of you with the open air around you. It's just kind of an overall warm sensation that's almost like sex without taking your clothes off and you can get away with it in public!

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