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 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 28 (view)
 
What is it with facebook?
Posted: 2/11/2012 7:46:40 PM
There is nothing wrong with FB.

It's all in how you use it.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Is this normal?
Posted: 2/11/2012 5:59:16 PM
It's time to stop asking him "what's going on?"

It's time to tell him that you want to take your relationship to the next level. If he doesn't want to do that you should consider cutting off the friendship. I know you have a great friendship but that will be all you have then. You will not be able to get out and meet other guys because of his jealousy so you'll be stuck with a man who seems like a great guy but only as a friend.
Is that what you want? If so, leave it alone. If not, speak up.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
family oriented?
Posted: 2/11/2012 5:50:40 PM
As someone else pointed out, it means different things to different people.

To me it would mean that I'd want to stay at home with my "family" and not be out and about all the time. To others it could mean they are very involved with their mom/dad/siblings.

You have to ask the person in question to find out what she means.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Am I Overreacting?
Posted: 2/11/2012 4:36:45 PM
He's just taking advantage of her not acknowledging your relationship. Don't blame him for her doing.

Show her the door, why would you want to stick with her? She treats you like the dirt on her shoes. Of course she claims you have nothing to worry about. You're her little lap dog.

Learn to set boundaries if you have a GF. What she did is not OK and you should have stopped the car and opened the door for her the moment she talked about drunk calling the guy.

You're the problem hun, learn to stand up for yourself.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
She needs time
Posted: 2/11/2012 3:00:10 PM
This thread is quickly running out of replies, only 21 allowed you know.

I say you don't have to block anyone from anything unless they pester you. But I would remove her as a friend, that's for sure. If she is to not be in your life, there is no need to know what she's doing or the other way around. It will only lead to drama.
Those friends you introduced her to, are they still actual friends of hers or are they just like most "friends" are on FB, virtual, imaginary friends?
If they don't care for her and are actually not real friends of her, they could remove her as well so you don't have to see what she posts through them. But that's up to them of course. It seems like many people don't really care if they are real life friends or not, they keep them as "friends" anyway for reasons that escape me. You can ask them but in the end it's their decision.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
She needs time
Posted: 2/11/2012 9:38:14 AM

But I really would like to know if we have any future so I can keep my heart open to the possibility or not.


Did all the replies you already got escape you?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Should I Terminate This Friendship ?
Posted: 2/11/2012 6:54:04 AM
I'm wondering if he's acting like this towards the other people in your friends' group or if it's only towards you?

He has problems, that's for sure. And he's the one who suffers most from it.
You have three choices when it comes to people like him.

You can walk away from it. Terminate the friendship.
You can as you said "suck it up and deal with it", which will not help him at all and which will affect you as well.
Or you can decide if you are humane enough to help him HELP HIMSELF.

If you choose the latter you should sit him down and ask him why he's behaving the way he does. Let him know that you care about him but you can't go on letting him lash out like that, tell him that you can't let him continue hurting himself like that.
The key is to gear the conversation to be about him, not what he's doing to others. He will be more likely to open up if he thinks you care about him and that you're not only scolding him for being an a**.
If you get anywhere with him and he opens up to you make sure he knows that you will support his efforts in getting help and will be there for him when he needs you but that you will NOT allow him to negatively impact your life.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Former boyfriend won't let it go
Posted: 2/11/2012 6:00:50 AM
Block his e-mail too and don't call him to ask him to leave you alone.

If he's blocked and can't get through to you it doesn't matter that he can see your profile. Don't let that bother you.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
She needs time
Posted: 2/10/2012 4:00:24 PM
Yup, that's it.

She said she thinks you both should date others. That's all that matters here. Everything else she said has not bearing. If she feels unstable, why would she want to date others?

She says she doesn't know what she's doing because it's a good excuse to give you. She's not confused at all. She knows exactly what she's doing.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Conflicted
Posted: 2/10/2012 3:56:16 PM
Stop eating meat is not the answer. If you want to make a difference you can donate money to causes that speaks to your heart. You can also donate items to local shelters. I stock up on things on my local shelters wish list and bring it over there when I have a load. They askfor newspapers, dishwashing liquid, blankets, sheets, towels etc. Look on their websites for "donations" and find out what you can contribute.

If you feel bad about animals reared for meat you can look for farms that rear their stock in humane ways. You can buy eggs from free-range chickens for example. It's more expensive but you will help keep those farms going.

I would love to be able to do more but I'm like you and can't take it. I have to stay away from it so donate is my way of doing what I can.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Am I wrong for this?
Posted: 2/10/2012 3:38:26 PM
You need to decide for yourself what is right or wrong. You obviously didn't want to do it, why do you need to ask other people if you're wrong?
You can't go through life asking other people what they think about things like this. Imagine where that will get you.
Make your own decisions and stick to them. Take responsibility for what you think.

It does not matter what others think.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Paying on my Birthday
Posted: 2/10/2012 3:34:00 PM
Who asked for the date?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
She needs time
Posted: 2/10/2012 3:30:38 PM
Yes you are being D'd around.

Don't wait, cut the cord and move on.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
She's an ex-SMOKER; any concerns?
Posted: 2/10/2012 8:30:50 AM
The most important question to ask is what brand she used to smoke....

Seriously?

You're trolling aren't you?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
should I have done this?
Posted: 2/9/2012 4:06:52 AM
All that matter here is the she told you she regretted her actions.
So why would you even consider pursuing her now?
I don't know why you ask if you should have kissed her or not. Why shouldn't you have?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Problem with my ex
Posted: 2/9/2012 4:03:27 AM
So your question is if what she posts about you is true just because she posts it?

If you think what other people say about you is true just because they say it, you're not going to get far.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How do I handle this?
Posted: 2/9/2012 3:57:00 AM
I don't know why "adding" him is your first concern. Your first concern is to touch base with him and you don't do that by sending an add request. You WRITE him and say something like what the first couple of responders said.
You add people you know and talk to, you don't add them before that. I really don't understand the obsession with that.

You've never asked a guy out before? What's that got to do with anything?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
The flip side of the 3-date rule
Posted: 2/8/2012 4:00:00 AM
Has the art of seduction been removed from the dating dynamic and I haven't got the memo. If blokes are expecting to take a woman to a pub a couple of times then automatically expect to smash the pasty then I can see why they are single,

Agreed

Or have I got it wrong and the world of Dating has become a place of empty fumblings in a pub car park after two dates.

Agreed

OP you took someone on quite a few dates and you think you blew it because you didn't "make a move" on her. I'd say if a man takes me out on multiple dates, he must be interested in me, why else would he waste his time and money?

If she eneded it with you because you didn't have sex with her, she's an idiot and I doubt she is so chances are that there are other reasons.

I have no rules and if someone I date does it's his problem. It's just stupid.

It's seems these days that people are obsessed with finding out if they are sexually compatible before they find out if they are compatible in other areas. Sexual compatibility can be worked on but the way you are is not so easy to change.
If we are looking for a long term relationship the question to ask is if we match each other in values and interests. If we don't even know that, why the heck would we have sex? What would the point be?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Should I call him or text him or not at all? Advice, please
Posted: 2/7/2012 7:36:49 PM
I think you're wrong.

Why did you text him and asked him questions like that? I too would answer the way he did.
So far you told him you appreciated his help. Well, maybe he's not too thrilled over that and thinks you're trying to get more help out of him.

He said he wants to try to get together next week. Well, text him back with a SUGGESTION and not a stupid question.

You're comparing his response to how you would respond but he's not you.
Be proactive, text him and let him know that next week would be great and "let's xxxxxxxx or xxxxxxxxx, sounds like a plan?"

If he shots you down after that you have my permission to move forward. LOL!
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Is it wrong to want a physical attraction?
Posted: 2/7/2012 3:52:45 AM
Scottie, you can't change how you feel about certain things. If you're not attracted to a person you can't do much about it.
To think it's wrong is like saying it's wrong to like a certain colour or anything else for that matter.

Some people disregard that their is no attraction and settle for reasons only they can justify. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
You should do what you think is right for you. If you're not attracted to a person, move on.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Should I call him or text him or not at all? Advice, please
Posted: 2/7/2012 3:34:23 AM

He texted me from work before he got off asking how my day was & I said it was great & I was on the road, so then he didn't text back anymore.
So he did the right thing, didn't text you since you were driving and waited for you to get back with him when you could. But you didn't hurry to reply to him when you got home, did you?

Nope, instead you:

The following day I texted him saying I appreciated his help & he texted back saying it was his pleasure.
That you appreciated his help?
You couldn't think of anything better to tell him?
Are you surprised he politely replied that it was his pleasure?

I would have done the same thing he did. I would reply politely to a text/mail who only said that my help had been appreciated. I would, just like he probably does, think that you have no further interest in me.

Since you like the guy, why didn't you tell him how much you enjoyed HIM?

Call him!
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Feelings??
Posted: 2/7/2012 3:22:02 AM
Your ex was the kind of woman who wants an amount of drama in her life. You didn't bring any.
Don't for a moment think that's how all women are. What should matter is what you say you think should matter but alas, it's not the case all the time.
Your ex is probably going to end up with a a-hole and then call you and cry over it even though it's what she wants.

You will find a woman who is happy with what you have to offer. Don't change who you are.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Will I be getting played by this girl?
Posted: 2/6/2012 6:19:40 PM
Do you really want to get close to a person like her? She is obviously a princess and is proud of it. If that's what you like, go for it. You will soon be the object of her demands.
I guess you don't care about common decency?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Should I stay, or should I leave?
Posted: 2/6/2012 6:13:30 PM
I only skimmed through it but I say it's too much FB going on in your life. Too much texting and talking and constantly in touch.
In my opinion, FB is to keep in touch with your friends and family, not to make new male aquaintances when you already have a BF. The kind of messages you describe those guys leave are disrespectful towards you. She might think it's no big deal but if you think about it; how would she react if you're out in real life and a woman sitting next to you at a restaurant started flirting with you? It's really the same idea.
I say leave her and find yourself a woman who is ready to commit to you and get rid of all the FB "friends". The same goes for you. When you're taken, you don't flirt with others, you don't make new "friends" of the opposite sex.
FB is not the evil here, it's people who just can't seem to live without constant gratification from people they sometimes don't even know.
If she really have male friends, they should become your friends to and they shouldn't be texting her. Don't those males have any male friends they can chit-chat with? Why do they have to chit-chat with a woman who's taken?
Ask her how she would like it if you had a female friend in your home every night chit-chatting with you. On second thought, don't. Just leave her. Sorry but she needs validation from other guys. It doesn't matter how much she protests about that it's you she goes to see.

It's not insecurity you feel. It's that nagging feeling that she is not completely devoting herself to you. Don't let her do what she want and brush your feelings away with that you're insecure.
Now, if she had a long time male friend that's another story but she should still not pay him much time. It's one thing to stay in touch now and then but this texting to no end has no justification.
 yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Vday flowers to workplace
Posted: 2/6/2012 3:04:40 PM
Don't do it. You will have plenty of opportunities to send flowers once you get to know her better and IF you hit it off.
Right now she might think you're comming on to strong and back off. You have everything to lose if you send even one rose but nothing to lose if you send none.
 yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Attractive Girl on Bus
Posted: 2/6/2012 3:01:31 PM
You had chatted with her and the next time you saw her you couldn't even muster up a "Hello! How are you?"?

Next time you see her, say hello and tell her you're sorry about last time you saw her but you were in deep thoughts and didn't realize she had gone by you.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Every chat starts with sex talk...WHY??
Posted: 2/6/2012 10:21:36 AM
I see you've disabled the chat and that's good. Don't think that the nature of the chat has anything to do with the type of photos you've posted or anything else in your profile. Most men who click on the chat button hasn't even looked at your profile. They just see a pretty face and click on the request.
I use the chat feature only with those I've already established that I'm interested in talking with from having exchanged a few mails. I don't really understand why people want to chat without even knowing if they like the person or not or if they are even a match.

Unfortunately you're beating a dead horse if you're going to try to figure out why they can't control themselves. It will do you no good, trust me.

If I were you, I'd activate the filter that says that if a person has messaged anyone for intimate encounter they can't write you. I bet that most of the ones who have contacted you so far wouldn't have passed that filter.
Other than that, just ignore them or write them back and tell them to go F themselves.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Misunderstanding?
Posted: 2/6/2012 4:17:38 AM
Good for you young man!

I don't know why people are so quick to post about it being a booty call. Pent up sexual frustrations? Wishful thinking? A skewd outlook? Envy? Sex is the only thing on their minds?
I think it's dispicable that it's the first thing that comes to mind for so many. I find it extremely disturbing when young women agree that it was a booty call.
Even though none of us know the young woman in question, I find it odd that so many would label her as easy. I find it equally odd that so many think that someone who has never had sex with you before all of a sudden would call you up for a booty call. It would be a first experience and that certainly does not equal a booty call.

How common is it that people call up friends/aquintances they've never had sex with before and expect a booty call?

As far as it being midnight and what else would she call him over for? They are students and young and don't necessarily live by the clock the way others do. I remember many late night gatherings among friends or hanging out in just one persons place way after midnight or going there late for no other reason than hanging out.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
A question of ethics ...
Posted: 2/6/2012 3:47:34 AM
A few people say to omit the job. I say not to do that. Normally you're supposed to list your last X amounts of job and if you omit it, you are lying. You also normally sign the application stating that you're aware that misrepresenting yourself can lead to termination.
Even if nobody will find out that you ever worked there (but don't count on it), you'd have to explain for the lapse in employment and how would you explain that without lying?
There are no rules for not including a job on an resume becuse it only lasted a certain amount of time as your friend said.

Lying does not co-exist with ethics. If we want to lead an ethical life we can't lie randomly just because it serves our purposes.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
A question of ethics ...
Posted: 2/5/2012 6:55:50 PM
You were at the job you just left for four years and the guy retired. That would tell any prospective employer all they need to know about you and how you perform your duties.
I'm with you on the not comfortable about lying so I'd list the other job and simply explain what happend, should it be asked.
I'd say something like "My employer had nothing negative to say about the way I performed my duties but it was the kind of working environment where your personality plays a vital role and ours simply didn't mesh. In the end, the management decided that I was not the right person for the job and let me go. I'm sure they will vouch for my work performance though, should you ask them about it."
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
A problem I'm running into.
Posted: 2/5/2012 6:15:11 PM
It's a matter of getting noticed by many rather than have a quality conversation with a few.
The women who respond to you that way are probably responding the same way to 20 others and it's just because they enjoy seeing the amount of mail they have in their inbox.
Just forget about them, they are not interested in you, their only interest is the numbers.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Why guys get upset that you are moving on?
Posted: 2/5/2012 4:33:25 PM
It's got to be a troll post.
Or are some people just incapable of figuring things out for themselves?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Told me to get rid of my pets
Posted: 2/5/2012 11:40:53 AM
Of course you're not doomed to fail dating.

Taking care of an animal is a committment that should not be broken unless there are circumstances that would make it impossible to care for them.

What if you were to "get rid" of them and two weeks later he dumps you? How would that make you feel? Not good I venture to guess. He has good qualities but so does many men. Obviously one of this ones good qualities is not respect for a life.

I'd never get rid of my cat in favour for a man. Never.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Are you an only-child OR a parent of an only-child? Feedback wanted.
Posted: 2/4/2012 5:23:54 PM
I have one sister, might as well have been an only child. Two children doesn't automatically creates harmony.
I always envied my friends who had siblings. I envied the comraderie. I still do.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Misunderstanding?
Posted: 2/4/2012 6:36:29 AM
Amazing that booty calls is the first thing on many peoples minds. No wonder new generations grow up thinking that it's all girls are good for and that it's all an invitation means.
When I was young you invited someone over to hang out to get to know each other, nothing more.

OP, I'm guessing she wanted to have your company and maybe she just didn't know what to say when you asked what she wanted to do.
Think about it, how long does it take to do the dishes? A couple of minutes. Surely she didn't want to invite you for a few minutes alone. She might or might not have done the dishes and then come join you to watch TV and you most likely would have started a conversation and gotten to know each other.

I say you missed out on a chance to get to know her better. Now she might think you're not interested so return the invitation or ask her if hers still stand. That is, if you're interested in getting to know her better.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Advice on dating someone older.
Posted: 2/3/2012 6:44:06 PM
Your profile is much better now. You will probably still get mail from those you don't wish to get it from but alas, that's how it is. It happens to all of us so don't let it bother you. Just delete them and don't give it any more thought.

Good luck!
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Advice on dating someone older.
Posted: 2/3/2012 5:54:00 PM
Don't talk about simple minds and how stupid people are and that you don't want to hear from so and so and so...just talk about who YOU are and why you're looking for someone older. Talk about your achievements with humility and talk about what you don't like without judgement of others like of whatever it is.
Set your age filter to exclude those of an age you don't wish to speak to.
Travel doesn't only mean outside of America, you can travel within your own country.
Remove the shirtless pic.
WomAn is singular, WomEn is plural.
Why shouldn't you explain who Frankie boy is? Maybe you can turn someone onto his music. It's not necessarily lack of taste to not have heard about him. It could be instant appreciation for someone who have missed out.

Maturity is to accept that others are different, not to put them down for being different.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Advice on dating someone older.
Posted: 2/3/2012 5:40:15 PM
A profile review would be a start and you need one if you want to attract a more mature crowd. There are several things in your profile that would turn a mature woman off.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Friend being controlled by girlfriend.
Posted: 2/3/2012 4:30:24 PM
OP, take what you think is good advice from the replies you got. You don't have to defend yourself to anyone. You asked a question and people have replied. Leave it at that. You don't owe anyone any more explanations.

Myself I'd love to hear how things turn out. I will track this thread and hope for updates from you in the future.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 22 (view)
 
french kissing
Posted: 2/3/2012 3:05:32 PM
To me french kissing is part of a sexual connection so no, I don't think it's proper as a first kiss.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Ladies: Playful sexy talk ok in the early going?
Posted: 2/3/2012 3:03:14 PM
There are so many other things to joke about and talk about when you're trying to get to know someone. I certainly don't appreciate it.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Sending flowers to work?
Posted: 2/3/2012 5:45:16 AM
IF sending her flowers to work WILL get her in trouble, why are you even contemplating it?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 45 (view)
 
quickly becomming exclusive...
Posted: 2/3/2012 5:20:16 AM
It seems the issue would not lie in exclusiveness or not. I see nothing wrong with exclusiveness when you are already bonding on a carnal level and spending nights in his house. At that point it should, in my mind, be exclusiveness.

It seems like your problem is that you don't know if he's the one for you since you have all these issues already.
I don't know why you don't want to be exclusive. Do you want to have the freedom to date others but keep him on the back burner? You want to see others to find out if they are better than him and if they are, you'll cut him lose and if they are not you'll live with his issues? That's not really fair to him.

You already know what he's like. At our age it's difficult to simply stop habits you have because someone wants you to. At our age there are many habits that we have to learn how to put up with. If we can't do that, the person is not for us.

You seem to object to his whole lifestyle so I really don't know why you say you don't want to lose him.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How important are common interests?
Posted: 2/2/2012 5:15:51 PM
It depends on at what level you want to share your interests with him and him with you. If you have a major interest that you might already be sharing with friends but still can find common ground with him and him with you, it should be okay.
But if you want him to share yours with you and him his with you and neither of you can't do that, then it most likely won't work.

If he likes hiking he might already have hiking buddies that he would prefer to keep hiking with, you don't always have to share everything with each other.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Confused: Why does my ex-bf want to get together when he has a gf?!?
Posted: 2/2/2012 3:46:07 AM
My advice:

Ask HIM.

OT: I really don't understand why people write these type of questions when the answer is to ask the person it involves. Why is that obvious answer so difficult to arrive at for so many?
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
He Wasn't Ready for a Relationship. I Ended it... Right Decision?
Posted: 2/1/2012 4:53:08 PM
I don't know what you mean with "waited it out for him to be ready". How would you wait it out? Refrain from seeing other guys? Put your life on hold until he's ready for a relationship with someone that might not even be you at that time?
If that's what you mean I say that you should do that if that's what you want. If you don't want to put your life on hold for something that might never be, you shouldn't.

Should you keep friendly lines open? Of course you should. There is no need to be un-friendly.
Myself I wouldn't actively seek his company or talk/message him. If I happened to see him somewhere I'd be friendly of course but I don't see that hanging out with him would do any good.

Move on with your life and cut contact with him. Be friendly but don't be a friend. The future will tell if it was meant to be.
By clinging to the hopes of him you are undermining yourself and stopping yourself from being open to other possibilities, and one of those possibilities might turn out to be the right match.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Date within my league
Posted: 2/1/2012 2:22:42 PM
A drunk toothless fisherman is not in my league.
A person who is less intellectual than I am is not in my league, nor am I to a person whos intellect surpases mine and the topic of conversations are above my head.
A man who is content with less than I am as far as activities goes is not in my league.
A man who doesn't take care of his body is not in my league.

It's not necessarily a put down when someone says it but it's usually construed that way.
It's simply a way to let someone know right off the bat that they don't stand a chance and to back off.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 21 (view)
 
stealth view mode
Posted: 2/1/2012 12:32:18 PM
The guy will know I like his profile because I will write him.

Guys don't know that we like their profiles until we write them and telling them. Viewing a profile is NOT the same as liking it.

Being in stealth mode weed out all the unwanted mail you get from just viewing profiles.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 45 (view)
 
WOW Date
Posted: 2/1/2012 12:09:59 PM

You cannot compete with women 15 to 20 years younger.
What does that have to do with anything?


If this man you just met is the same age as you, and is in fact “gorgeous”, the kind of man who can make a woman feel “beyond thrilled”, then he can easily date women 10, 15, or even 20 years younger.
What does that have to do with anything?


if you are chasing after the “gorgeous” guys, you need to expect this kind of behavior.
Who said she is chasing after gorgeous guys?

Nothing you said is applicable to her situation.
 Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
stealth view mode
Posted: 2/1/2012 12:00:06 PM

what im saying is if your in stealth view mode and you view a guys profile and you are attracted to him and whatnot your basically screwing yourself over by being in stealth view mode unless you turn it off then review the profile or initiate conversation.
You don't make sense at all.
How does anyone screw themselves by being in stealth mode? I don't get it.
They only way I'd "screw" myself would be that I wouldn't receive tons of mail from men I'm not intersted in.....

I'm not sure if what you're trying to get to is that if a man doesn't know that you looked he won't know to write you. If you look at a profile and you're not interested you don't want him to write. If you are interested you write them. It's as simple as that.
 
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