But the most compelling data of all is a recent report I read ( cant remmebr where but I will find it for the skeptics if need be ) that clearly shows thet White Collar Professionals, Executives ( male or female ). who are succesful at their careers do NOT make the best, or even near the best, husbands, wives or mates.

Nothing sad in my eyes about remembering one of the greatest episodes of the original Star Trek series.

The question not answered is not the requirement, its the
why would someone get offended by a Physical requirement, when they based their own questionaire on physical requirements?

Unfortunately, the libido-challenging 30 pounds is quite likely to turn into a libido-killing 60 or 90 or 120 pounds if nothing is said. So, here we have two people who sincerely like and/or love one another playing stupid tippy-toes games as they slowly, sadly slide away from passion. Who's the winner here? Neither.

I loved the dog...it was the most gentle kind sweet pet and loved me....but I just could not deal with all that extra work....I do realize a lot of people are big animal lovers , so im sure i will get flamed with this post

bunch of you would pick a pet sleeping in a bed over a potential "love of a lifetime?" That's rich....nice priorities...

Allowing dogs: to sleep in your bed, on furniture, giving them birthday parties, coloring their fur, polishing their nails etc., satisfies a human urge, or need, and does not make the animal healthier or happier.

It seems many people don't value humans as much as they value animals. I'm all for seeing the beauty in all species, but I think you've got to hold a special place in your life for other people, particularly a SO.

I have a pet, and he smells like a pet, he has his own bed outside where pets should be

Pets deserve to be treated like pets, and its unhealthy to use your pet as an emotional crutch and to subject others to it or expect them to live with it....

Pets smell no matter how much you bathe them

Thanks to all those who responded! In my case, it was a matter of "coming out of my shell" as some of my friends put it. I didn't start seriously dating until a few years ago. I'm in a much better position in terms of my profession, finances, and maturity to get involved in a serious relationship. I know that I'm not commitment-phobic and my last two GFs can attest to that.

Does the person in question not automatically become even sexier as your emotional attachment develops?....to me it does !!!!!!

AFTER you have made your selection and committment to your partner,that is when compromise becomes important.Peoples unwillingness to compromise after establishing a relationship is ,to me,one of the main causes of divorce.You are not always going to get your way in a relationship.

once i realized what my problems were i had a hell of a time finding people to blame them on.i found them eventually though,i call them family and friends.lol.

for me, yes. absolutely. i am much more attracted to personality, intellectual passion, and intensity then i am to looks, money, or other such silly things. i love geeky guys who are good at math! lol! i think it is very sexy! but i do like the creative types too, as long as they aren't dysfunctional and screwed up. for me, yes, the way to my heart IS through my mind...

Apparently you missed the message I was trying to send.
Even your most favorite politician will compromise to get some of what they want and then wait for their next opportunity to work toward their goals.It is how our political system works.

I don't care if my partners opinions on politics or religion differ from mine,as long as my partner respects my opinions,then we are cool.

You're not alone, OP... I'm the same way. I don't hate talking on the phone, and will do so if the other person is really gung ho about it. But my preference is to do a reasonable amount of emailing - at least enough to get a sense of whether you even WANT to meet this person. If the answer is "yes", then I'm comfortable going straight to the cup of coffee (or whatever). I rarely talk on the phone even with my close friends. I guess I'm just not a "phone person".

At some point I realized, that on a first date, it's a generic, almost empty gesture; you don't know the girl well enough to know if it's meaningful. Besides, there are plenty of other ways to impress a date with the idea that you're romantic and a gentleman.

True if you don't have a yard! But then I think it's a tad cruel to have a pet cooped up in an apartment. If you're fortunate to have a yard, it's not going to be cruel and unusual punishment to leave them outside.

Most dog trainers will also advise you against allowing your pet on the furniture and in the bed.

Sounds like a lot of fun. I've never done any of that. Never had to.

But don't judge me because my choices on how I train them are different from yours.

I agree. I had a friend that let her golden lab sleep in bed with her and remember watching as she hand swept the sand, hair and god knows what off one day before re-making it. Dogs don't belong on the bed.

That is the point, there are two types of pet owners, 1) people who loves their pets and treats them well and 2) the obsessive pet owners that think pets are people

Ive even read about people who would prefer their pets over human contact, tell me that's not plain nuts

I have a problem with people who place their pets above a human being, treating them like equals, I remember having a girlfriend in the past who would let her dog sleep in the same bed as us and it would upset rover if he didn't sleep there, im thinking what is the dog going to do, pack a bag and leave home because some a$$hole sleeping in the same bed as her dog mommy? good Lord.