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 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Too Blunt? Not Blunt Enough? Please Help!
Posted: 12/23/2012 11:17:12 PM
Okay so mostly I was just getting guys messaging me who wanted a quick hook up. So I changed my profile some thinking it was maybe sending a message I was not intending. Could someone look at my new profile and tell me. Am I clear enough about what I want do I come off as too ****y too vague, too blunt?
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Should I be upfront about my health problems right away?
Posted: 12/1/2012 8:59:04 PM
I have a chronic pain condition that I have had for over five years now. I get horrible pain in my abdomen sometimes just for a few days other times for months on end, and it interferes with my life including dating. I haven’t been open with the guys I’ve dated about this condition as I don’t want to scare them off by disclosing an intensive and chronic medical problem right away. However, when I’ve canceled a date because I’m in a lot of pain the guys are seeming to think that I’m just trying to break it to them easy that I’m not really interested. Should I be upfront about my health problems right away?
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Lack of sexual knowledge
Posted: 10/21/2012 10:07:24 PM
Everyone has given me a lot to think about and I have thought about it over the last few days and realized that my issues are probably deeper than just lack of sexual experience. There is definitely a major fear of rejection and I think before I move on to trying to have sex I need to figure out where that fear comes from or I don’t think I will be able to have fun or meaningful sex. Thank you ever one for your thoughts if you have any more I would like to hear them.
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Lack of sexual knowledge
Posted: 10/21/2012 3:27:35 AM
Thank you everyone for your advice most of it seem pretty good even if some of you were a bit rude about it. I think many of your thoughts are valid and I really should think about them. Maybe I am using my inexspiriance to cover for anxity about something else.
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Lack of sexual knowledge
Posted: 10/18/2012 1:44:24 AM
mithrilmoon, Thank you for your post it was very interesting, and I hadn’t really thought about things in those terms before. What I meant however by that I have let some guys that might have been good for me go is not that they drifted away from me, but when things moved to a point where I thought that sex was going to be the next step I have pushed them away making excuses why I can’t see them anymore until they stop coming around, because I seem to have such an irrational fear that when we get to the sex part and they realize I have no real experience they will run away like they are on fire so my emotional brain says its just easier to push them away before they run away. Honestly I have thought about getting therapy for this issue, but have shyed away from the idea. I have a lot of knowledge and I know that I have every right to have a fulfilling sexual life whatever that means for me, yet knowing it and being able to peruse it seem to be two different things, and my fear in seeing a shrink for my issues is that I’m going to be told that what I want and what I need are dysfunctional. I know it sounds crazy but as yet it is an issue I cannot quite overcome.
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Lack of sexual knowledge
Posted: 10/17/2012 11:54:25 PM
IgorFrankensteen, I’ve done the whole book thing I have the book knowledge probably enough to get a Masters or PH.D in sexuality, but I have very little practical knowledge. The two partners I have had were not very adventures or skilled I don’t think. It was kind of like in out and thank you.
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Lack of sexual knowledge
Posted: 10/17/2012 11:09:00 PM
Yes that was a typo thank you.
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Lack of sexual knowledge
Posted: 10/17/2012 10:50:28 PM
I have a question that I hope someone might be able to help me with. I’m only about a year shy of thirty and I have only had two sexual partners, as I’m getting older my lack of experience in sex has made me more and more nervous to commit to relationships because I’m afraid to admit that in the sex department I kind of clueless and I think I’ve let some guys go that could have been good for me just because I was afraid and embraced to admit that I have such little sexual experience at almost thirty. Are my worries unfounded and my own foolishness or are guys really turned off by a lack of sexual experience once you get closer to your thirties?
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Emotionally Unavailable = Scared
Posted: 10/17/2012 10:38:27 PM
I agree there is fear especially if you’ve been hurt before it makes it hard to trust in a good thing, and sometimes that fear will cost you what might have been a good relationship if you could have only opened up. I think its something a lot of people deal with especially in today’s world where it seems everyone is looking for the next best thing in technology and dating it seems. I think there is also a lot of storytelling that people do on these dating sites to try and get people to like them and when you meet for real there is a bit of a letdown and you wonder about anyone’s honesty. And I think this all builds into fear and miss trust.
 Finding_Something_New
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Why do people hate their exes?
Posted: 10/17/2012 10:26:59 PM
I agree with many of the other posts on here. You don’t always hate your exs. I have one that I would dance on his grave if he would die tomorrow, but I have another that I am still friends with; I am also friends with his current girlfriend. I think it depends on how the relationship ends and how healthy it was to begin with.
 Finding_Myself
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Should I confess to cheating in the first 2 weeks of relationship?
Posted: 10/7/2012 10:51:21 PM
Yes I think you should tell him where I think two weeks is a little soon to make a exclusive commitment you did agree and then went back on your word. I think you need to be honest with him about what you did and why you did it, but also the way you feel now. As for telling him who you slept with I don’t know. If you tell him it was your roommate it might cause jealousy and trust issues rightly or wrongly.
 Finding_Myself
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Females and bored behavior during sex.
Posted: 2/26/2012 12:13:20 AM
The couple of times where it happened to me that I was so board with the sex that I wasn't into it at all I was doing character constriction in my head for a story I was writing
 Finding_Myself
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Is Sex Taboo?
Posted: 2/25/2012 11:44:20 PM
Why is it sex seems to be such a taboo subject in the US? Why does it seem that most people are lacking in sexual communication, that we cannot tell our lovers about what we really want or need? Is it because of our Puritan roots are we just unable to get away from an idea that sex is a sin or dirty some how? Or maybe I’m just hanging around the wrong kind of people. What do you think?
 Finding_Myself
Joined: 1/4/2007
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How many women fantasize watching their man with another man?
Posted: 2/25/2012 11:29:10 PM
I have to admit that the idea of seeing my man with another man does intrigue me some. I’ve thought about it, but I would have to be involved it what was going on too, more than just being a spectator.
 Finding_Myself
Joined: 1/4/2007
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How do you feel about mfm and/or ffm threesomes?
Posted: 2/25/2012 11:17:37 PM
I don't really see it as a big thing as long as everyone is into it and consenting adults. I think that we limit ourselves by creating what is normal or for the religous people moral behavior. I would be willing to be involved in a M/F/M relationship and not a F/M/F one just because I do not feel sexual attraction to women. If a guy I was dating wanted to try a F/M/F threesome with other women. I don't know that I would give my consent, but I would be open to talking about it.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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POF horror story
Posted: 1/20/2012 7:24:03 PM
It might sound stupid, but be honest. Tell her exactly what you said here. That you like her, but you’re not looking for serious after just two weeks, that you need space, but that you are willing to help her out. If she can’t understand that is her problem not yours and that does not mean that you’re not being a gentleman.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Taking your own advice
Posted: 1/20/2012 6:47:46 PM
MsMicki, you maybe be right but regardless of if it's hypocritical or not it is good advice according to the people who have asked for it. It works for them. Which is also part of the problem if I go by what people have told me the things I have told them have been helpful they have worked so I shouldn't be afraid to do them myself but I am.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Taking your own advice
Posted: 1/20/2012 6:43:17 PM
I see that several people have voted to delete this thread and I'm sorry if I did not put it in the right forum, but I am not just attention seeking it is a ligament concern for me and I would like honest thoughts on this matter.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Can a sex addicted girlfriend be faithful ?
Posted: 1/20/2012 5:47:48 PM
I think that you are the only one who can decide that. Do you consider what she is doing online okay or do you feel like she is being unfaithful. Every person has their own definition of cheating; everyone has their own thoughts about what they will except in a relationship. If what she is doing is making you uncomfortable or unhappy tell her. Tell her that you’re living together and you were under the impression that you were exclusive and for you that also means no sex talk with other men online. If she can't live by that I'd say find someone else.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Taking your own advice
Posted: 1/20/2012 5:40:54 PM
K, so I am great at giving other people advice on relationships and sex. Being supportive of their thoughts and needs, but I have a serious problem when it comes to taking my own advice. I have a really hard time connecting with men in a relationship way or a sexual way even when I want to even when I know I’ve told others a 1,000 times that it is okay to take what you need or want in a relationship as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. The same with sexual needs or turn ons as long as they don’t hurt someone else go for it. But I can’t take this advice for myself. I always think that that if I open up if I tell someone what I need or want sexually or in a relationship that they will think I’m a freak or crazy and will run for the hills. I know in part that this is an anxiety issue but as hard as I’ve tried I’ve never been able to quite overcome it. Has anyone else ever had this problem how did you overcome it? Does anyone have suggestions for me other then therapy which I have done and it has not worked for this issue.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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is it ok to be a virgin at 23?
Posted: 1/20/2012 5:28:10 PM
It’s okay if you are okay with it. If you don't mind that you are a virgin than it fine everyone has their own time line for stuff like that. If you do mind though than maybe it’s something you should think about. Why are you still a virgin? Do you want to be having sex and if so what's stopping you and how do you overcome it?
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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open/dating/polyamory relationships
Posted: 1/20/2012 5:17:52 PM
I think it's to each their own. I think some people are monogamous people and some people are not. I don't think that it is impossible to love more than one person at a time. I just think that if you are in a relationship where you are seeing more than one person make sure that is known up front. Make sure that all parties involved know that they are not the only one that there is another or the potential for others. If they are cool with it and its not hurting anyone why not.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Just Me...Or are men becoming more Passive?
Posted: 1/8/2012 1:08:39 AM
[I can see how a girl in the OP's position might be afraid of getting hurt by a guy like that. When you have feelings for someone, it's unsettling to see signs they might not feel as much for you. Maybe that's what she's getting at when she says it "feels like they're just not into it." When you can't get a very good sense of what your partner really feels about anything, it's hard to know how much they've got invested in you.

I'm careful not to let myself get upset about slights when I'm first getting to know a woman. Better just to ignore it. But with your squeeze, you should be able to say what you like or don't like. A little disagreement with someone you're crazy about isn't the end of the world. A few minutes later, you may be kissing.

It's also not very romantic for a guy to act like the OP's describing. If the girl's always the one making plans, how interested can he be, and where does she get the feeling of really being desired? And no, it's not all guys who do that--just the lame ones. But I'm afraid the girls who stay with them can only expect more of the same, because they're not demanding anything better.]

Thank you matchlight it's nice to see that someone gets it. It’s nice and polite to do things you don't like for someone else from time to time. But when you’re the one directing the relationship 110% of the time its lonely might as well be single.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Just Me...Or are men becoming more Passive?
Posted: 1/8/2012 12:51:20 AM
{Be careful what you ask for. If you want a guy to always have his own thoughts and ideas--and not just go along with what you want--then you may inevitably be forced to recognize how very dissimilar the two of you actually are, which can set off all sorts of negative thought processes in a woman's weird little head.}

Wearied where I will give it to you that sometime women way over think things and turn them into a bigger deal then they are, I would rather have a guy flying his true colors telling me what he thinks being who he is and finding that we have nothing in common and going our own ways then being the curse director of the relationship till I get tired of it and say "I think we should just be friends." I like knowing who people are good bad or indifferent if we get along great if not that’s okay too.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Just Me...Or are men becoming more Passive?
Posted: 1/8/2012 12:41:39 AM
{Do you want Mr.suck it now, wheres my dinner woman!}

Lol not quite that extreme Maffers. Just "Hay this is what I want to do tonight are you up for it?" Instead of always saying "What do you want to do." Hell sometimes I get the feeling that I could suggest that we stand by to side of the road and sing coombia to the oncoming traffic and the guy would be like "Okay honey whatever you want." I know there has to be guys out there who think for themselves and are not just looking for the approvable of their partner no matter what. I'm just not finding it and am wondering why. I find it very dull and frustrating when people agree with me all the time especially when I know they don’t really agree with me they just don’t want to say that might turn me away.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Just Me...Or are men becoming more Passive?
Posted: 1/6/2012 10:54:13 PM
I don't necessarily want a guy who will stand up for my honor I can do that fine on my own. I just don't want to be controlling and directing everything in the relationship. I want him to tell me if he's mad at me, hell if I've done something stupid or ****y yell at me or at least tell me so instead of just saying “oh well that's okay.” Or him to make the plans instead of me always doing it and him just saying “yeah that's fine,” even when Its something he does not like. It’s one thing to occasionally let things go or to do something you don’t necessarily care for to make someone else happy. But I seem to be running into men who give into me all the time and strangely enough it annoys the hell out of me. Maybe I’m just nuts…lol
 Finding_something_new
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Just Me...Or are men becoming more Passive?
Posted: 1/6/2012 10:36:36 PM
Okay so I’m wondering if it is just me and the kind of men I attract or are guys in today’s world becoming more passive or maybe I’m expecting too much. Now I’m not saying I want someone who will always want to fight with me, but I do want someone who thinks for himself and doesn’t just agree with me to agree with me or stay in my good graces, but I seem to keep running into guys who fall into that camp. I feel like I am running the whole relationship and I don’t like that. I’m always the one deciding what movie to go to where to eat at if we’ll go out or stay in. They agree with most of the things I say, I know it seems kind of small and petty but I mean it just feels like they’re just not into it. When I ask what do you want to do I just get “whatever you would like” as the reply, which is okay occasionally but not all the time. I don’t know exactly how to describe it but it almost feels like I’m in a relationship with a programmable robot and maybe that’s what some women want but I want someone who has thoughts and ideas of their own. Do I just have too high expectation of what a relationship should be like, or are guys just becoming so passive in the modern dating world that they really don’t care and will do whatever the woman wants?
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Porn And Unrealistic Expectations
Posted: 12/21/2011 10:14:00 PM
I think that if one watches a lot of porn and are not engaging in any sexual relationships at all except for with their hands might develop unrealistic expectations of what women should do or will do in a sexual relationship, however I don't think that the act of watching porn on occasion gives one unrealistic expectations. Depending on what kind it is it may even help spice up a relationship or get them out of a rut, prompting them to ask questions or voice needs they might not have otherwise. This is one of those touchy subjects that everyone will have a different opinion on.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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privacy boundaries?
Posted: 12/21/2011 10:01:45 PM
I think that you are justified in your feelings. She sould have asked you before looking at the letters just because you share a house does not make everything far game. Nor should you have to hide things so that she does not find them. She should respect your privacy and you hers. At least that's how I think a relationship should work. They thought anyway is that to make a relationship work you have to trust each other until or unless you have been presented with a good reason not too.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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How should you handle religious differences?
Posted: 12/21/2011 9:50:04 PM
It is only my opinion but I think someone should figure out how that will go before marrying and having children. There is nothing wrong with people in a relationship/marriage having different religious beliefs, but weather you believe in what they believe or not, to make a relationship work long term I think you have to respect what they believe. As for raising kids. The question would be even though you're not sure if god exists or doesn't would you be alright with the children going to church and learning about god in the way she sees god, and would she be alright with you expressing your own beliefs to the children. I don't think there is an easy answer, but I think it would defiantly be something that needed to be discussed completely with all the possible ramifications and out comes.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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does mr.right exist
Posted: 12/21/2011 9:39:17 PM
I don't think Mr. Right exists in the way we are socialized to believe. From the youngest of ages we are socialized to believe that one day we will find the perfect man the one who will complete us and make us happy. That is never going to happen no man can make you happy if you are not happy with you. If you are happy with you I think you will someday find a man you can be happy with. I would hesitate to say Mr. Right because all people are flawed, but someone whose good points over shadow the maybe not so good ones and all and all you enjoy each others company without feeling the need to FIX or change each other.
 Finding_something_new
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Is this a sick joke?
Posted: 12/21/2011 9:28:21 PM
I think you’re in a tough spot. She seems to have decided to move on and put you in the friend’s zone whatever her reasons, and if it has been that way for the last year it is not likely she is going to change her mind. So you need to decide if you are ready to move on and just be friend or if you need to spend some time away from her so you can get yourself in the right head space to know and understand that the romantic part of the relationship is done with. It is alright if you need to tell her that you just cannot talk to her or spend time with her for awhile.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Not looking in the right places
Posted: 12/20/2011 8:16:39 PM
I agree with you I hear that a lot too. Or the old, "It will happen when you least expect it." Or "I know this great guy,” then they try to fix you up with someone they know that they think you'll just get along famously with. I wish it was that simple and you could get a 60 day warranty. If the relationship goes to crap you get a refund on all the time or energy spent trying to make it work lol.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Weird kind of advice
Posted: 12/20/2011 8:00:28 PM
I agree many of the other posts. Giving your sister a place to stay for awhile is one thing. However, you should not be required to allow her bf to say too. I don't know him so I can't say what kind of person he is, but from the information you gave I would say he is being a freeloader trying to see what he can get for free. I could see losing one maybe even two jobs in succession and it having more to do with the boss or the company then the guy, but continuously being let go or quitting after 3 days over 9 mo. has to be something about him. And the fact that with all this going on he is wanting to get a playstation 3, I'm sure your sister could find better. As for your question though, I would say let your sister know that he is not welcome other then maybe to come and socialize on occasion, but not to spend the night. If she chooses to leave as well that is her choice.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Should I tell ex I'm pregnant?
Posted: 12/17/2011 10:13:23 PM
You're not in an easy position. If he does not already know then you don't have to tell him and would not have to deal with the more negative aspects of raising a child with a man you are not in a relationship with. However, like you said every child has a right to know their father even if he is not perfect. I would say that unless you feel like your or the child's safety either physically or mentally is at risk from this man he does have the right to have a part in his child's life. However, in the end no one’s thoughts matter but your own.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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getting in someones car
Posted: 12/17/2011 10:02:09 PM
I don't think it would necessarily mean there was anything wrong with her other then the fact that she is a bit too naive. I mean it sucks to be suspicious all the time that some guy might hurt you, but it happens every day all around the world so women need to be careful and vigilant about their safety. So no I would not say that she would have anything wrong with her for being compatible in a relationship necessarily, but someone who is naive enough to get into a car with someone they just met might find themselves in a dangerous place someday. However the sad part is that guarding against being alone with strangers won't necessarily keep a woman safe either. It’s a grim view but also a realilistic one also.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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raped or not ?
Posted: 12/17/2011 12:44:15 AM
In my book this is rape. A 12 year old girl does not have the maturity to give consent to have sex with a 24 year old man. Even if she has been sexual with other boys her own age a 24 year old man has got no business doing anything sexual at all with a 12 year old, he is old enough to know it is wrong. It is also still rape if she did not say no or try and push him away. He is 24 she is 12 there is a clear difference in power dynamic and if he used alcohol and drugs to get compliance that is even worse. Did she make a bad choice to hang out with someone so much older than her and to drink and smoke weed? Yes, but that still does not give that man the right to violate her for any reason.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Shaving = Pedophilia?
Posted: 12/17/2011 12:31:07 AM
If this is her thought on the mater I don't think there is much you can do unless her thoughts change ask her to do some research on it. I at one time also thought that men wanting women to shave was feeding some kind of pedophilia until I really took the time to look at the issue culturally and erotically and learned that in fact where in some men it did feed a pedophilia for most that was not the case and that also many women also reported finding more pleasure in oral and even the sex act after being shaved. Finding this helped me open my mind to other possibilities maybe learning more about it would help her to. It never hurts to ask.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Why cant I have casual sex?
Posted: 12/17/2011 12:16:11 AM
If it's not you then its not you. There is nothing wrong with casual sex for the people that can and do have it. I don't get in to the whole labling thing were if you're having a lot of sex with lots of diffrent people then your a slut or if you choose not to have sex your a prude. I think we are who we are and insted of trying to change it we need to figure out how to imbrace it and own it. So you're not into casual sex....do you need to be? Do you want to be?
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Is he too controlling? Or is she not supportive?
Posted: 12/16/2011 11:57:01 PM
I think you are in a very hard place. I understand Joe's reasons for not drinking and not wanting to drink and they are good ones. However, Sue can drink and still support Joe's choice not to by not drinking or becoming intoxicated when she is with him. Just because she chooses to have a drink does not mean she is not supporting him. From what you've explained I don't think he is deliberately trying to be controlling, just drinking has some bad connotations for him. As to if you should tell him/her how you fell I don't know, I guess it would depend if you think your opinion or thoughts would help the situation. But I think in the long run it will be something they will have to work out between them.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Three partner relationships becoming more acceptable?
Posted: 12/16/2011 11:39:41 PM
You have all given me very interesting thoughts to think about. I suppose one could make up a schedule for sex, but I'm more of a just let it happen when and how it would kind of person.
I also know that for whatever reasons be it that we live in a sexually repressed society or we still remain surrounded by our Puritan roots people seem to become uncomfortable and sometimes even hostile when people talk about more than the normal man woman missionary sex practices.
Where as yet I do not know if I will end up in a triad relationship or a monogamous one I am willing to keep my mind open, and do find it a little frightening that in this day and age there are still so many close minded people out there in the world, but I also feel hope that there is room for change.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Three partner relationships becoming more acceptable?
Posted: 12/12/2011 1:22:10 PM
Thank you for your thoughts from those of you that gave constructive criticism, and for those of you who seem to think that any polyandrous relationship is disgusting or wrong it's not a cult thing when everyone is a willing partner in the relationship, and one person is not holding power over the others and not being forced into it as we often see on tv because of wide coverage of polygamous cults. It is not always that way and does not have to be that way.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Too much too soon?
Posted: 12/11/2011 11:19:11 PM
You go first thank you for your advice, and I'm not messaging the pervs back.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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I made a huge mistake and need some advice
Posted: 12/11/2011 10:21:52 PM
I think that if it will make you feel better to aplogise then do so write him a letter telling him you're sorry about what happend. However, I also agree with some of the other posts here it sound to me like the relationship was over before he found out about the night with his friend when you were broke up.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Three partner relationships becoming more acceptable?
Posted: 12/11/2011 10:02:22 PM
I am just wondering if anyone thinks that 3 partner or more relationships are becoming more acceptable and more common place. When I was younger I tried so hard to find the one the one I would want to be monogamous with, but as the years have gone by and live learned more about myself I find that I find the idea of being in a relationship with two men very appealing not separately but all three of us together. I'm wondering for those of you who have been in three partner or more relationships did you like it? What's good about it? What are the challenges?
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Too much too soon?
Posted: 12/11/2011 9:42:11 PM
I would like some feed back on my profile. I thought that it would be best to make it fairly detailed so that the guys who were intrested woud know what I was about and did not feel they were waisting their time. However, other then a few guys who have wanted to hook up I have had little luck with my profile. Now I don't think that their is anything on there that would make someone think that I'm only into hooking up, but I'm wondering if maybe I put too much of myself out their made myself feel intimidating or maybe overwhelming with information, and the guys who want just a hook up and didn't take the time to read it are the only ones answering me.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Afterplay...the forgotten necessity
Posted: 12/4/2011 11:15:26 PM
I have to agree with many of the other post here, though I do not need and do not always like cuddling after I have never gotten out of bed right away to shower and strip the sheets. Hell if I have enough energy to do that right away then one or both of us was doing something wrong.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
DATES GONE TERRIBLY BAD
Posted: 12/4/2011 11:10:09 PM
I've exspiranced similer events and I think at this point you're going what you can you blocked his email and his number. If he finds away to sercomvent that I would give thought to calling the police and letting them know. I don't know why people act like that but it happens more often then you would think both men and women. Don't know if it's just that they are lonely or they feel a conection and feel you must too. Or maybe they are just nuts!
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Shy About Kicks
Posted: 12/4/2011 11:01:03 PM
I just want to thank everyone for their thoughts and advice.
 Self_Enlightenment
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Sexual Submissive Turn on turn off?
Posted: 12/4/2011 10:56:11 PM
active n funny thank you for your thoughts they were both interesting and amusing.
 
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