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bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Men....Can you help me make sense of this situation ? Posted: 5/18/2009 6:02:44 PM
Some things just don't make sense. Like pet Phsyciatrists. lol Okay, you helped him thru a rough spot in his life. He's grateful (probably somewhere deep inside). He like the pursuit of the woman but doesn't want to commit. BOY! Move on darlin', lots of fish out here willing to work hard to make a relationship work.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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mixed / confusing .. vibes ..on how much a guy likes you!. Posted: 5/14/2009 3:20:56 PM
Funny how so many women go onto the "ask a guy" and give advice! Here it is, He like to get you all worked up so he can brag to his buddies about it. Little****syndrome! You don't want the dump him move on advice? Okay, find some young stud!

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Why Do Guys Do This?? Posted: 5/14/2009 1:35:16 PM
Kind of have the same problem, Pumkin. Get into them and poof! Just be yourself. I had a first meeting with a very nice lady, talked for 8 hours, had a second date. The attraction was mutual, we laughed at the same things, had o lot of the same interests. She was already dating someone else and decided to "see where it goes with him". works both ways. Anyway, just be yourself!

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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What would you do? Posted: 5/14/2009 1:27:56 PM
How old are his kids? Why is there no "structured visitation" already? I she still going thru a divorce? Sorry no answers, just questions.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Am I expecting too much? Posted: 5/14/2009 1:19:50 PM
relationships are not 50/50 they are 100% from both parties to make it work

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Am I expecting too much? Posted: 5/14/2009 1:15:49 PM
When you move, leave him at the curb. A guy who doesn't help around the house is a user.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Should i ask a friend out? Posted: 5/14/2009 1:12:59 PM
Good way to lose a friend if you ask me. Friend for 8 years and never had a girlfriend? You're not saying he hasn't had a date like some of the people are saying. My suggestion is sit down and talk, openly and honestly about your and his feelings. He'll let you know if he sees you "that way". On the other hand, you've been thru a recent breakup, therefore, vulnerable. This guy has been a friend by listening, being a shoulder to cry on, so to speak. Again ,just talk things out, see where he stands.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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How can you tell if a blind date likes you? Posted: 8/23/2008 9:37:28 AM
If you got kissed, it's good. Lips good, cheek, not so good. How was her body language during conversation? If she was in defensive mode, ie; legs and/or arms crossed. definitely not good. Was she relaxed, smiling, laughing? Good signs.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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How does a single parent meet people?? Posted: 8/23/2008 9:20:35 AM
parents without partners, church, hardware/home improvement stores

bobalouie

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Msg: 48 (view)

Date undertipped-what to do??!! Posted: 7/12/2008 11:34:58 AM
Apparently a lot of people don't know that 15-20% is standard for good service and that servers make less than minimum wage. having been in the service industry, I know better. I would have said something while at the table. If I ask someone out on a date, I figure on paying, meal, tip, etc. Chivalry ain't dead. However, if she offers to pay a part of it, I won't fight about it.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 7/12/2008 11:27:23 AM
I would if she had everything else going for her. I have met women officers of the law that I would date. Maybe these guys are shallow criminal types.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

Live within 75 miles?? Posted: 7/12/2008 11:23:14 AM
I don't limit who can see me but I tend to look closer to home. Having to spend my free time just to get to meet someone isn't my idea of a good time.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

What would you guys recommend as traits of 'a good guy' Posted: 7/12/2008 11:10:04 AM
Good guy, hmm. The same as a nice guy? Nice guy is friend material but not boyfriend. Not to toot my horn but in my limited experience, that's what I've been told and for those reasons. A good guy is one who treats people with respect, doesn't lie, cheat, steal, or otherwise take advantage. I have seen women who say they want a good guy but then go for the "bad guys". Go figure.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Married but Separated? Posted: 7/12/2008 10:55:55 AM
Depends no how long the separation has been. If it's since they left for work this morning, it's a deal breaker, (yes, that has happened). I tend to wait until it's done and over with even though I didn't wait a year and a half until my divorce was final.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 125 (view)

Do men like it when women contact them first? Posted: 7/12/2008 10:48:40 AM
I don't mind if a lady makes the first contact. I guess I am somewhat liberated, huh? The pursuit does not always end with the initial contact.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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relocateable? Posted: 8/30/2007 9:56:22 PM
I relocated. Got married, had kids, it lasted 16 years. Divorced but now are great friends, her family and I get along great. I didn't really have enough going on where I was before to hold me, so I made the move. Call it a leap of faith, sometimes, you just have to take a chance.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Matter or not? Posted: 6/5/2007 7:33:29 AM
I look briefly, pun intended. If it's granny panties, turn off. bikini or thong, boy shorts, turn on.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Women in uniform: turn on or turn off? Posted: 6/5/2007 7:31:22 AM
Depends on the woman and the uniform. I've seen a couple cops I wouldn't mind being frisked by. However, if it's the McDonalds uniform, ugh!

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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I'm Confused Posted: 6/5/2007 7:16:20 AM
Don't know if I can shed any light on this. I looked at your profile and didn't see any red flags. My feeling is that these guys are just jerks and are missing out on a terrific woman. What is in the water in Canada that there are all those beautiful women?

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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funny body changes Posted: 3/3/2007 6:32:17 PM
I've lost some hair on top, no it's just relocating to my ears!!! Grey hair on top blonde hair in the stache, red beard, maybe I'll just shave it ALL, or not.

bobalouie

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payback Posted: 3/1/2007 10:48:54 AM
LMAO!!! Touche!

bobalouie

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Msg: 30 (view)

What hppened to Courting? Posted: 3/1/2007 10:44:16 AM
Actually works both ways, sorry to say. I prefer getting to know someone's heart and mind before getting to know their body. Call me what you will but at this stage in my life, I'd rather make love than just have sex.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Am I THAT scary...? Posted: 3/1/2007 10:42:03 AM
You're a freak! Better yet, you are true to yourself and screw it if people have a problem with that. From your pics, you look like a lot of fun. The tats and piercings aren't that big of a deal, I know people that have plenty and proud to say they are friends. It reall ydoesn't matter what a lot of guys say, it matters what one says, the right one. You'll find him, be patient. Luck to ya

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

Pressure from my mom Posted: 3/1/2007 10:30:55 AM
Used to get that crap too, even though she already had grandkids from my siblings. She was always trying to set me up with single women she knew. Now that I am divorced and have kids she isn't pushing, I think she figures that I may find "the one" on my own and since it took me 29 yrs to get married the first time, it may be a while before I do it again. As long as I'm happy, she's happy. No one else can make your life fullfilled, you have to do it yourself. As well as, you can't make yourself miserable just to make someone else happy.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

Would you go to a hgh school reunion? Posted: 3/1/2007 10:20:23 AM
Sure, I haven't been to any and the 30yr mark is this year. Geez! where di the time go? I've kept in touch with a lot of my close friends but there are others I am curious about. I was the class "hippie" so I'd like to show them that I actually got straightened out and became something. So many people peaked in high school, I'd like to show off a little.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

are there still cd buyers out there Posted: 2/25/2007 3:20:20 AM
I only buy CD's, don't download em unless I buy em first. Have a collection of cassettes and (gasp) vinyl too. Damn! I'm old!

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 44 (view)

Should a Great Band Carry On Posted: 2/25/2007 3:18:33 AM
Hats off to VELVET REVOLVER for showing what's his name the door! Really, I think bands need to take time away from each other but don't tour under the name if there's only two of ya left! I love classic rock and always will but would somebody please bury Keith and Mick already, they've been dead for years but nobody seems to notice

bobalouie

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Styx - The Grand Frustration Posted: 2/25/2007 3:02:16 AM
Last time I talked to J Y, he said Dennis Deyoung was no longer a part of Styx and wouldn't be as long as he (JY) was. And they would not play Mr. Roboto. I saw them a few years ago when the brothers were alive and healthy. Don't know that Jack Blades is doing the bass for them but they could do worse. Personally, I'll be rocking when I'm old, more power to them. I'd like to see a damn yankee reunion tour.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

IF you got married again... Posted: 2/23/2007 2:46:55 PM
Basic as possible, spend the dough on the honeymoon!

bobalouie

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Guys and female stuff Posted: 2/23/2007 2:42:01 PM
As Bill Engval says, If you go pick the femine hygene products it says to everyone "I have a woman!!!" (But I'm not getting any tonight) Whereas if you're getting condoms, you might! Try going into a grocery store at 2AM half drunk, can't find the condoms and have to ask!

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

Wouldn't It Be Nice. Posted: 2/23/2007 2:36:13 PM
Been there, done that, only to have her not answer the phone, not be home fall off the face of the earth, whatever. All you can do is keep fishing.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

Meeting people... Posted: 2/23/2007 2:09:23 PM
I took pictures of my twin and posted them. Does that count?

bobalouie

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Msg: 38 (view)

Do guys prefer hard working and down to earth or giddy and cute??? Posted: 2/23/2007 2:07:51 PM
I would prefer an hardworking, giddy, polite, gorgeous woman who has their head on straight as long as she has a sense of humor. Know any?

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Viewed me but didn't write Posted: 2/23/2007 2:05:30 PM
Happens more than you know, For one reason or another, interests, religion, body type, what you're looking for. I looked too, just so ya know. You're too far away from me. If they don't write back or initiate contact, they're not interested.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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When is it ok to be friends again? Posted: 2/20/2007 3:54:58 PM
My ex and I get along great, she's one of my best friends. It takes a while to get there. I don't look at her in "that way" anymore. We are both happy with the way things are now and would not get back together. Don't try to force the issue, just hang out do the things that friends do.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Men being nervous on dates Posted: 2/15/2007 10:54:55 PM
If you spend a lot of time talking to someone, either on the phone or e-mail, the first meeting goes much smoother because you have already gotten to know them somewhat. I used to get nervous around beautiful women, that may have something to do with your situation.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Ok so seriously, why is he wasting my time? Posted: 2/15/2007 10:50:21 PM
He blew you off for a month? Why are wasting your time thinking about him? Keep fishing girl, you have the right bait.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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What do men really think about women getting Posted: 2/15/2007 10:47:42 PM
I like to run my finger thru her hair, if you tell me I can't it won't bode well. I perfer a natural woman.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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The benefits of the information age- do they offend you? Posted: 2/15/2007 10:44:35 PM
In this day and age you can't be too careful. If you can get the info on someone, why not? Used to be that people told the truth, anymore you really don't know. Guys and gals, there are perdators out there, people who say and act one way on the net and are totally different in real life. It's like buying a car, the more information you have the better decision you will be able to make.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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A guy changes his attitude after the first meeting Posted: 2/4/2007 7:09:57 PM
To him looks do matter, he just won't be honest. He said he loves you after the first date? Why, so you'll jump in the sack? He keeps hanging up/ losing signal but doesn't call you back, don't bother. Keep fishing.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Assistance, please! Posted: 1/25/2007 11:12:17 PM
Speaking as a straight guy, the lastest edition looks good. Wouldn't hurt smile and show some teeth. I like the photo of the smirk, I do that all the time! Happy fishing!

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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My Profile Pics... Posted: 1/25/2007 4:18:36 PM
I have kids but I won't post their pics. Call me cautious. Also, you won't get to even meet them until I know we have something special. No use is parading my dates in front of them or them meeting someone who I've only dated a couple times.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Going on a date before going out of town Posted: 1/23/2007 9:32:35 PM
I would explain the circumstances to them and keep in touch while I was away, not after a few weeks. By then they will have likely moved on.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 112 (view)

Nigerian Scams Posted: 1/23/2007 9:21:53 PM
Happened to me on other sites. So much so that I changed my profile to include that I would not bring them from any other country. I was gettin most of the hits from Russia. One invited me over there so I could meet her family and help her move (in with me!) She loved me after 3 e-mails! Sad to see the ladies are getting scammed too.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Caring about appearance vs. high maintenance Posted: 1/23/2007 9:13:00 PM
Beauty doesn't come in a lotion or nail polish. If you have to apply it, you ain't got it! I don't mind a woman spending her money on looking good as long as the spending doesn't interfere with basic needs. I spend a little more for a haircut because I have a stylist that knows what I want and I am in business. I have to look good. (Okay, I work with what I have) Cosmetics and hair care don't really have a lot to do with health.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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How Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend To Understand Me More !! Posted: 1/23/2007 9:05:09 PM
1 He's Your Ex! 2 He dumped You On Christmas! What Kind Of Douchebag Does That? 3 Stop Capitalizing All Your Frigging Words! 4 move on, plenty of fish

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Has money, but you wouldn't know it. Posted: 1/22/2007 4:56:25 AM
Walk a mile in his shoes people! He did the right thing, wanting to find a woman who takes the time to get to know him without the bank account being an issue. Now that he knows she cares about him as a man, he disclosed the facts. He obviously has feelings for you or he wouldn't have told you the truth.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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Hit and Run Offenders Posted: 1/22/2007 4:43:54 AM
Why do women always want to know what we're thinking? Usually, we're not. If I know what's going to happen before hand, I'll pack an overnight bag. I have my own place and I like it here. Why would a woman say "I think you should go now"? Did she just want me for my body?

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

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My Profile Pics... Posted: 1/22/2007 4:24:53 AM
Nice pics! Tasteful, much better than Demi Moore's! If they don't like it, they don't need to look. Some ppl will be ***holes no matter what.

bobalouie

Joined: 1/5/2007

Msg: 129 (view)

Bass players thread.... Posted: 1/21/2007 2:28:50 AM
I played bass with my last band even though I (still) am not a bass player. I am a singer. My guitarist kept calling me the front man, something that pissed off the drummer. Jack Bruce was in the foreground. Don't forget Flea, can't miss him onstage! My favorite local band is Headz Up, the bass player sings most of the songs and is right up front!

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