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 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Just looking for opinions
Posted: 7/19/2012 2:06:37 PM
glad to see you took my advice, happy hunting
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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when is it acceptable to give you my number
Posted: 7/19/2012 2:00:20 PM
At what point of messaging, or chatting online, is it generally okay for me to drop my number?

I've been trying to date online for about 10 monthes, i think ten, and a couple women have given me their numbers, and I've given mine to a couple. I'm still trying to figure out the proper etiqeutes(pretty sure i spelled that wrong) for the online dating. I know that when i meet a woman at a bar or somewhere else and we talk and I like her, I'll ask for her # before we go our seperate ways, but online seems different. When i meet someone here, I know that I'll be able to contact her here, and vice versa.
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Would it alarm you to know a guy hasn't had sex in years?
Posted: 7/19/2012 1:44:05 PM
at only two years, you can simply say that had to deal with your emotional issues involving the divorce before you could move on, which i don't believe would be a lie, considering the way you lost your drive, that is due to an emotional issue, which you seem to have dealt with.Ifn she askes betond that, or for specifics, tell her you would rather speak on happier subjects, this night is about getting to know her. Don't worry, i went 8 years between the wife leaving and having sex again, although, i didn't lose interest, i was financialy strapped for six of those years and didn't have money to date and provide for my daughter at the same time. i chose to take care of my daughter and be alone. The last 2 years, after paying thousands of $ in the ex-wifes debt, just had a hard time meeting the right person. unfortunately, i'm single again( gal i was dating turned out to married and cheating on her hubby, deal breaker, down the road she went) even if another streak starts, its nothing to be ashamed of, just don't volunteer the info, thats all, don't let it get awkward.
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Anyhthing Strange/Weird Happen to You After Meeting a Fellow POFer?
Posted: 7/19/2012 12:41:31 PM
In reply to drifter 73, she did take advantage of you, i don't disagree. I'm willing to bet that she did feel embarassed and humiliated doing it though, unfortuneatly sometimes a single mother has to do things she doesn't want to do for the benefit of her children. rather than being upset, I would suggest taking pride in the fact that you helped her, and feel good about the fact that she recognized that you are a kind enough person to let her get away with it. That should help you later in your search
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Anyhthing Strange/Weird Happen to You After Meeting a Fellow POFer?
Posted: 7/19/2012 12:31:05 PM
I can understand why you met up with him in the first place, we all chase curiosity from time to time. This guy seemed creepy to me from the start of your story though. And I do believe that he used the threads of information to intentionally seek out your sister. This guy feels dangerous to me. You were right to end it right away, I hope you and your sister both never see or hear from him again, what he did is far from okay, or acceptable behavior. People like him are ostrasized where I come from. It honestly angers me when creepy @#$!'s treat women that way. I hope that you find yourself a good man that will treat you right, and that your sister does as well. We are not all pricks;-)
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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dating over 30
Posted: 7/16/2012 8:44:15 PM
In reponse to Outsider88's qeustion, no I don't really have a type, I don't pay attention to hieght, wieght, hair color or any of those things, I prefer to meet women closer to my age, I have to have something about a woman that attracts me, be it her self respect, attitude, sense of humor, or even just the way she smiles, or the look in her eyes. In the past I dated some extremely attractive women, two of whom were models, and I learned really qwuickly that no matter how goodlooking a person is, they can become very ugly in my eyes when i find out how cruel and selfish they can be on the inside. mean while a very average looking woman can out glow a supermodel on personality alone. As a result of this discovery, I've dropped the shallow hang up on amazing goodlooks, and just try to get to know women and see if I can find one who is beautiful on the inside, and feels the same about me
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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dating over 30
Posted: 7/16/2012 2:24:42 PM
Valid point, Jaimes004. What i don't get though, is that when i was younger the hieght was never an issue, at least not to my knowledge. I geuss these things change with time.
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Input on improving my profile sought from anyone, no restrictions but please provide honest feedback
Posted: 7/16/2012 11:42:43 AM
When we look at womens profiles we want to see them in the pics, its the same when they look at ours. You'll need close ups and full body length pics. Smile, look like you're having fun. Women see you having fun and want to be a part of that fun.
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Just looking for opinions
Posted: 7/16/2012 11:38:56 AM
Remove the "drinking" from your interests, also the line about "going out and getting smashed with my mates"change that one to "going out and having a good time with my mates" More pics,
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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is my profile attractive, or does it lack emotion
Posted: 7/16/2012 11:26:07 AM
Apparently there are slightly different option for that line now, i changed it to a more suitable comment. Thanks
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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is my profile attractive, or does it lack emotion
Posted: 7/16/2012 11:17:51 AM
Unfortunately they don't have one that simply says wants to date, looking for potential for a relationship. Does it really look like I want mostly younger women? What would best show that I want to meet a woman my age?
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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is my profile attractive, or does it lack emotion
Posted: 7/16/2012 11:06:21 AM
My luck on this site hasn't resulted in a single date, however a friend of mine has had several dates with several different women since he joined. He tells me that my profile may be to cheesy or impersonal. I would apprieciate any consructive feedback that may help me to achieve more responses, and hopefully result in meeting that potentially special woman. ( at least the one that is special to me, since all women are special to someone)
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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dating over 30
Posted: 7/16/2012 10:38:55 AM
I do appreciate your sense of humor, kudos
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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War widowed single mum asking questions to single fathers
Posted: 7/16/2012 10:35:32 AM
meant to say don't feel comfortable speaking on sad subjects
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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War widowed single mum asking questions to single fathers
Posted: 7/16/2012 10:33:54 AM
You can't wait for someone to give you the chance, you have to take the chance on your own. As far as people saying that you are dammaged goods, or have to much baggage, we all have a past, it only gets longer as we get older. My advice is not to talk about that incident at all on a first date, or before meeting, while chatting with a potential guy online. If he asks, simply say that you feel comfortable speaking on sad subjects. Be positive. "Believe it and you will see it" a quote from someone wise, can't remember who
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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attractiveness difference
Posted: 7/16/2012 10:19:25 AM
I believe they have the Al Bundy syndrome. ;-)
 rediforachange
Joined: 9/12/2011
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dating over 30
Posted: 7/16/2012 10:11:55 AM
I've been on this site for a while now, and I've found that most of the women over thirty seem to be obsessed with hieght. I am 5' 8" tall. I've been told by countless women I need to be 5'11" or taller to date them. Are there any women over 30 who aren't to superficial to date an average hieght man? Seriously, I'm goodlooking, I take care of myself, I treat women with respect, I don't lie to them, if they want to know something, I answer honestly. What more does a person need to start to get to know a person?
 
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