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zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 101 (view)

Never said we were Dating exclusively Posted: 5/20/2009 11:02:04 AM
I really don't understand women when they discuss this, generally with their female friends. Why are ladies always trying to make it "exclusive." I wouldn't expect guys to be intimate with several ladies at the same time just like I wouldn't expect ladies to be intimate with several guys at one time. Are they worried about disease or of losing the man? I would expect the man to want to be just as careful, if not more careful, than the lady. Its not like anyone has people chasing them !

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 79 (view)

Never said we were Dating exclusively Posted: 5/22/2008 11:21:02 AM
Yah, woman are screwy about these things. I am really confused about this lady I'm seeing. In the first place, she's 49 and was married before for 30 years but she's been divorced for about 2 years. I'm 51, married for 17 years, now divorced for 5. She moved and lives almost 100 miles away but still I usually se her at least once a week which is difficult with the rising cost of gas. We still talk everyday by telephone. We had discussed seeing each other exclusively before she moved and agreed we would but she still visits her friends and old boyfriend who she lived with every few months who lives about 1000 miles away. I really enjoy spending time with her but I've been stuck in the "nice guy" stage for the past six months, although I hope to get out of that soon. Anyway, she wants me to remain exclusive to her. Why, I don't know. What should I do? This exclusive shit is hard to do!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Big Oil, OPEC Screwing Americans Posted: 5/11/2008 10:24:34 PM
What's the difference? When some hot shot politician investigates, the truth never comes out. Its called collusion! They are all in on it. The have vs. the have nots.

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 81 (view)

Is there love after 44 ? Posted: 5/11/2008 9:46:43 PM
I've been divorced for over 7 years and found that there is love after 44(I'm 51) but by this age people are so busy with their own lives and children or friends that they don't have the time to nuture new love or are too set in their ways to compromise and adapt to new love and develop it so it flourishes. I've met couples who married in their 60s and all that really matters is that they are happy!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 181 (view)

What have you learned from online dating ? Posted: 5/9/2008 3:18:24 PM
One other thing. The most important trait of a guy is how much money he makes. Girls seem to be very materialistic!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 180 (view)

What have you learned from online dating ? Posted: 5/9/2008 3:10:34 PM
One can't expect that what is posted will be the truth so it is important that you get to know the person by directly communicating with them. Either by telephone or personal email. I like to get off the site immediately in order to facillitate this. To exphasize this I prefer talking by telephone. I've met and lived with several ladies I've met online and it seems they all have issues of abandonment or of societal indifference. Still, I keep trying for that one in a million. That one lady who will be whom I seek. Someday...

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

Grown-up woman acting like insecure teenager! Posted: 5/7/2008 3:11:01 PM
You may be 50 lorelei, but I'm 51 and I'm a guy so I know what your going through. I didn't marry until I was 28 and I regret the fact still. I should never have married the one I did. I remained married for almost 18 years out of responsibility, not love. That had ended after four years. The love I mean. Its tough getting over ones insecurity when you are as old and seasoned as we are but you have to remember that there are still good people in this screwed up, messed up world of ours and perhaps you found one. All the best to you and good luck!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 962 (view)

Calling all 40-60Something Males? Posted: 1/22/2008 10:46:38 PM
Can I put in my application? I feel the most important trait in a lady is showing she has the respect for herself to try and look good. Look good for herself, not others. That is my most influencing factor when choosing a date. One should accept their age and try to look good, not try to look younger!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 151 (view)

Thoughts on online dating ? Posted: 1/22/2008 10:33:01 PM
Some men. I answer all!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 150 (view)

What have you learned from online dating ? Posted: 1/22/2008 10:31:34 PM
The main reason guys rush into meeting is because one cannot tell much from "chatting" or email tag. People tend to lets say, embelish facts which is polite for saying lie when they are on line but when I meet ladies in person and speak face to face I can get the truth more easily. I'm sure the same from most guys about lying but thats the price we pay by going on-line.

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

have u ever been dumped for no reason? Posted: 9/19/2007 11:45:49 AM
He obviously found someone else. Men need change in their lives and he found his! Good luck

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me??? Posted: 9/5/2007 3:39:19 PM
Yah tyger. I heard the same thing. Well I'm 51 now and married once. The next time I'll be more careful but will there be the next time? I know she won't find me so I have to get out there but being shot down so often in my life, I feel like giving up! The lady who most likely never finds me would be counting her blessings about now. But I'm all hot air too!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

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Lil' Bush Cartoon Posted: 9/5/2007 3:13:42 PM
Its sad that we have to poke fun at our leaders and then to top it off, he wouldn't understand it if he saw it!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 146 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 9/4/2007 8:34:32 PM
No, it doesn't but then do woman always make sense either!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 145 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 9/4/2007 8:28:58 PM
Yes, I agree with you but SOME WOMEN WANT TO USE MEN FOR SEX AND MONEY too! Also, woman don't want to just go out for pizza and coffee if thats all a guy can afford. They rather find someone who can afford more!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 144 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 9/4/2007 8:23:19 PM
I've found the same reaction from most woman. It comes down to how much they look towards the future. Everyone wants to live the easy life, including ladies. Before getting "involved" and hurt they want to know how well you will provide for them. What I usually get is that I'm a "nice guy" but they can't stick around to see how my life turns out so its usually great sex for a few weeks then they leave!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 91 (view)

Sex before love Posted: 9/3/2007 10:03:34 PM
Excuse me but I'm 51 and I would never continue a relationship more than 3 or 4 dates without sex! Having companionship alone is good but but one needs more to see what would happen if the relsationship continues! Sex is all a 18 -19 year old is looking for and at times I feel that way too!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

Boobs-don't do it Posted: 6/25/2007 3:15:42 PM
Boobs don't make the lady! Develop some other aspect that makes you feel special like your legs, waist or even learn to highlite some facial feature. Having big or any larger boobs can only give you the confidence to be out- going but ultimately they just end your life sooner, give you trouble and you're paying alot for them. The girl I am currently seeing off and on has smaller boobs(34B) and to tell you the truth, I prefer it. If the boys you're dating all want bigger boobs, tell them to get implants! Its time you met a real man!! One who doesn't judge a woman by the size of her boobs. I'm 50 and have dated and had sex with many women in the 40 to 50 year age bracket. Many have been 36C,38C to DD or even 44DD. The boobs just hang there. Smaller tits(excuse me, boobs) are much more sensitive and easier to play with.. Lets not forget the old saying - more than a handful is a waste!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 434 (view)

Thirty and not married Posted: 6/6/2007 11:03:09 AM
I married at 30 and found that people must be very much alike by that age to want to stay married or live together. We weren't and divorced over 17and a half years later. Now, 4 years after that, I'm finding I need the compainion ship of a female but the only ones around tend to be unhappy divorcees, career womem, prostitutes, and sluts.

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

America still too puritanical? Posted: 5/24/2007 9:25:39 AM
Sorry jimi77 but in the reference books you are an animal. We all are!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 346 (view)

2 line poem (you add 2 lines using the last word of previous post] Posted: 5/23/2007 10:50:55 AM
Begins and ends like it was Never again will it show1

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 415 (view)

Thirty and not married Posted: 5/21/2007 8:16:52 AM
How about I'm saving myself for the one who got away!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 414 (view)

Thirty and not married Posted: 5/21/2007 8:14:27 AM
I was married at thirty and escaped at 47 after I realized she was just using me for extra cash to attain those things she wanted that she couldn't afford on her on!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 62 (view)

America still too puritanical? Posted: 5/14/2007 6:17:35 PM
Is the sky blue? Of course, it is and Paris Hilton is a spoiled brat. America has always been of the belief that what children don't know, the better. Hence, the limited sex education. Some blame it on the Pilgrims' conservative beliefs but lets be realistic, they got here almost 400 years ago. There is an increase in single mothers because of the increase in people and the lack of responsibility in todays society. Is the percentage of unwed mothers greater or less in Europe? Call it puritanical or you can call it stuck-up. Americans believe they are better than the rest of the world and our current President just perpetuates this belief by his 'holier than thou' image!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 55 (view)

why do men only care about sex??? Posted: 5/2/2007 11:26:35 PM
Men don't just want sex. Boys do! It is all a matter of maturity. Also, of the last 3 women I've dated, two just wanted the sex and I merely obliged! Its not all guys fault. And it not that we "[...don't have to worry about getting pregnant and had a "thing" hanging in between] our [ legs that would swell at the mere thought of sex.... ]. Ladies have a thing between their legs too and want it filled just as much with a guy's thing!! Don't give me this thats its all a guys fault!!!!!!!!!!!!!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me??? Posted: 5/2/2007 10:59:59 PM
Well OK. I am trying a little but by my age the ladies are TOO cautious and are interested in other thimgs than settling down.

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Can you party hard like a 20yr old when you are over 30? Posted: 5/2/2007 10:35:23 PM
Look, I'm 50 and I just am not interested in partying like I was 20. I can but I no longer find the pleasure in partying and puking my guts out just to feel lousey the next day! I have once or twice since my divorce but don't feel it was worth it!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 102 (view)

What's up with the men SNOBS anyways???? Posted: 5/2/2007 10:24:58 PM
You can call men snobs and the men can call all women b__ ches. If you read the forum decor, it says sometimes people who aren't interested won't reply because they have too much mail or found a mate. Chill! Men are not all snobs but many have better things to do than sit at a computer answering emails. The same goes for women. I don't let it bother me if I don't get a response and if you're on a dating site, you have to have thicker skin than to think everyone wants you!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

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Share....... Posted: 5/2/2007 11:57:19 AM
Come now browneyesboo. You are clearly better looking and more enjoyable than being with a chia pet or cat! They just can't refuse it which you probably have many, many times. You must be getting it more often than me because I'm a guy and I am the aggressor but you see, I don't. There are so few ladies out there now-a-days. Women today cus and swear so much. Thats a definite turn off to me. And then so few are as attractive as you. You see I haven't had much sex lately either but its been a matter of choice as I'm sure you know the story! -Gary

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

Cut or Uncut? Posted: 4/30/2007 10:21:22 PM
Or camel toes. Its the same thing almost. The extra gets in the way!!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me??? Posted: 4/30/2007 10:10:37 PM
I'm not trying at all but I still can't find anyone!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 152 (view)

why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex? Posted: 4/24/2007 11:47:54 AM
Another one! It seems like more and more woman today are the aggressor!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

People who have a backup partner... Posted: 4/22/2007 9:49:07 PM
About 2 years ago I was looking for a lady after I divorced. I met this lady who I later found out was a 44 year old virgin. Now, I can't get rid of her. She's wanting it all the time but living 30 minutes away can only ocassionally come to spend any time. To top it off, she has scoliosis so its hard to enter her. I'm 50 and get exhausted after I've pleased her. Get this, she lives with her parents still and her Mom and Dad met me a year ago but don't want me seeing her because I'm divorced! 'm still looking but she's still hanging on! So, I have a backup partner that I don't even want!

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 24 (view)

Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me??? Posted: 4/16/2007 12:31:39 PM
I know the feeling. I was married once for over 17 years until I couldn't take it any more. Don't get involved unless you really want to live with the other person for the rest of your life. Now I'm alone and I guess it will be that way until I die. I don't want to be but afraid I will be.

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 82 (view)

why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex? Posted: 4/16/2007 12:07:32 PM
Sure there are some men who don't like when the lady they are with admits she likes sex but lets be realistic. Sex with love is better. Having emotional needs as well as sexual needs is what peolple like myself need. Sure, I've had sex without loving the lady and many of the ladies I've had sex with admitted they did too. Sex is something we all need and its not just the physical release (cumming), its the emotional release of touching and feeling a member of the opposite sex(unless you are queer).

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 135 (view)

Women playing hard to get online Posted: 4/16/2007 10:44:39 AM
It has been my experience that ladies like complete sentences. The first one sounds like a cave man talking! When guys walk up to ladies and say something sweet, the lady immediately thinks the guy is hitting on them or wants something. Beleive me, I've done it! I've had women laugh at me, curse me, yell rape, but only a very few have just said "thank you."

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

I AM SAGITTARIUS Posted: 2/4/2007 8:33:28 AM
These are all well and good but they are too general. Sure I see some of the traits in me but they are also in others. Some of the traits are the total opposite of me which is why anyone who goes totally by horoscopes is crazy.

zahman

Joined: 1/7/2007

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Please review! Posted: 1/15/2007 11:01:32 AM
At least some people are in your mail! All I get are potential matches and admin.. I think your profile is great and I would even like to date you but with you way up in Canada I don't think casual dating would be easy. Give it time. -Gary

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