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Are independant women a turn off? Posted: 4/16/2008 12:06:59 AM
I'm an independent guy as well -- but that doesn't mean I want to live like a hermit or a loner because I do crave company and companionship at times. Kinda like a cat, I suppose. And no, indepdent women wouldn't intimidate me at all. In fact, I think that it'd probably be the right type for me because we'd be able to better understand each other and don't mistake it for neglecting each other. I hope.

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Salsa at the Waldorf - May 3, 2008 Posted: 4/15/2008 9:25:59 PM
Deal! Now I'm off to find special shoes with an air cushion built in

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~~Kumsheen White Water Rafting Weekend~~ 2nd Annual Wild Waves Weekend Posted: 4/15/2008 9:23:38 PM
Well I'm definitely interested in this trip! Just gotta figure out the logistics of the time before I actually sign up and "promise" to be there...

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To those who've been in threesomes: WAS IT WORTH IT? Posted: 4/15/2008 8:13:00 PM
Threesomes can be fun when you're just curious and want to experiment. But it's far better to do it either as a one night stand or with a couple. If you have a girlfriend and want to share her with another guy, that's going to be one hell of a test of your relationship. The more of my university days I remember, the more I just have to cringe...

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Muscular women... Turn-on or off? Posted: 4/15/2008 8:10:03 PM
Overly muscular with skin that looks like a roadmap with all the veins running through it is a turn-off. Looks gross on guys too. But that's kind of an extreme case -- muscular is sexy within reason, and well if you enjoy it and it makes you happy, then in the end that's what'll make you attractive. Plus muscular body + spandex = oohhh la la!

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Sweatpants sexy? Posted: 4/15/2008 7:59:27 PM
It's not the sweatpants, it's more about how you carry yourself while wearing them. When you're all dolled up in make-up and high heels, you may look beautiful but there's something slightly unnatural (to me) about the overall look. It's like you're posing rather than really showing yourself for who you are. Sweatpants and other athletic clothes means you're comfortable, and going through your everyday routine, which shows more of your "true" self, and I find that attractive. There's something confident and self-secure about that look that I dig.

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What do men find sexy as far as clothes go Posted: 4/15/2008 7:54:12 PM
I actually find athletic clothes more sexy than the "urban girl" look. It really depends on who's wearing it, though!

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What are YOUR non-negotiables? Posted: 4/15/2008 7:29:11 PM
#1 for me is: She lies to me, I'm outta there. - She accepts me for who I am, not for who I may be someday. - No Paris Hilton types -- I'm a gentleman but doing EVERYTHING is going to wear me out eventually. - She has a kind heart and treats people with respect. I dated someone who was rude to waitresses and store clerks, which spoke volumes about her character. If she was rude to complete strangers, it wouldn't be long before she did the same to me. - She's a straight talker. - She must be willing to dress like the Catwoman when roleplaying.... er, is that a deal breaker? EDIT: Oh, and to the OP: Settling is out of the question for me... I'd rather be single with friends than living with someone who'll eventually drive me insane

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do men actually like curvy women vs the skinny pencil one? Posted: 4/15/2008 7:20:43 PM
Curvy for me anytime. It's nice to have some cushion to bounce off of! Ultra-thin people (both men and women) are just SCARY!

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Positives we learned from past relationships Posted: 4/15/2008 7:19:00 PM
Bottom line: No expectations, no disappointment! That was the key thing I took away after a few years... is to not pre-judge anyone and first impressions can lie to you. You don't really get to know anyone until after you've spent at least a few months with them. Also, even though this seems common sense and a cliche, it never truly sank in until recently that to truly love someone, you love and accept them for who they ARE instead of who they might be "someday".

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Guys claiming they want long term relationship....... Posted: 4/15/2008 7:14:31 PM
I really hate guys like that -- they make the rest of us look bad :frustrated: Not all guys are like that -- yet unfortunately there's just no way to tell who's good and who's bad until you've talked to them and spent some time getting to know them before they reveal their true inner selves. It goes two ways -- I know not all women are materialistic Paris Hilton types, yet I can't help but get the feeling there's a LOT of those in the downtown area (!) I've also had an ex who tried to get me to propose to her on our first weekend trip (after about 2 months of dating), which I resisted. So from HER point of view, I'm the guy who doesn't want a long term relationship. If only there was a way to weed out the chaff and ship them off to a new planet so they can drive each other nuts there and leave the rest of us alone!

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Why are women under 30 so materialistic? Posted: 4/15/2008 7:03:55 PM
countrytat - I actually have a female friend (kind person, beautiful heart, wishes the best for everyone, etc, etc), and she actually refers to herself as a "princess" and even wears Disney princess shirts. I've had one debate with her -- she believes that when a man proposes to her, he must save at LEAST three months worth of his salary on a diamond ring. Anything less would mean he's not willing to work hard enough for her... I disagreed with her (actually I called her crazy ). I definitely wouldn't date someone like that. On the flip side, she wouldn't date someone like me because I'm not a prince.

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Protecting Your Woman Posted: 4/15/2008 6:57:20 PM
ChildfreeGlow -- if I were in your ex-boyfriend's shoes, I would've done the exact same thing. I can't see ***holes or let people get away with stupid stuff -- especially if they're harassing or threatening someone. It could be a woman, a kid, some 98-pound weakling man, etc. it doesn't matter. I just feel it's common decency as a human being. Personal safety is important, yes, but I'd like to be able to sleep at night.

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Has internet dating over taken real world dating Posted: 4/15/2008 6:42:51 PM
For me, internet dating is great because: a) It can be hard to hear what someone's saying in a noisy bar. Nightclubs -- forget it. b) I've pretty much reached that age where I've lost interest in bars/nightclubs/etc. except as a purely social thing with friends. c) It's hard to chat up random strangers at Starbucks. d) My schedule is unpredictable at best, so there's no "consistent" place I could go to to meet "regulars". e) I work in a male dominated industry, so not much hope of meeting the opposite sex at work. Maybe I should've been a nurse! In the end, internet dating means there's always a place where you know you're likely to meet someone like minded. It does have its downfalls though -- everyone's in a hurry, are quick to jump to conclusions after 5 minutes, quick to move on to someone else, etc., etc. but I think that's just the reality of dating in general.

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The Kinky Test Posted: 4/15/2008 6:34:26 PM
710 here lol. Some of these questions were pretty tame and I'm surprised they'd even be on the test. Some questions were pretty far out there, but I was surprised at the lack of questions about clothing (leather, latex, etc.), toys, feathers, and other fetish stuff. Uh oh am I showing way too much knowledge here? lol

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Salsa at the Waldorf - May 3, 2008 Posted: 4/13/2008 11:48:20 AM
Excellent news about the salsa lessons! I had someone try to teach me the salsa but I ended up on the floor Can I make a rule that if anyone laugh at me, they owe me a drink?

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Thursday Night 10 PIN BOWLING & Meet and Greet @ Revs Bowling in Burnaby APRIL 24 Posted: 4/13/2008 11:42:38 AM
Awesome, a night to spend in the gutter! This'll be my first POF event, so go easy on me... lol. Looking forward to seeing y'all!

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June 17, 2007 - Grouse Grind #5 Posted: 6/10/2007 7:46:07 PM
Hello all! My first post on POF, my first event, etc... please to meet y'all! I just wanted to comment on the sandals thing -- I've been on many hikes (the Chief, Garibaldi Lake, etc.) and I strongly suggest that you do NOT wear sandals unless your feet are used to having dozens of tiny pebbles slipping into your sandals Strangely enough, I've never done the Grouse Grind (I keep opting for the Chief instead) so where do you usually park? I get that the meeting time is 9am at the gate, but where exactly is that? Is that near the parking lot at the bottom of the cable car lift?

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