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Thread: wagon trains, government land, and homesteading
~DREAMS~
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wagon trains, government land, and homesteading
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11/25/2009 7:14:44 AM
More room for me and maybe I'll finally get my ancestor's 40 acres that was promised them.
does not sound like you would have much room for you on there.... aweful lot of branches of the tree all sharing the same 40 acre plot
~DREAMS~
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11/24/2009 9:53:50 PM
Still want to see someone try going to the bottom of the world and staking a land claim...wonder who, and how it would be handled? World court?
maybe i could open up a consulting business here in saint joseph missouri offering my ideas to the businesses around town and help feed some kids around the world that way.
~DREAMS~
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11/24/2009 2:00:54 PM
They have undertaken a project to dispose of used uranium rods in one of the trenches there.
that is an easy one... send then on a space course into the sun.... the sun would not have any trouble getting rid of them
~DREAMS~
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11/24/2009 1:58:14 PM
We are setting ourselves up for an ecological and human disaster while doing little to address it while we have the resources to address it. We only need to prioritize making our own lives more sustainable, our communities and countries sustainable, and saving as much of the fabric of our life support system as we can. We still can do it, but time is running out.
That was why i was suggesting on using the moon to grow food to eat. using robotic labor that can be launch up to the moon atop cheap rockets with no risk of people dieing the robots can automaticaly grow food using the nutriants abundant in the moon as a result of centuries of particles bombarding the moons surface. The very same life sustaining materials found in the soil on earth are on the moon.
the robots can then harvest package and use the moons gravity to slingshot the capsals around the moon which will flash freeze them to stay safe on entry to the planet.
people are starving. Feed the people is priority one. the crops from the moon can feed EVERYONE!.... and be nutritios to boot as well.
the moon is like a chia pet..... just add water, spread out your seeds and send up the robots to do all the work and the whole world can eat and not be sad having to send their children to bed hungry.
Not even that expencive to do either... so simple it is affordable and pays itself back in less than a year of what was spent to build it
Just my thoughts... and trust me I have thousands of more thoughts as well. I have so many ideas and easy simple fixes that I have enough thoughts to share as many as i choose and not have to be worried or greedy....
I talk to the children all around the world..... They are hungry and need to eat to not be sad. They are scared and worried where the next meal is going to come from.
But i live on $175 a month (because i can not physically work at the moment) to take care of my son so I can n0t buy the hungry kids any food. if you can take my ideas and feed the kids please... have them... they are given free to anyone that can use them
~DREAMS~
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11/24/2009 9:42:46 AM
Dreams... not to shatter your illusion; however, I would think that before you offer to give one a science or a math lesson you would learn how to spell and not talk to adults as though they are babies. I am sure the baby talk was meant to get your point across and maybe that works for you down at the playground but here in POF you will find that talking down to people really doesn't help get your point across.
He was talking down to me like i was some wanna be star trek watcher dreaming of going to space. he set the tone i simply replied in kind.
Yeah i know my spelling is bad.... still readable though....
Yes i realise i was maybe not as nice as I could have been in my talking to him... But he insulted me and my abilities without even knowing me.
I did try to make up for it by offering him a solution to his deep sea exploration troubles.
The DSV's they use can not go all the way down because of the pressure and due to the amount of time it takes to get down that deep coupled with the limited air supply they are able to carry with them can not stay down long...
How is that offering any time to study anything?
to study means observe. it does not mean to TAKE so you can cut things open on a stainless steal un sanitary table after you have killed it.
there are volcanic fisures that open up in an instant down there and due to their limited air supply as well as the materials chosen to make their DSV's means they are stuck with just a few hours to study so instead they do a smash and grab and take as much animal life as they can in their baskets even though they know those creatures can not live in the conditions at the surface.
it would be the same as taking a human being and dropping them on the moon. THAT is exactly what it would be like for those creatures they find down their to try to survive once they bring them to the surface.
So instead I tried to offer a solution.... by explaining how to make a stronger DSV that would protect them from the harsh conditions down there... and if they were smart enough to be able to extract their air directly from the ocean water instead of carring it in tanks then they could stay down their longer and just observe.
maybe those deep sea living creatures might decide to come say hello to their DSV.
But everytime they go down it is just another smash and grab to put them in a basket to kill them for the sake of science.
So reverse your roles... what if the next time they went down instead of you grabing the creatures to study the creatures grabbed you and treated you the same way you treat them?
I offered a comprimize... you offer nothing but more death.
I offered to teach you how to build a DSV capable of being able to spend enough time down there and my reward was to be insulted and treated like i don't have a clue what the hell i am talking about simply because i have troubles spelling?
hell at least i also thought about what they could do with their waste their bodies would expell for the extended time they would be down their watching the dance of nature unfold before them.
I am an azzhole sometimes when I am treated with disrespect. I posed questions and requested dialog NOT smartass snide comments from someone closed minded
I TOO come in peace with no ill will directed at anyone. To offer my thoughts freely.
My words are loaded words this I am well aware of. I speak to the hearts of the people reading them. If you take them as threat the error is NOT in my writing. The error is in your comprehenshion.
understand???? sometimes spelling errors are not errors at all. They simply put a pause in requiring your OWN mind and heart to fill in the blanks with your OWN assumption of what the spelling was meaning for a word.
again... not my problem... it is YOUR problem.. others likely understood it just fine.
PEACE
~DREAMS~
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11/23/2009 9:53:25 PM
Ok puppy.... if you want to go deeper you will need to use a layer of diamonds cut perfectly so that edges meet perfectly to the next diamond in a sphere layer.....
When you go deep the preasure will be distributed around the diamond faces and they will be able to save you from the red rock flowing out of the bottom..... like I said expencive little buggers and cheaper to just empty the tank a little putting it on the moon to reduce the pressure.... that also creates more land mass but does piss off people that would have current beach front property because the new property lines and new beach front would be further out after.
Need a picture?
~DREAMS~
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11/23/2009 6:13:23 PM
and just where does puppy expect to put all his shyt that he expells?
But as long as you chose to talk about the resources side of things.... are you any good at math?
can you not put 2+2 together?
The ISSUE with exploring the depths is the amount of water pressure at the deep depths. which means only a few little puppies have the ability to get down that deep.
When one of those expencive little puppies surcomes to embrittlement what do you think happens to the 3 little dogs inside their little sardine can?
they are already using the strongest alloy on this planet as well as the strongest shape....
HUMMM expencive little buggers too considering the refinment process that they have to go through.
Yup ocean deep is a mystery....
however what is not a mystery is the materials used to make the widdle puppy's ball...
things get REAL cold down there.... and in a flash of a second a phizer could open up and make the water very hot as well as their super cooled ball they play with....
so science lesson... what happens to metal when it is very cold in one second and then very hot in the next second combined with extream pressure?
Puppy's little ball pops like a balloon....
however if little puppies were looking UP instead of down they just might find a stronger balloon
Just my thoughts....
~DREAMS~
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11/23/2009 4:04:48 PM
what about investing more of our money to learning how to do more with the Planet we have.
because the materials strong enough to survive the embrittlement and pressure at the deep deep depths long enough to have any benifit to researchers or man kind have not been discovered yet.
sad to say this but space is friendlier than the ocean depths
~DREAMS~
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Here's my situation
Posted:
11/23/2009 3:54:07 PM
Those things should have been handled BEFORE you are divorced.
If you want my opinion there is a reason why the wording is as it is.... the date when the divorce is "FINAL"
Divorce is or at least should be the final result of a failed attempt to work things out.
Divorce in my opinion should never be used as a leverage tool so when you fight you can feel free to go off and do whatever you wish without remorse.
it is a disolution of marriage. as in "NO SOLUTION FOR THE MARRIAGE TO BE ABLE TO CONTINUE"
If it is as you say then you wasted the courts time and lied to the judge to boot because you have to agree that you tried working through your problems already in order to be granted a divorce....
What you are saying here is that you did not work through your problems prior to the divorce and now that the reality of what that divorce meant has set in you are communicating again....
So what if this guys girlfriend decides she wants him again and he leaves you for him yet again?
I assume you two are both adults? Seems to me one of the requirements to being able to call yourself an adult is to be able to comunicate and handle your differences before needing someone else to step in to handle them for you (ie the judge)
just my opinion is all
~DREAMS~
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Love,Quality of life and who pays
Posted:
11/23/2009 1:35:24 PM
The business woman and the stay-at-home wife respect one another; they are both members of several charitable children’s foundations. I doubt that either of them would want anything to do with the narrow-minded ones here whom have the audacity to criticize and attempt to belittle non-working women. What a pitiful joke you all are.
sure sounds like those women are working women to me.... A job title and a paycheck does not make someone as working. Time, effort, brain activity, time away from things like sitting in front of a tv in a vegitative state while everyone around you works IS a non worker.
This is my example of a non working woman... my brothers wife...lol
My brother worked building an alternative fuel building in the heat all day long and came home to have his wife tell him that now that he is home the kids were his kids to deal with that she needed a break. he then had to do the dishes and make supper and start the laundry because she spent all day playing WOW.
That is a non working woman... if you accept the house wife JOB. That is in some cases a full time job.... But not in the case that the guy works all day long and she does not and then has to come home to have a 50/50 life in the house instead of relaxing after a stressfull day.
If she were to volenteer her time or something it would be one thing but in some cases that is not the case.
~DREAMS~
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11/23/2009 1:08:30 PM
Why should the US be allowed that? Why not anyone who can get there? International space law forbids any country form claiming the moon anyways.
guess I have to do a little more reading... I assumed thats what the space race was all about. To get there and claim the moon first and we won and staked our flag.
So we the people spent all that money and loss of lives to get their first but some international law made after the fact says the claim was not valid? guess I need to read a little more... my bad i just figured that was how it worked
~DREAMS~
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Would like your opinion
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11/23/2009 11:34:50 AM
Turns out he thinks our relationship was headed on a path that might be too serious and he didn't think he had the feelings he should have for me this far into our relationship. Anyone else had this happen?
kinda had something similar recently. I kinda have a crush on my sons teacher. maybe a little more than a crush but I am not sure if she does on me and well she kinda backed away from me pretty quickly.
But i am not like many men. I like to think i am a pretty patient man so instead of just moving on I just puled down my profile and figured i would just back off and wait for a little while to see if things change.
I might have moved a little quickly because I am a pretty picky guy and not trying to seem coceited or anything but I KNOW not every woman is my type.
So when i found a woman like her I tried to toss all-in on the gamble. Still never did figure out what my odds were
but even so I figured a pause to sort some thoughts may be enough and figured she may be willing to let me know if she is interested.
She asked for space so I granted that space it would now be her responsability to remove that space that was granted.
maybe your situation is similar.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJ6K_uNNYB8&NR=1
~DREAMS~
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11/23/2009 11:10:34 AM
I have however met men who feel that they can do everything so perfectly that any woman would not feel that they bring any value to a relationship when they are told they have a perfect life without them ... and seriously I would feel like another rug rat just taking up space and messing up a couple of dishes.
I think i can answer this one or at least offer my thoughts as to why from my own reflections.
I am alone at the moment.. well besides my son of course.
I make many mistakes in life. I know why i make mistakes. Because i spent a fair amount of time in reflextion... When I was in a relationship and had a woman in my life that I could trust, my mistakes were much much fewer.
We as a species are not meant to be alone OR all the same. It is our diversity that makes us capable of greatness.
Men and women, black white, brown,or any other color, young and old alike ALL have a role in life.
Life is complex. It is the most complex thing in the universe. BECAUSE it is so complex balance is needed to ensure it is able to thrive and prosper.
My mother and I argue at times. But she has been around awhile. I don't always agree with the things she does or says in life and the same also goes for me. She does not like some of my choices.
I had a thought upon reflection one time when again we got into a fight because i would not fix my brothers car for him. I offered to SHOW him how to fix it and be there by his side to HELP HIM fix it but I was not willing to do it for him because then he would not learn.
What is that old saying?... Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. TEACH that same man how to fish and he can eat for a life time as well as being able to teach others how to fish.
If you do EVERYTHING for someone then that person is beholden to you to supply them and rely on them for everything.
There is no balance there. The scales are all one sided without a hope to create a balance.
When life is concerned diversity is needed. Because if everyone knew the same things there would be no need to teach anyone anything. There also would be no reason for anyone to learn anything.
The ability to learn AND teach IS one of the traits that makes us alive.
SEE? once everyone all knows the same data LIFE ceces to exist.
Did that make sense?
example....
I used to work with troubled children from gang areas. To try to teach them to respect themselves and WANT a better life.
At one time I was accused of being a racist. Which i was thankful that others i had helped squashed that thought out of their minds quickly.
I am not racist against anyones color. I am however racist agaist anyone who does not want a better life than what is found in many of the gang infested areas.
You can't teach someone to have a better life if they don't want a better life. So I don't bother trying. If someone is different but happy being different then there is no point in trying to make them into something they do not want to be.
However IF they are different and WANT a better life then that means they would be wanting to learn HOW to have a better life.
I jumped on a lady textually spanking her so to speak in a different thread over an issue similar to this. I did so because in reading the things she has said in her posting history it was clear to me that she felt the need to fix everyone she met.
YOU CAN'T!
Some people don't want to be fixed because they don't see anything wrong. if you don't see anything wrong in your life there is no desire to learn anything new and if there is no desire to learn anything then their is no way to alter the person that you are in life.
People need to be themselves in life and if as yourself you see something that just does not seem like it is right then they are more receptive to learning something new which as a result of what we know is what we are in life then after they learn they will know and after they know then they will change themselves.
It is all about what drives us through life.
It all comes back around to balance. That does not mean someone has to accept someone that would steal their stuff or harm another person just because they can.
There are limits to equality in life and a pretty major one is to at least have core values in alignment.
I have skipped some of the lessons on equality for my son at the moment because he is only 11 so may not understand some of what I would try to teach him as a result.
I went shopping with my mother and sister today, and we had a pretty good conversation. We talked about one of my thoughts about utilising the moon to solve some pretty major issues we face as a global whole.
I am in farming country. Our farmers have to inject chemicals into the soil for nutriants when the mood is full of them. We talked about how to grow food on a dry surface and realized together that salt water blasted at the surface of the moon when combined with the moons surface could likely change the very surface of the moon. Salt and light when combined with other processes just might work.
We also had a nice talk about the moon having its own built in flash freeser to ready crops for transport by moving the harvested crops to the dark side of the moon and then back around for transport to earth safely preserved.
back in the depression people did not have refrigerators so they had to be creative.
There is a LOT of wisdom contained within our older generations but so few spend time to listen to them.
I LISTEN TO THEM!
They had to LIVE IT. If you lived through it then that means you learned from it.
Sorry i am rambling again...
hope that made sense
~DREAMS~
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11/23/2009 5:00:56 AM
back in the day our ancestors traveled west and unless i am mistaken could register and recieve a claim flag granting 10 sq miles using the homesteading provisions.
men and women would group together in wagon trains for protection and many of the smart couples would each get a claim flag granting a couple 20 sq miles they could join together.
They called it the great frontier.
that ability of course has gone to the way of the dinosaur due to there no longer being any land able to claim.....
It is my opinion the government enacted that law to settle the west so that someone willing to put in that sweat equity to populate and cultivate those un charted teritories.
What would people think if the government opened up that claim office again for the moon?
America is full of brave strong men and women capable of overcoming hardship and adversity for the sake of survivial and the chance to have a better life.
Sure some wagon trains were lost, people died chasing after their dreams, and things were harsh at first in the old west.
But for many brave souls the reward was worth the risk.
I say open that claim office back up and grant us normal folks a chance to prove once again that NOTHING is impossible.
They said the western teritories could never be settled.... and look at us now....HUMMMM
How about we give it a shot and let us "normal" folts hitch our wagons together yet again to do what they say can not be done by normal people....
I will take 4 claim flags please....
How many flags would you need to have enough to make it worth while to take the risk?
~DREAMS~
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Finding Out How Interested He Is...And Why
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11/23/2009 4:37:13 AM
sounds like a thread title strait out of a cosmo mag.
Oh,Oh,Oh I know we can all hang out drinking flat beer asking advice of the great moose head hanging overhead in secret meetings discussing women speak finally deciding it is just easier to play dumb that way they don't suspect that us men are capable of decoding something so complex as the womens mind.
We can then burp, fart, and piss on our feet acting like we meant to do it and the women would never suspect us as capable of any complex thought.
What is that number one man rule again?... OH YEAH if we don't want to do something we just fvck it up until they stop asking us to do it again....
What???????? you did not REALLY think we were dumb enough to accidently toss a bright red sock in with the load of whites when pestered in the middle of a game or race did you?...LMAO
~DREAMS~
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are women playing GOD when they become pregnant
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11/21/2009 9:36:54 PM
I know this woman, she has had one no, maybe two kids. Just dropped her load, continued on with her life. She didn't bother to have an abortion, she didn't bother to put the kids up for adoption ... she just left them and carried on with her life.
She had fun, partied, worked, bought a house and had a life. So isn't she as sweet as a peach. I would love to know one man here who would respect her enought to date her. PLEASE lets see a show of balls from the men as to who would put their****in her body and respect her.
Hahaha see she is fictional, but that is what you are asking us women to do ... to have respect for you.
That is not fiction!!!! ... That is my ex wife but the problem is she took my daughter with her and left her somewhere else instead of leaving her with me as well.
~DREAMS~
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11/21/2009 6:42:41 PM
This is a touchy subject and dang that is a lot of reading.... Since I am not done reading i will hold off on offering my opinions on most of this stuff.
But I can answer one question I have seen without even needing to do much thinking on it.
WHY DO MEN WANT CHILDREN and what are their reasons for wanting them????
I feel qualified to answer this since I am raising my son and have since he was a baby.
There is a bond between men and their children. My son is not a perfect child by any means but then again neither am I and since I am not perfect i can not expect my child to be perfect either.
I have made mistakes and he makes mistakes. We work through his mistakes. Trying to recognise where things went wrong to hopfully help avoid mistakes in the future.
I am doing my best to raise him to be a man.
Being a man does not mean being a jerk. So when he starts to get that way it is my job as his father to alter that course so to speak.
Another reason that i did not bat an eye at raising my boy is he is the last of my line.
There will be no more unless he has children. The future of my families liniage ends with his choices in life.
So as a man I feel obligated to teach him what that liniage is that he carries within his genes. It is also my job to ensure that he has education enough to know to keep his genes in his jeans untill the time is right.
To teach him right and wrong, to teach him how to be compassionate to someone down on their luck while still being strong enough to not allow people to walk all over him.
To teach him about balance and life and actully living. In order to learn some of those things you just have to live them to understand them.
To teach him not to be a spoiled rotten brat that gets everything he wants. If we got everything we wanted in life then happiness would not be needed. There would be nothing to be happy about.
You can not have or KNOW happiness if you have never had to deal with sorrow.
I don't shelter my son from much of the bad in life because if I was not here he would be on his own to figure things out for himself.
But I am here. I am trying to teach my son how to survive. He turns 11 next week and at 11 he has a pretty good head on his shoulders. He makes mistakes but at this age the mistakes are not as bad as they could be when he gets older so instead I teach him how to work through problems on his own.
Have i taught him about equality? I like to think i have. but he is not ready yet for some of the lessons on equality yet.
I have not taught my son that the woman stays home while the man works. Even as a young child I would take him to work with me. I was the boss so nobody was going to tell me I could not bring him to work with me. Yup I would not even flinch to change that crappy diaper right on my desk and then continue my work.
He is a part of me and I am a part of him. When my time upon this earth is done he will be the last but will never be alone. Because i was there in his life through the good times and the bad times.
I am not sure if i will weigh in on the rest of this topic because it is a topic I am still in reflection about and have not yet decided how i feel 100% about yet. It is not exactly like deciding between steak or fish
~DREAMS~
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Love,Quality of life and who pays
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11/20/2009 1:43:51 PM
A deserted island with 200 men and women... would they still be debating the quality of life and who pays?
Yeah the men would likely run off collecting all the coconuts and then have them piled at the feet and the ladies would likely pick the men that had the most nuts first.....LMAO
you know since it is all about survivial and all
~DREAMS~
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Mars or the moon?
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11/20/2009 12:53:52 PM
Citation?
just observations from working in the fields effected. Nothing i would call proof. I just think and try to corilate to find patterns. Just one of my dumb hobbies that helps keep my mind active is all..... I would not be allowed in the scientific community so i don't try to follow those rules. I just think and write my books. sometimes i share my thoughts as a way to try to communicate with others around the world. Sometimes i am a azzhole. It is not a deliberate act.
~DREAMS~
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Mars or the moon?
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11/20/2009 12:47:57 PM
Things at the atomic level. water is 2 part hydrogen and 1 part O2
have you ever looked at the stars or planats and pictured them really small?
Like maybe a map of the universe and all its componds are found within the planets and moons themselves?
earth is water based so at the atomic level we could call that H what is the moon? and what compond would it be if at the atomic level it was combined with H
so looking at other planets and their moons if it was an element at the atomic level what would they be?
HUMMMM a map OF what makes up a universe within the very universe it is a map of.
MAYBE?
~DREAMS~
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Mars or the moon?
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11/20/2009 12:14:28 PM
You're assuming the moon actually does have an effect, beyond the usual sources.
hospitol records as well as the increase in crime during those times as well....
While that is not a definitave proof of anything because like what was said it may just because they can see better during a full moon....deserves at least a look at it doesn't it?
To at least see if there is something that could explain the coisidence.
maybe it isn't a material on the moon and instead is a specrum of light due to the reflection against the full moon.
The moons glow is basically reflected and filtered sun rays. could have some effect on our eyes that account for the results.
I still think the what if of it all should at least warrent putting someone skilled in human biology up there to do some measurments both before,during,and after a full moon to corilate with ground data on behaviour to them see if there is any patterns that are know to disrupt brain activity.
It is a force powerful enough to control ocean tides. That is a pretty potent piece of rock sitting up there. If it is able to control the waters of the oceans and we are mostly made up of water then for my mind at least when looking at police and ER activity is strong enough scientific minded proof to require much further review with more detailed measurments.
Just my thoughts.
of course it could just be that the moon is thirsty and is trying to get a drink of water ... :roll:
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11/20/2009 10:39:32 AM
Daisy, isn't the only real diference between an opinion and a scientific opinion still just only in the explaining how you formed that opinion?
verity, all of this is just your opinion. No scienfic or otherwise back-up for your rhetoric. You have a way of expressing an opinion like you are a University science professer...but when you look at the meat of what you are saying and bring it into layman's language, all it is just how YOU feel about it from within YOU.
It's just a personal opinion.
While i am not verity and can not answer for him, i have learned a few things from him over the years and have had a few HUMMMM moments that had me pondering other things from some of his "opinions"
That fact alone to me means at least some of his opinions have value.
So the difference between an Opinion and a scientific Opinion is defined by if you have drawn someone a map or not.
Not everyone needs a map to see the destination. they can simply look at the two points and draw their OWN map.
It does not make the mapless opinion any less valid or worthy. I am not sure about you but it bugs me at times when i have to draw out every little detail which detracts from other details.
The scientific method. yes I know it has a purpose. But it does not always need to be utilised just to carry on a conversation.
We are simply here (well at least i am) to have the ability to speak to people all around the globe without distance becoming a major factor.
Do you realise how long the posts would be if EVERY detail was typed out so that someone would not bash for not adhearing to the scientific method when talking just to learn from each other?
Sometimes you just need to read between the lines for yourself instead of having a map to every destination.
When i was a child my mother used to tell us kids to get lost when we would be bothersom.
As an adult i find myself enjoying that activity.
Fill up the tank and drive an old country road and get lost basically. I have discovered some beautiful little or unknown spot doing things like that in life. Science also offers that ability. When looking at things without staring at the map in the realm of science i have found other things that I likely would have missed if i had been so ridgid.
Just my opinions... not scientific facts. I don't spend my life explaining myself and my thoughts to anyone. It would take away from my time thinking about other things in life.
It is my thought that if someone can not for themselves have wisdom enough to see both points and make the conections drawing their own maps then they likely would not be ready to know what the destination holds.
I am not meaning to be a jerk i am just trying to ofer a different perspective is all.
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I think the moon.... never know it just might be made of gold or capable of generating some for a polarity based protection. Surley there must be some reason why a FULL moon has a noticable effect on how we act during them.
Mars is bigger and does offer different possabilities but in the over all big picture... shouldn't we want to know WHY the moon has an effect on us?
Could it be something as simple as something it is made of?
I mean seriously how much about that moon do we "REALLY" Know?
landed, spent a couple days picking up some "surface" rocks and placed a claim flag and then walked away.
so we went up and took a piss on the moon to mark our teritory and then just stuck it on the back burner and looked further out to what again place another claim flag?
Why not take a good inventory of what we found before spreading out the limited monitary resources searching for greener grass somewhere else.
never know... Might find something up there that could "help" get us further out faster by taking one small step at a time.
Call it a ladder to the great behond if you will. Each step you walk up grants the ability to take that next step
just a thought. i had done a little thinking about the effects the moon has on humans awhile ago by trying to find what metals seem to also have the same effect on human behaviour and oddly enough.... GOLD is the closest effect on the human behavious when around it.
Just my thought but if Gold is found on the moon or some other substance I am sure you can bet there would be a lot more independent space programs firing up.
There are times i hate greed. But greed does seem to push projects further along as a motivator.
There is only one letters difference between green and greed. and the only thing left once you take away the letters that are different between those two is "A GREE"
HUMMMMMMM
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I have my good days and i have my bad days. many days i have been single for so long that I become indifferent to having a woman to share my life with. The indifference to me is more worrisome than the lack of someone to love in my life.
I can and do live without someone in my life.... But living is not the same as being ALIVE. When I am with someone I am ALIVE in all aspects of my life.
I am as a result a better person when I am in love. Granted it has only in my opinion been twice in my life that i would call it true love.
The worst fall out having been about 6 years ago. It was that relationship that opened my eyes because i was not planning to or wanting to fall in love with anyone... it just happened all on its own while i was busy navigating through life. I guess you could say it was like LOVE found me and slapped me up side the head telling me to wake up and notice what was missing from my day to day life. A twinkle of what I had been missing all those years.
Where i want to go in life single people are not allowed. You must be married to have a chance.
Even if that were not so... I don't do casual sex, don't pay for sex. and to be honest i don't even have sex... When I am with a woman in that way i am making love to her and opening up a form of communication with her.
I mean lets face it there is only so much of "yourself" handling those things that a man can take before you start to forget what it feels like to be wrapped in the arms of a woman.
I may not NEED a woman in my life, but i sure as heck want a woman in my life.
I am sure many may find this hard to believe but i am a bit odd at times....LMAO
I am a bit stubborn at times.
I am a bit blunt at times.
Sometimes I have so much going on that I have nothing to ground me. Nothing to look forward to. Nothing to desire and long for. Those are things that I have missed very much in my life.
I am a hopeless romantic. I trive on doing dorky things like writing a lady a poem, dropping by her work to play a rose on the stearing wheel of her car to find after a stressfull day. The short (and sometimes not so short) emails letting her know she was in my mind and thoughts.
It is not a need but it sure is a focused want.
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Free speach......... just how far does the right to free speach reach......
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11/18/2009 5:37:58 PM
Easy fix ..atatch a tazzer gun discharge to your wiper arm and when they touch it they will create a ground and get a tingle to let them know not to touch someone elses property ever again....
And for those thinking dreams your so mean.... DAMN RIGHT!... I bought it ...if i had someone touching my car all the time you are damn right i would not bat an eye to set them on their ass and i even have the skill set to built it too...LMAO
HUMMMM sounds like a nice new venture....lol
I will build you the blue prints, material list, componant suppliers and manufacturing process and you promote and sell them and kick me back $10 per unit sold?
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11/18/2009 11:45:25 AM
add to other post....
They are telling you the SYMTOMS that someone with those issues has. If they are giving you the answers to the tests then the tests are no longer valid to diag the problems.
When the doctors ask about your symtoms your mind will remember the symtoms they said to remember and thus validating the test the doctors may use.
AKA CONTROLLING someone perception because in your past you heard and input those lists of symtoms so that you can spit them back out while talking to your doctor.
That is NOT informed concent that is psychological direction and laws are few and far between and loosly enforced in the realm of couersion.
basically put... there are few rules when dealing with such things and the ones that are in the books are not used unless you piss someone off that has power.
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11/18/2009 11:07:01 AM
why would dr.s prescribe medications to any person without having knowledge of the manifestations of social environments ...natural and synthetic environments and consciousness and neurologies..?
let us be plain. some of the corporations and professional classes saw an opportunity and ran with it. and it is not of their interest to know the causes of manifestations of such symptomatic groupings. plain. as the nose on my face.
which is why psychiatrics .....like medias......like professional classes....
have nil for credibility where child care and health is concerned.
bottom line.
It is one of the reasons I do not like people like Dr Phil. It is why i don't like drug commertials. They have no business advertising directly to the people and circumventing the proper diagnosis process.
If you removed all precriptions that are not needed but asked for as they say to do in the commertials would likely be a very big chunk.
They took the power out of the hands of the medical healers and placed it within the hands of untrained people to diag themselves.
Someone of medical knowledge that does their homework would not use many of the drugs on the market. those drug makers KNOW that and wanted more sales so they instead market to the masses to force the doctor to give it to them.
Here in america if we don't like the answer one doctor says we go to another doctor. Sooner or later a doctor will be found that will give what is asked for.
We have informed consent rules in this country. CONSENT should be the most important word in a free society.
I heard in the news a judge ordered a man to go through chemo. IN AMERICA????????????? The land of the free this takes place that we are not allowed to decide for ourselves? Someone that places themselves as all knowing judge orders a dangerous medical treatment upon another that has the same blood, same cells, same capacity for thought?
Judges are above reproach except for their OWN regulating agency? They are allowed to govern themselves but others are not?
Others are not as smart?
The judges spend so much time studying the laws that they do not have time to study LIFE. The very same LIFE that they are passing judgements upon.
They are "experts" as they say. How are they experts when they have not lived in the same pair of shoes?
I am an expert on MY life because I have been the one to live it. Someone from the outside looking in can not be an expert on what they see because it is twisted by their OWN perception.
Where you have been, where you are, and where you want to go forms your perception.
past+present+future=perception
no two perceptions can be the same as a result and therefore no person can without a dought 100% KNOW to what intent someone may have meant with a statement made.
You can not punish someone for your OWN perceptions. If you suround yourself by scum then scummy perceptions are formed.
Is that your topic of conversation?
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11/18/2009 9:54:27 AM
I am thinking you posted a response to a topic you discussed here in another thread. If I mis understood your statement my mistake
they will not respond to me because they are not alpha...beta...or gamma enough.
They likely are not responding to you because even I have to read your text a few times before understanding you and I have some pretty good comprehenshion skills... I just suck at spelling.
Anyone prescribing a treatment involving medications without spending a great amount of time in study of that person would likely be in no position to be dispencing such medications. So if you are expecting a person of medical wisdom to provide a course of treatment over a medium such as the internet, you may wish to think long about what quality of care that would tell you that they are capable of.
Cookie cutter prescribers may be able to, but someone designing a custom course of action based on the persons manifested conditions would not.
The mandate is "Do no harm" and to blindly provide chemical componds that have long term effects without ensuring there is no other course or cause does not fit within the mandate of "Do no harm"
Just my opinion
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwMsLWabU-Y
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uvgi7P97lu0&feature=related
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11/16/2009 10:23:47 AM
They have already established that you are poor...thus ...lousy and selfish lovers, that wealthy men are a dime a dozen in their upper social circles....and YET....here they are on POF to bash you for your misfortune. Can someone tell me, please....WHAT is wrong with this picture?
I will give it a shot... maybe those men that they say they are surrounded by are able to see through their fronts and don't want them as a result because lets face it... If they do have that amount of money .....They did not get it being able to be taken advantage of and likely have a pretty good chance of seeing the spots on the leapords.
The only other thing i could think of is if they enjoy talking down to men so this place is their way of degrading the men without screwing up their chances in the society they reside within.
just a guess
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Do you feel you Do More in a relationship - Or does your SO do more for you?
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11/16/2009 9:12:30 AM
However, I have had relationships (including my marriage) where the guy did NONE of these things. My X did not take care of my car, did not even come out to me when I called and told him I had a flat and was sitting on the side of the road with our 2 children (at the time). I did all the grass cutting for 19 yrs, shopping, preparing all meals, arranging all vacations, household chores (He did NONE). Besides the house stuff, he didn't do the normal (man stuff) either. Didn't take out the trash, cut grass, fix my car, fix stuff in the house... never romanced me --nothing. And I worked outside the house as well.
So, its not about "keeping score", but I think most of us know when we are NOT being treated so well. I fully appreciate any little thing that a guy does for me NOW, because I was treated so crappy in my marriage and by other guys since him.
well because in the one you were able to notice what he did and able to see when the other that did not do anything, the issue was not so much a balance issue for you at the time and may have been a balance issue with him.
Like maybe HE was valuing the things he did at a higher value than the things you did... so in that case it would have been him that was out of balance.
But the fact you stayed with him and were not able to communicate how you felt there was no balance then the result was your whole relationship was out of balance and since you were 50% of that relationship it was you as well that was out of balance.
Now granted he is an EX so at some point you must have tried to balance things out and that balance for you was getting rid of him and finding someone else....
However if you again have ended up with an unbalanced relationship then it is time to look within to discover the cause and try to discover what each of them had that was alike.
I cringe at how some may twist this next comment.
I have seen it talking with several women that found a man that was well endowed so to speak about how they will complain about how they are treated within their relationship. But when they think of leaving them they will spout that they LOVE the guy.... but it is not the love of the guy but instead the love of what the guy has to offer. So without realizing it again a value has been assigned to his penis size and BOTH of you have an elevated value assigned.
If he knows you are in love with that aspect then he assigns it a higher value. If you in fact are ALSO confirming that you are in love with that aspect then you are willing to accept LESS in other aspects to KEEP that one...
again.. NO BALANCE.
they are both on the same side of the scale.
Keeping score happens even for those that say they don't. They just usually choose to call it something else.
It is built in so don't feel guilty of it.
think about this for just a sec.
if someone walks up to you and bumps into you causing you to start to fall you do not even have to think about it. You body will automatically sense that you are about to fall and will make adjustments to your stance or other weight distributions to allow you to not fall.
Like the term people use alot that a cat will always land on its feet if it falls.
Same things can be thought in relationships.
Something in your mind must see things out of balance and try to cause you to land on your feet basically.
Have you ever watched a cat fall off a roof? their bodies will twist all around with legs flailing everywhere till that balance is reached thus allowing them to land on their feet.
You mind is twisting all over flailing its neuron firings all over the place trying to reach that balance point in the fall just like the cat.
Once it is reached then the rest of the trip down to the ground is smooth sailing at least till you reach the ground with a thump.
Just as with that fall you may get a broken leg resulting you to limp through any other relationship until your leg heals.
depending on the severity of the break sometimes you just need to sit still and wait for the wounds to heal with your leg up in the air instead of continuing to walk around on a broken leg on the mend.
If you fall off the roof again while your leg is still healing then you are likely going to do even more damage when that thump comes.
I do hope that made sense.
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11/16/2009 7:55:58 AM
^^^Dreams, those two quotes are from different people. One quoted the other at some point and didn't box the quote so maybe it looks like the same person wrote two different things.
oops i see that now sorry it did not look like a quote from someone else in the post and looked like a statement the op made
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Do you feel you Do More in a relationship - Or does your SO do more for you?
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11/16/2009 7:43:36 AM
HUMMM
So how does this...
I am generally the one who does more for the other person. Not to toot my own horn but I usually try to cook what they like, make my place really comfortable with lots of creature comforts for them, give my man massages, dress up in sexy lingerie and all that stuff.
I mostly do all this stuff because I love the guy and want him to be happy. The "guy" usually does considerably less for me. I have only had one relationship where the guy did a little more than I was use to.
and this....
I'm not an attention seeker in a relationship and certainly don't keep a running score of who does more for the other.
fit together?
Sure as heck sounds like keeping a running score to me. So much so even that you even assign them a position of what all your past relationships have done for you!
If you trully did like doing those things without expecting them to be returned in kind then the thought likely would not have come to mind to even start this thread.
But you DO keep score, and you DO in fact expect to be rewarded for the things that you do.... Sure sounds like seeking attention and keeping score to me.
But you in fact are talking apples to oranges. apples to apples would be if your boyfriend were to respond in kind by cooking what YOU like, make HIS place really comfortable with lots of creature comforts for YOU, give his woman massages, dress up in sexy lingerie and all that stuff.
but you speak nothing of him doing those things. That means YOU are choosing to assign a value to the things he would be doing and that value is lower than the things YOU may do.
see how that works? this assigning value topic has been talked about before but never settled. My thought is the reason it was never settled and disapeared within the forum thread history was because it would offer no benifit to relationships.
Kinda a crappy way to live if you are trying to one up the other and keep track of what you do in life to make sure you get your fair share. The reason is you would be deciding what YOUR fair share should be.
That sends you into the relm of entitlement.
You are placing a value on the things that you do in your relationship and in my opinion that is a failure waiting to happen because there is no guarentee that the person you are with would assign the same value to the things that you do or the things that they do.
Is that really a good way to live? Sounds like a stressfull life of having to keep track of everything that you have done expecting to be repaid.
While yes one sided relationships suck and it can be frustrating when it SEEMS you are the one always doing things for the other. But guiding your mind down that path of thought leeds to you always noticing what you do but failing to see the value in what the other person does.
Are you in a relationship expecting to get something out of it?
If you are always looking at what you are giving expecting it to be returned there would be no balance to the relationship. Balance comes from each recieving something that the other does not have on the scale. If both are recieving the same things be it things like in your examples then those would both go on the same side of the scale and as a result no balance point could be reached so the scales will tip in one direction while the other would be empty and up in the air.
Bottom line... What value have you assigned to the things that you do and what value have you assigned to the things that he does that caused you to consider things as all one sided?
Sounds to me like those assumptions of value and/or worth may need adjustments.
just my opinion which is what you asked for so don't kill the messenger
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In the few years I have been reading these forums it has allowed me to realize that there is much truth in verses such as Ecclesiastes 1:12-18
Wisdom Is Meaningless
12 I, the Teacher, was king over Israel in Jerusalem.
13 I devoted myself to study and to explore by wisdom all that is done under heaven. What a heavy burden God has laid on me!
14 I have seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are meaningless, a chasing after the wind.
15 What is twisted cannot be straightened;
what is lacking cannot be counted.
16 I thought to myself, "Look, I have grown and increased in wisdom more than anyone who has ruled over Jerusalem before me; I have experienced much of wisdom and knowledge."
17 Then I applied myself to the understanding of wisdom, and also of madness and folly, but I learned that this, too, is a chasing after the wind.
18 For with much wisdom comes much sorrow;
the more knowledge, the more grief.
verse 18 is likely to most important one that should come with the disclaimer of "Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it"
Just my opinions and observations
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11/15/2009 7:46:11 PM
This topic as well as the responses people have made had me in a state of query. I was curious to see some of these effects some people talked about so I went out of town this weekend.
While out of town I popped into ye ole watering hole....lol
After being in the bar about 10 minutes and exchanging a few smiles between several of the ladies there, I had a cute blonde come over and sit next to me and start chatting, and sure enough she wanted to buy me a drink. It made me think of this thread and some of the comments said, so I decided to take yalls advice and I allowed her to buy me a drink.
After conversing for awhile I discovered she was 22 years old... (guess it answered the question of if i was still attractive in my middle aged years)
I had not even finished my other drink and she went and bought me a second drink and a shot of something...lol and she just kept right on talking.
I don't look my age so I felt the need to let her know that I am 37 years old. I can only assume she thought I was more her age. She looked a bit shocked and things were a tad odd after a comment that her parents were 42... hummm my last girlfriend was 45, so as I am sure you can imagine it put a few things in perspective for me.
This interaction had me curious about if there was maybe a generational issue that has any bearing on the normalcy of how we relate to each other in social settings.
While I did make some fairly firm eye contact and smiles with several older ladies (more my age) at the bar, it was the 22 yr old that chose to come sit next to me to talk.
We have ladies of all age groups here on these forums so my question for conversation is.....
Do you think age, traditions, and the changes each new generation goes through as having any viable understanding of the who pays question?
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11/13/2009 8:11:18 AM
Dude, dont take this the wrong way, but trying to read your wisdom is like listening to Yoda orate Shakespeare
I understand him. he is speaking old english mixed with what i would guess to be several years of legal education and/or post grad indoctrination.
let me take a wild guess... history professor specializing in BC medical/theological studies? Legal studies having to do with treaties of times gone by?
to understand him you simply need a thesorus and the ability to use your own perception for puncuation.
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11/12/2009 9:47:27 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ih61MJ72v1Y
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11/12/2009 3:39:36 PM
What are the symtoms for E A S? I am starting to suspect that I may have that ailment
In fact I think there are more people with that in this world than ADD...LMAO
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11/12/2009 9:02:10 AM
A first-year university student would get an F on a paper if he turned in as lousy a 'source' as that to back up his theory.
First year students don't write theories. They are doing nothing but knocking out pre-reqs and remedial courses.
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11/12/2009 7:54:46 AM
I've been on these forums for 4+ years and have never changed usernames, so it's safe to say I'm no forum troll, ask a few of the long-timers that have been here and they'll vouch for me whether they be friend or debating foe.
I would have to agree that i have not seen him stand atop any soap boxes in the few years i have read his postings.
*edit* Even when i was standing on some rather tall boxes ...lol
by the way.... I felt the need to post this so those who wished to could see what I meant when talking about my Professor
http://www.stjoenews.net/news/2008/oct/29/service-honors-late-professor/
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11/12/2009 1:23:51 AM
Um. Really, not the case. See, you destroy your credibility when you pull statements like that out of your posterior orifice.
Really?? and you know them and have spoken to them to make the diagnosis that they do not when most will admit that they do? It is the HYPERFOCUS that allowed them to reach where they are. They didn't get there sitting in a classroom. You did notice i said power, money, and knowledge right?
After all they are still valid for scientific studies since most have not finished school so the sophmore problem is not an issue... but good luck getting near them
Someone simply SAYING my credibility is destroyed does not make it true.
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11/11/2009 9:21:00 PM
I rest my case. Goodnight.
I personally have never met you or communicated with you prior to my last comment made, so I am not sure what case you are resting from.
My comment was because after reading your posting it just seemed like POT MEET KETTLE Senerio.
Like you were attempting to demean anyone with ADD as having to be repaired.
I take issue with ANYONE who forms the thought in their mind that THEY are completely normal and others that may be different from them are abnormal.
Do you not see the irony? You admited to desiring a relationship with someone that you suspected as having ADD and knowing that that person had ADD but you kept going back.
Why go back? to fix the person? what makes you a judge if someone is damaged needing fixed? Intellegance? If they are not smart then they need to be fixed by you?
If they are black will you need to make them white? If they are a republican do you need to make them a demoncrate?
Do you really not see? If you have a problem with someone it is NOT their problem... it is YOUR problem.
The very same person that you say has a problem joined with a different person would recieve the answer they they DON'T have a problem.
Not everyone in this world is compatable with everyone else. people are different. You claim to be a teacher of special needs children. But I would dought that very much.
You may be a baby sitter of special needs children with the title of teacher.. but if you dear woman do not understand the basic fundimentals that just because someone is different that they then need you to change them so they can be a "BETTER" person as you say... Then all you are teaching them is that they are different than YOUR section of society....
Guess what... My kind that you so claim are in such need of help are the ones that PAY your paycheck...
As a teacher you likely don't make enough money to have any tax liability so that money you get each month comes from the business owners, affluent people within the community, and federal funds which again comes from the same people you claim are benieth you.
Do you not see that it is the people that are NOT like everyone else that succeed and stand out from the crowd to be counted.
You judge the very same people that FEED you, clothe you, fix your car, build your house, etc. The people that stand apart from the rest of the pack to take control over their OWN destiny.
The top 0.5% of the population as far as money, power, and knowledge all have ADD but you are going to look down upon us? Are you serious my dear lady?
You can be a puppet or a puppeteer. like it or not you are in one of those two positions.
Someone said you can not control someone perceptions in one of the other threads... that is completely WRONG.. You most certainly can and people do every single day.
You are blind to it?
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Has your Adult ADD ruined/sabotaged relationships?
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11/11/2009 8:13:41 PM
Thank you Merrylass, but I most definitely expected him to improve as far as behaving in a more adult and attentive manner, and it didn't happen. So we won't be happening. Whatever he does or doesn't do to help himself is no longer my concern. But it will have to come from within him. I was his partner not his mom & his shrink.
His treatment of me was unacceptable to the point of abusive- whether or not it was disorder related doesn't matter to me. I had to learn to put my needs first. We were incompatible. I wish him well because he deserves his humanity just like anyone. But he's not a good match for me. I am very introverted, verbal, quiet, logical, patient, and tend to be a plodder rather than a sprinter....personality-wise.
He is also old enough to know that his behavior was inappropriate with me. We aren't talking about children, but grown men who are responsible for their behaviors toward others. I am a special educator myself, so am somewhat in tune with these types of issues.
wrong thread or wrong user name?
you have not posted anything in this thread to be thanking her for...lol guess your in the correct place if you have ADD and ended up in this thread from your other thread
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starting to give up findeing love
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11/11/2009 8:01:48 PM
Maybe you should start by findeing a dictionary. Most people don't like corresponding with people who have a difficult time writeing. In this medium, the written word is the main thing you have to scrutinize when choosing someone to correspond with. If you have to spend have ur tyme figgering out wuts beeing sed, a lot gits lost in tranzlashun.
true for some but not all "some" women are more worried about what is being said because like the other poster said... you can fix the spelling with a spell checker.. a superiority complex can never be fixed, it just stays ugly and festers infecting anyone that comes in contact with it.
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Man-shy
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11/11/2009 7:49:42 PM
this is an easy one... Go for the ugly ones and leave the beauties for the rest of us... sorry...um.. hummm
try doing what many other shy guys talk about.. get drunk then you won't remember making an ass out of yourself ...problem solved
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can we now vote to bring back Pontiac?
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11/11/2009 3:18:04 PM
How about the Eagle Talon Tsi AWD?
I transported one of those one time the mid 90's vintage and I do have to agree that, that car had the ability to sit you back in your seat. But sadly I don't like my cars whinning to me all the time when i stomp on the throttle...
I like that growl and that twisting that you can FEEL in your soul as you stomp on the peddle attatched to a V-8
My bemer does not sound or feel the same as an american V-8 and for that reason alone would make me consider it... And you are correct about that cost part that is what i was talking about... They were CLEARLY not making enough of them if dealers were so worried about the bottom line that they were hording and marking up that much.... Kinda makes you wonder just how many of them are already packed up and wrapped in plastic to bring to barret-jackson in 20-30 years.
I think the way things went just goes to show you what happens to a car company when you stop building cars that feed peoples emotions and try to build cars to feed other things :(
I could totally see many coming back to american made muscle if they stopped promoting them for collectors and instead brought them out for the drivers
It is my opinion thats where things headed down the path it was on that resulted in the US having to pick up GM's tab
The copo (spelling) cars of the 70's were for the collectors.. the specialty cars basically where you could browse through their assembly line inventory and cherry pick what you wanted with no limits... like being able to hit the check box on that 780 HP small block nobody is suppose to know about in a nice bird laced chassis
It would not matter to me if they had to drop the HP with a computer that could then be yanked out and replaced with the one on the board....lol
still no takers on even if it is possible to pursuade congress to pressure to get our bird back on the road?
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Has your Adult ADD ruined/sabotaged relationships?
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OP look at things this way if you want.
If you do not respect someone then it does not matter what label they put on you.
I learned this when i was a child. There was a point that i reached when i had read just about everything that those from my youth had read and i was able to understand why they thought i was a bad person.
However, as a FREE person in america I chose to just be ME!!!!!
I am a Christian. One of the lessons i learned from my faith is that maybe there is a reason I have ADD. After many years of being forced when younger it made me realize something.
Where would I be at today if they had just left me alone. Not like I ever hurt anyone. They justified it by saying it was best. I now know everything any of them could ever know and then some and it is because of my ADD that I was able to learn it a lot faster than they were able to.
Since learning to adapt to my ADD I have learned more about myself than they could ever know about me.
I don't respect anyone that would ever FORCE their OPINION onto another ;)
You see it every day out there. A group of people thinking they know best.
The one person I did have respect for was one of my Psychology professors.
I know we are not suppose to mention peoples names but Dr Huntermark was the type of Psychologist I think many strive to become but rarely make it.
I learned so much from him in the short time i knew him because not once did he ever try to assume he KNEW what was going on in my mind.
I asked questions he offered his thoughts, he asked questions, I offered my thoughts and we were able to teach each other at the same time.
It is my opinion that this world and the field of psychology is operating at a deficit due to his passing.
All the many students he could have taught his ways to are not going to be out working in that field anymore.
He is the only Psychologist that I have ever read of that glimmered that incling enough to want to learn more from him. The rest I have encountered just seem to be regurgitating crap from text books. He used a book in his class because the school made him, but he never opened it, and his grades assigned were not dependent on the student opening it either... He was more woried about HOW someone understands things than he ever cared about WHAT they understood.
This world was certainly a little brighter while he was here on earth.
Bottom line... Don't bother listening to half these people like like to jump to diag someone with this or that disorder.
One thing he told me that kinda made him a bit of an outcast was a diagnosis of matters of the mind is used for billing purposes. No two people are the same and since that is the case not a single firmly accepted diagnosis can be applied across the boards.
just my opinions and thoughts.
most people freak when they discover that i was kicked out of school in the 9th grade and never went to highschool basically. Totally self taught which it shows in my writing.
My ADD is what has allowed me to teach myself as much as I have learned thus far in my life. It is a part of what makes me "Unique"
It is my chose and freedom to be who I am. You work what works best for you.
If chemicals work for you then chose them. You won't be the same person while on them.
Or just be who you are and instead of trying to FIT what someone else thinks you SHOULD be like just find someone who likes you just the way you are and you will know happiness.
Good luck
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Men, tell me whats the attraction
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11/11/2009 8:57:10 AM
Men should enjoy being wanted for who they are, instead of needed for what they can give, do, provide, fix.
I am not sure about other men, and can only talk about myself. I personally don't get into a relationship with someone because they need me. Never have and never will.
My relationship with them is based on a simple question asked to myself. " Does having her in my life make my life better, more enjoyable, more balanced?"
If the answer is a NO! then later gator. If the answer is a Yes! then what I give, do, provide, or fix for them is not relevant. I would be with them because they add quality to MY life so my balance comes from adding quality to HER life.
I am not attracted to broken, damaged, nutty women. But I have been attracted to women that may have had a few issues but their core person was un-damaged.
When the core of a person is not damaged the rest is just superficial and subject to change at any moment.
I mean seriously, I have seen some that their lives were such a nasty mess that a quick glance has you shaking your head thinking why bother. But when you look at the core of the person everything in there is not a mess. Many times just a simple helping hand causes a complete change in their lives.
Then there are those who put those fronts on that with a quick glance seem to have their lives working out great, but at the end of the day their cores are skewed and that result means it is only a matter of time before their lives come crashing down around them.
I am not saying it is the case but maybe the men you are questioning just simply see the surface and not the woman behind the visable, and it is that, that makes you think they have a "Knight in Shinning Armor" save the girl mentality.
They could have just seen what she wanted them to see only to discover after the fact that what was shown was not what they recieved.
Like one of the first posts i made on these forums many years ago talked about. I ordered a Portable laptop tray and the disclaimer said that the product MAY differ than what was shown in the picture. I had ordered it anyways figuring I would just get a laptop tray that was not of the same quality as what was in the picture, I was not however expecting to get a pasta pot in the mail instead of a laptop tray.
Life is kinda like that. What you see is not nessesarily what you get. Someone can look perfect but be a total mess inside and also someone can look to be a total mess on the outside but be completely balanced on the inside.
just my thoughts.
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can we now vote to bring back Pontiac?
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11/11/2009 8:18:04 AM
well a Trans Am and a Camaro are NOT the same car nor have they ever been the same car.
different suspenssion componants, engines, interiors, etc. granted some of the body parts and yes many other parts were iterchangable but that is not meaning they were the same parts.
The question still remains.
I know it is said that even though the government chose to not micromanage and instead is the owner and allowing them to manage how they wish... but
Are there any political, legal types on the forums that may have an answer?
If we OWN GM, Does that not also mean that "we the people" now also OWN Pontiac?
I agree that the direction Pontiac was headed was the wrong way. I always considered Pontiac as a performance brand.
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