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 Author Thread: what would u do?
 omoya
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
what would u do?
Posted: 1/13/2007 4:02:13 PM
Think of your son, even if your own head's a little cloudy. What would this uncertainty do to him? What would he feel, if things didn't work? Is the uncertainty good for him?

I was a single mom--I AM a single mom, but my daughter is in college now and ready to leave the nest. And every decision I made up to now was pretty much based upon how it would effect her. I felt that since she had no choice in those decisions, and was depending on me to create a safe haven in which she could grow and prosper...I needed to spare her as much turmoil as possible. Now that she's old enough to handle her own life pretty much...I can do what I like. I still consider her feelings, but what I do won't effect her nearly as much now.

So...think of that beautiful little guy, and act accordingly, is my advice!
 omoya
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 169 (view)
 
To the men: What do men want in a woman?
Posted: 1/13/2007 3:56:46 PM
It's..."grammar" not "grammer" class. I couldn't resist it, I'm sorry! I'm just teasing you, really... I'm sure that was a typo, actually, but in a message about spelling...just too precious!
 omoya
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 216 (view)
 
can we change somebody
Posted: 1/13/2007 3:52:34 PM
The only person you can change is you. So you have two options: change the way you see this person, and see if that helps you stay with it...or leave, which will allow both of you to be who you really are. The fact that you're asking that question says there's trouble ahead for both of you. And...think of it this way: how would you feel if you knew he was asking the same about you? If it would put you off...do unto him as you'd have him do unto you. Take it...or leave it.
 omoya
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Expectations Lower after 50? We learn No expectations
Posted: 1/11/2007 12:07:42 PM
What a sad question. No, is my answer. If anything, my expectations are higher, because the men I meet should be moving into this exciting "mid life adventure," too. Of, if they're younger, then they appreciate the wisdom I have to offer, and it's going to be an amazing journey indeed.

Aged wines cost more. Women of "a certain age," likewise, are worth a little more, I think! And to "sell" yourself short...would be a shame!
 omoya
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 377 (view)
 
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/11/2007 11:57:04 AM
I think it's your particular age that's the problem! My daughter is 19, and I've actually had a couple of her buds tell me that "if things were different," they'd go for it. Very flattering, but...we know we're all kidding. It's really difficult, for a mom at least, to have a serious "date" with a man so young. I don't want to feel maternal...I want to feel we're at least close to equal in experience and emotional depth.

So...while I have found a few "mannish boys" out there...for the most part, the only emotion I can muster for the others is motherly at best. And...a hint? If you want a mature woman...please stop writing in "Net speak." Definite turn off!
 omoya
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 886 (view)
 
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 1/11/2007 11:52:52 AM
Can men and women be friends? I've found it only works "safely" for me with men who I once dated and have made peace with, over time, or co-workers or others who are absolutely "casual" confidantes with some there's no any possibility of sexual tension. Otherwise...someone is bound to be hurt.

My daughter and I have been talking about this a lot lately. We've both had experiences with guys we really enjoyed but didn't want to "date," who were really upset later when they tried to take it to the next step and found out how we felt even when we'd announced from jump that we weren't interested in a romantic relationship. Conversely, we've had men flirt with and seem to "court" us, and leave us in he "friendzone," too. I'm old enough now to know when even the most attentive man isn't really that into me--and I usually let go immediately. If he's someone I was initially attracted to romantically, I feel it's dangerous to do what some do--prolong the friendship a bit too long, hoping. It really does a number on self-esteem.

Three of my best friends in the world are former lovers, who know me better than anyone and can advise me about everything from my career to my romantic encounters in valuable ways. But I have vowed never to stick with a "friendship" with a man to whom I'm attracted who doesn't feel the same!
 
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