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 Author Thread: Which is worse, being dumped or doing the dumping?
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Which is worse, being dumped or doing the dumping?
Posted: 9/26/2012 11:19:45 PM
If you are fed up with someone and you leave it too long without telling the person it becomes really difficult but at the end of it you get that sense of relief. Being dumped is never pleasant unless it's what you wanted too. Speaking for myself being dumped has been mostly about hurt pride and with one or two exceptions I've recovered quickly.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Does how much you spend on a date matter?
Posted: 7/2/2012 12:04:02 AM
I did have a date once that didnt buy one drink all night. I bought the first round and then sat there with an empty glass for the rest of the night. Mind you I am bit of a lightweight so maybe he thought I'd had enough! Normally I dont expect a guy to spend much at all - the conversation is more important.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Greed
Posted: 7/1/2012 2:19:22 AM
I'm not greedy. The only debt I have is my mortgage and that will be finished in a few years. I will treat myself occasionally to something I want but dont really need but I call that cheering myself up :)
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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What words should be banned from profiles?
Posted: 7/1/2012 1:51:01 AM
Looking for friendship and see where it leads. I dont suppose it's that bad but I find it annoying.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Won't date locally?
Posted: 7/1/2012 1:44:34 AM
I found years ago when I was on a paid dating site that I got more interest in men who were either local or in neighbouring towns. I suppose some people feel if they havent met anyone they fancy in their home town after many months or years of looking they might as well look further afield or as someone else said they could be married or in a relationship and dont want to be caught out!
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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would you date a person who dd not get Shakespeare?
Posted: 7/1/2012 1:34:02 AM
Of course I would. Would anyone base a relationship on that subject? I mean would you question someone you potentially liked about it? 'So do you like Shakespeare?'
'No not really'
'Oh look at the time, I must go'
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Do ya wanna be in my gang?
Posted: 6/7/2012 11:22:29 AM
My dad was in the police force and we were always moving about so I would just get to a new school and make a few friends and then we would leave so I never really felt that I fitted in. I was never what you would call popular but things got better after I left school.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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How smug are you - about your life...
Posted: 6/6/2012 12:41:35 AM
I dont lie about my life, quite a few of the old regulars know what went on. I dont think people are smug, I suppose they just dont want everyone to know about any skeletons, not until they get to know them better anyway.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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I don't get it
Posted: 6/1/2012 5:22:16 AM

…Facebook is for common trash ..


uh huh ... I shall see all of you later in the trash can with all the other nearly intelligents, dimwits and galoots
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Celebrities on Plenty of Fish ?
Posted: 5/27/2012 8:13:49 AM
I had a pic of Prince Harry come up as having viewed me once. Haha. The profile was gone the next day so I expect the mods deleted it.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Musical guilty pleasures
Posted: 5/27/2012 8:09:00 AM
Westlife, Blue and Back Street Boys - I cant help it I like boybands
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Sleeping with someone you work with
Posted: 5/27/2012 12:51:13 AM
I think its the old double standards thing again Lus because Im sure all the blokes thought he was a bit of a lad and I was the tart unless I was being paranoid, which is possible as I did regret it , and it was a bit of a non event too as he had loads to drink.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Sleeping with someone you work with
Posted: 5/27/2012 12:16:29 AM
Has anyone ever done this? I did once and it made it so uncomfortable I thought I would have to leave. Im sure he told everyone and I had this feeling everyone was whispering behind my back. It was an office party and a drunken session back at mine afterwards. Learned by it and never did it again.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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WORDS
Posted: 5/26/2012 11:45:05 PM
Aww I love it when little children make mistakes. The latest one my granddaughter has come home with is. 'lets give her a round of acclause' (applause). She could never say hospital when she was younger, it always came out hostipal. When my son was little he used to ask for a cheese and prickle sandwich - Im sure there must be many more.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Claim to fame.......
Posted: 5/26/2012 7:44:56 AM

t depends on what sort of play you mean sprite!! lol. I think the man himself is impressive by virtue of his talent... so, yep, impressive to me. Even more impressive if you can get a couple of front seat tickets to see Deep Purple.... let me know. Cheers! x


Well we were very little at the time! I know he isnt well at the moment (bad legs or something!) The age thing gets us all in the end as I think he's 67 now. Doesnt look bad for his age though. His sister is on my facebook so I will ask her about the tickets!
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Claim to fame.......
Posted: 5/26/2012 7:13:17 AM
That's very cool sprite! I LOVE Deep Purple.


To be honest he is my second cousin I think. My mum and his mum are first cousins (does that make us second cousins?) - Im more friendly with his sister pauline as we are closer in age. She lives in maidenhead and we see each other from time to time. I used to play with Ian when we were little but as adults I havent seen him for years. That's not so impressive I guess !
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Claim to fame.......
Posted: 5/26/2012 4:01:49 AM
Roger Daltrey from the Who touched my hair when I was 18, Errol from Hot Chocolate touched my hand once and my cousin is Ian Gillan from Deep Purple :)
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Dodgy reading ?
Posted: 5/26/2012 3:59:00 AM
I dont think either would bother me too much if they were upfront about it and I suppose if they left it lying around they wouldnt be embarrassed about visitors seeing it. I might ask about it I guess.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Who do you sit next to on the bus/train?
Posted: 5/24/2012 9:40:28 AM
I really dont like sitting next to someone I dont know - I know its unavoidable at times if youre on a packed train but I would rather stand up if the journey isnt too long.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Gut instinct
Posted: 5/24/2012 9:38:18 AM
Its very hit and miss with me. Ive ignored my gut instincts and been right - I suppose you would say that is taking a risk which turns out ok. There have been times when Ive really been sure about something in my head but its all gone wrong. Surely that happens to everyone sometimes. Im a really bad judge of character too. People I initally like turn out to be dodgy and Im incredibly good friends with people I didnt at first like.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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what is love?
Posted: 5/21/2012 10:57:58 PM
Real love is something which withstands the test of time. I think my dad found it with his second wife, its something completely different to those early heady romantic days at the beginning which fade. He was able to talk to her without saying anything, a look,a smile or a touch, Ive never found that.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 34 (view)
 
What piece of equipment upsets you most when it goes wrong?
Posted: 5/21/2012 11:45:46 AM

That sounds like a serious medical issue Sprite !!


Funny you should say that as my second pregnancy was also due to a coil failure!
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 31 (view)
 
What piece of equipment upsets you most when it goes wrong?
Posted: 5/21/2012 8:55:54 AM
Well my problem got worse. I broke down, had to get recovery and it turned out to be coil failure - at least it was something easy to fix.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Strong Independent Women
Posted: 5/20/2012 11:53:09 PM
I think of my self as strong and independent but I also have a softer side and Im not afraid to ask for help if I need it. Ive had to cope alone for quite a lot of my life and for the most part Ive done it without too much of a problem. You dont have to be a nightmare just because you have those qualities.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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What piece of equipment upsets you most when it goes wrong?
Posted: 5/20/2012 9:07:39 AM
^^^ ah nobilo youre my saviour today - I only took it to see if it was the battery because they have one of those probe thingys and it was one of the few places open today. Going to my proper garage tomorrow :)
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Clairvoyants and Mediums
Posted: 5/20/2012 8:34:43 AM
I have an open mind. I went to a medium in my 20s and she didnt tell me anything earth shattering. In fact she told me I would be married by the age of 30 and that didnt happen! lol. Im sure there are genuine people out there.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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What piece of equipment upsets you most when it goes wrong?
Posted: 5/20/2012 8:31:24 AM
Sigh ... I have no idea whats wrong with my car. The engine turns over but it takes 4 attempts to start. Took it to kwikfit and its not the battery or the alternator. Maybe coilpack. Is that expensive any of you mechanics?

I think the second most annoying thing is washing machine although I can always take my washing up my mums.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Putting things into perspective....
Posted: 5/20/2012 8:00:53 AM
I constantly realise how lucky I am with my health and it certainly cannot be taken for granted as none of us know what is round the corner. My daughter who is 25 has a herniated disk problem and suffers periods of excrutiating pain. Its horrible to watch and all I can do is run around after her and make her life as easy as possible. The disks press on the sciatic nerve and painkillers really dont touch it. Its at these times I am thankful to get away with a few age related aches and pains.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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My son/daughter will always come first.
Posted: 5/20/2012 7:30:15 AM
I suppose any woman wants a prospective partner to accept her children and she would want him to know that but I agree it might seem a little offputting to see it written on a profile. I had a boyfriend once that my daughter really didnt like - and I think she was right as he turned out to be a bit of a loser although she was a teenager at the time. When they are very young you do have to put them first but you hear of mothers that run off with a man and leave their children behind so I suppose not all women have that maternal instinct.

Im sure women who write this on their profiles do not want to sound unwelcoming, they just want you to know their children are important to them and you need to be able to accept them.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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What piece of equipment upsets you most when it goes wrong?
Posted: 5/20/2012 7:18:59 AM
^^^^ lol ... its usually only the batteries indigo!
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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What piece of equipment upsets you most when it goes wrong?
Posted: 5/20/2012 7:15:29 AM
We depend on modern technology to make our lives simpler and we do tend to take it for granted ... until it goes wrong .... whether it be heating and hot water, washing machine or car. My car is throwing a wobbly at the moment and I will be soooo lost if it packs up. What piece of equipment affects your life the most if it goes wrong?
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Comedians...
Posted: 5/20/2012 6:54:01 AM
Im not really into standup so I havent seen one live but if I did it would be Russell Howard as I think he's funny and I make an exception for him and possibly Jo Brand.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Things that should not be posted as a status on Facebook?
Posted: 5/20/2012 6:50:09 AM
I hate it when people post 'going for a wee' or similar. That's just pathetic. Also bitterness after a breakup makes me cringe. People post the most vile things about each other.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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What messages gets you to answer them
Posted: 5/18/2012 11:45:24 PM
Actually annoying messages are likely to get a response from me. I had one the other day who got the wrong end of the stick about my circumstances and I wanted to put him straight. I thought better of it in the end though so just left it.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Parenting classes for parents
Posted: 5/18/2012 11:27:49 PM
I think that people who feel they need the classes because they genuinely want the best for their kids are the ones that need it least. As indigo says the people that really need it wouldnt be the slightest bit interested.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Do we hurt ourselves more than we need to?
Posted: 5/18/2012 11:23:15 PM
I dont think Im oversensitive but I do let people get to me sometimes. On here I have found myself getting annoyed at things people say and I would like to be like Lus who doesnt seem to get phased at much at all - but Im not him so I guess I will carry on being miffed from time to time because that's who I am.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Are you a Good Samaritan?
Posted: 5/18/2012 11:15:33 PM
Ive stopped and helped at a road traffic accident before without even thinking. It was horrible and someone died. If it was someone I didnt like? I cant think of an instance where its happened but if it were a life or death situation I would probably call an ambulance. There is a horrible man who lives round by me, he drinks heavily and is abusive to most of the neighbours but if he collapsed I would still get help so I guess I am a good samaritan.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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3 Strikes and you are out!
Posted: 5/18/2012 11:08:06 PM
Ooh one of my children I have given far too many chances and I expect I will carry on - I find its impossible to completely abandon him no matter how hard I try. Other people its different. I tend not to fall out with people and I kind of know those I should avoid.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Are conditions like ADHD an excuse for parents who have naughty kids?
Posted: 5/18/2012 8:54:26 AM
I'm very divided in my opinion of this. As I said on another thread, I know a child who has been diagnosed with ADHD but he does have a really unsettled home life. I cant even go into all of it because it is so complicated. Basically he lives with his father (who turned out not to be his biological father), was separated from his natural mother for a year while the parents fought over custody and now sees his mother every other weekend whilst residing with his rather poor role model father.

His behaviour is just horrendous and the school have now stepped in and got social services involved. I really feel that his home life contributes largely to his appalling behaviour. How the hell is ADHD assessed? Dont they as a first resort look into the home to see what's going on there. There have been numerous girlfriends of the father who havent been able to cope with him and treated him badly. Of course he's going to behave like a tyrant and I dont think its all his fault.

But Im not wishing to dismiss the fact the ADHD exists in some children - Im sure it does, Someone here said a few clips round the ear would sort a difficult child out. I think its a little more complicated than that - my son was quite difficult as a child, but not diagnosed with any condition, and if a few clips round the ear could have sorted him out my life would have been a breeze!
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Nightmare Dates
Posted: 5/18/2012 12:22:50 AM
^^^ Kags I remember you from a previous POF life. Was that date someone from here? lol I remember him too! Live and learn eh?
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Nightmare Dates
Posted: 5/17/2012 11:53:53 AM
^^^^ lol did you see her again?
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Things that make you go hmmm.....
Posted: 5/17/2012 11:46:45 AM
^^^ yeah we get that too. I wait until its dark then find someone who doesnt have much in their bin and put it in there :)
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Monkey see, Monkey do................?
Posted: 5/17/2012 11:20:59 AM


Hey don't knock it Sprite my lovely,


Im not knocking it Ant but I do feel that a child who has been diagnosed with this needs calm and stability in his life. Im not saying his dad doesnt love him but he has been given a list of dos and donts as regards diet but he doesnt think its important so nothing is changing.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Monkey see, Monkey do................?
Posted: 5/17/2012 11:10:31 AM
I believe that some children are more affected by the things they witness. You get kids that are dragged up and grow up ok people in spite of their upbringing and you get kids from happy loving families that go off the rails.

Im quite worried about a child at the moment. He has been diagnosed with ADHD but I think it has more to do with his home life. His father lets him watch horror movies and play violent computer games and now the school have called in social services because of his aggression towards the other kids. I dont feel he's being looked after properly. I know the dad is a nasty piece of work too. I look at this kid and think what chance has he got in life with such a poor role model?
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Things that make you go hmmm.....
Posted: 5/17/2012 10:41:33 AM
Most of my friends dont even know what a forum is! lol. I usually say message board but no one has criticised me to my face and I wouldnt really care if they did.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Nightmare Dates
Posted: 5/17/2012 8:17:42 AM

.. for heaven's sake ... what difference does it make if someone uses a Lidl plastic bag or a M&S bag - it's just a bag ffs! What a total SNOB!


I thought that. In fact as it got towards the end of the post I wondered if it was made up. Now where's my sainsburys carrier - Im very upmarket dontcha know
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Where I live vs my old Home-town?
Posted: 5/16/2012 11:42:56 PM

There are many other reasons to move to my home-town and they also have far more merits than living here in solitude, I believe!


Then go for it aggers. I think you know its the right thing to do.
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Men and women living apart.
Posted: 5/16/2012 11:40:36 PM
I dont see myself as an unsociable loner. I think living apart is a great idea especially after a few failed marriages. When things get tense you can just retreat to your own house. Perfect!
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Coloured hair on blokes
Posted: 5/16/2012 11:36:37 PM
I think the colour you have on it right now is ok but Im not sure how I'd feel about purple hair. As everyone else says it is up to you but if youre asking how many ladies would be ok with an unusual colour I think the proportion lessens. No matter how much we like to think that age doesnt matter it does a little and I think we need to tone it down. Im in my 60s now and although I colour my hair its quite close to my natural colour which is a strawberry blonde. As my sister says 'there's something about blonde hair that turns a man's head' - still waiting for that lol! If I had coloured it pink or purple in my forties people would have been muttering behind their hands I think!
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Where I live vs my old Home-town?
Posted: 5/16/2012 7:44:56 AM

That would depend if you fit the criteria Sprite ...........
Do you wear dentures and do your nipples stand erect more than 12mm at the point of arousel



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