So evidently you're an extrovert masked by social anxiety as well then? The reason I ask is because you posted this in another thread....

I did that very thing during my "introvert" days as well.

Unwarranted background checks, in my opinion, are an invasion of privacy pure and simple, and if I found out someone I was dating ran one on me we'd be done (I don't get involved with needlessly suspicious people). I have nothing to hide about myself and will gladly answer any questions she might have. Googling someone and getting publicly available information about them isn't quite the same thing, but it becomes a slippery slope. How much is too much? What if they have a rather common name and information comes back about someone else with the same name? That information can be easily misunderstood or misconstrued, and suddenly you're guilty until proven innocent. I've done a google on myself and had some interesting stuff, both good and bad, come back about people that aren't me, including my father, who has the same name and isn't the nicest person in the world.

I'm all for being safe, but when you get down to it, if your paranoia is so overwhelming that you feel the need to preemptively suspect someone, maybe you shouldn't be dating at all. Of course you shouldn't be naive, but trust is an all or nothing proposition and a necessary element to any successful relationship.

Just as having a mate is not currently all that important to the OP even though he claims and probably thinks it is. If it were, he would be willing to do whatever was necessary to obtain one. But the fact that he cannot seem to find the motivation to commit himself shows that he is comfortable enough being single.

Sorry to break it to you, but guess what. "Help me break out of my bubble" means "help me become more extroverted."

But the OP is lazy. Being an introvert has nothing to do with working out. It's not a social activity. Yet in the first post he said he'd love to have six pack abs but didn't want to do the work to get them.

He's using the introvert card as an excuse for not doing the work necessary to reap the rewards for anything. Life doesn't work like that. You do the work and reap the rewards or you decide to live without the rewards and don't make any effort. But his current mindset is that of someone who might say, "I'd love to be rich, but I really don't want to get a job."

Hey Bro, Don't listen to all the people trying to say your just looking for sympathy or your so wrong etc etc..

Pretty much everything you have stated is 100% true..

Yeah you're always going to have people that disagree but who cares the fact is you're right..

Ive been with enough women and Ive experienced the same exact thing its sad but ive had to resort to not being so nice now.. I also have alot of male friends who have gone through the same thing, now you too? Ya it isnt a coincidence..

You dont have to be a jerk or anything, just be a man and do what you want to do when you want to do it, you need to lead your life...

Idaho is a very religious state

There is not such a thing as a "nice guy" I get so tired of this term.

Extroverts listen but being a "constant talker" doesn't make you an extrovert. But we do enjoy converation and othen like to discuss life as it happens. Life is like a movie to us but in a movie it is rude to talk...but in life you can ask questions or make comments. "What was that guy thinking wearing only one green sock?"

Sorry, but I have to call bullshit on this one. I was an introvert for a very long time, and I made the conscious choice to become an extrovert. In addition to that, as happy as I thought I was as an introvert, it does not compare to the enjoyment I've received from being an extrovert.

My favorite question on that test, "Do you believe the best answer is one that can be changed easily?" That was a definite yes for me. I form opinions but there never rock solid and immoveable As new facts, evidence and insight are discovered, it must be analyized and the answer could change <--- "yeah that shows a narrow personality (sarcasim)"

o hahah those were sum of the fking dumbest jokes i have ever heard. are u serious u guys are 50 and 60 telling fking blond jokes seriously get al ife

Well I only went with him once on a trip to see his family for a holiday...they live out of state. But he still comes over here like part of the family and has even gone and seen my Dad at work. He hasn't been in a serious "committed" relationship in years and that one was a bad situation. So idk..he's a loner, but I've felt for a while like he just wants me to wait around in case he ever wants to settle down or whatever. I've given him a couple opportunities to walk away completely and he hasn't...so idk what he really wants of me. He's like a little boy sometimes that can't express his feelings. I know, I know, yall are gonna be like...then why do you like him? I don't have a good answer. :( ha.

IF he loved you...you wouldn't have "caught" him with someone else..in any manner! Sorry to say but YOU should MOVE ON!

However, we are exclusive, or so he says, but I think 5 months is a long time to not work toward a relationship.

You were dating a married man. She's not his ex-wife, she is his wife.
Move on.
He's made it clear he doesn't want a relationship, he wants you to pursue other men, and he has too much unfinished business.
There's no chance. Even if he ever gets divorced, he won't be ready for an insta-relationship.

I've never been much of yacker and instead have learned the power of being a listener... you never learn anything from talking that you don't already know. Shut up for a while and discover the world through someone else's eyes...

Simple, when she's asking if you want condements.. catchup, sugar, sweetener, etc. you add "...and your number." If she's single & interested, she'll include that with your order.

I think all the guys in this thread should open a "...why don't women respond...?" thread and tell them to stop posting with complaints about women who respond because it's causing you to get half azz responses from uninterested women.

Make up your minds, dudes!

When we respond politely though uninterested, we're leading men on. When we don't respond at all we're rude and inconsiderate of the time and effort it took to put together a "thoughtful e-mail". Pick one and be done with it.

eh...nice guys can end up being douchebags too. Trust me I know. Did the same thing that you talk about, after many years of being with hot guys that either lied, cheated, or whatever.... I met a "nice" guy, not too attractive, married him (I thought for life). Dealt with his ED issues, but in the end (9 years later) he and a married co-worker of his/mine had an affair. He turned into a complete douchebag and wrecked my fairytale ending. Now we are divorced. Personally, I'm going back to dating hot guys.

y best friend (he's a guy) and I ended our friendship in August, after many, many arguments about his road rage. I kept tellling him I would not put up with it, and went so far as to not ride in his vehicle for over a year (while we maintained our friendship). He told me he had conquered his bad behavior, and I believed him. I rode with him 3 times this summer, to the beach and back. The first 2 times he got pissed at other drivers, but didn't "rage." The third time he lost his cool and drove like a maniac -- tailgated, cut in front of someone and then slammed on his brakes, flipped the bird, shouted, cussed, well you get the picture. I got out of the vehicle and we have not talked since. I miss his friendship, but it wasn't worth losing my life. I don't feel guilty.

Pfft...I've never found it difficult to drop acquaintances. Prospective friend gets sussed out...first time is always the last time when on probation...like someone I know at the moment wants to borrow $2,500 so he can buy night vision goggles...I mean like WTF????? Are you insane??? But its on sale...

I find a good way to deter said bible bashers is to have
a chainsaw strategically placed near the door.
When opening the door pick up the chainsaw, and ask
in a very low menacing voice, "did you come alone?"

Actually he is my typical friend. I DON'T sleep around and I have had something to drink twice in my entire life. I am not familiar with guys when they are drunk which is why I asked. I thought he liked me and I know he respects me(then and now) I just didn't know if him not wanting to go farther ment he wasn't attracted to me. And if he wasn't he wouldn't say it, he is too nice of a guy.

someone compliments the peice and asks where you got it.. How are you going to answer?

(a convention ...lol... sorry. Maybe when you're older you'll see the dried up old ass joke of 'out-of-town conventions' )

I think I would tell that clown and any other guy that has the nerve to tell you to hurry you are in your prime to can it.. as I was laughing I would walk away...That sounds to me like a very very desperate little boy..Not something even when I was your age I would have wasted my time with.

Your very attached to this particular thread so I am sensing that you've been through something simular.

It's not one sided, you can see he works, (too much) you can see he then chills with the kids (but continues working), you can see that she did the driving to him but that he stood his ground after 7 months to only once every 3 weeks... I can see it.

If you were married, wouldn't you talk to your wife about all of this in a mature manner, and not think of it as being dirty or pornographic?