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Joined: 1/11/2007

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Sad about my lost love Posted: 8/28/2008 2:42:11 PM
Sorry for your loss lisa and it is true, time heals the wounds, not so much because you forget but more because YOU REMEMBER! whatever it was that you did, Only time can mend that hurt. { for both parties involved} Make peace with yourself and also with him, come from an honest place in your heart { Rather then a scared place, Fear of losing him, Lonliness. ETC} also time will bring truth to surface, if you truly love this person, time will reveal clarity and true feelings { For both parties involved}. Don't be so hard on yourself, and simply try to learn the lesson in what has happened and try not to repeat the mistake, Digest your sadness and live to fight another day. Sorry if it sounds like i'm talking out of my hat I wish you all the happiness you desire M-

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still think about her Posted: 8/13/2008 7:37:34 PM
the question you probably need to ask yourself is Is your pride stronger then your need to reach out? a simple phonecall would not kill, even just to say hello, been thinking about what went wrong and seeing if you have been allright? at least you will have your answer, and will not need to have the WHAT IF? Dogging you on occasion. No matter what, You will get your answer I wish you the best of luck

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 8/8/2008 10:18:54 PM
Quazi Suicidal, nah...I would be foolish to waste anything as precious as a life on the shadowless " Or for that matter, even another blinked eye. and i'm a tightrope walker that teaches people how to take pictures of themselves in the mirror, Minus the flash glare. Sorry i pissed you off, ...Now i won't be able to sleep

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 8/8/2008 12:24:34 PM
I can't stress enough of how bad this condition can hurt people Obviously those with a oh He/She... just has issues attitude, has never actually had to DEAL with the condition. and for those of us who Do/Have, It's a tough life, to say the least. but on a realistic level, in a nutshell, people with this condition, can basically take months, years, ...EVEN decades! of a relationship ...and chalk them off as an inning...MEANS NOTHING!, Kid's No Biggie, Life together, So what, I'm bored...You get the point...It's a living nightmare! This isn't playing someone, this isn't being the smarter person and walking away before you get TOO Involved. This is humanity at it's absolute worse as far as emotions are concerned. sad to say but many of us have dated, are in relationships with THIS pattern. and many of us tend to blame ourselves, Some of us might even do something drastic and commit suicide do to the games of these unwell people { I assure you, it has happened, and ironically the personality disorder person STILL did NOT feel Fulfilled afterwards!} It's best to step away, take stock in what you have { Concentrate on who you were before the Living ghost stepped in your life} and Know you are not the one who is crazy. and by all means, Don't Think you can fix them...it's not possible We all deserve to be loved, ...not made prey by those who hide behind smiles and Glibness. Sorry if this has offended anyone, but it's difficult to sympathize with the Heartless

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 8/8/2008 7:38:01 AM
Love this thread, thanks for posting I've noticed two types of responses, THOSE of people who have had the misfortune of dealing with personality disorder lovers, and those who simply chalk it off as ISSUES { Hey, we all have em right?}...WRONG!...If these are issues, folks were talking Life magazines worth of em. BPD is more then simply an issue, ...it's not something that one takes with a grain of salt. as another poster has stated, it does indeed have many levels/variables and degrees and of course, please know that these people are indeed sick. but the infinite patience that it requires, the habitual lying and heartbreak, the idea that everything that you have been told, was merely based on a game, and that secretly you are actually held in contempt, by the borderline IS TRULY ENOUGH for your average person to pack your bags and change your Phone #'s from my understanding, Most therapists do not like the idea of treating these people, since they can easily LIE, Even to themselves? your average person might think OH I can help them?...Wrong, ...they cannot be helped, and the only thing they will help themselves to, is your soul. One really needs to question, is it worth dating someone, who gets off on lying and making you feel badly, simply to fill they're deep emotional void? mental illness, or pure evil?...I guess no one really knows.

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My X-Wife hidden shady background. Posted: 6/7/2008 1:07:07 PM
Have you considered Possible Sociopath? It effects 4% of society Anything up with her eyes? Cold dark, dolls eyes? Did she originally WOO YOU with some saccarin Sweet Sob Story? You had mentioned she's a pack and go joe?...the basic calling card of the Living ghost. READ, read, read... about the condition. Then arm yourself, ...as unpredictable as those people try to be, ...they are VERY predicable. You can almost set your watch by they're predictability. I wish you the best of luck.

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The worst of head games!!! Posted: 3/12/2008 9:18:38 PM
Umm i don't think this pattern only belongs to the male species I've also been the victim of this SAME pattern, in what appeared to be a perfect girl. it's definitely some type of mental deficiency, or some type of abuse, which may have occured. i think any person that can toy with other peoples hearts, and show NO REMORSE, is just plain evil

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Have you ever waited for a love? Posted: 1/20/2008 9:57:17 AM
It's the saddest scenario in love, and is basically what keeps alot of us single! I think we have all experienced that angst or frustration, I'm certain that the CAT LADY with the 3 foot high lawn, had also Experienced THIS similar situation. I've known a few people who have sacrificed years and even decades, waiting for that LOVE to bloom,... In most cases...IT DOES NOT!, Never say never, but the sad truth is some people enjoy being at an arms length. We tend to convince ourselves, Oh it's timing, Oh one day they'll see, HOW POWERFUL My Love is...ETC. the truth is, ...It's neither. it's simply something you should stop concentrating upon, and focus more energy towards loving YOU FIRST. Once your able to free yourself of that want, ...Only then can you honestly love anohter person, and recognize when love truly enters your life. ut what do i know, I'm still single...LOL

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/5/2008 12:14:44 AM
What a jerk that guy is! Totally using you ...he was, i can't imagine anyone not enjoying a post Alcoholic Beating while lying in peacefull rest. Imagine his falling on the hard bedroom floor, in the middle of the night, to the screaming rage of his delusional girlfriend. BINGO...He's totally leading you on...THAT JERK...Drop him like a bad habit!

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The problem with Sagittarian men Posted: 10/7/2007 12:16:39 PM
I can't help but notice the original poster has deleted her profile anyhoo, am a sag, wouldn't trade it for any other sign! most evolved fire sign and from experience MOST grounded. We don't sugarcoat anything and are CERTAINLY not underhanded or deceptive and secretive " Like many of the traits of the water signs...Thank you" i doubt there is any proof to the 2000 profile Experiment and have reached the conclusion that you've been burned by a sag, ...Sorry for that. but you see the difference between us sag's and you " I'm guessing pisces" is that were upfront and honest, and actually tell the person to they're face! Rather then slander they're whole Astrological sign on a message board. But what do i know? I'm a sag, and not to be trusted...Remember?

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Why cann't I just let go Posted: 5/29/2007 8:48:12 PM
I completely feel your pain and actually heard something just the other day, that made complete sense...and that is this When you come from a pure place in your heart, Eventually the universe catches up Resistance seems incredible " Possibly at first", and this can take a few years/Decades ETC But remember that kharma is a ****, and life is not a 5 inning game. Concentrate on your life, your needs, try to keep your mind occupied and talk to as many people as will listen. you will see that with time, Justice does exist in the world Good luck to you, and No one deserves to be treated in such a disrespectfull manner

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no car, bad apartment, no cash flow WTF?? Posted: 4/19/2007 11:10:58 PM
I agree also, but on that same token, i think it tends to confuse many people nothing wrong with creating stipulations of sort, but a HUGE LIST OF Wants and Needs, is basically confusing any potential dates in my opinion Just my 2 cents, but what do i know, I'm still single...LOL Best of luck to you Snowbrdgy

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