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Knittin Kitten

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Now he wont stop calling! What do I do? Posted: 4/18/2009 4:57:40 PM
Check into call blocking, as others have said. In the meantime, when you hear the phone ring and know it's his number, simply ift the receiver and then IMMEDIATELY put it dowqn...That will connect and disconnect the call immediately. Do this as long as you have to...he will probably lose patience knowing that you are deliberately doing this. Just my thoughts.... KK

Knittin Kitten

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Inexperienced old people Posted: 4/15/2009 4:44:51 PM
Well, I don't know what any of you consider "old", but, at 72, I'm doing just fine. Although I'm not "over-experienced", I've definitely been able to partake in and enjoy what has come my way. Part of the success, I'm quite sure, is the fact that I don't hop in bed with any Tom,****and Harry who is dying to have a "go at it" with an old lady. You'd be surprise how well it works between two caring individuals. And, by the way, I'm still learning...and, enjoying it, too. KK

Knittin Kitten

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The Best Way to Tell Someone You Do Not Like Him Romantically But Still Stay Friends??? Posted: 4/14/2009 2:18:17 PM
I've usually let the guy know by the second or third date...particularly after his kiss has left me cold. I don't make it fancy...I don't ask for friendship..I really don't want, need, or have time for any more friendships. What I usually say is "I have to tell you that I'm not feeling the chemistry I would like to have felt and I don't want to lead you on." That usually gets the point across quite directly. I have my own feelings to protect...it happens to me plenty, also. I can simply be polite, he will have to take care of his own feelings....Sorry, but those are my thoughts. KK

Knittin Kitten

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Dating over 50 Posted: 4/10/2009 1:00:11 PM
Thanks so much for the compliments.....Yes, we've know each other for a spell...Yes, I'm, still writing....there may be something new on my forums here, I can't remember. Bashing never really does much good...but, ya gotta admit I've written some VERY funny stories about SOME of them!. (I've got one now about the guy who had 9 (yes I said NINE) of us he was claiming to be in love with....and, I'm not even bashing him....no need....he's done it to himself...) We never got together for that cup of coffee when we were neighbors. Now I see you've living in Las Vegas....guess we missed the boat on that one... Just don't give up... when the right one comes alone, who knows, it may be in the dentist's office or even at the supermarket????? Fondly, KK

Knittin Kitten

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Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it? Posted: 4/10/2009 12:50:41 PM
I've been the recipient of both....one rose on a first date and a dozen roses when we had a second date. I was flattered with the one rose...I thought it was a nice gesture. I knew he was a nice guy, I just didn't know about the chemistry. I decided on a second date because I didn't want to tune him out immediately, because there was no chemistry on the first date. However, when he showed up with a dozen roses on the second date, I knew this meant more to him than to me. I was uncomfortable for the entire date because I knew there would not be any more and I knew he was hoping there would be. All in all, one rose is fine if a man wants to do this....but, men....hold off on the dozen roses until you're reasonably sure she has some kind of positive feelings for you. Just my thoughts, KK

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Dating over 50 Posted: 4/10/2009 8:14:21 AM
Well, Ship: I'm an older woman...all of 72...not a bit "jaded", just pretty well educated in the ways of men...all ages. There's nothing to be jaded about if ya know what it's all about. I date frequently (mostly men who are in their 50s), and I seem to be holding my own....rolling with the punches...and, even giving one or two, when I find it necessary. It's a sad thing to rule out a whole category of people...I prefer to make my own decisions, on an individual basis. I have, pretty much "ruled out" the under 50 crowd, though, because, to date, ALL who have been in contact with ME, have definitely been looking for a roll in the hay! They have not been very happy to learn that I don't include "Bed and Breakfast" with my "Meet and Greets"......but, that's just me!. And, if ya wonder why I am attracted to men in their 50s and 60s, it's because they still have some life left in them. I'm an active lady, I love to dance.....I drive at night, travel, and, all my parts are still working. I have found that some of the older men no longer dance, they don't drive at night, they have bad backs, bad hips, and who knows what else isn't working. When I finally DO find my special man, I want the odds to be good that we'll have time to walk into the sunset together.... Just thought you'd like to know. KK

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When the pain ended he returned Posted: 3/24/2009 8:43:28 AM
I have read every word of what has been written in here and they have all really given you excellent advice. If I am to add anything, it is that, since you are seeing a Therapist, may I suggest that the Therapist is the one who SHOULD hear every word you have written here...Tell the Therapist ALL your thoughts. It's the only road to discovering your inner self....in the presence of someone who hears you and can understand. I doubt that the Therapist will steer you wrong. Best of luck....these memories will be with you forever....but, if you did what was best for you at the time, you will learn that you will eventually be comfortable living with your decision. Just my thoughts, Knittin Kitten

knittin kitten

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He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance?? Posted: 3/22/2009 7:00:52 PM
And, once you get closer to MY age, you even learn how successful lovemaking can be, even if he CAN'T get it up. Not gonna tell ya how I know.... OMG, did I just say THAT? KK

knittin kitten

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kissing on the first date should be a topic of discussion Posted: 3/22/2009 6:57:22 PM
Wow, I never realized that a first date kiss could be so complicated. I don't give it that much thought.....I go with my feelings..... I would never commit to either kissing or not kissing on a first date...it's MY decision to make as the date unfolds. If I have really enjoyed the date and definitely want to see the guy again, I have made it VERY clear to him during the date....either by a remark like, "Wow, this is fun, I sure hope we get a chance to do this again soon." Now, who in his right mind would miss THAT clue? As others have suggested, I would have already accepted his touches and would have returned those touches so that he would get the idea.....However, I'm not so sure I would go for the leg, on a first date. (But a caress on his face can do wonders.) At the end of the date, I would most likely respond well to his moves...moving in to let him know in no uncertain terms, that he definitely would NOT be getting a slap in the face. Now, come on, guys, you don't think I would have reached this ripe old age without having it down to something where he would NOT have to wonder for a moment.... I don't have time for those kind of games. OMG, I have two first dates coming up this week....Oh well, if this thread is still alive, I'll tell you how they go.... Fondly, KK

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A girl matter.. Way beyond spilled milkshake.. Posted: 3/21/2009 3:28:35 PM
I have been reading and re-reading all the pages in this thread, trying to come up with the logic that appeared to me to be missing. And then, I found it, so there's no need for me to repeat any of it....just go back and read all the "assumptions"...I saw them and, it was bothering me because I don't believe one can be either knowledgeable or helpful when they're full of preconceived notions.....Thanks, gal.....as usual, you came through again, with logic and common sense....I can usually count on your posts to contain that..... OP, unless you are knowledgeable about many things which you have not disclosed to us, while asking for our help....take poster #8Os advice and rethink before you make any decisions. Sincerely, KK

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Relationships and the Recession ... Posted: 3/19/2009 5:40:23 PM
I truly believe the economy has had a strong impact on dating life. I can speak for myself and my general age group....50 and over....semi retired, working and retired. The rug has been pulled out from under all the men in my "dating" circle. Where distance is involved, gasoline prices put a large dent in it. Wine and dine has become soup and sandwich and we've been fortunate to find inexpensive movies. Walking and window shopping is having a comeback and flea markets are popular. Luckily, at my age, we enjoy "stop and smell the roses", walking and talking, taking pictures and, OMG...even COMMUNICATION. Here in my area, we also have nightly free dancing at the town square..,..What more can one ask for? As far as I'm concerned it's not WHERE I go, but WHO I'M WITH that counts, so I'm not upset other than I see it's upsetting to my dates. I enjoy preparing a dinner, and watching videos afterwards. However, not all my dates are invited to my home. I have found that some men are extremely upset, embarrassed, humiliated and just unable to accept the fact that they don't have the means to spend money on women. Perhaps they will learn that it's not always the money.....but, only they can take the steps to find that out. Just my thoughts... KK

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Dating Older Woman But Cannot Figure Her Out Posted: 3/19/2009 4:37:57 PM
Read, once again, what Mama, above had to say..she said it very well....Slow down....don't push....if phone calls and texting are THAT important to you after only 2 dates, I'm thinking you might run into trouble soon. Accept what is...enjoy your next date...If she cares at all, she'll be happy to accept another date. If you push her too hard so early, you'll be left by the wayside. Just my thoughts.... KK

knittin kitten

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distance between users Posted: 3/19/2009 10:08:53 AM
An excellent suggestion....When I see an unfamiliar location, I have to take the time out to MapQuest it, but would prefer to know about how far away from me it is. KK

knittin kitten

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When a woman is squirting...exactly what is squirting out and from where? Posted: 3/18/2009 5:30:49 PM
I'm glad to see that many of you are truly beginning TO GET IT!. Don't ya wonder if the sceptics and non-believers will EVER try it....and ADMIT to success, if they are successful? Well, some of them have already done so. My mailbox is often full with accolades from those who have dared to try it. I learned this only last year...and, so far, it has been extremely successful and a very enriching experience...It matters not that the AMA has not told me it exists...I already KNOW IT DOES! Sincerely, KK

Knittin kitten

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When a woman is squirting...exactly what is squirting out and from where? Posted: 3/8/2009 11:44:05 AM
It's interesting to see that there is so much interest in this phenomenon that threads continue to appear. I was an active poster on the " Squirting...can this be Learned" thread, until I was recently advised that a maximum of only 5 replies were allowed on that one. I do not know what the maximum is on this one, but, may I suggest that you pay attention to what DAVE has to say and, take a moment to look up Female Ejaculation, the Female Prostrate, & the G-Spot. That, along with DAVE's suggestions for reading, should pretty much give you the information many of you seek. Do not be led by Porn Videos....As I have said before, this is something that can best be appreciated by two lovers who really care for each other and are prepared and anxious to learn how to please each other. Sincerely, KK

Knittin kitten

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I Must Have Missed This Rule - Maximum Post to a Thread Posted: 3/6/2009 4:37:28 AM
Thanks, Mod...I had truly read the material you suggested above and did not see any specific references to why, in a particular case where the poster had not broken any of the rules. However, the fact that the posting maximum had been changed by you to be only 5, is what it is, I have no argument with you. I just prefer to know about changes so they do not surprise me, and leave me wondering what I may have done wrong. In the future, is there any way in which we will know, when we partake in a thread, that our (legitimate) replies will be numbered so low? Sometimes, as replies increase, there ARE further remarks we feel might be helpful....I feel that my hands have been tied and it causes me to lose enthusiasm in partaking in a subject. I'm not argumentative, just enjoy exploring various subjects. Please know that, even though I do not understand everything you do, I still appreciate all your efforts. I'm not going anywhere....I'll continue to be right here. Knittin kitten

Knittin kitten

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I Must Have Missed This Rule - Maximum Post to a Thread [CLOSED Thread] Posted: 3/5/2009 5:38:04 PM
"You have reached the max number of times you can post to this thread." I have been a forums participant on this site for a couple of years and have always tried to follow the rules. I was quite surprised to receive the above directive when I attempted to post in the "Squirting, Can This Be Learned" thread in which I have been a poster since last April. Please advise if there is a maximum number of posts allowed in these threads. I have spent the better part of an hour searching for this answer and coming up with none. I believe my posts have been spaced out enough so that no one is deprived of posting because of mine. Most of the time I am commenting on questions asked of me in my private mail. Obviously there is great interest in this thread since it has continued for 16 pages and there have been many favorable comments. Please advise as I am not a happy camper if I can no longer post on this thread, or others. However, I realize that rules are rules, and will abide by them! Sincerely, Knittin kitten

Knittin kitten

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You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really? Posted: 3/3/2009 6:03:01 PM
Well, well, well, I, too, have just read five pages of comments from folks who are here, but not for dating, just for the forums....I have no problem with that, EXCEPT How can I be SURE there ARE some guys on here who ARE for dating????????? (That may be more of a problem than the OP who has problems understanding "relationships" AND "friendships".).... My profile is here, my pictures are here, my forums are here, my comments are here, and whether I'm dating or not at any particular time, I've never posted a word that I have regretted. Just My Thoughts, KK

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Things happen for a reason... Posted: 3/2/2009 2:32:45 AM
Kudos from another Happy Camper. I have no complaints.....And, I guess I must have missed the latest problem, but glad that our wonderful Marcus and Mods have been here for us. Fondly, Knittin kitten

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Need some advice... Posted: 3/1/2009 1:16:11 PM
The best "advice" one might be able to give you, at THIS point, is to sit down and ask yourself, Is THIS the way you want the rest of your life to go?". It sure sounds like he has anger issues, but, from where I stand, you may have a few problems giving him "space". It's never easy for one to take on the responsibility to have a baby on her own, but, the baby is innocent and, it's up to you how badly YOU think THIS father in the house is better than none at all. If the baby is HIS, you should be able to follow this up and receive some support. I don't foresee much happiness in your future together, unless the two of you mature enough to be able to sit down and discuss this like adults....even if you come to an outcome that you don't like. And, PLEASE do not SMOKE during your pregnancy......at least aim for a healthy baby. Just my thoughts.... KK

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She's/He's been on PoF for 2 years..! It that a red-herring? Run or Stay? Posted: 2/28/2009 10:56:37 AM
I like what you have to say.... no need to add to it, you've said it all. I personally would feel much more comfortable becoming interested in someone who HAS been here for a longer period of time, as I would feel it to be an indication that they're more interested in the quality of relationship they're looking for....rather than the speed in which they can find someone to keep them from belonging to that terrible group of misfits...."Singles". Just My Thoughts... KK

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How would you feel if your partner required pre-marital counseling? Posted: 2/28/2009 10:13:48 AM
You are so right, m_church...but, even more so....IF the outside viewer is educated and trained to see, understand and communicate to on the problem..... KK

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To Tell or Not to Tell? Posted: 2/27/2009 8:16:09 AM
I think this is an excellent question and I hope that it does NOT get deleted. It's very important, but I think I might vote on the side of seeing a counselor for advice before discussing it with my partner. I truly do not have an answer, as something like this has never come up in MY life. KK

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Is it ok to ask for your wedding ring back after divorce? Posted: 2/26/2009 5:24:42 PM
It's been so many years that I had not thought about it til I read this thread. I remember what I did with the ring he gave me.....that was engraved inside with "unending love - til eternity". I threw it in his face.....I was a bit upset that he had SIX women on the side while he was married to me. I also threw a gold bangle bracelet at him, because I had seen two bracelets in his sock drawer when I was putting away his laundry and I had only received one for Christmas. Now, if you ask me what I would do if I had it to do all over again.....Knowing what I know NOW, I DEFINITELY would have kept it. It was platinum and would have helped to clothe and feed the children and myself for quite awhile, especially when his support payments did not arrive on time. I kept the diamond marquis engagement ring. I figured that not only had I earned it, it, too, would serve as emergency back up in case I ran into financial problems. What a proud feeling I had when my children were grown and gone and I had not been forced to sell the diamond. However, I did sell it and bought my first mobile home here in Florida when I retired and moved. Just my thoughts, KK PS. Someone mentioned that it was all about money....well, you can't feed two children without it. I was a faithful, loving wife...worked til the week my first child was born, bought the luxuries - washer, drier, dishwasher and vacations....I didn't feel that I was a "taker".

Knittin kitten

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How do you feel about relocation? Posted: 2/22/2009 3:16:39 PM
My story might be a bit different than some of the younger folk. I am retired and have already relocated....about 9 years ago. My time is my own and I am not tied to any particular place. I am very happy in the warmth and sunshine Florida has to offer but, if I met someone from almost any warm location, I would not have a problem with it. My ideal is to be located somewhere warm during the winter months and somewhere more temperate during the summer season....even out of the USA, as long as it's only temporary. I do not want to relocate permanently anywhere outside the USA. I have no problem meeting someone who lives outside my immediate area, as long as he is willing to consider coming to me for the first visit, and, possibly having dual residences if we were to become a couple. I am well aware that a decision to actually MAKE that move, must be deferred until such time as we have gotten to know each other very well and believe that we truly want to be a couple....Marriage at my age is not necessarily a priority; however, spending time together, IS. We shall see what we shall see......His actions will speak MUCH louder than his words. Just my thoughts..... KK

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sick 2 my stomach - need advise Posted: 2/21/2009 6:24:03 PM
The is making me ask this question~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I can't help wondering how many of the last few posters have actually read what has been written on these pages? For those who have not, the OP has updated the scenario to let you know that he has, in fact, gotten in touch with her. Perhaps you might want to click back a page to find out why your postings clearly indicate that you have opinions, but, are not aware of all the facts.... By the way, that's another factor I take into account when I read what is written on these "hallowed" pages I'm reasonably sure O.P.'s stomach is feeling better AND, her thoughts are clear enough to allow her to assess and stay aware. There have been some VERY helpful posts here and it does my heart good to partake in a conversation that is civil and caring. KK

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sick 2 my stomach - need advise Posted: 2/21/2009 5:00:41 PM
O.P., it was more than "sticking up" for ya. I've been there...felt that way......and, yes, my stomach was in knots. I wasn't obsessing or going through any of the deep psychological things some people have mentioned. I was disappointed, hurt, surprised, because I was under the impression from his words and actions, that things were going just fine. My ego was definitely bruised. It's a time of unsure feelings. I was simply putting myself in your place, because I understood what you were going through. And, yes, some of us get over it faster than others. Some are able to shake it off and go ahead with their lives without missing a beat. I like my softness, my warmth, my ability to connect with someone new, rather than standing back and waiting for them to pass some kind of test. That leaves me a bit vulnerable, but, I prefer it that way. If you like yourself the way you are...it's not necessary to "change"; simply try making some adjustments. The most difficult thing for me has been the amount of time I choose to wait before accepting the fact that he's just "not that into me". But, it's o.k., because I want someone to whom I'm gonna be a priority....(LOVE that phrase!) Just an afterthought.....I know all about a phone going dead and not being either near my computer or having access to a needed phone number. However, I have two cords for keeping my phone charged....one at home and one in my car...... My advice, if I were to have any, would be.....continue with your exploration of the possibilities of this relationship, and, accept, if it ever becomes necessary, the fact that you just might not be on the same wavelength....and, that's O.K....honestly, it is. Fondly, KK

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sick 2 my stomach - need advise Posted: 2/21/2009 2:06:10 PM
Arabianangel: I think that is the point I was trying to get across....Yes, we ARE in charge of our feelings...however, it takes time to have those feelings, assess them, deal with them and then make the inner changes that will enhance ones life rather than hold them back. We all progress at different speeds. Step number one is to be able to recognize what's going on....after that, it's sorta like potty training....well it IS! First the child finds himself wet, then he realizes he doesn't like the way he feels, next he recognizes the urge to go and doesn't always get there in time...and, then he has it all in proper order and matures enough to handle the situation from then on.... Well, that is until old age and incontinence and it just starts all over again. My point, with my comments, is simply, even if you've experienced these feelings yourself, try not to forget that it also took you time to recognize them and deal with them. It can't hurt to have a bit of understanding for someone else going through it. I, for one, don't mind having to endure a bit of discomfort if it means that I still have consideration for the next guy, even after what the last guy might have done, or not done. I find that I'm adjusting MUCH faster now! (Last time I adjusted so fast that I soon put back on all the weight I had lost when I was so upset and could not eat...) Now, was that GOOD or was that BAD? Who knows... Just my thoughts, KK

Knittin kitten

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sick 2 my stomach - need advise Posted: 2/21/2009 1:05:11 PM
I've read all the replies to OP's post. It appears to me that she has simply expressed her "feelings". To me, her behavior seems to have been reasonable. Our "feelings" cannot always be reasonable....they are simply feelings. It's how we act on them that counts. I'm sorry OP had to endure several rude comments, but, when posting on a public forum, I've learned that's to be expected. I'm thinking that Frau spelled it all out quite realistically ...and, she did it well.....her usual manner!. I'm curious to know.....from all of you who told the OP to "chill out" (which seemed like a judgment on her FEELINGS), why not let us know EXACTLY how long YOU would wait to find out what occurred, before moving on. (It's easier to do when you don't trust a new man because of what another once did. But, I try to give each new man the benefit of the doubt before judging him.) This has happened to me, and, I find that about a week or so usually does it for me. It's not always the unknown, at the beginning of the relationship, it's more my ability to think that I don't really want to be interested in a man lacks consideration for me, who can so easily miss a call or a date, with no follow-up. By the way, to date, only one man was in an accident...and...HE managed to call me, explain things...before the time of the date. However, it's been several months since then, and, even though he has messaged and called me, he has not made another date. Now it doesn't matter to me at all. Just my thoughts.... KK

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Sensuality in your 50's..... Posted: 2/19/2009 2:02:06 PM
Golly, Palm Beach Guy - how would it make ya feel if I were to say the same thing about you, now that I'm in my 70s??? The difference is, I'm not likely to get in bed with someone whom I haven't already found interesting OUT of bed. (Hmmmmm, maybe THATS what we ladies learn between 50s and 70s......) I'm not being fresh PBG, but your comment just caught my eye and the made me do this...... Fondly, KK

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Squirting...can this be learned? Posted: 2/16/2009 9:48:30 PM
I'm back again - I cannot believe the amount of interest this thread has generated. Again, my mailbox is loaded with inquiries... You only have to look back on Pages 15 and 16 for my posts, Dave's posts, and a few others who have given excellent information. For those who are interested, Google " Female Ejaculation, the Female Prostrate, & the G Spot." I think that article is excellent for the medical information, along with diagrams. It is NOT porn...and, many who are looking to porn to learn this experience may be sadly disappointed. I must repeat, for those women who have messaged me, disappointed that they were unable to achieve squirting in their first attempts, please know that if your partner has taken the time to learn how to assist you in achieving this, both of you will find it a very pleasing experience. The above link will provide all the information you will need ....and...if two caring partners are together, it will probably occur more easily. I must thank all the folks who have added some excellent comments and advice.....This subject is obviously worth the 15 pages that have been posted. Don't let the sceptics or nay sayers discourage you....Find out for yourselves!. Dave, keep up the good work.... Fondly, Knittin kitten EDIT: NOTE: SuzanneKat....Your settings won't allow me to message you, but I wanted to thank you for your very informative post above!.

Knittin Kitten

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Cooking Together.. Posted: 2/14/2009 5:58:34 PM
Well, this hasn't been mentioned since 2005, but, I did something that you all might JUST wanna try. My S.O. came over to dinner after a long day's work. I had prepared much of it before he got there. When he came in, I gave him a glass of wine, sat him down in the kitchen, took off my robe....and finished the dinner preparation NEKKID.... Wow, did THAT wake him up......we sat across from each other at dinner and, I'm not sure what he ate.....but I definitely knew his eyes had plenty to drink in. Ladies, you ought to try it sometime...the shock of it all was well worth it...Of course, dessert was great, too, that night! Surprised to hear all this coming from me, huh? KK

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Squirting...can this be learned? Posted: 2/13/2009 7:35:32 AM
My mailbox is filling again -with questions on squirting. So, I guess it's time to update, once again, my posting listing some of the links to excellent information on learning to squirt. The thread is "female G-spot....go to Page 6. (right here on POF) Two excellent, informational posts to look at are: sexywoman4U...msg 128 Check out Gemfarmer's post Posted: 5/19/2008 4:07:39 PM Some excellent info http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm Dave632...msg 131 The site I found the most instructional and informative, together with diagrams (no, it's NOT porno) is "Female Ejaculation, the Female Prostrate, & the G Spot. For those of you who wish to take the crash course, above are several links to sites that are very helpful. However, I would also suggest that you then peruse this thread from the beginning, because several people have given excellent suggestions that you won't want to miss..... If I come across any further information, I'll be sure to let you know....right now I, myself, am still in the "Research and Development" stage.....if someone actually develops to that stage in MY life...You'll not be hearing a thing from me.....I don't kiss and tell....when it's personal, that is.... Fondly, KK

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Should I out a friend that cheats? Posted: 2/11/2009 7:23:21 AM
I can't help wondering if we might get some more realistic answers from people who have been cheated on.....Did they know? Did they find out all by themselves? Were they told by someone? What was the outcome of the revelation? How would they have preferred to have become aware of it? Speculation and advice from those who have not experienced it don't carry much weight in the big picture. My thoughts.....If I'm in danger healthwise, from his wanderings, I'd want to know. Of course it hurts....I've been there....But, I bless the person who told me. I walked away. It wasn't easy, but I never had a moment of wanting to go back. KK

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Msg: 16 (view)

6 month lease period, Infidelity or confirmation. Posted: 2/9/2009 1:36:55 PM
I just voted NOT to delete this thread...I've never seen anything like it before...at least it's DIFFERENT. I wanna see what people have to say on this subject. It's not for me, but whatever floats yer boat! KK

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Should I out a friend that cheats? Posted: 2/8/2009 9:37:43 PM
I don't feel qualified to tell you what you should do, but, I CAN tell you that if I were in love with a man and considering marrying him, believing him to be monogamous with me, and you knew for a fact that he was NOT, I WOULD WANT YOU TO TELL ME SO THAT I DIDN'T GO INTO IT BLINDLY AND SET MYSELF UP FOR UNHAPPINESS. Just my thought... KK

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How much is friendship and caring worth in the absence of affection? Posted: 2/8/2009 11:03:31 AM
I haven't been in and would not remain in the type of relationship you describe.....other than to have solely a"friendship" and not be looking for more. To answer your question....friendship and caring definitely has its worth! I would probably be open to that type of caring, but, NOT in place of continuing to search for the one with the depth and affection which I would prefer. KK

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Msg: 352 (view)

Squirting...can this be learned? Posted: 2/8/2009 6:18:36 AM
I agree with you, Dave.....you can see that many folks, (both men and women) HAVE learned from these threads. I'm sure, for some, their love life is just fine without this phenomenon. However, there are many who enjoy learning and have found this to be very exhilarating. I just wanted to remind those who have expressed disappointment in not attaining a "squirt", although it is often possible to achieve this yourself, I fully believe that the "talent" of your special man goes a long way in making it not only possible, but even more enjoyable. So, don't be discouraged. Just be patient, and if he REALLY cares, he'll be around for quite awhile....just imagine how much "practicing" the two of you can do, and if you practice enough, maybe you'll become perfect!. Just my thoughts... KK

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SNAFU Posted: 2/8/2009 6:08:08 AM
Thanks, folks, for all your input. I'm sure there are many more. Sampson, that's what I was told was the meaning of that word. Now, whose got some more? Fondly, KK

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Msg: 203 (view)

What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away? Posted: 2/5/2009 4:14:18 PM
Much of what people have posted on these pages tells me that I am doing things right when I take time for a few INFORMATIVE emails, several phone calls,( keeping MY phone number restricted so if this should happen, I won't be hounded by him,) and then, finally meeting in a public place. If any of these methods make a man feel uncomfortable or impatient, he's just assisted me to make my decision that he's not for me. I usually catch the "needy" or "overanxious" in their first few contacts with me. It's those damn "players" that take much longer for me to figure out. If I have any advice whatsoever, I would ask the true gentlemen (and I know SEVERAL of them on this site), to try to understand what some of us women go through (as you do, too), and have patience and understanding while we are doing our best to find out who you REALLY are. If your intentions are really honorable, don't give up, get disgusted, and think about how you would like your sister, daughter or even your mother, to handle the same situation. Just my thoughts, KK

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SNORING?? Does it really matter ? Posted: 2/5/2009 3:03:07 PM
I have to answer this question with a huge YES. Not particularly for the snore noise, but, as a person with sleep apnea, I am fully aware how dangerous it can be, if unchecked. I thought that by age 60-65, taking naps in the afternoon was going to be part of my life. On one of my regular Dr. visits, my doctor said she thought I might have apnea and I was tested. That's when I first learned about the fact that we stop breathing during sleep and, at the same time, can be causing great heart damage. It was very simple to be tested, and I was outfitted with a c-pap machine ( I now have a bi-pap, which is a newer version of the c-pap). The change was miraculous. I fall asleep and sleep soundly now, no snoring, no tossing and turning. I awake after at least 6 - 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep and have plenty of energy for the rest of my day....I feel like a different person. When I asked my doctor about the scene, if and when I might be sleeping with a man, her comment made me laugh...."Well, maybe you'll get lucky and he will need one, too, so you won't worry about it. After all, you will still both need your sleep." I can't stress too strongly that ANYONE WHO SNORES SHOULD BE TESTED FOR SLEEP APNEA. The odds are that you are suffering from it and, although it is never really "cured", it can be totally "reversed" and you will no longer be in danger...as long as you sleep with your mask. If you catch it early enough, you may not even need oxygen...just air, which is what I have, and at last test, I measured 96% of normal. By the way, instead of using all those nose drops, which might cause a nosebleed, look for simple "saline solution". You can use that as often as you wish, to keep your nasal passages open...and, it works. Just my thoughts. KK

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Talking about sex before even meeting Posted: 2/1/2009 7:06:09 PM
Well, I didn't even get to a discussion about anything (including his black labs..)... , all I had to do was tell him that I hoped he had pants on and he was outta there... Can't complain, it's the sneaky ones that break yer heart! KK

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Msg: 403 (view)

Talking about sex before even meeting Posted: 2/1/2009 6:39:37 PM
I just got an IM from someone on here. I clicked on his profile to see who I was going to be talking to, and saw a shirtless man, peering into his cam, and he was up North, in the cold country!!! I had noticed that he had 2 black labs and I commented on that, but, then, said to him that I hoped he had pants on, because I had already had 3 nekked ones today and I noticed that he looked as though he was going to stand up. He said yes, changed back to a picture, and apologized. I continued to message him, but noticed that there were no replies, so I went to his profile and was going to drop him a line. To my great surprise, the message that came up was, "This person has blocked you from contacting him, go back to your incoming messages." Now, do you guys think I made a boo boo by guessing EXACTLY what he had in mind when he messaged me? Well, I think I hit the nail on the head....It was a bit surprising, but now I'm laughing...he wasn't gonna waste any time with a prude. I think we need a new emote....A RED FLAG! kk

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Msg: 341 (view)

rude emails that spoil your POF experience Posted: 1/31/2009 6:40:44 PM
I received one tonite......It said "How would ya like to go for a 1 Nite Stand? It could be a lot of fun......I answered the immature 19 year old with "Not with YOU"....just before I blocked him.... I get a lot of scammers, but they're usually not rude....they're too "GOD FEARING"... I don't allow any of them to "spoil" my POF experience!. Just my thoughts, KK

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Things you should never mention to someone when getting to know of them. Posted: 1/30/2009 9:35:32 AM
Thank Goodness that, at 72, I can still remember when I was 20 and was SURE I knew EVERYTHING there was to know. WOW, it took several more years before I realized that there was more to learn than I would probably EVER learn. But, my thoughts here are that the OP has probably, by now, realized that what she said actually showed US what she DOESN'T know....hopefully, enough that no more bashing is really necessary (bashing shows what YOU don't know!). Let's leave it where it is.....Our profiles are ours...we can say whatever we wish to say, and should know when we're doing so, that we will be judged on the words we choose. I certainly don't want to read a whole bunch of wonderful things....that are ALL lies...., so, given the alternative, I'd prefer to read what they have written, and then , make my own decision as to whether or not I wish to get to know them any better...(as I believe other posters have already said.) Now, on the other hand, I firmly believe that...over the age of 50, you're about as "perfect" as yer gonna get, so accept it, and be a happy #8......I am. Sincerely, KK

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Msg: 38 (view)

Why some get better with age, and others don't Posted: 1/26/2009 11:31:33 AM
I agree tresor, but, unfortunately, your profile thinks I'm too old, so I can't message you. I still care what others think, but, I doubt if that will do much to change my mind, once I've figured it out and made a decision. I like what I see you post in the forums. KK

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Msg: 105 (view)

When Are You Too Old to Date? Posted: 1/26/2009 11:26:49 AM
Golly tresor, I like your attitude.....It prompted me to peek at your profile....I found it to be one of the nicest ones on this site.... BUT...... When I attempted to message you to tell you so...... I found out that I was TOO OLD> Inasmuch as I am dating men who are 50 and older, I kinda think I'm just right, too... maybe not for you, but I would have liked to tell you how much I enjoyed reading your bright, amusing and clever profile. Sorry I've plastered it all over here, but perhaps others will look, too...and, be closer to Michigan than I am. There was no other way to tell you. Why not think about widening your parameters? Especially because you are posting in the threads and even old ladies like me might want to compliment you on something you wrote. KK

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Msg: 179 (view)

WHY DO MEN WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU, BUT NOT DATE YOU? Posted: 1/25/2009 12:57:25 PM
The response to this question is very obvious...and...simple. BECAUSE THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT. Now, ladies, perhaps we have not all allowed this, but I'm SURE you ALL know this is true. I don't believe we can continue to place all the blame on a man with a healthy libido for WANTING to, but, it's still up to US if he is GOING TO. Just my thoughts... KK

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Msg: 34 (view)

Talking about pets on a first date Posted: 1/25/2009 12:50:56 PM
I agree with the poster above me. I can't, for the life of me, understand why someone might think it's not right to discuss pets, on a first date. As far as I'm concerned, a date is a way in which to get to know the person better, and, if, after a first date, you find that your potential suitor doesn't like pets and/or is allergic to them, don't you think it's better to know early, before there is an emotional attachment to your suitor? You already have an emotional attachment to your pet. Just my thoughts... KK

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Msg: 42 (view)

Exchanging phone numbers??? Posted: 1/25/2009 12:46:09 PM
cj8 - Yes, you presume correctly. When the man is more than an hour or so away, I offer to meet him half way. (It's my way of indicating that I am willing to be flexible in any relationship.) I want to be able to return to my familiar area by dark. Most of the men have easily understood and agreed. I'm in Florida and we have lots of Cracker Barrel Restaurants with easy on/easy off highway access. I find them very convenient, public, and those rocking chairs on the outside veranda are delightful for quiet, private conversation. It's easy to get drinks or sit down inside for a bite to eat, if the occasion arises. There are other highway rest stop restaurants that I am sure can serve the same purpose. I do not play ANY level games and someone who, if, after speaking with me by phone a few times, has any doubt, then it's obvious that there's no need to waste either of our time by meeting. Meeting potential suitors is NOT a game, to me, and neither is my safety. Again, those who consider any of my methods "paranoia", are also not for me. Since I have been successful in meeting dozens of gentlemen (and, all whom I have met so far, HAVE BEEN gentlemen), I think I'm doing something RIGHT. Now, the chemistry is a different story....I have no control over whether or not that is going to be, but, I still feel it's worth the try. Just my thoughts.... KK

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