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sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Would you give up a freind for your love Posted: 10/25/2007 3:54:30 PM
but like you said - it's not that you are cutting the friend out of your life. they are still part of your life regardless of the distance. There's a huge difference between what you are talking about and having your SO saying "dump your friend for me"

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Would you give up a freind for your love Posted: 10/14/2007 4:06:17 PM
I would never ask my SO to give up friends for me. I've been on the receiving end of it (I was the friend) and boy oh boy, it's a good thing that he was such a great friend that I let his GF's insecurities go and not blame him. She was insanely jealous and insecure of his friendships with women. Good thing we still stuck around (behind her back) and were there for him (although he essentially bailed on us) because when he was going through the rough stuff with her, who did he turn to? Friends were there before the SO, they will be there after the SO has bailed or the relationship has ended or solidified in marriage. Asking to get rid of someone is almost like an ultimatum and that's unacceptable.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Would you give up a freind for your love Posted: 10/11/2007 11:36:13 AM
nope. not a chance in hell. Friends before lovers. And that was a completely unreasonable demand/ultimatum. your GF is very insecure.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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can anyone play musical instruments? Posted: 9/18/2007 7:38:24 PM
yup: piano, clarinet, sax and I've been toying with the guitar. It gives me blisters on my fingers - ow!

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

Msg: 525 (view)

Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It? Posted: 9/18/2007 7:34:10 PM
well then ReachMe - you are dating the wrong girls. Not all women sit there chatting ad nauseum on the phone and checking it consistently while on a date. If a girl is really in to you, unless it's an emergency, she won't answer her phone - she'd rather be talking with you.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Going back to school in your 30's.... Posted: 9/16/2007 2:46:10 PM
thanks jujubee - it was hard but I'm glad I did it.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

Msg: 111 (view)

Going back to school in your 30's.... Posted: 9/13/2007 8:22:09 PM
Got the final go ahead by my supervisor and my internal departmental assessor. My thesis has been officially accepted. I'm done! Now it's on to graduating!!!! woohoo! Definitely not easy going back to school, but I'm glad I did it, perservered...Now it's party time!

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

Msg: 133 (view)

Sex with minors Posted: 8/30/2007 8:26:41 PM
when a person isn't even out of their teens - I don't really approve of dating someone that is a decade or more older than them. sure a few years difference, but a 16 yr old dating a 25 yr old? I would most definitely be questioning the motives of the adult. Let me just put it this way - I was totally grossed out when my brother, who was 28 at the time was dating this girl, who was the same age as me - 18...It may have been legal, but I was disgusted with him. Good looking, gigolo type guy who could get women at the snap of his fingers and he's picking up girls who are barely out of high school and pretending to be more mature than they are. going after someone who is the same age as his youngest sister. EWWWWW.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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I've stopped wearing makeup... Posted: 8/28/2007 9:36:55 AM
don't waste your time on pondering makeup. If you've lasted this long without it, what's the point now? If you like the way you look without it, there's really no need (except if you need the super-ultra polished look at a formal affair)

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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I've stopped wearing makeup... Posted: 8/26/2007 4:46:39 PM
I'm a big time advocate on being comfortable and doing the natural thing (seeing as how I don't wear makeup), however, for some women (and I stress the world some) - I think that it can translate into an unstylish looking frump-a-dump.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Life is precious..Cherish Everyday You Are Here! Posted: 8/22/2007 12:53:05 PM
when my best friend died unexpectedly, it definitely changed the way I looked at life and what is important to me.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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What does the term 'She'll eat you alive' mean? Posted: 8/21/2007 3:16:13 PM
has nothing to do with sex and doesn't necessarily mean the dynamics with an SO either. It means "don't mess with her or she'll snap your head off, eat it as an appetizer then rip one of your fingers off and use it as a toothpick to clean her teeth. " That statement works in any type of relationship. It means that the woman doesn't put up with bull**** and will take you down if you do try to mess with her. in other words - she's vicious if you cross her and won't take prisoners.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

Msg: 82 (view)

I've stopped wearing makeup... Posted: 8/21/2007 12:58:46 PM
I don't think you are dooming yourself to more alone time. If you are comfortable going makeup free, a guy is going to notice that. I never wear makeup and guys are always commenting that they like the fresh face. At least they know, that if I were to start dating them and sleeping wtih them, they won't wake up in the morning, scared that the pillow next to them will have a fresh imprint of makeup and wondering who is the swampmonster next to them.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it? Posted: 8/21/2007 7:27:48 AM
Not things to ponder. You're a fool to think that keeping animals outside your house is the only way to go. Why don't you ponder this: if you think that you aren't tracking all that crap into your house, think again. you aren't inhaling all the airborne bacteria that surrounds you in the slaughter houses and working in the stables etc? You work in a totally asceptic environment and a hermetically sealed house that nothing gets in there other than your own dander? I understand animal behaviour all too well - I studied it. Well enough to know things are not left on the counter, and cutting boards and countertops are disinfected before putting any kind of food near it. and I'm not the only one who has a brain in their head to realize animals living in a house is no big deal like you make it out to be. And yup, I've been way outside of TO/lived way outside... Probably further than you've ever gone. end of convo.

sickntired2

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Msg: 178 (view)

I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it? Posted: 8/19/2007 8:03:32 AM
I don't think animals should be allowed at all in towns or cities- way to much chance for trouble. Animals in cities cause a lot more problems than they solve- if you are in a city, don't get a dog or cat cause they shed-EVERY ANIMAL SHEDS and CATS ARE ON THE KITCHEN TABLE AND COUNTERS WHEN YOU AREN"T THERE! If you are in a rented house or appt. those animals leave hair and dander in every crack in the place- they crap usually in a neighbors yard, cats love to dig under houses and sheds then tear up any insulation there------ go and get a boyfriend or girlfriend if you are that lonely or work with a charity, or take a foster child or uncles-at-large or something but animals in a house or in a city are not the answer [unless its a goldfish or a turtle] Just because you live out in the backcountry, doesn't mean you know everything about what it's like to live in the city with a pet. You are generalizing and have absolutely no idea what all animals do and what they are like. Are you an animal behaviourist? Their behaviour is a result of their personality and how they are taught. Just because you know some people who can't control their pets in the city, doesnt' give any credit to the good pet owners who know how to maintain a clean house and backyard etc.

sickntired2

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I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it? Posted: 8/12/2007 8:12:02 PM
One user on here has a name "mustlovedogstoo". Walk on by! I have animals, but people who put animals before people are not people-people. They should date dogs. You don't have to. wow - what a close-minded statement. Who said that this person who puts their pets above people? What that statement means (at least to me) - is that you have to appreciate animals and understand that with them, especially dogs, that they are like eternal children, must be taken care of and that they are an important part of your life. Taking care of dogs/pets first, should come before going out on a date or partying. Dogs unlike other animals like cats, cannot take care of themselves. You come off sounding like a cold-hearted person. But hey I'm not dating you. pets are just as important as dates. the pets were there before the date, they will be there after the date is over.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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What is a Normal Period?(Would put in ask a girl if I could) Posted: 8/6/2007 9:02:20 AM
Most women do experience the ickiness/sickly and craving stuff. It's completely normal. I know I do. You are still young, so no need to worry. But you really should get your iron levels checked if you get really tired as a result of heavy bleeding.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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What is a Normal Period?(Would put in ask a girl if I could) Posted: 8/6/2007 7:11:51 AM
if you are feeling super achy and tired - probably due to the amount of blood loss. Can cause anemia. Make sure you are getting enough iron in your diet and your doctor should get some blood tests to make sure you don't have something like thalasemia or anemia. Are you sure the headaches you are experiencing aren't migraines? Backpain and craving sweets is entirely normal. But if you are having extreme back pain, it could be a cyst on your ovaries (these are frequent occurrences in lots of women, that come and go as you cycle). Have you had the intravaginal ultrasound? the excessive bleeding for 3 months is NOT normal. Total body soreness can be experienced . You should go see your ob/gyn again and go for some blood tests to test for iron deficiencies etc. And read everything you can get your hands on. Learn about what makes your body tick. Then you'll know - what is normal for you and not.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

Msg: 110 (view)

Was I a jerk? Posted: 7/28/2007 6:32:25 PM
Your friends are calling you a jerk? they should have their heads checked. a) you have logic and law on your side. b) you offered an alternative c) the woman was obviously bad news. you were kind of selfish, and you didn't go for the right reasons, but she was a fool to even ignore the law and safety issues you raised. in the end who cares which reason came first. Safety is the overriding issue here...I woulnd't be willing to suck up a huge fine for someone I didn't know well. Good thing you have nothing to do with her any more.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it? Posted: 7/26/2007 11:29:45 AM
it's a nice gesture, but kind of intimidating (and this is just because I over-analyze) - in that, my mind would be starting to go "what is the meaning of this? does he expect something in return?"

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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please ladies help me what i am doing wrong? Posted: 7/26/2007 7:59:11 AM
put some new photos in your profile. Ones of you smiling and not looking so serious. A smile goes a long way.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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It's time to get a little pussy Posted: 7/24/2007 7:17:01 PM
good thing you found that out. Cat allergies are brutal...I don't know of anyone who just suffers from a slight allergic reaction to the furry critters. What a shame. Too bad you couldn't get him a puppy.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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It's time to get a little pussy Posted: 7/22/2007 11:50:07 AM
I agree, tabbies are wonderfully friendly and affectionate cats. Haven't met a tabby that I didn't like and vice versa. Persians aren't that great personality wise. If you want a cat with "dog-like" characteristics - Siamese cats are cool.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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People who just write how are you Posted: 7/18/2007 9:48:57 PM
yeah, I would have to agree. it is annoying. It's so unoriginal and gives no indication of whether or not they actually read your profile.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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If a women had to choice a man a funny man or sexy Posted: 7/18/2007 9:47:29 PM
funny - all the way. a funny guy, I will find to be sexy...

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Bipoolar/Panic Anxiety Posted: 7/18/2007 9:43:56 PM
tricky - I was merely curious, because I studied it in school. You didn't need to go off like a banshee and jump off the deep end and down my throat. I too have been to psychiatrists who were less than helpful, and it's a shame that there are some doctors out there who give the medical profession a bad name.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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It's time to get a little pussy Posted: 7/18/2007 7:16:22 PM
I disagree about the furniture shredding. It's all about the personality of the cat. All of the cats that I had were never declawed and they didn't shred a thing other than their scratching post. Toys are good - don't get anything with catnip in it until kitten is a cat...Most vets will tell you that. And if you are patient - you can train your cats to do tricks. Mine plays fetch, shakes a paw, sits up and begs - and I'm not done with him yet. He's still young and trainable. He's rather dog-like.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

Msg: 63 (view)

Where were you in the blackout of August 2003? Posted: 7/18/2007 2:41:01 PM
well seeing as how it's the biggest blackout since 1977 (2003 was the largest blackout in N.American history) - people are going to remember what they were doing. after all it took out a huge portion of Ontario and a large portion of the eastern seaboard of the states (or something like that)... I played trivial pursuit with my mom once and the question "what happened in 1977 in N. America" - she knew exactly what happened. The lights went out. this was noteworthy.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Where were you in the blackout of August 2003? Posted: 7/18/2007 1:04:14 PM
I remember exactly where I was. I was stuck in traffic at Bayview and Eglinton, (closer to Laird) with my car about to overheat. I ended up barbecueing that night and wishing that my house didn't feel like a sauna.

sickntired2

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It's time to get a little pussy Posted: 7/18/2007 12:56:07 PM
love the title! LOL I got mine at the mississauga humane society. It definitely picked me quite unintentionally. It was hissing and spitting at everybody. I said "hand me that kitten" - she handed him to me and he curled up in my lap and started purring like crazy. Go figure. And some cats actually don't mind being vacuumed. My best friend used to vacuum hers. Animals are awesome!

sickntired2

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Flag Etiquette Posted: 7/18/2007 11:07:56 AM
congrats on the good work Miss Allison! Glad to hear that they fixed it up. It's a shame that it even had to be brought to their attention in the first place.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Flag Etiquette Posted: 7/17/2007 11:22:17 AM
at the University, you should see how ratty our Canadian flag is...it's awful. every time I hit campus and see it, it just makes me cringe. They should replace it. and I'm curious, what nationality was the other flag that was up? or was it like an OPP flag or something? I'm darn proud to be Canadian and I suspect that it would be in better etiquette to have our flag being more predominant than another's flag.

sickntired2

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If she only had one Condom, a potential relationship could have been saved. Posted: 7/17/2007 7:36:50 AM
if a guy pulled out a shoebox full of condoms, I'd leave. I think it would be the norm for most people, male or female. a box full of condoms on any person - would scare the begeebers out of me... But that's just me...

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Bipoolar/Panic Anxiety Posted: 7/16/2007 6:31:33 PM
what type of schizophrenic were you determined to be? Paranoid? Undifferentiated? Disorganized? I'm merely curious because while all your symptoms may not fall underneath one category - it may fall under another. It's good that you are feeling better, but you really should check in with your psychiatrist or at least your family doctor, just to let them know what is up with you: both physically and psychologically.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Bipoolar/Panic Anxiety Posted: 7/16/2007 12:43:00 PM
msg #41 - I think you should seriously rethink your not taking your meds. I know several schizophrenics who have done as you are doing right now, and the rate of relapse is enormous and inevitable. Just because you are thinking you are feeling better, doesn't mean that you should stop taking your medication. does your psychiatrist know you've stopped your meds? Were you on the typical or atypical antipsychotics? Are you stopping them also because of the weight gain and other side effects?

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Ring on left ring finger Posted: 7/16/2007 12:37:00 PM
why not wear rings on any finger you like? I like to wear rings on any finger, lots of women do, regardless of marital status.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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If she only had one Condom, a potential relationship could have been saved. Posted: 7/16/2007 12:31:35 PM
where is the lunch buddy friend from? I'm just curious. And sounds to me like he overreacted, did the snap judgement thing and that's not good. If he reacts like that to a woman being prepared for the bedroom - how would he react to bigger issues?

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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sore tendons Posted: 7/16/2007 11:24:47 AM
that's merely your opinion, and it doesn't mean much to me. seeing as how I notice you are simply in to naturopathic medicine. By your background, you are completely biased. I've done the natural thing and I've also done the doctor thing. They both have their benefits, so to me, you are completely closed minded and can't handle the fact that there are good doctors out there. I do what is right for me. Not talking to you anymore.

sickntired2

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sore tendons Posted: 7/16/2007 7:42:27 AM
not all doctors are quacks - thankfully enough. I've very little faith in many doctors, but for the most part, they aren't all quacks. I've had both good and bad experiences to know that good ones do exist.

sickntired2

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sore tendons Posted: 7/15/2007 7:28:33 PM
what are you talking about? Duck? do you mean Doc? To avoid further strain on the wrists: Take frequent breaks and do the exercises the doctor has indicated that you should do.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Camping Posted: 7/13/2007 8:51:06 AM
my faves are Algonquin park, Balsam Lake, Lake Simcoe, and Sandbanks.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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sore tendons Posted: 7/13/2007 6:22:18 AM
physiotherapy and wrist exercises are the most beneficial along with the icing to reduce swelling/inflammation are the next route to go if it gets to be a rather consistent thing. ergonomic keyboards and the padded thingy are good ideas to prevent further damage to your wrists.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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first thing you notice about profiles Posted: 7/12/2007 8:17:47 PM
first thing other than the pictures - I look for the location. Too far and forget it. anything further than a 45 min drive and it definitely won't happen. the amount of "prefer not to say" on the webpage - more than 1 and I automatically close the profile. Don't need to read further. then it's the drug, drinking and dare I say it - typos. and don't freak on my head for this - it's a nitpicky hang up I have. If I see a profile littered with bad grammar and spelling, it's an automatic turn off for me.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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tendinitis, carpal tunnel Posted: 7/12/2007 11:41:03 AM
go see your doctor - but from the sounds of it - the tingling sensation you are experiencing from the middle of your palms radiating out to your fingers, you've got carpal tunnel. is it your thumb and your first two fingers that are experiencing numbness? Because if so - it's definitely carpal tunnel, especially if it is consistent. I had decreased sensation in my thumb and first two fingers for a month non-stop. Really annoying. Your grip can be fine for a long time, but if you don't get it attended to and start wearing splints at night as well as doing exercises - it will get worse. you may have a bit of tendonitis as well. lucky me, I had to go in for an EMG and I'm getting surgery to relieve the carpal tunnel. Have to wait and hear back from my plastic surgeon. go see your doctor - ASAP.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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my pc is an idiot Posted: 7/12/2007 6:27:44 AM
if I were you, since you just bought the pc, I'd be getting on the horn to the company/manufacturer, since it's still under warranty and get them to fix it. You may be without a computer for a little while, but it will save you the frustration and you still have a working computer at home.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Reporting And deleting Main images Posted: 7/11/2007 9:17:19 AM
They should have the option to explain why the picture should be deleted. ie - not a clear faceshot. It's a fake/celeb headshot, person is standing with a bunch of people so that you can't tell which person is the actual POFer. Just my $0.02

sickntired2

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President of the procrastinators club Posted: 7/4/2007 10:59:34 AM
I made up this saying "procrastination is the devil in disguise" procrastination is my middle name. I've no idea why I'm such a procrastinator, but I am... I'll be the VP and post the minutes from our meetings....when we get around to having a meeting...eventually...then maybe I'll get around to working on the minutes... then you may have them by 2008 ;).... Is there a deadline for this thing?

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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can you trust some one once they cheat? Posted: 7/3/2007 7:17:57 PM
Nop regrets - I feel that depending on the gravity of the mistake, second chances are not an option. You speak broadly about making mistakes and think that writing them off is a harsh thing...not everybody writes people off after making a mistake. cheating however, is not just an "oops. Do-over!" kind of happening/mistake. I've forgiven and gone back to trusting, after many mistakes, but certain things - when trust is so completely shattered like that: I wouldn't and I won't trust them ever again. If you think that this particular kind of philosophy makes my world sad - so be it. I will happily write off any guy who screws around on me and not feel one ounce of guilt about it.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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The age of friends... Posted: 7/3/2007 10:16:26 AM
my friends range from 27-43 and are very diverse in personality....I get something different from each of them.

sickntired2

Joined: 1/23/2007

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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ? Posted: 7/3/2007 6:55:47 AM
I personally don't put too much credence in to the testimonials. They are an interesting read, but I always keep in mind that usually meeting for the first few times (if they have indeed met in person), people have a tendency to put their best foot forward...Not the real foot forward. That and - well the fisher can obviously modify the testimonials ie take them off if it's negative. Don't rely on them too much and don't take them too seriously.

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