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 Author Thread: ED over 45
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:10:27 PM
Realistically ladies, I think some men broach this topic early on because there are so many 40/50 something females who want to talk this topic to death. It could be that these men are more in fear of disappointing you, assuming you've been boning younger guys and you're going to compare.

As opposed to ED there are a high percentage of 40 something women who are not good at sex. With the younger guys......older women pass with flying colours, if you know what I mean. Older guys know that just because you're horny, that does not preclude you are good at sex. I've been disappointed many times.

Enjoy your cawk talk.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Swiss Chalet
Posted: 11/23/2009 2:55:02 PM

I think the older dude is the father of the young woman. Like many young folk, she's embarrassed to be seen anywhere with a parent. But that young woman hasn't seen her Dad for a while (for whatever reason left to the imagination of the viewer). I imagine the parents are divorced, which explains why Mom isn't there[/quuote]

I think they were feasting on the girls mother - that looked like Hanibel and Clarise.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Can a relationship really last if diff sex drives?
Posted: 11/21/2009 4:26:40 PM

We live togethher and both work hard but he hardly even comes to bed with me now. Advice????


Well, if you want honest advice, maybe be honest with th readers in these forums. You want to know if your relationship can survive?
My answer: No. As per your profile, you are single and on the hunt. Maybe give us fact rather than fiction. It appears as though you've made your decision.... why are you asking us for advice now?

Something does not add up.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Since when is personal choice in grooming metro?
Posted: 11/21/2009 4:17:44 PM
Quite simply put, if you don’t have New York City as a destination on your places to see before you die, chances are you aren’t a metrosexual.

Hetrosexual, bisexual, transexual, homosexual, metrosexual......In the end, I guess everyone has to be labelled with some sort of sexual orientation - thanks to "Sex in the City"

I must admit, though. When I was in the big city, I rode a metro. Oddly enough, that metro was not clean and there was nothing sexual about it.... so what's the big deal?
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Finances and expenses - responsibility and commitment
Posted: 11/21/2009 2:41:08 PM

After my Husband died I waited to date until my Daughter moved out. I decided why bring someone in whenever she had so little time at home left? We had a great time. I made this decision based on what was best for her.....sometimes we need to put our children first.

I did not lose a spouse through death but, just the same, I am doing the same.

In regards to the OP, if these are issues two years into a relationship I must ask what the hell did these adults talk about for two years? How can it be determined they should move in together if these issues were never raised? It seems such a situation would indicate the parents were dating as if they were school kids and they lived under their parents roof.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 91 (view)
 
I have zero experience with older men.
Posted: 11/21/2009 11:02:36 AM

If only! In my experience, the men in our age group are of two camps - either they are "too much of a gentleman" to take control in or out of the bedroom.... OR.... they are such jerks, they want to control each and every little thing in and out of the bedroom

Relatie to what another poster stated, she resented the fact that men blame women for their problem. Well, the above statement kinda supports the fact that women are the problems, sometimes.

As per your post, you have a chip on your shoulder about men in their 50's. Realistically, you should blame your choices in men and stop blaming an entire demographic for your inability to make right choices.

Not only does the anxiety appear, at times, there is also the issue of wondering if the woman is "Settling" with an older man... that is a very common and relevant concern some men have. That can lead to performance issues..


I can't remember the last time a man actually had the guts to even ask me out on a date...

^^^^ **sigh**
Who's to blame for that?
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 86 (view)
 
I have zero experience with older men.
Posted: 11/21/2009 5:53:00 AM

i have been with alot of men in their 50's and 60's and the majority have a problem with getting and staying hard....this is not good news for women...trying to make it sound cute or sweet or no big deal is just being in denial....a month of this is okay but it gets old after a while....a woman is going to start looking with longing at younger men...some women don't really like sexual intercourse...they are thrilled i guess...older men with this problem are not as easy to deal with as some believe....they can be just as hard to deal with and usually harder to deal with than a younger man....as my girlfriend is always saying...older guys are grouchy....so just don't be surprised when you are asked to perform miracles in the bedroom...even the most skilled women will find one of these men a challenge.

^^^^ I'd like to comment on this:
I am 49 years old. Performance isn't an issue with me. With that said, I am not stupid enough to suggest I perform as well as I did 10-20 years ago. However, during my entire sexual life, starting as a teen, I wasn't able to get an erection with any woman I knew who had a lot of sexual partners.... I felt dirty because I thought of her as a dirty person. Sex is not fun with a person who matches the expression, "Over a million served".

Food for thought.

In response to the OP, I'm not so sure you should make it an issue. Whenever he speaks about this potential problem he may have several things going on in his mind. Most importantly, if you kept reminding him that you've never dated an older man before, that may be part of the problem.... unless you have an issue with it don't discuss that fact in the least bit.

Men have egos and a frail sense of mauchoism. Let him believe he is your macho, macho man.

One other sensitive issue I'd like to bring into the equation, is his self esteem. Men at this age know about older women preferring younger guys. It's also a concern that a woman he might fall in love with may eventually leave for better sex with a younger man (hence, the reason you do not talk about your younger partners from the past).

The way you encourage him is the way he will respond. Maybe, when you are about to become intimate, let him take control and let him seduce you. If you take control he may be more concerned about his performance issue(s) then.

With that said, there are a few good posts/suggestions in this thread.


Some of the men will always try to blame women for their short comings

Pffffft! Some of the women are to blame.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
HST
Posted: 11/20/2009 12:57:38 PM
Givven the HST will add a few dollars onto my vacation expense, I will estimate how much more that will increase my expenses. If the cost equates to the same as if I were to travel in USA, I will go the USA route because the USA welcomes tourists.

In the USA I can go to Vegas (from Detroit) for a few hundred dollars (flight and room) for 4/5 nights. I can train it to Chicago and back for less than $100 (including bridge fees).

Where in Ontario, in a major city, can you get that?
Answer: Nowhere - especially now that the hst adds $8.00 for every hundred dollars spent on rooms, flights, etc.

Ontario, in true form, is turning away business and consumer spending. Gotta love the Liberals
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/19/2009 3:20:27 PM

I didn't overlook any indicators. You WERE a total jerk. Then you apologized. You can't unring a bell, and you don't get high-fives for taking responsibility for yourself at the end of the scene you created

You are over reacting and over analysing things. I never asked for high fives and I don't know why you would even make such a ridiculous claim. For some reason you are making this a personal issue... you're wasting your time.


Shame on you for being comfortable enough with your outburst that you included it in a thread that is supposedly about the way in which some stores charge for bags

What is shameful is the fact that you are displaying an outburst over this thread. At least I was in the real world, having a bad day. You have no excuse for your outbursts to last two days - in a virtual world where you choose to partake in as soon as you energised your computer. You came looking to stir the pot.
As you stated:.

Next time, try to maintain some dignity

**onto the next critic**

Your apology.......rings a bit hollow after embarassing her in front of others

I'll take that a bit further. My behaviour was sincere. However, that does not omit the fact that my behaviour was self centred, arrogant and extremely rude.
There.... do you feel better?

well if someone acts like a jackass and is rude by telling them they aren't very smart, what kind of look do you expect to get?

Probably the same look had I had packed all my items, discovered I was short two bags and then continued, "I don't have enough bags... may I have two more, please?"
Chances are good she would have gave me that same look and responded, "Well. I gave you what you asked for...."


You have to remember that tellers and any kind of retail clerk these days have it hard enough dealing with bosses that ride them constantly,

One of the first rules in retail sales is to never put your dirty laundry in front of a paying customer..... if she was having a bad day, so be it. But who comes first when speaking in terms of employees (a liability) or a customer (an asset), from an employers perspective?

I worked retail sales and I knew very well how to suck it up and smile no matter how difficult the customer was.... and there were many because I worked for a very unethical retail store owner.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/18/2009 4:26:08 PM

I just wonder what would possess someone to create a thread to brag about it

I just like to piss off man haters - lol.
Speaking of people who wear blinders... maybe you should have read this:

Before getting to the point let me explain my day - I think it will help all of this to fall in place..........Long story short, the day was long, tiresome, dirty and slightly dangerous..........I was hungry and grumpy from being hungry......I had to rush.........pick up groceries........to feed my other daughter who was at home sick (for two days, so far).

Before you posted this:

Wonder if the cashier was having a bad day too...Even if she was having the best day of her life.......Definitely no reason to be treated so poorly.

I was having a bad day.... you don't know if the cashier was having a bad day. Yet, you bust my chops.
You obviously overlooked another obvious indicator that I was not a total jerk:

I openly apologised to the cashier and briefly stated, "I had a very, very bad day and haven't eaten since 6:30 this morning.


Take your blinders off and see the topic for what it is.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 496 (view)
 
What do you think about cougars?
Posted: 11/18/2009 4:05:59 PM

The status quo. Older men have been chasing younger women for centuries and there was never a label put on it (unless he was much older and she was barely legal...then he was, and is, a "perv"). Now that women have gotten in on the action, society feels the need to label it


The reason men have been doing that for centuries is that, for centuries, men were the bread winners while the mother tended to the house. As well, the men who wanted children chose younger women for obvious reasons.

Nowadays, many women seem more focussed on being like the men (behaviour wise) as opposed to being women. Hence the stupid reasoning, "If men can do it, so can we." That, in itself, is a very weak argument. I interpret that as saying it's a gender war, not an equality issue.

If cougars are claiming they are doing it because men are doing it, you deserve the same negative recognition and unflattering labels those kind of men get. You can't be the same but then expect a more palatable title/label.... that wouldn't be morally right.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 284 (view)
 
Smarter ladies have worse sex
Posted: 11/17/2009 1:06:57 PM

I'm super smart........I can have an orgasm in like 30 seconds flat if I do it myself, about 2-5 minutes if he goes down on me.

You're also super lucky! Hopefully, we will meet one day while commuting on the transit system..... hopefully, you're commando, as well.

I like smart woman sex because they don't get confused when I ask "Who's your Daddy??"
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 482 (view)
 
What do you think about cougars?
Posted: 11/16/2009 6:23:12 PM

A cougar is nothing more than an old hosebag


Yanno, people can have their opinions but to make such a statement like that is totally uncalled for. Women make decisions based on their own emotional make up and their past life experiences. Given that, some a-hole men emtionally beat on their wife and then, once divorced, these women seek younger guys because the younger guys are not as much a threat and/or domineering. I think it's disgusting to label a woman such as you did.

My only complaints about cougars is that they seem to have a double standard in the way they socially treat men their age. Also, when a cougar uses men their age as a scapegoat/excuse for their lifestyle, I feel they most likely aren't accountable for much of their behaviour. Other than that... bang who you wish.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
When is the time right?
Posted: 11/16/2009 2:04:27 PM

My thoughts are that guys want to go from one woman to another woman. That's what I've been told

I'm trying to figure out if you were "told" that is what your thoughts are? lol

Anyways, that's not a good way to gauge a relationship.... if that is the way you gauge a relationship, you are the weakest link...good bye! Others aren't as emotionally attached to the situation as you are. Nor, do they know him as intimately as you do..... how can they offer up the best advice?

It's only been a few weeks... what's the rush?
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
having a tough time. (could use alot of help.)
Posted: 11/16/2009 1:44:49 PM
I think you are your own worse enemy. You need to realise that you were in a relationship with him and now you're not in a relationship..... I don't think that has fully sunk in, yet.

Your responses to these posts clearly indicate you are a desperate person who keeps giving him chances over and over and over again because you want a specific result as opposed to the truth - no matter how vehemently you disagree.... that's not healthy.

You are beating down your own self esteem. Stop making excuses about your life being on hold. Your life is on hold because you choose to place it on hold... he's not stopping you from moving on - you are.

Maybe ask him what he is doing (who is he with) when he is not talking with you or being with you.... that should tell you a lot.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:21:50 PM

When the grocery stores are busy, who is watching out for the shoplifters now? How do you stop them?

For the most part, if you look up, there are cameras mounted on the ceiling. They usually have security staff monitoring the cameras from an office that is out of sight and out of mind.

There is a moral dilema to shoplifting. In the case of teens/kids stealing they (grocers) will aprehend them. In the case of adults it is a catch-22. If there are adults who are habitual thiefs they will aprehend them as well. However, if an adult steals a few small items the store has to ask themself if it's worth aprehending them over a few dollars especially if the person spends thousands of dollars a year at the atore? They lose a customer for life if that happens and sometimes it's best to turn a blind eye.

In truth, staff account for a lot of the loss....especially those who prepare foods and/or work in the bake shop, hot food section, deli, etc.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
skilled trades - females
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:04:46 PM

I already went to school for Utilities Systems Operations and Power Engineering...........As bad as this sounds i think it's because the industry is far more gender biased than I thought.

You may be right to a certain degree because these are male dominated trades. But, truth be tiold, power engineers are becoming a dime-a-dozen. Therefore many steam operated plants are able to hire 1st and 2nd class operators for third class plants, while paying third class wages.

My suggestion is to apply at government funded institutions (school boards, hospitals, etc) because they have a tendency to hire women and people of minorities.


I am debating between two programs - Home Inspector or Electrician

I hired a home inspector when I purchased my home. It was an absolute joke!!! He was a certified inspector. I learned later, had no previous experience with the construction trade as a contractor and/or sub trade..... he was a laid off machinist. I discovered this once I reviewed his printed report and had several basic questions he couldn't answer..... I never told him I was in new house construction for many years. Nor, did I tell him I was a plumber. I think I should have just to shut him up - he talked in circles because he didn't know that much.

The Electrical field provides so many options.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
WTH is going on? Phone relationship??
Posted: 11/14/2009 3:05:53 PM

She comes by, never got out of her car

Hmmmm... actions speaklouder than words, in my opinion. The fact that she calle dyou to join her and a friend shortly after that rude behaviour, I'd be guessing she's not that into you.

Yesterday, I sent her a text asking if she wants to go for dinner..no reply.. I call her after work...no answer...left a msg...no reply

On the other hand, you're coming off as a desperate man... stalker like tendencies.

It's time to move on.... it's not as if she's encouraging you to stay.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 55 (view)
 
being ignored
Posted: 11/14/2009 2:46:14 PM

Although i completely disagree with anyone who cannot see how the silent treatment is childish and manipulative (because...hello... it IS)

There are personalities who beat a topic to death. There are people who need to be right, all the time. These type people are manipulative and they require feedback - talk it to death, so to speak.

I'm of the opinion, someone like you needs fuel (feedback) in order to feed your ego and/or arrogance, if that's what you really believe about a person being silent. In fact, based on your sarcastic response:

(because...hello... it IS),

I, personally, would be giving you the silent treatment quite often. You seem to be the "end all" to this topic, so I can't help but think you would be the same on other issues.... that's emotionally draining and pointless waste of energy.

In the case of the OP, she obviously requires feedback to keep her fire burning in regards to a guy who doesn't want her. He's right to ignore her because she only listens to what she wants to hear.


Can we come back to this in a few hours after we finish the movie?

Yeah, right.
The first thing I want to do with someone in the midst of an argument is to halt the banter, make popcorn and watch a movie together. .... and then what? Listen to each other repeat themselves 2 hours later? I don't think so.

Agreeing to disagree is the mature response. Arguing just to win the dispute is unreasonable. Agree to disagree... call it a night... and each other sleep on the issue. In the end, common sense should prevail. If not, usually that's where the "ignoring" part comes in - avoids beating a dead horse, so to speak.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
being ignored
Posted: 11/14/2009 6:56:02 AM

Also I checked your profile for age and I see you're 37 so I can only assume he is near your age


Well..... maybe go further and track all of the threads she started regardng her relationship and her boyfriend..... I'd ignore her too if she were on a dating site trash talking me the way she is. As well, she knew this relationship was over a long time ago... she has issues about "Letting go".
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
being ignored
Posted: 11/13/2009 8:38:26 PM
I work in a hospital and needless to say 80% of my coworkers are female. I grew up with 3 sisters; I have 3 daughters. The vast majority of the times I do remain silent because there is no stopping a woman who wants things done their way and/or they want the results directed to a specific conclusion.....Not all women are like that, obviously.

I have no problem speaking my mind. However, when I sense a woman will not take "No" for an answer or they have a tendency to rant and rant and rant until the they get the outcome they want (uncaring about others wants), I give htem the silent treatment. Rosie O'Donnel comes to mind.... she lacks the ability to shut up.

In all honesty, being silent is the best way in many cases because the other party usually needs bait (counterpoints) to prove they are good at winning arguments - not resolving them. For example:

Guy, "I'm no longer feeling this relationship can work.... I think we should consider ending things."
Girl, "What? You've not given us a proper chance."
Guy, "It's been several months and I honestly do not feel my bond is getting stronger. In fact, I'm becoming disenchanted so, let's end things now."
Girl, "You have another woman don't you? Who is it? Jane? Cathy? Elaine? Who is it? Tell me or I am going to start a thead on POF and make sure no other woman wants you... you'll come grovelling back to me. Then, it will be too late. So, don't you dare end things!!!"

Same scenario... dealt with silence:

She sends 10 voicemails a day... he does not reply.
She calls his friends... he doesn't respond.
She starts a thread on POF.

The overall result is the same...... so why get into a biotch session?
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 168 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 11/13/2009 12:56:06 PM

I am very straight forward and that seems to attract either guys who are a$$holes and we clash or an array of submissive men who love a woman on top ( no pun intended). Its hard to find a happy medium


If you're not happy about the results of your straight forward attitude, shouldn't that motivate you to change a little? If not, I guess you won't be compromising in a relationship.

Therefore, you're doomed before you even get started.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Red Light Camera Tickets
Posted: 11/13/2009 11:50:55 AM

Did you know that studies show red light cameras actually INCREASE the number of accidents at intersections? That's right, because people suddenly braking for a yellow or red light, afraid they'll get a ticket, cause cars behind to plow into them.


So, what you're saying is that people tailgating and unattentive cause accidents at red light intersections?
Nice try! It appears as though it's the drivers, not the light, that is the problem.

Whenever I rear end a person, it's because she told me too - but that's a top for the "Sex and Dating" forum.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/11/2009 12:06:17 PM
I just returned from the grocery store. It ocurred to me that I am not being charged for those bags (and plastic coated tie wraps) used to lot your fruit and vegetables together. Again, this just doesn't add up.

The next time, maybe I should grab a whack of those bags and proceed to the checkout then claim, "I don't need any of those bags... I got the free bags in the produce section."
lmao!

I'm kidding, of course. But the hypocracy is so blatantly clear.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Was He Too Blunt?
Posted: 11/11/2009 7:42:44 AM

Wanting to sleep with me at some point is fine but placing a time-frame on sex is a complete turn off

Ummmm... that's a contradiction within itself, isn't it?

Realistically, we all have that expectation that intimacy will eventually ocurr. Sometimes, immediately and then other times it is a prolonged wait. Either way, we all have time frames. Maybe you consider it a turn off because it's not what you want. But that does not mean it is a turn off to those who don't want to wait and/or decide on cellibacy.

With that being said, the guy was a total butt plug for messaging you in that manner.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Foreplay or Actual sex - what is more exciting to you?
Posted: 11/11/2009 7:17:22 AM
I agree with most that foreplay is eminent in most sex acts.

Making out with all clothes on (she, in a dress) is very sensual and erotic to me. Anticipating her clothes to be on the floor shortly makes me want to savour the enjoyment and sometimes not even finish it off with intercourse. Getting a woman to the horny stage while shopping and then having her wait it out 'till we get home (or in the car - lol) is where I find most pleasure.... it seems to heighten the passion and intensity. Most often, it turns into something rather agressive... making for a great morning session, later
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:51:15 PM

It's a shame that to make some people do the right thing .........you gotta whack them over the head with a nickel

There is a difference between doing the right thing in comparison to charging for plastic bags. If they were seriously concerned about the environment, why wouldn't they ban the use and/or sale of plastic bags altogether?

Remember, in the 60's there was no such thing as plastic shopping bags. Once it was discovered plastic bags were very inexpensive they jumped on the band wagon. It kinda reminds me, also, of Coca Cola and Pepsi banning together to shut down Faygo (their newest competition years ago). Coca Cola and Pepsi got the government to ban the use of plastic pop bottles because they were unsafe and potentially torpedo like.

Faygo basically shut down and the two other companies switched to plastic torpedo bottles..... so much for safety concerns.

Money motivates governing powers and corporations - not the environment.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Just need some advice on what to do next? Help!!!
Posted: 11/9/2009 11:02:21 PM

she just got out of a long term relationship and wants to take things slow...We just met

Translation:
Let her roll the dice. If you take it further and faster you're gonna be roadkill.
She used you..... that's about the only way to treat people who brush you off with the "Take it slow" stuff. It really means she wants her boyfriend back.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Is domestication wasted?
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:56:09 PM

If I had a dollar for every man who thought he could cook better than most women, I'd be sitting on a big ole mountain of money.

If I had a dime for every time a woman thought men can't cook better than women, I'd have twice as much as you.....

In my opinion, I notice that kids aren't raised to be as responsible as we were. Menaing, kids have more free reign over their lives and they weren't forced to help with the domestic duties in the house. Much of this may be due to the fact that families need to be two income nowadays and less time is spent in the kitchen, house, etc.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Would you be with someone that you knew you liked more?
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:47:25 PM
If the guy is being respectful towards you it may take some time for him to get that spark lit. I guess the most important thing to do, is not let yourself get so emotionally involved that you'll be depressed for months or years later if things don't turn out for the best.

If you feel uncomfortable with things as they are, maybe take a break so both of you can ponder over things for a while. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:28:09 PM

.(personally I like the black bags from Canadian Tire that say "This bag is green" just because it confuses people)

I actually joked around with a manger about that very thing. I lifted the bag, pointed to it and stated, "So, that sign over there claiming you to be #1 in customer satisfaction does this mean it's an optical illusion?" He, like others, fail to sense my sarcastic, dry humour.

I'll bet he eats hatchbacks, Icecap!!.

Next time.......wander through the produce aisle as you know that will put you in a better mood.LOL

It sure will....

After reading these posts, it's good to see I'm not the only person getting pissed off over this issue.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Should I just let it go??
Posted: 11/9/2009 6:41:52 AM

He then left. I had not heard from in in months.... out of the blue......Picking up right where we left off, things got more serious........ everyhting was perfect....
He then told me he needs to figure himself out


^^^ What this guy did is what I refer to as the immigrant song.
Have you ever seen those movies where the immigrant gets busted and suddenly loses the ability to speak english? Well, players are like that too. Players get what they want and then when it comes down to it, they suddenly become ignorant and can't figure out why they are there, with you.

It's the oldest con game, yet women actually believe these guys (douchebags) suddenly become disoriented in a relationship and with their emotions.


the sad part is, that I cant seem to NOT think of him in my future

Yes, that is sad, in more ways than one.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:31:03 AM

the bagger (if available) has a tendency to pack them so full they are rather difficult to carry

On many ocassions I've watched people struggle when attempting to carry their bags out of the store and to their vehicle. Immediately, I thought these people are accidents waiting to happen. They are carrying awkward loads and when the ice and snow come I can only imagine how many slip&falls, strained backs, etc., we'll here about.

Those "green" plastic boxes (lieu of 'green bags') kinda puzzle me as well.... IT'S PLASTIC!!!!
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Parents Visting and Dating...
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:17:08 AM
If your parents are as kind, caring and considerate as you and your brother, I'm certain your parents will give you some alone time. Meaning, they may take off for weekends just so you can be yourself and run around naked.

Besides, maybe your parents are interested to see the type of women you date. Don't bring different women home all the time but, maybe introduce your parents to some of the female friends you have. I'm sure your parents would like to learn a bit about your friends.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Moral Dilema
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:06:30 AM

she gets mad at you and assumes you want him back

^^ That will be his defense if you get involved and therefore, the new girlfriend will also think the same. As you said, you think he may have cheated on you but there were no signs. His girlfriend may be thinking the same... your credibility will be ruined, not his.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Shoud i lower my standereds?
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:26:23 AM
By lowering your standards you lower your expectations. And by doing that, it's not good. I let a few standards "slip" so to speak, and that was a bad thing. I became frustrated because the excuses started chiming in like, "You knew I did this, why is it an issue now?" If people don't meet up to your standards and then you make excuses for dating them anyway, you really have no legitimate recourse or excuse to ask for change later.

And for goodness sakes, don't be like some women who think they can change a person and their habits thorugh time (and good sex) - that's stupid!
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Your two cents worth......
Posted: 11/7/2009 2:49:13 PM

"If you can't take me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best."


If a person dwells in their "worst" and seeks attention (attention whores/drama queen/king) in their "worst", there could never be a "Best".... making such a plea redundant.Besides, didn't she flirt with the president while standing directly in front of the president's wife? Was that her worst, or best?

If that statement came from a more reputable person, I'd give it more thought.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 49 (view)
 
She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:13:27 AM

What sucks right now is not only the idea that I am being played with

I'd shed tears for you (not really) but, unfortunately, you previously stated:

I have dated a lot, lot of girls and the honest truth is that the vast majority of them I knew were doomed from the start and enjoyed them until they sputtered out and died

I'm sure one of your girls in the past had a genuine passion for you but you played them.... I'm guessing you were also playing behind their backs because of the inevitable ending you played out in your mind.

Now, karma has returned in the form of a red head with blue eyes.

It looks good on you.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:20:04 PM

If you get some cloth bags and keep them in your car .... you won't have to "guess" how many bags you might need next time you go for groceries.


How many cloth bags?
*get my point?*


Grrrr! Recycled paper bags are environemntally friendly. Cloth bags get dirty and if spills/breaks ocurr, it can be a breeding ground for germs and bacteria.....unless you want to use electricity, water, natural gas to clean and dry them - which is environmentally unfriendly
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Biotch slap the bag lady!!!
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:40:03 PM
This topic is about grocery bags and the biotch that sells them. Before getting to the point let me explain my day - I think it will help all of this to fall in place.

This morning as I got into work there was no hot water in the entire west end of the building. I had to search for the problem and correct it, immediately. I didn't have my morning coffee and I missed the morning break. I was troubleshooting and doing the repair from 7:00am till 11:00am. It was almost lunchtime so I thought I would forego my break and wait 30 more minutes for lunch.

Within that thirty minutes another emergency call occurred. There was a steam line leaking, causing the area to be shut down till situation remedied. Me and a coworker responded and was on that job till 2:20pm. No breaks, no lunch, no relief.

Long story short, the day was long, tiresome, dirty and slightly dangerous. I didn't have my afternoon break either. I was hungry and grumpy from being hungry (I'm a food whore). Now, I had to rush from home, drive my one daughter to work and then pick up groceries to feed my other daughter who was at home sick (for two days, so far).

Now comes the bag lady experience!!!

I picked all my groceries and went to the check out. I had a full cart. As I unloaded the items onto the conveyor, I greeted the cashier with a "Hi" (trying to ignore my inner anger at the time).... she didn't respond to my greeting. I pushed my cart to the end of the conveyor as I waited for the cashier to check the items. After checking a few items she asked, "How many bags do you want?"
Me "Pardon me?"
Her, "How many bags do you want?"
Me, "I don't know... quite a few by the looks of things."
Her, "I need to know how many bags you want, sir."
Me, "I'll have a better idea in a couple minutes."
Her, "I need to know how many bags you need so I can add them to the total."
Me, "Excuse me?"
(she repeated herself)
Me, "I haven't a clue! I'll tell you what... before you tally up all of the groceries, please tell me exactly how much money I will need to pay you. And then, I'll tell you exactly how many bags I need."
Her, "I need to know the amount of bags you need because I entered it into the sytem already."
Me, "Well. That wasn't very smart, was it?"
I never understood why people need to give the amount of bags needed before they even begin bagging the items. It's always been a pet peeve of mine and given the events of the day, I wasn't about to let this go
She gave me this biotchy look. I immediately thought of the old days whenever I gave that look to another person, my dad would backhand me. I thought, if my dad was here he would have biotch slapped her (provided we were in the 1960/70's) - hence the thread topic.

Things escalated.

I then continued, "Look! You are a professional cashier/bagger. You do this full time. If you can't tell me, as a professional, how much my items will cost; And if you can't tell me how many bags you think I would need to carry these items, then how the hell am I supposed to know?"

She looked a little shocked - to say the least.
At this point I knew I had lost it. I knew there was no going back. So I continued on with my little rant/exhibition.

Me, "Give me one hundred bags.... and I mean it! When I'm done packing my stuff, I will count the bags I used - tell you the total amount of bags I used because, I guess I should have known from the start - STUPID ME!!!. Then, you can print me out a refund for the bags not used........I mean this! I am serious! And I won't take 'No' for an answer."

I then looked at the people in line behind me, stating, "All of this is because I am a criminal for using a plastic bag to carry my items that are mostly wrapped in plastic.... go figure!!!"

Many customers started laughing. I started laughing and then proceeded to bag my groceries because the store has no baggers. I openly apologised to the cashier and briefly stated, "I had a very, very bad day and haven't eaten since 6:30 this morning.

Biotch slapping the bag lady wasn't a very nice thought.... but I thought it was a funny sounding thread topic.

I don't know about others in this province, but I am getting tired of all this "Green" stuff when, in truth, those who are enforcing/imposing these environmental issues are grossing huge profits.

Where are the paper bags that used to be available in stores... for free? These are environmentally friendly bags yet, we have no right to demand them? Grrrrrrr!
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 35 (view)
 
What is it with men & sexually liberated women
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:46:54 PM
I think the OP needs to be more specific with her meaning of "liberated". I tend to think in the lines of cougars, women who were sexually oppressed in their marriage and those who suddenly discovered the "slut" side of their sexual expression.

Liberated from what? (as previously asked)

Part blame may be due to some mens insecurity. On the other hand, some women take their "liberated" feeling too far when in relationships. Meaning, they may lose perspective on what constitutes respectful behaviour in a relationship.

I was with a woman for several years who was very assertive and expressive (not liberated) sexually. It was something we both enjoyed immensely. But, she did not feel the need to express her sexuality in public. As a result, I respected her as opposed to mistrusting her.

Some women use their Liberation as an excuse to behave immaturely in front of others - and at the boyfriend's expense..... that's not flattering, in my opinion.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
ontario cell phone ban
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:19:37 PM

and yeah, you're supposed to pull over BUT NOT IN A LIVE LANE... makes you wish the rocket launcher still worked, but oops - they banned that, too... gotta get the voice activated launch model.


Maybe drive with Michael Bryant?
couldn't resist!!
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 73 (view)
 
A friend's cheating husband
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:40:10 PM

Op, you are responsible for YOU.. mind your own business and remove yourself completely from the scenerio..

After reading several posts from the OP I think the advice above is good.

OP, you seem to have a hot button for the husband yet you defend his former mistresse' behaviour. You also excuse her cheating with the husband.

If you think your friends behaviour was justified because she was in a bad marriage, why do you not do the same with the husband? Assume he is in a bad marriage.

Cheating is cheating. You cannot justify one slut while condeming another slut. Besides, if you tell, I think there may be a lot more things that would come out in the open. For example, when speaking of your friend (husband's lover) and how she feels about it:

It sucks, and it haunts my friend,

It contradicts your other claim:

but they flirt when around each other and she doesn't TELL him to leave her alone

I am beginning to believe you like your friends just for the drama. Given these posts:

and I know of a third "friend" who SAYS she recently slept with him, just two months ago. I have no idea what he does.......But all that aside, I KNOW he cheats with friends of his wife... regularly


I think you're misguided. I beg to differ about the following:

First, one is NOT the company one keeps, however fun it is to say that

I disagree with you. Although you are not involved sexually, you are living the drama vicariously through your friends lives. Gossiping and starting this thread is simply a perpetuation of the situation... authored by you.

If you stick your nose in deeper, you may end up finding out that your friend is not that haunted by the wife's hubby.

This is getting to be like high school drama
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 47 (view)
 
A friend's cheating husband
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:31:33 AM
Everybody has their own coping mechanisms. Being a friend does not preclude you impose your heroism over her choice of coping with the situation.... a real friend would understand that. She is aware of infidelity; your job as an adviser is done.

As far as dumping her? Well, that too is a very selfish act, as a friend. If you mettle in someone's personal life, you should accept the consequences (rants, if you will) of your own behaviour. Be her friend (that's what she wants) not her nightly newsline.

If the wife begins imposing that aspect of the marriage with you or other general complaints about her marriage, then contemplate your position. Until then, you've not been invited to snoop into their bedroom life.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 43 (view)
 
A friend's cheating husband
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:15:23 AM

I don't care for the adv ice to not tell the woman or find a way to let her know ina subtle way. Stop being a coward about the whole thing. Tell the woman and own up to your part in keeping her in the dark.

That's not always a good alternative.
The wife already experienced a sense of infidelity yet refused to accept the news. If a person (the wife) prefers living in that environment, she will disown those who are publicising the affair(s)..... really, who wants their bad marriage to be the local gossip?

If the wife starts complaining about the marriage, then the topic can be brought forward
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
H1N1 Do we know the truth? Will we ever?
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:45:45 AM

The guy is a business wizard.......No conspiracy theory here, just a guy that happened to be a smart businessman

Or a ruthless opportunist.
*cough* Weapons of mass destruction*cough*

We know where they are. They are in the area around Tikrit and Baghdad.

Donald Rumsfeld March 30, 2003
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
How to prevent THIS type of hurt?
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:38:49 AM

However **** it is common that after 1-2- months of dating Jan/Joe will decide that ou are not the one but still will continue to see you, spend time with, call and etc.
You still believe that things are moving forward and he/she already knows that they do not see anything further than dating. But of course not telling it to you because they always enjoyed your company and had great time

All you can do is look for signs. Someone who is not entirely involved with a relationship usually gives enough signals.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
A friend's cheating husband
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:07:42 AM
I am gong to speak from a similar experience as you have. It's not quite the same but it certainly has a lot of similarities. The first two similarities are that he is very good looking and financially secure. The third similarity was the wife's response:

She claimed not to believe it.

Some people would rather disbelieve and deny the truth because they are in a comfortable lifestyle.

I made the mistake of telling my friend about her husband. She knows what was going on but didn't want to lose her comfortable lifestyle. This woman who I thought I was helping no longer speaks with me. She has shunned others who informed her about her husband.

I'm guessing your friend doesn't want a change in life so she accepts his behaviour. Unfortunately, I know many who are in the same situation. There is a cycle though. The man goes on weekend golf outings and the women who cheat go on weekend shopping excursions.

Your friend knows what is going on. I'd keep clear of the situation - she doesn't want her world upset, especially by her friends who are her world.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
How to prevent THIS type of hurt?
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:57:27 PM

If you had some negative experiences in the past and in the position that you look for serious relationship and failed to landa great person (as we know it is not alwayd easy) how do you know that they just not keeping you for light casual dating?


The problem lies within you. You have no business pretending you are going to be ina long term relationship when you are going to let your past sabotage the present and future, and trust in others, Get rid of the insecurities and place a little faith in someone or it can be argued that you are the problem, not the other person.

In the meantime, to remedy this kind of situation I am in the midst of inventing a bullshit detector. I just need to figure out how to make it pocket size
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
help
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:36:36 PM
She's married.... why would you think your relationship isn't strictly a sexual relationship? In effect, you are falling in love with a lying, cheating, married tramp. But then again, birds of a feather flock together, I guess.

I could go on about your behaviour, and hers, but I won't. Instead, let's pretend you are foolish enough to cause the family to split and she keeps things going with you. If she were to go out to bars and do "stuff" with friends, while being your girlfriend.... would you have suspicions about her whereabouts? Based on her past history, ya should. Unless, of course, you feel you are her first lover ( I doubt it). In fact, I think she is busy with another man and that is why you are being brushed off.

she hasnt opened up to me as she likes to keep her probs to hersefl,so have had to ask her freinds

You are going to a married woman's friends seeking personal information she doesn't want to share with you?

You're a stalker!
 
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