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Joined: 10/23/2011

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Trying further away from home area Posted: 12/21/2011 11:20:11 AM
I have had a look unfortunetly the nearest Gingerbread group is North East England. My daughter started school this summer, so to boost my confidence after the new year I will be looking to get back into employment. However reading up on Gingerbread, I am considering looking to set up a group something like that might give me motivation and focus which will also lead to increase in confidence. Thanks Blodeuwedd I had never heard of Gingerbread before. I do have to agree with Zeegarry, I do believe that is more due to lack of self confidence that someone is "out of my league" Last time I was on this site before deleting my profile thinking I had found someone, my confidence was a lot higher and as such no responses did not bother me as I would not even bother checking if they had looked at my profile. The reason I thought further afield was a good idea was when I had the not enough local message and had people I had never seen before. However the reponses in this thread have made me analyze my profile and thoughts.

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Trying further away from home area Posted: 12/21/2011 5:47:46 AM
Thanks all for the replies Yeah I will have a look at that Lochlomond. The way i was looking at it withot a car I was more or less looking at just short of an hour by public transport to the centre of Aberdeen. However you are right it is most likely my profile I did have photo from me working in a bar and in the kilt the last time. Adds a bit more variety to my profile, best get my thinking cap on, and see if I can borrow someones confidence. Some very vaild points about 2 hours in terms of distance, even going up to just over an hour that would cover down to Dundee direction, the more I thank about that if it is one person making all the travelling all the time then it is not going to be great fun.

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Why POF and not real life? Posted: 12/21/2011 3:01:55 AM
Reason I joined is because at the time I had no time to go out and meet people, work was very male orintated, also bringing up a child who was under school age at the time. this was my first time around. I had a reasonably good experience, so when the relationship failed I decided after a while to come back this time back has not went as well. The more I think about it I am starting to think I do not have the confidence anymore. I have New Years Eve to myself and I cannot deicde if I want to risk going to he pub on my own. So for me it is easier due to personal circumstances.

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Trying further away from home area Posted: 12/21/2011 2:10:44 AM
I have a bit of a dilemma! Apart from the lack of replies or changes in people local to me, I am wondering if looking further away from home is the way to go. Currently I only search about 25 - 50 miles away. The biggest issue is that with being a single dad I have limited free time which is stopping me looking too far away from home. I think a 2 hour drive is around the distance I would go. Or would my lack of confidence just compound the problem as I may be sending out more messages and getting less replies due to the distance. I am starting to think I perhaps I need to change my search critera and maybe take a chance messaging people that I think are out of my league? Do you think 2 hours apart is acceptable distance as it does restrict spur of the moment decisions? Thanks in advance for any advice

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