You’ve got a nerve lecturing me; you are the one who went off topic in the first place. Sneering at people who have actually done something productive with their life and achieved much of their personal potential says volumes about you.

^^^ Wrong. "Sloppy seconds" implies that the woman bedded her Thursday date.

you deserve to have a partner who cheats on you.

Am I being silly I feel that if she really liked what she saw on the first two dates that she would not need to date anyone else? I liked her the first time I saw her and would not feel the need to date anyone else.

Therefore, charming should raise even more suspicions than ever.

she can come clean and lay it all out and hey, she either loses the guy or not...

If it was me and I found out later, I'd dump her in a heartbeat for lying...

There is also something extremely satisfying about carving your own way in the world and achieving so much of one's potential.

My overall point is there has to be a reason as to why OP is attracting homosexual men instead of attractive women.

Don't give him a boulder to carry. If you love him now, be committed to him and only to him. If you ever find yourself not in love with him, leave him before you make a mistake against your relationship.

P.S. I will never forget the man who was married to his wife for over 30 years and on his death bed he confessed to an affair he had. She had blistfully been aware and loved him her whole life....now, she hated him.

Confessions are between you and GOD.....no one else needs to carry the weight.

it wasnt that facebook was what mattered to me the most .. my question was if it was a valid request...does it matter if we had talked one day versus 3 years? i know the request after one day is extreme and the other situations i had my own questions about .. the only reason i didnt mention them is because i have my own feeling and ideas about it.

i wasnt being manipulative, just focusing on the questionable part of the conversation.

to clear things up .. we had only talked for about 1 day before the request was made for me to delete my facebook account. he also told me that he didnt think it was ok for me to be friends with people of the opposite sex. married or not. also went on and said he would have the same feelings if i went to have lunch with a female friend. and he basically called me an adulteror(sp?) because i went to eat lunch with a male co-worker who is engaged

Any comments, lotustemple?

We weren't there to hear him so I'd say it's 50/50. Could be a control freak OR he could have just wanted to see if she would give it up BECAUSE it would interfer with his life in someway.

I just had to rant this stuff out because facebook and social networking in general really does screw peoples lives up. It's especially creepy when you think this is now a public company and years in the future they can do anything they want with your information. Think about it- they can sell it to the government, sell it to insurance companies, sell it to job recruiters, profile you based on what kinds of people you associate and what behaviors they post about, they have databases that can recognize your face in any picture you post... this is really dangerous stuff even when relationships aren't thought about. I have FB, but I'm stupid for using it. So is everyone who uses it. The creator of FB even ranted about how stupid people are to use it... He's right!

She said he told her he didn't have one because he "didn't like it". Well, good for him. HE can stay away from it. He's a f*cking moron for asking someone to give it up without knowing how deep their involvement with it is.

Which is your prerogative, but would you ask someone you had never met to delete theirs? The fact that you would defend such a request is rather telling..

In your last post (right above this one) you are painting yourself to be quite the victim. You do not use that word but that is exactly what you're doing, whether or not you are intending to.

started talking to this guy and things seem to be going well. we start talking about our beliefs and how we see things. the fact that i have a facebook account comes up and he tells me that he doesnt have one because he dislikes it. he then asks me if i would delete my account for him.

Facebook is not responsible for "never ending drama"

^^ The fact that he doesn't like fb is his prerogative, but to suggest that someone he hasn't even met yet should delete hers is imo the height of ridiculous.

I had a date with a woman I met here on POF, and she was easily 15 years older than her pic.
She was also completely nuts.

At the time, assuming it was simply anger from years of him picking on them, I refused to change their names. I was given full physical and legal custody so I could have- but I felt it was not a decision to make when angry (the same reason I waited to change back to my maiden name.

Is this "exhibit one" as to why people who live in mud huts the world over hate Americans? I think so...

Yes, get over it. Materialism is SO HARD! Whhhhhaaaaaahhhh!!!!

grin, I was brought up in NY where museums where a cheap weekend family activity, picnic lunch and all. Ever been to the Museum of Natural History there? You couldn't have a conversation if you wanted to, the noise level is so high.

Having my own issues I've dealt with since childhood, -would it have been reasonable to make every kid learn how to give me a shot, or recognize the symptoms of low blood sugar as a diabetic? No. It wouldn't have.

I was doing homework and have a thousand things on my plate. If you refuse to understand that I'm a really busy person then maybe this won't work out.

lotustemple wrote:

"I don't consider good museums clingy or chatty occasions."


Guess we wouldn't get along. I find museums a great place to chat, endless new topics and great insight into the other person as art sparks memories, dreams, realities, views on any and everything.

I met her just over a week ago, at one of the alumni events he invited her to with the purpose of meeting me. Since then, we've become FB friends, weve texted 100's of times - and talked for HOURS. I've also seen her twice since then.

Wow can you guys be any more harsh?? I was just asking a question. Dont judge me.