Why do all the guys who know what they're talking about here either live hundreds of miles away or are less than half my age? Sob.
What I'm wondering is, Why do you women keep on having sex with men who are bad at it?
Sometimes we care about them in almost every other way possible, and don't want to hurt their feelings . My husband really tried, but he was the big affectionate puppy type someone mentioned earlier. I'm widowed, btw, not divorced. Well, I was divorced years ago, in spite of the fact that sex with that the first husband was truly mind-blowingl. Unfortunately we couldn't figure out a way to spend 24 hours in bed.
I'm now starting a relationship with someone, and we seem to have fallen into a pattern of playing Scrabble as foreplay. Sadly, the only Scrabble game I could find was SuperScrabble which has a bazillion tiles, and by the time the game is finished I'm so wet that I'm practically sliding out of my kitchen chair. It's the raised eyebrows and the sideways glances the occasional gentle touch, and the way the Scrabble tiles seem to keep making sexually explicit words.
What this guy has in spades is finesse. I've nearly dropped half of whatever I was trying to cook for supper because of a short kiss from him. Weak knees don't go well with taking a roast out of the oven.