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angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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Looking for a little assistance. Posted: 4/9/2009 7:56:38 AM
Good morning JB! I like your profile! And the tux is nice. Especially since you have some other pictures that indicate you dont live in a tux daily! POF updates things sometimes without us realizing it: example, when I first signed up there were not fields that indicated if I owned a car....that one snuck up on me. View your own profile from time to time to catch those! I noticed that you left profession blank, and you have answered no to having a car. Is that accurate? Your written words are very sincere. Good luck to you!

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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Ladies please help me Posted: 4/9/2009 7:51:54 AM
Good morning JJS! I viewed your profile and I like it! Especially the pic of the doggies! Furry friends can be the MOST loyal! Your words are well thought out, and hopefully someone will appreciate your point of view... The only thing that seems to be missing is a list of interests. Perhaps you could mention some food, music, movies etc. That way if a girl saw a similar interst it could make it easier for her to send you a message and start a conversation about a common ground. Good luck in your search!

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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Profile Responces Posted: 4/9/2009 7:05:14 AM
Wow! Some great responses! Thanks! *CARL: You suggest that I need to post more of what I am about??? Like my intersts? Well threw a few of them out there....others I have left for actual conversation. I did this thinking that it might give someone a topic to make first contact, like "tell me about your theater hobby" You also indicated that if I dont like the drinks thing, that I should suggest my own (if you look again, you will see that I have done that) so I am not sure what you mean here. Artsy does not mean fake or photoshop on "my street". I like black and white photos, you know something a little different. That is all I meant by that. I realize that what a person looks like is the initial attaction. I would utilize that also, but it would be for but a moment before I needed to look "under" a person's skin to find who they really are. LILME2009: Thank you for your compliment. Regarding being uncomfortable with my "body", it is what it is, hence the reason for listing "few extra pounds". To quote Freddy Mercury of Queen (may he rest in peace) Fat Bottom Girls, You Make The Rocking World Go Round! I am quite comfortable with who I am under my skin, I am a bit old fashion in this matter I suppose, I feel that matters of the "skin" are for more personal encounters with the "right" person, not a calling card thrown out there for all to view. Just because my public image is conservative, it by no means suggests being a prude. To Quote Usher: Lady in the street........** in the bed.... BLUE: you raised a very profound and thought provoking image that I did not consider...my professional job is an Accountant (sounds so boring!) Theater is a hobby. And it is not actually a haunted house...I work for Cedar Point's Amuesment Park- Live Entertainment, even my theater hobby has a professional side. But your words have shown me an issue I had not considered. Thanks! NATS: I like your suggestion of what "KIND" of drink! That would certainaly lay out some better ground work. *MKIKER: Bars....drinks....drinks....bars.....hmmm well the drinking thing is again, not a huge issue, it just seems to be something many ask about. The thing of it is...that I would not go to a bar to seek someones company, so I really would not care to meet someone for their company and have it be in a bar! It is just that it often makes it hard to talk, the music might be loud, and one can never predict the mood of a crowd in such an establishment. Holy crow! If I had to post all of this on a profile to give someone a complete overview they would be reading forever! Let alone.....not leaving the gentleman much left to ask about! THANKS TO YOU ALL THO, IT HAS GIVEN ME SOME INSIGHT ON THIS. AND GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU IN YOUR SEARCH.

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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Profile Responces Posted: 4/8/2009 9:40:56 AM
Perhaps where you are from it is considered "fairly common" but not where I am from. I do not live in a big city, I am much more rural. The "drinkers" in my area are "regulars" to their vices. I really don't feel that mentioning that I prefer one way or the other will effect my profile. Someone sending me a message that says lets meet for a drink, actually assists me in weeding them out at times. And it is not as tho I have not giving an idea of what a first meeting/date might consist of, I think I have made that one clear. Your suggestions might be more flowing if YOU bother to view a profile and not just make a comment on a forum. You just seemed to hit on one thing I posted and suggest that there lies the issue???

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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Whats wrong with me??? Posted: 4/8/2009 8:38:53 AM
To the fella that posts you need to loose a few pounds: Ha! You are going to be VERY lonely! EVERYONE Can loose or gain...... but for your gain, perhaps Charm School?

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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Profile Responces Posted: 4/8/2009 8:32:57 AM
Hello, I have taken the time to fill out my profile to the best of my ability. But I always receive very strange responses. No where I have indicated that I want to meet for a drink.....(actually I am not sure that would be a good idea for anyone) I would prefer to have my wits about me in every situation, let alone the first time I meet someone. I get the impression that many guys are "shy" when approaching someone, even if they are not after a while....because many messages only indcated "hi". I guess they prefer me to start things???? I have chosen to post a rather "artsy" picture. One that focuses on my eyes, which I feel is the mirror to a person's soul. I had hoped that would be enough to get some things started at the very least. Posting a full front pic offering my body as a calling card would NOT be kosher in my book, yet I receive messages that only state "got any other pics?" Just wondering if others are having any of these issues. Again, I feel my profile was thought out and completed.... Any suggestions to make changes? Thanks

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux Posted: 3/13/2009 4:46:41 AM
Take a bow! You really can express yourself! You hit MANY points of interest and more than likely SEVERAL common road blocks that men experience. Might I add a few more? (not all apply to men only) As a girl, (or "lady") I do not enjoy seeing posts that address the entire cyber world such as "hey all you ladies out there". This sounds more like an advertisment than a greeting, and many of us do not find this very personalble. Being addressed with terms of endearment by someone you don't know, such as: baby, sweetie, hun (or the dreaded "darlin" which by the way is missing the G) are really not impressive. It is not really preceived as something "cute" but rather condisending. Perhaps a very young girl might find it complimenting, but a "seasoned" woman does not see it like that. Here is a clue: A girl likes to hear HER name from your lips. Unless we ride, we are probably NOT interested in seeing tons of pictures of your Harley! Nor hearing you go on and on about how important Nascar is to you. Of course it is good to list your hobbies and interests, but it would be better to know some common interests that you could have with anyone, not just the "guys". Seeing pictures of you holding a beer, and laughing so hard that your eyes are closed as you sit in a bar surrounded by woman does not make you look like a stud! (in fact, if the ole saying applies that a picture speaks 1000 words, well sorry guys, that picture is not speaking the best ones) Has the English language gone to hell in a hand basket? Seeing LOL LOL LOL at the end of the majority of your sentenences....is that telling me that I "should" laugh at what you wrote??? Should I laugh with you, or AT you? And R and U are letters, not words. Seeing someone who has taken the time to fill out a profile and spell out words and complete thoughts is VERY impressive. It speaks volumes! Here is one that always makes my eye brow raise: "I like to have fun". Who doesn't? Define "fun". Is that dinner and a movie? Or riding around drunk in the country, shooting mail boxes? "Looking for a good woman, or a kind hearted woman". Hmmm.....that one is WIDE open. Along with your lists of hobbies and interests, perhaps a actual small listing of what you would consider the definition of "good or kind". I realize that pictures are important, and profiles that do not post pictures do not get the volume of attention that the others do. But look beyond that picture, and READ what someone has taken the time to post in their profile. This will cover several things and assist you: #1 if she does not sound like the kinda gal that will be a quick hit, (if that is what you are looking for) then please don't waste your time or hers by sending the first message that only reads "nice pic". #2 by reading the profile thru, you may discover points of interest that both of you have. Then you can send a message that says "I noticed this or that about you.....I also enjoy that...." This will at the very least give you some common ground to begin a good conversation. How about the favorites part of your profile? Are you really on 138 peoples favorites list? Do you communicated with all of them? (of course at one point you must have) but do you stay in touch with that many people? Or are you creating the illusion of a fan club? Just some thoughts here, from my own experiences, and a collection of others I have compaired notes with. Not meaning to discourage anyone, but many so often state "what is wrong with my profile, or my approach". Perhaps, this will assist you in weeding things out. Hopefully, it has helped. Good luck to everyone.

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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What common phrases used in a profile make you not contact them? Posted: 8/10/2008 10:37:28 AM
I agree with so much of what you said! Don't you love the profiles that say...."I like to have fun, I like to go out and have fun" What is fun? Dinner and a movie? Or riding around drunk in the country shooting at mail boxes! So many men state they want a good hearted woman, and yet, they don't see to have a clue as to how to treat a heart! Ironic, isnt it!

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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Is something wrong? Posted: 3/29/2007 4:50:16 PM
You have a nice profile. The wording is just fine. I feel the others might be correct about the picture. You can't see your eyes, and you are not really smiling. I was careful about posting a picture also. I chose one that was not a "front" shot hoping it would weed out the unwanted. I can't say what men look for on profiles, but I can say that as a girl, most of us look for something "warm & fuzzy", someone who is a gentleman. And if nothing else, would lead to a new frienship. Good luck to you! interrupted

angel_interrupted

Joined: 1/27/2007

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I have a good POF story Posted: 3/26/2007 3:09:22 PM
Well, in the words of the Great Freddy Mercury: "Fat Bottom Girls, They Make The Rocking World Go Round" Q: You know what you get when you take a "fat bottom" girl to dinner? A: She actually eats it! Maybe even takes some home! (skinny chicks, tend to waste your dinner investment in the toilet right after eating it!) interrupted

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