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 Author Thread: Would you date a recovering alcoholic?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Would you date a recovering alcoholic?
Posted: 5/24/2012 5:43:42 AM
i wouldnt date any kind of addict in recovery.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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not who i thought he was
Posted: 5/24/2012 5:20:31 AM
motown: because im a sally and i dont wanna hurt his feelings! lol nor do i wanna be asked to explain myself.( which is irrelevant because i wouldnt any way) im gonna tell him exactly what you told me to. hope it works.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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How shallow should one be?
Posted: 5/24/2012 5:06:23 AM
hey OP, been seeing you alot lately. lol anywhoo... this is dating. you like what you like and i dont think you should consider yourself shallow for likeing certain attributes and features in a woman. it would be pointless to go on a date with someone you arent into. on the other hand, if you have extremely high standards, try relaxing them a bit. you may be surprised by who you find.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Killing a friendship because you wanted more.
Posted: 5/24/2012 4:57:33 AM
i think you did what was best for you. we all have a self preservation instict and yours flew into action. no shame in keeping yourself from getting hurt (again).
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Girl denied me online, we meet offline (has no clue who I am) and wants to date me.
Posted: 5/24/2012 4:53:29 AM
id say just let this one roll right off your shoulders. youre her boss, and you two have to work together. politely (yes, politely) decline the date and keep fishing.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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not who i thought he was
Posted: 5/24/2012 4:50:06 AM
so here is the sitch:

met a guy on here about a month ago. he was nice, fun to talk to, fun to be around etc etc. we hung out for a couple weeks, had fun the whole shebang. then the truth starts to come out about how he was on unemployment for 2 years. ( problem #1 he admitted that he was just lazy and didnt wanna work) has a child that he gave up visitation for (problem #2 if you dont have a job, why cant you make time for your kid?) and now that his unemployment ran out he cannot pay his bills (problem #3 i dont expect you to pay for me, but you should at least be able to pay for yourself).

i stopped hanging out with him and tried to taper off contact but he is still texting and calling all day, every day. he even asked me to borrow money yesterday. how do i tell him that im no longer interested nor do i want to be friends?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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single chick sharing an apartment with her brother
Posted: 5/23/2012 11:15:07 AM
woah smoothchill, was that a positive or negative response? lol

while privacy for intimacy can be tough to get at times it usually isnt an issue. we work opposite shifts and have an abundance of alone time. the most diffiult thing to deal with as far a dating and living with the broski is finding someone that my brother actually likes. gotta pass the brother test, ya know? its annoying, but hes working on it.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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single chick sharing an apartment with her brother
Posted: 5/23/2012 5:46:09 AM
dogslife, i was just curious what people thought. not that it matters. there is alot of talk lately about living situations.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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single chick sharing an apartment with her brother
Posted: 5/23/2012 5:19:22 AM
lol grace! my goodness... i hope no one my age would share a room with their brother. creeeeeepy!
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Any girls who don't love tattoos?
Posted: 5/23/2012 5:15:21 AM
thats quite a username you got there OP.

i have many tattoos but as far as men with tattoos? im indifferent. you can have many or none, dosent bother me.

what does bother me is when peope say things to make you feel ashamed or embarrased that you do have tattoos. to each their own. my body, my business.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Fellow men, have you felt this way also??
Posted: 5/23/2012 5:03:50 AM
OP, im not a dude but im starting to feel like i would be perfectly happy if i never had kids. im only 25, so this may change but the more i think about it and watch my friends start families the less i want children at all. i used to want kids, badly. i wanted a big family with 3 or 4 kids... but now not so much. dont get me wrong i love kids, but i also love sending them home at the end of the day.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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single chick sharing an apartment with her brother
Posted: 5/23/2012 4:51:50 AM
ive seen a few threads about sharing apartments and im curious what a guy would think upong finding out that i share a place with my brother.

the situation is im 25 and my brother is 23. i make enough to live alone but my brother dosent so we got a place together. he is in a long term relationship and im single but no longer looking. we have always been close. what would you think of a gal with a living situation such as mine?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Ladies, do you even like...
Posted: 5/22/2012 3:48:17 PM
yea ill take care of the boys. but ive only had one lover ever ask me to. is that strange?

how do you tickle balls?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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silly fantasies
Posted: 5/22/2012 3:40:25 PM
a butt plug tail? lolol now ive heard it all.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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ive hit a wall
Posted: 5/22/2012 12:13:46 PM
is it that far fetched that a formerly fat person would spend 3 hours at the gym a day? i dont think so. i dont wanna be fat anymore, ive worked my arse off to get here. an hour an a half in the morning and an hour and a half in the evening. thats easy. i do a half hour alone on the eliptical each visit.

a week off? sounds like a good idea. ive been doing this for 8 months now, i could use a break.

i thought about doing zumba, but i have absolutely no rythm. yoga maybe?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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not sure how to handle this.
Posted: 5/21/2012 5:56:10 PM
wow alot of very different views going on here. as i said before i dont wanna be the sally that whines about a harmless joke. ( though i still feel it was innapropriet). im gonna let it go, at the end of the day i still have to work there. i dont like to stir the pot.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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ive hit a wall
Posted: 5/21/2012 5:51:06 PM
well is it too many calories or not enough? my doctor says 1800 calories is a fair amount. and i havent eaten salt, sugar or any kind of oil in months. god i miss butter...
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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ive hit a wall
Posted: 5/21/2012 10:00:14 AM
hello there healthy folks!

ive been on a weight loss mission for a while and ive lost a total of 56 lbs. ive been going to the gym and eating helthy but over the past month its become really hard to lose wight. its like ive hit a plateau. i work out about 3 hours a day, 5 days a week. and im only taking in 1800 calories a day. i really dont have any more time to spend at the gym and i still need to lose about 40 more lbs to have a helthy BMI. any suggestions??
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
Msg: 58 (view)
 
car sex
Posted: 5/21/2012 9:25:17 AM
yall talkin about me? we werent dating, just screwin'... in, on and around his truck.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
Msg: 37 (view)
 
silly fantacies
Posted: 5/21/2012 5:21:31 AM
^^^ almost everyday. haha
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Need a tissue ???
Posted: 5/21/2012 4:50:33 AM
alas, someone agrees with me about these forums being for fun.

so you really want me to bi*ch? right here? cool!

i dislike all the comments about spelling. i try to be as grammatically correct as possible, but sometimes my phone gets screwey. and im human, i make mistakes.

i also dislike all of the poitical talk in the off topic forum. we should all keep our political views to ourselves. sheesh.

thats all i got for now. talk to ya soon! have a nice day!
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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car sex
Posted: 5/21/2012 4:37:37 AM
im a big fan of car sex, or truck sex i should say. i used to have a fwb a few years back, we both lived with our parents at the time so he would come pick me up in his big ol' truck. the backseat was very spacious, but if it was warm we would climb right into the truck bed. god, i miss those days.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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silly fantacies
Posted: 5/20/2012 11:17:58 PM
cj, i like your style. lol
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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not sure how to handle this.
Posted: 5/20/2012 9:22:10 AM
I didn't say anything. I didn't know what to say. I withdrew from the conversation and went about my business.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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silly fantacies
Posted: 5/20/2012 6:57:59 AM
they wanna delete my thread. bummer.

i have a friend that has a fantasy about clowns... now if that aint creepy i dont know what is.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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People who hate cats -- why?
Posted: 5/20/2012 6:37:30 AM
i love all animals, but cats in particular. but not just domesticated, i love big cats too and have always been fascinated by them. my whole life i have always had at least one. now i have 2! something about them comforts me. they seem to know when im sad, happy or just wanna snuggle. they are always waitng for me when i get home and i miss them when im gone. sheesh, i sound like a crazy cat lady. lol
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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silly fantasies
Posted: 5/20/2012 6:14:32 AM
anyone out there want to share their silly fantasies?

mine is about cowboys. the hat, boots, buckle, spurs, horse and all. nothing turns me on more than a man with a southern draw in a cowoy outfit.

i told ya mine. wanna tell me yours? :)
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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not sure how to handle this.
Posted: 5/20/2012 5:27:38 AM
holycowwow, now i feel silly for even asking. your post put me in a completely different perspective. thanks. i dont wanna be the cry baby at work i just dont appreciate these kinds of jokes in a professional setting.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Man with 30 kids wants state help to pay his child support
Posted: 5/20/2012 5:15:11 AM
might i also add that i know MANY white women who have multiple kids with multiple baby daddys. the statistics are high among the black race but there are other races who are just as guilty. for instance, i graduated with a girl who at 25 has 4 kids, is pregnant with her 5th and all the kids have different fathers. like i said before, the kids, ultimately will suffer the most in these situations.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Man with 30 kids wants state help to pay his child support
Posted: 5/20/2012 5:09:04 AM
mostly, i feel bad for the children. how can you establish a good bond with your children when you have 30 of them?! its hard enough being there for one let alone 30! the parents are not setting a good example for these kids. i have 4 siblings and we all came from the same mom and dad. hard to believe, i know. but we never wanted for anything. the way i see it is have all the kids you want, as long as you can financially and emotionally support them.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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not sure how to handle this.
Posted: 5/20/2012 4:54:05 AM
so here is what happened:

while having a casual conversation at work with my supervisor and another coworker about my our love for mexican food, my supervisor began making jokes at me about being mexican/hispanic. the worst one being, and i quote "all border hoppers love beans and rice". she said this to me! i am filipino and english so i tend to be very tan in the summer. but i am in no way hispanic. i am so offended by this more so because my sisters and brother have all married people of the hispanic race and jokes like this, i feel, are inappropriet in the work place. should i voice my thoughts dierectly to her or should i take it to higher mangement?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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I should know better
Posted: 5/18/2012 7:18:25 PM
OP, i feel the same exact way you do. alas, ive given up. im a forum junkie now, if only some of my fellow posters were closer.

however, i should also add that the biggest reason ive given up dating is because of me. i think i liked the idea of finding mr right more than actually having him. im sure he is out there but right now i prefer to just be alone.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Females Age 24-36. Phone vs Text.
Posted: 5/15/2012 9:00:29 AM
i used to be an avid texter. talk talk talk all the time. but now i wish my phone would stop beeping! ive moved on from the texting and back to the good old phone conversations especially when getting to know someone new.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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What if...
Posted: 5/15/2012 7:11:36 AM
i dream of this topic all the time. lets say i won a million bucks. this is what i would do:

- travel the world
- put myself and my younger brother through college
-buy a house and car for myself and younger brother
-get a dog
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Getting a place with my sister....
Posted: 5/14/2012 5:16:57 PM
i dont think it would be odd. but, i share an apartment with my younger brother. im 25, he is 23. we have always been close so its a comfortable situation for us. athough, i tend to clean more than him. :/

when it comes to dating we dont really clash. he has a girlfriend whom i get along well with and they have been together for 3 years. we also work opposite schedules so its easy for both of us to have personal privacy.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Do you do drugs???
Posted: 5/12/2012 11:04:52 PM
Here we go with the wagging finger in your face again. tsk tsk.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Wondering why women dont wear hose anymore
Posted: 5/10/2012 6:22:49 AM
i wouldnt mind them being ripped of me in the heat of the moment. but, i wouldnt want that everytime i wear them. sheesh that could get expensive. lol
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Wondering why women dont wear hose anymore
Posted: 5/10/2012 6:09:35 AM
i still wear hose with dresses and skirts. hell, i even wear them with jeans and boots. alot of my friends still wear hose as well. i also agree with the above posters in that this would be a mild request. i dont think you will have trouble finding a woman that would wear them for you. :)
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Zombie Apocalypse U.S.
Posted: 4/26/2012 6:30:52 AM
I would start barricading myself in my house and pray I had enough food and water to last a while.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Advice needed with tropical fish. Oscars.
Posted: 4/21/2012 6:12:25 AM
i have 2 oscars that ive had for five years. i got them together, and have tried incorporating other fish in with them and they always kill them. and they do grow to be very large, mine are just about the size of dinner plates. i would put them in their own tank, because they will probably eat the others.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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PCOS
Posted: 4/15/2012 5:07:31 AM
i was recently diagnosed with poly cystic ovarian syndrome (pcos). i did a little online research and found some information regarding using the diabetic drug metformin to treat the symptoms of pcos. just wondering if any of you have pcos and have used metformin, if so how well did it work?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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girls, help a sistah out.
Posted: 4/12/2012 4:24:33 AM
i saw a dermatologist for and questionable mole. she said the splotches are from sun damage. makes sense because since i was little ive spent every summer, all summer in the sun without sunscreen. i just ordered some of that bare minerals make up. it seems like what im looking for. fingers crossed!
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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girls, help a sistah out.
Posted: 4/10/2012 10:57:02 PM
when it comes to make up the only things i use are eye shadow, liner and mascara. but im starting to get splotches on my face from too much sun, not enough spf. ive tried powders, foundations, and those new mouses but they all feel too heavy. any suggestions on a good cover up that still feels and looks natural?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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Dark Triad traits in a man
Posted: 4/10/2012 4:51:11 AM
i am not interested in those types of men at all. i get what your saying though. my best friends husband is this way. he maniplates her every way he can and she just oogles at him. crazy thing is, the guy she dated before this one was the exact opposite.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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oh now he wants to date
Posted: 4/9/2012 1:45:51 PM
dr d: i also only have one dimple. weird huh.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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oh now he wants to date
Posted: 4/9/2012 10:13:28 AM
i dont think he was/is trying to use me for sex. if that was the case then he would have tried last summer.

as far as asking him flat out what happened last year, i am pretty sure i already know the answer to this. and to be honest i really dont want to hear him say it to me.

So, im just gonna go for it. i think i would regret not going more, than going and being dissapointed. i figure, worst come to worst itll end up being nothing. (again) which is ok with me.


P.S. thanks again for all the advice and insight. im learning slowly that these forums can be really helpfull. they used to scare me. : /
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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oh now he wants to date
Posted: 4/8/2012 9:01:06 AM
oh man this is alot to respond to. and there are many good points on both sides. maybe is should have explained what happened a little better.

we went on two official dates. hung out 5 or 6 times, with and without other friends present. this went on for about a month. texts and calls being exchanged every couple days. we both flirted back and forth. made out alot, snuggled but there was never sex. then i asked if we were ever gonna make it official, and he said he would rather be friends. i gotta admit that hurt. ( who kisses and cuddles with someone they consider a friend?) so i stopped calling and answering his texts. almost a year goes by, i run into him, he says and i quote " you look great, would you like to go out again sometime?" i say maybe, we exchange numbers and part ways.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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oh now he wants to date
Posted: 4/5/2012 12:27:01 PM
landra, youre absolutely right about my insecurities. but, should i ask him flat out, or just let it go?

and thank you travelicious. im not sure i want to date someone that didnt think i was "good enough" before, but does now for whatever reason.
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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oh now he wants to date
Posted: 4/5/2012 12:10:07 PM
welp. im in a pickle. long story short, i ran into a guy that i dated last summer. he was nice, gentlemanly and fun to be around. however we never moved into a relationship because i got put into the "friend" zone. anywhoo, upon running into him he mentioned that he would like to "date" me again. ive lost weight since i last saw him (35 lbs total)and im thinking this is why. i get it, thinner= more attractive. (for most anyway) should i go for it?
 missmaddy
Joined: 10/29/2011
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frustration at the gym.
Posted: 4/4/2012 1:26:35 AM
russel, i feel your pain when it comes to the bathroom courtesy. :/

i also agree with the loud obnoxious music being played. ive never tried the sauna tho, i sweat enough just working out. lol
 
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