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goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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Lack of eye contact on a first date Posted: 10/17/2007 4:58:41 PM
I think I have the problem of too much eye contact= staring. I'm almost always in work mode, where I am practically daring you to lie to me. "Look at me and say that." I sometimes get the feeling that people are uncomfortable with how much eye contact I give. So I will purposely look in other directions to try and dull it.

goomba2

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Tell me the answer I probably already know. Posted: 9/25/2007 2:49:08 PM
Thank you for the responses so far. I suppose I didn't make a few things very clear. I had a pretty good friendship with her for over a year. A moment of drama happened at the begining of summer; that threw us together. Unfortunately it fell apart as quick as it started. I tried to reconcile the friendship I had with her last year. Nothing more. Trusting the better part of people tends to make me look away from the rest. And as stated: As far as she knows, I don't know it's her messaging me. Oh and I have a Happy Hour date tonight. This has just bugged me and I want to make sure I'm doing the right thing. Wish me luck tonight. :-)

goomba2

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Tell me the answer I probably already know. Posted: 9/25/2007 12:46:21 PM
Last Sunday I received a text message from an unknown number. It asked "How are you" I responded back that I was fine and asked who it was. The reply was "An old Friend." I asked, "Well old friend how have you been?" I get a reply back that says "Getting married next summer, school, work full time. Things are finally great." I responded back "Sounds good, I'm afraid I don't know who you are though." The message I get back says "It doesn't matter. Fill me in. Did you finish school? still working with "X", Still living at old residence, How was your birthday?" After that last one. I pretty much knew who it was. Not many women would have that much information(outdated information even) about me. I figured it was last years girly. With the help of a female friend that had a cell phone with coresponding city number, I became a part of a three way call and listened as my friend called the number. Yup, it was her. So why would she text me? I tried to make amends with her last year and everything I said or tried; was spun into something vile. She didn't want any part of it. I watched things going good and then BAM, I got hit upside the head with how I am the worst person in the world. Is she trying to make amends? Is this some sort of "My life is great without you" rub, that she's trying to get in? Is it some sort of security question; "I'm getting married, did I make the right choice?" I was so confused by how that whole thing fell apart. Awesome one week then gone the next. My last text back just said good night. I don't know if she will text me again. As far as I'm concerned, I tried. I think the ball is in her court if she wants to try and resolve the conflict between us. I'm a sucker for trusting the better part of people. So this could end up being another slam. I probably know the answer, but am just denying it. So if I get another text, how do you think I should handle it? I thought about just writing back "If you want to make amends, how do you propose to do that?" Now remember, as far she knows; I don't know it's her. Thanks.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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cinnamon bun and pumpkin pie perfume? Posted: 8/13/2007 1:27:15 PM
So get your azz in the kitchen woman and bake me a pie. Ok I expect to get some flak for that one, but you set me up for it.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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Fights Posted: 8/12/2007 5:07:28 PM
You get in there. You pull her out. Then you dump them all. I have neither the termperment nor understanding; to be involved with people that are going to act like a bunch of juvenile punks.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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Why do women do things like this? Posted: 8/10/2007 3:04:29 PM
She wants attention and wants to have fun stringing you along. Do not call her anymore. You have done more than enough.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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Who is on your favorites lists? Posted: 8/10/2007 12:09:05 PM
1. The woman lives close by, the guys currently involved and may want to contact her in the future 2. The ad really cuaght the guys eye and maybe he wants to read it again in the future 3. The man thought the woman was really attractive and wants to see her pics again 4. The woman writes in the forums and this allows the guy to see what she has posted easier. 5. Misclick? lol 6. Person is using the favorites as a sort of "wink" or "show of interest" but is too afraid/shy of sending an actual email (possibly fearing rejection) and is hoping favorited person will send one to them instead.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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30 and never married? Posted: 8/8/2007 11:13:12 PM
Oh no! I just turned 30 last Friday. I'm childless and never married. I've now crossed into the realm of "There must be something wrong with him."

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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Hard to get? Posted: 8/8/2007 10:34:26 PM
I don't do the hard to get game. Contacting me to the point of annoyance is one thing. If it's apparent that you are ignoring me to later give me the "I might want to see you" impression, I'm going to walk away. Of course when I do this, you'll tell all your friends and they'll reply back "He just wasn't 'man enough' for someone as good as you." Uh yeah. Being a "man" means not putting up with this kind sh-t.

goomba2

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Athletic or A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 8/8/2007 10:11:40 PM
I hear so many women claim this as very common. So I just did a quick search of guys profiles, trying to see for myself. I went through about 3 dozen and didn't find the same result. Now I concede this is a small sampling and I do not doubt that it does happen. However, I don't think it happens as often as is mentioned or us guys are led to believe. About 3/4's of the profiles listed average and every big guy I saw, said a few extra pounds. Almost every athletic profile had a guy that I would agree looked athletic( no beer gut). A couple matched my body type or appeared thinner. (My profile says thin). Now what is athletic? Is it Lance Armstrong or 300 pound linebacker or Arnold like? Who knows? Maybe I will do a "Mythbuster" examination of like 200 profiles and try to derive some actual numbers of guys being dishonest.

goomba2

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Fashion faux pas Posted: 8/1/2007 5:02:54 PM
I've got a thing for chicks in korsetts. Real Korsetts. Not those faux thingy's they get at some lingerie store. The problems with my preference. 1. They are really expensive. Get ready to drop at least $350, each. 2. There are a lot of women that have it programmed into them, the misinformation of bad things about Korsetts. For those that do partake in them:

goomba2

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I'm scared of losing my looks Posted: 8/1/2007 4:52:13 PM
I turn 30 in just a few more days. I guess I'm one of the fortunate ones to age somewhat gracefully. If I suddenly take a steep turn...oh well. Age is heriditary. Whats to fight? It's going to happen.

goomba2

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Do guys use their job as...... Posted: 7/30/2007 10:12:23 PM
This question is probably better asked of all those house wifes that sleep with the : Gardner Pool man Mail man Electricians Milk man etc. Let's be honest.

goomba2

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What does, Family is important to me mean? Posted: 7/23/2007 5:02:25 PM
It's like how some will give you the personal impressions of their character; I'm nice, funny, witty, etc. How often I have witnessed this personal analysis and just have to shake my head in disagreement? Saying "family is important to you," is the same as saying how great of a person you are. It's considered a social faux pas to not want to be apart of your family. It's also considered honorable, to be family oriented. WHY? Why do we tie ourselves to others? You have no personal will. You have a social construct that tells you to maintane contact and blood is thicker than water and on and on and on. If you challenge this concept, you're viewed as a terrible person. We don't want that now. Do we? I have a brother that, if I never saw him again; I could live a much better life. Over 25 years of my mother telling me, "He's your brother. You need to be there for each other, etc." I haven't liked, him since I was a young child. Telling me for years on end that he is family and that's why "I have to," didn't work and it's not going to change.

goomba2

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Sending photos that are already in your profile. Posted: 7/18/2007 4:58:54 PM
I have had some emails that explained(again from profile) some of the activities I do. I would include the picture from profile to show(again) that activity. Makes you wonder, huh.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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Independent woman seeks.... Posted: 7/18/2007 1:26:58 PM
Just like the smoking or drinking section; we need a place for people to give us their personal analysis of their character. I could see a list of selections: independant leach player cheater saint shy Good person liar etc. I'm sure we'll get an honest interpretation from the individual.

goomba2

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not shallow just not into u Posted: 7/17/2007 11:01:10 AM
You mean attraction is an involuntary response? No, no, that can't be true. No, No, they told me I was just being shallow. If this is true; then all those times I closed my eyes, clicked my heels and whispered, "Be attracted to her, be attracted to her, be attracted to her," were all for not.

goomba2

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what do you think of girls with tattoos Posted: 7/12/2007 10:40:31 AM
I don't care for them. Some guy that's all tatoo'ed up, will probably reply to me that he loves them. The next guy will say the same thing as me and another guy will repeat the process. I often tell people this about getting a tatoo( and typically every tatoo-aphile will argue). It does not matter what color, what design, who does it, how much it cost, where it is, or as one person tried to argue to me about getting touch ups(it was a cool idea then, she hates it now); they all will turn into a fuzzy blue splot. Don't try and tell me that is old "sailor technology." It's very simple to understand why. If you are in your 20's, do this simple test. Grab a pinch of skin and pull it away from your body. Now let go. The skin snapped into place pretty quickly, didn't it? Now find someone that is in their 50's and ask them to do the same thing. Now watch as that skin slowly settles back into place. Your body will break down as it ages and part of that break down is the reduction of elastin (ie, elastic- skin snap into place, etc) in your skin. The body is constantly removing old cells and replacing them with newer. Unfortunately there is not a perfect copy to replace it(this is a part of the aging process). This the reason why all tatoos will fade and turn blue; with age. Think about that. If you are older and single. That little blemish, that was once a tatoo; what will that mean to a guy, years from now. That's my insight. In the end it's your choice.

goomba2

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Do guys stereotype blonds? Posted: 7/12/2007 10:19:38 AM
Blondes tend to know more blonde jokes and tell them more often than I do. There pretty much is no difference.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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Is Sarcasm a turn off? Posted: 7/11/2007 11:00:54 PM
I've often met the self proclaimed sarcastic woman. However I also find that they tend not to "take" sarcasm too well. I guess what's good for the goose isn't good for the..... Sarcasm is basically just veiled aggression. An excuse to proclaim oneself as somehow witty, intelligent, fun, etc. while hiding the fact that they are being an azz to someone else.

goomba2

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Sprint Says Buh-Bye to 1000 High-Maintenance Customers Posted: 7/10/2007 3:24:54 PM
High mantenance customers are a problem for any industry out there. I remember working in a photo lab once. We sold a little plastic, $1.00, magnifying lens for your wallet. We had a little old lady go through one after another with one of the shop gals. She complained how each one was not very clear and uniform. She wasted about fifteen minutes of that employees time. What was the employee going to do? "Ma'am you're an idiot." That wouldn't fly. This is just one example. Complaing about a simple $1.00 lens that is supposed to be used for convenience. It's not like you're going to do molecular research with it. I once sold cars and I had a guy come in and explain to me what he was looking for. No older than 5 years, under 75k miles, SUV that he could seat about 7, get about low 30's(MPG), for about $10k..... Another example of ridiculous. There are just some people that do not understand the concept of reasonable.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

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What do men find sexy as far as clothes go Posted: 7/8/2007 5:07:03 PM
Well that depends what it looks like on the floor. Honestly, don't go too tight. I've seen women with bra cross straps(I don't know what you call the part that goes across) over the top part of their shoulders. eeeeewwww However, don't go baggy. Get clothes that FIT. Cleavage is an art that only a few women have figured out how to create. TLC has a show called "What not to Wear." It tends to be right on in my opinion.

goomba2

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Do you have a type? Posted: 7/6/2007 12:20:37 PM
O+ I've dated all types. I preffered someone that wasn't getting as big as me. I'm kinda self conscience about my thin-nes.

goomba2

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A touchy subject maybe for some...STD's Posted: 7/1/2007 4:59:59 PM
Not an answer to your question, but how do you actually know you are clean? Not everything can be tested on men and some STD's show no signs on men but are more likely to show on women. Primarily because a woman's genitals are more of a pitri dish than a mans. At your age, the stats say that almost 75 % of you will have been exposed to Human Papiloma virus and never know it.

goomba2

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Padded bras Posted: 6/26/2007 11:53:25 AM
My mom actually worked as one of those bra size meauring person's. Most women are wearing the wrong bra at any given time. I think it more enticing, to see a women that actually knows something about cleavage. Cleavage does not mean a bra that is three sizes to small.

goomba2

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Hot sauces Posted: 6/25/2007 3:11:46 PM
Bhut Jolokia And here I thought I was all pimp when I used to grow and eat Habenaros. There is a hot sauce called Blairs 6 am reserve. It's rated at over 16 million scoville. It is not for direct consumption. I currently have a bottle of Satan's Blood (800 k scoville) at home.

goomba2

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will a guy forgive? Posted: 6/25/2007 3:02:23 PM
I actually believe(and I await the blasting for saying this), that men are more able to forgive than women. However, we don't like being made your fool. So he may forgive you, but if you play it out as like some sort of soul cleansing approval from him; that will be unacceptable. You need to prove you're worth forgiveness.

goomba2

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Because of DUKE rape scandal, rape victims should have to have name out in media. Posted: 6/22/2007 4:08:14 PM
Chrystal Gail Magnum This is the first indication of a name I have actually received. Dave Evans, Collin Finnerty, and Reade Seligman; where the only names I ever heard. On the accusers accusation alone. They tested all the members of the lacrosse team, except for it's only black player. None of the tests came up as a positive match, but accusation is all it took to keep going. What ever her name was on the Kobe case. None of the DNA she had matched Kobe. Yes Kobe did make a settlement. A settlement is not in itself proof of guilt. There could have been another matter that would cause harm(not necessarily illegal) and the easiest sollution is private settlement. Wuuuhooo she got death threats. Are we to believe that Kobe never got death threats.?Get real. He get's them today for matters outside of this case. Mother Theresea got death threats. One person mentioned in here that the accused should not have gotten a settlement from Duke University. Excuse me. They were protested and had their names run through the mud by some of the faculty in fact. The entire team was shut down and did not have a season because of this lying piece of sh-t. The halls of higher learning, were trying to burn witches at the stake. They(the accused) had to spend a few million to stop this assinine case.

goomba2

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Should I recover this money?? Posted: 6/21/2007 5:06:02 PM
Money is gone dude. Don't even bother. Now everyone is telling you to chalk this up as a lesson. What exactly is that lesson? They don't really tell you what that lesson is. So allow me to provide you with one. Look at my forum history and you will see a recent comment on a thread that ranted on how a man should always pay for the first date. The poster had to make mention that if a man does not pay, then he is looking to get laid for free. Of course she didn't comment to the opposite of this. It was just men bad, only think of sex, blah blah blah. Unfortuneately there are women that are professional daters. There are women that get all dressed up and go out with the sole intent of getting a bunch of random guys to buy them about $60-70 in drinks for the evening. Now as the man, you should have just said no to the Vietnamese restuarant and been done with it. But hey we do those little compromise things to show that we aren't too controlling. You should have come to a point where you could have just said "I want to go now or I'm running out of cash to cover this evening." She probably would have replied with your request and then go get on a forum and rant on how cheap or boring of a date you were. "Oh yea.....I don't have any money." Do I need to expand any further with this? Do not contact her. The money is gone. She is trying to get you to latch on so that she can have a free wallet.

goomba2

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why do women go for married men Posted: 6/21/2007 4:17:25 PM
I got more attention from women when they knew I was seeing someone, than when they knew I wasn't. I look at it as a sort of test the waters, walk someone through the field to see if there are any mines, the food tester that makes sure his master isn't going to eat poison, etc. There are women, who will see a man with someone and take on a mental notion of: " If she is involved with him, then he must be ok. I want that." It's similar to the old notion of: if you're not married by the time you're 30, then you must be gay or something is seriously wrong with you. Her being married or involved with him, is a character seal of approval to these women.

goomba2

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Because of DUKE rape scandal, rape victims should have to have name out in media. Posted: 6/18/2007 4:56:05 PM
But it's just like Kobe Bryant. The accusation comes out. The media shows the name and face of the accused while masking the accusor. Is there no reciprocity for innocence? These guys will now be recalled as the potential rape suspects. The accusor falls into oblivian.

goomba2

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Because of DUKE rape scandal, rape victims should have to have name out in media. Posted: 6/18/2007 4:45:43 PM
I want ABC, NBC, CNN, XYZ; to show her picture and broadcast her name for months on end. I want Jesse Jackson and his Rainbow Push coalition to offer a full appology. "Nappy headed Ho" is nothing compared to falsley accusing someone of rape for months on end. Also, I read how the school made a financial settlement with the three men. I want all those professors that actively and openly defamed and protested these accused, to have their annual salary reduced by the current one month equivalent.

goomba2

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Is the difference that noticeable? Posted: 6/15/2007 4:25:44 PM
This one boils me and just tells me how ignorant people are when it comes to anatomy. The body you have now will not be the same body in a few months. Almost every cell in your body is consumed and replaced with new. I want to say it takes 90 days for all of the blood in your body to be new. It takes longer for bones and various other parts. Given that, you should revert back to almost 100% of your former self. It's like saying a woman gets looser with more and more sex. Well you eat and talk with your mouth every day. You defecate every day. Have those orifices gotten bigger? The answer is obvious. Now things do break down. That's why an 80 year old does not look like the twenty year old. The elastin in our skin degrades. The cloning of cells is not perfect and is also subject to environmental harm.

goomba2

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Would You Take Your First Love Back After 24 Years? Posted: 6/15/2007 4:12:17 PM
After 24 years, I would tend to think that the two of you are most likely different people by now. Enough to possibly make what attraction you had then, not even come close now. But I'll root for yah.

goomba2

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How many of you lie about your age?And why? Posted: 6/15/2007 4:05:36 PM
Seriously what is the point? Getting old is hereditary. It's gonna happen, why fight it? I'll be 30 this summer. I know I've seen a couple profile photos and I have to think that the environment hasn't been to friendly to them.

goomba2

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What do guys REALLY mean by ..... Posted: 6/15/2007 4:00:05 PM
The good people, real people, etc.= Those that fall within "our" expectations. One woman tells me a real man hunts, the next tells me a real man doesn't. A real man votes for this guy and not the other. On and on.

goomba2

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ARE MEN 'BABIES' WHEN THEY GET SICK OR is it just women Posted: 6/15/2007 3:51:38 PM
I think it's the mentality that men are not supposed to complain about anything. "Take it like a man." We all have our breaking points. It's sorta like that guy that is always quiet. The moment that his fuse gets burned up, he lets go and we are absolutely shocked. Now what he said or does however can really be nothing. It's just that dynamic change to what "we felt he was" that makes it seem so much more.

goomba2

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Shortest Date Ever - With a very tall man Posted: 6/15/2007 12:53:32 PM
It's tradition You keep going on about what is a traditional role for a man, when on a Date. The traditional role would have been for him to come and get you then either drive/taxi/bus/ walk, to the place that you will enjoy the evening at. You have eluded that the Taxi's do not run after 7 pm. I haven't been to NYC in about 20 years, but all those Taxi cab confession shows and cops and such tells me otherwise. So I will admit to being confused by this, but will accept your statement of it. I understand that living in such a big city is not practical for everyone to own a car. This guy still didn't pick you up. It sounds like you arranged a get together/ meeting/ etc., to see if there is anything compatable. I'm a lady and expect to be treated like a lady...I ask him, so do you always have your dates fend for themselves Generally a lady has a little more couth than to be that brazen within ten minutes. Again I believe that long wet walk might have altered your immediate attitude. Also, this is NYC - so my comment was not rude. Awwwwwe location dictates the behavior of a lady. If you had spoken to me like that, I would have walked out. Generally not offering his chair, I could see as rude. But hey, he's a New Yorker. I shouldn't see that as rude either I guese. That's the truth - sorry for some of you women who pay your own way. That's not a date, that's a dude looking to get laid for free and not have to work for anything. That d-mn Pink song came on the radio again this morning. "Don't give me a drink just give me the money. It's just you and your hand tonight." So if he doesn't pay, he just wants to get laid for free. If he did....well there is a word or two for that.

goomba2

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Shortest Date Ever - With a very tall man Posted: 6/14/2007 12:11:01 PM
Ok. So first off, you have had multiple contacts with this guy and felt the situation was ok for a meeting. Obviously something caught your interest for you to make the decision to meet. So you walked 20 blocks in the rain. Is that his fault? Obviously not. So you spent about half an hour in an uncomfortable environment before meeting him. I don't think you are blaming him about the bar being full, but I do wonder if it is falling in line with the situation. A first meeting is just that, a meeting. It is not a date. $5 dollars for a drink. Not terrible. Welcome to the new feminists created culture. Isn't there a song out now about "Give me the money instead of the drink. It's just you and your hand tonight?" I have never bought a woman a drink and have no intention of doing so, until I get to know her. Yes there are some lovely ladies, who get all dressed up with the intent of having a bunch of random guys buy them about $40-60 in drinks for the evening. It kinda burns us. I think you are leaving a lot out of this story, because it just seems too simple a situation for him to get that upset and then leave.

goomba2

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dating on POF Posted: 6/14/2007 11:34:46 AM
however, it's only with guys who seem to be overly agressive and are set to meet up as soon as you add them to your msn (or what have you). Those kind of guys make me nervous, not that there's anything wrong with them, but I'm just not comfortable with that. I find that if I chat with someone for a week or so, depending on the extent of the conversations, I'm more comfortable to meet them; althought I clearly still make sure it's a public meeting, 'cause you still have to be cautious. A week, hah. I have had up to three months. I have to be more personal than that. I feel like I am just typing to a machine otherwise. How can you build if you start off so intensly with something that has no personality(the computer). At the end of a few weeks of emailing, I will probably see you as lacking in personality because of the email communications. It's that whole first impression thing.

goomba2

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dating on POF Posted: 6/14/2007 11:30:33 AM
You then are the admitted common complaint of many on here. They get in contact with someone. Chat it up for a few emails and such. Then when the time comes to meet, you never hear from them again. Just meet them. If they don't seem to be a match, then so be it. Go to the place were there are plenty of people and chat it out. Just do it, do it, do it, do it.

goomba2

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What's the attraction? Posted: 6/13/2007 10:11:02 AM
You mean sex with out all the headache of a relationship.... Why wouldn't that be attractive? Imagine if marriages worked perfectly, imagine if simple relationships worked perfectly. The problem is, they don't. They require work, there are hard times and frustration. Even if you put the work in, it sometimes isn't enough. Unfortunately, many just aren't willing to try anymore. We become unattracted. Our expectations for what the person will become, didn't pan out. We invest so much and watch it fall apart over and over again. Why is it we will stop buying a certain brand if it continues to fail us, but we keep on with this relationship idea? If cars are too much of a hassle to own, then get rid of it and start taking the bus. People are a creature, that want something for nothing; or at least a lot less effort than they normally would have to put in. We want six pack abs eating anything we want and doing it while we watch tv. The hardest things to do and the right things to do; tend to be the same thing.

goomba2

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Are you SURE of your age? Posted: 6/12/2007 6:48:33 PM
I knew a guy that: When he was 17, he looked like he was 50. He had jowls and a sun beaten face. With a heavy mustache, he just looked like some old mill worker. He used to go buy bier for us, without ever being carded.

goomba2

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Granny's Style Posted: 6/12/2007 12:51:20 PM
Raquel Welch is the same age as my grandma. I would do it and brag about it. Then there is Sophia Loren, Darrel Hanna, that 52 year old grandma off the Bowflex commercials.

goomba2

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Do you look at eyebrows? Posted: 6/11/2007 9:00:01 AM
The unibrow and the wandering mutant lashes are the only grooming issues I notice. I wouldn't notice if they needed to be tweezed until they got to that point. I also don't care what color they are. The shave it off and use a sharpie to make a skinny little line. Ewwwwwwwwww I've also noticed quite a few larger ladies doing the skinny line thing. It makes you look bigger. That whole proportions thing. Kinda like you don't fit your clothes.

goomba2

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Why do men ask this? Posted: 6/8/2007 4:58:07 PM
He likes you and probably is busy. It can be a probing question to see if you are seeing someone. Sometimes it's just for small talk. I ask co-workers what are they doing. I have no intentions of going with them, but it's way to be more personal and friendly. I have a little friend I chat with in Thailand. I ask her what her plans are for the weekend. I don't think I am going to drop $2500 and about 40 hours of flight time to go get a date. It's just small talk, shows I care to know about you.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

y do men find strong minded women a threat? Posted: 6/8/2007 1:07:21 PM
Am I the only one that notices the underlying tone of these questions? "Why do men fear a strong independant woman? Why do men fear a woman that speaks her mind? Why do men fear a woman that makes more than him? Etc." Yet none of these posters ever comment about how they reacted. What is it "they" did. I have to wonder if the point of these threads is to get some sort of justification for your mindset. The question is automatically set up as, men having the problem. Not the individual posting. Speaking your mind is one thing. Being hard headed and lacking in tact is another. I have heard men and women "Tell me like it is." Yet quite often that is not how it is, but how you think it should be. The "I just speak my mind," is really just an excuse to be an azz. If a man speaks his mind, he might get accused of being mentally abusive and controlling. I've been asked to "please see it my way." I admit to be hard headed at times, but some of things that I am supposed to see through your eyes; are beyond belief. I'll ask questions as to why this makes sense or explain why I think this can't be. There have been times where I am obviously right( I had a woman argue to me what accountants are like, disregarding the fact that I am one.) when she couldn't give me a good reason for her belief; I'm toxic-abusive-controlling-lah lah lah. The word compromise comes to mind. I may not like a certain show or not want to do a certain activity, but I will. I absolutely hate seeing my brother and if I never see him again, that would work just great by me. Yet I compromise for mom, I go and meet and try to just get through it. Is that my moms control? How about love for her. Going back to my original argument; there are times I will just let that person be right. They may prove me wrong or they may suddenly get into a bunch of trouble. Sometimes you have to show a little humility to people. We are brought up and expected and even chasticed by women(look at a couple forums in here for proof), with the expectation that we are supposed to take charge. You don't want us to hold that door for you or order for you, then say it and stop whining if we don't. Don't come in here and complain, "He needs to set up the date. I will not be the one chasing him, he needs to call. He needs to treat me like a lady." On and on and On. Time for a check up from the neck up.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

Msg: 70 (view)

The truth about golddiggers Posted: 6/8/2007 10:35:56 AM
So charliedawg, You're saying that Republicans(elephant mascot) don't need Porshes, because they have big members. I hate when people just have to work in ridiculously snide biased comments that have nothing to do with the topic.

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Men are You Scared? Posted: 6/8/2007 9:39:12 AM
Madsnorker, I suggest reading again what I wrote. From the day we are born, our mothers didn't use hints to communicate with us. Our minds are just mush at such a young age and so we need clear communication to understand our world and that's how they spoke to us. If you look at it psychologically(and I await all the objectors) our mothers are the long term basis of how we associate with other women. To parallel; there is also the argument that today, boys don't have a father figure around and it is causing issues in society with how we interact. That is another topic and I will leave it at that. Since our mothers didn't use hints to communicate to us; we now expect straight and consistant communication from other women. Unfortuneately this doesn't appear to be the case. Starting around puberty, young girls out of fear, embarrasement, insecurity; start trying to communicate to us in abstract language and physical expression. Studies have shown men to be primarily linear thinkers as it is. 1+1=2, it should always be that way. It will not equal 3 next time or 15 for the next woman. We as men expect 1+1 to equal 2. With the basis of our mothers, we now expect women to communicate to us in a direct consistant language. I suggest you peruse through many of the forum threads and see how many times women will complain that men just don't get their "mega-obviouse hints...you need to hit them with a 2x4 to get the point across...Why don't men just get it?, etc" Also look at how often men complain that women expect them to be mind readers. Can you see that pattern now? I would love for a woman to communicate to me just like a mother. When they are your co-workers or friends they tend to be very clear. When you get into a relationship; their language changes. Hint hint hint, hands on hips means go away one day and come and get me the next. If you get it right, she is happy and tells everyone that "he gets me." Can you imagine a mother using hints to raise their kids? A mother stretches out her arms and yawns. She later punishes little Johnny for not getting the hint that she wanted him to go to bed. Obviously that would be child abuse. Yet starting at puberty and into adulthood, women use this kind of communication with just their partners(poor dad). Prisoners of war have been tortured in just this manner. Capture: How many do you see? Prisoner: 4 Capture:{punishes prisoner] No there is five(just for you Star Trek fans). Next time: Capture: How many do you see? Prisoner: {sees 4} 5. Capture: Very good. Next time/capture: How many do you see? Prisoner: {sees 4} 5. Capture:{punishes prisoner} No there is three. How many of us have gone through the experience of the girlfriend cramping and depressed. She later yelled at you for not caring and she really wanted you to hold her. The next time it happens; you remember that last incident and go to be a comfort. She yells at you this time to get f-ck away from her, she needs space. She looks at you and smiles. She's gets angry that you didn't figure out she wanted a kiss. The next time she does it; you kiss her and she yells at you for the PDA. It's these consistant patterns of inconsistancies, that makes communication so difficult. Her stance one day means she is happy and the next day means she is angry and the next woman it means she is thinking about dinner. Don't expect us to just "get it" and then complain that we "don't listen." Look at yourselves and ask the critical question, "How am I not communicating effectively?" Is it clear now?

goomba2

Joined: 1/29/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

Men are You Scared? Posted: 6/7/2007 9:49:27 AM
Hints are a lousy form of communication and women just can't seem to get the hint that they don't work. If we don't pick up on your "Obvious" hints; then we are "just men, what do you expect. You gotta hit us with a 2X4." It's sort of your denial statements, that you just don't know how to communicate. If we do get them, it turns into a series of positive responses. However: if sometime later we get into a fight. The phrase will occasionally pop of "I never said that." Which is true. You never SAID it. I really believe this your method for plausible denial. My trying to defend myself to the situation would just look pathetic. "Well first you did this and I responded, to which you responded favoribly back and on and on." Obviously an attempt like that, just wouldn't work. The forums are littered with posts, from women wondering why guys just don't get their "obvious hints." Has anybody ever heard a mom say this about her son? The answer is no. It's no because our mothers never talked to us this way. That would be a pretty sick mother, to try and raise her kid on hints. If they(mom) wanted us to do something, they just said it. So now here us guys are, trying to communicate with potential mates and we can't figure out what you're trying to say to us. Your phrase or movement means something different next time or even to the next woman. It's a part of the princess mentality that, we are just supposed to get you. Mom never said: "It's getting kind of late, time to visit the sandman, you've got clean sheets on your bed,etc" She just told us to go to bed. She also never said that she needed to use a 2x4 on us, because she only communicated with clear and concise english. And I'm kinda wary of the woman that "tells me how it is." Usually it means, "this is what I think it should be and don't you dare confront me on this. If you do, I'll just whine to all my friends how 'you don't listen.'"

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