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greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 189 (view)

Why do Men make it such a big deal ....I AM A GREAT COOK! Posted: 3/23/2007 10:12:27 AM
How about this. You work all day, you're tired when you get home. The family is hungry and you'd rather just go to McDonalds and get take out. Wouldn't it be nice to have a man that might get home before you do and he whips up something good to eat for you and your family? I'm not the greatest cook in the world, but I can almost guarantee that my loved ones wouldn't starve.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Should me being a breast cancer survivor freak guys out? Posted: 3/12/2007 4:59:18 PM
OP - they probably run scared for the same reason women do that to me after I tell them about my left leg being amputated. It's something most people have never had to deal with before, and to be honest I can understand why it effects people the way it does. Doesn't make it right, but i understand. I also don't think that if someone turns away from folks like us it makes them shallow. Sure, some are, but it's part of our responsibility to educate them and try to make them more comfortable with our situation. You seem to have a firm grip on your life and if someone takes an interest in you your positive attitude goes a long way. At least with me it does. Those are my thoughts on the subject, FWIW. Take care, stay healthy, and stay positive.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Posting about your disability in your profile? Posted: 3/5/2007 9:02:15 AM
I've wondered about this several times myself. I've been diabetic for 40+ years. Am I disabled because of it? I don't think so, I just live my life a bit different than those without it. I've had open heart surgery. Does that make me disabled? Nope, it allowed me to continue down the road of life. I've had my left leg amputated about 5 inches above the ankle and have a new prosthetic leg. Does that make me disabled? I don't think so. I'm comfortable with my situation and I'll be adjusting to the loss for months in the future. I WILL live my life as near as I did before. I haven't been involved in an intimate relationship since the amputation, and may very well have my bubble burst the first time I get undressed in front of a woman. But she'll know ahead of time, when the time is right to discuss it. I don't think your profile is the place to reveal a disability. But, I also think we should let others know soon after we start communicating with each other. I don't think it's fair to spring it on someone at the last minute.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 113 (view)

Is old fashioned courtin out of date? Posted: 3/5/2007 8:45:29 AM
This is a good topic. When I was younger, "courting" was just the way things were done. And if you had sex on the first date with a woman, you probably weren't the first one she'd done it with like that. Not someone you'd probably get serious with. Now days, it seems men are more concerned with getting laid on the first date, and women have come to expect at least an attempt by the man. It's the way our society has changed. I'm all for courting a woman. If I could find one that wouldn't be shocked by my attempt that's exactly what I'd try to do. Being a gentleman never has and never will go out of style.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 87 (view)

IS AGE REALLY A FACTOR? Posted: 3/5/2007 8:33:03 AM
I'd have to agree with seazest on this. My brother-in-law is 73 and my sister is 57. They've been married for almost 20 years and have never had problems. My ex was 15 yrs younger than me and the marriage was a disaster. I should've known better, but at the time everything felt right. She didn't even know who Captain Kangaroo was.....sheesh.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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On the subject of Hair - Straight or Curls - what turns you on most? Posted: 3/3/2007 10:33:46 AM
I think it depends on the individual woman. I've never been fond of the "big hair" even though it looks good on some. I also think if you have to use a bunch of "gel" stuff on your hair to make it do what you want, maybe you should think about a different style. Nothing like leaning over to kiss your lady and her hair scratches all the skin off your face....LOL.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 273 (view)

Do women ever wear garters and stockings anymore? Posted: 3/3/2007 10:24:29 AM
Stockings and garters and thongs, oh my! I must be losing my touch. I haven't had the pleasure of dating a woman who likes to wear them in many months. It's a very nice touch and a big turn on. Sometimes just knowing is more of a turn on than actually seeing. That fantasy thing, I guess.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 88 (view)

Why when I show my picture(bald)(without hat)..the ladies they disappear ?? Posted: 3/3/2007 10:13:20 AM
OP, I have the same kind of problem as you do, sort of. I have that "monk's ring" thing going with my hair. I try to keep it cut short so it looks a bit better. I've thought of shaving my head, but I'm not sure it would look right on me. I may try it this summer just to see. It'll grow back if I don't like it. It's not the hair, or the lack of it, it's the man underneath it that should matter.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Would you date someone who jumps from job to job? Posted: 3/3/2007 10:04:59 AM
I worked in the banking business from 1978 until 1997. During that time I was employed at 3 different places. Starting in 1998 I had four different jobs because of layoffs. I've been on Social Security Disability since 2004 and am trying to find work again now. Tough to do being 52 and out of the workforce for 3 years. Many people in my area jump from factory to factory, but do the same job with each move. It's all about the money and benefits here. Would I date a job jumper? It depends on the circumstances.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Divorced/Single... what's the difference? Posted: 3/2/2007 9:17:48 AM
What's with all this carrying "baggage" crap? Everyone is different, not ALL men/women drag their past around behind them. If you still have to support your children that's one thing, but it certainly isn't "baggage", it's called being a responsible father. I can understand why many women don't want to get involved with someone who has kids from a divorce, but there are many single mom's out there that were "single" when they had their children. Does that make a difference too? The difference depends on the circumstances.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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If she e-mails first does that scare you off? Posted: 3/2/2007 8:38:29 AM
It doesn't scare me off. I thought that was what being here was all about.....people showing interest in each other. I don't get enough emails that I can't answer them all. It might take me a day or two, depending on my schedule, but I'll answer you one way or the other. I send introductory emails and never get a response so I won't do the same to anyone that makes an effort to contact me.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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where are all the OLDER MEN..?? Posted: 3/2/2007 8:20:55 AM
I feel kind of bad about posting in the Kentucky forum since I live in southern Indiana. I'm only about 35 miles from Owensboro so maybe I need to have dual citizenship...LOL. I'm 52 so I think that puts me in the "older" category, although I don''t really feel like I'm 52. If anyone is interested in communicating with me give me a shout.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Interpreting does not want kids or undecided/open Posted: 3/1/2007 9:07:42 PM
Thanks again to all who have given a response. I've made a change in my profile that women with children are welcome. I also changed to undecided/open. Hopefully that will clear up any future confusion. I also like the idea of giving us more options in those first categories. One of the posters here said she won't even read the profile if it marked "does not want kids". That's a real shame to "cut em off at the knees" without giving someone the benefit of the doubt.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Interpreting does not want kids or undecided/open Posted: 3/1/2007 12:19:08 PM
Thanks all for the replies. Maybe I need to add something to my profile to explain things more clearly. I think I took it for granted that if a woman could see that I'm involved with helping kids they'd figure out I have no problem with children. I suppose the old saying about assume....makes an ass out of u and me holds true.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Interpreting does not want kids or undecided/open Posted: 3/1/2007 9:25:12 AM
Hmmmm...I thought that meant do I want to HAVE children or more children? I didn't think it meant that I don't want anybody with kids. I think she misiinterpreted it. That's what I thought it meant too. I'm just curious if it becomes a "deal breaker".

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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I need recipes geared towards our diabetic friends please. Posted: 3/1/2007 9:15:09 AM
Can't really help you with a recipe, but I've been diabetic for more than 40 years. The dietary part of diabetes management has changed a lot in that time. For desserts, try using Splenda. Many diabetics count carbs now days and then adjust their insulin intake to compensate for their meals. I test my blood sugar before I eat, then figure out what my carb intake will be, then calculate my Humalog dosage and take it about 15-30 minutes before eating. Remember when preparing a meal not to load up on starches. Don't have potatoes, peas, pasta, bread, noodles and things like that all in the same meal. They all turn to sugar and play havoc with blood sugar levels. I adjust my portion sizes and eat what everyone else does. Your brother has to make some of the decisions on his own, what to eat or not to eat and how much. Not sure if that helps, but it's straight from the horses mouth.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Interpreting "does not want kids" or "undecided/open" Posted: 3/1/2007 9:02:25 AM
What do women think when they see "doesn't want kids" or "undecided/open" on a man's profile? The reason I ask is this. I emailed a woman in the My Matches section and thought we had several things in common. We wrote back and said since I didn't want children and she had three that we wouldn't match up. I chose that setting because at 52, what are my chances of "siring a pup"? I'm still able, but I don't think I'm a likely prospect for most women still in their child bearing years. And if you read my profile you'll see that I'm involved in the Big Brothers/Big Sisters program and that I spend time reading to the kids at our local library. I wonder how many times this has come into play when I don't get a response back from a woman who has children. I'd appreciate any comments or suggestions.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Hey Ladies, do you bother....?? Posted: 3/1/2007 8:21:35 AM
If I had a woman email me first I'd be beside myself. It shows she has some initiative. I make an effort to read the profiles of anyone I'm interested, try to touch on points of interest within their profile and I NEVER mention b**bs or sex or what have you. How many responses do I get? Maybe one out of 8-10. So ladies, none of us are too busy to email you back. Give it a go.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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.........Stretch Marks........... Posted: 2/28/2007 11:51:04 AM
If stretch marks bothered me that much I'd never have a date. I don't have that many dates to begin with, but stretch marks have nothing to do with it. I'd say my problem is more because of having part of my leg missing. No creams or lotions will bring it back...LOL.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Hugs & Kisses Posted: 2/28/2007 10:18:10 AM
I always tried to both before heading off to work and when coming home. I always liked moving in behind my ex when I got home and putting my arms around her and kissing her neck. She loved that.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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do your readup on someone's posts? Posted: 2/27/2007 9:50:24 AM
I would have to agree with most others here. I look at the posts to get a "feel" for what goes on inside the person behind the pic(if there is one).

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Are older women really better ? Posted: 2/27/2007 9:46:31 AM
To the OP. I have several female friends that are in your age group. I wouldn't even think about dating them simply because the age gap DOES make a difference. It makes a difference in the things we like, the things we like to do, and how we look at life and the world in general. I've already either thought about doing or have done most things someone in their 20's will do. It's the "life experience" thing that attracts me to women more my age. Clear as mud, right?

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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What is your age preference? Posted: 2/27/2007 9:27:26 AM
Well, I'm 49 years old. Most of the women I know, or that know me, find me boring and dull. Younger, older, or my own age, doesn't matter. I don't drink or do drugs, I don't party or go to bars either. I am involved in community affairs and have my own interests and hobbies, as well as being a single father. I enjoy my life just the way it is. I don't have an age preference, within reason of course. I keep an open mind, and accept others for who they are. Well said Mandrake48. I have the same problems as you do. I'm not a single dad or a dad at all for that matter, I'm bald on top and have one leg. How attractive is that? I've known women who I thought were boring and dull until I took the time to know them better. It's getting that first chance that takes all the doing. To date just for fun I might choose a younger woman, but for a serious relationship I'd like to find a woman near my own age, say within 5-8 yrs. I think the sameness in age can give you "life experiences" in common.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Who Was Your First Crush? Posted: 2/25/2007 5:24:13 PM
5th grade, Elizabeth Barrow. She moved away the following year. I wonder what ever happened to her?

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Saying hello and a short introduction Posted: 2/25/2007 5:14:21 PM
dawn1114,Thanks for your kind words of welcome. Thanks also for the nice compliment about my puppers.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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are there still cd buyers out there Posted: 2/25/2007 10:50:03 AM
I still buy cd's as well. About the only time I download anything is if I want something that was on vinyl only and can't be found any other way and someone has ripped it. I usually rip my cd's to my PC. I don't use mp3 unless it's at 320kbps or VBR and I use LAME. Otherwise I rip with FLAC.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Introductions Posted: 2/25/2007 10:36:56 AM
Hi Becky. I've been to Edmonton a couple times. A beautiful city you have there. I'm not a mall person, but the one there is HUGE! I think the largest in the world, maybe? Enjoy!

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Saying hello and a short introduction Posted: 2/25/2007 10:34:10 AM
Hello from southern Indiana. I've been a member for a bit and never took the time to post an introduction. As you can see from my profile, I chose the name greyhnd for good reason. I currently have four of them and they are my buddies. I've been divorced for about a year and a half, no kids, own my home....blah, blah, blah. Thought I'd give this online dating a whirl and see what happens. I had my left foot and ankle amputated last October due to some complications with my diabetes. I received my prosthesis on 12/20/06, what a great Christmas present that was! Everything is working back to normal and I couldn't be more pleased. If I'm lucky, I might just find a taker. Not sure I'm using the correct bait yet, but time will tell.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Where are the women from indiana? Posted: 2/25/2007 9:21:09 AM
The thing that happens to me when I look at my "matches" or try to narrow my searches is most of the women end up being from Kentucky. Not there's anything wrong with that, but I suppose it's because I'm so far south. If I expand the ages I'm interested in I get more results, but what 21 yr old in her right mind would want to date a 52 yr old man? I'm smart enough to know it won't happen, and I'm also smart enough to know it wouldn't work.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 2/25/2007 9:09:21 AM
I'm Marc from southern Indiana, actually the Jasper area. About 70 miles west of Louisville, KY and about 45 miles east of Evansville, IN.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 121 (view)

I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it? Posted: 2/24/2007 11:39:39 AM
I have greyhounds and they are very gentle around children, adults and even babies. I also have an inside cat that is safe with them in the house. But, if I were to let the cat outside they'd kill her in a minute. Ater all, they are raised to chase/hunt small game. I don't always trust them around small breeds of dogs either. When using the dog park here, I always use muzzles. Like any other breed of dog, they each have different prey drives. That has to be taken into consideration when they play with others.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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People that love their pets Posted: 2/21/2007 10:19:50 AM
Looks like this topic has been around for a while, but I'll comment anyway. I've been involved in adopting retired racing greyhounds since 1992. I currently have four and had six up until last year. My greyhounds were raised for one purpose, to make money for their owners. When they could no longer pay their own way they were either going to be put down or adopted. Lucky for them and me, I was able to adopt them. They are wonderful companions and life wouldn't be the same without them. I can think of only one reason I would get rid of one for a relationship, that being if they bit or injured my partner or a child. The chances of that are slim, but it could happen. My dogs are a much better judge of character than I'll ever be. If they don't like someone there's probably a good reason why I should stay away from them. They are my "family" and I love them like family.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Where do you live? Posted: 2/20/2007 4:17:58 PM
Huntingburg, just a few miles south of Jasper on US 231.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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How far have peopled traveled to meet a date Posted: 2/17/2007 3:09:35 PM
I flew from Louisville KY to Edmonton Alberta a few years ago to meet a woman I met on IRC. She was exactly as "advertised". Not sure how many miles that is, probably 2000 or so. We're still friends to this day.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Men posing with cars Posted: 2/17/2007 3:05:21 PM
If I ever get my old panel truck restored I'll post a pic of me standing next to it. Won't be any time soon though. Instead, I post pictures of me with my greyhounds. Is that the same thing? You know, my dogs faster than your dog.........

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Would a single mom of 1 kid be more appealing than single mom of 2 kids Posted: 2/16/2007 4:38:47 PM
I dated a young lady who had twin girls, 3 yrs old at the time. It wasn't a big deal in any way shape or form. I think when you are looking for a relationship, there are women in certain age groups that are bound to have children. It just goes with the territory. If you don't date women with children then you're missing some golden opportunities. Most aren't looking for a daddy for their kids, they are looking for companionship just like we are.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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date shows up wearing sweats... Posted: 2/16/2007 10:22:05 AM
the thought of wearing sweats on a date has never crossed my mind. I'm glad I saw this post. I have problems with my left side pant leg in regular trousers because of my prosthetic leg. I have a "sleeve" that I roll up that helps seal the suction and keep the leg on. When I wear nice pants, I have to bunch up the leg to get the sleeve rolled up and then the pants are wrinkled something awful. I'm not sure which is worse, wearing wrinkled pants that make me look like I don't care or wearing some more casual pants that aren't dressy and looking a bit more out of place. The other thing I (and probably other amputees) deal with is changing shoes. Most of the time I wear tennis shoes. I hate it! When I put on dress shoes it can sometimes throw the alignment of my leg off. Tennis shoes just don't cut it when going somewhere nice, but I'd rather be able to walk than stumble or have a screwed up gait because I'm wearing certain dress shoes. Without going into detail, the heel height can make a big difference.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 159 (view)

friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it?? Posted: 2/15/2007 8:47:31 AM
PPS, having lived as a disabled person for awhile, and an able bodied person for a long time before that, I think the problem is this--able bodied people are worried about making some sort of faux pas around the disabled. This is the result of the terrible scourge known as political correctness. Don't think of yourself as a disabled person, let people know you won't get offended if they make some blunder, and you'll do fine. smith2267, I think you hit on something here. I've been in almost the exact same position as you, except my crutch time was much longer. It seems that the new thing to call a stump is "residual limb". Well, I call mine a stump, because that's what it is. All that politically correct crap is sometimes for the birds. Lot's of people are self conscious about that sort of thing, but for me it gives me the chance to to talk candidly about my condition and answer questions.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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would you date someone who is handicaped? Posted: 2/15/2007 8:21:00 AM
I'm a below knee amputee and as long as I'm wearing my leg I don't need a handicapped parking spot. If, on the other hand I'm out and about without my leg I ocassionally use one of the spots if it's raining or snowing. Crutches can get slippery on the bottom and you can bust your butt in an eye blink. Another thing that gripes my a** is when someone has a placard because they have a member of their family who is handicapped, then park in the handicapped spaces when they're by themselves. That really sucks.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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superficial nail question Posted: 2/14/2007 5:03:31 PM
Oddly enough, a womans hands are one of the first things I look at. I really like fine boned, slim hands. Nails either painted or not, as long as the nails look healthy and taken care of. I understand that some women can't keep their nails nice because of their occupations and the like. That's okay. I'll also add, her hands aren't a deal breaker.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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How did you learn to cook? Posted: 2/14/2007 12:54:27 PM
I started cooking seriously when four of my friends and I moved into a house together. We were supposed to have shared the cooking duties but, there were only two of us that really put any effort into it. Started out being hamburgers or grilled cheese or the like. Then I started adding different ingredients to see how it tasted. I remember trying to make rack of lamb once and burning it to a crisp. I think I'd rather cook on the grill instead of inside on the stove, but I don't always. If I have a problem or need some help I usually call my sister. she's a hell of a cook.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 106 (view)

The ART on your walls... and WHY? Posted: 2/14/2007 12:45:11 PM
The only prints and pictures I have are greyhound related. One is a colored chalk drawing of my first three greyhounds. MY ex gave it to me for a wedding present. I have another pencil drawing of a greyhound that was commissioned to an artist in Philadelphia by one of my friends and his wife. I have another print that was given to me of two greyhounds by the adoption group I work with. Then I have vintage postcards that have been made into a collage, matted and framed. And then I have 3 black and white photos that came from an old greyhound breeders estate. They were taken in the 1940's and have been framed. I also have the racing blanket and muzzle that my dog King wore when he won the Guys and Dolls Sprint Derby.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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what smells turn you on Posted: 2/14/2007 12:14:35 PM
I have to agree with OptimimTaurus, those natural smells that are a woman. Hot damn!

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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OMG!! Are you guys SERIOUSLY this homophobic???? Posted: 2/14/2007 12:10:55 PM
I'm not homophobic at all, at least I don't consider myself to be. I don't care if someone wants to be intimate with their goat, as long as they don't try to make me do it too....LOL. Several years ago I bowled in a league that had one team with every member being gay. If you didn't know it you couldn't tell they were gay. And they were damn good bowlers too.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 2/13/2007 2:49:22 PM
It's probably all been said before in this post, but here's my way of doing things. I check my "Who's viewed me" first. If I'm interested in any one of them I'll write and say thanks for viewing and try to pick out things from their profile to comment on. I'll choose someone that's maybe an hour or two away from me before I'll write to someone that lives in Alaska or Scotland. I'll also view the profile of someone who has posted something in a forum. If I like what they say and think along the same lines as they do, it's worth a shot to at least say hello, liked your post, etc, etc. And, if someone writes me, I'll take a look at their profile, see where they live, see if we have a few things in common, then go from there. If you email me, you can at least expect a response from me. No other guarantees than that. I can't use the excuse that I get too many emails to answer them all because they are few and far between to begin with.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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WHY R OLDER GUYS SO SEXY???????? Posted: 2/13/2007 11:38:06 AM
hiya......i think that older fellas like..Anthony hopkins , William petersen ( da fella out of csi, an manhunter) and Busta rhymes are jus so sexy....ders jus sumfin so mmmmm bout dem! does any1 else feel same...or even fella's do u no why sum gals jus cant resist a mature fella? I don't know about anyone else, and I'm not trying to be an a**hole about it, but this is ridiculous. How much effort does it really take to type a word correctly? And yes, I'm an older man.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

It looks to me that the men are waiting for the woman to contact them first. Posted: 2/13/2007 9:43:43 AM
I have no problem contacting a woman first. I think the hardest thing about it is trying to say something that will inspire them to write back. I'm in southern Indiana, so I won't get to excited about someone who lives 500 miles away. What are the chances of that working out anyway? I do try to respond to everyone that writes me, if for no other reason than to let them know I didn't just ignore them. And.....if you don't write back, you might've passed up that person you're looking for.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Cooking for my guy... Posted: 2/12/2007 2:24:08 PM
If a woman offers to cook for me I'm tickled to death. I think it shows she cares enough to do something special. I love to cook myself. Why not see if the man wants to help in the kitchen? I've cooked for women many times and they all seem to like it and appreciate the effort. But.....I'm one hell of a good cook, if I do say so myself. Seems to me they're wasting an opportunity to get to know something else about you.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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Would you date someone who is disabled? Posted: 2/12/2007 9:59:07 AM
After losing my left foot and ankle last October, I've found that in most cases it doesn't matter that much to other people. I'm sure part of the reason is that it hasn't slowed me down. In fact, it's made me more determined to manage on my own. Before I had my surgery, the doctor and I talked at length about what I should expect. He told me that I would never wake up some morning and have a new foot at the end of my leg. That did it for me. I finished my physical therapy in 9 weeks instead of 12, worked myself to the limit to strengthen my leg muscles and regain my balance. Now I have a prosthetic leg and I can climb stairs "foot over foot" without assistance, I've gotten up on a step ladder, I walk about a mile a day and I hope to go back to work one of these days. I'm the same man now that I was before my amputation. In some ways I'm probably a better man. Every day is a new challenge, you just have to be willing to face them with a good attitude and desire.

greyhnd

Joined: 1/30/2007

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If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different Posted: 2/12/2007 9:26:21 AM
I have several scars from surgeries and such. A big scar on my chest from open heart surgery and you can still feel the wires that hold my sternum together which is kind of weird. I scar from just above my right knee to my groin from a femerol artery bypass, 5 three inch scars on the left leg from the same kind of surgery, the scar at the end of my stump, a scar from having my appendix removed and a long scar on my left forearm where they removed a vein for my heart bypass. Each and every one of them means something special to me. They all mean I survived something unpleasant, and the scar from my heart surgery means I've lived another day to enjoy this earth. Scars and "marks" help tell the story of your life.

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