Was wondering if anyone ever got out of an emotional/verbal/physically abusive relationship and even after healing, lets say a year or so still questioned whether they were the reason and cause of the abuse.

If they had done things differently might things have been different.

Fear obliation and guilt that is laid on them.

Never the less, has anybody ever had to fight through this?

His issues and abuse had nothing to do with you and are not your fault.

But there are people who work everyday who may have a disabled child, and because they make $1.00 over some arbitrary "income limit", they can get no financial or medical help for their disabled child.......even while they continue to pay into the system....that's not fair!

IN a single split second my sons life changed forever and this can happen to anyone.

Actually the stories of Jesus state quite clearly that he hung-out with prostitutes and theives... and I doubt that he was constantly nagging them.

Actually, I have found that the most moral people I have met have been people who have steered away from institutionalized religions, that would be agnostics, and self professed spiritual types.

His idea of seeing them is to show up, unanounced and it causes problems with her and I!

Should i look to his Sargent ect...

Hey angel, don't waste your time with those two.

Reality is based on subjective perception, specifically yours, mine and ours.
Reality exists objectively, but is observed and experienced subjectively.

Perhaps there are various imperfect INTERPRETATIONS of the Reality that *is*, based on imperfect understanding, but there's just one Reality.

Before you can claim that consciousness arises "in a different plane", you must prove that there is such a thing as "a different plane".

What is this evidence?

I don't believe that consciousness is centered in the brain (even in the living). I believe that consciousness resides in a different plane altogether, one that is primordial to this one.

Of course, since you have intentionally chosen to avoid acknowledging reality

On the other hand, those of us who were raised with logic and reason have no need of faith at all.

FYI, my father let us decide whether or not to believe in Judaism. He merely gave us a decent education, and let us decide for ourselves. Unfortunately for many, they just don't have the tenacity for holding onto questions and not letting go until they have a satisfactory solution. Often, people just guess, and then try to demand that everyone else's views are fiction. In psychology, we call that a superiority bias.

When the secular state, and most secular people, start becoming rational about abuse, and acknowledge that they and others of their ilk, have enabled such abuse, and even encouraged such abuse, by not addressing the abuse that they could have dealt with, and act rationally in regards to religious groups, to blame the abuser and not everyone else, and to act like that is the case, I am 90% sure that religious groups will actively prosecute every abuser in their midst, because they will have nothing to fear from doing so.

The world would be a better place without religion (though eliminated by attrition,not violent supression, of course.)

The religious even think it's moral to tell someone they must believe the same thing they do or they will burn for all of eternity. Aren't threats immoral?

Those who are indoctrinated with morality never learn to think for themselves, and thus never develop the ability to be ethical. (That is just one of the many harmful things that religion does.) Since they are also raised to believe in lies, religious people also never develop the critical thinking skills necessary to distinguish fact from fantasy.

I know this seems like a contradiction to you. But it does to every 2 year old. But a lot of 6 year olds understand that sometimes you must eat, like at mealtimes, and sometimes you mustn't eat, like when you sleep, or before a major operation. I hope that you attend primary school soon.

Um, I am in school... I know for a fact that those who are religious lack critical thinking skills to be able to discern fact from fiction.

That's all it took for you to start drinking? Sounds like she missed a bullet.

Maybe I forgot to tell you guys that I have may have OCB (Obsessive-compulsive disorder).

This is why I can't simply "just get over it."

Well if I haven't met her I wouldn't be drinking this much.

This has made me drink more, since I have been feeling this way for over a month now.

I know it was my choice

but that's because I was having endless dreams and flashbacks, and have not dealt with anything like this before.

good call, but I dont have a therapist and wont get one either.

I just would like to speak to her one last time, if you know how I feel.

yes this girl has pretty much everything to do with my drinking.

Having a 16yr old I have to tell you if a guy your age showed up wanting to date my daughter even if she was 17 you'd better be prepared for some problems that wouldn't be good for your physical wellbeing.

So should i forgive and make up, or breakup?

but in the weekends, when my kids are with their fathers I realize how alone i'm really am.

I only got a maybe.

I just can't help the feeling that I've just been wronged in one way or another

Just because it feels right does not mean it is a wise choice.

5. G-d don't make junk. You know this. One door closes,and ........ you know the rest.

I'm at a lost at how someone can be that cruel to trick another for sex and then up and leave.

Of course it's personal! It's nothing but personal.

So, why can't he find the time to set up our next real date?

I didn't actually start to lose my grip on my reality/identity until this year.

We never really officaly said that we're going out, but we would go out least 2 times a week to dinner or just to hang out.

i can hardly work. What a horrible feeling. No wonder people don't want to open up. I feel like i can not exist unless i go back

Plz give me some good advice and no mean critism.

I know alot of my family members act mean and violent. But when sober are actually really nice people.