please delete my account chat & forums.

Show ALL Forums

Posted In Forum:

Home

MyForums

Author

Thread: please delete my account

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 1 (view)

please delete my account Posted: 10/19/2012 4:54:04 PM
Please delete my account. I have written to CSR@pof.com twice ( no response) I have physically logged in to my profile and clicked on delete my account, under help (3 times now). My account is not deleting. I don't know how my username pulls up in a search under a listing for freesexsitePOF, but I signed up for a 'free dating site' and have always had intimate encounters blocked. I have neither visited nor written in the sexuality forums. The recent discovery has informed me this is not the place for me. I have enjoyed the lovely folks on these forums but I am done here and anything you can do to help permanently delete my profile would be much appreciated. Respects, OnlydateIF

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 139 (view)

Getting touchy feely on the first date... Posted: 10/14/2012 8:02:17 PM
why would someone who's never met you before do this? BECAUSE- guys are getting POF ads for ' free whoopdewwhoop'. Just discovered this after googling my own username. Oh what a shock! Now it all makes sense. Thank God there are still men out there who know better, are not so easaily misled and have some standards of decency and good manners!

OnlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 165 (view)

GMO issue. Posted: 10/13/2012 9:17:00 PM
and now Bhutan is on board requiring organic foods and blocking GMO's (Yaay!!!!)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 6 (view)

seeing someone.,, but still meet...? Posted: 10/13/2012 8:36:40 PM
Doesn't sound like the best time for her to be accumulating more guy friends. She should put her all into her new relationship. Makes me wonder if she is a user type who keeps a backup stallion in the stable. I don't feel quite right about this as you have presented it, but more importantly, is how YOU feel -Do you feel like plan B? That's not helpful for self esteem, OP.

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 5 (view)

When to step up? Posted: 10/13/2012 8:31:59 PM
I have had friends I've known since childhood. We've had our 'all about me and new Man in love' times where we didn't hear from each other for a year or more. Guess what though, OP. We're still friends. We have phones and puters and planes and manage to keep in touch. True friends never really go away.They just give the attention you once had more of to someone new, and that's ok, bc as you yourself acknowledged, they are happy in love. Don't worry!If she's really a friend, you'll hear from her again at some point :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 50 (view)

Gain at his child's expense...hmmm Posted: 10/11/2012 10:56:02 PM
integrity is integrity is integrity.........................at the end of the day, it matters very much! You saw his true colors. Be glad OP-they would have surely showed up again with other shortcuts and err 'omissions' or doctoring of the truth at his convenience. I'm sure after 4 months it took some strength to walk away. You did the right thing. Absolutely!

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 18 (view)

wanna see something cool in space? Posted: 10/11/2012 10:34:08 PM
I'm lost here Creative................ you never warned us there would be BLACK dots now what do THOSE mean?? :P

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 165 (view)

Mitt Romney and the Magic 47%. Posted: 10/11/2012 4:10:37 PM
Obama or Romney current BO admin w/ Monsanto enabled or MR's corp helping Monsanto's public image after agent orange way before this admin gay or straight, abortion or not ( adding in those conservative Religious votes or those liberal votes), Codex or the FDA Women's rights in Afghanistan and/or bomb it and its Women + their husbands and kids to smithereens saying you are there 'for them' while looking out over the poppy fields they are compelled to plant 'collateral damage' or informed consent justify torture or Geneva Convention Security in the name of 'democracy' or Liberty in the name of security? narcotrafficking for arms or arms to keep trafficking and on and on appearing to be having fundamental differences mining or the environment gold or silver same coin 2 sides (3rd quantitative easing) France or England Scottish Rite or Grand Orient Shocking, ha??

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 15 (view)

Empathy versus Sympathy Posted: 10/11/2012 3:34:48 PM
Has anyone else seen the youtube vid of Capuchin monkeys insisting on 'equal pay' done by Dr Frans de Waal? Totally fascinating how he shows the monkeys keen perception on issues like justice, sympathy, and empathy!!!

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 34 (view)

have you ended a relationship with someone because of their circumstances? Posted: 10/11/2012 8:39:56 AM
Well then OP, don't date actors, athletes or MD's and you'll be fine ;)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 8 (view)

Time for a skill test ! Posted: 10/10/2012 9:53:56 PM
Here I was getting revved for passing another test ....haha where's the test part of this now?.... ~OP, one thing that I noticed was- you want dating, not long term and in your first date list, including the preliminary alcohol (duly noted for possible later involvement with the romance portion) 'romance' ok, it's a date: SOME romantic sentiment is naturally implied even if its just sweet gazes and hand holding going a step further to spell it out though? Well......then I wondered if this was the lead up to an intimate encounter you were hoping for at the end of your umm date?? -also, is there a reason the top of your head is chopped off? I thought you were supposed to 'lose your mind' AFTER you fall in love, not before...

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 105 (view)

stopped by the cops Posted: 10/10/2012 9:32:39 PM
~tell him to carry a laminated copy of the 4th amendment in his wallet with his id.

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 39 (view)

Who Was Your Childhood Hero or Heroes? Posted: 10/10/2012 9:27:04 PM
Mary and Carrie Dann, Rigoberta Menchu, Twyla Nitsch, Janet McCloud ,The Trask sisters -strong Native Women :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 52 (view)

Emphisis on Profession...Too Much Posted: 10/10/2012 9:19:02 PM
Because, OP, a Man who has purpose, is on his right path and being productive, doing what he does, is a Happy and Fulfilled Man with healthy self-esteem and resilience. We like 'em like that better than depressed confused and lost without hope :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 41 (view)

truth and lies Posted: 10/10/2012 8:38:29 PM
^ beautiful, eloquent and wise counsel right there for ya op, free of 'charge', at home in neautrality, where two hearts can meet and engage :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 10 (view)

What am I doing Wrong?? Posted: 10/9/2012 11:36:52 PM
well, OP, your profile is a pleasure to read and well written... 2 things: 1. your height is an asset, so are your heart and mind (we'll get to those too soon). I date tall myself, HOWEVER, consider weight-we need to breathe! It sounded like, from your profile description, 'I'm a big guy, deal with it...' You can be tall AND in shape where no woman would have something like 'ability to breathe', OR 'overweight=stroke, heart attack risk', cross her mind.....in case that never occurred to you. I didn't notice your age but by the looks of you, time to start making good choices and planning for your future, right OP-consider every single thing you eat and drink. I know you tall guys can lose a few extra pounds quicker than the short ones. Also know your uh 'equipment' works better when you're fit, as your doctor told you however many years ago that was now when you went for your wellness checkup that all you guys just love ;) 2. Make your primary pic of you only, otherwise a gal might feel she'd come second to the car/garage/race good luck OP! (maybe you'll meet a Lady at the mall when you are shopping for those sizes you dropped)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 3 (view)

I think my approach needs work Posted: 10/9/2012 7:55:26 PM
#1- = tell me where you usually go so I can stalk you (that's why we're evasive on being pinned down for where and when questions with guys we don't know) #2 -translated-I've never met you before, but I'll do a half negger move mentioning 'won't judge you', then tell you I expect you to laugh at the neg--- FAIL, OP Keep it safe ( don't ask for such personal info re her whereabouts , respectful and friendly) If you want to make a joke, make one humbling you/ at your 'expense', NOT the one you're trying to interest. That message above is taking a liberty, pushing and breaking ice, social barrier that is HER choice whether or not to soften, not yours. You ASSUMED she would be okay with disrespect like that and you dont even know her!!!! No wonder noone answers you! Try to put yourself in her shoes recieving a message like this OP> Think of your little sister, cousin, niece. How would you advise her to respond?

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 5 (view)

Is chiropractic treatment quackery? Posted: 10/9/2012 6:19:13 PM
your premise/foregone conclusion are pretty clear. 'Quackery' is strong language, OP .

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 40 (view)

Should I go with my gut? Posted: 10/9/2012 6:06:30 PM
Wow! You mean your gut didn't say "this guy likes drama, time to slam z door"? OP, are you sure you're eating enough fiber for that gut of yours? I don't mean to sound callous, but didn't this ship sink long ago , dear OP?

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 99 (view)

WTH was he thinking?? Posted: 10/9/2012 5:56:59 PM
Now you know-he's not a true friend. He was lying in wait with a plan to take second pass all along. Why would he? Maybe he's a coward. You know him better than we do. Best not to apply your experience with this one guy to all men. Sounds like, He's not 'the one'. There are loads of lovely caring single men out there. Learning experience for you about intent as well as the definition of a true friend. That's ok, OP, you win some you lose some... We all learn as we go and grow :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 31 (view)

Trading one addiction for another Posted: 10/9/2012 5:49:07 PM
yes, very possible. This is why knowing your own boundaries before you start dating is important. If he doesn't respect your boundaries and tells you the reason why is because of 'how much he likes you'-well....there ya go, OP, there's your flag cue.

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 7 (view)

asking a friend Posted: 10/9/2012 5:02:57 PM
Hi OP Is that a Haflinger Paint? Sorry, couldn't resist, first things first... Horses perk my ears right up. :) ok, on to the q-Unless you work at a very large company where there is no chance one of you might get promoted in position over the other, it would be a wise idea to spend time thinking about the consequences of your decision to make your overture. In this case, not just the friendship is at stake, so is your job. Only you can make the decision. Best to think it over carefully. All the best, and a carrot for the horsey, OP :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 4 (view)

how to disable green 'chat' dots on login Posted: 10/9/2012 4:47:07 PM
Thank you both for responding here, I appreciate it. @ GCDeb ok, I hope they understand if I block and unblock, it's nuttin personal, I just don't feel the need to be privy to their logged in online status (none of my business, ya know...) and @3ffervescent- apparently blocking settings from chat does not stop those pesky green dots :P

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 1 (view)

how to disable green 'chat' dots on login Posted: 10/8/2012 8:27:28 PM
Hi there, does anyone know how to disable the green chat dots displaying on top of my login page? I really have no desire to track when some guy I once wrote to is chatting away with whoever and it's just irrelevant/unnecessary fluff. thanks for any help, OnlydateIF

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 39 (view)

A Chocoholic Needs Help Posted: 10/3/2012 4:23:43 PM
I'm just the messenger so.... realizing this is a hot topic right next to 'well, you know ;), here goes: He is insistent and emphatic that it's not good for the liver. I was very surprised by that position myself, as I had read so much about the anti-oxidants in cacao and high magnesium content. . What I myself wonder is if there are known distinctions between A. plain cacao. B. the fat in chocolate ie commonly, cocoa butter, C. sugar (which is a solvable obstacle), or D. the alkali used with processing the cacao. (and of course every choco-fan is well versed in the 'Aztec food of the Gods' theorem too ;) If I were as much of a chocoholic as some are, I'd probably be writing him straightaway to ask those q's, but...I rarely eat chocolate anyways, so send Dr Barral the flaming arrows, not me :) ~OH and PS, I confess the chocolate I DO enjoy eating is Godiva. (so, I'm no saint either even if I only indulge occasionally-hehe)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 88 (view)

Mitt Romney and the Magic 47%. Posted: 10/3/2012 3:44:10 PM
hmmn...................... So...I'm thinking 'Snakes in Suits' by Robert Hare is a great pre-election read ;)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 17 (view)

How to know when someone is thinking about you Posted: 10/3/2012 1:23:20 PM
for sure, OP. IME those who naturally send and recieve learn to recognize each other's ways after they experience this enough times. Of course, just cuz one can 'hear' what's coming in, it is still the reciever's choice whether or not they choose to respond with that super high tech thing called a telephone ;)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 48 (view)

Money Investing Suggestions Wanted Posted: 10/2/2012 7:07:40 PM
A good broker knows more than you and only makes money when/if you do-that's their job. In addition, that takes the stress away from you of having to constantly watch the market depending on what type of account you have. After you lose enough money on your own, you might consider a good broker an asset ;)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 76 (view)

is this a valid request? Posted: 10/2/2012 6:18:57 PM
Hi OP, Here are my thoughts: We feminine women want a Man who's strong, confident successful-one who can take charge.One who can protect us while we are our soft, vulnerable, loving selves. And they do try, to be that take charge kind of Man for us... But,... sometimes, in their quest, they step over the line (as I think another poster also said) into the tyranny of being OVERLY controlling- What was once the beauty of the protective male becomes something entirely different to people without limits. The men who commit serious crimes against women lack awareness of these limits. So, yes I agree with other posters, this guy was way overcontrolling to ask that of you. Fortunately, he showed his true colors quickly and you won't waste any more time on him. ~Also, I'd like to say to mysterious stranger, that was one of the best expositions on fb I've yet read and I 100% concur with all you wrote (which is why I don't have any interest in it either)!!

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 12 (view)

Ever get cold feet after you get to know someone Posted: 10/2/2012 4:16:39 PM
try this OP: "What's something good that happened for you this week?" "who are the most important relationships in your life?" "what goal has much of your energy lately?" "What are you grateful for?" "Who are your heroines and heros and why?" maybe those will help......

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 21 (view)

Talking About the Past Without Referencing the Ex Posted: 10/2/2012 4:12:24 PM
I'd say, as long as you date sane rational women with healthy self-esteem, this should be no big deal, OP. And If she's the mother of your children, it NEEDS to be no big deal as a prereq.

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 15 (view)

A Question For Guys and Girls Posted: 10/2/2012 4:04:58 PM
just move on Dear...He's not worth ruining your day for :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 77 (view)

Explanation required ? Posted: 10/2/2012 4:03:32 PM
You're in the right here, OP. Guys do this to women too-it's a way I think of seeing whether they'll take disrespect maybe or guage how interested they (once) were ?

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 34 (view)

Study shows Organic foods are not healthier Posted: 10/2/2012 1:06:38 PM
...and then there are the French who just released the explosive long term study of GMO's and the pics of rats fed GMO (that's non-organic for ya) corn with multiple huge tumors. The whole reason for eating organic is not just pesticide residue on the non-organic crops, but to prevent being a guinea pig in the great and deadly GMO game. Good for France for banning GMO's and asking the EU to do the same. Whoever would have thought the very food we eat could kill us? True evil........

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 19 (view)

Choice: Adopt or be a Step-Parent? Posted: 10/2/2012 12:53:21 PM
OP, this is an enormous consideration, as well as a decision requiring the loving foundation of BOTH people in the relationship, not just one. It would be quite cavalier to declare an answer to this q on a net forum. Children are nothing to be taken lightly, and being a parent or step-parent is at times the toughest, most thankless, yet equally rewarding job of all :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 35 (view)

A Chocoholic Needs Help Posted: 10/1/2012 4:45:36 PM
Op, read what Dr. Jean Pierre Barral has to say about chocolate and the liver-that might help your resolve ;)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 18 (view)

Should a divorced father call his son Honey? Posted: 10/1/2012 4:08:26 PM
Well gosh, OP, with a noble profession such as yours ;-), I'm betting we'll never have to worry about the same confusion from ya ;)

OnlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 21 (view)

Just what has Love got to do with it?? Posted: 9/30/2012 5:22:59 PM
Not to worry, OP. I feel the same way you do on this, no matter who claims they can rewrite 'normal' progressions of intimacy. These days one has to be a deconstructionist of all the mythologies, such as the bogus '3 date rule'. Stand by your values and know you're certainly not alone :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 14 (view)

THAILAND Posted: 9/29/2012 11:55:46 AM
yes, I'd advise you to get out of Bangkok as soon as you arrive. Though some of the best beaches are in the south, there's also things like prostitution in all the heavily touristed areas that are pretty heartbreaking to encounter. The North is beautiful, more mellow and calm (IME). Thailand has a rich culture, many sights to see, great food and I hope you have a great trip :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 73 (view)

women who love married guys Posted: 9/29/2012 11:09:54 AM
I also find this recurring pattern you report a bit odd, OP. Try focusing on women who are more outspoken about values and good character. Women like us don't have even emotional affairs with married men, because we think marriage is a sacred boundary.

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 7 (view)

Ladies what kind of Men's Cologne grabs your attention? Posted: 9/29/2012 10:13:42 AM
Hi OP, Perfumes and colognes have chemicals in them which make the scent more penetrating, called Pthalates. The problem with Pthalates, in addition to the fact they can give some immediate allergic reactions or headaches, is that they are endocrine disruptors in both male and female systems. I have literally had my cyle restart (a week after it was finished according to my normal schedule) the day after being exposed to artifically scented candles or air fresheners, because of this effect on my hormones from Pthalates. Hopefully those who use these products will remember 'less is more' (none =even better IMO), and for good reason! PS (info on Pthalates/perfume, cologne/ endocrine disruption is easily searchable on the net)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 7 (view)

43 yrs. old Never been in love, not wanting to get married. Posted: 9/28/2012 3:21:00 PM
Hi, OP, I am deeply affected hearing you are 43 and have never loved. I honestly can't fathom how one could never fall in love. LOVE is better than anything else, ANYTHING (and I've seen a lot so far...) peace OP

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 2 (view)

peer review fraud Posted: 9/28/2012 12:58:05 PM
Thanks! A very good point indeed -and speaking of... another relevant topic the politics of the scientific grant. Why do some of the best and brightest get unfairly put through the ol meat grinder??

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 21 (view)

Ladies, thoughts on dating an asian guy? Posted: 9/26/2012 6:31:29 PM
Hi Op: So...you're Asian. So you're thin. No matter how many ways we try and find why someone else might not find US their cup of tea, that's bogus. If we don't love and accept ourselves for who we are, why expect anyone else to? Be you, love you, accept you OP. Some things we can change about ourselves. Others we cannot. Be proud of your heritage and your identity. Learn about your family history. that's my advice to you :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 15 (view)

Open date to any ethnicity Posted: 9/26/2012 12:03:06 PM
right OP, we'll get right on that trophy making for ya ...smh..............

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 3 (view)

Did I blow it? Posted: 9/24/2012 5:40:44 PM
^he's right. You sound very high maintenance. Do you have family, other friends, interests? Noone who HAS a life wants to be a human teddy bear...

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 65 (view)

The two reasons why men propose Posted: 9/24/2012 4:18:47 PM
All of the men in my family are either married or widowed. I can guarantee you between my relatives and my male friends, Men are more complex than some po-dunk 2 checkmark explanation. Where was this splendid article, the enquirer??

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 31 (view)

Maybe it's just me? Posted: 9/24/2012 12:17:30 PM
might wanna listen to Bob's advice, OP:)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 14 (view)

scared of getting into a relationship :-( Posted: 9/24/2012 12:12:12 PM
Healing takes time, OP. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that you are not a machine. Ultimately all of our hearts are tender :)

onlydateIF

Joined: 11/15/2011

Msg: 34 (view)

Photos of Kate Posted: 9/21/2012 6:45:45 PM
I hope this brings more light to the problems paparrazzi cause...

Show ALL Forums