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Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Now shes invaded my dreams!!! Posted: 5/13/2009 2:49:11 AM
Keeping yourself really busy will help a bit. You will either feel less for her in time, or you will learn to live with what you feel. Either way, you'll be happy again sometime, maybe sooner than you think! Good luck.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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RE: Feel that there is no reason for me to live Posted: 4/8/2008 12:42:04 AM
Wow, you sound just like I feel half the time... it's sooo hard when you love somebody and you just can't stop and nobody understands. It sucks. I think it's possible to be happy again afterwards though, had a few happy times in the last couple years, doesn't seem to make up for the bad times, but it gives me hope. Still have my days when I wake up crying, or screaming, and so, ok, things aren't so great... but I can remember the good times and want to be there again, and it will probably happen, and you never know, it might be right around the corner. You could be right around the corner from your good times too! Or it could be five years from now! But whatever! Do you really wanna miss out on them when they finally come your way?

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Whats the best way to........... Posted: 8/21/2007 1:26:47 PM
It takes time, but time doesn't work either if you're not filling that time. What it takes to get over someone is to fill up your time so that you aren't thinking about that person on a constant basis. Occupy yourself with work, hobbies, and dates. I understand that you probably don't feel like dating someone else, but it's a good and fun way to occupy your evenings. Fun has got to be the best cure for feeling down. The best part is that you may actually find someone else who takes the last person off your mind. Don't worry about getting into another relationship right away though, just have fun (that doesn't mean you have to go have sex with somebody), you're probably not going to be ready for another relationship right away.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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How do I say no? Posted: 8/21/2007 12:23:10 PM
Well, I don't recommend lying, that's never a good thing. Of course, there's no need to be brutally honest and tell them the real reason why you don't want to give them your number either. I recommend just keeping it simple. "No, sorry" and walk away. If they follow or are persistant in some way, "Please leave me alone." works.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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do u ever really know a person??????? Posted: 7/27/2007 12:16:15 AM
Watch the movie "Closer" sometime... it touches on this subject A LOT.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Chatting up or just being friendly? Posted: 7/18/2007 7:51:17 AM
I always assume that there's an interest there. Sometimes I'm right, sometimes not. I don't think girls are offended by the mistake when I'm wrong. Now, if I went the other way and assumed they simply wanted to be friends, that could definately screw things up for a chance at a relationship. So, yeah, I always assume that there's interest, it's a choice I've made, not necessarily a complete lack of comprehension of the opposite sex.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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It's been so LONG Posted: 7/18/2007 5:51:07 AM
You won't ever forget your first love, ummm... barring amnesia... which I can admit to having wished for at times. One of my best friends still thinks about his first wife at times... I don't think he's even seen her in 20 years. It's just one of those things that you have to learn to live with... Love doesn't come along every day, and when it happens, it will not EVER be forgotten. The second time I fell in love, seemed a hundred times stronger, and a hundred times worse when it ended. I've only been in love twice, but from what I hear, it's stronger each time. Supposing that's true, I sure as heck better marry the next one I fall in love with, because I can't even imagine going through worse feelings than what I've already gone through, I wouldn't even WANT to survive it. Two years isn't such a long time to still feel for someone that you felt like you would love for the rest of your life, you may still feel for them for years to come... but when you fall in love again, and I'm quite certain you will... since it seems to happen to everybody and you are human just like the rest of us... that first love will seem SO much less important, almost to the point of triviality, and you'll be able to look back on it without feeling bad or missing it. It may, and probably will, take a long while though... just keep living, and finding ways of enjoying yourself without her, there is a lot to live for and a lot of things to enjoy... even when you aren't with the person that you love.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Where are all the intellectual men out there? Posted: 7/18/2007 5:11:28 AM
You were supposed to nab one BEFORE you finished and left grad school... What's it called? Pre-graduate recruitment? See, maybe if I'd gone to grad school, I would know the answer to that question already. Maybe you could go back for another degree and do things right this time. What were you doing the whole time anyways? STUDYING? Sheesh.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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... How have you turned a difficult situation around to a win/win? Posted: 7/18/2007 5:03:43 AM
And G.I.Joe teaches us "Knowing is half the battle". I find that having a clear, knowledgeable view of whatever situation you happen to find yourself in is the key to overcoming most obstacles and conflicts. Being right is a much easier position to fight from than simply being from an opposing viewpoint. That being said, I do not often find myself in situations where I'm waging some sort of tactical war with people... nor would I enjoy such a situation, regardless of the outcome. Have you considered that perhaps you enjoy winning situations of conflict too much, don't make enough compromises, or don't do enough to smooth situations out before some sort of conflict is necessary? Hmmm... come to think of it... This may constitute, in your mind, a confrontational message, or at least an opposing viewpoint, and therefore another opportunity for you to win another battle... Please don't hurt me too badly! Hehe

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Femininity… what is it to YOU? Posted: 7/18/2007 12:02:43 AM
Femininity to me is mostly willingness to allow yourself to just BE a woman. Soft, gentle, sweet, emotional, caring, loving, and showing empathy. If we were going to go on visual feminine characteristics, then I'd have to say long hair, soft facial features, curvyness, veluptuousness, and a lack of extreme musculature... with the possible exception of legs, though this can go too far as well. Then of course, there's feminine style, which would include make-up, skirts and dresses, all things pink, frillyness, and accessories such as high heels, purses, and hair accessories. I have to say, such things are certainly attractive to me, I would like to be with a woman who's not afraid to be a woman.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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honestly guys, have you ever... Posted: 7/12/2007 1:58:24 AM
No, I've never done that, and never would.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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How long should a woman wait for a man to make a commitment? Posted: 7/12/2007 1:47:51 AM
I would think that after a year and a half, you should at least be planning on moving in together if not already... and by the time 2 years comes around, marraige should at least be a topic of discussion... actually, the way I see it, if you haven't figured out whether or not you're getting married by 2 years in, then I figure the relationship is a bust... but that's just how I see it, obviously I'm in the minority here.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Plentyoffish Relationship Assessment. Posted: 7/7/2007 3:26:18 AM
Strange, but I can't seem to find a way to redo the test, can anyone help me?

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Plentyoffish Relationship Assessment. Posted: 7/7/2007 3:24:59 AM
I found that all but one of the sections seemed right, but the one section that determines whether you like gifts or touching was completely inverse... didn't make any sense at all to me why it read the way that it did... perhaps I hit the wrong buttons, or perhaps there's something flawed with the test... those are the only things I can think of that make any sense... perhaps I'll redo it and see if it comes up the same.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Ex's and the hurt. Need help understanding Posted: 6/29/2007 4:44:47 PM
That's a sad story. We all wish for the fairy tales in our minds to come true, I'm sure you were just doing what you thought was the best chance for a happily ever after ending... Unfortunately life rarely turns out that way. Still though, I hope somehow it will all work out for you, I wish you all the best.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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What kind of questions ARE we allowed to ask??? Posted: 6/29/2007 4:31:05 PM
Apparently you can ask, "what can we ask?"

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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How do men feel about being metrosexual? Posted: 6/29/2007 4:28:36 PM
Never really thought of myself as "metrosexual", and I've never had a manicure or pedicure, but I'm always changing my hair, I try to keep my nails and skin looking good, pluck hairs that are out of place, try to keep a light tan to keep my skin looking even, and work out somewhat regularly to keep myself in shape for appearance purposes, I'm very vain so I'm always trying to look my best. I spend quite a bit of time at it, about on a par with the average woman I would guess. I also spend quite a bit of money on it, with getting work done on my hair and on clothing... perhaps not quite as much as a woman... I don't wear make-up and have no shoe fetish. I really don't think most guys spend as much time or money as I do, there doesn't seem to be much need, since appearance doesn't seem to matter as much for guys as it does girls.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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HOW DO YOU LEARN TO TRUST ANYONE???. Posted: 6/22/2007 12:54:32 AM
I find it easy to trust someone, because I get to know how far my trust can extend and what I can trust a person for... It's like this, get to know what you can trust someone will do. Maybe you can't always trust their words, but you can always trust that they're going to be the person that you know that they are, if you get to really know what they're like and understand them. Sounds silly, where's the trust in that, I guess you could say? Well, I think you have to lend a little trust to find out whether or not they'll actually earn it from you. Maybe it's 5 bucks you're willing to lend them and wait to see if they give it back without asking... maybe it's making a date and seeing if they're late, or if they even show at all. There's so many little things... almost anything can be about trust. It's all about relationship building... and little blocks of trust are the bricks that you're laying. You can't trust someone completely from the beginning, that's just begging to be betrayed. So, at first, only trust a person with something that you wouldn't really care about being betrayed over... and build from there. Bleah, I sound cheesily sloganish, like a fortune cookie... but I think it's a good way to look at it.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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can a jaded girl find love...how do i read this guy? Posted: 6/1/2007 1:32:14 AM
lol, does a "nice guy act" work? Never met a player who was using that one, hehe.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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WOULD IT BE A MISTAKE?? Posted: 5/27/2007 4:40:34 PM
Nothing is a mistake, merely a missed opportunity or a learning experience... that being said, don't be silly enough to move to place you don't want to live, he can't be all that far away already, am i right?

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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OMG - You're photo!... its... its... Posted: 5/26/2007 3:15:42 PM
Ok, I wonder what you will think of all my different looks, maybe it'll give you a challenge...

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Always Logged In...should i worry?? Posted: 5/22/2007 5:35:51 PM
You say you truly love him... that's something that's hard to find. I've always believed in taking a chance on love. I think you'll probably get hurt, but what the heck, we're probably ALL gonna get hurt again before we find the ones for us. You can tell him how you feel, and let him know that it's over between you if he keeps doing this... make sure you tell him that you KNOW he's doing this, because you do know... even though you're trying to convince yourself that you're not sure. You know what he's doing and you want him to stop, because you love him, but you're not gonna believe his defensive lies anymore, and you're not gonna put up with what he's doing anymore. Maybe if you show him how well you know him, and that you're smart enough to see what he's doing, and secure in yourself enough that you're not gonna let him get away with this crap, maybe he'll smarten up and be the man that he should. I highly doubt it, but hey, I'd take the chance if I were you.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Guys are you talking to so many women you cant remember most of them? Posted: 5/21/2007 8:34:56 AM
I guess it's happened to me a couple times, when a bunch of girls all decided to chat with me at approximately the same time, what am I supposed to do, just pick one at random and talk to only her? Of course, if a girl truely gets my interest, then I'm not really gonna have a problem remembering about her, cause I will spend time thinking about what she said.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Cybersex (yes I read the other threeads first) Posted: 5/21/2007 8:26:51 AM
You want us to tell you why you care. Is it because you had a genuine interest in this guy and probably would've been willing to do it just for the chance that you'd meet him sometime? Was it because you were actually interested in doing it but were feeling a little shy or prudish at the time? Was it something else? Only you can tell us. Is there guys out there that would rather just have cybersex than meet a woman in person? Oh yeah, married men who are just playing around online, horribly ugly men that've never had a girlfriend, and all sorts of other kinds of guys that I don't really understand because I find cybersex both cheesy and pathetic.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Do I sound genuine? Posted: 5/16/2007 1:36:31 PM
Ok then, about the text part... I can't see anything wrong with what you've got... there's not much that's super exciting about it, but from what I can tell you're looking for someone close to your own age who's looking to settle down and settle in, not somebody who wants to be entertained and excited all the time. I think you'll get what you're looking for sooner or later... I suggest hiding the pictures till you get some new ones in, just keep them hidden but still there in case someone's really insistant about getting your picture, and you can message it to them. Again, maybe a better profiler can pick out some flaws in the text, but I don't see any.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Do I sound genuine? Posted: 5/15/2007 8:19:42 PM
That is a horrible pic, truly truly terrible... no wonder you were doing better before posting it. Get a new picture, it's so worth it if it helps you snag the woman you'll adore.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Is my profile any good?? Posted: 5/15/2007 8:14:06 PM
Ok, you need new pics, ones where you're smiling! You include photography in your interests but don't know that smiling makes people more attractive? Check out some magazine covers sometime. Don't include the phrase "I've been single far too long" in your profile anymore, that's proof that you're desparate. Remember that your headline is your slogan, it can be funny or serious, but it must be eye-catching. Try looking up the slogans of companies, or just put in your favorite candy bar slogan... I think almost anything is better than what you've got. Girls don't look for "nice" guys, because they equate "nice" with boring... just be nice, and don't tell them that you're going to be. Girls don't like to think of themselves as "nice" girls, because they want to be beautiful and desireable and HOT (though if you say that sort of stuff to them they'll probably feel like you're trying too hard). Don't use that word "nice" as a compliment to them when you get chatting either, it practically screams "I'm not really into you". That's all I can think of for now, I guess you can take my advice with a grain of salt though, since I haven't found the relationship I'm looking for either, good luck to you! Edit: as the other guy said, your age restriction is a little much I'd say, a hot 19 year old or a beautiful 29 year old are not people you'd like to talk to??? are you crazy?

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Let's try this again... Posted: 5/15/2007 7:58:56 PM
Maybe I made a mistake asking for profile advice, hehe, I don't seem to want to actually DO much of the advice I've been given... well, I guess I did change a couple things, maybe it's enough to make the difference, I have had a little bit of contact here and there since I first posted this, maybe my lucky stars will shine down on me soon.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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scraping my heart off the sidewalk - why do they do this Posted: 5/14/2007 3:59:49 AM
Ahhhh... A message from the other side of the fence here. I've been THAT guy. I didn't even realize it at the time, but I once worked with this one girl that was always friendly and flirty, and she was really pretty too. I had a girlfriend at the time that I'd been with for a couple years, and heck, I probably complained about her and whatever. The thing is though, I wasn't even thinking about dating that girl from work, I was just responding to the vibe that she was throwing towards me. I didn't even realize that she really wanted to date me, a friend of hers told me about it later. I probably would've left that girl I was with to be with her, had I realized. So there, you didn't make a move and maybe the guy just never clued in that you ACTUALLY wanted him, we've all had our stone-dead stupid moments in our life.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Random Play ...Good Or Not? Opinions please :) Posted: 5/14/2007 3:18:36 AM
Hey, if you don't feel like being in a relationship with the guy you're seeing, then don't. That goes for the first guy, or the hundredth guy... You'll know when you've got that deep down feeling that the guy you're seeing is somebody you want to get serious with. If you don't have that feeling, then you really should move on to the next guy and not let the one you're seeing build up feelings for you.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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could you walk away? Posted: 5/13/2007 6:44:06 PM
Hey, I've done it, but it sucks. Not quite as sucky as getting left for "it MIGHT not work", and I've had that too.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Let's try this again... Posted: 5/11/2007 11:51:39 AM
Yeah, that's a song lyric... it's labelled now... Hey, I know they're not profound concepts but that's how I'm feelin these days so why not put it in? At least the girls'll know what I'm like. Took the Nelly pictures down, I should've done that already anyways, and put up some new pics... I really couldn't put that one as my main, cause I'm not too fond of it. I see what you mean about listing the ingredients without making a meal, but I guess I'm just not much of a profile chef, perhaps someone could lead me a little further into how to heat it up and make it simmer?

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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availability Posted: 5/11/2007 12:09:41 AM
Guys don't want to know. If he found out without her telling, he'd have a problem with it. If he found out by her telling him, he'd have a problem with it. It's just one of those things you (or your friend) should really keep to yourself (herself).

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Let's try this again... Posted: 5/10/2007 11:53:34 PM
My activity level on here has died lately, nobody is messaging me, noone responds to my messages, my chat sessions get denied, I keep adding stuff to my profile as life goes on, but maybe I shoved some stuff in there I shouldn't have, can anybody find the profile killer for me? Hey, if it's the new pictures, let me know, I'm not too proud to hear it. Any recommendations are welcome.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Anyone experiance something similiar? Posted: 5/8/2007 2:31:16 AM
I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak. That is a horrible story. Just keep breathing buddy, you'll make it through. Spend lots of time with your son, he could probably use the attention right now, and you could definately use some distraction. You will feel better eventually. Best wishes.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Would you consider...? Posted: 5/8/2007 12:18:37 AM
It wouldn't matter to me at all. The same general principals would apply, as long as I found her attractive and pleasant to be with, then I would be willing to date her. Potential benefits would be finding the girl made for me in the stars. Potential downfall would be not finding her.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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am i good enough for my guy? Posted: 5/8/2007 12:14:46 AM
Uh, judging by your picture, you don't really have to do anything to be beautiful... I can't imagine why you'd have low self esteem. Why do you even ask? Do you want to leave him? If you're unhappy you should just leave him, if you're happy, then why even ask?

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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2 date 2 guys and they both know?? Posted: 5/6/2007 3:31:25 PM
Well, if you don't want to hurt either one of them, you're going to have a problem, because you have to reject one of them. That's just the way it goes, unless you plan on living in polyamourous relationships, and I couldn't give you advice on that, those people are just weird to me. Live for yourself, make the choice of who's best for you. A guy who's never gonna be there for you when you need him isn't your best option. If you date the other guy and he isn't as good as the first one, drop him too. You're a beautiful woman, there must be some very good options out there for you.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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I need advice on bachelor parties. Posted: 5/6/2007 3:23:22 PM
Well, if she said she doesn't want "a" stripper, get her two!! I have no idea what bachelorette parties are like. A bachelor party will definately have booze, cigars, porn on the TV, and oh yeah, at least one stripper, sometimes that just means starting or ending the night AT an actual strip club, and if so, then you can be sure that we made the guy get on stage for maybe a lap dance in front of everyone or possibly get whipped with his own belt, hehe. If you can fit some gambling, some card playing, and a prize fight in there as well, then you've done well. I have never heard the details of a bachelorette party, but I've always assumed that it involved booze and strippers as well. Maybe I will ask one of my sisters sometime, cause I'm suddenly quite curious.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Break-up sex. New sex... Posted: 5/6/2007 3:12:02 PM
I've had break-up sex, it's very unfulfilling. My reasoning? Well, some girls want to do it, I don't know why... maybe as a sort of going away present, maybe because the sex was the only reason they were in the relationship in the first place, in any case it was always the girl who initiated it, and I'm just have a lot of trouble saying "no" to sex if I'm single and not getting any somewhere else. Can't say I've ever gone back and had sex with a girl after several years though. I have almost always cut my ex-lovers completely out of my life.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Can someone help me! i just dont get men!!! Posted: 5/6/2007 2:59:35 PM
I think we all have problems along these lines, not having enough places to meet people and not meeting the right person for us. That's why we're here. There's nothing wrong with you, in fact I'd say you're a really beautiful girl. Hey, look at it this way, at least you have the OPTION of going out to a club and getting laid, I can't even do that (well, your chances are better anywayz), let alone find the person I want to spend my life with. Don't worry, you'll find your guy before you know it and I'll bet you'll think he was worth the wait.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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I helped him financially and then he diasappeared... Posted: 5/6/2007 7:39:02 AM
I don't know, I mean, it sounds like maybe the guy wanted the money and took off now that he got something from you, but that's the only information you've given, maybe there's more to the story. You said you were together for weeks afterwards, so it's not just a case of taking the money and running. Besides, $500 isn't really all that much, makes me wonder why he wouldn't have gone after more from you if that's all he was after. Also, it's rather obvious that the money's been on your mind, could it be that your loan ruined your relationship? These things are hard to know sometimes, but I can tell you miss the guy more than you miss the money, I'm sorry for your losses, good luck fishing.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Cheater? I'll let the boys decide this one! Posted: 5/4/2007 9:56:21 AM
He sounds like a really nice guy. I don't know what the problem could be??? Could it be the fact that HE'S A CHEATER, A LIAR, AND OH MY GOD YOU ARE GETTING PLAYED! WAKE UP! WAKE UP! But hey, that's just my opinion, I could be wrong. WAKE UP!!!!

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Why do so many guys want to date women half their age? Posted: 5/4/2007 9:50:04 AM
It's the same reason that those women in their 20's are actually willing to date these guys. For men, part of attraction is how fertile the female looks, though we don't really think about it conciously, except in a few rare cultures. For women, part of attraction is how much money and influence (IE ability to provide) the male has, sometimes they think about it conciously and sometimes not. We're all preprogrammed to look for these things in our partner, whether we all admit it or not, so it's true that you'd have an easier time picking and choosing while you're still younger. However, more and more women are waiting until their thirties to start their lifetime commitments and have children, and they ARE finding partners. So you are not too late now and would not be even if you waited a few years. I bet I know why you're feeling this way though. A lot of my friends and family who are my age or younger are getting married and having children, and this makes me feel as though I should be as well. Are you noticing the same thing within yourself?

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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why would he call now? Posted: 5/2/2007 10:56:17 PM
I don't know. Not the answer you were looking for, I'm sure. Just want to say, I've been there and it sucks. You feel like you need the non-contact just to even be able to survive and be able to do anything, and they, the person who took away your pleasant dreams, won't leave you alone... they cut you and cut you and never let you heal. You're not alone, I know your hurt. Maybe he wants to get back with you and maybe he doesn't... either way, you'll eventually feel better, even though it may seem overwhelming and unending right now. You will get through it and feel better.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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How important are looks? Posted: 4/30/2007 12:12:48 PM
I'd say it depends what the situation is... I'd say your looks are more important online than in the real world as far as generating interest and recieving messages. For some reason, people seem to be more picky on here. In the real world, as long as you're not completely repulsive, then it shouldn't matter much. Of course, though, the more beautiful people of the world can take their pick of the opposite sex a little easier than those who are not, supposing that their personalities are the same. I know I'm just repeating what you should already know and probably do, but you seemed to want confirmation.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Do guys have a preference of how a woman should dress? Posted: 4/30/2007 11:43:23 AM
Femininity is the key to turning my head. That could mean a dress or skirt, or a pair of jeans with lace around the pockets... it could be the make-up, long hair, frilly shirt or high heels, patterned stockings or nylons... any of those things would probably turn my head... That's just what I like, a girl who's actually a girl, who's comfortable being one and likes to show it off that she is one.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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It's not you,it's me....I'm broken....what the H***? Posted: 4/30/2007 1:03:13 AM
K, so maybe he is feeling a bit of cowardice about directly confronting you about this issue, well, I'd say everybody has some issue they find it difficult to talk about. I could believe about the broken thing, sometimes I feel that way too, and two of my best friends feel that way all the time. Anyway, glad you're not suffering over it very much, according to what you say he said, it sounds like he didn't want you to suffer over it very much.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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How do you stop having feelings for someone who will never have them for you? Posted: 4/29/2007 10:19:18 AM
I've been on both sides of the fence on this one. It's a terrible feeling to let someone know that you don't have feelings for them and won't ever, especially when it's happened to you. I'm not exactly sure how you get over it... but it gets easier with both time and new experiences... So do lots of stuff with lots of people and try to shift your mind's focus from the past to the future.

Garland_Greeneyes

Joined: 2/5/2007

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Can 1 of you Gentlemen tell me what it means when a guy tells you that your Cute vs.Beautiful? Posted: 4/29/2007 10:04:52 AM
My personal take on it would be that cute is pretty but approachable, whereas beautiful is more desireable but harder to approach. The beautiful ones are those who make us feel intimidated at first sight, whom if you were going to approach you'd second guess yourself as to whether you should and have to force yourself. I wouldn't think of cute as a bad thing though, it's just as easy to fall for a cute girl as a beautiful one, and you'd probably have more chances because more guys would talk to you and get to know you without necessarily being so anxious that every move they make is fake and trying to impress. I know, I know, who cares right? We all want to be beautiful.

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