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pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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my brain hurts! Posted: 1/9/2005 7:33:42 AM
hey girlfriend, i know the problem. all the men i have unfortunately met have been the sane way. in my opinion if you only want sex then fine but if you want a relatioship then no. it seems to happen a lot. i met a guy in a bar, we had sex. i was only looking for fun. we wound up as a couple living together for 4 months. we evebtually busted up. now i have a true gentleman. we are taking it slow. been together over a month and have only held hands. not even kissed yet. i can see the way he looks at me when he thinks i'm not looking that he wants to have sex but has enough self control to hold off. i feel so respected and you deserve to feel that way also. you can't build a relationship on sex only on respect so tell him he needs to respect you enough to wait until you are ready and if not move on and find yourself a gentleman.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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who do you think gets judged more? Posted: 1/7/2005 5:58:15 PM
us fat chicks get judged the most. the sad part is the ones who judge us are usually ugly and super dumb and couldn't get a date even if they paid a girl. and even sadder is they think the are good looking.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Help, what do I do... Posted: 1/5/2005 9:10:46 PM
if i were you i'd just say "i've never enjoyed anyones company this much, you are special to me." he will get the hint and it wont seem you are coming on too strong. if he doesn't reply in the way you hope give him a few days to think about what you said. he may be a little shy. my b/f certainly is. at first i only told him "i think a lot of you." then i let it ride. things turned out great. good luck girl and i'm sure if youu are feeling the butterflies then he is too.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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If you had God in the room with you... Posted: 1/5/2005 8:32:14 PM
God, when can i please come home to be with my sweet, precious Larry. <<< { my hubby who departed on March 22nd 2002. }

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Why must there be Temptation? Posted: 1/2/2005 6:35:10 PM
temptation? woman kinds fault. if only eve had not eaten that d*mned apple.

pearlicious

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am i the only spending new years eve alone Posted: 1/2/2005 6:27:35 PM
sorry my typing is off. maybe u can figure it out. i've had 2 many soma's tonight. we wee together was funny, should hve been we were.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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am i the only spending new years eve alone Posted: 1/2/2005 6:26:13 PM
sorry my typing is off. maybe u can figure it out. i've had 2 many soma's tonight.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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am i the only spending new years eve alone Posted: 1/2/2005 6:22:17 PM
koochekoo, thats sad, i know, my husband passed awat march 22nd 2002. he loved new years. this is my 3rd one wqithout him. last nyear my b/f lied and said he was staying home because the police were out but ge went to a bar. my current b/f already had a previous engagement he had made before we wee together. i figure what the hay? i'll go out next year even if i have to go alone.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Is it possible to be Posted: 12/31/2004 2:39:23 PM
i'm friends with all but one of them, the reason being we can't stay out of each others bed if we try to be friends.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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relationship confusion, loving two guys! Posted: 12/31/2004 2:34:24 PM
better explore your feelings, cause the b/f i have now, i knew 21 yrs. ago. i was engaged to his best friend. eventually we broke up and i moved back to my home town. we ran into each other a while back and surprise we still have feelinds for each other. just go slow and easy. he may be your soul mate.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Driven to cheating Posted: 12/30/2004 7:04:27 PM
i agree with nerdy_guy. heart games are wrong. i had a good b/f and cheated with my x b/f. all along i kept telling my x when i got straightened out financially i was going to make my b/f move out and move him back in. i lied to them both and guess what {everyones warning came true} i lost both of them. better make up your mind nd choose one. thankfully i've found a good decent guy after all this and i'm never tempted to cheat again. i learned my lesson.

pearlicious

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Would you date someone with a mental illness? Posted: 12/30/2004 2:18:38 PM
i'm bipolar/manic-depressive and hve o.c.d. i have also had a suicide attempt in my past but God pulled me through. if a guy ask for a date i tell him whats going on with my mental health then he can decide. if not then this fruitcake moves on to someone else!

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Are heavier women more aggressive in dating? Posted: 12/29/2004 1:10:32 PM
hey larry, sorry you had some bad experiences in bed with bigger ladies. as for chemistry my b/f and i have plenty of it. if you ever find yourself attraced to a bigger woman give her a chance, cause all of us are not boring in bed. a man has never left my bed bored. in fact itaught a 20 yr, old everything he knows bout pleasing a woman, now he's the biggest stud in town. goes to show i can't be too boring. are you in any counseling? seems to me something bad must happened in your childhood and your taking it out on us.

pearlicious

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...::...sex...::... Posted: 12/29/2004 12:50:30 PM
it's natural, so do it.

pearlicious

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Are heavier women more aggressive in dating? Posted: 12/28/2004 6:53:28 PM
thank you albstp, you are one of the men on this sight who judge a woman for who she really is. there are a lot of HOT skinny chicks, i agree, bit nthere is also some homely ones. just the same there are a lot of HOT fat chicks as well as homely ones. when i go out clubbing a lot of guys compete for me, even the ones who have skinny chicks trying to get with them and these chicks are really easy. one even told me "why would i want to hold a bag of bones when i can hold a real woman?" and ben franklin your friend was totally wrong when he said fat chicks are grateful. any man i've laid it to is the grateful one. a few i've tried to ditch but they keep calling for more. maybe it's because there is more places to stick it!!!!!!!!!! so you friend was partially right.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Rules that guys wished girls knew........ Posted: 12/27/2004 2:19:01 PM
i think your rules are cool but remember us women have rules too.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Are heavier women more aggressive in dating? Posted: 12/26/2004 6:01:59 PM
why would anyone lie about being marrried? are they looking to cheat on their mate?

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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What is the naughtiest and sleeziest sexual act u ever did? Posted: 12/26/2004 12:14:32 PM
before i married my hubby we were looking for a place to f*. we had no car and were walking. we came to the edge of the woods and decided to go in. we found a nice soft spot and went at it. he called me at work the next day i asked him to guess what and he informed me he already knew cause he had it also>>>>>>poision ivy. we used to play r. i would let him out of the car and circle back by and pick him up as he would have his thumb out hitchhiking. he would get in and as i drove off put a knife to my throat and make me drive to a remote area, cut my clothes off and r** me. one evening we were doing this and someone called the police. we got blue lighted and sirened. boy, you should have seen us trying to explain to the cops. they had a good laugh.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Are heavier women more aggressive in dating? Posted: 12/26/2004 11:01:06 AM
i get asked all the time for dates and usually it's by a hot guy who has some skinny chick chasing him. these skinny chicks are the only easy one's i've seen around here. my b/f had one beg him at the bar, saying she hasn't been laid in 6 months. he informrd her he had a real woman what would he do with a popcicle stick?

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Are heavier women more aggressive in dating? Posted: 12/25/2004 5:59:02 PM
admin, i guess if u want "easy" then your stuck with fat cause any hot chick sure isn't going to find you totally hot.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Profile pics and the point! Posted: 12/25/2004 5:43:47 PM
ppl should be honest in their pics. i'm overweight and i don't hide it. women, think about this, if u doctor your pic and start talking to someone this may eventually lead to meeting. what happens when the 40 c cup with the 24 inch waist he expects to meet is a 36 a cup with a 32 inch waist. did u get a breast reduction and gain weioht or what? u can only imagine his disappointment. it's not fair to lead ppl on. the same applies to men especially when women think their meeting a six pack with thick black hair and they meet a balding keg.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Are heavier women more aggressive in dating? Posted: 12/23/2004 8:27:07 AM
perv, what did she do? bite or stab? lol

pearlicious

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Wasn't ready for the loss.. Anyone have any pointers? Posted: 12/23/2004 8:23:00 AM
sorry to hear of your loss. this will be my third christmas without my husband. he passsed away 33 mo. ago. people tell me it gets easier but it hasn't for me. the first x-mas was spent in denial,the 2nd in grief and pain and this year a solemn desolation. the only thought that keeps me hanging on is knowing that someday we will be reunited and never have to part again. living in God's kingdom forever. may your heart find peace. Lora

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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CAN MEN BE SENTUAL? Posted: 12/23/2004 8:10:39 AM
men can be very sensual if they totally dig the woman their with.

pearlicious

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Are heavier women more aggressive in dating? Posted: 12/22/2004 3:35:09 PM
thank you, catchmeifucan, some men don't know a good thing if it's there in their face. oh well, it's their loss.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Are heavier women more aggressive in dating? Posted: 12/21/2004 3:18:53 PM
these guys are stupid asses. and i'm not easy. i have been easy once or twice. but after they experienced my ride believe me they came back. if i see an attractive guy i like i go after him. my current b/f i went after is a studly man. i ask him why he didn't come after me. he said i was so pretty he was afraid i'd turn him down. our relationdship is so good we decided to waitfor sex. i knew him 21yr. ago when i was engaged to his best friend, we decided if waited all those yrs. we could wait a little longer. yes, i persue uys but i am cnstantly persued my phone rings 4-5 times1 a day with requests for a date. guess these women need to come to redneck country, where the men apreciate cornbread fed honies.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/19/2004 10:21:09 PM
i forgot to mention i'm almostb 40 and he's only 23. we started seeing each other when he was 20 and i was 37. one of my therapist says every older woman would want to be seen on the arm of a young stud.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Ok, so where are they??? Posted: 12/19/2004 10:12:29 PM
what a blind date. you should've made her eat liver and onions. keep maybe you will be able to find an apple without a worm.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/19/2004 2:09:48 PM
sorry, misspelled. you know he can never do to you what i can.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/19/2004 2:08:01 PM
i posted a profile before i met darryl again. i did it last winter when jamie and i were fighting. we talked again, i broke down and called him. i told him it was over for good and he said f*** darrly, you knwnhecan never do to you what i can.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/19/2004 9:13:39 AM
you are absolutly right. i've decided i love my b/f too much to let jamie come between us. i have an appt. with my therapist tomorrow. i'm trying to be de-jamied. no matter waht he buys me for x-mas or the great sex he calls and reminds me of i'm not going to see him. a few weeks ago was a start when i put our photo away so i wouldn't look at it and cry. i know i deserve better and actually i do have better. darryl is a great man and i just have to learn to stay at home and keep my drawers up because when i see jamie they just seem to peel off.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/19/2004 3:00:41 AM
he called at 4a.m. i knew he would eventually call. he said he had been thinking of me and he loves me and always has. he is suppose to call back today. i am a stupid a giggleparts, i lived with a good guy but cheated with this man 'till my b/f moved out. now i'm tring to build steady relationship with my b/f whom i knew 21 yr. ago as a friend and we realize we still have the passion we never acted on then. he is a real gentleman. not even pushing for sex. we decided we waited this long so what's a little longer? he's not hateful,crass or abusive. a very respectable man, then this a calls and i'm actually contemplating seeing him. didn't i learn a lesson from losing my other b/f? i am in counseling and if my friends ever found out i even talked to him they would never speak to me again. i'm so confuded by this love for him. it's not so much as i want him, it's his chasing me i enjoy. when i lived with the other one i enjoyed going out with him and having them compete for me and seeing them argue. dancing with one then the other one. i actually ask them to both live with me. they both said no, then a** finally told me he would do it if that's what it took to get me back. and like i said the sex was earth shattering. it's almost 6a.am. and i haven't been able to go back to sleep after his call. I LOVE HIM!!!!! send a psychiatrist A.S.A.P.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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ABOUT LAST NIGHT......... Posted: 12/19/2004 2:27:06 AM
you said it was hard for you to attract guys. why is that? you are an attractive woman. as for your friend, she isn't much of a friend. i agree with terry, the guy was way too easily distracted. he seems like a player and i'm sure you can do better. keep someone worth your affection will come along.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/18/2004 8:56:06 PM
i saw him at the bar tonight. it ripped my heart out. even though herapd me, i forgive and love him.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/18/2004 1:52:45 PM
he stalked while we were together, he always knew where i was at. after i broke off wirh him he still stalked me. it only stopped recently when he found an old lady to keep him up. she has a leash on him. if he tries to contact me and she finds out then he will loose his free rent, phone and groceries. plus no more designer clothes or gas money. i knew if he could he would call. our sex was spectacular.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/17/2004 10:38:16 PM
i'm not kiddind from page 3, i'd take him back in a heartbeat. i have a very nice b/f now that mrespects me but i still want my ex. the sad part is i miss his stalking. guess i'm just weird.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Do Women Get off, On Teasing Men? Posted: 12/17/2004 8:18:59 PM
i agree with sepent.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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101 Things Not to Say During Sex Posted: 12/17/2004 2:13:08 PM
don't put a hickey my b/f will see it.

pearlicious

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A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 12/12/2004 6:47:17 PM
my loss came from not eating bread. i went from 400lb. to 250 in a year and ate everyhing else i wanted. then in 6 more months i dropped to 190. Stay Away From Bread. it really works. nly have it if you go o a nice dinner or an occasional burger or dog. Drink Plenty of Water.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Excuses...the best of the best Posted: 12/12/2004 8:42:47 AM
one guy was suppise to call me he left my house saturday night with the promise on his lips. he calls 2wk. later with the excuse that he and his buddy got drunk and lost his truck in a bar parking lot, where he had my # at. sure, 2wk. to fnd his truck. i told his i lost my mind and forgot who he was and hung up.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Some of you do not use accurate photographs Posted: 12/12/2004 8:33:39 AM
stag, is you photo accurate, some of us do use an honest photo. i'm fat but i don't use fake photos. they can take me or leave me.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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What are the truly free sites? Posted: 12/11/2004 1:47:08 PM
thanks for letting us know about other sites.

pearlicious

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A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 12/9/2004 11:21:13 PM
sorry, meant to say good luck but then you wouldn't have good luck without God, so it panned out!

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 12/9/2004 11:18:09 PM
Hell Yeah!!!!!! may we all find the keith urban or shania twain of our dreams. whether we are fat or skinny. bald or hairy. pretty or ugly. short or tall. young or old. there's someone for everyone. i just hope their is such a thing as a second soul mate in life since i lost mine 2 1/2 years ago. we were together for 20 yr. personally if i do meet someone special again i won't care as much about his looks as i do about his personality and attitude. though i do swcretly wish he will be a little older than me 'cause i'm finding it hard to keep up with the younger ones as i'm getting too old to party 'till 3 a.m. then ge at work at 8 a.m. night all and keep god luck!!!!!

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Check this out!!!!! Tell me what you think?? Posted: 12/9/2004 10:40:58 PM
sometimes but be careful and don't surprise her too much if she's pms'n.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 12/9/2004 6:20:29 AM
HallfaxCutie, i agree with you but in my predicament i was never teased or taunted for being fat. mystical was the first sarcastic comment i've ever had. a few guys i've dated when i was young asked if i wanted to loose weight, i'd say "hey your with me if you don't like the weight move on." i guess i'm lucky cause the guys from my part of the woods like these "cornbread fed honies" as my x b/f put it. the younger rednecks are really into it, when i was in school skinny was in but now you go to the school and 7 out of 10 guys are with a plump girl. i guess it's a new generation thing and why every guy who ask me out now are usually in their 20's. het, goes to show you. it must be true when they say young and thins where it's been, older and fats where it's at. maybe you should move here to redneck country and they'll beat you door down guaranteed.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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How do you cope? Posted: 12/9/2004 5:59:22 AM
i can't get in a relationship now 'cause i can't afford what i normally do whren we break up and thats gassing up and riding around for about 2 wks. with the radio blaring. i only come home to eat and sleep and cry. maybe i should start saving up to buy some gas cards!!!!!!!

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Women Dig Jerks Posted: 12/8/2004 5:23:45 PM
i guess some of us do dig jerks. i had 3 nice men treat me great and each time i would run back to my x who physicall, mentally, emotionally and sexually abused me. even though he put me down in front of people and the worst being raped in the back door by him i can't seem to the love i ifeel for him. if he were to call right now i'd go see him.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 12/6/2004 5:51:18 AM
i meant to say there are plenty of good men left, they apparently must be in hiding.

pearlicious

Joined: 2/21/2004

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 12/6/2004 5:48:48 AM
there are left, i just believe their in hiding.

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