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 Author Thread: Why do guys disappear on a girl?
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Why do guys disappear on a girl?
Posted: 12/15/2011 8:37:55 PM
I don't get it, but maybe more men today hate confrontations so they just vanish.
OR
there's a whole lot more abductions going on than we think (just kidding)
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 11 (view)
 
understanding what you want
Posted: 12/15/2011 5:17:22 PM
Honestly with every relationship I go through, the list on both ends gets bigger and yes I know the pickings get slimmer
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 23 (view)
 
the date
Posted: 12/15/2011 4:59:43 PM
Ohhh that sounds kinda sexy...Brad Pitt/Mother Theresa combo

Can I uh.... have a combo please?
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 45 (view)
 
personal issues
Posted: 12/15/2011 3:25:34 PM
Those who resort to making fun of people have low self esteem and sadly this kind of behavior makes them feel better about themselves. I am not sure that exposing this problem on a thread with so many people viewing it was a good idea either. You left yourself open to the idiots that roam these sites.

And whats even sadder is that Rec you are in healthcare, shame on you
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Am I doing this wrong?
Posted: 12/14/2011 11:06:34 PM
Now I feel a lil silly sitting here day after day after day 24/7 watching my life pass me by
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 40 (view)
 
personal issues
Posted: 12/14/2011 9:56:26 PM
I wouldn't tell anyone right off, wait until you've chatted with her a few times and gets to know your awesome personality first and then mention it. I don't think thats deceptive unless you wait far too long. Ya don't post it in your profile...people could get the wrong idea about you and seriously is not all of POFs business.
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Must Live Within 75 Miles... wait, what?
Posted: 12/14/2011 9:33:57 PM
You get alot further faster, taking the path of least resistance. Rowing upstream is like taking two steps forward and one step back. Think about it
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Do you take someones credit into account when dating?
Posted: 12/14/2011 7:18:45 PM
How people react to this forum has nothing to do where they are at financially. I find that offensive to assume.
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Do you take someones credit into account when dating?
Posted: 12/14/2011 6:47:17 PM
This may sound a bit harsh ( thank you DJoseph54 for your post) but anyone wanting to find out someones credit score is no better than a gold digger and it is a huge invasion of privacy.

Personally I would not take it lightly if I found out that someone I was dating had checked up on me this way.
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Looking for some advice about a girl I've been dating.
Posted: 12/14/2011 6:20:37 PM
Ok from what I'm understanding is this that you have only had three dates so far. She didn't have sex with you and stopped. Then you said that she told you that if she had wanted sex with you then it would have happened. Now if she wants more then just sex, she would wait for sex, whats so hard to understand? Shes saying (in my opinion) that she wants more with you.

Also why is it that people need things to progress instantly now a days, its only been date 3
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Dating a sports fan?
Posted: 12/14/2011 5:49:29 PM
Well I'm not a huge sports fan myself but I don't mind going to live games but if the guy is always wanting to sit on the couch watching sports on TV then not my thing at all. Getting out to a game is at least getting out and so much better than couch potatoing
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Just Found Out My Boyfriend Is Married. What Do You Think?
Posted: 12/14/2011 5:36:29 PM
Yeah I think its odd that your guy there was on POF, sounds like he was a cruisin and came across yours. Like you said your profile indicated that you hadn't been on in a long time. You took him at his word and he was throwing dirt in your face and guess who got caught lying?

Typically the one doing the accusing is usually guilty
but not always

Dump the loser, he ain't worth it
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Do you take someones credit into account when dating?
Posted: 12/14/2011 4:26:14 PM
I guess its time to go check out millionaires.com
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Do you take someones credit into account when dating?
Posted: 12/14/2011 4:02:49 PM
I believe that there are many different reasons (especially today) why people end up with a bad credit history. You can't generalize and just blatantly say that its a character flaw and a reflection of how someone spends or saves.
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Why do you keep changing your profile name?
Posted: 12/13/2011 5:13:08 PM
Somebody needs a life...who cares what people do with their profile name
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Do you take someones credit into account when dating?
Posted: 12/13/2011 4:15:26 PM
I don't think its anybody's business what my credit rating is like if I am dating. When things get serious and your actually planning on marrying then it could make a difference because then people make plans to buy a house, go on trips, pay for a wedding and so on. But honestly a person would find out way before that day came anyways.

I don't think its a reflection on a person if their credit is bad, crap happens and most of us are one paycheck away from bankruptcy.

I know someone who doesn't have credit cards, that could mean he has a bad rating or none at all. But he does have a very high paying job and pays cash for everything because he hates to be in debt. In this case now would it matter?
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
What can I do to win back his love?
Posted: 12/12/2011 10:38:46 AM
I like how Billyboy said it. I was married at a very young age and had children. We grew apart but stayed together for many years unhappy. Now your saying that you have wasted 3 years? Try being 38 and starting over in everything? I could say what a time waster too but I won't as every relationship you are in brings you more understanding of what you do and don't want in a man and you will see that in your next relationship as well.. Your only 22 and will most likely go through this a few times before finding that ONE
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Insight Requested
Posted: 12/11/2011 7:40:14 PM
I would say that your reading way too much into it but I also believe in gut feelings. Go with the flow and don't stress over it cuz you cant do anything about it.
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Just friends....ehh
Posted: 12/11/2011 5:51:17 PM
She told you that she just wanted to be friends. Shes probably sensed that your thinking more and is backing off to save you from more pain. I don't think she wants to see you get hurt
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Need advice on how to handle an odd woman I'm interested in.
Posted: 12/11/2011 2:51:46 PM
Some people are just too hard to figure out. Maybe try to talk to her alone one more time and ask her whats going on?
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 37 (view)
 
attractive scale?
Posted: 12/11/2011 2:11:35 PM
People who have a great personality and a good heart can see right through the good looks and into that dark soul very easily. The ones that don't will not see that. Not all Tens as you say will go after a Ten or if they do it won't last long. Thankyou for sharing Fire N Lace
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 179 (view)
 
Would you date someone who had paranormal expiriences?
Posted: 12/10/2011 10:22:37 PM
LoL your funny, Star Wars fan are we? :) Kinda funny in a way really...never thought about that but if I say I had a paranormal experience..people want me to prove it..why? You prove that I didn't lol
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Best way to discontinue dating someone if...
Posted: 12/10/2011 8:10:33 PM
Most men just stop talking to me when someone better comes along that peeks their interest ..it happens all the time and eventually its expected on dating sights
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Used AGAIN.
Posted: 12/10/2011 7:56:46 PM
Oh that just makes me wanna cry superdude
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Do I tell or not tell the man?
Posted: 12/10/2011 7:49:48 PM
So you want advice about what , how and when you should tell him about the abuse?
I'm thinking that it may not matter as maybe hes running because he's afraid of being accused of the same down the road. Its a scary thing these days
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 175 (view)
 
Would you date someone who had paranormal expiriences?
Posted: 12/10/2011 5:38:29 PM
I would date someone who had a paranormal experience...thats my final answer
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 142 (view)
 
He was attentive to another woman
Posted: 12/10/2011 12:39:31 PM
I reread the post to see if I missed anything the first time. The guy was still considered her date for the night by the poster whether they had advanced in the relationship or not and sexually. I still stand by what I wrote a few lines up. Hes a jerk for what he did and also goes to show how much he valued the relationship he was in.
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 137 (view)
 
He was attentive to another woman
Posted: 12/9/2011 7:10:39 PM
Your guy/date to the party was rude..good thing you saw this side of him now before moving forward. Theres jerks everywhere and he has no class. Stop wasting anymore time on him and find a good man
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Dealing with someone who is virtually illiterate
Posted: 12/9/2011 7:02:03 PM
I have a male friend in the same boat, has a hard time reading and writing but is a very intelligent man. He just gave up and stopped using POF

 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Used AGAIN.
Posted: 12/9/2011 6:54:26 PM
People are people and some you will never figure out unfortunately. For all you know, he may have used that as an excuse (re: got what I wanted) to get you to really dislike him. He may have been frightened by his own feelings. I know there are alot of men out there who are afraid of commitment for a million different reasons. This guy spent way too much time getting to know you beforehand to just want a shag.

On the other hand... men do like the chase ..some may go to lengths...others not so. I hope you are ok? Sometimes this dating stuff really sux
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 170 (view)
 
Would you date someone who had paranormal expiriences?
Posted: 12/9/2011 6:35:01 PM
Forumite - who are you or anyone else to say that what I saw or anyone else saw wasn't real just because there's no proof as you say in your existence and experience. It also works the other way around, in your life experience if you do not want to believe in anything then what you see, find and experience will NOT appear, doesn't mean its non existent.

Ever hear about Law Of Attraction?

 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 119 (view)
 
She was looking for LTR, but has a FWB on the side? GOOD 4 HER
Posted: 12/9/2011 12:43:16 PM
Lol your generation started this...j/k
Seems to be a normal thing to do now for some reason and is widely accepted
 LuvinCuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Fast - mutual - and now extinct
Posted: 12/9/2011 10:06:11 AM
There is so many opinions. Alot of men will want to get physical right away in order to see if theres any chemistry so they won't be wasting their time (I read this lots from men) Then theres the men like on this thread who say you moved too fast and if your moving too fast.. then its usually the man starting it...OMG confusion!!

I personally don't think you did anything wrong. What I don't understand is why the guy texted for so long if he was just wanting sex? Maybe he was texting a few of you at the same time...met you all and picked the one or ones he was most interested in....

Guys do that kinda thing lol
 LuvinCuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
okay he kissed me all night
Posted: 12/9/2011 9:46:02 AM
I thought this thread was started by a 15 year old when I first read it
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 164 (view)
 
Would you date someone who had paranormal expiriences?
Posted: 12/9/2011 9:14:52 AM
NuttyGooner82 - obsession of any type is not a good thing
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 163 (view)
 
Would you date someone who had paranormal expiriences?
Posted: 12/9/2011 9:10:07 AM
I would because I have had them too. Is someone here insinuating that this makes a person a freak or something? Experiences in life are personal and not all of us has the same one. Wow!
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 244 (view)
 
LYING ABOUT AGE ON DATING PROFILE!
Posted: 12/9/2011 8:18:04 AM
Age is just a number theory just went out the window in this forum
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
what's the obligation?
Posted: 12/8/2011 1:30:57 PM
Do what you want to do, its your life
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Multiple divorces .. what do you think?
Posted: 12/7/2011 6:30:29 PM
Once is enough for me, its been 13 yrs. Hes gonna have to be a super awesome guy for sure :)
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 69 (view)
 
What would you do ladies
Posted: 12/7/2011 5:29:29 PM
Put on a short skirt, get all dolled up and tell him I'm going out dancing
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Please help me dechiper this guy's intentions?
Posted: 12/7/2011 4:37:43 PM
Just my opinion here but...first hes still taking you out and seems interested in you, thats a good sign..Second. all guys love a challenge, depends on how horny he may be too lol. If he really listens to what your saying and doesn't seem distracted then I would say thats another good sign. Can't blame a guy for tryin :)

Give the guy a good chance anyways is what I say :)
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
writes to me then blocks me...
Posted: 12/7/2011 4:02:38 PM
If its not an accident then I am assuming that its a power trip and the one time it happened to me I didn't write back right away so he was ticked I am thinking because he did unblock me later but didn't offer any explanation. . Weeds out the jerks fast anyways.
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Please help me understand my ex gf reason for breaking up with me. Is she serious?
Posted: 12/7/2011 3:40:50 PM
Nobody can know for sure but my theory is that she simply realized that she was with you for all the wrong reasons. I can relate. When she cried that night, maybe she was thinking that once you said "I love you" to her.. that the feelings she really wanted to feel for you would poor out of her only to realize that it just wasn't there. Just an idea and I am sorry to see you hurt .
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
ex's
Posted: 12/6/2011 9:04:05 PM
Hmmm I'm not sure that there is a nice way of putting that in your profile. I suppose since in your experience it happens way too often and its obviously a huge problem for you. Like another poffer wrote, it could be your age group as when I was younger, people I knew didn't hang around with with their ex's. But as a teen I had no choice in a way because all the guys I dated hung around in our circle of friends.

I get along with my ex husband as he is the father of my kids. I do have one ex boyfriend who I chat with once in a blue moon but I never hang out with him.

I guess I would suggest writing in your profile that your not interested in dating someone and their ex
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 117 (view)
 
She was looking for LTR, but has a FWB on the side? GOOD 4 HER
Posted: 12/6/2011 8:09:16 PM
Well I guess its just a matter of opinions and everyone has one. A very touchy subjectt for sure for many. Personally I would just tell my FWB that I was looking to date and stop .
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 11 (view)
 
ex's
Posted: 12/6/2011 2:14:13 PM
Everyone has their own story and I think by putting in so many negatives in the profile might be pushing away some really awesome women but then again if its a huge deal for you then maybe it would be wise to add this..Happy Fishing!
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 131 (view)
 
Love her mind, but her body repulses me
Posted: 12/6/2011 2:01:47 PM
This is the kind of thing that repulses me. I don't know where you met this woman or what kind of relationship you have but I sure hope you didn't lead her on in any way
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Crisis of conscience
Posted: 12/6/2011 1:05:10 PM
Theres so many of these people online. When we turn on our computers and enter any sight where we begin contact with anyone we have to keep in mind, that anyone behind a computer screen can be deceptive very easily.
I think you should just move on and chalk it up to experience. His wife will find out soon enough if she cares. Ha maybe shes in the other room cyber boinking a young handsome stud
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 110 (view)
 
She was looking for LTR, but has a FWB on the side? GOOD 4 HER
Posted: 12/6/2011 11:46:01 AM
I'm just here posting my opinions on the subject ....
I don't meet men like that, I hear and read about them all over the place. Not saying that ALL men are like that, its been the attitude of Society in the past in general. I am very picky about who I date and haven't dated in a long time because of the games, lies and BS.

LOL at needy - its called being mature, getting past your differences and moving on
 Luvincuddles
Joined: 11/20/2011
Msg: 108 (view)
 
She was looking for LTR, but has a FWB on the side? GOOD 4 HER
Posted: 12/6/2011 11:14:29 AM
I would also like to add that I don't think anyone is incredibly happy in a FWB situation if they are still looking for the ONE. Its a matter of convenience only for the two involved and obviously they have an agreement - no strings attached for whatever reason they have. I am sure that once two people date and start to get close that the FWB relationship will stop. . I kinda doubt that most people would even stay friends after that as no feelings were involved although a few would but unlikely. I am also defending myself here (as one poster suggested I don't mind) and saying that I am not fond of dating men who sleep around.

If people have issues with their new man or woman's ex's and them staying friends afterwards then its an insecurity issue and who wants that anyways. An ex is an ex for a reason.
 
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