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sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

my boyfriend asked me for money Posted: 10/26/2009 9:08:36 PM
I had a male co-worker ask me in the break room for money. He was not my boyfriend, date, crush or anything. I was so shocked he asked me for money, I was speechless at first. Then my mouth opened, and I told him he had a lot of nerve asking me a single parent,who worked part time, while he was a full time employee. He also made a larger hourly wage than I. He lived rent free with friends, and had no children. He never asked me for money again.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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open relationship, women do not seem to like a happy and permiscuous married man. any help? Posted: 8/31/2009 12:48:30 PM
Respect women! "Their kittys turn into a sandbox". Do you talk to your mother like that? Zip up your pants and grow up some.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Want to hear both sides of this one.... Posted: 7/24/2009 3:45:35 PM
Dancing banana says,"Dump his free-loading ass!"

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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I need some honest advice Posted: 7/22/2009 1:24:24 PM
I too was in an abusive relationship. I suggest calling a local crisis help line. I did and found out about a lot of help out there I knew nothing about. I got a FREE attorney, and a FREE divorce. I got a temporary RO (that was no charge to me also), that included our child. I extended the RO after the temp time, and let Douche Bag have visitation. Our child is young, and doesn't understand the abuse entirely. He missed daddy, and was crushed. The judge set up exchanging for visitation at a public place, so DB would behave. Taking away the child for a month worked. I don't recommend it, but it opened up something in DB that I mean business. No more shit from him.When DB wanted to argue, I shut the car door, or hung up the phone. I was very polite though. I'd say,"I do NOT argue with you, I'm hanging up now." After about 2-3 trying months of abruptly ending his screaming fits, he switched to "nicey-nicey" mode. Also you might want to try a support group for abuse OVER COMERS. We are not victims unless we stay in victim mode. Yes it's a long painful road, but you aren't alone. You're a mother, stand proud in yourself.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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So what do you all think... Posted: 7/20/2009 4:29:24 PM
Wow, if a man took that long to kiss me, I'd be wondering if he's gay. You'd be firmly in the friend zone! A sweet first kiss is a wonderful thing.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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How can i loose mi Virginity Posted: 7/10/2009 7:14:05 PM
What's the big hurry? So you're a virgin, who cares? Take some pride in yourself. A desperate fix? Geez, just get a piece of cardboard and a Sharpie. Stand on a freeway exit with a homemade sign that says:I must lose my virginity. Please help me.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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At what age would you consider getting a cell phone for your child? Posted: 7/10/2009 10:29:55 AM
I personally dislike cell phones. I see them being used in rude and inappropriate ways, like while driving, or while using a public toilet. My 17 year old has one because his father got it for him. Why? I don't know, but he runs up the minutes! I have a land line which he is free to use, but he never uses it.He sleeps with his phone, and is very secretive about it. It's stupid he has one. I can't call him at school, I use the land line when he's at his dad's. My 5 year old's father wanted to get him a cell phone for his birthday, I found that ridiculous. When does a kindergartner need a cell phone? The pay as you is ok, I have one. The sound quality is horrible though. Echoy and cuts off frequently. Text is available on my plan, but very expensive to send one. The customer service is in India(I think), and was useless for any questions I've had. Also think about if you want her to have a camera.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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She WON'T DEFINE US...... how much MORE time should I give her? Posted: 7/10/2009 10:04:32 AM
OK you seem pretty unhappy over this, so I say don't give her any more time. Why hang on hoping she'll change? What's with the label of "couple" anyway? How does that change anything? I myself would wait longer for a commitment. People are always on their best behavior for the first 6 months. Find someone more suited to you. Dating a person, and hoping she'll change never works. I want someone to want me, not who he wants me to be.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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help with profile Posted: 7/9/2009 12:36:28 PM
Dude! A positive outlook is needed here. I'd suggest spell checker. Change the bottom dweller title, it's a downer. Try to get some new photos in which you wear clothes that aren't so drab colored. Kudos for smiling tho!Tell us what you like in music, movies, dining, and hobbies.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Women and The Mention of Their Kids Posted: 7/8/2009 9:34:10 PM
I love my children, and men with a sense of humor...blahblahblahblahblahblahblah

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Celebrity one-nighter Posted: 7/1/2009 12:32:57 PM
Hugh Laurie. Put me in ICU, baby...

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Contact lenses Posted: 6/6/2009 12:51:27 AM
I've worn disposable contacts since the late 80s, and love them! I've never had any long term problems wearing them, except when I contracted pink eye. No contacts with eye infections. Keep a pair of eye glasses around for unexpected needs. I never use eye drops either.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Sex as a weapon (or at least a tool) Posted: 6/1/2009 9:13:08 AM
Is it so important to be right, you'd throw away sex?!?! How dumb is that? Never try to change your S/O. Doesn't work, and it's not nice. So what if she doesn't clean? Go find some one to clean your house once a week. People are looking for work all over the place. Newsflash! This lady isn't your mother! Why is house cleaning her job?

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Waterbeds Posted: 5/29/2009 1:31:06 PM
I had a waterbed for a few years(2002-2008). It was a "waveless", and had a nice thick, comfy mattress top. It had some wave motion, but very gentle. When my partner moved, the bed rocked only a little. I found sex better as the bed was accommodating to any position. The bad things were that the bed is so huge, and yes, had a monster headboard. If you like rearranging furniture around, good luck. I found waterbed sheets difficult to find, and to change. I found that the styles were frequently animal skin prints, or tacky patterns. Not to mention the "velvet" trim around the frame of the bed. So "working girl"....

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Texting to a wall, in a relationship. Posted: 5/27/2009 11:43:32 AM
Hi. I just want to say, as a lady, clinginess like this would send me away. I broke up with a man who called me at least 3 times a day. I found it annoying as I had things to do, and I like having time away from the one I date. We weren't married, why act like it? As for the bathroom idea...If my man called me from a crapper talking sexy smut, I'd think he was jacking off.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Engagement Ring? Posted: 5/27/2009 8:28:03 AM
I think it's tacky and petty for your ex to not return the engagement ring. You could take her to small claims court, but would it be worth it? That's up to you. Myself, I'd cut all contact and let her wallow in her greediness.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Wait a year to pay off divorce debts before getting remarried? Posted: 5/27/2009 8:17:16 AM
I would want the debt paid off before marring. When you marry someone, you get their credit report. Wait to get married. I'd never have joint accounts, even when married.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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If you were a book, what would the title be? Posted: 5/26/2009 7:55:44 PM
you woke me for this?

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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White Trash Party Ideas Posted: 5/26/2009 7:49:50 PM
Overalls with no shirts underneath for guys, and tube tops for the gals. Have a wet T-shirt contest. Classy.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Cheating mother Posted: 5/21/2009 3:48:45 PM
Leave it alone! It is none of your business. You read her personal messages, and now you're judging her. You say she's a terrible person, and is a stupid b*itch. How can you claim the moral high ground when you spied on her? This is your mother. Sure be angry and disappointed, but think real hard before you act or tell anyone else. I am a mother, God knows I've made mistakes myself. Please don't cut her off because of something that has nothing to do with you.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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bad restaurant/fast food experience... Posted: 5/16/2009 2:02:12 PM
Call your health department. I found bugs in my 3 year old's french fries once. Yuck! I pitched a fit, and demanded my money back.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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I feel like I've lost my soul Posted: 5/16/2009 12:49:01 PM
I'm been there too...I'm so sorry. It will get better, time does heal all wounds. Concentrate on getting better. Surround yourself with friends and family. Don't dwell on what he said or did. Remember what's great about you. Go to a counselor and a support group. It's very helpful to see others who've gone through what you are. Mourn the loss of your marriage. This isn't what you wanted right? Then feel sad, cry, yell or punch pillows. Limit your pity party time though. I gave myself 15 minutes a day. Don't hold grudges, that will hold you back from moving on. Forgive him, but learn from what happened. Forgiving isn't always a one time deal, it's an ongoing thing. It does not mean forget either. You are responsible for your attitude, keep it positive. Do you go to church? The people in my church showered me with love. If you need help ask. You did not lose your soul. Divorce hurts. You will be okay.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Keep her In Bed!! Posted: 5/13/2009 8:51:30 PM
Hi! My oldest son liked sleeping in different places too. He had a little tent, that was set up in his room, and he loved "camping" in there. He also went through a phase where he slept in his plastic wading pool(no water). I also let my kids sleep with pretty much anything that can't hurt them. Flash lights were allowed as a "reward" for so many days in a row of staying in bed. I tried to make it as fun as I could. I also allowed no juice after dinner. You could also water the juice down a bit too. I had to stop the naps because I realized I needed the naps, not him!

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Would you date someone sick? Posted: 5/13/2009 7:21:32 PM
I'd like to comment on the passing of "sick genes" onto children... both of my children have "birth defects" that weren't picked up prior to birth. The one isn't known how it is passed. In both cases, no one in either side of the parents' families has had either condition. So if I had been tested, the one(a rare brain condition) wouldn't even had been tested for. How can every possible scenario be screened for?

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Deportation of Alleged Nazi Posted: 5/13/2009 12:26:49 PM
The Nuremberg Laws in Germany in 1935 took away citizenship from Jews. Just because something is legal doesn't make it moral. The man was supposedly a guard in Sobibor, a horrible camp for Jews, which at that time was in the Nazi empire. Why should a crime be let go because it is 60 years old?

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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A tribute to a Nurse I have never met Posted: 5/11/2009 3:20:46 PM
I have spent way too much time in hospitals, and have seen that the overwhelming majority of nurses are wonderful, caring, compassionate people. My son was hospitalized 3 times before becoming 5. I saw love, empathy. and nurses who stepped up far beyond doing the job. These people gave me hope, courage and strength in a stressful time. On the flip side, the nurses(very few)who are bad, are so bad, I'll never forget their rudeness and incompetency. The one who in trying to get blood from my 4 month old son, couldn't get the needle in his vein. Blood was dripping on the floor, and my child was screaming. I asked this person to please get someone else to draw the blood, but I was completely ignored. I had to go in the hall, and basically throw a fit to get someone else. Or the idiot who read my son's chart that said he had the RUNS. This nurse jams a rectal thermometer into my poor son's rear end. I was utterly amazed, and asked didn't she want to read his forehead or armpit? So then of course, there was a huge mess when she pulled it out. She tried to guilt trip me into helping her clean it up. I told her no, I knew that would happen, how come she didn't? She was rude to me, so I left the room. I told her,"You get paid to know this stuff." When I had my 2nd child, the doctor released me right away, as I told him I'd like to leave ASAP. The nurse assigned to me refused to bring me the discharge papers, saying she didn't think I was "ready" to go. My husband had to get in her face, and she claimed I wasn't ready to be a mother. Huh? I had older child! She very huffily brought the papers after I told her I was just going to leave anyway.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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One Thing I Learned From Working As A Janitor Posted: 5/11/2009 1:49:28 PM
I never saw a noticeable difference between male or female bathrooms. The mirrors were always scratched up with keys, I guess. The toilet seat paper dispensers were always vandalized, as were tampon/pad dispenser machines. Stealing TP was norm, as was peeing, pooing, or vomiting on the floor, wall, or door. There was a lot of graffiti.People shot up in the restrooms, or got it on. So disgusting. It was a scary place to be.Paid well though... Smelled to high heaven too.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Why do some people use their kids to hurt their ex ? Posted: 5/11/2009 1:00:12 PM
My son's father did this kind of crap for years. Children see it, and know what's going on. I suggest ignoring it as much as possible. For 3 years, every 6 months, my ex tried getting child support eliminated. Or having custody switched over to just him. He even whined I never let him see the child. I learned quickly that by staying quiet while he babbled in court paid off. He also kept our son when he wasn't supposed to by getting drunk, and(supposedly)was 100s of miles away. This pretty much ended when he joined a 12 step program. I agree it's a control issue, so if you just act like it's no biggie, maybe the thrill will be gone for her. Keep open communication with your son. It can be very difficult to not bad mouth mommy, but do it. When my son asked why daddy did or said something, I'd say I don't know. I'd tell him ask daddy yourself. In the 4th year of our divorce, I asked my ex to voluntarily raise the child support by $50 a month. He said,"Over my dead body". I took the case to court, and it was raised by $250 a month. I was shocked, I had no idea how much money he made. I don't always recommend going to court, it's so hit and miss...

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Dating someone slightly developmentally disabled Posted: 5/7/2009 1:18:58 PM
My children each was born with a birth defect. They're more than 10 years apart in age, and have different fathers. The youngest one was born with twisted feet, that have been operated on 4 times, so he could walk. Now no one right off the bat notices he's "different". I NEVER tell him he's handicapped. I tell him he might have to work harder, or do it differently. While he was in treatment, strangers saw the 2 full leg casts, and MANY were rude to me. I was asked what I did to him. His disability is physical, he's sweet tempered, and smart. My older son has a rare brain defect that usually also causes severe mental retardation. He started having seizures at 16, which was the first clue of his condition.He has had seizures in public places, where strangers stare, and tell me to move him "out of the way". This son has a heart of gold, and is also very smart. With his diagnose of epilepsy,he now has to take medication every day. He also lost his career dream of joining the military. Never have I valued my sons a less than a "normal" person. My children are worth every penny spent on their "disability". The day my little boy walked by himself, still is one of the proudest moments ever for me.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Would you date a person with DISABLED CHILDREN? Posted: 5/7/2009 12:16:07 AM
Having two children myself who were born with birth defects, I don't see what the issue is. I get my children the therapy and medical attention they need. I love them endlessly. I have learned many things from their positive outlooks and attitudes. So if someone rejects me because of my non perfect children, they can bite me.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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swallowing to end sex Posted: 5/6/2009 3:02:03 PM
Ummm...I thought guys liked that. Weird? Whatever.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Did you ever date someone with foot odor? Posted: 5/6/2009 2:50:12 PM
It's a mood killer alright. I tried introducing him to the can of Odor Eaters, but he refused to use it enough for me..

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Do you hesitate to contact someone with zero roses left? Posted: 5/6/2009 2:47:18 PM
I see the roses as a picture of a rose! No biggie to me. I've gotten the teddy, and the steak, and other pictures. Makes no difference to me. Why would a picture of a stuffed animal make me take him more seriously?

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Joint Bank Accounts Good or Bad Idea Posted: 5/5/2009 1:44:22 PM
NO joint accounts or credit cards. Ever. Period. My last hubby would take money out at the ATM, spend with the debit card, and "forget" to tell me. He also had access to the child support I was getting for my son(it was direct deposit). It's a huge hassle to stop and move(to another account) automatic deposits and payments. He also would spend my paycheck on dumbass stupid stuff. Having been screwed over, I say keep what's yours accessible to yourself only.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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A question...Why do men have to call a woman sweety or baby or any pet names? Posted: 5/3/2009 7:40:43 PM
Having worked in jobs that hired more males than females, I get called endearments frequently. Some don't know my name, and it is a friendly way to say hi. I've never been insulted, or found it disrespectful to me. I on the other hand, am not a flirty name caller. I think it's a bit too close to the blurry harassment line.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Would you date a man who wore makeup? Posted: 5/3/2009 4:26:12 PM
Yes. Remember the 80s? My boyfriend wore manliner and eyeshadow, and it was done very well, and he looked great. The 80s were fun.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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She took him to a funeral without my permission Posted: 4/27/2009 9:12:53 PM
I had a lawyer tell me regarding my divorce, not to fight over something unless it was really worth it to me. So when I left, I took as little as possible. The only person worth fighting for is my son. The 'is this worth fighting over' rules my decisions I make regarding my son and X. X wants an extra day? Why not? He wants an extra hour? Does it really matter? I try not to play the "my" weekend card unless something special is planned. Children notice the stress and tension. My X took my son (around the age of yours)to his grandmother's funeral. He was to be gone for 5 days tops. Sadly, Grandpop, who my little boy loved, had a stroke before the funeral, and was put in hospice. This was not an ideal situation, but my child got to say goodbye to Grandpop who met so much to him. He spent 3 weeks in the company of family he rarely ever sees. He learned death is painful because Grandpop died during that visit also. Yes, I worried about letting him go, but his dad's family is his family also. He needs to see life, even the unhappy. I would let it all go, it's not worth it. I decided not to badmouth my X around my son. Let me tell you, it was very difficult at first. I shut doors in his face, or hung up the phone before arguing. So, please think of your son first. Get that lawyer money, and take the little guy out for an ice cream cone instead.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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ID Posted: 4/21/2009 2:40:20 PM
I got carded at WAlMart because the clerk said they're "cracking down on fraudulent charges". I was charging a total of $1.67. I burst out laughing and said wouldn't I charge something worth stealing then?

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Raising 2 while mom is at rehab for meth Posted: 4/21/2009 2:34:15 PM
I don't suggest lying. Saying she's sick is age appropriate and true. I also suggest taking steps to get permanent legal custody. Addicts are known to bounce back and forth to rehab and using. Kudos to you for stepping up.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Stalkerish Behaviour Posted: 4/21/2009 10:30:15 AM
Drop him now! Why give him another chance? He won't tell you what was going on...You can do better.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Online Humor Maybe Some People Can't Take a Joke!!! Posted: 4/21/2009 10:11:41 AM
ummm... you managed quite the insult in one line! You implied he's after sex(do you think I'm EZ), that his picture is old or not him, and that he'd bring a weapon. NOT funny.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Do you love your job? Posted: 4/19/2009 3:47:29 PM
Job? I'd love a job! I just got laid off last week for the second time this year. Back to the endless mindless applying for crappy part time work that pays substandard wages. Full time? I haven't seen any full time... Keeping up with the Jones'? I don't compare my efforts to other people's possessions. I strife to keep a positive attitude, and feed, clothe, and house my children.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Dog barking situation - is there a nice way to handle? Posted: 4/19/2009 3:35:42 PM
I had this same problem at my last residence. The barking started at dawn(or earlier) and went on for two hours every day. I called animal control, and they sent a warning to the owner. No trouble or fine. Plus the neighbor wasn't told who complained. Needless to say I never heard any more barking after that.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Is preventing all bad things from ever happening even a desired goal? Posted: 4/18/2009 2:19:17 PM
I had an 18 month period in which many painful, unpleasant incidents happened to me, and my children. Most were uncontrollable, others like my son having surgery I had some control over. Yes, it was a very difficult time for me, but I learned things from these occurrences. I learned I am very strong, and am dependable. I learned to see the same pain I had in other people, so I learned patience with others. I learned how to comfort others, because I could relate. I learned how to look for the positive in everything. I learned how to deal with difficult people. I would say, use common sense daily, but somethings are not avoidable, so pick through what happened, and learn something from it.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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why is it that women are not interested in a guy in a wheelchair? Posted: 4/18/2009 12:14:15 PM
Personally I find the fact that you smoke more of a turn off than the wheelchair. I find that a lot of people are unaccommodating to what is perceived as a "fault". My (then)4 year old spent 6 weeks in a wheelchair, and most people stared at us. If someone spoke to me it was to ask what I did to him!

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Best Cloth Diaper Question Posted: 4/16/2009 5:31:12 PM
I used a diaper service(cloth) for a while for my older son. It was cost competitive with disposable diapers, but not as absorbent. My baby got a nasty diaper rash quickly, and I had to get expensive prescription to clear it up. The cloth also leak bad, so long road trips are a laundry nightmare. The diaper service said no rubber pants are needed. Not true, and I found rubber pants very difficult to find.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Are divorced people afraid of long term commitments? Posted: 4/16/2009 3:53:27 PM
I can only speak for myself. I'm not afraid of commitment, but after a relationship that turned bad, I'm cautious. I did nothing to be treated the way I was, so next time, I'm gonna be real careful and slow like. If you want to label me, go right ahead, but you're wrong.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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How do you start... Posted: 4/15/2009 5:57:08 PM
Take some workshops or classes, and learn new interesting things. Be friendly to the others in the class. Ask questions. Take pride in your accomplishments. Take care of yourself. Eat well, and dress well. Be positive. Find a sliver lining everyday. Reconnect with friends. Offer to help someone by babysitting, doing their housework, or just being a friend. Allow moments of pity a time limit, say 15 minutes a day. Think of good things about yourself, so you can think of those when the self loathing emerges. Baby steps at first!

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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Frugal ways to save money on baby question? Posted: 4/15/2009 2:44:51 PM
Go to websites for major brands of baby items. Many will send out really good coupons and samples if you ask.

sillie one

Joined: 2/7/2007

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If you were sick and unable to be around to parent your child what sort of message would you leave t Posted: 4/2/2009 8:50:08 PM
Stay away from your dad!

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